Getting Emotional

The act of caring for someone is important, brave, and selfless. It requires love and compassion, sure, but sometimes it's also inspired by pity and vulnerability of the other person. You're doing it all whilst knowing that it can't last forever; maybe they'll get stronger and not need you anymore, maybe they'll pass away, or maybe you'll leave them.All these factors come into play in this emotion: fago. It's a mixture of feelings that build into a broad combination of love, compassion and pity, and result in the act of caring for someone. It was first found to be described by the Ifaluk people on a remote island in the Pacific; their peaceful and sharing culture prizes fago as a deeply desired emotion and state of being. So for this feeling, I spoke to excellent comedian Bilal Zafar, who's written a whole Edinburgh Fringe show about the year he spent working in a care home. He tells me about what it was like having responsibility for residents with dementia, how he coped when they found out he was a comedian, and how it affected his point of view in his current career. You can find Bilal on twitter, at @zafarcakes, or on Twitch, at twitch.tv/zafarcakes. And I'm on twitter too, @getemotionalpod, plus instagram, @gettingemotionalpodcast.Also, as a side-note: this podcast was nominated at the British Podcast Awards last week! It's up for the Bullseye Award- a bit like the best small/niche podcast, so keep your eyes peeled in case we manage to nab a victory!Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wanted to travel somewhere in particular, and you have no idea why? Perhaps somewhere you haven't been before, but you feel like if you were to get there, you'd suddenly feel...at home? Because that's what this feeling means. It's extreme wanderlust, an urge to travel, and almost feeling homesick for a place you've never been to. To describe it, I travel back to my old pals, the Finns, who created this beautiful- and very tricky to pronounce- word. (If nothing else, you'll enjoy the progress I make with it through the show.) And to discuss it in more depth, I chatted to travel bloggers Hand Luggage Only (aka Yaya and Lloyd) about how they became travellers, why they pick certain places to go to, and what top tips they might have for the curious adventurer. You can find them on instagram @HandLuggageOnly, and you can find me there too, at @gettingemotionalpodcast. I'm also on twitter, @getemotionalpod. Come say hi before you go off on your next adventure!Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You're lying in bed, awake. It's 5.45am. Your mind wanders. Should you get up now? Is your packed lunch ready? Will you go to the gym? Have you paid your rent? All of these things play into the feeling of 'uhtcaere'- lying in bed, worrying about the day ahead before it's even started. The emotion comes from an Anglo-Saxon poem, The Wife's Lament, where a woman is bereft without her beloved. Although the poem is fantastically vague, we know it's about a woman looking for her partner. And most of that worry, it seems, is 'uhtcaere'- in the pre-dawn moments. So for this emotion I got incredibly geeky about Anglo-Saxon history (honestly, I had to hold myself back) and discovered more about literature from this era. I even read a very saucy riddle about an onion, but the less said about that the better. Then, I spoke to Times Radio's Breakfast presenter Stig Abell- because who knows early mornings better than a breakfast radio presenter? He told me what time he gets up, how his show is planned, and what he does to keep the show on the road while avoiding uhtcaere for himself and his listeners. We eben invented a few new emotions along the way, including 'sockdread'. (You'll have to listen to find out more.)So, when youre lying in bed worrying about the day ahead, I hope you're not worrying about which podcast to listen to. Because it's this one, obviously. Oh, by the way, you can find me on twitter @getemotionalpod, and instagram @gettingemotionalpodcast. And: Journey in the New World by Twin Musicom is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 licence. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/Source: http://www.twinmusicom.org/song/258/journey-in-the-new-worldArtist: http://www.twinmusicom.orgSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Shackleton! Columbus! Attenborough! They're all people who have ruined it for the rest of us. Well, according to this emotion, La Cuna. It's a twinge of sadness that we maybe know too much about the world around us. In exploring everything we possibly can, we've ruined the mystery, the possibility, and excitement of it, for future generations. But are explorers even a thing anymore? It turns out, yes! I found The Turner Twins (@TheTurnerTwins), who have some fascinating adventures under their belt, and were kind enough to share not only their stories, but thoughts on modern-day exploring, and how maybe we need to focus more on looking after the bits of Earth we've already found. With that in mind, I chatted to conservationist and National Geographic explorer, Jonathan Kolby (@MyFrogCroaked). He reckons that maybe we have already found every place we can, but that doesn't mean we've found every creature, animal, or explanation for why things are the way they are. So have we explored every possible piece of our planet? I'll let you decide. But the one conclusion we can all come to seem like this: however much of it we've discovered, we need to make sure we look after it. Remember, if you want to get in touch, please do! Find me on twitter @getemotionalpod, or on instagram at @gettingemotionalpodcast.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You might know it from Love Island. You might know it from Ally McBeal. You might know it from feeling this way about a Tinder date last night. It's the ultimate in turn-offs, The Ick. This feeling is a gut reaction. A sudden and sharp revulsion, a feeling that the person you're romantically attached with has suddenly become...well, icky. This normally occurs relatively early on in a relationship, and the causes can be anything- from the way that person crosses a road, to the way you imagine them filling their car with petrol. (Yes, both of these are real-life examples of why The Ick struck.) The Ick seems silly and fun, but actually there's a little more to it than I- and maybe you- realise. Perhaps you're feeling it because of a fear of commitment, or fear of intimacy, or because your previous relationships have been so dysfunctional that this one, by virtue of being healthy, seems wrong. Perhaps this behaviour from your date is one that society has forced you to think of as embarrassing, and you don't truly believe that yourself. Or perhaps, y'know, they just breathe really loudly and it's INCREDIBLY ANNOYING.Either way, I discuss it with Grazia writer Aaliyah Harry, as she is someone who has both felt the emotion, and written about it for the magazine. So she has lots of fun examples to tell, and some 'on the ground' thoughts about why, and how, it's occurred to her previously. Oh, and if you want to get in touch, find me on twitter @getemotionalpod, or on my new instagram account, @gettingemotionalpodcast.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oh hi, friend. How are you? It's been a long time, I know. But thanks for sticking around. Series 3 is back after a longer hiatus than expected (I'll explain more if you listen) and I'm ready and raring to go with more emotions and guests than you can shake a stick at.This series has comedian Rufus Hound, broadcaster and writer Stig Abell, explorer brothers The Turner Twins, and loads more besides! It's going to be a rollercoaster of brand new emotions, and I can't wait for you to hear what I have up my sleeve. In the meantime, a lil trailer for ya, to whet your whistle...Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

IT IS THE END. Sorry to be dramatic, I had to get your attention. It's the end of season 2 and I'm just...y'know, emotional about it. It's been a ride, eh? Through this series we've met some incredible people, learnt about some amazing emotions, and we've all had a little cry. Oh, just me on that last one? Right.Anyway, to celebrate the end, here's a few snippets of some great interviews that I didn't get to include- we have Nish Kumar and I geeking out about comedy, Dr Soph Mort telling us it's ok to be sad, and Femi Oluwole explaining why a lot more people voted Brexit than some of us expected. I've also thrown in a few new emotions too- feelings that don't necessarily fill up a whole podcast, but I think you'd like to hear about anyway!Thanks so much for listening and getting in touch this series; it's so lovely to know there are people out there! If you want to say hi, come find me on twitter @getemotionalpod. And, as mentioned in the show, I got nominated for an award this week- hurray! It's for Moment of Raw Emotion at the International Women's Podcast Awards, and mostly I'm just thrilled to be called an International Woman. And don't worry- there's a new series on the way very soon. The guests are bookin' in and the emotions are bubblin' up- so far we have words like Treppenwitz, The Ick, and Kaukokaipuu to look forward to. See you soon..!Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever fancied a cheeky snog on a night out? Or a romantic embrace with the love of your life? Or even a peck on the cheek of an elderly relative? Then it sounds like you've felt basorexia: the sudden urge to kiss someone. This emotion is urgent, quick, and acted upon almost immediately. And it's also not one that is easy to get a guest for, so instead, I got loads! Listeners sent in their memories of feeling this emotion, and were kind enough to let me include them in the show. (Thank you so much to everyone who got in touch!) So we have a sneaky peek into what basorexia means for a selection of people- whether it represents fun and dancing, or just a craving for affection.Also, come find me on twitter, @GetEmotionalPod!Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Picture this: you're wandering around a crumbling castle, fascinated by the ruins, totally lost in the history of it all. Not only are you amazed by its beauty, you're also heavily reminded of the past, present and future. These ruins of a once-grand building inspire a feeling of obsession, pleasure, and wonder. It's ruinenlust.This is a German word, and describes the feeling of pleasure you take when exploring old ruins. But 'ruins' don't have to be a castle- it could be a column, a church, a...cold war bunker. Because that's what I'm talking about with comedian, podcaster, and history lover Angela Barnes. Angela's love of cold war bunkers- now pretty much all abandoned- has inspired a full Radio 4 series, as well as providing a location for her hen-do! So I decided to ask her why these building in particular are so interesting- is it the building, or the history surrounding them? She gives some fascinating answers, as well as ruminating on her own ruinenlust.Angela is on the wonderful We Are History podcast, if you want to hear her discover more historical gems, and you can find her on twitter @AngelaBarnes. I'm there too, @GetEmotionalPod. Come say hi!Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Step aside, Paxman! There's a new political interviewer in town! Well, kind of. Because today I'm delving into 'qualunquismo', a word that has befuddled my autocorrect and my own tongue, as I learn to both spell and pronounce it. This feeling comes from Italy, and was coined in the post-war period to describe a political movement that tried to rally against party politics. It's influenced by apathy bordering on contempt, for politics and the politicians within- a mistrust of the whole political spectrum. This 'meh-ism' may explain why voting turnout is down, people feel less engaged, and the electorate sometimes...doesn't care.To discuss this emotion, I spoke to Femi Oluwole, a fantastically astute, outspoken and intelligent political campaigner. You may know him as a commentator on various TV or Radio shows, or for his fantastic presence on twitter. (Or you may not know him at all- that's ok too!) Femi talks me through what motivated him to get engaged in politics, how he does it, and why he thinks it's hard to motivate some of the public to think that their voice can make a change too. Also, full warning: there is a little (but not too much) Brexit chat. If you want to find Femi on twitter, he's @femi_sorry, and I'm there too, @getemotionalpod. Come say hi! It would be lovely to say hello to a listener or two!Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This might be one of the more important emotions I've explored, and also one of the emotions I am least qualified to talk about. So I spoke to someone who is: writer Laura Kate Dale!Gender Euphoria is the joy you feel when thinking about your true gender identity, and it's mostly associated with the transgender or non-binary community. It can occur in different ways, for different reasons. And it's a happy feeling, a feeling of enjoyment and delight. So let's celebrate it!Laura has recently released a book called 'Gender Euphoria', so she was perfectly placed to talk about what this emotion means and how big a deal it is. Plus, she kindly shared a few stories from the book with me, which gives us a peek into more joyous stories from the trans community, and shows how important those moments of acceptance are. As Laura mentions at the beginning, gender euphoria is the opposite of gender dysphoria, a more medical term. So I delved a little into that too, and asked Laura if you can have one without the other. Finally, as you can tell, I was just thrilled to find one more happy emotion- one that lets us celebrate and amplify stories that maybe haven't been given as much airtime as they should have. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I've gone rogue. I've done a Getting Emotional Special. Because this week isn't about one emotion- it's about LOADS of emotions. And I have an word expert (wexpert?) to help me out. I got in touch with Twitter behemoth Haggard Hawks, aka Paul Anthony Jones, to chat all things words, and boy- he was a fount of knowledge! Paul very kindly shared some words with me that I just hadn't come across in my research, and they're so, so good. Have you felt channel-fever? Imp of the Perverse? Sphexishness? No- I've not made those words up, they actually exist. And Paul is here to tell us all about them.On the way we learn about some extra, bonus, non-emotion words too. Words you probably had no idea even existed. Like, what do you call something on the other side of a bridge? What's the opposite of a euphemism? What do you call the first cut you make with a saw? Yeah, I can already tell you want to find out the answers. Well you can- just listen to the pod!If you want to find Paul on Twitter (if you're not following him already) just check @Haggard Hawks, or his site, www.haggardhawks.com. And I'm there too, @getemotionalpod! Come say hello!Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A podcast with free therapy and extracts from my teenage diary? I'm spoiling you, I really am. Full disclosure, this emotion is intense. Toska is a Russian feeling- often billed as untranslatable, but I've given it a good try. It's a longing for something when you don't know what you're longing for, an anguish, a sadness, a boredom. It's....a bit of a downer.If you're feeling melancholic, or perhaps during lockdown just felt pretty rubbish, you might recognise this emotion. You'll also be happy to see I've got an expert to help me try and detangle this knotty feeling. Dr Soph Mort is a psychologist- originally working for the NHS, but now working hard to make therapy accessible and approachable for everyone. In the podcast, I discover more about what an emotion actually is (arguably I probably should have done this, like, at the beginning of the last series), how toska can (or can't) feel, and how we can work through it. Because yes, help is at hand! As I discover, this emotion may present in different ways with different people, but that doesn't mean there are little things you can do to minimise the impact of it. And one of them is journalling! Which, handily, I've been doing since I was a teenager. So I've peppered the show with a handful of my least cringeworthy entries; part-Samuel Pepys, part-Bridget Jones. (Who am I kidding? They're 100% Adrian Mole)Dr Soph's book is popping up in all sort of excellent reviews and Top 10 lists right now, so go grab her book, A Manuel for Being Human, before it sells out. And find me on twitter @getemotionalpod! It would be lovely to say hello!Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome back! It's a new season of Getting Emotional and it's a bumper episode! This week we're talking about the word 'Brabant', invented in the 80s by writer Douglas Adams (author of The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy) and TV producer John Lloyd. Yes, it's the name of a principality of the Netherlands, but it's also the word for the joy you feel in pushing someone's buttons. It's a fun game- how far can you push them, will you get them annoyed, and will they appreciate this teasing?So I tried to find someone who was good at pushing boundaries. Basically, I needed an expert, a prefessional button-pusher. Then I remembered: comedians! They do that all the time! Sure, they're funny, but they also exist to make us think, annoy us, be a bit provocative. So I found a really good one to talk to- Nish Kumar. In our chat we talk about all types of comedy- from Tim Vine to Stewart Lee, The Simpsons to The Office. They all use button-pushing, in various ways and for different reasons. Nish tells me about how he pushes the audience when he's on stage; teasing them, but also making sure he doesn't tip over into just being mean. Because there's a fine line between 'teasing' and 'cruelty', as he tells us here in a story from his early stand-up days. Plus, there's just no sport in it. So Nish and I take a deep-dive into how to how he manages, and holds, an audience effectively.But teasing isn't just for comedians- it's for the school joker, the undeniable flirt, the squabbling siblings. And because of that, I think there's something quite sweet about it. Maybe the joy of teasing doesn't come from annoying the other person, but from knowing that you both have the shared in-jokes, history and sense of humour with the other person to make it possible. It's a bond, a connection, a warmth. Isn't it..?Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Look, it's been a while. I know that, you know that. But I promise all this time away from the mic hasn't been in vain- I've been cooking up a rather brilliant new series for you. I have great guests! I have great emotions! I have great sound effects! What more could you want, eh?!Guests this series include comedians Nish Kumar and Angela Barnes, Paul Anthony Jones (aka Haggard Hawks), Femi Oluwole and Dr Sophie Mort. Plus I have some other little surprises up my sleeve too. So this is just a little reminder- a Save The Date, if you will- that Series 2 is dropping SOON. And boy, is it going to be emotional...Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's The End! (Kind of.) It's the last episode of the series, so it's time to look back with a little rewind and recap. Over the last few weeks I've spoken to a lot of incredible people, and sometimes I didn't get time to include everything they told me in the main episodes. So in this one, you can hear extra snippets from Rankin (who also accidentally gives the most hilarious answer to a question I've ever had), Danny Wallace, Dr L, and Rosalie Craig. (From the episodes on vemodalen, goya, limerence, and philoprogenitiveness.)I also have some extra emotions for you I haven't managed to squeeze in anywhere else- including the thoroughly depressing mutterseelenallein and the joyous basorexia. (I'm not telling you what they are- you have to listen to find out, right?) They may or may not make full episodes in the future, but for now, I thought I would leave you with some new emotions to chew on. And finally, I'll give you a little teaser on who features in the next series. It's going to be a really good one, I promise...Thanks so much for listening- this has been so much fun to research, write, present and produce. If you're wondering, in the last few weeks Getting Emotional had thousands of downloads, been featured in the Daily Mirror, Daily Express, The Observer, and a bunch of local papers. It's also hit the number 1 spot in Apple's documentary chart, and been featured in the Great British Podcasts newsletter. If that's series 1, just think what we can do in series 2! Of course, none of this would happen without any listeners, so thank you so much for listening and subscribing. If you'd like to get in touch, please do leave a review and drop me a comment, or find me on twitter @getemotionalpod. I'll see you in a few weeks! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Here in Britain, we're known for having a 'stiff upper lip'.But do other countries have an equivalent? Well, Finland certainly does! And they called it 'sisu'. It's about grit, determination, and working toward a goal. It's a willingness to keep on going, even though you might not win the battle you're fighting. Hey, even if you don't win, the victory is in trying. There's no direct translation in English, so I've done my best to dig out the spirit of the word. And I've come to the conclusion it's about being gutsy, showing chutzpah, and just...keeping on. Pure determination through adversity.I've had the best time researching this word, and finding out more about a country I (embarrassingly) knew very little about. My research took me to the Finlandia University in Michigan, where I found a Professor of Finnish and Nordic Studies- Dr Hilary Virtanen (@HilaryVirtanen on twitter). Not only did she give me more info on sisu, she told me about times she, or students on her campus, have felt it too. After speaking to her I got a real sense that sisu, and the Finnish community she works with, are something pretty special. I also decided to ask around, and see if anyone else had felt this determination through adversity. And during a chat with Clare Balding about her new children's book, 'Fall Off, Get Back On, Keep Going', I realised this feeling extends to kids as well as adults. Her book is about giving kids the skills and belief they need to face struggles in life, and it's an absolute winner- I highly recommend it! And she very kindly told me about a very candid story from her own past- one that I'd never heard before- as an example of a time she's had to work through. Sisu was quite the most intriguing word I've come across in a long time, and it gave me a chance to indulge my love of history too. If anything, making this podcast was quite the opposite of sisu- it was a joy to make! Hopefully you enjoy listening as much as I enjoyed putting it together. And next time you find yourself going through something a little tough- dig deep, and you might find some sisu to help you through. Oh, if you want to say hi, I'm on twitter, @GetEmotionalPod. Thanks! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You hear 'vu', you think of 'déjà', right? Yeah, fair enough, most people do. But did you know that déjà has two siblings, often overlooked? I'm talking about presque and jamais, and I'd argue they bring just as much to the table as their big sister does. The Vus (I like to think of them as a girl band, by the way) comprise of three states of mind, all pretty common, but one just more famous than the others. Déjà, as you may already know, roughly means 'already seen'- but what of the two others? Well, presque is known as 'almost seen' and jamais, 'never seen'. Between them they're equally frustrating, and very common. So let's find out a little about them! Have you ever felt something on the 'tip of your tongue'? Then you've felt presque vu! And ever not recongnised something you probably should? Then jamais vu is your jam! Of course, I'll go into a little more detail in the episode. Plus, I manage to squeeze in references to The Matrix, Bridget Jones, Beyonce, BTS and Atomic Kitten. Never say I don't have my finger on the pulse. Also, you may notice there's no guest for this one. Every now and again a feeling that comes along that is...unguestable. I have a list of these emotions, willing to be made into shows, but sadly uncoupled with people to talk about them. So instead I brought in some old friends to provide a bit of context. Wonderful Guy Kelly (@brainmage) discusses his dealings with déjà, and Richard Soames (@RichardSoames) and Benedict Salter help me out with their acting skills. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you're sad, you cry. But what do you do when you're happy? Sometimes, you have an overwhelming amount of joy and just don't know what to do with it. Maybe you feel overwhelmed and leave the situation, maybe you get stressed out, or maybe you feel the emotional version of a sugar rush, and sugar crash. This idea of 'debilitating joy' was one I found on The Cut, a site that's part of the New York magazine family. It was written about by Annie Armstrong, and she kindly agreed to tell me a little more about it- from her inspiration of childhood book series, The Berenstain Bears, to her own experiences. And she points out this feeling isn't birthday-specific; it could occur at any moment where you're just a little...too...happy. Perhaps you're walking down a sunny street, or seeing a great show, or delighted to see your friends again- what do you do with that surplus joy?We got to thinking- in a post-Covid world, will this be something we experience more often? As the world opens up and we're faced with more fun, will it be overwhelming? Will we feel, just a little bit, of Too Much Birthday?Big thanks to Annie for chatting to me- you can find her on twitter at @anniesalright. We're there too, on @getemotionalpod. Come and say hi!Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, we're representing the parents. This feeling- the impulse of parental love- will be familiar to many, and so unknown to others. I'm in the latter category, so I needed an interesting mum to talk to, and boy did I find one!Rosalie Craig (@Rosiemae on twitter) is an exceptional award-winning actress, appearing on stage and screen. Most recently, you may have seen her onstage in The Ferryman, City of Angels, or the ground-breaking revival of Stephen Sondheim's Company. She's also a mum, and like other parents, is trying to navigate her life via the love, fear, and joy that comes with having children. I talk to Rosalie about what it feels like to have kids, whether that love was instant, and what it's like being a West End lead who also just wants to get home and tuck their kid into bed. Rosalie is funny, interesting and totally honest about about tricky it can be. In case you're wondering, philoprogenitiveness comes from the now-debunked pseudoscience of phrenology, but don't worry- all will be revealed. Oh, and if you're feeling a little raw about a parent not being around anymore, feel free to skip this ep. I've gone through it too, and I know how it feels. Sending you all a big squidge xOh, also - Panama Hat by Audionautix is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 licence. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/Artist: http://audionautix.com/Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/getting-emotional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.