The Self Help Antidote

In this enlightening episode, I have a chat with my old friend and colleague, John Sinclair about one of the most powerful, yet under appreciated aspects of success and fulfillment, movement.  John is a renowned expert in movement as medicine, leveraging his diverse background as an educator, coach, athletic trainer, medical exercise specialist, and applied functional scientist to create unique health and performance programs. He has worked globally as a consultant for professional sports teams, governments, and companies like ViPR Pro, Zumba, and Nike, and served as a Health and Performance consultant for the California State Guard. As a sought-after expert in the health and fitness industries, John directs programming at The Institute of Motion and has developed comprehensive personal training and performance specialist certifications. Residing in Sunrise, Florida, with his wife and labradoodle, he enjoys golf, tennis, weightlifting, and various other fitness activities in his personal training studio.Our discussion unfolds the layers of today's fitness landscape, marked by the paradox of being increasingly time-poor and stressed, yet flooded with conflicting information about the "right" paths to health.We explore the intriguing concept of micro-dosing movement, a revolutionary application designed for those struggling with consistent exercise routines. This method, akin to programming for a sport, aims to prepare individuals for their daily activities through small, manageable doses of movement, leading to significant health outcomes. This approach is beautifully encapsulated in the book “7 Movements to Keep You Healthy and Pain-Free in the Office,” by Dan Tatton and John Sinclair, which emphasizes the power of micro movements in supporting overall health.Our conversation delves into the challenges many face in starting their fitness journey, overwhelmed by where to begin. We discuss strategies and tools developed in collaboration with esteemed researchers like Dr. Martin Gibala, author of “The One-Minute Workout,” and Dr. Jonathan Little, highlighting the tailored needs of individuals with conditions such as Parkinson’s, Type 2 diabetes, and cancer. Remarkably, adherence to micro-dosing movement boasts a 94 percent success rate, underscoring the transformative impact of engaging in small, enjoyable doses of activity.We unravel the psychology behind exercise adherence, emphasizing the role of successful participation in boosting confidence and shaping identity. This episode challenges conventional wisdom about motivation, accountability, and the physiological expectations from exercise, advocating for a personalized approach to fitness that recognizes the uniqueness of each individual.The conversation shifts to the importance of getting started, the influence of expectations on long-term motivation, and the significance of aligning exercise with personal values and visions for the future. We highlight the critical relationship between efficacy and behavior, and the role of sensory input in enhancing motor control and engagement in cherished activities.Forbes magazine, in their audit of the model, rated the programming on micro-dosing movement with the highest acclaim. This episode is not just about the mechanics of movement but the profound impact of purposeful activity on our lives.Join us as we connect John and explore the wealth of resources available at www.sevenmovements.com, embarking on a journey to redefine what it means to live a healthy, engaged life through the lens of micro-dosing movement.  Visit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Welcome, to a special episode of The Self Help Antidote, where we take you behind the velvet curtain of the most enchanting, bewildering show on Earth—the 'Problem-Reaction-Solution' spectacle. Imagine, if you will, a stage where the problems are as abundant as the stars, reactions are the currency, and solutions? Well, they're the magic trick everyone's waiting to see. But in this episode, we're not just spectators; we're going backstage to uncover the secrets of the world's worst magic trick.Act One: The Setup - The Great Problem PrestidigitationWe kick things off with a dive into the art of problem manufacturing. Picture a magician, suave and confident, pulling problems out of a hat like rabbits—but these rabbits are a little different. They're custom-bred to startle, to alarm, to create the perfect storm of panic. We explore how issues, some as thin as air, are inflated into balloons of dread, ready to be popped by the pointed needle of public outcry.Act Two: The Turn - Mass Hysteria ChoreographyNext, we waltz into the reaction phase, where the audience's gasp is part of the performance. It's a dance of distress, expertly choreographed to the tune of sensational headlines and viral videos. Imagine the collective heartbeat of the crowd, racing, as they're led to believe the stage is set for catastrophe. We dissect how reactions are amplified, echoing through the grand hall of our global theater, until the call for a hero becomes the chorus of our shared song.Act Three: The Prestige - The Grand Solution RevealAnd then, the moment we've all been waiting for: the solution. Like a magician revealing the secret compartment, solutions appear with a flourish, seemingly perfect, pristine, and precisely what the audience craves. But who does this grand reveal truly benefit? We peel back the curtain on the solution's sleight of hand, questioning who's pulling the strings and who's paying for the magic wand.Intermission: A Lesson in Illusion DetectionMidway through our show, we'll teach you how to spot the illusion before the magician even takes the stage. We'll equip you with the tools to question the narrative, to see beyond the smoke and mirrors, and to recognize when the problem is part of the act, the reaction is scripted, and the solution is anything but magical.Encore: Breaking the SpellOur grand finale isn't just about unveiling the trickery; it's about empowering you, the audience, to become the magicians of your own lives. We'll share strategies for critical thinking, for questioning the narrative, and for finding genuine solutions in a world that too often prefers the illusion of action to the hard work of real change.So, step right up to the grandest show of them all, where we're not just audience members but active participants in unraveling the grand illusion. It's time to take your seat, dim the lights, and prepare to be amazed—not by the trick, but by the truth behind it. Welcome to the 'Problem-Reaction-Solution' show, where the only thing you're competing for is the chance to not lose your mind, and perhaps, take back your autonomy.  EnjoyVisit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

In this captivating episode of the Self Help Antidote, we're thrilled to welcome Dr. Jon Marion, a distinguished expert with a PhD in psychological anthropology, a former instructor at the Somatic School in London, and a past chapter president of the International Coach Federation (ICF). Dr. Marion brings his profound insights into the complex interplay between individual growth, societal progress, and the essence of thriving in an ever-evolving world.Diving deep into the heart of what it means to truly progress and come together as a society, Dr. Marion challenges the conventional wisdom that cohesiveness and progress are always aligned. Through his unique lens, we explore the nuanced differences between forced unity and organic cohesiveness, shedding light on the intricate dance between being part of a society and finding personal fulfillment.At the core of our discussion is the concept of thriving—both for individuals and societies. Dr. Marion illuminates the distinction between mere societal membership and the deeper, more fulfilling notion of thriving, where structures support individuals to exceed their solitary potentials. He introduces us to the idea that we are not just biological beings but biocultural organisms, reliant on the transmission of ideas, knowledge, and technologies for our evolution.This episode takes you on a journey through the realms of biological and cultural evolution, highlighting the rapid pace of change in our societies and the critical importance of adaptability and generalized skills for thriving. Dr. Marion advocates for becoming specialists in learning and continually updating our "operating systems" to navigate the complexities of modern life.We delve into the essential roles of management and leadership, the unique value of coaching in fostering leadership and learning, and how coaches partner with individuals to illuminate their paths, allowing them to discover and decide their direction. Dr. Marion emphasizes that each individual is the expert of their own life, fully capable and intelligent, with coaches providing objective distance to explore new possibilities.Furthermore, Dr. Marion shares his insights on what effective leadership entails, the dangers of narrow-minded leadership perspectives, and the cognitive processes that lead people to make decisions even against evidence. He offers practical advice on staying connected to one's purpose and intentions during chaotic times through mindfulness and simple practices that anchor us to our desired selves in the present moment.Prepare to be inspired and challenged as Dr. Jon Marion guides us through the scariest, most destructive perspectives of a leader, the power of adaptability, and the practices that can ground us in who we aspire to be. This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for anyone seeking to navigate the complexities of modern life with grace, purpose, and a deep sense of fulfillment.Visit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Alright, here we go, strap in!  She's back!  This episode, me and Tiffanee Cook, we're going headfirst, I mean, like diving into a pool with no water, into some seriously personal stuff. You know, the kind that makes you go, "Whoa, this is a big issue, what am I doing here?" Lately I've been going through life busier than a one legged river dancer, and it's about time I started looking at what I need. Sound familiar?  Anyone? And Tiff, we're in the middle of a conversation, and she just slams this question on the table like a steak at a vegan party - how the heck do you keep giving to others without completely losing yourself, and maybe your mind in the process? Where's that line where you're being generous versus self-abandonment?Then we get into this minefield called trust, especially with the people you're supposed to be close to. Tiff's got her take on throwing trust around like it's confetti, and let me tell you, it's not just about trusting other people. It's about trusting yourself, which, let's be honest, can be harder than finding a parking spot in New York City. And don't even get me started on self-forgiveness and owning up to your mess-ups. That hit me harder than a hangover on New Year's Day.But hey, it wasn't all heavy. We talked about the magic of just being in the moment, you know, smelling the roses, or whatever flower you're into. It's about noticing the little things that make life less of a dumpster fire. This chat with Tiff, it's like those little reminders life gives you that it's all about how your perspective and values shape the journey, it's about deciding who you are, and maybe, just maybe, enjoying the ride a bit.Enjoy! Visit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

In this thought-provoking episode of "The Self Help Antidote," we delve into the contentious and complex debate over human free will. We explore the philosophical underpinnings of free will, as traditionally espoused by thinkers like Descartes, contrasted with the revelations of modern neuroscience.Special guest, Clinical Neuropsychologist Roy Sugarman, author of  “Saving Your Life, One Day at a Time” and “Client Centered Training”, offers his insights into how our brains are wired, discussing the ongoing battle between our limbic system and what he terms the 'janitorial' parts of our brain. This intricate dance between the fast, often inaccurate instincts and our slower, more deliberate thought processes illuminates the nuances of our decision-making processes.The episode then turns to the fascinating interplay of emotions and thinking, examining how some people appear to exert greater free will, while others seem more constrained. We use the example of Oskar Schindler to illustrate how individuals navigate complex moral and ethical landscapes.Further, we investigate the influence of hormones and stress on our propensity to believe in conspiracy theories, and how our ancestry and prenatal hormone exposure might shape our behavior. We probe into why we're so vested in others' actions and the pervasive market for misinformation, highlighting the human tendency to hold beliefs without understanding their origins. This leads to a discussion on cognitive biases and psychological inflexibility, underscoring the importance of education in fostering psychological flexibility and self-reflection.  In a more introspective segment, we explore the value of doing the difficult yet right things, the art of self-forgiveness, and the significance of auditing our values. We examine intriguing cases such as kindness induced by an anterior pituitary tumor and the role of testosterone in altruism.Finally, we tackle the big questions: Is truth subjective? How can we reconcile cognitive biases? We explore theories like motivational interviewing, reactance theory, relational frame theory, and self-determination, concluding with the organizing principle of the brain's search for autonomy and efficacy, and how this relates to our values and identity. This episode is a deep dive into the irony of free will, offering listeners a multifaceted perspective on one of humanity's most enduring questions. Join us as we unravel the complex tapestry of free will, neuroscience, and the human psyche.Dr. Roy Sugarman is a cofounder of Transhuman Inc, a mental health prevention and intervention AI technology company operating in 87 countries holding international patents on the capture of human emotion. He is a founder and Head Neuroscientist for education technology company BoxPlay in the UK bridging intelligence and emotions via communication expertise. He is a sought-after keynote speaker both locally and internationally.Thank you,EnjoyVisit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

In this insightful episode, I'm honored to have an extraordinary guest, my wife, Aimiende Negbenebor Sela, an award-winning filmmaker known for her deep and poignant storytellingTogether, we explore something that people seem to be experiencing more and more, emotional exhaustion, a phenomenon that often leaves us drained and devoid of energy. Often described as feeling “spent.” We have been through enormous changes and challenges in the past 6 months.  And believe me, WE feel it.  And from the conversations we’ve been having, and the requests I’m increasingly getting, we think that at times, you might be feeling it too.  We delve into recognizing the subtle yet significant signs of burnout and the importance of acknowledging big life changes. Aimiende shares her personal experiences and insights on the criticality of self-awareness, especially in moments when you feel you have nothing left to give.This episode is not just about identifying the problems but also about finding practical and effective solutions. We discuss the transformative power of movement and yoga in altering our emotional and physical state, reducing stress, and rekindling our inner vitality. Aimiende and I talk about the importance of being patient with oneself and the magic of starting small. By mastering small tasks, we can initiate a domino effect leading to substantial changes in self-perception and overall well-being.Whether you're experiencing a phase of emotional exhaustion or seeking ways to prevent it, this episode is a treasure trove of wisdom. It's about understanding that self-mastery is a journey, not a destination, and that every step, no matter how small, counts. Join us in this enlightening conversation and take a step towards reclaiming your emotional strength and resilience.Visit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Welcome back to the first episode of the year, with Alan Questel.  Alan is a renown Feldenkrais practitioner, teacher and author.  I found my conversation with him to be both enjoyable and deeply fascinating.  I loved where the conversation went.  Alan’s wisdom, authenticity and generosity added so much value to this episode.  In the beginning of our conversation we delved into a myriad of thought-provoking topics inspired by Charles Bukowski's assertion that we often fail to be good to one another. We explored the environmental factors contributing to this phenomenon and how our self-image, deeply intertwined with our self-regard, plays a crucial role. An intriguing discussion began to unfold around the transformative power of physical movement and its impact on our self-perception, emphasizing the importance of moving in ways that resonate positively with us.We then navigate the paradox of finding it easier to extend kindness to others than to ourselves, underscoring the value of small acts of kindness in enhancing how we feel about ourselves. The conversation shifts to practical steps one can take to aid others and how these actions can catalyze personal growth. We dissect the notion that kindness often starts with small gestures and reflect on the ways we are already kind in our daily lives.Further, we examine how movement influences our thoughts and feelings, with a focus on its fundamental role in all our actions. The episode highlights the contrasting perspectives of observers and doers, proposing that kindness is born from action, which is inherently linked to movement.We then shifted the conversation to focus on the things we excel at in our daily routines and how mastering small tasks provides the confidence to tackle larger challenges. The discussion moves to the timeframe required for change, the significance of being present in the moment, and the positive impact of reducing self-criticism.The episode also offers insights into moments of self-reflection, strategies for evolving into the person we aspire to be in a year, and the potential within us. We delve into the pitfalls of the comparing mind, the tension between reality and expectations, and the quest for purpose.In another highly interesting shift, we explore Milton Erickson's work on Ericksonian Hypnosis, its implications on depression and perceived lack of choice, and the actions that can lead to meaningful change. We discuss demonstrations of agency, engagement, performance, and the innovative approach of learning differently.The conversation takes a deeper turn into understanding the context of 'no context', the issues with the 'just do it' mentality, and the art of tolerating discomfort. We examine the impact of false beliefs and how stress can surprisingly offer benefits. This leads to a discussion on the misconception of overnight success and the reality of success being decades in the making.The episode wraps up with an encouragement to give a bit more in everything we do, introducing our listeners to Alan Questel's insightful work. We highlight his website www.practicing-kindness.com and his book “Practice Intentional Acts of Kindness,” which provide valuable resources for those looking to delve deeper into these themes.This episode is a rich tapestry of ideas and insights, inviting listeners to reflect, move, and grow in kindness towards themselves and others. It's a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the intricate relationship between our actions, our self-image, and the kindness we extend to the world.Thank you for listening, enjoy! Visit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

This was such a fascinating conversation.  I had a chance to speak with the authors of the book "Necessary Death", Chris Gross and Preston Fassel.  These guys take a truly unique approach to growth, resilience,  healing and transformation.  "Necessary Death" is a compelling and thought-provoking work.  This book skillfully intertwines elements of psychological horror with deep philosophical inquiries. Set against a backdrop that blurs the lines between reality and the supernatural, "Necessary Death" explores the themes of mortality, fear, and the human psyche's resilience. The narrative follows a gripping journey that forces the characters, and consequently the readers, to confront the inevitabilities of life and death, posing profound questions about what it means to truly live and face one's deepest fears. With its rich character arcs and suspenseful plot, "Necessary Death" is a masterful contribution to the horror genre, offering a unique and introspective look at the existential dilemmas that haunt us all.In this thought-provoking episode, we delve into the depths of horror and self-discovery with Chris Gross and Preston Fassel, authors of "Necessary Death". Our conversation traverses the eerie and enlightening paths of horror films, exploring how they mirror our inner selves and aid in our mental health.We discuss the unique freedom of the horror genre, where the absence of limits allows for an exploration of boundless ideas. Drawing parallels to social cognitive theory, particularly Albert Bandura's work on overcoming phobias through vicarious experiences, we examine how horror films enable us to confront and process our fears safely.Our dialogue touches on the therapeutic aspect of horror, likening the genre to a journey of self-actualization. We explore how facing metaphorical monsters in films teaches us about resilience and overcoming life's challenges, reflecting on the hero’s journey and the confrontation with our shadow selves.The episode further delves into the concepts of grace and grit as presented by Ken Wilber, and how horror films often mirror this duality. We highlight the transformative power of horror, where the audience, initially drawn in by the monster, stays to witness the hero's journey, often finding parallels to their own life challenges."Necessary Death" is discussed in the context of personal transformation and human coping skills, emphasizing how horror films can be a tool for self-discovery. We also explore the importance of mindfulness and balance between heart and mind, and the role of perception in shaping our understanding of horror narratives.The conversation shifts to the societal implications of the fusion of sex and violence in media, referencing the Joker as a commentary on mental wellness decline. We touch upon Charles Bukowski's profound insight into the pursuit of goals, and how horror sequels often demonstrate the impact of personal growth on others.Join us in this intriguing episode as we uncover the hidden lessons in horror films and how they can be a conduit for personal growth, healing, and understanding the complexities of the human psyche.Visit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

In this episode, we (my lovely wife Aimi and I) dive into the invaluable insights I've gained from the most inspiring leaders I've had the privilege to work under. These lessons aren't just theories; they're tried-and-true practices that have propelled teams and organizations to success. Belief in Others Every great boss I've known had an unwavering belief in their team. They saw potential where others didn't and invested in their people's growth. This belief wasn't just motivational; it translated into real trust and empowerment.Focus Focus is the compass that guides a leader through distractions and challenges. The best bosses demonstrate an extraordinary ability to concentrate on what truly matters, setting a clear path for their teams to follow. Communicating a Powerful Vision A compelling vision can move mountains. The leaders who left a lasting impact on me were those who communicated their vision with passion and clarity, making every team member feel a part of something bigger.Team Unity Unity is strength, and you're only as good as your team. Exceptional leaders foster a sense of belonging and collaboration, creating an environment where every voice is heard and valued, and where teamwork is the cornerstone of success.Clarity of Purpose Knowing the 'why' behind the 'what' is crucial. The most effective bosses articulate a clear purpose, aligning their team's efforts with the broader goals of the organization.Strategy Strategy is the roadmap to success. The best leaders I've worked with had a knack for developing and adapting strategies that were not only brilliant but also achievable, bridging the gap between vision and execution.Resilience Finally, resilience. The ability to weather storms and emerge stronger is a hallmark of great leadership. Resilience takes grit and perseverance.  But it also takes compassion with yourself and others, patience and the ability to create an environment that allows for renewal, just as it does engagement.  These bosses showed me that perseverance in the face of adversity isn't just about surviving; it's about thriving.Join me as I share stories and insights from my journey, and how these seven leadership lessons have shaped my approach to both professional and personal challenges. Whether you're a budding leader or a seasoned executive, there's something in this episode for everyone looking to enhance their leadership skills.EnjoyVisit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

In this enlightening episode, we dive deep into the heart of authentic leadership with our guest, Chris Meroff. Chris wrote the book on authentic leadership.  That's not a metaphor, his next book is literally titled "Discovering the Heart of Authentic Leadership."Chris is also a USA Today and Wall Street Journal bestselling author of his first book,  Align: Four Simple Steps for Leaders to Create Employee Fulfillment. He wrote this book in 2019 to share with leaders the four simple steps that will transform the way you lead, renew your self-confidence and spark change. Align offers leaders to develop the courage to connect with their team in a meaningful way and start winning together. This led him to write his second book The Empathy Revolution: Practical Wisdom to Combat Organizational and Social Loneliness, where Chris shares his philosophy in a practical guide on why the current model of leadership isn’t working. He addresses that in order to retain employee talent and engagement, employees must grasp the vision and align with the values laid out from the top down. Chris Meroff is a founder, author and serial entrepreneur with a passion for helping business professionals find fulfillment in their work through sustainable success.We begin by exploring the true meaning of authenticity in leadership, understanding it as a relentless pursuit of truth and building relationships based on that truth. Chris shares insights on how to live by this truth, celebrating differences and worldviews without compromising values.We then tackle the often tricky balance between a company's verbal advocacy for truth and its actual practices. Chris offers his perspective on maintaining tenacious goal achievement while staying true to one's values, and the limitations of a single individual's worldview; especially if that individual is the leader.  A significant part of our discussion focuses on defining oneself through a willingness to learn. We delve into common issues in workplace dynamics, such as the reasons behind disliking a boss, the breakdown of practices like diversity and respect, and the impact of bringing one’s authentic self to work.Chris then guides us through the concept of the visionary leader. He elaborates on the balance between delivering a visionary message and managing the uncertainty it can create, emphasizing the importance of ownership and the need to slow down for effective vision casting.The conversation takes a turn towards emotional intelligence with the 'empathy revolution'. Chris debunks myths about empathy and vulnerability, encouraging leaders to embrace these qualities. He emphasizes that our response to others is a reflection of how we show up, and changing our perception of others can transform our leadership style.Join us in this compelling episode as we explore the multifaceted aspects of authentic leadership with Chris Meroff, and uncover the steps to become a visionary leader who champions truth, empathy, and authenticity.To learn more about Chris visit:www.chrismeroff.com Enjoy! Visit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

In this candid and highly insightful episode, my guest Trevor Justice and I dive deep into how we can shift our patterns in relationships, focusing on essential themes that foster healthier and more fulfilling connections:Love and Acceptance: Embrace who you are and attract those who appreciate the real you.Non-Judgment: Learn the art of open-mindedness in relationships.Respect: Understand its role as the foundation of every healthy relationship.Not Fixing Your Partner: Why accepting your partner as they are is crucial.Talk from Feelings, Not Criticisms: Foster a more empathetic communication style.Trust: Building and maintaining trust as a key component of any relationship.Listening: The power of active listening in strengthening connections.Empathetic Reflection: Reflecting feelings to deepen understanding and empathy.Letting Go of the Need to Be Right: Choosing kindness over being right.Expressing Needs You've Been Afraid to Express: The importance of honest communication.Setting Boundaries: How boundaries contribute to healthy relationships.Respecting Yourself: The impact of self-respect on how others treat you.Not Making Assumptions: The value of clear and open communication.Why We Attract the People We Attract: Understanding our subconscious influences.Not All Exes Are Narcissists: Learning from past relationships without negative labeling.Shadow Beliefs: Uncovering and confronting hidden beliefs.How You Really Feel About Yourself: Self-perception and its role in relationships.Demonstrating Self-Respect in Moments of Truth: Upholding your values under pressure.What Do You Blame Yourself For?: Overcoming self-blame to break negative patterns.This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to improve their relationship dynamics, understand themselves better, and create a life filled with genuine love and respect. Trevor's expertise shines through as he guides us on a journey of self-discovery and relationship enhancement.Trevor Justice is a renowned author and relationship expert, best known for his transformative book, "Attract Love and Respect." With a background in psychology and years of experience as a relationship coach, Justice has dedicated his career to helping individuals improve their personal and romantic relationships. His approach blends practical advice, psychological insights, and compassionate understanding, making him a trusted figure in the field of relationship guidance. His work, particularly in "Attract Love and Respect," has been praised for its ability to empower individuals to foster healthier, more respectful, and loving relationships. Justice's contributions extend beyond his writings, as he frequently conducts workshops and seminars, sharing his expertise with a wider audience eager to learn and grow in their personal lives.For more information about Trevor Justice visit:https://attractloveandrespect.com/ For a free gift from Trevor visit:www.Attractlovegift.comChange Who you Attract and How You’re TreatedEnjoyVisit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

My guest today, Aimiende Negbenebor Sela is an award winning film maker with over 15 awards to her credit, including a recent Oscar qualifier.  She is also my wife.  So this is in no way a biased interview ;)Join us for this episode "Failing Forward," where we dive into the paradoxical power of getting it wrong to get it right. Each episode serves up a candid blend of stories, science, and unexpected humor, revealing why the most successful people often have a closet full of failure’s finest. From the famous flops that paved the way for phenomenal comebacks, to the daily duds that teach us more than any triumph could, we explore how every 'oops' is an opportunity, and every setback is a set-up for a greater comeback.In a world obsessed with the highlight reels of success, we get real about the bloopers and blunders that fuel genuine growth. So tune in, lean into the flubs, and let's get inspired to fail fantastically - because when you're not afraid to fail, you're free to succeed. Get ready to laugh, learn, and flip the script on failure with us. Because here, the true 'F' word (granted not the only one) is Fear, and we're all about navigating through it. Welcome to "Failing Forward"—where the only way out is through, and the only way up is by occasionally going down.EnjoyVisit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

In this week's episode, Tiff and I take a nuanced journey through the labyrinth of human emotions. We celebrate the uplifting power of positivity, recognizing its incredible potential to foster resilience, creativity, and warmth. But as we traverse this path, we also explore positivity’s shadow: toxic positivity. We aim to dissect the fine line between genuine empathy and the perils of invalidating genuine emotions in the name of forced cheer. Let’s dive deep into this captivating discussion, and emerge with a fresh perspective on the balance between authentic understanding and superficial, weaponized positivity. So settle in and enjoy the episode as we dissect the paradox of positivity.Visit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Welcome back to 'The Self Help Antidote,' where we indulge in our favorite pastime – engaging in profound conversations about life's intricacies. Join us as we embark on another journey into the depths of existence, touching upon themes like meaning, manifestation, identity, the irony of Bobby not knowing the meaning of the word pontificate, and the ever-elusive certainty we chase.In this episode, we navigate the maze of human existence, pondering the essence of what truly makes us 'tick' or, in some instances, 'not tick' in life. Through candid discussions and introspective musings, we explore the mysterious and often perplexing aspects of our journey on this spinning blue planet.So, grab your metaphorical compass and join us for an episode that promises to provoke thought, stir emotion, and perhaps even bring a touch of enlightenment to your day. Because, in the end, it's all about finding meaning, and thriving in the beautiful chaos of life. Enjoy!Visit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Journey with us as we unravel the ancient magic of storytelling! From the tales we grew up with to the narratives we tell ourselves, discover how stories shape our reality, beliefs, and destiny. Dive into cognitive restructuring, learn from the hero's journey, and explore the therapeutic process of re-authoring. Whether you're looking to understand the influence of the tales you consume or seeking to rewrite your personal story, this episode is your guide. Enjoy!Visit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Dive deep into the labyrinth of self in this illuminating episode as we venture to the darkest corners of our psyche and learn the importance of accepting every part of ourselves. Drawing inspiration from Joseph Campbell's iconic "hero's journey," we explore the profound challenges and ultimate triumphs one encounters when pursuing inner transformation. Just like I discovered the profound challenges of battling insomnia, while drawing meaningful insights out of the Star Wars series Ahsoka at 2:00am in the morning.  Which is how I got the idea for Tiff and I’s discussion for this episode actually.  But I digress.  Anyway, we will take a confronting look through the lens of Carl Jung's revolutionary work on the shadow self, uncovering the pivotal role of self-acceptance in the healing and transformative process.But the journey doesn't end there. While willpower can be the driving forcepropelling us forward, there are moments when it's essential to pause,surrender, and simply be in gratitude. How do we find the delicate balancebetween pushing ahead and yielding in acceptance? Join us as we delve intothese existential questions, offering insights, anecdotes, absurd commentary, and practical tools for those eager to embark on their personal odyssey to wholeness and the discovery of our authentic selves.   Enjoy Visit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

In the labyrinth of human psyche, self-sabotage lurks, causing us to question: Why do we hinder ourselves? In this episode, Tiff and I delve into the profound dance of self-defeat. We ponder why, even with the best intentions, we sometimes act counter to our own desires. But fear not, for we also traverse the avenues to overcome these self-inflicted obstacles. Together, we unravel the enigma of what truly constitutes self-sabotage and posit the provocative questions that beckon introspection.Visit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

The heady blend of little rest, ceaseless travel, and the ever-mounting weight of high expectations, all while dancing on the edge of sleep deprivation. Yes, we find ourselves enveloped in what I would call an exquisite storm of life's pressures. But fear not, dear listener. Today, we delve into the art of navigating these tumultuous seas. We explore the tactical decisions one can make to maintain not just sanity, but our sense of agency.  All with an elegant composure, on the outside anyway. This is not merely a conversation; consider it a toolkit for ensuring that a period of heightened stress does not become your default setting. Prepare yourself for an invigorating exchange of ideas. Shall we?Enjoy!Visit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Join us in this entertaining and enlightening episode as I do a deep dive with Alfie Noakes, a multifaceted maestro with over a decade of experience in TV production. From climbing the ladders as a runner to wearing the hat of a series producer, Alfie's journey is nothing short of inspiring. He's taken mere concepts and turned them into captivating realities, crafting tales from both the realm of TV and the world of stand-up comedy.In this episode, we uncover:The challenging yet exciting transition from Alfie's first-ever open-mic night to mentoring some of the country's best comedic talents.How the first gig is less about success and more about simply stepping up to the plate.Our unique take on imposter syndrome and how when kept in perspective, it can be harnessed for growth.Deep dives into the hard lessons of comedy and how they mirror life's most challenging moments.The true essence of comedy - the blend of truth, reflection, and one's individual perspective on the world.The universality of skills like rapport-building and being entertaining.A riveting exploration of public speaking tactics, understanding audience dynamics, and the art of "beat changes."And a bold call to action: Why everyone, irrespective of their personality type or background, should give comedy a whirl at least once.Discover the intricate world of comedy, its overlaps with business, and the exhilarating, truth-laden world of stand-up. As Alfie puts it, "Laughter is the key to not only enjoying the experience but soaking up the key messages." Whether you're a budding comedian, a corporate leader, or someone simply seeking to better understand the nuances of human interaction, this episode is a must-listen!Engage, inform, entertain. Let's embark on this enlightening journey with Alfie Noakes. Find out more about Alfie at https://www.wearefunnyproject.comEnjoyVisit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Can understanding the principles and practices of psychology and philosophy create a powerful fusion to guide you towards the achievement of your wellbeing and fitness goals?   In this transformative episode we embark on a journey of self-discovery, drawing from the groundbreaking concepts of Sophie Thomas's book "Fitlosophy" and the wisdom of some of the greatest philosophical minds. With insights from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), we decode the complexities of what gets in the way of constructive action,  paving the way for a holistic approach to fitness success.  With empirical evidence serving as our guiding light, my brilliant guest Sophie Thomas and I attempt to unravel the mysteries of human behavior and illustrate how the marriage of psychology and philosophy can lead to sustainable fitness transformations. We understand that fitness success is as diverse as the individuals seeking it, and we celebrate the uniqueness of each path taken. Join us as we navigate the mental obstacles and limiting beliefs that often impede our progress, offering actionable strategies to overcome them. This episode is a guide for those seeking clarity, motivation, and a deeper understanding of themselves on their quest for a healthier, happier life. Discover how "Fitlosophy" becomes your compass, empowering you to unlock your full potential and embrace fitness not just as a goal, but as an essential aspect of your overall well-being. Together, we'll rewrite the narrative around fitness, embracing a personalized and empowering approach that fits YOUR philosophy.  Calling on her experience as a coach, student of psychology, and advocate for some of philosophy’s most popular and practical principles, Sophie Thomas wrote the book “Fitlosophy” to explain how philosophical thinkers can help us better understand what we value and to be more analytical and open-minded when it comes to our fitness journey.   Her book can be found on:·      Amazon·      Barnes and Noble online·      Walmart online I found Sophie to be brilliant, insightful, and engaging, with deep expertise and a quirky sense of humor that makes this episode fun to listen to.    EnjoyVisit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com