The Iron Table

Would you know how to navigate the choppy waters if a family member's private life suddenly became very public on a platform like OnlyFans? Join us at the Iron Table, where Bryant, Keith, Danny, and Steve dissect the entangled web of family dynamics and the digital age's adult content platforms. We're not just talking about the shock and the why; we’re peeling back layers on the societal shifts that are redefining employment, privacy, and the very essence of public versus private lives. Our candid conversation also highlights how some people are turning to unconventional means to pay the bills, from selling feet pics to the gig economy's wilder shores, and what that says about our culture today.This episode is a deep dive into the heart of our communities, assessing the effectiveness of different forms of protest and the role of reparations. We question whether financial compensation can truly address systemic inequalities or if empowering solutions like education and economic strategy are the key to lasting change. As we examine the strategies that unite us and fuel collective action, we also recognize the enduring spirit of resilience and entrepreneurship in the Black community, challenging stereotypes and celebrating the divine qualities inherent in all of us. It's a discussion that spans from the civil rights movement to Colin Kaepernick's knee, highlighting both the power of unity and the necessity of personal accountability.As we wrap up this thought-provoking session, the Iron Table serves you a final course of introspection and a call to action. We stress the importance of improving ourselves first before seeking change externally. Reflecting on historical lessons and the infinite potential of proactive leadership, we leave you with an empowering nudge: disconnect from the digital noise and engage with enriching experiences that could reverberate through your own community. It's about shaping a stronger, united path forward, and it starts with you, our listeners, right here at the Iron Table.

On April 10, 2024, Orenthal James Simpson (OJ) died after dealing with cancer. His achievements in life, Hiesman, NFL, TV, film, all took a backseat as the world watched in horror as be was being charged with the killing of his ex-wife and another man. His slow-speed chase even preempted the NBA Playoffs that year.   I can remember as I sat riveted watching the O.J. Simpson verdict unfold, the collective exhale of a nation grappling with race and justice was palpable. That moment, seared into the American consciousness, serves as the backdrop for our latest discussion at the Iron Table, where my brothers Keith, Danny, and Steve join me to dissect the complex legacy left by Simpson's acquittal. We navigate the tangle of emotions and societal ripples that emerged from a trial that became a watershed moment in our nation's history, with ramifications touching on everything from celebrity culture to the persistent disparities in the justice system.There's an unspoken tension that weaves through the fabric of America, often erupting when we least expect it. This episode goes beyond the surface to examine the deep-seated notions of race and identity that influence our experiences and perceptions. From the courtroom to the streets, we scrutinize the constructs of black and white, considering how these artificial divisions shape our reality. We confront uncomfortable truths — like the circumstances, if any, where violence becomes justifiable — and wrestle with the implications for both men and women caught in the web of domestic unrest.Finally, we turn the lens inward, reflecting on the personal and spiritual dimensions of conflict resolution within relationships. The conversation becomes intimate as we share our own insights on setting boundaries and the power of truth and accountability. It's a candid examination of where faith intersects with personal responsibility, and how the toughest challenges in our relationships can lead to profound growth. Join us for an episode that isn't just about sharing thoughts — it's about igniting a spark for change and understanding in the complex world we navigate together.

When the everyday chaos of fatherhood meets the ironclad bonds of brotherhood, you know you're in for a treat. Join the brothers, minus our beloved Danny, for a heartwarming and occasionally side-splitting romp through the potholes and triumphs of parenting, the costs of daycare that leave us with lighter wallets and heavier hearts, and the quest to maintain our essence within the whirlwind of family life. We're serving up slices of life, and while Danny's absence is felt, his spirit is with us as we share get-well wishes alongside our storied escapades and parenting paradoxes.Have you ever tried to pick a favorite movie from the golden days of your youth? It's like trying to choose your favorite child - impossible, but we give it a shot anyway. We invite you to stroll through the corridors of memory as Keith, Steve, and I debate the merits of cinematic classics and recount the misadventures that can only happen in a movie theater. From Keith's infamous spit-take during "Top Gun" to Steve's unplanned snooze fest, we probe the depths of nostalgia and uncover the magic that keeps us returning to films like "Ghostbusters 2." As our conversation deepens, we venture into the realms of philosophy and theology, grappling with weighty topics like legacy and redemption, and the intricate tapestry of free will versus predestination. We navigate these profound waters with humor and honesty, pondering the questions we'd ask historical figures and the possibility of altering our paths with the foreknowledge of our fates. Wrapping up, we touch on the importance of strengthening marital bonds through spirituality and highlight the value of truth and accountability. So pull up a chair, and let's sharpen each other at the Iron Table, where every exchange is a chance to grow and connect.

Have you ever found yourself yearning for the simpler times when relationships unfolded in the analog world? Together with my brothers Keith, Danny, and Steve, we're pulling up a chair at the iron table to dissect the convoluted ways social media has redefined our connections with one another. From the haunting grip of past relationships that refuse to fade into the digital ether to the voyeuristic habits social media engenders, we're laying it all on the table.This heart-to-heart takes a turn down nostalgia lane, reminiscing the symbols of bygone eras—like the "Hershey stick" emblematic of classroom authority—and the tactile joy of physical media over ephemeral MP3s. But it's not just about waxing nostalgic; we're confronting the less savory aspects of the digital age. The conversation probes into the illusion of friendship social media peddles, the jealousy it stokes, and the concerning new norms around privacy, infidelity, and the search for validation that it seems to have normalized in a way that's reshaping the very fabric of society.And as the night wanes, we're not shying away from the bigger questions that linger in the quiet moments away from the screens. How do we preserve our mental and emotional well-being in an age that demands constant connectivity? We explore the tools and strategies necessary for managing our digital diet, the significance of discernment, and the profound implications these have on the sacred vows of marriage. It's a late-night investment into the heart of our culture and into the essence of what it means to navigate life authentically in the digital era. Join us as we sharpen our insights and fortify our resolve to emerge wiser and more grounded in who we are amid the online tumult.

Have you ever stood at the crossroads of patriotism and cultural identity and wondered where you fit in? That's the heart of our Black History Month episode, where we, Bryant, Keith, Danny, and Steve, gather at the Iron Table to stir up a rich dialogue blend, celebrating black men's resilience and diversity. Anchoring our conversation in personal experiences and the nuances of our identities, we dissect the cultural reverberations of Usher's Super Bowl performance and the complex dance of family life in the pandemic era, infusing our introspection with humor and a deep sense of historical significance.Navigating through the symphony of our nation's anthems, we debate the inclusion of the Black National Anthem at the Super Bowl, pondering its ability to either bridge gaps or widen them. The NFL's attempts at engaging with its Black fan base post-Kaepernick become a canvas for us to paint our thoughts on patriotism's multifaceted challenges. We carry this tune into discussions of systemic inequalities, the bittersweet symphony of civil rights, and the power of collective action. Personal tales open windows to previous generations' struggles as we underscore the vital role of storytelling in shaping the future.As our episode crescendos, we explore the profound influence an individual can wield, likening it to a pebble casting ripples across the fabric of society. The simple act of smiling in public, especially as black men, becomes a provocative yet powerful catalyst for fostering unity as we unravel the significance of this gesture in our closing chapter. We part with a reminder that truth and accountability are not just part of our vocabulary but the foundation of our brotherhood at the Iron Table—where we stand firm in the belief that we, as men, are here to sharpen one another.

Ever caught yourself chuckling over your own botched New Year's resolution? You're in good company at The Iron Table, where we swap tales of resolutions gone awry and the comical trials we endure. Imagine navigating the temptations of Facebook Marketplace or the siren call of pepperoni pizza while trying to stay true to our healthier ambitions. We've been there, and in this episode, we're baring it all - the missteps, the mishaps, and the strategies we've crafted to dodge those all-too-familiar pitfalls. And just when you think it's all about the laughs, we pivot to the serious business of seizing opportunities and health—because, as we've learned, there's no time like the present to keep our bodies and aspirations in tip-top shape.Gift-giving and relationships go hand in hand, yet they can be a minefield of miscommunication and bruised egos. Join us at the table as we dissect the delicate art of expressing gratitude for that... interesting present without causing a domestic struggle. It's about finding the right balance between honesty and tact. But we don't stop there. We dive deeper into the gestures that say "I care," beyond the financial contributions—like those just-because flowers that can earn you some serious relationship brownie points. It's these nuggets of wisdom about love languages and appreciation that could be the game-changer your partnership needs.Finally, we get raw and real with the lasting scars of childhood bullying and how these early experiences can cast long shadows over our adult lives. Are confrontations with past bullies cathartic, or do they simply reopen old wounds? We share our personal encounters and the tough, yet healing discussions that have shaped us. Plus, we look at the power of letting go of grudges, especially when they hinder the harmony in our current relationships. So, join us for an episode that's as much about reflection and growth as it is about camaraderie and chuckles. It's all happening right here, where every voice is heard and every story truly matters.

Who decides how our culture should be? And why is it that wealth has become more important than cultural identity in our society? This is the kind of introspective discussion we, your hosts Bryant, Keith, Danny, and Steve, will have in today's episode. Exploring our personal experiences -  we'll share how these encounters have reshaped our perspectives, leading us to question the societal shift in values and its impact on us all.Imagine living in a world where the media didn't dictate societal norms or create cultural expectations. Sounds surreal, right? We often underestimate the media's power in shaping our perceptions, and that's what we will be dissecting today, inspired by Malcolm X's powerful quote about media manipulation. The objectification of women in the entertainment industry, the pressure to maintain appearances, the ignored talent of artists who don't fit the commercial mold - these are some of the issues we'll be addressing. On a deeper note, we'll analyze the representation of the African-American community in the media, pondering why it allows itself to be misrepresented. Our historical exclusion and the desperate need for money and attention, perhaps?As we move towards the latter part of the discussion, we'll highlight the importance of what we consume, especially in music. Have you ever considered how the devilish influence of music and entertainment subtly shapes our thoughts and actions? It's time we did. And as we wrap up, remember the virtues of truth and accountability are always free and within reach. All it takes is a conscious decision to embrace them. So, sit back, tune in, and remember, sharing it with others is the best way to support our podcast. Welcome to The Iron Table.

In this episode of The Iron Table, we talk about roles within marriage and how it's easy to get into specific roles and gender norms.  A man typically is to provide and protect, but what if the woman is putting herself in harm's way time and time again? Just as a woman is typically the nurturing caregiver, what if her man tends to ignore suggestions and keeps getting sick?We discuss gender norms in relationships and dating. Oh, and we answer whether a man can be the little spoon in bed... 

Recently, a video spread on social media about a woman and a man who ran into a problem on their first date. They approached a restaurant, and the woman felt she was above said restaurant based on her appearance and who she was. The gentleman explained that he had other plans that fell through because of her timeliness in getting ready. This was their first date. This was all over social media, and while it was a fictitious dramatization, this happens a lot. There are two sides to this story: a woman's worth vs. his valuation of that worth. In this episode, we discuss that subject and how first dates have evolved. We have generations behind us who are facing the question of their value and worth to the opposite sex. Here at the Iron Table, we attempt to set things straight. Is there any hope for the teens and young adults for today?

When you think of teams, what comes to mind? We tend to think about sports and how a team comprises more than one individual. Team sports include Tennis, Basketball, Baseball, Football, Soccer, etc.  The common theme is there is more than one person involved. Do teammates always get along all day, every day... No. Do they get on each other's nerves from time-to-time...yes!Yet, throughout the highs and lows, they still are working towards a common goal... winning. Do they always win every game... no. Do they quit on one another... one would hope not. Did you know you and your partner are teammates? Don't you share the common goal of having a thriving relationship? Yet somehow, life throws curve balls, interceptions, and unnatural things to derail that goal. Sometimes it's them, sometimes it's even you.  Yet all teams thrive on respect, and when you've done someone wrong or they've wronged you, what typically comes next is an apology.  But what if you don't get one? Have you wondered why it's so hard to get one? What if it comes differently, and you fail to recognize it?  Does it seem like one sex apologizes more than the other? Does love ever have to say, "I'm Sorry?" If you've had those thoughts, we discuss that and more in this episode!

Today, young boys are bombarded with the media, portraying them as threats as early as the 3rd grade.  Society has shown them few alternatives outside of prison and the grave.  The media has such a hold on them that when someone who cares approaches them with concern, they instantly get aggressive and defensive.  For some, they are doomed from the start.  What is missing?  What is needed to stop the cycle of dysfunction?Men.  Not just any type of man.  What is needed is the intervention of positive male role models who speak the language of men... respect!  There are a lot of young boys out there who have no positive male influence in their life.  I'm not talking about the absence of men, for they may have uncles and neighborhood men around, but are these men of good standing character?A mother can only do so much and take a young boy so far on the road to manhood.  She needs help.  She needs quality men who only aim to see young boys thrive and survive in this environment. As men of high moral standards, we need to step up and step in the  gap.In this episode, I bring two brothers to The Iron Table, who share their stories and how some influential men poured into them and helped shape them into the men they are today.

Why is it that when a person of color makes a mistake, it's like we all made it? When we take one step forward and are "Almost There," something happens, and we are back at the starting line. Why is it that other groups who do that don't get ridiculed or scrutinized like us?The previous week there was an incident where some claimed to have been abducted and were missing for a couple of days, only to return, and so many questions were left unanswered. In this episode, we discuss that incident and how it correlates to relationship honesty and support.

This is an Iron Table Short, a nugget of truth for everyday use. Dating has changed from the days of drive-in movies, walks in the park, skating, and going to a house party. The activities have morphed into expensive meals costing $50 a plate, concert tickets, and lavish activities. Often, men have to do this on the first date! Yet what does it get you? Men are now diminishing themselves and their value outside of their bank accounts. They are going deep into credit debt for what? This episode highlights the evolution of dating and the pitfalls well-intentioned men face in trying to play that game. Interesting fact Sublimotion is the most expensive restaurant in the world. 

Fighting. We've all fought or seen a fight at school, on the playground, and, unfortunately, sometimes at home. Usually, fights are the result of miscommunication. It would be nice if fights were only on TV; however, that is not life.Miscommunication has its roots. It goes back further than your relationship, your parent's relationship, and your parents-parents' relationship. In this brief episode, the origins of miscommunications are revealed. Just know THIS fight isn't about YOU, yet we all are watching it unfold and will be the winner's prize.This is an Iron Table Short. A Nugget of truth for everyday use!

Recently, I started to look into the option of going solar for energy use. There are a lot of benefits to going solar, the effects on the environment, potential utility savings, etc. There are also negatives to going solar. It may not be for everyone. In doing the research, sitting through presentations, and going through the facts and figures, I realized that there was a life lesson learned in the phases of going through the process. This is an Iron Table Short, a five to fifteen-minute podcast providing relevant lessons from seemingly unrelated stories.

The great Scottish Poet Robert Burns once said, "The best-laid plans of mice and men sometimes go awry." So did one of our frequent guests of The Iron Table. In this episode, Bryant & Keith try to cheer up their friend Danny, who is stuck at the airport (he flew Spirit), with a random conversation about Top 5s. Will their tactics work? Will Danny "eventually" get to his destination? For those answers and more, tune in!

When was the last time you heard or felt that you were enough? Do you think that your value is only in what you offer? Do you have a community that pours into you? Do you have someone that is pulling for you? Do you have someone that is pushing you in the right direction? It's hard sometimes to feel that you are worthy of love, that you deserve someone's love. It's easy to think that your only value is determined by how others see you. Well, that's not the case. This episode discusses if it is crucial to be acknowledged by your peers. Also, we try to answer the question, "Do men really need to be told they are enough?"

We've come to the last episode of 2022. It's been an incredible year. We are grateful that you have stood with us for two years. This episode brings to the table two women who have stood by our sides and supported this venture. It's interesting who this is Season 2, Episode 14. 2/14, or February 14th, is recognized as Valentine's Day, the day the world recognizes love. However, we wanted to end the year on this very topic - "Black Love." They have challenged, supported, believed in, and loved us. Without these two, where would we be? This episode is about us acknowledging them, and our listeners see just who these phenomenal women are. This is about Black Love!

A friend once told me that back in the day, boys were told to avoid two things: Girls and Guns. We weren't told why and now look at society. Men are running around with a lack of information on girls, and they are running around with little to no information on guns. We are left to fend for ourselves from the types of firearms, ways to obtain guns, gun safety, and local laws legally. How good has that job been? The media has saturated our community with wrong depictions of African Americans owning guns. Misinformation has been passed down simply because we don't know how to ask questions. This is an episode I have wanted to do for months. In this episode, I bring brothers in my community who are well-versed in firearms to the table. Their training, profession, ownership, and historical knowledge lead to their credibility.  Here at the Iron Table, we are about establishing a community whose foundation is built on truth and knowledge. We need to talk about guns!

"Cancel Culture," as defined by Merriam-Webster, is the practice or tendency of engaging in mass canceling to express disapproval and exert social pressure.Cancel Culture first hit the mainstream in the late 2010s, becoming the norm in the early 2020s. It happens when a person states an opinion or viewpoint that goes against the norm. It may even offend a group that uses its influence to reduce the person's influence, finances, and popularity. Yet why is there even a cancel culture? Doesn't the 1st Amendment (Freedom of Speech) protect us against being "canceled"? Are we really in threat of being canceled or suffering the consequences of our freedoms when they conflict with someone else's belief system? We discuss this controversial topic in this episode!