The Good Mood Clinic Podcast

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In today's episode  Gemma discusses the invisible reasons why so many women find it hard to leave an unhealthy relationship EARLY.  Based on her experience and knowledge gained from hearing the stories of hundred's of women, Gemma outlines her top 3 schema-related reasons why women don't exit relationships with partners who shows signs of unavailability, control and or narcissism.  Tune in to find out why you may have gone against your best instincts and hung in there too long hoping for your new partner to change. CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from love-traps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In today's episode we play an excerpt from a deep dive discussion on the abandonment schema from our monthly membership program, The Schema Circle.We discuss the abandonment schema and fine tune it's origins, what it actually feels like and the many triggers for this schema. CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from love-traps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like to help support the show please click the link below.Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!We talk about this so much with our clients.  Sometimes spotting red flags isn't the problem, its acting on them for your own best interests. In today's episode we discuss the main reasons why you might ignore red flags when dating.  We look at the role of core schemas such as 'abandonment', 'emotional deprivation' and 'defectiveness' and how these schema can negatively influence our decision making.  We think you'll enjoy this one if you have ever struggled with leaving a new relationship even though one part of you knew it wasn't right for you. Hope you enjoy. CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from love-traps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like to help support the show please click the link below.Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!When a schema is triggered, we typically have an urge to respond in 1 of 3 (unhelpful) ways.  In this episode Gemma talks about 'over-compensation' as one of those coping style.  Over-compensation (also referred to a counter-attack) is one of 3 maladaptive coping styles discussed in schema therapy.  Gemma reviews examples of over-compensation behaviours associated with each of the 18 schemas (in the original schema model). CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like to help support the show please click the link below.Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Dear Therapist, Carer or anyone witnessing the emotional pain & suffering of a client or another person or friend.  You are invited to take a breath, stop and notice how you are feeling.  Spend 20 minutes doing this compassion-based exercise with Dr Gemma Gladstone as she guides you through a journey of loving-kindness towards both yourself and the person you are choosing to focus on.  CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert. Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Parenting Teenagers You'll love this episode if you're looking for tips and clues for parenting your teen or tween.In this episode we discuss a question asked by a member of our Schema Circle.  The questions asks how to manage and deal with teenagers when they are  being "disrespectful" difficult and or angry and you are in the firing line!How can we be the "Lighthouse" for our teens and give them the love , support and inclusion that they need while also having limits and boundaries.  CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like to help support the show please click the link below.Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, Gemma and Justine answer a question from one of their Schema Circle members.The question asks how can we know if our reaction to a break-up is fuelled by an abandonment schema or not?  Before getting into this question, Gemma provides a review of the abandonment schema, it's origin and how it tends to play out in romantic relationships.The 3 ways this schema plays out in romantic relationships are (1) - an avoidance pattern; (2) - a surrendering pattern and (3) - an over-compensating pattern.  Gemma gives examples and explains each of these patterns.  CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like to help support the show please click the link below.Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like to help support the show please click the link below.Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, we discuss the emotional deprivation schema and how to start to heal this schema from the inside out.This is probably the most common schema - about 50% of people have this schema.  It's the one that can be the hardest to recognise because we are often not aware of what we didn't get.Stay tuned to hear us discuss how we start to work with this schema and what you can do in a practical way to start the healing process yourself.  CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like to help support the show please click the link below.Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Are you unsure about the difference between these 2 common schemas.In this bitesize episode we discuss the difference and similarities between these schemas.  These schemas are often considered to be 'conditional' schemas in that they develop as a way to cope with and respond to the core schemas - like abandonment for example.CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.  Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like to help support the show please click the link below.Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the concept of disorganized attachment style and challenge the inclination to worry excessively about labels.Join us as we delve into the complexities of disorganized attachment and shed light on why understanding it shouldn't be a source of distress.We'll discuss the limitations of categorization and emphasize the importance of focusing on the underlying experiences and emotions that shape our attachment patterns.CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like to help support the show please click the link below.Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Talking to a Narcissist? Avoid These 6 Common PitfallsVery often, if you were raised by a narcissist, in adulthood you will more or less fall into the trap of seeking the approval of people who are narcissistic.A narcissists acceptance of you is often conditional – as long as you are the version of you they want to see, then they treat you well, or at least in an acceptable way.In this episode Gemma discusses 6 relational or communications pitfalls to avoid when communicating with the difficult narcissist in your life. These are people who are really difficult to deal with or communicate with, who might gaslight you or try to manipulate you, who might be highly defensive, super sensitive to criticism, self-absorbed/self-centred; have angry outbursts; tantrums; and tend to be blaming of others and sometimes can be - condescending; patronising and belittling. CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like to help support the show please click the Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Don't you hate this! You'v e had a first great date with someone and then it's all down hill from there.  What went wrong? In this episode Justine and Gemma put this issue under the microscope and dissect the anatomy of this all too common and disappointing scenario.  CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like to help support the show please click the link below.Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!TRIGGER WARNING - Intimate partner abuse discussed and some sobering statistics of violence/sexual violence against woman are stated.In today's episode we speak with Psychologist  Leanne Nunn who has recently completed her PhD research on  The Earliest Warning Signs of Intimate Partner Abuse.   Leanne has over twenty five years of experience as a psychologist in the clinical, management and training sectors.  She is also a PhD Student at the University of Tasmania focusing on intimate partner abuse (IPA). She has workedwith women that have experienced IPA or childhood abuse extensively throughout her career, both individually and in groups, across private practice, hospital and community settings. Summary of research findingsThis qualitative research project focused on listening to the voices of survivors of IPA and identified four key findings:1) Women witnessed behaviours by the perpetrator early in the relationship that they felt were inappropriate or concerning or that they simply did not agree with. However, they did not label these behaviours as early warning signs of abuse, even when they were already very familiar with warning signs of abuse.2) When women witnessed these inappropriate behaviours, they compromised or pushed down their internal reactions to them.3) Every relationship included perpetrators’ intense charm, pursuit, love or excitement.4) Every relationship included perpetrators’ controlling behaviours that imposed limits on the victim-survivor.These findings suggest that the socialisation of women (including prioritising their partner’s needs over their own, maintaining the relationship at all costs, and a hope to be ‘swept up’ in their relationship) creates a foundation that can be manipulated by perpetrators to further enhance their abusive tactics. There are important implications of this research for primary prevention programs going forward.Contact for Psychologist  Leanne Nunn.http://www.lmnunn.com/Link to Leanne's bookhttp://www.lmnunn.com/books/ABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  IfJoin the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode we discuss core emotional needs and why they are so important for humans throughout our life.  We are born into the world with needs and our emotional, social, physical and psychological well-being depends upon them.  Our early care-givers are responsible for meeting our needs and as we grow and develop both ourselves and other people play a role in meeting emotional needs.  The needs discussed are: safety, stability & predictabilitysecure, loving, nurturing bond (warmth, validation, ‘being seen’)autonomy & growing independenceexpression of emotions, needs, thoughts (allowance of authenticity)spontaneity, creativity & play realistic limits, self-discipline, impulse controlIn schema therapy, early maladaptive schemas develop when these needs are not adequately met or are violated in some way.CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like to help support the show please click the link below.Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode, Gemma does a solo show talking all about schema triggers and schema activation.Gemma described the trigger chain and how we can break down the components of schema activation - feelings, thoughts, memories, sensations.  She describes what action urges are and how they are also part of the schema.  She then outlines the 3 different types of coping responses and how we can start to make some behavioural changes. Finally Gemma also discusses some tools and strategies to cope with schema activation and the difficult emotions that can arise. CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like to help support the show please click the link below.Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!TRIGGER WARNING - This episode talks about death, dying, grief and breast cancer.In Loving Memory of  Astrid von Lojewski-Wilson 16/11/76 - 11/12/19, a beautiful human being, greatly missed every day. In this podcast, Gemma talks about the profound impact of losing a close friend through death.  She describes her own experience of grief after the death of her close friend from cancer.  Gemma then discusses 5 ways that can help as you navigate your way through the grieving process.1. Honour your feelings & the reality of your own grief. The death of a friend can sometimes be a form of disenfranchised grief (not acknowledged by others). 2. Keep up the connection with your friend somehow - keep a continuing bond with your friend via rituals or other ways to celebrate and remember their life (eg, photos, talk to them, write them a letter). 3. Consider their LEGACY. What have they left behind in terms of impact and gifts to your life.  How did you learn from them? How can you internalise their wisdom into your own life? 4. Grieve in YOUR OWN way. There are many myths and unrealistic expectations out there about grief and the grieving process - they are not helpful.  There are no defined rules or time periods with grief.  5. Remember them with others. Grief can be an isolating experience. Talk about your lost friend with the mutual friends you have. Discuss different memories of them and what you most valued about them.  Also there is a recommendation for seeking out your own professional support if you feel you need some extra help with your grief. For resources and support in Australia visit:- https://www.grief.org.au/Blog Post mentioned, the study is cited in this post:-The Profound Significance of a Close Friend's DeathABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves what we do on this podcast?  If so, would you consider helping us continue to put out great content by making a small monthly contribution?  If you'd like Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In schema therapy, 'Modes' are a key part of the model.  Schema Modes have been defined as  moment-to-moment emotional states and coping responses that we all experience.  But also, Modes can be understood as 'parts' of self.  So modes can be observable to others and/or also a way to conceptualise the idea of multi-selves (ie, that we all have parts of self).   Schema modes are activated by triggers (eg, life situations, memories, interactions with others, our own thoughts & feelings, random events)  that we are especially sensitive to (ie, they are salient for us/meaningful to us in some way).  Many schema modes lead us to over or under react to situations and, thus, to act in ways that end up hurting us or others and also reinforcing and perpetuating our schemas.In this episode, Gemma and Justine discuss some of the modes that are especially relevant to Narcissism. These modes are: (1) angry child mode - a core child mode (2) Bully & Attack mode - a coping mode (3) Martyr Mode - a coping mode and (4) Self-Aggrandiser mode - a coping mode.  While there are other modes which might be relevant, we discuss these four as particularly important in understanding the behaviours and motivations of the person who is exhibiting narcissistic traits. CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode Gemma and Justine discuss 6 strategies for dealing with difficult family relatives over the Christmas and holiday period.  Getting together with family for many, can be a stressful and challenging time.  There are usually lots of unspoken expectations and sometimes old resentments and old hurts which get activated during this time.Firstly you need to decide on whether you will be attending gatherings with that difficult person or people and then you need to have a plan, including an exit strategy if things don't go well!Discussion points are:1. You don't have to respond to critical comments.2. Stay mindful and refrain from getting defensive and making things worse.3. Have a few stock-standard neutral replies or comments pre-prepared.4. Be complimentary to soften the tone and get the difficult person to help out with something if relevant.5. See the person for who they are and know they have their own schemas and modes which shape their difficult behaviours.6. Have a planned exit strategy you can use if necessary. CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relationship advice from a registered therapist. Please seek advice that is tailored to your specific needs from a mental heath or relationship expert.Are you a regular listener who loves Join the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!In this episode Justine & Gemma discuss 4 things you can start working on if you think that you might have narcissistic traits or modes.Typically, if someone tells us they think they are narcissistic, they often are not at all.  Most clients who are narcissistic don't present for therapy unless their world is significantly compromised in some way (eg, their spouse splits up with them, they lose their job, they lose friends and people don't want to being around them anymore).  Some of our listeners have asks us to do an episode on how narcissists can change.We have identified 4 key issues/interpersonal problems that the narcissist typically struggles with and we discuss each one describing how you can start to make small changes and improvements in these areas.The key to all of this is of course, greater self-awareness and learning to tolerate uncomfortable emotions instead of using unhelpful coping behaviours (eg, over-compensation) to suppress or reject those emotions.  The 4 issues discussed areLearning to tolerate another person's subjectivity.  Learning to do repairs. Owning your contribution to the problem.Learning to tolerate shame and guilt without the need to blame others.CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from lovetraps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSchema Therapy for Life: For anyone who wants to become their own pattern-breaker using the wisdom and clarity of Schema Therapy.InstagramFacebookClick below for more information on our online membership The Schema Circle - the first membership to help you break free from your unhelpful patterns using the wisdom of Schema Therapy.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/schematherapyforlifeABOUT THE PODCASTThe Good Mood Clinic podcast focuses on our passion for Schema Therapy and how it transforms lives for the better. We talk about all things to do with Schema Therapy so you can become your own pattern-breaker and change your life for good. We think the whole world would be a better place if everyone healed their schemas!If you enjoy listening to the podcast please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even a few words helps! You can also email us with any feedback, thoughts on what you have learned from the episodes or even suggest future topics.Please note: This podcast is for information and entertainment purposes only and is no substitute for professional or relatioJoin the WAITLIST for the SCHEMA CIRCLEIf you’re enjoying our podcast then come alone and put your name down on the waitlist for the schema circle.  That way you’ll hear when we next open the doors for new members.  The schema circle is our passion project - our online schema coaching membership. https://www.theredflagproject.com/Support the show