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A simple search on the internet for Veterans Day quotes would show up this line which says, “We don't know them all, but we owe them all.”It’s not credited to anyone, but whoever said this just nailed it right through the core. It’s true. We may never know each and every one of our heroes, but we owe them everything—our life, our liberty, and the way we are now are all thanks to them. And so on this day, we celebrate them, we honor them, and show our deepest gratitude for their utmost bravery...
Trigger Warning: This episode includes references and actual experiences of different types of abuse.The love that we attract is the love that we project. Consciously or not, we captivate the kind of love that reflects us. So, we often ask ourselves: Why did I end up with somebody similar to someone I hated the most? Why do I stay in the cyclical highs and lows of a relationship when it was what I escaped from home?Jennifer Fostino finds that the answer to this question lies with familia...
Trigger Warning: This episode includes references and actual experiences of different types of abuse.“Love comes when you least expect it.”Says a common quote, and also a lesson Katrina Smith learned from her mom. It indeed came when she least expected it and when she didn’t want it. Coming from an abusive relationship with the father of her children, Katrina was in no right shape of mind when she entered a new relationship. She was still reeling from the trauma, but who wouldn’t be swayed by...
Trigger Warning: Please note that this episode includes references to and actual experiences of different types of abuse.In celebration of World Mental Health Day, we are honored to meet several people who emerged victorious after conquering and surviving domestic abuse.Jess, an advocate of protecting women against domestic violence and abuse, did not realize how strong she was after becoming a mother at a young age and ending her 12-year relationship with abusive and narcissistic partners. S...
Trigger Warning: Please note that this episode includes references to and actual experiences of different types of abuse.As we celebrate World Mental Health Day, we put the spotlight on courageous women who have survived different forms of abuse and have emerged stronger, more resilient, and even joyful.Daniela and Laura are two people with different lives, living thousands of miles away from each other, yet share a common tragic experience. They are both victims of abuse from people they tru...
Let’s face it, we all have our fair share of traumas, most commonly because of something our parents did. Yes, our very own parents. While most parents mean well, there are some who may not know how to raise a child in a loving or nurturing environment. They can be stubborn, unwilling to listen, and would even disregard their children’s feelings. Oftentimes, these types of parents grew up in households with parents who were similarly unaffectionate or disconnected from them. They most li...
Being in an abusive relationship takes a massive toll on a person, often times it leaves them with nothing but trauma, and recovering takes a lot of time and effort especially when the wound is deep and can’t be patched up quickly. There are ways how to slowly get up and heal from the trauma, one is self-compassion. But how will self-compassion make you a better version of yourself and how this change will affect the people around you? Detach yourself from the toxic environment you’re in...
Setting boundaries is often viewed as a preventive measure that can help us avoid falling into the cycle of violence and abuse. But when one is already deep into the void and all that’s left to do is either sink further or grasp for air and rise above, we sometimes forget that we have to protect whatever is left within us by setting boundaries. Yes, it's never too late to do that. Even if you are already scarred, exhausted, and devastated – it is still imperative to understand and establish y...
Trigger Warning: Please note that this episode contains depictions of suicide that some people may find disturbing.The word “suicide” can elicit many different reactions or responses from people. And for the longest time, the mental health problems or life circumstances that may be factors leading to it have been misunderstood, overlooked, or even avoided. Though more and more people are raising awareness about suicide prevention, it is still considered a topic of discussion that many of us w...
Trigger Warning: Please note that this episode contains depictions of suicide that some people may find disturbing.The 10th of September each year is considered World Suicide Prevention Day. Since suicide has alarmingly become a public health concern, more and more organizations, government agencies, and individuals are focusing their attention on raising awareness about the issue and creating safe spaces for people who may be on the verge of losing hope and just wanting to end it all. F...
For someone who is in survival mode within an abusive relationship, it takes a lot of courage and self-awareness to reach a point of acceptance – to be able to take off one’s rose-colored glasses and see the situation for what it truly is. Only when you finally accept the fact that you do not really matter to your abuser, and that they would continuously disrespect your boundaries if you allow them, will you be able to realize how unhealthy and wrong it is to hold on and anchor your worth on ...
What does being authentic mean to you? How can you say that you're 100% true to yourself? Jean-Paul Sartre, a French philosopher, proposed that authenticity is essential to achieving freedom and living a meaningful life. Only if we embrace and take responsibility for who we truly are can we live with peace, knowing that we don’t have to hide behind pretensions or lies. Unfortunately, some people cannot keep their sense of self intact and are impelled to deceive others by living a do...
“How starved you must have been that my heart became a meal for your ego.” – Amanda Torroni, authorOver the years, the concept of love has been excessively romanticized that people often get drowned in cheesy lines, fairytales, and that magical feeling of falling for someone. Yes, passionate/romantic love does make life more interesting and worthwhile; but the reality is, choosing to continue loving someone – even after seeing all the dark and ugly sides – entails hard work and a great ...
Ending a relationship with a narcissist can be such an eye-opening experience; it is when we finally discover layers of ugly truths behind the mask of the abuser. On the one hand, it must be a relief to finally break free from the "beast" that chained you. On the other hand, it may also be a way for you to understand the real nature of that person – the behaviors, the patterns, and the perspective from which they view you as a victim. And while it is the same person who caused you pain and "s...
When we're with a toxic or narcissistic person, what we may not necessarily be consciously aware of is that we are in a constant state of heightened anxiety. – Trey De La TorreGoing through an abusive or toxic relationship is painful and exhausting as it is. The awful cycle and patterns of abuse and manipulation may take a toll on our peace of mind and general well-being. And since healing is not linear, it is natural for survivors of this kind of relationship to experience going ...
Building a positive self-image does not happen overnight. It requires conscious effort, commitment, and inner strength. For some people, it takes years to outgrow the childhood experiences that damaged their self-esteem and made them question their self-worth. Yes, for most of us, it has been and is still a constant struggle. What’s worse than dealing with your own childhood trauma is when somebody tries to manipulate you by making you question your worthiness, your beauty, and your esse...
John Bowlby, the main proponent of Attachment Theory, once said, “The propensity to make strong emotional bonds to particular individuals [is] a basic component of human nature.”Basically, his theory supports the natural tendency of humans to crave and sustain lasting connectedness with family, friends, or romantic partners. Indeed, whether we admit it or not, we all feel distressed or anxious when our relationships go through turmoils that may cause us to lose our connections with people we ...
“Abusers are notorious for rushing the first stage of intimacy. This phase is electric and full of promise. Survivors commonly recall being swept off their feet by a man more passionately interested in them than anyone had ever been before.”― Jess Hill, See What You Made Me Do: Power, Control and Domestic ViolenceMost people, if not all, have dreamt of finding that one true love at some point in their lives. Fairy tales with happy endings were introduced to most of us early on, and we started...
Sometimes, we don’t realize that we are in an abusive relationship because the people who create the toxic or even unsafe situations in our lives are the same people who provide most of our needs – physiological or psychological. And deep down, we know that we care and love these people dearly. Sometimes, with the desire of keeping them in our lives or making them happy, we tend to compromise our own needs and happiness.In episode 6, I talk about how our relationships during childhood c...
So many experts and research on child growth and development would emphasize the significant role of primary caregivers in an individual’s holistic development. They can influence a child’s physical, socio-emotional, and mental aspects, among others. Children’s interactions with caregivers shape their childhood experiences and lead them to form narratives in their minds that later on become their ideals and beliefs as adults. Take a moment and reflect. How were you treated as a child? We...
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