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This podcast used to be about me being single. Then I met someone (oops). Now my mum and I just talk sh*t for 30 mins.
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Linda tells me about a strange encounter at a dinner party, and I tell her about my even stranger dream. If you want to listen to the Rich Roll episode, here it is: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/jonathan-haidt-on-how-social-media-is-rewiring-childhood/id582272991?i=1000653186945
We will do ANYTHING except sit with ourselves in silence. But surely there are alternatives to meditation that can give us some peace?! Read The Cut article here: https://www.thecut.com/2020/01/giving-up-meditating.html
We are SORRY for the long break between episodes!! Who knows how many of you have persevered... but thank you if you're still here listening. We're back to chat about G-Banger's birthday in Daylesford, my screenwriting course, a recent LinkedIn post about 30 Under 30 lists and my ex-boyfriend's new TV series Sugar.
It's storytime today on the podcast. A few years ago, I decided I wanted to learn how to write. But somehow, this "hobby" turned into a side hustle and all the joy was sucked out of it. Linda also realises her only true hobby has been collecting James Dean posters and postcards... Hmm, that's certainly a hobby I've never heard of, but whatever floats your boat, Linda!
I recently watched the new Netflix show 'Carol & The End of The World' and wanted to do an episode on the show's main themes: life, death and finding meaning. I emailed Linda the episode plan - with the placeholder episode title "Death & Consciousness" - and it was the end of her world. She replied to my email, "Heavy!!" But here we are. The Brian Cox videos: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/b4sSw9MC-zY https://www.youtube.com/shorts/KSgNly0bSug
It's new year, and a new Linda! I've just returned from Thailand where I had a near-death experience (spoiler: it was just a panic attack) and have been thinking a lot about what I want to do better this year. If you like this pod, please rate and review on Apple and Spotify... But for the love of god, please don't unfollow me on Instagram lol. Here's the Ben Affleck video I talked about in the episode: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/LrJPTSCSNwI
I'm joining you today from Lamai Fitness in Thailand to explain why I had the worst birthday ever, and why I think celebrating birthdays is overrated. Naturally, Linda disagrees with me and LOVES her birthday.
This is probably the most requested topic from listeners... and it's finally here!! There's a Thailand trip for EVERYONE in this episode. The spiritual seeker, the adventurer, the party gal... and more! I hope you love Thailand as much as I do x Poo photo link: https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/iaaf4odpl75dctmg0dlpj/PHOTO-2023-12-07-10-44-16.jpg?rlkey=xjfhq1ce6ykc330nztiwxjlem&dl=0 The itineraries below... The spiritual seeker:The Tri Bay @ Koh Phangan, which is made up of Haad Tien, Haad Yu...
As Linda would say, "I'm back bitches!" Here's everything that has happened in the last four months while I've been gone.
Today, Ruby and I discuss the article I Used To Be A Human Being by Andrew Sullivan. You can read the article here: https://nymag.com/intelligencer/2016/09/andrew-sullivan-my-distraction-sickness-and-yours.htmlIt's a CACOPHONY of ideas!Other articles discussed: https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniemcneal/influencers-quitting-instagramhttps://lynzyandco.com/why-i-am-leaving-instagram/
Today, Ruby and I discuss why we prefer The Real World over creating Reels, and why it's been so hard for me to take a break from social media. You can read my Medium article on the same topic here: https://medium.com/the-narrative-arc/i-went-to-thailand-to-take-a-break-from-social-media-816ab0445c74?sk=d908a2ba4236d463eb01f04b47344b22 Single Minded is also having a lil refresh! We hope you like the new format.
"Junk food has taken over our diets, and it is making millions of people physically sick. A growing body of scientific evidence suggests that something similar is happening with our minds — that they have become dominated by junk values, and this is making us mentally sick, triggering soaring rates of depression and anxiety.” - Johann HariOn today's episode, Ruby and I discuss our own junk values and compare these to the values we're striving to live by now. We try to understand why it'...
A lot happened in today's episode! Here's everything you need to know... Let's start with Fran & Will's PERFECT First Dates episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1EFaUUGxh9INext, we have my FAVE new comedian Jessica Kirson's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JessicaKirsonComedyHannah Zaslawski also joined me to chat all about her TikTok dating experiment. Watch her fifty first dates on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hannahzaslawski
Holly is a modern-day matchmaker and the founder of MATCHSMITH. She joins me today to discuss all things dating apps. She helps clients redesign their dating app profiles to get the right matches for them... And for a select number of clients, she actually does the swiping for them! Holly has reviewed many dating app profiles and knows what works and what doesn't... The questions we answer on today's episode: One of your services is a review of someone's current dating app profile: What ...
1According to Harvard's Happiness study: "Close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives." But what makes a romantic relationship stand the test of time? What does the research say? I wanted to find out! Here are the secrets to a happy relationship, according to research. I think these will help ANYONE no matter they're relationship status. Let's call these the ultimate green flags: 1. Someone who shares in your triumphs: https://www.scient...
What happens when you don't want to ghost someone after one or two dates?? Linda and I discuss the best way to let someone down if you're not interested. I'm also joined by career coach Leah Lambart to discuss how personality testing can inform your next career change, and how a "portfolio career" might be the best path to more freedom and flexibility. Leah's website: https://www.relaunchme.com.au/Leah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relaunchmecareerconsulting/
Kate is a Confidence Coach and meditation teacher who helps women build self-belief to find their direction in life. We answer the following questions on today's episode: What is self-compassion? How does someone know if they're being too hard on themselves?How do you cultivate self-compassion? As part of your workshop, you talk about "real" confidence - how would you define this? How does ego differ from real confidence?You talk about confidence being more about "helping you make l...
Ruby is BACK and today we're talking about judgement, including the judgment of others, our own self-judgement and, most importantly, how to live our lives without worrying too much about what others think of us. We answer the following questions:Why are people so judgemental of others?How can we be less critical of others?How can we care less about what other people think of us?How can we live the life we want without worrying too much about how others will perceive us?The Atlantic article i...
I've always wanted to ask Mum how she'd date in the modern world. Would she be on dating apps? Would she pay for the first date? Would she abide by any dating "rules"?When she was single (like, 40 years ago lol), there were no dating apps. There weren't even mobile phones! You couldn't stalk someone's LinkedIn before agreeing to a date. You couldn't even screen their calls. As Mum says, "You just had to make do." Not sure if "making do" is great relationship advice, but there are some (hilari...
Janelle is a listener (and fellow podcaster) who sent in a voice note for the loneliness episode, and I felt like her story deserved a whole episode. Janelle has been single for 10 years and recently decided that becoming a mum was more important than trying to meet someone. So she's going it alone! We discuss her endo & egg-freezing, her IVF journey, how she chose her sperm donor, how she'll take her bins out as a single mama and what she's most excited/scared about. Janelle is also docu...
Ruby and I are back for Part 2 of our friendship episode
If you're a Succession fan, you'll know that a marriage devoid of emotional intimacy can make you feel more isolated than being single (aka Shiv & Tom). That's why close friendships can be so vital in combatting loneliness. Because we all need a Cousin Greg in our lives! But making friends as an adult can be hard. Asking a new friend for a walk or coffee is akin to asking someone out on a date: scary...So, Ruby is back to discuss why friendships are just as important as romantic relations...
For so many years, I was under the (false) impression that getting a boyfriend would solved ALL my problems. I thought that once I got a boyfriend, I would sail away into the sunset and be the happiest girl in the world. Oh boy, was I wrong! My guest today, Rav Randhawa, completely agrees. She's been married, and divorced, and has learnt a lot of lessons along the way. She shares her experience of feeling alone and isolated in a relationship and discusses the lasting effects an unhealthy rela...
I'm joined again today by mental health professional Lachlan Beaton to talk about taking action... whether that's in life, work or dating. Lachlan believes that it's the little actions that are the most important to transforming your life. It's by taking small steps that you can prove to yourself that you are capable of implementing bigger changes. You can find Lachlan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lachlan.beaton/
Shanthi is coming back on the podcast this week to share what happened after she quit her job of 10 years to travel the world. She's now living a digital nomad life carrying all her possessions in a backpack.
I loved to sabotage things during the early stages of dating. I would write people off immediately over tiny little icks. I had walls up. I would pretend I wasn't looking for anything serious. I would try and play the dating "game", but just seemed to always lose. I really wish I'd met today's guest sooner. Dating coach Jiveny Blair-West is joining me today to discuss how we can overcome the blocks and barriers to forming a healthy and happy relationship. Jiveny is the author of the book How ...
A big thank you to all the listeners who sent in their voice notes about their experiences with loneliness. I was blown away by their honesty. This is definitely one of my favourite episodes of all time, and I hope you get as much out of it as I did.
Dr Lurve is back! We luuuurved her last episode so much, we asked her to return to the podcast to answer your most asked questions. She is a love and relationship expert with a treasure trove of practical dating advice. Here's what we chat about on today's episode:Can I still meet someone if I delete my dating apps? How? I've been single long-term and have given up on meeting someone. What can I do to change my mindset? I don't want to give up hope! I don't seem to have a conne...
After she got divorced, Beth made the decision to stay single forever. But life has a funny way of not working out how you think it will. After her divorce, Beth made the decision to donate her eggs. During her last counselling session with the couple she had chosen (which is required during the process), she signed away her DNA. I don't want to give away the whole story, so I'll leave it there!But truly, it's an incredible story of Beth's unconventional path to motherhood. Thanks to th...
MAFS: You either love it or hate it. I LOVE IT. My boyfriend hates it. Can our relationship survive another season? Hopefully! This week, I'm sitting down with Linda (akka mum) to discuss everything I've learnt about dating from Married at First Sight (akka MAFS). It seems that dating icks are really just a defence mechanism to protect ourselves from not getting hurt. Mind. Blown. So the real question is: are you ready to do your own at-home MAFS experiment? Thanks to this week's sponso...
This sums up the social media dilemma for me...I met this week's podcast guest on social media, and since forming a friendship online, we now send voice notes (aka mini podcasts) to each other about how much we hate social media. I never would've connected with Melissa if it wasn't for social media, yet a lot of our conversations are about how social media is negatively affecting our mental health. In one of our voice note convos, Melissa said she'd had the realisation that her mental h...
Today I'm chatting with my friend Lachlan Beaton, a mental health professional who decided to make a series of radical life changes to live the life he always wanted. The journey to where he is now wasn't linear. It didn't all happen at once. It took years and years. And a lot of hard work. His story is so inspiring, and it shows that it's never too late to take a new path. He shows us that you can have a radical change in outlook, and step by step, you can move towards a life that feels more...
2021 was a bad year. I could blame COVID, but that would be a lie. I had been single for a very long time. It had been fun and fancy-free... Until it wasn't anymore. In 2020, I admitted I wanted something more serious... but ALAS... It seemed that everyone on dating apps wanted ethical non-monogamy. I was not going to be on dating apps FOR A DECADE. No way. So, what was a monogamous girl to do??I decided to run away to Thailand. I grieved for the life I'd never have... My frozen eggs would fo...
A very special episode with one of my good friends, Shanthi. Here are the questions we answer in this episode:My sister calls what you did "blowing your life up." You ended your engagement, quit your job & packed up your apartment to go travelling. Why did you decide to make such a drastic life change? What was it like becoming single again after 7 years? How has dating changed? What have been the highs and the lows? I've seen you have a lot of success on dating apps. What do yo...
We don't talk a lot about The Business World on this podcast, but after reading Erika's blog posts about building her brand, I just knew I had to interview her!! Here's an excerpt: "I was involved two businesses/brands that grew quickly and warped my idea of reality when it came to status, wealth, success, and values. 5 years in, I chose to leave a brand that just announced a 100 million dollar valuation, and start again. I too, sometimes wonder if I’m crazy."The questions we answer on ...
IT'S OUR 69TH EPISODE!! So that calls for an episode about s.e.x. Today I'm joined by sex coach Georgia Grace to answer your questions on libido. The questions we answer on this episode: What actually is libido?This was actually a listener-requested episode - someone wrote in and wanted this topic covered: "Guys who have a low sex drive... It's really common." Is it a myth that all men have high libidos? Is it a myth that women have lower libidos?Does your libido go up and down...
I want to tell you a story...A few years ago I discovered a box of my great-great aunt's love letters. They were written by a Danish ship captain. The letters spanned a 13-year period. 13 years!!! Imagine persisting with someone on a dating app for 13 years? You’re lucky if you get a 0.13-second glance.In one letter he wrote: If only you and I could meet there, it would be vonderful.Aren’t love letters just vonderful? Ugh... let's bring them back! So, this episode is all about old-school roma...
Someone recently messaged me saying, "I'm in a complete life rut at 29… single, which I never thought would bother me but I feel very lonely." She asked, "Where’s the real shit?" She said a lot of the content out there is all about finding yourself and loving yourself, but that’s not very practical and it doesn’t really solve the problem. So let's get to the real shit... The questions we answer on today's episode: What is loneliness? What does it feel like?What are the stats on...
Dee Salmin is the host of Triple J's The Hookup podcast, and she recently wrote this article about why hot, successful women aren't getting any matches on dating apps: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-hook-up/why-you-might-not-be-getting-matches/13901508AND SO I HAD TO ASK WHY! So we sat down to get to the bottom of it. You can find Dee on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/dee.salmin
Before we get into this week's episode... WE'RE ON PATREON! We'll be releasing bonus episodes on the Single Minded Private Podcast every fortnight. You can also leave us a very much appreciated tip to help us continue to produce free episodes. Sign up here: https://www.patreon.com/singleminded Someone sent me a message on Insta recently saying that I was glowing... And I said it was because I was "happily unmarried". It caused quite the stir! So this week, I'll be unpacking why I'm so happy b...
If you're over hookup culture and want to build a deeper connection with someone, this is the episode for you! Today I chat with Love & Relationship Expert, Dr Lurve about how to sloooow down with dating so that you can build a connection first. The questions we answer in this episode: What are the pros & cons of modern dating (dating apps in particular)?It seems that dating has become a bit of a numbers game - should we be looking at quality over quantity? What is the ...
I'm joined this week by comedian and podcaster Bianka to chat about the sexual awakening she had when she got sober 3 years ago. We also touch on ethical non-monogamy, sober dating, being lovesick, and embracing those first-date nerves. Bianka's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/biankaismailovski/Bianka's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/damsel-undistressed/id1535867660
I've always wondered how I'll explain my "existential night terrors" to my future life partner. As someone that suffers from death anxiety, I briefly spoke about it on an episode & had an outpouring of DMs from people who feel the same. So I chatted to Dr Rachel Menzies who is a clinical psychologist based in Sydney about how to manage death anxiety. She specialises in treating fears of death, anxiety and depression using CBT. Her website: https://rachelmenzies.com/Her book: https://www.b...
Meeting IRL... A thing of the past? Well not for the listeners who sent in their stories of how they met their partner IRL. Linda and I are summarising all the ways to meet someone IRL, but also some tips for striking up a conversation, without feeling the pressure to be flirty.
This week I am joined by my American friend Malia, who moved to Australia for love. She has one of the best meet-cute stories I've ever heard. As someone that is currently navigating a long distance relationship, this did kinda turn into a personal therapy session for me.YOU'LL ALSO GET AN EXCLUSIVE UPDATE ON THE CANADIAN!
I'm joined by a very special co-host today to talk about ALL THINGS WORK. The questions we're answering are: - Why did you decide to quit your job after lockdowns?- Why did taking a 2 month break from work help refresh you?- Why you've decided to try a career change?- How did you negotiate a 4-day work week?
Just when you thought you'd given up on dating... you go to Thailand and meet a mysterious man. Today, Linda is asking all the tough questions on my holiday romance. We also discuss dating post-pandemic, and why I'd all but given up after YET ANOTHER flakey guy on a dating app.
BUT ARE YOU HAPPY?! Today I'm joined by Lachlan Beaton who simplified his life to find more joy and happiness. He got everything he thought he wanted (big house, big salary, etc) but found himself miserable. Then came the breakdown, or what Brene Brown calls "the awakening". It. Is. Inspiring. The questions we answer on this episode: You sent me a really great quote on Instagram called "Old Happy" - can you explain what this is all about?Do you feel you had an awakening to the whole...
BUT WILL WE?! Today I am joined again by Rav to chat about body image and how dating (and in her case, marriage) has affected the way we feel about our bodies. The questions we answer on this episode: How did you feel about your body growing up?How did the media influence how you felt about your body?How did dating and relationships later influence how you felt about your body?Do you only date when you're at your "goal" weight?What's your relationship like with your body now? How ha...
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Freaking love this podcast! A refreshing and entertaining perspective on modern day dating. love Hannah's energy and sense of humour and love the mother daughter banter between her and Linda! Do yourself a favour and subscribe to this podcast!