How To Get Married And Stay Married

The recent spate of reports of abuse and domestic violence prompted us to continue addressing foundational issues of marriage. This week’s episode is very important if you are a single person on the brink of making one of the most important decisions of your life. Can one tell if someone you are in relationship with is or can become an abuser after the all-important words ‘I Do’ have been said? How can one spot the signs and more importantly; act on the red flags in your relationship?  My guest, Blondie Okpuzor and I address these in today’s episode of ‘How to Get Married and Stay Married’.  Blondie Okpuzor worked for a US based charity organisation that focuses on domestic violence victims and she brings to the fore; insights that can help you make informed decisions with regards abuse before you get married.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.Connect with us on Instagram and YouTube @nkmaduforo. Do follow and subscribeWe would love to hear from you and hear your marriage questions too! We will do our best to answer these questions during the podcast. Please write via nkmaduforo@gmail.com

Happy New Year! We  kick-start  'How To Get Married And Stay Married' podcast this 2022  'In Pursuit Of Peace'. Peace...just let it roll off your tongue: the word itself exudes peace. To make it easy for us to pursue peace in our marital relationship, we will be looking at the acronym P.E.A.C.E in relation to peace. Please listen, take notes and most importantly; apply the gems in this life changing episode to attain or maintain peace in your relationship.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.Connect with us on Instagram and YouTube @nkmaduforo. Do follow and subscribeWe would love to hear from you and hear your marriage questions too! We will do our best to answer these questions during the podcast. Please write via nkmaduforo@gmail.com

I can tell you this much; nobody wants a bad marriage. Yet, some of us can't help but be drawn again and again to bad guys with whom the risk of ending up with a bad marriage is higher.With this said, how then do you stop falling for bad guys?  I start this episode by letting you know why you fall for bad guys in  the first place and then proceed to tell you how to stop falling for them.As always, the goal is for you to get married and stay married and I hope this episode contributes positively to your marriage journey.  A side note for the guys...you can apply this if you find these traits in the ladies you keep falling for.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.Connect with us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/nkmaduforo/?hl=en ) and YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/c/NKMaduforo) . Or just search for @nkmaduforo. Please follow and subscribeWe would love to hear from you and hear your marriage questions too! We will do our best to answer these questions during the podcast. Please send your questions to nkmaduforo@gmail.com

We continue addressing foundational issues of marriage. This week’s episode is very important for you if you are a single person on the brink of making one of the most important decisions in your life. In this fast-paced world where bad news about marriages hit you faster than the good news and where 50% of marriages end up in divorce, why is marriage important?  I delve into the reason why marriage is important on this episode of ‘How to Get Married and Stay Married’. This one is a refresher course for you if you are married. It helps marriages to continue to strive and thrive!Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.Connect with us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/nkmaduforo/?hl=en ) and YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/c/NKMaduforo) . Or just search for @nkmaduforo. Please follow and subscribeWe would love to hear from you and hear your marriage questions too! We will do our best to answer these questions during the podcast. Please send your questions to nkmaduforo@gmail.com

Marry! Marry!! Marry!!! Yes please but definitely not for the seven reasons on this week’s episode. I have found from marriage counselling that a lot of the issues that pop up later in marriages stem from foundational challenges that should have been addressed before proceeding into the marriage. I hope this episode helps singles have a good think about the reason for which they are getting married and retrace their steps if it’s for any of the reasons on this episode. And if you are married already? There’s always room for reflection, review and growth. That’s why it’s a lifetime relationship.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.Connect with us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/nkmaduforo/?hl=en ) and YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/c/NKMaduforo) . Or just search for @nkmaduforo. Please follow and subscribeWe would love to hear from you and hear your marriage questions too! We will do our best to answer these questions during the podcast. Please send your questions to nkmaduforo@gmail.com

Darling; whose fault is it? That’s the question we are dissecting on Episode 5 of the ‘How to Get Married and Stay Married’ podcast. Have you ever been blamed? How did it make you feel? Are you constantly blaming everyone else? It does not feel good to be blamed. Most people will fight back and this leads to a cycle of conversation that leaves both people frustrated. Why do we blame the other person and how can we stop playing the blame game? We see blame played out in the Garden of Eden; Adam blamed Eve; Eve blamed the serpent. Who did the serpent blame? My guest, Chindah Chindah and I have an eye-opening conversation on the topic and how blame sabotages marriages. We conclude with how to break the blame cycle.  Other highlights from this episode are♟️ Why blame is employed as a natural defence (4:15)♟️ Blame’s effect on marriage (6:12)♟️ ‘Blamer’ and ‘Blamee’ (6:55)♟️ Blame in the Garden of Eden (9:36)♟️ The genesis of blame (11:12)♟️ Christ did not play the blame game (14:15)♟️ Approaching issues from a place of love and empathy (18:44)♟️ The way you respond is more vital than what you say (21:17)♟️ How can the blame cycle be broken? (23:20)♟️ Enforcing boundaries (37:17)♟️ Marriage is a partnership (41:37)Chindah Chindah, is an award winning Motivational and Transformational Speaker, a Certified Life, Relationship, and Performance coach. An NLP Practitioner, Best Selling Author, Entrepreneur, Preacher, Senior IT Consultant, Passionate Youths & Young Adults Leader & Mentor.He is the author of two bestselling books: What Can I Do to Make My Marriage Work? And The Power of Personal Change.He coaches mature single adults, engaged persons, newlyweds, the married, single parents, separated and the divorced, to find their unique relationships and personality differences, to responsibly manage and overcome all relationships pain points, to create and build a relationship that is stable, strong, and satisfying throughout their lives together.He is a passionate, God-lover and a sent preacher to declare God’s word and deliver God’s people from all satanic strongholds due to the captivity of sinful living. He considers Pentecostal evangelization as the only greatest and highest calling of his life while on the earth.He is married to his God-fearing, gorgeous, and beautiful wife, Chimzi for the past 12 years and they both have two adorable and talented boys, Chris, and Cedric. He resides in England, UK, where he oversees all his secular, business, speaking, and spiritual engagements. For more about him, check out his website www.marriedlifemanagement.comThank you for subscribing, listening, reviewing and rating this podcast.Connect with us on Instagram and YouTube @nkmaduforo

Did you know that premarital counselling can decrease divorce rates by as much as 30%?  The importance of premarital counselling cannot be overemphasised! About 10-15 percent of couples who undertake premarital counselling decide not to get married after getting some marriage education. Starting out right tremendously increases your chances of staying married for the long haul. In this episode, we go back in time to the very beginning of marriage. My guest, Mrs. Bola Fawole, does a great job of setting out the biblical principles and foundation on which a marriage relationship should be founded.  As a highly experienced pre-marital counsellor and marriage coach, there are no holds barred in this episode. Mrs. Fawole sweetly but firmly lays down the pillars that will keep a marriage relationship going for life! This one for is not for the faint hearted but it is definitely for the single and married who want to stay married.Key highlights from this episode are♟️ How did we come about marriage? (4:03)♟️ The foundation of marriage (5:20)♟️ How do we start marriage right? (9:45)♟️ Marriages do face storms (14:00)♟️ Jesus in your marriage (15:15)♟️ The case of wives who are older than their husbands (19:10)♟️ All the things to look at before you take the big leap into marriage (30:05)♟️ How do we relate with our in-laws (34:11)♟️ When things start going wrong, self is involved (41:50) Mrs. Bola Fawole has been married for 36 years and is a mother to four adult children and grandmother to four grandchildren. She comes with years of experience having been a part of the pre-marital counselling team in her church for decades.Thank you for subscribing, listening, reviewing and rating this podcast.Do well to connect with us on Instagram and YouTube @nkmaduforo.  

On Episode 3, I am considering ‘How Boundaries Can Help You Stay Married’ with my guest Bralade Koroye-Emenanjo. In her own words, “You and your spouse most likely started your marriage as deep in love as possible never intending to do each other harm and seeking to do right by each other. However, we all have different perspectives in life, our values and culture and personalities inform those preferences of what we believe and how we want to be treated. It goes even further to determine how we treat others.That is why you may mean well but end up doing something that offends your partner and vice versa till you wonder how you can keep the peace and love without compromising your values (excerpt from ‘A line in the sand’ by Bralade Koroye-Emenanjo) Key highlights from this episode are♟️ Drawing a line in the sand in your relationships (3:31)♟️ How ‘boundaries’ are a key part of marriage (6:32)♟️ Definition of boundaries (9:37)♟️ The unity candle (12:29)♟️ A union is not an excuse to control your spouse (16:38)♟️ Boundaries and in-laws (23:44)♟️ Using ‘I’ to express boundaries (29:17)♟️ How boundaries can help singles (30:18)♟️ Money philosophy (51:27) Bralade Koroye-Emenanjo is the founder of Preach What You Practice Media, home of the PWYP Book Series, Podcast and Institute. Relatable and didactic, Bralade’s work of fiction embodies the rich culture of her heritage and universal principles to live by. An ardent advocate of thriving relationships, she coaches individuals and couples to embrace their personal power and leverage healthy boundaries. Bralade is a writer, speaker, coach, podcaster, engineer, leader and minister. She champions purpose fulfilment, gender and cultural diversity, equity & inclusion. She makes her home in Houston with her three kids and husband, Obioha.For more about her, check out her website www.bralade.comThank you for subscribing, listening, reviewing and rating this podcast.Connect with us on Instagram and YouTube @nkmaduforo. 

Why Did I Marry You?’... the question of the millennium. In this week's episode, we tackle the question 'Why Did I Marry You?'. For the singles, you can revise the question to read, ‘Why Should I Marry You?’. This episode requires a lot of introspection and reflection and I start by asking you to muster up an image of your spouse in your mind and ask this very pertinent question, ‘Why Did I Marry You?’. ‘Why?’ is a very important question as it helps you know the cause, reason, or purpose for something. I take us back to the garden of Eden and use Adam and Eve’s marriage to explore different reasons why people get married but, I am more interested in your own ‘why?’. This is because knowing your ‘Why?’ helps when the rainy day comes and trust me, every marriage will experience rainy days.I make the connection between the reason or reasons for getting married and your marriage staying the course or not when the going gets tough! For example, what happens when the table turns if you only married your spouse for the following reasons  ·       Looks·       Economic stabilityOther highlights from this episode are♟️ Adam and Eve’s rainy day (6:05) ♟️ Know your ‘Why?’ (7:25) ♟️ 5 examples of long haul ‘Whys’ (7:55) ♟️ My own ‘Why?’ (8:12) ♟️ A word for the Singles (15:02) Final point... I hope your 'whys' are the types that help you stay married. Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.Connect with us on Instagram and YouTube @nkmaduforo. Do follow and subscribeWe would love to hear from you and hear your marriage questions too! We will do our best to answer these questions during the podcast. Please write via nkmaduforo@gmail.com 

 ‘Who stole my dream marriage?’ is the title of today’s solo episode. Many of us wake up to the reality that the marriage we have may not exactly match the marriage of our dreams. I start this episode by taking us back to the ‘Happily ever after’ dream that has been sold to us over the years by books, movies, and tv shows. From our childhood days, we all conjured up images of marriage some of which form part of the template for our dream marriages. For others, these images translate to expectations and the foundation on which the marriage is built. I paint the picture of this dream wedding in detail and elaborate on how we have been sold the concept of a problem-free marriage as these programmes focus more on the perfect wedding day as opposed to the ‘perfect’ marriage. The reality of marriage, however, is far away from these fantasies and can be jolting, to say the least. I acknowledge the impact this has had on some people and their reason for giving up on marriage which is one of my motivations for starting ‘How To Get Married And Stay Married’.I ask pertinent questions such as ·       Should we stop dreaming?·       Is marriage just a myth?Other highlights from this episode are♟️ The Lion King illustration (4:46)♟️ Picture perfect wedding day (5:47)♟️ Why I started ‘How To Get Married And Stay Married’ (6:09)♟️ My shattered dream (6:34)♟️ Adam and Eve’s dream marriage (7:00)♟️ Bridging the gap between fantasy and reality (11:00)On a final note... a marriage has two people in it so you can’t just dream alone.Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe to this podcast.Connect with us on Instagram and YouTube @nkmaduforo. Do follow and subscribeWe would love to hear from you and hear your marriage questions too! We will do our best to answer these questions during the podcast. Please write via nkmaduforo@gmail.com

Hello and welcome to  'How To Get Married And  Stay Married' podcast with NK Maduforo. A podcast that inspires you to get married  and stay married!If you are a busy career professional or an entrepreneur (single or married) and you want to stay married, this is your show! On the show, I will share with you truths that will definitely take your marriage to that level beyond your dreams.  White wedding gown, black tuxedo, wedding day is over; honey moon is past...the marriage journey continues!   Every episode will equip you with tools you need to make your marriage journey sweeter. You want to stay married? We will help you stay married.