Freeze or Fawn

Welcome to People Pleasing part II - HOW TO CHANGE In this episode I give you advice and suggestions on how to work on changing your people pleasing tendencies. This episode is a quick introduction to different exercises that help you work on boundary setting, building self esteem, self respect, self compassion, and inner child work. These suggestions should of course not replace therapy. Reach out with any questions or for help!As always, follow me on instagram:https://ww...

Yay, I'm back! In this part one about people pleasing I dive into what people pleasing is all about and why we do it. We'll look at where the tendency of people pleasing comes from, and how it connects to our self esteem. We'll also look at how it affects our relationships with others. We'll talk about boundary setting and voicing needs, and why that's so difficult for people pleasers.In part II we'll talk about strategies to work on this and change this in detail, and I'll offer you spe...

This episode of Freeze or Fawn is especially for you who struggle with holiday season, feel stressed and triggered at family gatherings, and want to understand why family time can be so exhausting!In this third episode I give you an introduction to Attachment Science - the science of relationships! We look at attachment styles, how these develop in childhood and how they affect our adult relationships. We look at emotions and the 4 Fs (Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn) and how and why these are...

In this second episode of Freeze or Fawn I look at sexual violence. I try to clarify the more hidden experiences of sexual abuse as well as what happens to us psychologically when it exists in the romantic relationship. To explain the complex psychology of sexual abuse, I focus on the 4 F's (fight, flight, freeze, fawn), psychological violence, narratives, and cognitive dissonance. I also touch on societal and political factors, as rape myths, victim blaming, and societal gaslighting also pla...

In this episode I give a quick overview of the different types of abuse and violence in a romantic relationship context. I talk about physical, material, and economical violence, and dive into the blurry world of psychological violence which is ALWAYS present, when other types of violence are there. In this episode you'll learn a bit about some forms of psychological violence (such as gaslighting, emotional manipulation, stonewalling), and I'll give you a bunch of examples. I also look at the...