Sexy Soulful Confidence

I have been a part of the population of vulva owners who have betryed their sexual satisfaction. I have been one of those vulva owners who has dismissed my pleasure, who has silenced my desires, who has fantasized my way to climax and faked orgasm completely. It sucks. It feels dirty. It feels deceitful, it feels like "why have sex, if this is what it is." But I promise that’s not what sex is.And if that is what it has been for you, then I’m am so ready for you to experience the fu...

You want to feel sexy? You want to learn how to take charge of your life and show up as your most authentic self? This episode has your name written all over it! -- Short and simple, you have everything you need to show up as the goddess you are. It’s not maybelline, baby, you were, in fact, born with it! Also, we've got a Full Moon In Aquarius Baby! So how fitting of this episode to come out today! Let's shed our self-doubt, let's release what is not serving us, let's reclaim our power ...

Have you been going through a season of singleness or an extended period without sex? My guest host this week, Tara Alice, is diving into the struggles, lessons and clarity that has come from her 2 year season of singleness and 2.5 year abstinence journey!We talk about:The benefits of dating yourselfThe importance of nurturing your platonic relationships The impact of sex energy & sexual spiritualityThe clarity that comes with a season of singleness Her 2.5 year journey without ...

What is POWER? How do you utilize it to level up yourself and your relationships? Dr. Harmony Hunt, Doctor of Physical Therapy and Power Exchange Coach joins me this week to demystify how we view POWER and shed light on the way it impacts our relationship to ourselves as well as others. We cover:What power exchange isHow media portrays power exchange50 Shades of GreyBenefits & Relevance of Power Exchange DynamicsCommon misconceptions about Power ExchangeAdvice for anyone seeking to have H...

It's story time y'all! I made someone uncomfortable, but what's new? Sexual dissatisfaction is one of the most common things people come to me about. It breaks my heart knowing that there are so many couples whose sexual needs aren't being met because they don't have the tools or confidence to ask for what they desire. This week I'm coming at ya with a solo episode to talk about how to improve sexual intimacy with your partner and get that good dose of fucking you've been craving....

Being a Sugar Baby is one of the many taboo facets of this world that exists, but let’s recognize that it is also very much in demand. A recent statistic from one of the top sugar baby sites, Seeking Arrangements, shows that there are around 8 million sugar baby users world wide-wide-wide…This obviously peaks my interest and I am so excited to be joined today by seasoned Sugar Baby & Host of the Sugar Pussy Podcast, miss Ellie Rae.In this episode we talk about:The intricacies within...

Attention All Penis Owners! This yummy and juicy convo with Men's Intimacy Coach, Allison Cruz, will have you ready to let down your guards, dearmore your hearts and come back home to your body and love your cocks in the most heart-centered way! Allison shares her work as a self-proclaimed Men's Intimacy Initiatress + what catapulted her into this line of work for healing the masculine. We talk about the benefits of Breath Work, Shadow Work and what it means for men and penis-owners to come b...

Embracing your sexuality is the greatest gift you could give yourself. Showing up in this world in your power, that which sexual energy is inarguably attached too, is one of the greatest feelings. Because you get to come home to yourself in the most intimate way. And when we do that we drip with confidence. Have you ever just looked at someone and you’re like...they just look like sex. I guarantee they are standing so strong in their personal power and I’d love to bet that it’s because they k...

Guest Host, Haley Navarro, joins me this week on Sexy, Soulful, Confidence.We discuss:Her becoming a breath work facilitator & it's healing and wellness benefits.Her lack of sex education & how that shaped her sexual experiencesHow competing in body competitions affected her self-esteemHow having a positive body image impacts becoming a sexual beingFinding out more about her kinks... and a few other fun bits! Get social with Haley!Instagram @IAmHaleyNavarroWebsite: HaleyNavarro....

There have been a few changes happening with the podcast, my social media & my life in general. I didn't want to keep y'all in the dark any longer. We've got a New Name, New Look, New Collaborations & Semi-New Content! It's also the end of Masturbation May and I'm finally releasing the episode I should have released on the 1st of the month. But how fitting that it came out on International Masturbation Day!? Love that! In this episode I cover: Masturbation Ma...

I wanna know what y’all think about foreplay. Cause here is the hard and semi-sad truth. When most people think of foreplay they think of a little dry humping, fingering, stroking or some oral action right before intercourse. I put out a poll on IG and I asked y’all “what is foreplay to you?” And the answers I got back were confirming that people confine foreplay to the moments right before the full on sex-making session. Because of that, I really just want to shed some light on how limi...

What is Numerology? I'm chatting with Professional Numerologist Novalee Wilder in this episode as she gives us a glimpse into the intricate esoteric world of Numerology. Diving into the basics of base numbers, numeroscopes and covering the truth behind compatibility and sexual preferences between numbers. Novalee is an actress, and artist turned professional Numerologist and writer living in Los Angeles. She's been through a whole lot of heartache and pain before finding numerology. She's bee...

Let’s talk Butt Stuff 🍑•We’re covering ground rules, why anal play can be amazing & how to tell if you’re ready to open the back door.•Ground Rules✨- Consent is of the utmost importance! #NoMeansNo so don’t pressure! - Lube is a necessity - Clean before & after you play- Don’t worry about the “poop thing.” You’re a mature adult. 😉- Go SLOW. Start with the tongue, finger/s, plugs & other toys. (Good quality) - Communicate before, during & after.- Did I mention LU...

Boundaries are a form of Self-Care, Self-Love and Ultimately Self-Accpetence.Why we don’t want to set boundaries:fear rejectionfear abandonmentdon’t want to hurt anyonedon’t like to approach conflict head ondon’t want to be misunderstood or have what we say be misinterpreted we have a hard time asserting ourselves in vulnerable situationsSetting a boundary is an act of strength. You're honoring your value, your responsibilities and your needs. It does not reflect weakness or selfishness,...

So, Let’s continue with some Adult Sex Ed! The G Spot is not actually part of the female sexual anatomy. A study using ultra sound found that our G-spot is so sensitive and responds so well to stimulation because the clitoral root is located right behind the anterior or front vaginal wall, which is where the “g-spot” has been said to be located. The most popular way to stimulate the G-spot is by using two fingers along the anterior vaginal wall and motioning with a “come hither” movement.  A-Spot aka the anterior fornix erogenous zone is a couple more inches up and back (again, depending on the vagina) and you’ll find that using a “left to right” motion like a windshield wiper, will stimulate this spot. It's also known as the Female Prostrate, so only Cisgender women and people assigned female at birth have the potential to actually reach this spot. It’s best to use toys that have a slight curve and/or have the capability to motion whether that is a revolving tip or zone. There are toys that have like “a thumper”on the shaft, along with a vibrating feature so that you can stimulate both the A-Zone/Spot and G-Spot at once. Doggy is a very standard position for reaching these spots. You can also do Lifted Missionary, and use a few pillows or a sex wedge.Let’s move onto the K-Spot which is the hardest to have an orgasm through and can be one of the more painful to stimulate because it is located at the base of the cervix. Vulva owners, it's very possible to have a k-spot orgasm aka cervical orgasm but it's not as common because we don’t know enough about this erogenous zone to explore it from a mindset of pleasure. It’s more about the fullness and the pressure than it is about the sensation…that is where stimulation of the Clitoris and these other spots come into play and because k-spot Orgasms are so unique, they require a certain type of stimulation and can be reached by deep penetrative positions that include Cowgirl which allows for the top to slide as far down the penis or dong as feels comfortable. Our final two spots are the U-Spot which is neighbor to our exterior C-spot right above the urethral opening and our O-Spot which is located opposite of G-Spot toward the back vaginal wall, right up against the anal walls.The U-spot is between your Glands Clitoris and your Urethral opening and it’s a part of your Labia Minora. So receiving exterior clitoral stimulation + either penetration or just stimulation to the vaginal canal, you are hitting all of these erogenous zones all at once. The O-Spot can be stimulated by applying pressure toward the back vaginal wall, any toys such as the vibrators that have multiple speeds and settings, rotating heads, or the revolving beads, using butt plugs to help apply pressure to the O-spot from inside the anal wall as well as DP definitely will do the trickSome positions that can help stimulate the O-spot are, Reverse Cowgirl bend over. This works with penises with an upward curve or dongs that have a slight curve to them. If you would prefer to stimulate with fingers or oral, a nice way to do this is with a face sit, like you would if you were going to 69, but you sit up and the bottom can finger you with palms facing up so that their fingers curl towards the back vaginal wall and they can do some oral stimulation to your sphincter.Just remember to be gentle, and to communicate if you’re exploring with a partner. All mutual sexual exploration requires, Communication, Respect  & Trust. If this was helpful, insightful, entertaining, and you think that someone else will benefit from it, please feel free to share. K cause sharing is caring and knowledge is power and we all want to be kind and smart.Again, thank you for tuning into this episode of So Bri Says.Stay curious, stay sexy & we will talk soon! 

Vulva owners! Did you know you’ve got 6 Pleasure Points located within your beautiful majestic pussies? Yeah I just said that. Well, let me introduce you to them and how to play your way to the most conscious & intense orgasms of your adult life. In this two part series I'm breaking down the 6 Pleasure Points of all my Vulva owners out there. Part One I’m diving into just the C-spot, because there is so much that many of us don’t know about this beauty and it’s one of our most famous erogenous zones, so I want to take some time with it and help us all to become a little more “Clitorate”Yes you have a vagina, if you have a Vulva, but the Vulva is the name for the external parts of female genitalia. The vagina is internal and it’s the tube connecting the vulva and the cervix. Externally you’ve got, your Labia Majora, Labia Minora, Clitoral Hood, Glans Clitoris, Urethral Opening, Vulva Vestibule, opening of the Skene’s Gland(which secrete fluids that help with lubrication during intercourse and sexual arousal they are also may be the source of female ejaculation), Harts line, Vaginal Opening, Hymen, Perineum and AnusThe the Glans Clitoris aka our Clit and for this episodes purpose, our C-spot, is part of the Vulva. But the Clitoris Network, yes network, extends inward along and throughout the Vagina. Above the Glans Clitoris is the Clitoral Hood which is formed by the two sides of the connecting Labia Minora. The clitoral body goes upward into your pelvis and is attached by ligaments to your pubic bone.  From the Clitoral Body the Clitoris splits to form the paired crura and the Vestibular bulbs; which the bulbs extend through and behind the labia, making their way pass the urethra, vaginal canal and then towards the anus. It literally looks like a ball sack.Now onto the fun stuff! Stimulating the C-Spot -- which can happen in many ways. You can use fingers or your palm; using your palm to stimulate your clit while using your fingers to massage the vaginal opening is amazing or the face of your knuckles. You can use toys; bullets, vibrating wands, clitoral suckers, dongs with multiple textures; silicone, glass, steal, ridged or smooth. They all give different sensations. And don’t forget to use Lube. Don’t be afraid of lube. Lube is our friend. Lube helps with a fuller feeling of sensation. You can go for other body parts like if you’re playing with someone, you’ve got some nice oral action, the tongue we love that. And if you’re pleasing with some finger action, we want nice, circular motion, slow-mo style. We want full tongue, and I’m gonna add in soft tongue. Yes the tip of the tongue is fine but you’re not trying to fight my clitoris. We’re not in an argument. We’re having great conversation and great conversation leads to great sex. Yes so again many many ways to stimulate the C-spot and having clitoral orgasms are amazing. Some of my favorite orgasms have been while receiving oral and getting fingered at the same time or using a c-spot specific stimulator and having intercourse at the same time because I was stimulating my entire or at least almost entire clitoris. I’d like to encourage you to explore yourself. Sit in front of a mirror and check yourself out or grab friend or bring your partner in and have them explore as you walk them through the majestic network of your clitoris. It’s all about knowing your body and learning what feels good so you can prioritize your pleasure in the ways that work for you and encourage your playmates to stimulate you in the ways that bring you to orgasm. This is not just for my vulva owners. Knowledge is power, so please share this Episode with a friend, your mom, your S.O. and definitely a non-vulva owner, if you found it interesting, or helpful or entertaining…whatever your reason, sharing is caring. Stay tuned for Part 2!

Welcome tootsiepops! Y’all are tuning in to So Bri Says, and the first ever episode of this podcast.  I’m Bri I’m your host thank you so much for being here.This episode is an intro to the vibe of this podcast, a little bit more about who I am and what this podcast is really for which is to aid in you becoming the fluffer of your own life. If you’re not familiar with the term 'Fluffer' it’s someone on a pornographic film set that keeps the the male performers penises erect in between scenes.  Fluffers were hired, during larger group scenes where the ratio of penis to vagina was a lot higher so they needed fluffers there to keep them going between scenes.I want you to metaphorically be the fluffer of your own life, to be the person that’s giving yourself boners and clit-boners, keeping you going and flowing throughout the week.I really just want you to tune in to get some educational value, some entertainment some helpful tips and tricks, maybe learn some things that you didn’t know to spice up ya love life, ya sex life and ya personal life. I want to encourage you to prioritize your pleasure, because that, is your birth right. Your sexual well-being is so important to your overall health. And I think people one hundred percent undervalued their sexual health. I think a huge part is our lack of education around human sexuality in general, so I want you to learn about yourselves learn about your body. There’s so much that you think majority of people would know, but definitely don’t.  We really need adult Sex Ed for sure and this is definitely gonna be a platform for that as well. And I’m gonna be here, giving you the goods, weekly to make sure your not slacking on your fluffer duties, think of me as your back up fluffer. About me: I am in the process of becoming a certified love, sex and relationship coach which is another reason why I am starting this podcast because I want to be able to provide you with valuable and educational and inspirational and entertaining and relatable and helpful content while I’m going through it while I’m learning while I’m experiencing my own personal growth, because I think that’s super important. I am that friend and colleague and classmate and family member and  social media stranger or acquaintance you’re meeting for coffee for the first time who’s gonna talk with you about anal and your childhood trauma.I’m also super playful and I’m fun and blunt and kind and tell it like it is. I’m a hard question asker and I don’t shy away from things that are uncomfortable. I’m somebody who’s gonna dive with you and talk about things that you maybe wanna keep locked up in your little box of secrets. I’m not afraid to push and pry a little more than a lot, but I’ll always respect if you tell me to stay in my lane. I am someone who really tries to be that safe space for people because I do know all too well how it feels to feel like you can’t be all of who you are for fear of judgment and criticism and lack of validation and ruining someone’s image of who you used to be or who they want you to be.I want this podcast to provide content, valuable content obviously, in whatever way that is for you. But I also want it to be a safe space where you can kinda let your hair down or take ya draws off and just relax into who you are and have a nice, fun conversation with somebody that you will get to know more and more over time, and if you already know me, then you know that it’s literally gonna be like sitting on the couch with with me, with a good friend, a good pal and just talk about all the things you find interesting. If you desire a space to totally and fully be yourself,  learn more about your sexuality and get inspired to really cultivate the life and love and relational dynamics that encourage your self-esteem and personal growth.  This show is for you!