Doing It Wrong

It’s time to choose team captains for the age old thong vs panty debate. Rainie and Darcy adopt diametrically opposed positions for the discourse of a lifetime. As controversial issues often do, it stirs up some information previously lost in the depths of our psyches- including redeeming, vulnerable insights into one of the podcast’s peripheral characters and missed opportunities to meet Phoebe Wallerbridge. Yeah, we know this topic isn’t on par with the trying times. And by trying times we mean a QAnon shaman with his legs on Nancy Pelosi’s desk. But, it does serve as a little vacation for the soul. Remember 2019, when pantylines were a substantial worry? The good old days. Remi-fucking-niscent. Topics included: The inevitable demise of hanky panky, Fixer Upper boys, unfriendly underpant eras,  grimy hook ups, generation yaga pant, Yummy by Justin Bieber

Oh 2020, you venomous assailant with a penchant for dismay. We’ll be processing this trip around the sun long into our 80s, but for now, we assemble young people across the globe to discuss lessons they found as a consolation prize for the hardship, loneliness, and grief the year provided. The year’s daily activities included fending off cockroach infestations, managing isolation, and negotiating with TSA agents about taking your lizard on the plane. On the front lines, it was holding up ipads to covid patients whose death wish went unfulfilled.We’ll review the humorous, heartbreaking, and inspiring stories from 2020- and what we learned from it all.Topics included: tales from a car thief, unsatisfying elementary school friends, Pittsburgh Saturdays, Hollywood debuts via snapchat, embarrassing moments from your screenwriting college course

The season of Spotify Wrapped is upon us. Get ready to click through hundreds of “top artist” instagram stories and analyze why and how a niche 80s rock band is your most played. Instead of taking that algorithm seriously, we decided to choose emblematic songs of 2020 ourselves, with an agenda that includes Cher, The Jackson 5, and Pharell. Breadth and depth as we like to say. We also discuss the under discussed in a new segment, Not Spoken About Enough, created to provide a venue for processing moments not given their due stardom, such as forgotten middle school trends, rampant sexuality of talk show and podcast hosts, and why yoga is so goddamn hard sometimes. I blame you Gwenyth Paltrow. Fi Sullivan, young female musician on the rise:https://www.fisounds.com/Check out her new single We're Not Alone on Spotify and stay tuned for her imminent EP.  

No one depicts a high powered dweeb experiencing the agony of identity dysphoria and unrequited love better than Wes Anderson himself. So this week, we analyze another coming of age film whose beloved and complex protagonist is in crisis. We'll explore the ways in which we see ourselves in Rushmore’s leading man, Max Fischer, in all his glory, absurdism, wisdom, naivete, and painfully relevant flaws. It's love, it's loss, it's belonging, it's drama. I wrote a hit play! And I'm in love with you!Topics included: Day hikes not illuminating a sense of purpose, utilizing the confidence of a 6’2 white man, Freudian complexes (reprise), unleashing bees as revenge, trying to build an aquarium for someone who doesn’t love you and then getting expelledThis week Doing It Wrong is donating to Food Bank of the Rockies which distributes 2 million pounds of food to those in need each week. According to a study done by Denver University in 2019, 1 in 6 Denver households experience food insecurity or hunger and that number is rising due to the pandemic. Join us in supporting food security in the city we love here: https://www.foodbankrockies.org/give/give-funds/ 

Ever wondered what it’s like to execute a Robert Di Niro Scorsese film level performances, engineer theatre kid reality tv shows, and spoof the greatest mid-2000s Australian mermaid show of all time within 60 second time frames? Today's your day. The aforementioned list is a reflection of the creative brilliance of Vienna Ayla: a woman who defies reality itself.   This week we talk to rising comedienne Vienna about the circumstances and experiences that shaped her into the performer and person she is today. She teeters between reality, fantasy, and performance as we discuss the surveillance of sexuality at elite boarding schools, resilience in the face of profound psychological obstacles, fame, loyalty, and the importance of bravery. Topics included: the power of the  Italian-American dynasty, bionic children, manifestations of OCD, how to build characters on tik tok, the upsides to divorce, a variety of falsified lifehacks, going viral, feeling like you can fly the plane better than the pilot This week Doing it Wrong is donating to the ACLU of Georgia in an effort to help them protect Georgians' voting rights as the state heads into a fierce runoff election this January which will determine control of the Senate. Join us here https://action.aclu.org/give/support-aclu-georgia-foundation?ms=web__aff_ga_header_act

Let’s talk politics. If you've already voted, good on you, you shining example of civic engagement and participatory democracy, this will give you further insight on some of those decisions. If you haven't voted, we forgive your procrastination, there's still time to be a civic hero, and we produced this episode to give you precious intel on all those bubbles you're about to fill in. Consider this your quick n dirty guide to some of the most critical initiatives on the Colorado ballot folks. Today we dive into the nitty gritty of all those measures you've been neglecting to research because active participation in our democracy has never been more dire. Or fun. Topics included: abortion ban, climate change policies, flipping the Senate, rise and fall of the electoral college, paid family leave programs, the pitfalls of capitalism (again!), and views on high-speed internet for all.  Colorado Ballot Guide Resources: Colorado Public Radio, for statewide measures: https://www.cpr.org/2020/10/12/vg-2020-colorado-voter-guide-november-election/Denverite, for Denver specific ballot measures: https://denverite.com/2020/10/12/how-to-put-your-part-of-this-election-behind-you-immediately-a-denverite-ballot-guide/The Colorado Sun, for well researched and holistic explanations: https://coloradosun.com/2020/10/04/colorado-ballot-guide-2020-election/

Moments of startling clarity can come at unexpected times. Like last weekend when I was standing on the porch of a home that wasn’t mine and someone asked me where I was going. I quite obviously took the question figuratively and realized with a jolt that I have absolutely no idea where I am going at any given time. This week we talk to Miranda Whitney, who experienced a critical moment of clarity standing in the doorway of her mother’s bedroom. In a stroke of lucidity, Miranda commenced her recovery journey from an all-consuming alcohol addiction. We follow Miranda’s path from middle school in Denver through college in Oxford, Ohio. We discuss anxiety, depression, addiction, and strategies for living amongst it all. Prepare to be delighted, captivated, and then brought to tears. You have the right to remain silent. But you also have the right to say whatever the fuck you want. And that’s what Miranda did.Content Warning: This episode contains themes and explicit descriptions of addiction, alcoholism, and mental illnessFind Miranda Whitney's writing here: https://ogmirr.wixsite.com/unsolicitedopinionThis week Doing It Wrong is donating to Black Emotional and Mental Health Collective whose mission is to facilitate emotional healthcare and healing for Black communities through education, advocacy, and the creative arts. Join us here-  https://www.beam.community/donation 

Another week as a twenty something, another week getting bitch slapped by your own short- comings. We’ve talked about romance and sexual chaos, but this week we discuss what is arguably the joy and nectar of the universe: Friends. They make it all bearable. They give you life, they push you to go out when you shouldn’t, they hold you accountable, they contribute to your personhood, but they also change. And you change. In your twenties, the friendship tracks that have been reliably parallel often diverge and then take turns and dives. This week we talk about the challenges of navigating ever-evolving friendships in your twenties and how our friends can precipitate personal reckonings and critical periods of self-development. Topics Included: coffin friends, the risk of actually caring, well-intentioned stand-offs, why we are the way we are, self-reliance, hypocrisy, the most beautiful parts of friendship.  This week, we're donating to Abortion Access For All to honor Ruth Bader Ginsberg's legacy and help prevent the ban of abortions in Colorado. The money will work to prevent Prop 115 from being passed in November- a Colorado bill that forces women to continue pregnancies  without exceptions for risks to her health, even in cases of rape. Join us below. https://secure.actblue.com/donate/abortion-access-for-all-2?refcode=rbg2&amount=50&link_id=1&refcodeEmailReferrer=email_930375&can_id=99c0b0c56d90da33e2df0d368b2a0b3d&source=email-donate-in-rbgs-honor-2&email_referrer=email_930375&email_subject=donate-in-rbgs-honor

The journey to journaling, doesn’t always have to entail navigating a collection of bizarre and disturbing events that culminate in a sea of despair, but for Rainie it did, and we couldn’t be prouder. Her path included but was not limited to: cats bleeding out in alleyways, speaking with the National Guard naked, the discovery of a tragic food allergy, and, of course, The Hunger Games trilogy. This week as we enter the gateway of hell, oh I’m sorry freudian slip- as we enter the month of September we strive to re-examine what seems like the impossiblity of it all with vacant- sorry, fresh- eyes. This week we talk revelations about job search strategies, the ramifications of imposter syndrome, and screaming into the internet void. Topics Included: slippery slopes, seasonal depression, the worst omen of all time, speaking to the national guard completely naked, not being political pundits, FOMO as a business model, being violently allergic to eggplant, hunger games as real life, the attention industrial complex, email newsletter addiction, the anti-film bro, communes + escapism  This week we're partnering with sustainable jewelry brand Down to the Wire for an exclusive 50% off offer on any order. Listen through this episode for the promocode and then check out all their adornment possibilities here https://www.downtothewire.store/ and give them a follow https://www.instagram.com/downtothe_wire/. This week Doing It Wrong donated to the Homeless Black Trans Woman Fund that works to support black and brown trans communities experiencing homelessness in Atlanta. Join us here: https://www.gofundme.com/f/homeless-black-trans-women-fund  

Oh, the Modern Day Villain--you know who we’re talking about-- finance guy who aggressively orders to-go salads on his bluetooth headset, and believes in both meritocracy and nepotism. Do we despise him? But of course. Do we have darker, complicated desires to emulate his power? Have sexual fantasies about him? The answer is probably yes. Today, our neighborhood friend Anna Stenson, joins us to discuss judging character through career choices, “The Consultant”, leading happy lives with evil jobs, the fear invoked by LinkedIn, and perhaps most importantly, what not to wear to your ACT prep tutoring gig. Topics included: sexual attraction to fintech, the modern-day hero, the modern-day villain, the duality of woman, pantsuit goals, the consultant complex, postgraduate body slams, an abundance of insecurities, having 15-year-old co-workers, networking at 7 am without coffee, loafers from Goodwill This week we're donating to Fair Fight, an organization founded by Stacey Abrams that promotes fair elections in Georgia and across the nation while encouraging voter participation and providing voter education on elections and voting rights. Join us here https://secure.actblue.com/donate/fair-fight-1

As a college soccer player, serial monogamist, engineering major, American male who does the dishes, and all-around golden boy, we can’t really relate to Darcy’s brother, Luke. Except, of course, in humanity’s common denominators, such as rejection, breakups, and fear of being alone. This week we take a peek into the mind of Darcy’s younger brother, a Good Guy who just can’t seem to get out of long term relationships. What makes him tick? What allows him to find love so easily? What does he have that we don’t besides different genitalia and college-level physics knowledge? Topics Included: moving fast and breaking things, the importance of vulnerability, subconscious intentions, weaponizing social media, jubilation as the greatest lesson This week, we're donating to the Elijah McClain Fund organized by his mother, Sheenen McClain. The fundraiser seeks to raise money for legal fees as the McClain family seeks justice, and to fund a foundation in McClain's name that will help the black community and victims of police brutality. Elijah McClain was 23 when he was killed by three Aurora Police Officers in August of 2019. Join us here: https://www.gofundme.com/f/elijah-mcclain

Yes, we are two zillenials facing existential quandaries. But, like many mortals, we also have siblings, and those siblings are also navigating their very own crises. Join us for our very first live-action interview with our  Gen Z correspondent, May Toll-- tech expert, activist, and craftswoman extraordinaire. Also Rainie’s sister. We dive into the urgent issue that is TikTok and discuss how tech and the internet have shaped our lived experiences and what they might look like in the future. Then, we talk to May about what it means to be existential at 18 as opposed to 23  and try to offer our best advice on how to navigate uncertainty. Yes it's off the cuff, but it's also hopeful. Topics included: taking the Obama era for granted, the new checks and balances, Instagram’s history lessons, digital revolutions, candid vulnerability, fresh-faced existentialism, dining halls informing identity, social media hygiene, unlearning prestige

Loneliness is a pillar of twenty somethings, a staple of a pandemic, and a ramification of the age of the internet. Rainie’s socially distanced bumble date turns on its head, predominantly due to the lengthy list of assumptions she’d made prior. But can you blame her? Assumptions and disappointment are online dating’s most consistent accessories. Darcy ruminates on the importance of owning what you want romantically and the escapism mechanisms we use to remedy feelings of loneliness in our twenties. Then, a game of  Under/ Over has us rating pressing topics across culture from Hamilton to Elon Musk. This week, we’re here to make you feel a little less alone, one take at a time. Topics Included: Beta males, repressing your own relationship desires, the art of indifference, solo trips to movie theaters, singledoms, maple syrup

Last week, a serene and joyful lake house right outside Geneseo, New York was visited for the last time. Darcy and her extended family packed up the furniture and moved out. Sigh. To make matters worse, Darcy’s grandmother served up a little criticism that allegedly had been cooking for years. It did not taste good. On this episode, we discuss how to sit through feedback in the name of self-improvement. Then, to remedy the pains of being assessed, we assess some things. Cue some good old fashioned hot seat style cultural analysis that runs the gamut, from childhood vegetables to the city of Los Angeles. Wish us luck. Topics included: what your use of eye contact says about you, maternal fighting tactics, theories on why Pete Davidson is so irresistible, a class action lawsuit against Abercrombie & Fitch, Drake’s deep love for The Cheesecake Factory. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8s9joL_AGfo

If you want to be my lover, you gotta be Jon Stewart. Silver fox alert. This week we discuss the role of recreational sports in our collegiate and then post-collegiate lives and beg the question: must we join a rec frisbee golf league to meet someone new? Oy. Next, we’ll unpack our running habits and our running emotions: Is running about feeling like you’re in the movie Rocky or is it about meditating? Or both? Then, we’ll take a dip into the thoughts that scare us the most. Cool and fun but mostly really fun. And cool. Finally, we argue over which talk show host is the hottest. Yes, this is a highly anticipated topic. No, we don’t agree. Hint: Stephan Colbert goes unmentioned despite his competitive standing. Also included for your listening pleasure is a rendition of one of Youtube’s forgotten anthems. We aren’t the greatest British girl band of the 90s and early 2000s but we are two zellenials who like to go jogging. Topics included: Functionalities of your frontal lobe, the silent double standard of Jimmy Fallon, the dishwasher as an emotional tool, budgets for college short films, not going to school for business etc.  

Responsibility from left field. You’re bouncing along, thinking you’re  a crusader of truth and justice. “Pure intentions”. You’ve reached the Scott Disick mentality: “Maybe I’m just perfect and it’s everyone else that’s the problem.” And then all of a sudden, responsibility, the one you had shunned, smacks you in the face. Not so fast she says, you’re at fault too. This week, we each think about instances where responsibility is actually our prerogative. Then, we use social media beyond its means: Rainie tries to find a fiancé via tik tok and Darcy uses a fitness tracking app for poetry. Desperate times folks. Topics include: The fibula, ballot backpack, anti-gaslighting club, villain-victim dichotomy, Instagram Pulitzer, the virtues and vices of analytics. Media Links: https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a32433767/why-ex-texting-mark-groves-essay/

A pillar of twenty-something existence is failing. Wildly. Repeatedly. With grace and without grace. On your face. Publicly. Privately. This is our first (and most definitely not our last) foray into analyzing failure, what it means, how it's shaped us so far, and how we commit to it as an essential practice. Topics included: Running a marathon five days after breaking up with toxic bf, elections for 10th-grade class president, rapping as a political strategy, jumping during tennis, capitalistic indoctrination, finding solace in Michelle Obama.

It’s a perilous trial like no other: New Years Eve night, doomed before it even began. We roared into the 20s in our 20s. A lot transpired on that night and a lot has transpired since. We analyze mixed signals, destructive expectations, and the fallacy of the chill girl trope. Then, we talk resolutions--because if NYE is anything, it’s a time for reflection, intentions, and doing many things wrong in a compressed amount of time. The party commences here. Topics included: The anatomy of a revenge outfit, maternal affirmation, organic dance moves, beer to the face

It’s book club, baby! We discuss Defining Decade, the book about why your twenties “matter” and how to “make the most of them”. Author and therapist and Meg Jay, PhD, urges urgency, dismantles reckless relationships, and tells us to network like Benjamin Franklin. We weigh the merits of her suggestions with indignation. Mostly, Meg Jay tells us we’re doing it wrong.Topics included: How to get out of a metaphoric ocean (cont.), identity cultivation, judgemental therapists, are your twenties long or short?Have you felt changed by something you read, watched, or gulped down recently? Had a psychedelic or existential epiphany or a come to jesus moment? Did you wake up this morning feeling different? Better? Way worse? F*cked up recently and want to get it off your chest? Us too. Write us an email about it at  doingitwrong.diw@gmail.com

Rainie was ghosted in 2017 and so quite logically, she penned a seethingly well researched academic paper about how hookup culture perpetuates toxic masculinity and gendered power structures. On this episode, we break down multiple f*ckboy crimes and then we mull over the best ways to deal with the riffraff who wronged us (who we also can’t stop thinking about). Topics included: The definition of a f*ckboy, the disrespect, the utter disrespect. Have a more expansive definition of a f*ckboy? Have some incredible advice for listeners dealing with f*ckpeople? Hit our line. We won't ghost you. doingitwrong.diw@gmail.com