Why Not?

I often hear success talked about as if it has some universally agreed upon definition. And often the implication has something to do with career and/or money. But it can mean anything you want. Anything. In this episode I explore my own thoughts on success, I share ways I cultivate the feeling of success or arrive at it, and tons of questions for you to explore and arrive at your own definition. I hope this episode sparks more conversation and allows us all to lean into how incredible and magical we all are right now in this moment. Read more: On Substack Talk more: Via Email See more: On Instagram --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

Yes, I myself have said "Rest is Productive." And it can be. For sure. But also - when was the last time you rested or cared for yourself for the SAKE of resting + caring for yourself, and not as a means to get back to work? Today I share lessons from my latest burnout so we all learn from it. Listen in to hear: Why rest CAN be productive - but why that's not helpful as your underlying motivation Another way of thinking about resting and self care Leaning into indulging in rest and self care for the sake of them A lesson if you're someone who only takes forced pauses, not intentional, indulgent pauses Some great questions sprinkled in to support you resting and caring for yourself Thinking about caring for yourself as you would your inner or younger child self Many many reminders to just take that nap if ya wanna! Every lessons has layers and this is my latest layer in my burnout lesson. I'm honored to share it with you and hope it gives you some jumping off points for your own lessons, your own rest, your own self care. 💚 Read more: On Substack Talk more: Via Email See more: On Instagram --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

Not all of productivity is active creation. AND some is co-creation. Our society prioritizes doing doing doing but I reject it + show you in this episode a different way to think about and relate to productivity.Listen in to hear:What productivity is and isn'tAn example of non-toxic productivity in farming + gardening (truly transformational idea)How to get yourself to do things when your default is to do nothing - and why you're not  lazy or wrong or badWhy resting is resting and not productive (yes I've gone back on my own words - evolution of thought is wonderful)Why leaning into your capacity is so much more important than just producing producing producingHow so much of art happens in the liminal space, lean inYou will not hear in this episode "How to be more productive" but you will hear why notHow to explore your capacityPrioritize your day to day, your lived experience over what + how much you produce. Productivity is neutral - but our societal view of it is mostly toxic. This episode is a different take on how we can relate to productivity taking our own capacity into account. It's a love letter from my heart. 💚Episode mentioned:16. How to Get Anything DoneI mentioned an episode where I talked about toxic productivity - but it doesn't actually exist - SORRY - email or DM me if you want me to create one and dive further into this topic tho!What's next?:Email me to work together 1:1: right hereConnect with me on IG: right hereGet weekly love notes from me: right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

You don't have to shame yourself into action. You don't have to feel terrible when you don't do the thing. AND you can still hold yourself accountable. And get things done.Listen in to hear:What accountability is and what it definitely is notHow take responsibility for your action + inactions without shameWhy it IS ok that you didn't do the thing AND what to do nextHow to hold yourself accountableThe questions to ask yourself before, during, + after doing the thing you said you would doHow I get myself to do things in the momentA sidenote on "it's my fault" and what that really meansListen in and start taking responsibility for your actions + inactions so you CAN spend your time the way you want now!Episode mentioned:16. How to Get Anything DoneWhat's next?:Work with me 1:1: right hereConnect with me on IG: right hereGet weekly love notes from me: right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

Confidence is about the quality of your self trust, not the quality of your work. It's not about "Am I good enough?" "Is my art good?" It's - "I trust in my capacity to learn, and grow, and evolve, and create." Period.Listen in to hear:Why yes you CAN do what you want - even if it hasn't happened yet (And how to think about it so that you CAN)Why confidence has nothing to do with how good your art is, how good your work is, whether or not you've done something beforeHow to overcome Imposter Syndrome and be confident anytime about anythingHow I think about confidence and why I'm always confident in my guitar skills even when I don't think I'm good (What?? Yes.)Why you already have confidence, you're just choosing it to be in your LACK of results and how to switch thatThis episode will completely shift how you think about confidence and your ability to feel confident. Listen in and enjoy!What's next?:Work with me 1:1: right hereConnect with me on IG: right hereGet weekly love notes from me: right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

Belonging is a choice. It's not given to you by anyone else. It is yours to decide. But of course, it's not always that easy right! So I'm here to give you some thoughts to try on so that you can decide to belong now.In this episode I talk about:Why + How belonging is a choiceSome of my own journey with choosing to belongWhy you might not choose to belong + how to think about it differentlyHow boundaries and belonging are different thingsWhy it is so valuable to choose to belong everywhere as your defaultWhy it may be valuable to also decide everyone belongs everywhereHow belonging is similar to confidence and self trustWhat it means to belongYou belong here. Decide that. Believe that. Be that.What's next?:Work with me 1:1: right hereConnect with me on IG: right hereGet weekly love notes from me: right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

This is the audio of the IG live I did last week that really resonated with a lot of you, so now it's on the podcast where you can listen anytime! (And at 1.5x the speed, if you're like me!)I know a lot of you are starting, building, or growing creative business + careers. So I'm here today to share my best business tips so you can focus on what matters and have time left over for the whole reason you're doing what you're doing: creativity!Listen in to hear:My 5 tips for creating, building, + growing a creative business or careerWhy it may be the best thing to keep your side job while you're growing (and how to think about it so you don't hate it!)Why thinking long term is the key to enjoying right nowWhy your mindset is the MOST important part of business, life, creativity, everything!How to network without feeling grossWhere to grow your confidence specifically in order to grow your business or careerI have learned from the best of the best and been able to enjoy my business journey, so I want to pass along this wisdom to you. You don't have to get caught up in the algorithm or feeling salesy and scammy in order to make money doing what you love. You CAN enjoy the journey. Listen in for how I've done it and how to apply it to your life and business too!What's next?:Book a consult with me: right hereSay hello on Instagram: right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

Since 99% of achieving your goal is the process of achieving it and not the moment of achievement - let's make that process fun and NOT pressurized! I've learned a lot over the years of how to balance accountability without pressure and I'm sharing it all today! So you can achieve your goals AND maybe just maybe (definitely) have more fun in the process!I talk about:how to find your balance between accountability + no pressure with your goals + habitsthe number one thought to be thinking while achieving your goalwhy the experience matters more than the achievement of the goalhow to think about time in relationship to your goals + habitshow to achieve your goal no matter what without pressurewhy you don't want to have anything (confidence, capability, money) be riding on achieving your goalsbeing in process, always = presencehow to not put pressure on your habits AND goals, and the different ways to think about the twoListen in and make a change TODAY!Episodes mentioned:Ep. 73: Set Goals You Want + Are Willing to AchieveWhat's next?:Book a consult with me: right hereSay hello on Instagram: right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

Or your wallet. Today I'm talking about a tool I use with myself and my clients to gain awareness and create ACTUAL (and often instant) change.If you find yourself repeating the same patterns like walking out the door without your wallet and then saying "Oh I'll definitely remember next time" and then... not. Over and over and over - this episode is for you.This is how I create new habits. This is how I stop bad habits. This is how I don't lie to myself and think I'll remember that song I wrote without recording it or writing it down.This is what I walk my clients through consistently so they can create change ANYTIME.I talk about:not lying to yourself about your memory so you can actually remember next timehow to gain awareness when you "lose time" (i.e. "I just don't know where the time went" "I don't even know what I was doing")why, again, hoping is not creating the change you want and what to do insteadwhy your patterns keep repeating and what to do about itwhy your brain can be a jerk and sabotage you, and why it's not your fault!Listen in and make a change TODAY!What's next?:Book a consult with me: right hereSay hello on Instagram: right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

Don't set goals hoping and trying to achieve them. And then quit the second you start to doubt it. Set your goals and treat them like your next tour. Like it's happening. 100%. And you're just doing everything within your control to make it a reality.In this episode I talk about:why hoping + trying is why you're not hitting your goalswhy doubt isn't a problemhow to USE doubt to achieve your goalshow to plan for and treat your goals like your next tour (even if you're not a musician)This episode is going to change your way of thinking in the best way. Don't miss it.What's next?:Book a consult with me: right hereSay hello on Instagram: right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

Perfection is a lie. Or it's real and it's just you being your true authentic self, which is my favorite definition.Listen in for all things perfectionism and the ONE thought you need to think to shift out of it.I talk about:why the conventional meaning of perfection is a lie and subjective and vaguewhy trying to be perfect to avoid judgement doesn't work + what to do insteadwhat the Napster era of downloading demos has to do with perfectionwhat people actually want to see from youhow you are your own worst critic but why that thought can be really usefulthe one thought that will shift it allHappy to be back with new episodes!Episode mentioned:67. PerfectionismWhat's next?:Book a consult with me: right hereSay hello on Instagram: right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

2021 has been my most transformational year yet and I've never felt more confident or stoked for the future than I do right now! And it's because of the lessons I'm sharing in this episode.As I was going through my own work in Hella Year 2022, I realized that the lessons I learned this year would be SO valuable for you all to hear as well, so I'm sharing them here!My biggest lessons in 2021:Choose one goalMake a simple planFollow that plan until the goal is achievedChoose one coachI have all the answers - no one else doesChoose what you want not what your current brain thinks it is capable ofEpisodes mentioned:Online Business Building Mamas Podcast: Ep. 196: The Power of Planning71. Am I doing this right or wrong?And join me for Hella Year 2022 to learn all the foundations for growth-focused goals and having your best year yet. No matter what. Hella Year 2022 will happen December 27-31, 2021 in your inbox and on Instagram and you can join: RIGHT HERE.What's next?:Book a consult with me: right hereSay hello on Instagram: right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

Consistency is NOT a specific frequency. It IS trusting yourself to always come back to something. You trust yourself to do it again. Whenever that is.AND you CAN set a frequency - and I'll talk about what to think about when doing so to be the most successful.Listen in for tips on staying consistent, how to think about consistency, how this relates to stepping into the identity of someone who is consistent, and more!And join me for Hella Year 2022 to learn all the foundations for growth-focused goals and having your best year yet. No matter what. Hella Year 2022 will happen December 27-31, 2021 in your inbox and on Instagram and you can join: RIGHT HERE.What's next?:Book a consult with me: right hereSay hello on Instagram: right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

I see so many people setting a million goals at the beginning of the year - thinking of "what would be fun this year?" And what I think? Throwaway goals are a waste of mental space and energy.It is much more useful to set LESS goals that you are ACTUALLY committed to achieving. Because the added benefit is that other goals will happen as a byproduct. Because you are focused on growth, as we talked about in last week's episode.The best questions to ask when setting a goal: Where do I want to grow? And what am I willing to do to get there?And join me for Hella Year 2022 to learn all the foundations for growth-focused goals and having your best year yet. No matter what. Hella Year 2022 will happen December 27-31, 2021 in your inbox and on Instagram and you can join: RIGHT HERE.Episodes Mentioned:51. Is this the right next step or just a good idea?72. Achieving the Goal is Not the PointWhat's next?:Book a consult with me: right hereSay hello on Instagram: right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

The AIM of the goal is to achieve it. But it's not the point. And when you make achieving the goal the point it makes it harder to achieve and easier to quit.So what is the point of the goal? Growth. And the way to achieve a goal: commitment + consistency.Keep setting the goal in the same timeframe until you hit it. Keep assessing and learning each time. EVEN WHEN YOU DO ACHIEVE IT.And join me for Hella Year 2022 to learn all the foundations for growth-focused goals and having your best year yet. No matter what. Hella Year 2022 will happen December 27-31, 2021 in your inbox and on Instagram and you can join: RIGHT HERE.Podcast Episodes Mentioned: 51. Is this the right next step or just a good idea?Ep. 196 of Online Business Building Mamas Podcast with Samantha Siffring: The Power of PlanningWhat's next?:Book a consult with me: right hereSay hello on Instagram: right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

Spoiler alert: There is no right way. There is YOUR way.But also - asking am I doing this right or wrong? Is just not the most useful question to ask.In this episode I explore the useful questions to ask and how to think differently about there being a "right" or a "wrong" way.What's next?:Book a consult with me: right hereSay hello on Instagram: right hereJoin my email list (FREE Time Magic Masterclass + Weekly Reset Guide): right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

Today is a special treat! I sat down with my friend and fellow creative, Nichole Czajkowski. We discuss craft, the distinction of craft and fine art, accessible art, what creativity means to us and to the world, the value of critique, and so much more. This episode is an exploration of all things creativity and craft and will make you think differently about it all. If you want to deepen your own creative exploration and thoughts on creativity and craft - Nichole is for sure your guide.Living in Olympia, WA - raised in the Puget Sound on pop culture and dollar store crafts - Nichole explores an academic career curious about nostalgia, tradition, consumerism, representation, community, and the real & tangible STUFF that connect all of us together.  Follow Nichole's higher-education critical craft journey (and a healthy amount of cat photos) via her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nikkihoyhoy/ Or dive into her visual musings via her Pinterest: https://pin.it/5gwmnb3What's next?:Book a consult with me: right hereSay hello on Instagram: right hereJoin my email list (FREE Time Magic Masterclass + Weekly Reset Guide): right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

We all want to make a good first impression. But how do you do it? I give you a lot of access points in this episode including: how to think about making a good first impression, how to answer "what do you do?" when you have multiple passions or in different settings, and why curiosity is the best way to build connections. Take this episode to heart and you'll never worry about first impressions again!What's next?:Book a consult with me: right hereSay hello on Instagram: right hereJoin my email list (FREE Time Magic Masterclass + Weekly Reset Guide): right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

This week I chatted with Kevin and Emily from @deadbeatfilmsociety - lovely lovely humans - and we chatted all things creativity, finding where it fits in your life, films and podcasting, collaborating - the list goes on.Listen in and get inspired to choose the perfect life path for YOU in your own unique creative way - and then go listen to the Deadbeat Film Society podcast where Emily, Kevin and a guest try to understand one important film per episode in this funny opinionated podcast with new episodes every two weeks!You'll hear me on their podcast - episode 121 - where we discuss the classic 2001 film: Josie and the Pussycats!Listen in on your favorite podcast app now!Find Emily + Kevin here:Subscribe: iTunes / Stitcher / LibsynFollow us: Instagram / TwitterWhat's next?:Book a consult with me: right hereSay hello on instagram: right hereJoin my email list (FREE Time Magic Masterclass + Weekly Reset Guide): right hereMusic:intro and outro music by young go hards: bandcamp heregrab my solo ep + merch, hot tub socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message

my definition of perfect: what is here and now.differentiate that from your preferences, accept the current moment, and overcoming perfectionism will be so much easier.allow yourself to be where you are now while defining what you’d like next = the key to sustainable expansion.book a call with me to take this topic further and dig into your own thoughts about perfectionism and your art💚What's next?:Book a consult with me: right hereSay hello on Instagram: right hereJoin my email list (FREE Time Magic Masterclass + Weekly Reset Guide): right hereMusic:Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp hereGrab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jillifred/message