Did It Feel Good?

This week we skip the chit chat and get right to it. We’re talking all things British Monarchy but specifically the way The Firm has treated the women brave enough to rebel against its archaic ways. Focusing on Diana, Princess of Wales and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex we go down MANY paths but all roads lead back to phone sex and the patriarchy. Also, Camilla & Charles are the worst? 

Hey besties- This week we bring you part two of the reconciliation series with Sam and Jazmin, formerly known as Cindy. The pair dive deep into the tumultuous conclusion of their roommate-ship, discuss the months following their reconciliation and how they have grown into better people out of a difficult situation. They have ultimately created strong boundaries, good conflict resolution skills and above all, a much  healthier friendship. 

Hi besties! We have a special episode for you this week! Sam sits down with the friend we all know as Cindy to discuss the painful deterioration of their friendship last year. They dig deep into why it happened, what they've learned since the major falling out and how they have healed from it. In this highly vulnerable episode we get to hear how the two reconciled and how they continue to work through the individual elements that led to  the fracture of their friendship. 

Hi besties! Or should we say Witches? Just in time for Halloween, this week we chat about the witch hysteria of 1692 in Salem, Massachusetts, fear of the unknown, our capacity to accept difference, and maybe some naked dancing in the woods.  Get cozy, it’s spooky season!

Hi Besties - nothing is as it seems in this BANGER of a movie. Olivia Wilde truly did not do her movie justice with all of the drama on and off set and poor promoting- we agreed that the production should have hired us as their PR reps. In this review we skip *most* of the drama surrounding the set and dive deep into the message of the film and how well it drove home the narrative it succeeded in conveying…or did it? (There are spoilers in the second half of the episode but we give you plenty of time to hit pause before you hear something you might not want to!)

Hi besties! This week we are re-releasing our iconic episode: Codependent Disaster. Released in early Summer 2021, Savannah was at the beginning of her self discovery journey and Sam had finally moved into her studio apartment and was ready to open up about the personal turmoil she had been experiencing over the last 6 months. And the REASON we are re-releasing this episode is because Sam and "Cindy" had the chance to talk and work through the dissolution of their friendship. We will be releasing that episode next week but we wanted to provide a refresher on the context of all that occurred. If its your second time listening there's always more to be gained by this episode. Whether you are struggling with the lost a friendship or battling with codependency in your own life this episode touches on many nuances that affect us all. 

Hi Besties- we're back for Season 3! Thank you sticking with us for 40 episodes! This episode we review the notable moments over the last four months that impacted our lives in  MAJOR ways. This season we are covering so much content and we are so excited to continue analyzing pop culture, have cerebral conversation about the real housewives franchise and as always continue to explore self discovery within ourselves. 

Savannah says goodbye, for now! The girls catch up and check in before Savannah has a baby (VERY soon) and goes on maternity leave! This episode gets deeper then expected when Sam brings up both her place in Savannah’s  life once the baby is here and the podcast’s place. It’s an episode we hope everyone listens to for the important reminder that just because your life is changing drastically doesn’t mean the people and things you love have to go away. 

We're tired babes, there's a lot going on. Savannah is v pregnant, and booked and BUSY trying to get her life together before a baby shows up. Sam is surviving a sex injury. Also we're going on a girls trip this weekend! We're keeping it light this week (but we do touch briefly on the SCOTUS draft decision leak re: overturning Roe v Wade) and talk about some of our most and least favorite looks from the Met Gala. We also spend some time analyzing Kim K's particular sphere of celebrity, Marilyn Monroe, and why we probably shouldn't be celebrating disordered eating to fit into a 50 year old dress for a 10 minute walk down a red carpet. 

TW: domestic violenceThis week we’re catching up! Savannah gives pregnancy updates and vacation plans, Sam fills us in on work and the girls talk about a very exciting concert they’re going to in September. Then it’s all things Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. We talk about the defamation case, the op-ed, Amber’s psych eval, and the effect this case has on victims of DV everywhere. 

This week we talk about how fucking random co-star is and all about the infamous queen of provocation, Kenya Moore. Even if you don’t love Real Housewives like we do we promise this is still a great listen, especially if you struggle to understand why grown adults act out for seemingly no reason at all (spoiler alert: it’s because their inner child is DRIVING the bus, honey).

This week Sam tries to save her basil plant and Savannah hired a doula. Also Will Smith slapped Chris Rock at the Oscars and it was definitely NOT a joke. We talk about what we mean when we talk about violence, the long history of black women being ridiculed for their hair, and why we (as a society) can’t move on from the infidelity in Will and Jada’s marriage. We also talk about how white people, especially white women, understand interpersonal violence through the lens of privilege and why our gut reaction to things like “the slap” might be counterproductive to antiracism work/allyship. As always when we talk about systemic racism we do our very best not to continue harmful narratives and approach these conversations with our own privilege, identity, and position in mind. We don’t always get it right but we always want to be accountable, always reach out if you think we can have these conversations in a better way. 

This week we’re still talking about Kim and Kanye. We have THOUGHTS after Kanye publicly released the name of his kid’s school (hi, this is so dangerous!). We continue the conversation about why rich men are allowed to get away with so publicly abusing the women they’re with (spoiler alert: misogyny), have a side bar about Tori Lanez and Megan the Stallion, and have an important conversation about systemic racism. 

It’s a long one because we’ve got a LOT to say after two weeks off. We talk about how spirit breaking it is to book travel using flight credit with your credit card company, best by dates on food (including a questionable yogurt smoothie Sam tried to drink), an update on podcast content, and FINALLY we delve into the Kim & Kanye divorce. We talk a lot about mental health and emotional abuse and how absolutely deeply misogynistic Kanye has always been. 

This week we’re reviewing episode one of Shrill! We talk about representations of fatness in media (especially tv). The kind of treatment plus size women are expected to accept because they don’t fit into conventional beauty standards. And why you probably shouldn’t date anyone named Ryan. 

This week Sam gets ghosted? Or maybe her date lost his phone or got mugged or was kidnapped? Either way, she tells us about a great date followed by a true mystery. Savannah talks about navigating a difficult family situation as her most integrated self. And because we're talking about integration, we've got to talk about (and to) our inner child and how little Sam and little Savannah stay thriving in chaos (even though our adult selves would prefer a little peace!).

This week Savannah gives an update on her health including a new discovery and maybe finds an answer for the heart palpitations she talked about last week? Sam has zero work-life balance, literally, the hours she's working should be illegal. Then we talk about the best tool to use to break the cycle of dysfunction: boundaries! We give you some helpful ways to identify when you might need better boundaries, how to start setting up boundaries in your relationships, and we spill some harsh truths about why you need to stop victimizing yourself. 

This week, Sam is a third wheel, Savannah wears maternity jeans and tries to figure out how one even gives birth? We also talk about all things body hair: the internalized misogyny of needing to be hairless, Brazilian waxes, childhood trauma of learning to shave, turning into an Olympic gymnast to shave the backs of your thighs, and watching House while getting eaten out for the first time (you’ve gotta listen to the episode if you want to figure out how that relates to body hair…). 

This week, Sam has FOMO about not having Covid? Savannah tries to buy a stroller on Facebook and we’re talking all about how pregnancy and other BIG life transitions makes everyone around you weird and kind of invasive? Savannah talks about how pregnancy has been triggering and how hard it is to navigate familial expectations when there’s a new child joining the fam. 

This week we reflect on the chaos and growth! we had in 2021. We also talk about what we’re working on in 2022, namely leaving Covid behind.