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It's the 2023 recap, with a cameo appearance from Justine dog Ollie (there was a thunderstorm approaching, listen to the end to hear his sign off!)In this episode we talk about the podcast, this year's season, the guests we've had on and our top 5 episodes for the year.We get into answering tricky questions, because that's what a lot of parents will be doing over the summer here in Australia, where there might be more time to check in with kids, and time too to have that conversation you've been putting off.And we finish with going through some real anonymous questions that have come through the Q box during the year, with emerging themes of: children not being able to talk to their parents about getting their period for the first time, and teenagers struggling with how to slow down the sexual aspects of a relationship, how to communicate about boundaries and also, one interesting question: is it normal to not want to kiss your partner?Listen for our tips and Justine's fantastic idea which would be very helpful for children/parents who struggle to talk face to face. Bottom line: this doesn't mean the conversation doesn't -- or shouldn't -- happen!We want to wish everyone a happy and safe holiday season!

In this episode, Justine and Jenny talk feelings. We all have them, and sometimes they can be a challenge. Even as parents and caregivers, we still have our feelings while trying to help support our children. We discuss why it's important to teach and talk about emotions, because as adults we need to be able to manage/self-regulate and express emotions appropriately, and we want to raise children into humans who are ok to be around. We chat strategies and structures and why those big emotional displays can sometimes be an indication that something is not quite right.  Mentioned in this episode:·      Concept of ‘taught not caught’·      Strategies and structures·      Tiredness can be a big factor in meltdowns·      Hunger less so, but can be relevant·      Sometimes big emotional displays are a sign a parent needs to probe a bit more, be curious about where it’s coming from·      Mood swings·      The idea of a world made for extroverts, and how introverts manage·      Importance of parents being curious and not interrogating·      Encouraging children to come up with self soothing strategies (that are healthy and sustainable)·      Importance of being aware of other people’s emotions, especially important for developing empathy and learning about respect·      Reading books – with young children, looking at the character illustrations and pointing out facial expressions·      Empathy and the connection to fiction – imagining how things are for others·      Anger and society/cultural attitudes; gender differences between expression of anger (girls/boys)·      How can we teach our children to manage their anger in healthy ways·      The importance of apology – techniques of apologising and accepting apologies. Parents need to model how to apologiseCorrection: difference between feelings and emotions. Many people use interchangeably but there is a technical differenceResources and other things we mention in this episode:Before Your Teenagers Drive You Crazy, Read This!: Battlefield Wisdom for Stressed-Out Parents, by Australian author Nigel LattaLena Dunham podcast – The C Word (not educational, more a contemporary cultural look at women and how they’ve been labelled mad and bad, or ‘crazy’)Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for more resources, information and support.  General primary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/resources-for-parents/ and secondary resources here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/secondary-resources/ Send us questions or comments to THATsexedpodcast@gmail.com 

In this wide-ranging discussion, Jenny speaks with one of our fabulous educators. Rebecca is in her fifth year working for Sex Education Australia. She is secondary-trained as a teacher and hadn’t taught sex ed before joining our company. While working with SEA, Rebecca has dabbled with all the grades but generally works in Year 5 and above, and at the secondary level. She has also done a bit of teacher training around inclusive languageWe talk:Gender roles, parenting roles and balancing child care with ‘outside the home’ workHow different families can beThe idea of ‘lead’ or ‘primary’ carerThe importance of listening, being exposed to perspectives we disagree withRebecca gives a great explanation of sexual intercourse – ‘something that grown-ups can do with their bodies’. Rebecca’s 5 ½ year old happy to leave it at thatAdvice to parents if have child asking to be called a different name or referring to themselves as a gender they weren’t assigned at birth. Some children are working out identity stuff really earlyAnd there are so many great quotes from Rebecca:‘Two years ago no [students] would have known the term ‘non binary’‘The concepts are relatively simple, when you take the politics out of it’‘If you talk about people’s feelings, and you don’t write anybody’s feelings off and everyone’s allowed to have their feelings and have their perspective in a way that doesn’t dehumanise other people, that’s the closest we can maybe come to taking the politics out’‘ People who have daughters are really across this stuff… people who have sons think one of two things: ‘Oh he’s just a little baby still – sweet and innocent still, I don’t want to corrupt him’ or they think ‘well that’s just part of what it is to grow up to be a man and he’ll get through “gross puberty” and we’ll send him off and he’ll just get on with it.’‘I’m coming across these boys like today, who follow me out of the room and say “Rebecca, thank you so much.” And look me in the eye. And they are so genuine because they have not had somebody chat with them about the basic functions of their body.’‘The focus should be basic universal ideas around respect and consent’‘We need more men around who can model masculinity in positive ways’‘The idea that boys and men are unable to process their feelings without a woman – they need a sister or mum [to help them do that]’ . Idea from book Peggy Orenstein ‘Boys and Sex’‘Talk to people that you respect and trust who are well-read and who understand what the best research and best practices are. Read books, talk with your partner if you have one, think about how it’s going to work in your broader family.’Resources:Boys and Sex – Peggy OrensteinEzra Klein Show on Apple Podcastshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ezra-klein-show/id1548604447Rainbow Family PlaygroupsBillie B Brown and Hey Jack – Sally Rippin and Aki FukuokaAnything by Cory SilverbergVisit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au to browse our pages for more resources, information and support.  Send us questions or comments to THATsexedpodcast@gmail.com   Thanks for listening!   Jenny + Justine 

Justine and Jenny talk ‘nuts and bolts’ – safer sex, STIs and contraception. We know how important it is for young people to learn how to take charge of all aspects of their health -- including their sexual health if that becomes part of their lives -- as they're growing up. Having a conversation with your young person is not promoting anything other than the idea that you want them to be informed in a way that will help them be healthy, well and safe. Research tells us young people want to hear from their parents about these topics – even if you think they’re not listening, keep talking!*** Disclaimer: we aren’t medical professionals or lawyers. This information (as well as what's presented in the episode) is for education purposes only. Please make sure you seek professional advice if necessary ***Topics we cover:Confidentiality – eg ‘Can I see a doctor on my own? Will they tell my parents?’What is a ‘mature minor’?Medicare cards and bulk billingHow parents can consider starting a conversation around the topic of medical rights with their teenagerSexually Transmissible Infections (STIs)/contraceptionSuggest young people to do research online around contraception (from credible sources)Encourage young people to fact check, eg getting health info from TikTok etc. There are some good educators but also a lot of people with agendas and misinformationParents should let their young people know if they hear something that seems wrong or contradicts what they know or were taught, it’s important to check in about itCondoms – most easily-accessed and used form of contraception. Also protect pretty well against STIsDamsEmergency contraception (EC), also known as Plan-B by many young AustraliansIUDsSTI tests at least once a year if sexually activeStigma of STIs, disclosure of STI status to partnerUTIs/thrush/cystitis – not STIs but can be common and are something to be managedConsentImportance of being inclusive, and parents acknowledging that not all humans want to be sexual; some practice celibacy for various reasons, some identify as asexualServices we mention:Better Health Channel Sexual Health VictoriaSHV Melbourne ClinicFreecall 1800 013 952 Telephone 03 9660 4700Mon-Fri 9am-5pm Level 1, 94 Elizabeth Street Melbourne VIC 3000 Jean Hailes TikTok educator – Sex Ed with DB (18+ material; it’s ‘out there’ so be prepared) Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for more resources, information and support.   Secondary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/secondary-resources/ Send us questions or comments to THATsexedpodcast@gmail.com   Thanks for listening!   Jenny + Justine

Justine chats with Kardie Whelan, a disability and community educator at Sexual Health Victoria. Kardie has worked as a sexuality educator for people with cognitive disability for the past 15 years, and in a variety of disability settings including special schools and TAFEs.Mentioned:About language – what to use and what not to useperson first approach to languageAssumptions people shouldn’t make about a person with a disabilityChildren and young people with a disability are at greater risk of sexual abuseThe idea of approaching sexuality education from a place of pleasure rather than risk or protection platformsFinal tips1.     Talk early, talk often2.     Avoid jargon, innuendo3.     Be clear4.     Be conciseResources·       https://www.secca.org.au/·       SECCA app·       Planet Puberty·       Anatomically correct dolls·       https://www.amaze.org.au/2019/03/amaze-launches-autism-accessible-menstruation-resources/·       SHV Special Schools ToolkitBooks ·       About Masturbation for Males·       About Masturbation for Females·       Special Boys Business ·       Puberty and Special Girls ·       Things Tom likes·       Things Ellie likes·       What’s Happening to Ellie·       What’s happening to Tom Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for more resources, information and support.  Primary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/resources-for-parents/ and secondary resources here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/secondary-resources/ Send us questions or comments to THATsexedpodcast@gmail.com   Thanks for listening!   Jenny + Justine

In this episode, Justine and Jenny continue their chat about how to answer those tricky questions that we can get as parents and caregivers from our children. In the classroom, our team run an activity called Anonymous Question Box and in this episode we look at some more of those Year 5/6 (age 10-11 years old) questions.As soon as they go out into the world we need to arm them. If we’ve never discussed things with them, then they won’t come to us. They are going to hear things from other people - right and wrong - and they will hear about things that confuse them. They may see things too, either material they've found themselves because of curiosity or other people may show them videos and pictures. So if we as parents aren't present and available and willing to speak, to answer questions, to correct misinformation and give clear expectations, then we are leaving our kids alone to navigate the big job of growing up. Questions talked about in this episode:Why do people get crushes?Why do people get erections? They're embarrassing, how can I manage them?What's porn? My friend thinks it's funny but what is it?When is the right time to have sex? How does someone know they're ready?Other things we talk about: What is normal sexual development versus what would be considered red flag behaviour (check out these graphics from the NT and QLD governments: https://education.nt.gov.au/__data/assets/image/0010/731683/traffic_lights_guide.jpghttps://www.qld.gov.au/community/getting-support-health-social-issue/support-victims-abuse/child-abuse/child-sexual-abuse/sexual-behaviour-in-childrenPlease visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for more resources, information and support.  Primary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/resources-for-parents/ and secondary resources here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/secondary-resources/ Send us questions or comments to THATsexedpodcast@gmail.com   Thanks for listening!   Jenny + Justine 

Justine and Jenny answer some of the tricky questions that their team has received in schools, to show parents and caregivers how to approach the questions that can come from children towards the end of primary school. As soon as they go out into the world we need to arm them. If we’ve never discussed things with them, then they won’t come to us. They are going to hear things from other people - right and wrong - and they will hear about things that confuse them. They may see things too, either material they've found themselves because of curiosity or other people may show them videos and pictures. So if we as parents aren't present and available and willing to speak, to answer questions, to correct misinformation and give clear expectations, then we are leaving our kids alone to navigate the big job of growing up. Student questions answered in this episode (from year 5 & 6 students, approximately 10-11 years old):How can I tell my friends that telling jokes about sex isn't funny?What is sex?(This from a parent: I saw an 8-year-old call their mum 'sexy' in the playground after school.'What's a blow job?What's a condom?How and why do people masturbate?Resources we talk about:Sex is a Funny Word: A Book about Bodies, Feelings and YOU, by Corey SilverbergThe Amazing True Story of How Babies are Made, by Fiona KatauskasPlease visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for more resources, information and support.  Primary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/resources-for-parents/ and secondary resources here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/secondary-resources/ Send us questions or comments to THATsexedpodcast@gmail.com   Thanks for listening!   Jenny + Justine 

In this episode Justine talks with Holly-ann Martin, founder of Safe4Kids, which she established in 2011, to work towards child abuse prevention. In 2016, Holly-ann was inducted into the WA Women’s Hall of Fame, and some people may not know but she’s a very accomplished swing dancer. Holly-ann is working towards the reduction of child sexual abuse and so all her programs are built around the concepts of protective education. With 88% of pornography showing violence against women, 45% of all child sexual abuse being child-to-child or teenager-to-child, and with a 122% increase in online grooming over the last three years (due to Covid and children being on screens more) it would feel like an uphill battle. However, Holly-ann is tireless and dedicated. She chats in this episode with Justine Kiely-Scott.Topics covered:the remote and other work Holly-ann doeswhy Holly-ann doesn’t use the term ‘pornography’ with children under 10; and how she does talk about sexual material onlineHolly-ann says ‘it’s not just pornography. It’s horror and violence as well’how children in Holly-ann’s classes tell her the main places they see pictures of naked people are on YouTube and TikTok, and then after that iPhones and iPadswhat parents need to tell their children, to prepare for them seeing something onlinewhat children fear most about telling their parents that they’ve seen somethingthe importance of adults modelling healthy expression of feelingssafe versus unsafe secretsthe key online safety tips parents should be aware ofhow parents can report child exploitation; what they should do if they see something on their child’s phone (and what they should not do)how parents can manage risk to their child at playdates; what sorts of things to think aboutthe concept of the ‘No Trouble Bubble’why using technology as a punishment (ie threats to take it away) might not be a good ideadifference between feelings and behaviourimportance of children learning how to describe behaviour, eg instead of just saying ‘they were teasing me’ being able to say exactly what the other child was doingidea of family code wordsLinks mentioned in the show:Online agreement for families (sign up to receive free at the link below, as well as read tips on keeping your kids safe online)https://safe4kids.com.au/strategies-to-help-ensure-your-child-is-cyber-safe/ YouTube channel with all Holly-ann’s songs (and lots of other useful videos)https://www.youtube.com/user/Thesafe4kids  Poster: what to do if a child discloses abuse https://safe4kids.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Safe4Kids-Disclosure.pdfCommon Sense Media (reviews of games and films for parents to inform themselves and help them make decisions)https://www.commonsensemedia.org/eSafety Commissionerhttps://www.esafety.gov.au/ Australian Centre to Counter Child Exploitation (ACCCE)https://www.accce.gov.au/ ThinkUKnow

In this episode, Jenny and Justine reprise their chat about pornography (look up the previous episode which is for parents of younger, primary-aged children); but this time, focusing on how parents of secondary-aged children can approach the topic, answer questions, manage exposure incidents and inform themselves as part of preparing. ‘It’s not if but when’ is the catch-cry.Links to research mentioned:Common Sense Media: ‘Teens & Pornography’ (2022) https://is.gd/4wCwP5UK Children’s Commissioner: ‘A lot of it is actually just abuse: Young people and pornography’ (2022) https://is.gd/0uXRrJARCSHS ‘The 7th National Survey of Australian Secondary Students & Sexual Health’ (2021) https://is.gd/m2kEy5***And if you happen to have a younger child – aged 5 to 12 – you might be interested in our upcoming webinar for parents called Talk to me first: pornography. Justine will cover why it’s so important for parents to be pro-active about this issue, and how to best support young children when they’re exposed. Let’s face it, porn has changed the landscape and it’s an enormous challenge for schools and families, but most of all children.What's covered:• Why and when parents need to talk• How to get conversations started• How to respond if your child has seen pornography• Where to go for help and support• Q&ALink to TryBooking, event Talk to me first: pornography, for parents and caregivers of children aged 5 - 12.***Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for resources, information and support.Primary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/resources-for-parents/Secondary resources are here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/secondary-resources/ Thanks for listening! Jenny + Justine

In this episode, Jenny talks with global thought leader Kirra Pendergast, who is the founder and CEO of Safe on Social. Kirra has worked at the cutting edge of Information Technology and Information (Cyber) Security since 1991.  Safe on Social is now the largest, most trusted, and in-demand cyber safety education and training group of companies globally. Kirra splits her time between the Asia Pacific Headquarters in Byron Bay, Australia, and Safe on Social's UK and European Headquarters in London, England, and Florence, Italy.A dynamic and engaging public speaker, and international media commentator on cyber safety, cyber bullying, and social media risk management, she has written for too many media organisations to list and has appeared on major international news channels. She is a regular guest on podcasts across the world.Kirra has dedicated the last 14 years of her career to working at the coalface of cybersafety by educating people as young 5yrs old through to seniors over 70yrs old. She understands every aspect of the sector.Kirra’s lived experience sets her and Safe on Social apart. She experienced the nightmare of being the target of a vicious cyberbullying and online hate campaign orchestrated by someone she trusted in early 2014. This experience continues to influence her work. The talk ranges over a wide area and will be of interest to anyone in the care of children or teens, anyone whose children or teens have access to devices that can connect to the internet. So that's all of us parents? Some of the things covered:Why parents need to keep on top of rapidly-changing technologies and appsHow parents and caregivers can best support their young peopleHow education in this domain has changed in the last ten yearsHow common sexting isHow vulnerable young children are if they use Snapchat, Roblox, Instagram etcWhat teenagers want to know, bottom line -- what to do when things go wrongInsights from young people todayWhat the future looks likeHelpful links:www.safeonsocial.comRead more on the Safe on Social blog at this link hereQuestions: wecanhelp@safeonsocial.comOpportunity:Discount Code For Readers: 20% off the cost of our ESAFETYHQ Parent Program: sexedau20Program link: https://www.safeonsocial.com/parents-program*Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for resources, information and support. Primary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/resources-for-parents/Secondary resources are here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/secondary-resources/ Thanks for listening! Jenny + Justine

Our last episode for 2022, so we look back at how the year has gone.Topics we cover:what parents can think about over the break - maybe have that convo you've been putting offfocus and attention (and the importance of both)the idea of getting kids reading over the summermore on managing screens - why not consider a 'Summer Screen Contract' for your family?most recent screen research - it's not good news (links below)what the 'hot topics' this year have been (spoiler: most gender identity)the importance of family's using proper names for private parts, and where there's been a shift on our part regarding thisLinks:The Younger Sun bookshopCommon Sense MediaeSafety CommissionerFamily ZoneResearch showing children with more than one hour a day online are vulnerable in all five developmental areasPlease visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for more resources, information and support.  Primary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/resources-for-parents/ and secondary resources here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/secondary-resources/Send us questions or comments to THATsexedpodcast@gmail.com Thanks for listening, and all the best for a safe and happy summer period. See you in 2024! Jenny + Justine

In this special episode, Justine interviews teacher and mentor Linda Stade about a topic that is super relevant to parents and children of all ages: friendships. Some of the topics covered are: parent engagement; how to skilfully help your child manage their friendships; are girls' friendships more complex and volatile than boys'?; girls and anxiety; the 'friendship cyclone' (a term created by Rebecca Sparrow); 'relational aggression'; advice to parents on when to step in and when to step back; parent as 'coach'; development and importance of empathy; how the pandemic has affected friendships and social development; online friendships during the pandemic; the importance of boredom, and what a 'friend' means. Important links:Linda Stade, expert on friendship'You know empathy is important but how can you teach it?' (Linda Stade)'The weapon we need in the war on bullying' (Linda Stade)Kids Helpline (bullying page)Check Linda's website above and find her on Facebook at Linda Stade - Education WriterPlease visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for more resources, information and support.  Primary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/resources-for-parents/ and secondary resources here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/secondary-resources/Send us questions or comments to THATsexedpodcast@gmail.com Thanks for listening! Jenny + Justine

This is an episode for parents and caregivers who are: worried their kids might see porn / their kids HAVE seen porn and they don't know what to do. We'd also love to hear from anyone who has dealt with this tricky subject with success (email us thatsexedpodcast@gmail.com).In this episode, Justine and Jenny talk about how confronting it is when you learn your child has seen sexual material online.  Topics covered: gaming and grooming; what we've dealt with as parents ourselves; what parents should think about *before* they give their kids a mobile phone; parental controls and filters (see helpful resources listed below); invasion of our kids' privacy versus keeping them safe; the value of talking to other parents -- especially those with older children. They've been through it and have great advice. More topics: TikTok and online sexual exploitation of young people; the power of 'likes' and 'follows'; Heartstopper, a TV show that Justine really likes; the idea of phone contracts; talking with other parents before sleepovers and playdates (are we more worried about offending another adult or protecting our children?); how to talk about porn with even very young children.Resources we think are good:eSafety Commissioner (website)Common Sense Media (website where you can learn about film, TV, games and apps)Culture Reframed (website pushing back against sexualisation of young people)Officer Gomez on Facebook (US-based, works in schools and is quite 'zero tolerance' with tech, which may not always be practical however is great for trends, what the latest apps are and how kids use technology -- and some of the tricks they learn)Family Zone (website, Australian, has filter products and a help service/desk where parents can contact to get help with setting up)You Know Sex - Cory Silverberg (book, which includes conversation starters)Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for more resources, information and support.  Primary resources are listed here  and secondary resources here Send us questions or comments to THATsexedpodcast@gmail.com Thanks for listening! Jenny + Justine

This is probably an episode for parents/caregivers of teenagers, but some families will be having conversations about virginity with their upper primary school children. In this episode, Justine and Jenny look at the outdated notion of 'virginity' and how we can better talk about this concept in a way that is less hetero-centric, more inclusive (what about people who have no interest in sex, and might identify as asexual?) and with less focus on a single sexual act being perceived as something really important. Some of the questions that come up are: what do we think about the term 'sexual debut'; how important is the concept of virginity anyway; why the typical representation in popular culture and mainstream media etc.Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for more resources, information and support.  Primary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/resources-for-parents/ and secondary resources here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/secondary-resources/Send us questions or comments to THATsexedpodcast@gmail.com Thanks for listening! Jenny + Justine

Justine and Jenny look at friendships. As Justine says in the episode: As a parent, as a human, we've got to really think about things because friendships can be awesome, amazing and make your heart sing... but they can also be devastating and 'leave little scars in our lives'. It's a complex world for sure, and not something we work out necessarily before the age of 18! Justine reports too that things get particularly gnarly around 8 or 9, when the feelings around friendships become particularly overt.It's important to talk about friendships with your child. What they mean, how they should feel, and how to manage things when perhaps your child doesn't want to play with another child -- or be friends; or if your child is feeling excluded. And buckle up, because Jenny gets pretty strident about how she sees the role of parents, in supporting their children navigate the tides, depths, shallows and waves of not just friendships, but growing up.Mentioned in this episode:Dana Kerford of URSTRONGLinda Stade, expert on friendshipbullyingpower dynamicsthe idea of being 'mean on purpose' (rather than using the term bullying)the difference between parents and teachers educating children about friendships, rather than getting too involved and trying to fix things for the kidsPlease visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for more resources, information and support.  Primary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/resources-for-parents/ and secondary resources here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/secondary-resources/Send us questions or comments to THATsexedpodcast@gmail.com Thanks for listening! Jenny + Justine

In this episode, Justine and Jenny talk about how to get into this potentially awkward topic with your teenager. Yes, it will likely be uncomfortable for all concerned -- even the most seasoned and open of us sex education people can find this difficult. Some of the things touched on:Why we put it off / asking them questions about their peer group / how to get started / the importance of cross-gender chats, so fathers talking to daughters, and mothers to sons (if that's your family set-up) / why saying nothing is meaningful (and not necessarily in a good way).Initiating a chat, either deliberately or organically, is always the best way to show your child you are up to talk about anything they may be wondering or worried about. It also means you aren't leaving them alone with things that they may need support with.Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for resources, information and support.  (Secondary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/secondary-resources/) Thanks for listening! Jenny + Justine

Justine and Jenny chat all things puberty. Do you need to have a chat with your young person about puberty? Are they asking lots of questions and you don't quite feel equipped or confident to answer them? We talk We our memories of puberty, we look at some anonymous questions from Year 5-6 students, acknowledge the importance of empathy and also the importance of parents being the 'go-to person' for their child. Other topics covered: periods, wet dreams, vaginal discharge Also: see our earlier episode on Periods as well!Initiating a chat, either deliberately or organically, is always the best way to show your child you are up to talk about anything they may be wondering or worried about.Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for resources, information and support.  (Primary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/resources-for-parents/) Thanks for listening! Jenny + Justine 

In this episode, Jenny speaks with Ingrid Laguna, renowned children's writer, and co-author of new book Kit and Arlo Find a Way: Teaching consent to 8-12 year olds. There'd be a lot of parents who would think 'What? Teaching consent to my 8 year old? What are you talking about!' But the thing is, in this book, all the scenarios are age-appropriate and relevant to the lives of children of exactly this age. There are no sexual contexts included, but what is included are situations commonly experienced by primary-aged children, and it's these very situations that children can use to learn about consent, body boundaries, the importance of empathy and respect, mutual responsibility, and how to stand up for oneself. Basically it's about helping children learn how to navigate some of the tricky challenges that can come up for them at this age, such as not wanting to watch a scary film when their friends do. The book is inclusive and represents the diversity our young people are immersed in, and not only is educational but a great story with wonderful characters that kids will love and care about.Listen in and hear Jenny and Ingrid chat about the book, and about why it's important that children are taught consent from a young age.You can read more about Ingrid Laguna here, at her website:Ingrid Laguna's websiteIngrid wrote the book with Vanessa Hamilton, the name and face of Talking the Talk. Vanessa is a sexuality and consent educator of many years' experience, and her website is well worth checking out, with loads of resources, school and parent services, and online courses - all evidence-based, up to date and delivered in a warm, accessible and direct manner:Vanessa Hamilton's website(We're hoping to have Vanessa on as a guest down the track a bit!)You can buy Kit and Arlo Find a Way at the links below, and elsewhere:Booktopia Angus and Robertson onlineDymocksAnd if you're a school, the publisher's website has class set discounts, you can find out more about those here, at ACER Press.Vanessa Hamilton has a comprehensive platform of resources on her website, which you can look at in conjunction with reading the book with your young person. The back of the book also has a chapter-by-chapter list of consent topics covered, with discussion points and prompts to make sure that you're guided and supported as you read. Kit and Arlo Find a Way: Teaching consent to 8-12 years old, free resources Thanks for listening and we'd love to hear from any parents/caregivers or teachers about the topic of consent and how to talk about it with young children. You can email us at THATsexedpodcast@gmail.com

In this episode -- recorded as Justine and Jenny's first, so please excuse that! -- the focus is why do parents and schools feel nervous when it comes to sex ed? What are we scared of as a society? Research shows that young people receiving information about their bodies, sex and relationships doesn't accelerate interest or change behaviour.  Research tells us instead that children who receive accurate, comprehensive, age-appropriate information from a trusted source will be more likely to delay sexual activity; more likely to make better decisions about contraception and STI protection, and more likely to enjoy a mutual and consensual experience. So, why are we so frightened of talking and passing on accurate science-based information that will help kids be safer and healthier? Listen to Justine and Jenny chat about what they think as parents and educators themselves.Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for resources, information and support.   Thanks for listening!  Jenny + JustineNote: we use gender binary terms in these early episodes, recorded two years ago. In more recent episodes we will use more inclusive language.

In this episode, Justine and Jenny chat all things periods. Do you need to have a chat with your young person about menstruation? Are they asking lots of questions and you don't quite feel equipped or confident to answer them? We recommend a good book or two but also conversations are always the best way to show your child you are up for a chat about anything they may be wondering or worried about. Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for resources, information and support.   Thanks for listening!  Jenny + Justine  Note: we may use gender binary terms in these early episodes, recorded two years ago. In more recent episodes we will use more inclusive language.