The Expat Mom Podcast

What keeps you from emotion coaching your kids?  Do you feel like you just don’t have time?  You are just too reactive?  Your kids are too young or too old?  There are lots of things that keep us from coaching our kids through emotions.  This episode addresses some of the most common questions and issues parents have about emotion coaching. Things you’ll learn on the podcast:When is too young or too old to emotion coachHow to adapt emotion coaching for different agesWhat to do if your child gets MORE upset when you emotion coach themHow to feel less reactive when your kids have a big emotionSend me an email with a question or with an experiencejennie@theexpatmom.comFree Coaching SessionSign-up for a free coaching session.  (I'm currently not offering free coaching sessions, but hope to offer them again in the future!)ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram: @theexpatmomcoachFind more resources at my website: http://theexpatmom.com

Studies show that kids’ emotional success is much less dependent on the quantity of difficult things that happen to them and much more on their experience with them.  As parents, we can’t always control what happens to our kids—nor would we want to.  But we can control how we support our kids through whatever does happen.  And, this support piece is much more powerful to their emotional health anyway.  On this episode we break down the “how-to” of emotion coaching.  We discuss five simple steps to walk your child through a big emotion.  This is the third in a series on emotion coaching kids.  If you haven’t listened to episode #137-#138—those are helpful precursers to this episode. On this episode you’ll learn:The five steps to emotion coachingHow to help your kids feel understood but still set limits and move forwardIf emotion coaching can be used for positive emotionsPractical applications and examples for emotion coaching for young kids and teensSend me an email with a question or with an experiencejennie@theexpatmom.comFree Coaching SessionSign-up for a free coaching session. (I'm currently not offering free coaching sessions, but hope to again in the future!)ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram: @theexpatmomcoachFind more resources at my website: http://theexpatmom.com

Most of us think that we’re being a good parent if we keep our kids happy.  But that’s not true.  In fact, some of our best parenting can occur when our kids are experiencing a negative emotion. That’s because studies show that kids’ emotional health is less dependent on the amount of negative emotion they experience and more on how they were supported through it. When we are able to coach our kids through negative emotions and companion them along the way—we offer them a much more valuable gift than simply trying to eliminate stressful things or act like everything is fine all the time.  Having a mindset that allows you to help you children deal with big emotions depends on being comfortable with some important beliefs about emotions.  Some of these beliefs are a bit counter-culture, meaning they aren’t beliefs we absorb naturally in our modern society.  We’re often taught that negative emotions are bad and something to avoid.  But negative emotions have MANY benefits for us and our children.  But as parents, we get to be on the cutting edge of creating a healthier society for ourselves and our children to live in.  We get to be the change.  On this podcast you'll learn:The mistake lots of parents make when addressing kid's big emotionsWhy mindset mattersWhy negative emotions might be exactly what your child needsFive essential beliefs that establish a healthy mindset to coach kids through emotionsResourcesBurnout: The Secret To Unlocking the Stress Cycle, Emily and Amelia NagoskiBrene Brown Podcast feature the authors:https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-with-emily-and-amelia-nagoski-on-burnout-and-how-to-complete-the-stress-cycle/Free Coaching SessionSign-up for a free coaching session.  (I'm currently not offering free coaching sessions, but hope to again in the future!)ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram: @theexpatmomcoachFind more resources at my website: http://theexpatmom.com

Kids and big emotions often go together like peanut butter and jelly.  It’s part of the business of childhood and our teen years to figure out how to deal with our emotions.  And, as parents we can be a help or a hinderance in that process.  It isn’t always intuitive to know how to help kids with emotions—in fact we often want to avoid negative emotions for our kids.  This week on the podcast we examine some of the mistakes parents make when responding to kids’ negative emotions.   On the podcast you'll learn:Four parenting approaches to kids' negative emotionsWhat the impact of each is on kids according to researchWhich one is most successfulResourcesJohn Gottman,  Raising an Emotionally Intelligent ChildFree Coaching SessionSchedule a free coaching session!  (I'm currently not offering free coaching sessions, but hope to again in the future).ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram: @theexpatmomcoachFind more resources at my website: http://theexpatmom.com

I don’t know many people who LIKE to fail.  But like it or not, life includes lots of failure.  That is—if you’re stretching yourself enough to actually be growing.  The reason most of us fear failure is we don’t like feeling humiliated, disappointed and frustrated.  But did you know that it is possible to have a different experience with failure.  Did you know failure could be fun?  This week on the podcast I’m going to teach you how to fail in a way that’s useful…and maybe even fun.   In this episode you’ll learn: Why we don’t like to failHow to shift the way you feel about failingWhy failure can actually be usefulDifferent types of failure and why some are better than othersHow to convert your worst critic into your best cheerleaderJoin the Free Getting it Done Bootcamp!https://forms.aweber.com/form/81/1786038081.htmFree Coaching Session Sign-up for a free coaching session Free Resources One-Minute Wisdom Sign-up for free, bite-sized wisdom right to your inbox once a weekInstagram You can also connect with me on Instagram or FaceBook.   I respond to every comment. @theexpatmomcoach, The Expat Mom FaceBook Page  Leave a review:Reviews are important for a new podcast, and they help more people find it!  Here are the instructions for leaving a review on iTunes.     Click On Podcast> Scroll down to the reviews > Click on the icon "leave a review" > write a quick review and tell me one of the things you've learned or has impacted you, and press send.

Join the Free Getting it Done Bootcamp!https://forms.aweber.com/form/81/1786038081.htmWhile many of us love to set goals, being consistent with them can be challenging.  They are challenging because new behaviors take more effort and they can be uncomfortable.  It’s easier to just do what we’ve always done…and our lower brains like ease.   If we haven’t set up the right systems for ourselves, the lower brain often wins out and we procrastinate or give up on our goal.  In order to be consistent we can use a couple of tools to help our lower brains work for us, not against us in accomplishing our goals.  On the podcast, you’ll learn:  Why it’s so hard to be consistent with our goals Why our brain is the problem AND the solutionTwo tools for being more consistent with our goalsPractical examples of how you can use these tools for accomplishing your goals.  Free Coaching SessionSign-up for a free coaching sessionFree ResourcesOne-Minute WisdomSign-up for free, bite-sized wisdom right to your inbox once a weekInstagramYou can also connect with me on Instagram or FaceBook.   I respond to every comment.@theexpatmomcoach, The Expat Mom FaceBook PageLeave a review:Reviews are important for a new podcast, and they help more people find it!  Here are the instructions for leaving a review on iTunes.   Click On Podcast> Scroll down to the reviews > Click on the icon "leave a review" > write a quick review and tell me one of the things you've learned or has impacted you, and press send.

When we plan out our goals we often assume it will be like driving to the grocery store, hitting all green lights, getting a front row parking spot, not waiting in line and zipping home.  But it never is.  There are always obstacles that come up.  Today on the podcast I’m sharing 3 common mistakes we make that derail our goals so you can be more successful at avoiding these mistakes.  On this episode you’ll learn: A healthy way to define if you’re being successful at your goal day to dayHow to anticipate obstacles head of time and how to prepare for them How to change your self-talk so you don’t sabotage yourselfJoin The Free, 30-Day "Getting It Done Bootcamp"Choose a goal you want to accomplish in 30 days!  This is a boot-camp you can do at anytime.  When you sign up, you'll receive weekly challenges for 30 days that help you apply the things we're discussing on the podcast this month about goals.https://forms.aweber.com/form/81/1786038081.htmFree Coaching SessionSign-up for a free coaching sessionFree ResourcesOne-Minute WisdomSign-up for free, bite-sized wisdom right to your inbox once a weekInstagramYou can also connect with me on Instagram or FaceBook.   I respond to every comment.@theexpatmomcoach, The Expat Mom FaceBook PageLeave a review:Reviews are important for a new podcast, and they help more people find it!  Here are the instructions for leaving a review on iTunes.   Click On Podcast> Scroll down to the reviews > Click on the icon "leave a review" > write a quick review and tell me one of the things you've learned or has impacted you, and press send.

Join the Free Getting it Done Bootcamp!https://forms.aweber.com/form/81/1786038081.htmDid you know 80% of New Year's resolutions fail?  And most of them fail by mid-February.  That is a sobering statistic.  I've been part of that statistic until a few years ago, when I learned some simple tools that have helped me and my clients actually accomplish our goals instead of just make them.  Accomplishing goals is actually like creating and following a recipe.In this episode you'll learn:How to move past overwhelmHow to stop procrastinationHow to accomplish goals when it feels like you don't have timeWhat to do when you don't feel like it Free Coaching SessionSign-up for a free coaching sessionFree ResourcesOne-Minute WisdomSign-up for free, bite-sized wisdom right to your inbox once a weekInstagramYou can also connect with me on Instagram or FaceBook.   I respond to every comment.@theexpatmomcoach, The Expat Mom FaceBook PageLeave a review:Reviews are important for a new podcast, and they help more people find it!  Here are the instructions for leaving a review on iTunes.   Click On Podcast> Scroll down to the reviews > Click on the icon "leave a review" > write a quick review and tell me one of the things you've learned or has impacted you, and press send.

Join the Free Getting it Done Bootcamp!https://forms.aweber.com/form/81/1786038081.htmWhat kinds of feelings does setting goals bring up for you?  This year goals setting brought up anxiety and lack of motivation.  I’ve felt a bit sluggish nailing myself down with one goal.  I was feeling overwhelmed with all the goals I WANT to do but knowing I only have the capacity to do some.  Choosing can be tough!  And, as I look back on some of the past years, it can feel discouraging to think about goals I’ve set and never accomplished.  But, I pulled myself together and applied some of the strategies and tools I’m teaching in this podcast, and I chose a goal for the year that I’m really excited and motivated about.  What you’ll learn on the podcastWhy goals matterHow many goals are realisticWhich goal to chooseA step-by-step process for choosing a goal in less than 10 minFree 30 Min. Coaching SessionSign-up for a free coaching sessionOther Free ResourcesOne-Minute WisdomSign-up for free, bite-sized wisdom right to your inbox once a weekInstagramYou can also connect with me on Instagram or FaceBook.   @theexpatmomcoach, The Expat Mom pageLeave a review:Reviews are important for a new podcast, and they help more people find it!  Here are the instructions for leaving a review on iTunes.   Click On Podcast> Scroll down to the reviews > Click on the icon "leave a review" > write a quick review and tell me one of the things you've learned or has impacted you, and press send.

Most of us have known someone at some time that was grieving.  If you’re like most people you want to help!  You don’t want the person to suffer.   But, it can be challenging sometimes to know how to help.  On the podcast this week, I share 5 common mistakes we may make in trying to help someone who as lost someone.Free Mini-Coaching SessionSign-up for a free coaching session.ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram: @theexpatmomcoach or on Facebook:  @theexpatmomcoach

In Grief Part 2, I shared my grief journey through the first two tasks of grief.  In this episode I continue sharing my grief journey through the last two tasks of grief which are adjusting to the new life without the loved one, and reinvesting in a new reality.   I found I was a bit like the little bird in PD Eastman's Book asking "Are you my mother?"  I share how I found her--and a new version of me after her passing.  Free Mini-Coaching SessionSign-up for a free coaching session.ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram: @theexpatmomcoach or on Facebook:  @theexpatmomcoach

The experience of grief journeys, the timelines, and the ways we find more normalcy and re-calibrate are different too.  In the second part of the interview with my siblings, we explore more about healing and help in grief. On this episode we’ll cover:What things were most helpful to you during your grief journey? Was there anything you did or do that has helped?How are you different after this experience?Free Mini-Coaching SessionSign-up for a free 30-min. mini-coaching session.ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram: @theexpatmomcoach

Grief is as different as the number of people on earth.  But sometimes it’s easy to wonder if what we’re experiencing is “normal.”  I’m so thankful to my siblings for being willing to share about their varied grief experiences—it paints a picture of how different grief journeys can be for people who even lost the same person in the same way. On this episode we’ll cover: Experiences of acute grief right after our mother’s passingExperience of longer-term grief over the past ten yearsA difficult part of griefSomething that surprised us about griefFree Mini-Coaching SessionSign-up for a free coaching session.ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram: @theexpatmomcoach

This week on the podcast, I share my personal journey of grief around losing my mother.  I hope it will be helpful to you in your own grief journeys of loss.  There is something about other’s stories that can be more reassuring than science or models—other’s experiences can offer validation, understanding, empathy and connection.  I’m getting a bit more raw and personal in this podcast because that is exactly the nature of grief.  I talk about how I navigated the first 2 tasks of grief.  1) Accepting the reality of the loss.  2) Experiencing the pain of the loss.Free Mini-Coaching SessionSign-up for a free coaching session.ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram: @theexpatmomcoach

Twelve years ago Saturday, my mother passed away.  Grief isn’t something we plan or prepare for, so when it comes it’s often unexpected—even if someone’s death is expected due to a terminal illness.  I’ve been looking back at my own grief journey, and studying the most common things about grief that cause people to get stuck and what helps them get unstuck.  I’m excited to share those tips with you today.  This is the first part in a series on grief.  The next few episodes will include an episode sharing my experience of my mother passing away, an episode interviewing my siblings about their various grief experiences and an episode about what to say and what not to say to people experiencing grief.  On the podcast you’ll learn:Why the using the common grief model by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross to understand your grief journey might NOT be helpful Different graphics or models that may be more helpfulWhat the four tasks are that help us heal from griefFree Mini-Coaching SessionSign-up for a free 30-min. mini-coaching session.ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram: @theexpatmomcoach

Last time we discussed the 6 parts of confidence.  This time we're going deep on self-worth.  Consider the following questions:What are you worth?  (I 'm not talking about how much money your make or what your net worth is.  I mean what is your intrinsic value as a human being unrelated to money?)What gives us value as humans?Who decides your value or worth?  Worth is the value we give to something.  Self-worth is the value we assign to ourselves.  Why does self-worth matter?  Think about something you have that is valuable.  How do you treat it?  For most of us we treat valuable things with more care and deliberate action.  The same is true for you.  When we value ourselves and believe we have innate worth, we treat ourselves (and others too) differently.  Self-Worth is foundational to all the other parts of confidence.  You won't want to miss this episode.  If you haven't had a chance to take the confidence quiz:Confidence Quizhttps://forms.aweber.com/form/29/413260329.htmFree Coaching Session with Jennie LintonThis is a great chance to try out coaching and see if it's a good fit for you.ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram or find more free resources on my websitePlease leave a review on your favorite podcast app.  It helps other people find it!

Just like you wouldn't want a surgeon to operate on your body without having taken anatomy, you wouldn't want to make a serious attempt at increasing confidence without first knowing it's "anatomy."  In this episode I discuss 6 of the essential components of confidence.  Confidence Quizhttps://forms.aweber.com/form/29/413260329.htm Free Coaching Session with Jennie LintonThis is a great chance to try out coaching and see if it's a good fit for you.ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram or find more free resources on my websitePlease leave a review on your favorite podcast app.  It helps other people find it!

Confidence is the foundation of our mental and emotional health.  Ironically confidence begets more confidence because when we believe we can we do more, we try more often, we are willing to take risks.  Confidence creates a rich life experience, it speeds up decision making, improves communication, and is frankly a lot more fun to live with than self-doubt.  In this episode we dig into some of the benefits of confidence--I share some personal stories and some from clients about the difference confidence can make in your life.  Confidence Quizhttps://forms.aweber.com/form/29/413260329.htmFree Coaching Session with Jennie LintonThis is a great chance to try out coaching and see if it's a good fit for you.ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram or find more free resources on my websitePlease leave a review on your favorite podcast app.  It helps other people find it!

How confident would you say you are?  Does it change in different situations?  With different people?  Has it been different during different life stages?  It's normal for confidence to ebb and flow some.  In fact, it's actually useful to have a little self-doubt.  However, confidence is like the background music to our lives--it impacts how we feel, how we see the world, and how we interact with others.  This confidence series is designed to help you improve your confidence.  In this first episode we're going to explore how confident you are!Confidence Quizhttps://forms.aweber.com/form/29/413260329.htmFree Coaching Session with Jennie LintonThis is a great chance to try out coaching and see if it's a good fit for you.ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram or find more free resources on my websitePlease leave a review on your favorite podcast app.  It helps other people find it!

In honor of 3 years of the podcast, today I'm sharing tips on the 3 most coached on issues.  For each topic I share I client journey, a book recommendation and a podcast recommendation We are getting ready for a move abroad or getting ready to repatriate, how can I support my kids and our family through this? Ep. 109 Emotional DebriefingEp. 112-114 Navigating TransitionEp 39-42 Emotion CoachingI’m struggling in my marriage. Ep. 26 Why you can’t make your spouse HappyEp. 27 How to improve Intimacy in marriageEp. 28 How to see your spouse with new eyesEp. 29 How to love your spouse after they have hurt or disappointed youI feel stuck emotionally and I don’t know how to get back to my old self.Ep. 30 Why trying to feel happier is making you miserable,  Ep 31 How a pencil can help control negative chatter in your mind,  Ep 32 How to untwist negative thinking Ep. 100 How to stop ruminatingFree Coaching Session with Jennie LintonThis is a great chance to try out coaching and see if it's a good fit for you.ScheduleOne-Minute WisdomEach week I carefully craft a short perspective shift or tool that you can read in about a   minute or two.  You can sign up here.Follow me on Instagram or find more free resources on my websitePlease leave a review on your favorite podcast app.  It helps other people find it!