Unshackled Love: Parenting in Faith

In this episode, Bruce is reflecting on Fatherhood and what it means to him. He invites you to their dining room table as all NINE little Paynes join the conversation to reflect on their favorite family traditions and give some honest feedback to their dad about areas he can grow. Scripture References:"As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him." (Psalms 103:13)"Endure suffering as discipline: God is dealing with you as sons. For what son is t...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila address their children's many accomplishments and the drive for wanting to be the best by giving your best and, as parents, the importance of having expectations for effort. Scripture Citations“A slacker’s craving will kill him because his hands refuse to work.” (‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭21‬:‭25‬ ‭CSB‬‬)“There is profit in all hard work, but endless talk leads only to poverty.” (‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭14‬:‭23‬ ‭CSB‬‬)“Don’t you know that the runners in a stadium all race, but ...

In this episode, to commemorate Mother's Day, Bruce and Kaila talk about the importance of the role of moms in a family, the impact their moms have made in their lives, and Kaila shares her purpose as a mom raising her children into adults. Scripture Citations“About this time, a man and woman from the tribe of Levi got married. The woman became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She saw that he was a special baby and kept him hidden for three months. But when she could no longer hide him,...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila answer some of their most frequently asked questions by others and give a little bit of insight into their lives as parents of nine and how they have had to adapt to meet the needs of their family.FREE EVENT: Controlling your Chaos (Sign-up)[01:45] What kind of car do you drive?[04:09] Did you always want a lot of kids?[07:59] When do you get "you" time?[12:34] How do you do vacation?[18:38] How do you cook/grocery shop?[24:17] How do you manage everyone's sch...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about the busyness of their schedule and open up about the vulnerability that comes from being busy and tired, when you feel like you’re running on fumes and have very little to give. Life can weigh you down, but it doesn't have to if you keep your eyes fixed on Jesus who rejuvenates our souls. Episode 10: Q&A Form[01:06] Intro: Busy Schedules[04:32] Being Obedient when Tired[06:48] Elijah at Mt. Carmel[09:53] The Crash[16:42] Refueling with Jesu...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about how they have shifted their perspective on parenting to reflect God’s love for sinners as they raise children who are being tempted by the devil and the cravings of the world. They talk about the importance of keeping your own spiritual walk strong, how to show God’s love and grace through patience and understanding, while making sure that we are being a living example of what it means to have a relationship with Jesus. [01:45] Parenting throug...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila are joined by their 16 year old daughter, Zoe, to talk about how people use their words, including cursing and putting others down, but how God wants us to use words to build up others, share our testimony, and give life to those around us. [01:27] Intro to Topic[03:24] Meet Zoe & talk about cursing[07:55] Accountability [15:14] "Shut your mouth"[21:00] Good vs Bad consequences[22:43] Zoe's Testimony[26:55] Closing PrayerScripture References:“Peo...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about the importance of setting a personal growth plan so that we can reach our full potential as individuals, which allows us to pour into our children, helping them to grow into productive adults who value a growth mindset, create measurable goals, and value learning from mistakes. [01:54] The Laws of Growth (John Maxwell)[07:35] Planning ahead[14:22] Step One: Reflection[22:29] Step Two: Preparation[27:12] Step Three: Action[32:48] Good kids don’t...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila share their own Christmas message and a reminder that, regardless of the emotions felt during this season, Christmas is a time for redemption and a time for giving. As Bruce reflects on the story of Mary and Joseph, he shares of how God led the Paynes to Texas in an unlikely time and in unlikely circumstances only to bring blessings through faith and obedience. [01:30] Into to Christmas Message[02:24] A Redemption Story[05:07] A Texas Calling[08:24] Respo...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila return, this week of thanksgiving, to offer their own thanks and talk about the importance of being thankful for all that God has provided for us, even in difficult times. Acknowledging the ways God is good allows us to have an attitude of gratitude, changing our perspective on current situations that may be bringing you down. [00:42] Intro to Thanksgiving[02:57] Reading of Psalms 100[03:48] WHAT we need to do[07:21] WHY we need to do it[11:16] HOW we do ...

In this episode, Bruce and Kaila talk about anger and discipline, the importance of controlling our anger as parents, how to stop taking things so personally, and leading your children to better choices through gentleness and kind teaching.Connect with the Paynes: www.growingpaynes.org[00:46] Intro to Anger[04:28] What gets under my skin (Kaila)[06:59] What gets under my skin (Bruce)[09:09] What God says about Anger[14:07] How to Discipline “Difficult People”[23:10] Consequences[25:09] Pick y...

Connect with us! Check out the site! www,growingpaynes.orgIn this episode, Bruce and Kaila use scripture to define what unshackled is, what it means to us, and how we can show unshackled love as parents to our children. Music Intro/Exit: Unshackled by David Upton (listen on Spotify)Thanks Sabrina![02:22] Definition of Unshackled[03:33] Unshackled Love for Bruce[07:01] Unshackled Love for Kaila[12:51] Genuine Love[20:17] Love in Discipline[27:51] Love in ConflictScripture CitationsPsalms 107:1...

Welcome to the FIRST episode! This project is the “ours” of the “His, Hers, and Ours” ministry that is “Growing Paynes Family Ministry”In this first episode, Bruce and Kaila take the time to introduce themselves, their family of eleven, and the ministry God has put on their hearts to make an impact in the next generation by growing parents to be the spiritual leaders of their families. Bruce and Kaila identify three non-negotiable responsibilities as parents that come straight from ...