That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding

Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/  We need to talk about hoarding and physical disabilities, chronic illness, and chronic pain. With the inimitable Dr. Jan Eppingstall, I look at the unique challenges faced by individuals with disabilities, chronic health conditions who hoard. From the impact of aging on hoarding tendencies to the struggles of navigating a hoarded space while managing chronic pain, we offer insights and practical strategies for those dealing with hoarding and physical limitations. Join us as we delve into the complexities of hoarding and its intersection with physical health challenges in a compassionate and informative discussion. The Impact of Disabilities on Hoarding Behaviours Complex relationship between hoarding and disabilities Chronic pain, mental health issues, and aging The prevalence and severity of hoarding in correlation with aging and physical limitations The challenges of categorising people and their impairments Gender Disparities and Disabilities in Hoarding research The association between physical disabilities, chronic illness, and chronic pain with hoarding, particularly among women The link between autoimmune diseases, common in women, and hoarding The impact of poverty on disabilities and hoarding Advocacy challenges for women with disabilities and hoarding behaviours The need for women to better acknowledge their achievements without feeling like boasting The significance of functional impairment in the discussion The importance of persistently seeking medical help despite the gender pain gap and lack of specificity in symptoms Strategies for individuals to lead a more independent and fulfilling life despite chronic issues The effects of giving up on seeking medical help on documenting conditions and receiving appropriate care Managing Hoarding and Disabilities Balancing function over appearance for hoarders with chronic health problems The individuals' strong attachment to certain aesthetics and struggles in decluttering due to sentimental attachment Practical ways to seek help and simplify tasks for people with hoarding tendencies, particularly for those living alone Strategies for managing household tasks despite limited mobility The importance of pacing oneself and not pushing beyond physical limits The impact of spending time outdoors on mental and physical health Challenges of Aging and Hoarding Accumulation of belongings over a lifetime, particularly among older generations Reluctance to part with items due to sentimental attachment and difficulty decluttering with physical limitations The isolation and loneliness experienced by older individuals in decluttering and organising tasks Addressing the challenges faced by hoarders with physical limitations, including lifting, fine motor skills, and brain fog The impact of limited energy and the need for careful prioritisation of tasks Living with Physical Health Problems in a Hoarded Environment The physical and emotional challenges of living with physical health problems Managing disabilities and planning, scheduling appointments, and attending to physical needs in a hoarded space The increased energy consumption living in a hoarded space Navigating chronic pain and strategies to manage dehoarding tasks even on bad pain days Differentiating between tasks that move the needle and those that simply paper over the cracks Hoarding research shows self-selection bias towards females. Hoarding increases with age, affecting functionality. Disability requires more planning and preparation. Living with physical limitations is never straightforward. Self-compassion improved my situation. Avoid pushing too hard, limit activities to 3 hours. Hoarding and function over appearance for health. Assessing and adjusting belongings to create harmony. Study on disability assessments, measuring functional impairment in 6 areas. Moving away from cause and effect to individual change and vulnerability. More planning for disability due to brain fog. People underestimate complexity of physical disabilities.

Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I look at the impact of micro trends on our lives and how they are contributing to clutter and excessive consumption and the additional challenges hoarders face in this ever-evolving landscape of trends. I look at identifying our true style beyond societal pressures and resisting the temptation of constantly changing trendy items. Join me to explore the consequences of indulging in micro trends, the environmental impact of fast fashion, and strategies to make mindful purchasing decisions in a world dominated by fleeting trends. Impact of Microtrends on Hoarding Behaviour Hoarders facing unique challenges with microtrends Consequences of indulging in microtrends such as financial strain and accumulation of belongings Resisting the Temptation of Microtrends Avoiding constantly changing trendy items Thought exercise to identify personal style beyond external influences Understanding individual style versus succumbing to marketing influences Questioning motivations behind purchasing new trends Mindful Purchasing and Consumption "One in, one out" approach to purchases Delaying purchases to assess genuine interest Identifying if existing items can serve the same purpose Evolution of Trends and Impact of Social Media Trends in fashion and design propelled by personal expression and corporate marketing Acceleration of trends through social media platforms Accumulation of items due to shorter trend cycles and excessive consumption Environmental and Social Impact Production and consumption of fast, low-quality products contributing to waste Struggle of charity shops to sell items from past micro trends Encouraging individuals to opt out of supporting fleeting trends By addressing these topics, the podcast provides a comprehensive exploration of how microtrends impact hoarding behaviour, strategies for resisting trends, and insights into the broader societal and environmental implications of excessive consumption. FOMO in micro trends: dopamine, immediate reward. Consider the real reasons for wanting something. Consider delaying purchases to avoid micro trends. Hoarders face challenges with microtrends, self-control. Desire for personalization and expression; trends and fashions driven by corporations to fuel spending. Accumulation of unused items, struggle to declutter. FOMO in micro trends leads to regretful charity shop donations. Questioning motives, mindful consumption. Consider delaying purchases to assess true desire and value. Immediate craving may indicate fleeting trend. Microtrends are a challenge for hoarders, leading to more stuff, less money, and self-doubt.

Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-140-how-to-cope-with-or-help-a-partner-who-hoards-with-laura-silverstein-certified-gottman-couples-therapist/  This week, I’m with Laura Silverstein, a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, who is a genius on how couples can improve their communication and the way they take each other’s needs into account. So we explore the complexities of living with a hoarding partner and the impact it has on relationships. Laura provides anecdotes and advice on setting healthy boundaries, initiating difficult conversations, and the role of a therapist in couples therapy. We also discuss the value of authentic communication, empathy, and the idea that love requires continuous effort. We look at the difficulties non-hoarding partners face in understanding their hoarding significant other, the impact of unresolved conflicts, and the evolving perception of quirks in a relationship. The conversation highlights the importance of open and honest communication, emphasising the need for both partners to be involved in decluttering decisions. Join us as we talk about coping with – and helping – a hoarding partner in a relationship. Living with a Hoarding Partner Challenges for the non-hoarding partner Understanding hoarding behaviour Impact of conflict in relationships Approaching hoarding issues as a couple Communication and Decision Making Importance of open and honest communication Involving the hoarding partner in decluttering decisions Examples of different approaches to decluttering Setting Boundaries and Deal Breakers Clear communication and healthy boundary setting Communicating core needs with a partner A therapist's role in helping couples set boundaries Couples Therapy and Relationship Dynamics Role of a Therapist in Couples Therapy Encouraging honest and respectful communication The goal of therapy in relationships Valuing the time spent in a relationship Initiating and Navigating Difficult Conversations Approaching conversations in a positive and constructive way The "I like, I wish, I wonder" framework for expressing emotions and requests The importance of clear communication and avoiding misunderstandings Building and Sustaining Relationships Acknowledging each partner's needs Significance of authenticity, empathy, and mutual understanding Challenging topic of hoarding and relationship conflict. Understanding and accepting challenges of hoarding disorder. Improving communication, appreciating efforts, and showing love. Authenticity in relationships and understanding partner's pain. Respect partner's wisdom, avoid secrets and betrayal. Honesty and understanding create helpful solutions. Fear of hurtful conversations hinders creative solutions. Setting boundaries is important for relationships. Progress is non-linear Seeking respectful closure through difficult conversations is success. Leaving with integrity and seeking support. It's important to normalise conflict and focus on repairing relationships through understanding, communication, and meeting each other's needs. Importance of embracing differences in love and relationships. Advocate for needs Common conflict communication pattern is attack-defend. Skilled communication improves relationships. Acknowledging past communication issues, understanding partner's challenges, emphasising authenticity and love in communication. Authentic empathy and communication are key in addressing relationship struggles and finding mutual understanding and support. Focus on trust and communication in relationships to address hoarding issues. Discussing how to handle hoarding sensitively and considering different scenarios before making decisions. Honest communication and creativity in relationships. Fear of difficult conversations hinders creativity and problem-solving in relationships. Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining integrity in relationships. Success in helping people navigate difficult relationship conversations, with respect and support. Success is about integrity and treating your partner well, whether working through difficulties or parting ways.  

Sign up for the Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, chronic disorganisation with our special guest, Jo Cooke of Hoarding Disorders UK. Chronic disorganisation impacts day-to-day living, from time management to project completion, and is closely connected to hoarding behaviours. Jo’s written a whole book on the topic, so join us as we look into the overlap between chronic disorganisation and hoarding, executive dysfunction, and the impact of grief, trauma, and loss on these issues. Chronic Disorganisation Definition and impact on day-to-day living Connection between chronic disorganisation and hoarding Executive dysfunction and its effect on chronic disorganisation Understanding and managing energy levels using the "spoon theory" Physical self-care and its impact on organisation and management Grief, Trauma, and Menopause The role of grief, trauma, and loss in chronic disorganisation and hoarding Societal shift in openly discussing menopause and its impact on daily life Importance of self-compassion and understanding that disorganisation does not equate to laziness or lack of intelligence Impact of Covid and Societal Factors How Covid has impacted people's experiences, including loneliness, anxiety, and chronic overwhelm Contribution of technology, fast-paced living, and societal expectations to difficulty in focusing and staying on task Strategies for Managing Chronic Disorganisation Body doubling as a method to have someone quietly cheerleading alongside on tasks Importance of sustained attention, goal perseverance, and finding the right motivation and goal-setting approach tailored to individual preferences Achieving and maintaining focus on tasks through setting achievable goals, tailored to individual needs, and utilising the PACE approach (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy) Overcoming Chronic Disorganisation Importance of seeking help, defining what help looks like, and joining support groups to combat shame and self-blame The release of Jo Cooke's book "Overcoming Chronic Disorganisation" for pre-order and her online presence at hoardingdisordersuk.org Recognising trends in client needs, including bereavement, ADHD, and menopause, and challenges in organisation. Chronic disorganisation impacts daily living with system struggles, time management, and tasks. Hoarding and chronic disorganisation overlap due to executive functioning challenges, leading to repetitive acquisitions and disorganisation. Modern life is fast-paced with high expectations, leading to difficulty focusing. Body doubling can help remain on task. Focus on short and medium-term goals, not just the ultimate goal. Shame vs joy, playfulness, curiosity, and distress tolerance. Support group helped challenge self-blame and shame.

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-138-the-accountability-effect-accountability-encouragement-and-mutual-support-when-tackling-hoarding-and-dehoarding/ In today's episode, I talk about holding yourself accountable by yourself. Then I talk about holding yourself accountable if you've got an accountability buddy. And then I'm going to talk about holding yourself accountable if you don't have anybody that you can talk about hoarding with. Because those are 3 really different situations with really different pros and cons and approaches and benefits as well. Accountability and Dehoarding An accountability buddy who is also working on dehoarding Mutual support and encouragement Honest and constructive feedback Using before and after photos for accountability and motivation Setting up times to donate or recycle items together with an accountability buddy Shared encouragement and sense of accomplishment Solo Accountability in Dehoarding Challenges of holding oneself accountable when nobody knows about the hoarding Joining clutter groups on Facebook or posting on social media for accountability A group Zoom session for hoarders to hold themselves accountable Setting external deadlines for accountability Using inspirational visuals and quotes Having regular check-ins and task schedules Tools for Accountability in Dehoarding Using productivity apps or reminder apps to track progress Finding features that work best for individual performance Rewarding oneself with non-material rewards The Concept of Accountability Reluctance to commit to accountability Acknowledgment of its effectiveness in achieving goals Personal experiences and strategies for self-accountability Tracking progress and setting deadlines Holding yourself accountable is crucial for productivity. Accountability involves planning and setting goals. Regular check-ins help achieve and motivate goals. Encourage and support each other for success. Accountability buddy supports, encourages, and holds responsible. Setting deadlines and visual, shared encouragement motivates. Seek accountability through social media and groups. Accountability involves self-discipline and planning to achieve goals. Regular self-check-ins help stay on track, providing motivation and a sense of accomplishment. Encourage support, set same time for tasks, share progress and tips with accountability buddy to overcome obstacles. Having an accountability buddy offers mutual support, encouragement, and honesty in achieving goals. Accountability buddy motivates donating items. Find accountability in decluttering through social media or online groups

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-137-how-to-tackle-a-laundry-backlog-or-how-to-summit-mount-washmore/ Today, the daunting task of tackling a laundry backlog. In this episode, I discuss practical strategies to conquer Mount Washmore and take control of the laundry chaos. From decluttering to creating a laundry system, I look at ways to streamline the process and prevent clothes from piling up. I also touch on the environmental impact of overwashing and share experiences of managing overwhelming laundry situations. So if you're ready to conquer that laundry mountain and reclaim some peace, hit play for some valuable tips and insights. Addressing the Extreme Laundry Circumstances Using a laundrette to catch up Don’t berate yourself for the laundry backlog Practical Solutions for Managing Laundry Backlog Declutter to reduce laundry load Establishing a designated place for dirty clothes and towels Involving others in the household in the laundry process Creating a personalised system for ongoing laundry management Minimizing Overwashing and Unnecessary Clothing Purchases Advising against overwashing clothes to minimize environmental impact The environmental impact of overwashing, especially in relation to microplastics and microfibres Minimising new clothing purchases to reduce laundry load and simplify life Liberating Feeling of throwing away items in bad condition Identifying and removing barriers to doing laundry Streamlining the Washing Process Sorting laundry into darks, lights, and colours Containing laundry in bags or containers to streamline the washing process Disregarding special care instructions and putting items in the washing machine, finding that they come out fine The gruelling but necessary process of dedicating days to washing laundry, especially without a tumble dryer Challenge of managing limited drying space Doing laundry less demanding than cleaning or decluttering Gratitude for the invention of washing machines Consideration of organizing a Zoom accountability session for listeners and encouraging them to express interest Strategies for Tackling Laundry Pile Prioritising cleaning a few days' worth of clothes before addressing the entire pile Gathering all dirty laundry in one place and discarding items in bad condition without guilt Managing laundry by organizing tasks around the workday, not allowing the volume of laundry to overwhelm Alternative options for managing overwhelming laundry, including using a laundrette or paying for laundry services if necessary to alleviate stress and feeling of being overwhelmed by laundry Prioritise survival over saving damaged items. Efficient sorting made laundry process much easier. Efficient laundry process allows for multitasking. Outsource your laundry, let someone else handle it. Delegate laundry tasks, find a system. Overwashing sheds microplastics, buy less clothing. Procrastination leads to fear and anxiety. Start by ensuring clean, comfy clothes. In times of overwhelm, prioritise survival over waste and home livability over personal items. Without a tumble dryer, drying clothes is limited to 2-3 loads a day, making it difficult to keep things moving without dampness. It's important to be realistic about what to keep and donate while doing laundry. Options for laundry: do it yourself, pay for pick-up service, or drop off at a laundromat. Use a laundrette for extreme laundry situations, without feeling guilty. Laundry tips for efficiency and delegation.

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode I talk about 19 lies we tell ourselves about our stuff that help us to remain hoarders rather than break free from drowning in stuff.  Acknowledging the Difficulty in Addressing Hoarding Behaviour Emphasising the possibility of change and the necessity of taking action. Challenging Justifications for Hoarding Negative impact on social interactions, emotional well-being, and emergency situations. The impact of hoarding on children's well-being and long-term trauma. The inefficiency and laborious nature of selling items from a hoard. The impracticality of holding onto items because we believe they could be fixed or upcycled. Setting deadlines for projects to address items awaiting repair or upcycling. Recognising Lies and Contradictions in Hoarding Behaviour Separating self-identity from possessions. Questioning the necessity of holding rare or one-of-a-kind items. Challenging the belief that items might be needed in the future. Holding onto clothing that no longer fits. Challenging the idea of holding onto items in anticipation of them coming back into fashion. Taking Immediate Action to Address Hoarding Behaviour Not postponing decluttering and organising efforts. Challenging the rationale for holding onto items for sentimental reasons. Considering hosting a virtual accountability group for dehoarding together via Zoom call. Identifying and Challenging Lies About Belongings Encouraging listeners to recognise and challenge lies about their belongings. Addressing beliefs about the necessity of more storage items and the significance of keeping just one item. Challenging justifications for keeping items, such as receiving them as gifts or having spent money on them. Emphasising that love and respect for others are not dependent on holding onto objects. Encouraging letting go of unused items, despite their perceived value or sentimental attachment. Torn between hoarding and avoiding waste. Recognise lies, challenge ourselves, become more accountable. Dehoarding reveals need for less storage. Overcoming sense of futility, one small effort at a time. Love doesn't depend on holding onto belongings. Letting go of excess stuff is liberating. Don't keep stuff for future fashion trends. Clutter affects every aspect of your life. Recognising lies, challenging beliefs, and being accountable for actions. Don't know what's needed; buying storage adds clutter. Letting go of stuff creates space for growth and reduces harm. Delaying decluttering prolongs discomfort. Let go of attachments to things from the past. Clutter affects mental health and safety, including for children.

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-135-dont-know-where-to-start-31-things-you-can-dehoard-today/ Sometimes you want to get something done, but you just need somebody to tell you where to start, right? You need a nudge. Because if we have too much choice in front of us, it can become overwhelming. Benefits of becoming a Dehoarding Darling supporter for the podcast New feature on top of monthly update with recommendations, extra podcast episodes, a song, and a top tip Feedback on the idea of a monthly Zoom call for accountability and task completion 31 tasks to tackle hoarding, including specific items and areas Clearing out old magazines and newspapers Sorting and discarding empty boxes Evaluating and recycling outdated electronic devices Matching and storing Tupperware without lids or vice versa Disposing of expired medication Discarding old cosmetics and sunscreens Evaluating old greeting cards for sentimental value Getting rid of out-of-date food in fridges, kitchen cupboards, and freezers Donating unread books Testing and discarding non-functional pens Releasing unused notebooks for others to use Discarding single socks without a pair, old calendars, dead batteries, and promotional items Unsubscribing from promotional emails Discarding duplicate kitchen utensils Decluttering clothing, jewellery, kitchen appliances, old receipts and bills, excess mugs and glasses, old towels and bedding, holiday decorations, unused hobby-related items, expired coupons and promotional flyers, and shoes Asking serious questions about the usability of items Downsizing items related to former hobbies Expired coupons and promotional flyers Being ruthless with old towels Dispassionately evaluating holiday decorations Decluttering shoes that are no longer worn Creating space for necessary items Getting rid of old shopping bags Donating usable bags to charity shops or food banks Encouragement to consider the 31 suggested decluttering tasks and taking action Motivating listeners to initiate decluttering and organizing Offering practical and achievable starting points for decluttering efforts Engaging the audience in taking positive steps towards decluttering their spaces Limiting clutter can lead to clarity. Declutter chargers, cables, and old devices responsibly. Keep meaningful greeting cards, discard the rest. You deserve fresh, safe food Donate books to libraries and charity organizations. Unused appliances are space-wasters. Reevaluate hobbies; downsize belongings for practicality.  

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today with Dr Jan Eppingstall, I look at the nuanced approaches needed for effectively supporting people with hoarding disorder. Jan provides valuable insights for therapists, emphasising the importance of curiosity, collaboration, and empathy in therapeutic sessions. The episode explores evidence-based interventions, the significance of exposure therapy, and the challenges counsellors may face when working with hoarding clients. Additionally, practical tips for building trust and understanding the unique needs of hoarders are shared. Listen for the tools you need to make a meaningful difference in the lives of your clients. Therapeutic Approach to Hoarding Disorder Importance of Collaboration in Therapy Hands-On Support and In-Home Visits Exposure Therapy Patience, Empathy, and Understanding in Therapy Different Modes of Therapy (CBT, ACT, Person-Centred Therapy) Education and Support for Mental Health Professionals Minimal Education on Hoarding Disorder in Clinical Psychology Programs Building Expertise in Hoarding Disorder Seeking Supervision Need for an Eclectic Approach in Therapy Values Clarification, Problem Solving Challenges for Therapists Generalist vs. Specialist Counsellors Addressing Co-Occurring Mental Health Issues Impact of Hoarding on Other Mental Health Issues Preparedness of Therapists to Deal with Hoarding Effective Therapies (Exposure Therapy, Cognitive Techniques) Collaboration with Professional Organizers Building Trust with Clients Generalist counsellors deal with common mental health issues. Open dialogue and willingness to share knowledge. Understanding clients holistically Struggles with hoarding and perfectionism in therapy. Assisting clients with letting go of possessions. Exposure technique for easing attachment to possessions. Tiny habits Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-133-what-to-prioritise-when-you-can-only-do-the-absolute-basics/ Today, I talk about prioritising when you're facing a hoarding situation and can only manage the absolute basics, with guidance for people struggling with motivation, energy, and overwhelming emotions like depression or grief. Tackling the challenges of hoarding when feeling depleted, the episode explores practical ways to approach the situation. Tune in for strategies to navigate hoarding with compassion and practicality, understanding that even the smallest progress is a step forward. Prioritising tasks and setting realistic goals Identifying the most effective tasks with limited time and energy Being objective and evaluating what can be done with available energy Avoiding busywork and focusing on tasks that push the needle Adjusting high standards and expectations to avoid disappointment Finding motivation in something you care slightly about Identifying and prioritising safety concerns Setting tiny, achievable goals to avoid feeling like a failure Using the hummingbird method to set yourself up for success Opting for tasks that require less emotional energy and decision-making Making tasks easier and setting up for success Incorporating comfort TV or music to make tasks more manageable Establishing a single daily task Seeking help to understand the reasons behind challenges Exploring available options for support and improvement Setting up a reward system without resorting to purchasing items Practicing gentleness and self-compassion Overcoming obstacles and taking small steps Recognising that small progress is still progress Implementing tasks that take only a few minutes to accomplish Understanding that self-care can involve both urging yourself to do things and allowing yourself to rest Consider effective use of limited time and energy. Find one thing you care about. Being kind to your future self. Consider options for small impactful actions when lacking energy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I talk about trying to dehoard when life is jam-packed with commitments. I share practical tips for making the most of those precious spare moments, tackling small areas at a time, and procrastination. I discuss productive procrastination, setting achievable goals, and seeking help, as well as valuable insights on time management, priorities and self-compassion. Strategies for Dehoarding When You're Really Really Busy Utilising small pockets of time for dehoarding Waiting for a call, boiling the kettle, or other short intervals Making a list of tasks for different time durations Focusing on small areas and celebrating small victories Seeing visible progress and maintaining motivation Productive procrastination and not making things worse Harnessing time spent on other useful tasks Saying no to new items and time commitments Gamifying decluttering and being consistent Setting daily goals for items to get rid of Seeking help from others with time-consuming tasks Tracking time to save time and prioritise Tracking time for analysis and identifying areas for saving time Using data to approach work about schedule changes Prioritising and understanding personal motivations for decluttering The importance of rest and downtime while working on decluttering Declutter efficiently using small pockets of time. Small victories lead to progress. Productive procrastination: using time for useful tasks. Learn to say no to new commitments. Consistency is key for successful project completion. Delegate tasks, track time for better efficiency. Balancing work and leisure is essential for well-being. Forgive yourself, prioritise and seek self-compassion. Reframe busyness as even more reason to simplify and declutter Small victories help to spur further progress Making the most of odd bits of time. Commitments and requests you don’t want to do Consistency over time is more productive than sporadic bursts. Delegating tasks Rest and downtime are essential for mental and physical health. It's not about suffering, but finding balance. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-131-compassionate-productivity-with-meg-kissack-of-the-daily-pep-challenging-the-cult-of-productivity-rethinking-self-care-and-embracing-vulnerability/ Today I welcome Meg Kissack to talk about compassionate productivity. We discuss the importance of showing up for yourself, taking imperfect action, and acknowledging the value of rest. We gently challenge traditional productivity advice, emphasising the emotional aspect of getting things done and the need to deprogramme the idea that rest must be earned. The conversation also addresses misconceptions about self-care, the impact of advertising on self-worth, and the necessity of embracing vulnerability and rewriting the narrative of success. Tune in as we advocate for embracing personal quirks, fostering genuine connections, and initiating more honest discussions beyond the façade of social media perfection. Compassionate Productivity and Personal Growth The importance of showing up for oneself Taking imperfect action The value of rest as a productive element Deprogramming the idea that rest must be earned Making friends with our future selves Small actions can make a big difference Replacing inner critic with inner wisdom Making tasks fun and easier Redefining Self-Care Redefining self-preservation Recognising and resisting marketing tactics and old narratives The impact of advertising targeting women and playing into insecurities Embracing Vulnerability and Self-Worth Rewriting the narrative of success Overcoming the fear of starting something before feeling completely ready Finding wisdom in people who are open about failures and the process of success Recognising self-worth without achieving goals or milestones Practicing self-compassion and acceptance Self-worth and embracing personal quirks Disparity between ideal productivity routines and reality Complexity of mental health issues, financial struggles, and relationships Unrealistic and patronising nature of one-size-fits-all approach to productivity Ddisconnect between privilege and reality Struggle with pushing through, compassion for self. Shame cycle of productivity and self-judgment. Transactional mindset, cruel self-treatment, need for imperfection. Self-worth leads to better decisions and boundaries. Self-worth isn't a game to unlock. Struggle with self-compassion and body image. Bohemian Rhapsody helps motivate and focus. Challenging the consumerism of self-care experience. Productivity doesn't always mean more is better. Struggle with cultural pressure to push through, learned to be compassionate for better well-being. Shame cycle, internalisation, and moral judgement. Compassionate productivity needed. Struggle with mental health and hoarding is complex and not easily fixed. Value yourself, make decisions that support you, self-worth leads to positive change. The struggle of starting small tasks with the intention of leading to bigger accomplishments. Questioning spending and self-care without materialism, commercialisation of self-care. Active self-care vs passive self-care. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Episode transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I look at the link between loneliness and hoarding behaviour with special guest Vassia Sarantopoulou, an expert psychologist and relationship counsellor. Come on a thought-provoking journey as Vassia and I discuss the complexities of loneliness, and practical steps for combating the shame associated with hoarding. There's the deep impact of societal expectations on emotional expression and emphasise the importance of forming genuine human connections for those affected by hoarding. From identifying warning signs of loneliness to exploring the link between trauma, grief, and hoarding, this episode offers insights into the struggles faced by individuals dealing with compulsive hoarding and the loneliness that often accompanies it. Vassia shares effective strategies for overcoming loneliness, reaching out for support, and finding ways to rebuild connections when you hoard. This episode is a candid and compassionate exploration of the intersection between loneliness and hoarding, offering support for those seeking to break the cycle. Loneliness and Its Impact Stigma and Misconceptions Surrounding Loneliness Two Layers of Loneliness: Normal Feeling vs. Deeper Sense of Loneliness Common Causes of Loneliness Overcoming the Fear of Rejection and Making New Friends Difficulties in Discussing Personal Struggles with Friends Importance of Creating Safe Spaces for Discussing Grief and Negative Emotions Combatting Shame and Overcoming Self-Judgment Steps to Combat Shame Associated with Hoarding Behaviour Impact of Societal Expectations on Emotional Expression Building Human Connections and Combatting Feelings of Shame Associated with Hoarding Behaviour Practical Steps to Build Human Connections and Combat Feelings of Shame Associated with Hoarding Behaviour Addressing Shame and Overcoming Self-Imposed Judgment Related to Hoarding Gradual Approach to Disclosing Hoarding in Relationships Practical Advice and Resources Purpose of Social Activities: Engaging in Activities to Reduce Pressure and Stress Building Relationships and Disclosing Hoarding: Choosing the Right Moment and Managing Expectations Taking a Gradual Approach to Disclosing Hoarding in Relationships Impact of Hoarding Symptoms on Loneliness Warning Signs of Loneliness and Isolation Mental and Physical Health Effects of Loneliness Seeking Harmful or Unhealthy Relationships Due to Loneliness The Contribution of Trauma, Grief, and Loss to Hoarding Behaviour and Loneliness Dual layers of loneliness lead to isolation. Loneliness stems from disconnecting from ourselves. Impact of loneliness mental and physical health. Loneliness and trauma can lead to hoarding. Reconnect with old friends, join social groups. Healing involves selective sharing and seeking help. Guide, allow time, ask, express, connect authentically. Layered loneliness: valuing connections, deeper isolation, worthiness doubts, fear, rationalisation. Relying solely on objects for emotional needs Neglecting physical appearance Changes in sleep Loss of interest in activities Hopelessness or helplessness. Traumatic experiences can lead to hoarding and social isolation as a protective mechanism. People in healing choose carefully who to share with Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Today, I'm looking at psychological flexibility and rigidity with Dr. Jan Eppingstall. Join us as we explore the impact of changing hoarding behaviours and learn about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a powerful tool in addressing psychological inflexibility. Discover the six core processes of psychological flexibility and inflexibility, and gain insights into challenging rigid beliefs. We'll also discuss the role of curiosity and acceptance in fostering adaptability and open-mindedness. So, grab your headphones and get ready for an enlightening conversation on embracing change and overcoming psychological rigidity. Importance of Psychological Flexibility in Hoarding Psychology inflexibility's role in hoarding behaviour Impact on life satisfaction Application to all humans, not just clinical pathologies Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a Model for Psychological Adaptability and Health The 6 core processes of psychological flexibility and inflexibility Acceptance vs. experiential avoidance Diffusion vs. cognitive fusion Flexible attention to the present moment vs. inflexible attention Self as context vs. attachment to conceptualised self Committed action vs. inactivity or impulsivity Hexaflex and its origin Changing Behaviours Trying new things, compromising, and risk-taking Change in one area affecting various aspects of life Techniques for Managing Panic Attacks Addressing panic attacks through curiosity and acceptance Healing experience of being understood and accepted Macro and Micro Perspectives Techniques such as meditation or mindfulness "Yes, And" Technique and Promoting Open-Mindedness Role in promoting compromise and open-mindedness Importance of considering alternatives with a curious and open mindHoarding, rigidity, and psychological inflexibility Experiential avoidance and rumination Inflexible actions Adapt to different situations while staying true to your values Taking action towards values, maintaining psychological flexibility. Practice observing your thoughts through thought listing Working on being less rigid, more flexible. Mediation in statistical analysis. Consider alternatives, embrace curiosity. Finding flexibility in perspective improves relationships Values to guide actions. Acceptance, understanding, and support from trusted individuals. Discussion on rigidity and inflexibility in hoarding, its correlation with various mental health issues. ACT academics aimed to create unified therapy model, different from DSM. Living in state of inaction, choosing values for action. Experiential avoidance, cognitive fusion ACT for hoarding. Questioning negative thoughts, being psychologically flexible, and testing beliefs to overcome attachment to possessions. Flexibility vs. avoidance in behaviour and mindset. Awareness of thoughts and feelings helps in making wise decisions. Being creative and adaptable in different contexts People may act differently in various situations, but there is a constant sense of self. Neurodiversity may impact ability to visualize or notice thoughts. Struggling with rigidity and flexibility, challenging it. Questioning values, flexibility, and inflexibility in decision-making and life choices. "Yes, and." Actions not matching with values Thought listing exercise to align with values. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe I take a look at the time-consuming nature of living in a hoard, including the impact of clutter on daily life. I cover the stress, procrastination, and decision fatigue that come with hoarding to shed light on the ways in which hoarding not only affects our living spaces but also consumes valuable time. Tune in for a candid conversation that challenges perceptions and offers a fresh perspective on the journey to overcome compulsive hoarding. Questioning time for tidying in a cluttered life. Gradual realisation about time consumption. Tidying takes time, hoarding takes longer. Organising the kitchen, decluttering, and categorising food items. Knowing where things are saves time. Reducing possessions saves time and effort. Hoarding makes cleaning harder and time-consuming. Rethink hoarding, liberate yourself, save future time. American society invented the concept of human failure. Organising saves time and reduces clutter. Having too much stuff makes cleaning difficult and time-consuming. The burden of hoarding and time wasted Reframing thoughts to improve decluttering. The concept of human failure was an American invention due to a capitalist society. The misconception of tidy people spending all their time cleaning and tidying. The realisation that living in hoarding is time-consuming due to the difficulties caused by clutter. The Impact of Hoarding on Daily Life The stress and time wasted in finding everyday items in a hoarded home. Decision-making process and procrastination caused by overwhelming clutter. Cleaning Challenges and Time Management The additional time required for cleaning and maintenance in a hoarded home. The difficulty of keeping a hoarded home clean compared to a neat and tidy home. The liberating aspect of dehoarding by freeing up time for the future. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Today, I am joined by the insightful Paige Pritchard, a money coach and the owner of the Overcoming Overspending community. Together, we dig into the complexities of overspending, addressing its emotional roots and psychological impact on individuals' lives. Paige offers invaluable insights into understanding the deeper motivations behind spending habits and emphasises the need to reclaim control and satisfaction in life. We discuss practical strategies, such as the "urge jar" to create distance from impulsive buying and find fulfilment without overspending. Join us as we explore the psychological effects of spending habits and discover empowering approaches to overcome overspending. Overspending defined Impact of shopping on time, relationships, confidence. Men face stigma for impulse spending, too. Striving for perfection Products tied to identity and feelings Resist urge to splurge Anticipation brings more pleasure than actual events. Recognise brain's response Individual approach: abstainer vs moderator. YNAB for budget transparency. Budgeting software provides helpful transparency for planning. Impact of shopping on time, relationships, and financial confidence. Perfectionism and spending habits Consumerism links products to identities and emotions Delay impulse buying Baseline awareness of brain's response to threats No spend challenges Personal spending behaviour Signs of overspending Financial implications Time spent on shopping and acquiring Impact on relationships Financial self-confidence Impact on environment and clutter Understanding Motivations and Emotional Experiences Behind Spending Aspirational spending Consumer culture Deeper motivations behind spending habits Impact of spending habits on psychological wellbeing Deeper reasons behind excessive spending Regaining a sense of control Escaping life Managing Impulse Buying Scarcity Spending The "urge jar" as a tool Form a new habit loop Dopamine without spending money. Fear of missing out Managing Regret Decision Making Inevitability of emotions Implications of extreme approaches. Budgeting software Managing annual expenses Psychological perspective behind impulsive buying Creating distance before making a purchase. Impact of social media on contributing to overconsumption Downplaying shopping addiction. The seriousness of shopping addiction and its effect on people's lives, especially for women. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Today with Dr Jan Eppingstall I explore the nuanced concept of insight in hoarding. From defining overvalued ideation to understanding the levels of insight, we unravel the challenges individuals face in recognising and addressing their hoarding behaviours. Through personal experiences, expert advice, and valuable research insights, this episode sheds light on personalised treatment approaches, effective communication strategies, and the importance of empathy and compassion. Get ready to gain a deeper understanding of hoarding disorder and discover practical ways to support individuals on their journey to overcoming compulsive hoarding. Insight into Hoarding Levels and Types of Insight Insight Variability Among Individuals Factors Influencing Insight (e.g. Comorbidity, Trauma, Life Experiences) Insight Study by Helena Drury and Colleagues Insight in Diagnosis of Hoarding Disorder Relationship Between Hoarding Severity, Self-Criticism, Shame, and Preservation of Self-Concept Overcoming Clutter Blindness Getting Rid of Things and Challenging Thoughts Taking Photographs of Living Spaces Vulnerability in Showing Spaces to Someone Else Exposing Oneself to Getting Rid of Things and Challenging Thoughts Identifying and Addressing Lack of Insight Anosognosia and Overvalued Ideation Reflecting Feelings and Thoughts The LEAP Technique for Support People, Coaches, and Therapists Understanding Hoarding Behaviour Motivations Behind Hoarding Tendencies Defensive Denial and Psychological Reactance Demographics and Characteristics of Hoarders in Research Settings and Community Services Neurocognitive Damage and Insight into Hoarding Behavior Communication and Approach in Supporting Hoarders Validating Concerns and Correcting Misunderstandings Empathetic and Compassionate Approach Using "Yes, And" Technique in Conversations Tailoring Therapy Approach for Hoarding Clients Treating things as an Experiment Importance of Curiosity and Playfulness in Therapy Approach Limitations of Manualised Treatments Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe By acknowledging potential roadblocks ahead, we can prepare emotionally and practically for upcoming challenges and even get more efficient when we’re dehoarding. I talk about the importance of being proactive, realistic, creative and adaptable when facing obstacles, while also seeking professional support when needed. I look at the need for planning, prioritising, and breaking down tasks into smaller chunks to overcome difficulties. Anticipating obstacles improves efficiency and motivation. Anticipating challenges leads to proactive decision-making. Anticipate obstacles, reflect, and evaluate for success. Stay open to possibilities, prepare for obstacles. Planning can overcome mental obstacles for success. Preparing for challenges in dehoarding process. Anticipate challenges and plan preventive measures. Allow yourself rest, plan ahead, ask for help. Anticipating obstacles while working. Subconscious problem-solving. Anticipating obstacles improves efficiency and reduces discouragement. Anticipating challenges improves decision-making, reduces panic. Being proactive is key. Planning to deal with nostalgic stuff eventually, while focusing on current tasks and building up decluttering skills. Anticipate and adapt to obstacles, focus on progress rather than completion. Reflection and objective evaluation are key. Stay open to possibilities, prepare with needed supplies, seek advice on overcoming obstacles from others. Address decision fatigue, burnout, and overwhelm to avoid stops and starts and make consistent progress. Prepare for challenges, gain confidence from past experiences. Anticipate and prevent burnout by pacing work, taking breaks. Take days off even if it feels wrong. Plan ahead and seek help. Tip for calming mind Importance of Anticipating Obstacles Benefits of problem-solving and emotional preparedness Improving efficiency and momentum in the decluttering process Assisting in planning, prioritising, and decision-making Overcoming Challenges Difficulty of anticipating obstacles, particularly for novices Leveraging experience to anticipate and surmount obstacles Adaptability, creativity, and flexibility in addressing anticipated obstacles The value of trust, resourcefulness, and forward planning Nostalgic items as potential distractions and triggers The importance of realistic goal setting and objective evaluation Anticipating Logistical Challenges Ensuring necessary supplies are available Learning from others' experiences with obstacles and their solutions Importance of planning, breaking down tasks, and consistent progress Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Today I delve into my experiences of overcoming avoidant behaviours when it comes to decluttering. I share how the Hummingbird Method has been instrumental in breaking down the fear and anxiety associated with tackling daunting hoarded areas. Join me as I explore the power of gentle, gradual progress and the freedom that comes from challenging rigid beliefs and behaviours. New method for managing tasks: hummingbird method. Overcoming fears Use the hummingbird method to beat procrastination. Versatile method adaptable for different tasks and problems. Challenging rigid beliefs to overcome hoarding habits. Experiment, try new things, open new doors. Gentle approach to tasks. Change is necessary for progress. Trying new things, starting small. Understanding the Difficulties of Letting Go The fear and difficulty involved in letting go of hoarded items The sense of freedom and positive change that can result from letting go Exploring hummingbirding Overcoming inflexible behavior and thinking through the hummingbird method The daunting piles were not as intimidating as imagined Challenging limiting rules and stepping into avoided areas to confront tasks Embracing a New Approach Encouragement to experiment and try new ways of approaching difficult tasks Starting with small steps, such as opening the cellar door The passive nature of the "Hummingbird method" in breaking down avoidance barriers Comparison to a kitten gradually expanding boundaries to become more comfortable Applying the Hummingbird Method Using the method to tackle fears and avoidance behaviours Gradually familiarising yourself with daunting tasks or situations Illustrative examples of avoiding tasks and gradually confronting them Comparing the method to a child overcoming a fear of balloons at a party The importance of flexibility and openness in challenging rigid beliefs and behaviours One tool in a range of strategies Recognising that there is no one-size-fits-all solution for overcoming hoarding and avoidance behaviours Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.