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How do we encourage more of us to accept help when it’s offered, and ask for help when they need it?
As I deal with the challenge of living with a lymphoma and chemotherapy, I’ve encountered some life-changing lessons about the gift of help. The transformative realisation that accepting help is a gift since you give the chance for the help giver to experience joy, pride and/or the feel good factor of supporting someone they care about.
So I’m now on a mission to transform us all from a world of help rejectors to help receivers. So we can all revel in the Gift of Help.
This first season features conversations with people who share their inspiring health journey stories of how they’ve overcome cancer, concussion, ankle reconstructions, blindness. We discuss their raw and honest experience of asking for and accepting help and how this has changed and supported them. And then importantly we reveal some ways that they find useful to get over mental blocks to accept and ask for help.
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This episode tells the inspiring personal story of the life-changing benefits of practising what I’m preaching. To be aware of and have the motivation to overcome your blockers and asking for help. And for this to massively serve me when I recently met Simon Sinek, and how this has led to a massive step forward on my journey to increase the impact of my Gift of Help project.I hope this inspires you as much as it has me.You can contact me on:Email: ashley@thegiftofhelp.orgFacebook...
Here’s a few nuggets and insights from the clip of my conversation with Matt Black a colon cancer survivor and now charismatic campaigner.Accepting help with unconditional gratitude, can trigger not only an unexpected mood and energy boost for yourself, but also for the help giver and the wonderful ripple effect onto those around them. And how this in general breeds a sense of love and gratitude, support and friendship.Plus also we talk about the power of a thinking of you reach out an...
I chat with Matt Black, a chartered surveyor from London, father of two and colon cancer survivor. Matt now campaigns to encourage everyone, especially head-in-the-sand middle-aged men, to regularly check themselves and be aware of the early warning signs. We talk about the frightening and lonely experience of being diagnosed and urgently operated at 2am during the early days of Covid. And then in the days after his life saving surgery, having mixed emotions about bei...
In this episode, I chat with Osher Günsberg, Australian award-winning TV presenter, author, podcast host, writer, and mental health advocate. Osher talks openly about his self destructive early career years as a roadie, then radio DJ and TV host, including colourful and sometimes frightening stories of hitting rock bottom. And how it was these moments that forced him, together with support of friends and colleagues, to let go of his independence and ego to then accept and ask for ...
In this episode I chat with Tim Wotton. A Cystic Fibrosis sufferer, who has been defying the odds all his life. He wasn’t expected to live past his 17th birthday, but yet at 51 he continues to embrace life as a motivational speaker, author, hockey player and family man. He explains from how from a young age, he was forced to accept and ask for help. How this has made him feel more like a survivor than a victim. And that when he went to University he appreciated th...
A year ago I was admitted to hospital … and nearly said goodbye. It’s been the most extraordinary past 12 months of priceless lessons. So on Ashley 2.0’s birthday I wanted to share what I’ve learnt about life, myself and each other. Nothing would make me happier if they can help you as much as they’ve helped me. To commemorate this all, I proudly made this podcast. And complied this list:Compassionate connection.Mutually fuelled friendships.To give and receive a t...
This clip was from my conversation with Tom Bagnall, a survivor of Stage 3 melanoma cancer.Friends of Tom were invested in his recovery. By accepting help, it gave a chance for friends to rally together to support him. They did so because they care, and to get joy from witnessing and celebrate the results of their help in his recovery. It's a great example of having been on the receiving end of help, and experiencing its benefits, it helps you more instinctively offer help ...
This clip was from my conversation with Tom Bagnall, a survivor of Stage 3 melanoma cancer.We talk about tips for offering help: Make them specific, tangible and constructive. And how recognising your own historical blockers, helps you see these in others to then be more empathetic and effective at offering help. And this in turn supports you to be more accepting of more help in your own life. Here's the full episode with Tom https://www.thegiftofhelp.org/2075728/11708446You ...
In this clip from conversation about my health journey, we talk about the abundance of help around us, and that ironically to not accept help is selfish. But accepting it is practising self-care, and a chance to trigger a wonderful positive ripple effect of help on those around you.Here's the full episode of my conversation with Marco https://www.thegiftofhelp.org/2075728/11599749You can contact me on:Email: ashley@thegiftofhelp.orgFacebook: Ashley UsiskinInstagram: @gift_of_accepting_help_po...
This short episode covers 3 simple tips:1. If you have trouble accepting that offer, consider it the other way round - would you happily offer help if you were asked in the same sitation?2. Avoid assuming there is an effort, burden and time the offerer will go through to offer that gesture of help3. Start small - accept everyday gestures even like the offer of a coffee!This clip is from my conversation with a good friend Marco about my health journey, and my experience of embracing the ...
This episode is with Daniel Kramer, a 24 year old cousin, fellow podcaster, keen sportsman and someone who’s relentlessly curious to find ways to improve himself.Born with only 40% vision in one eye and then diagnosed with ADHD, his story and approach to life is truly extraordinary. Some of the inspiring and thought-provoking topics we cover are:- Having to accept constant help at hand from a young age, and the challenge then to craft his own independence as he grew older.- At age...
This episode is with David Wasserman, a good friend of 30 years, a Sydney based Entrepreneur, passionate dog owner, sports fan and cricketerProudly independent resourceful and never wanting to make a fuss.He's had a rollercoaster history of health challenges: Crohn’s disease, stomach surgery, arthritis, and this year an ankle replacementLearn how to walk againSome themes we cover:- Distinction from professionally asking for help and doing so personally. And it being often much tougher t...
In this episode I speak with David Rosen, an old school friend, professor and founder of his own law practice. Proudly stoic, philosophical and extraordinary self reliant.His recent journey is quite the rollercoaster. During the pandemic he got divorced, his law firm went into liquidation, was hospitalised by Covid, and then in January was diagnosed with prostate cancer. And yet after it all he remains philosophical and sees the silver linings.Some of the topics we cover are:Some s...
In this episode, I chat with Tom Bagnall. A successful business owner from the UK, marathon runner and father of two young kids living in AmsterdamAt the beginning of the pandemic he was diagnosed with a stubborn Stage 3 melanoma cancer. He talks about his brutal journey of 7 months of 138 sessions of radiotherapy and immunotherapy and the feeling of helplessness that triggered the need to welcome help into his life. Some themes we cover are:How Team Tom naturally came ...
In this first episode, recorded in September, I talk about my own health journey story with a good friend of mine. We cover a lot of fascinating and revealing topics.The surprising way I first dealt with my diagnosis of a lymphoma and rare auto immune disease. The tsunami of help offers I received during this first few days in the hospital Some funny but then also harsh reality check instances of being forced to ask for help. The light bulb moment of how I first fully a...
This episode is with Nicolette Lazarus, a self-described midlife woman, solo female founder with a 100% record of getting through bad days. Her life has been quite a journey - growing up in an immigrant family in the early 70s, having her attitude to help inadvertently imprinted by an incident with her younger smarter brother, battling to have a successful career in advertising, a post-divorce transformational solo adventure through Australia’s outback, thr...
This episode is with Greg Allon, father of 3, Chief Operating Officer at a TV Production company, enthusiastic runner, blog writer and aspirational author15 years ago he was diagnosed with malignant melanoma whilst his youngest of three kids was 9 months old. And then a couple of years later, he started a spinning studios business with his sister and brother-in-law.We discuss his insights on help from these life-changing experiences and how they have fundamentally changed his outlook on...
Recently I had the remarkable experience of meeting Simon Sinek, the renowned author, inspirational speaker and podcast host. It represented a wonderful reminder of you how when we dare to ask for help amazing things can happen. In this episode I share how the experience has underlined and highlighted so many life enhancing themes I'm increasingly now living my life by, ones that will hopefully help and inspire you on your journey to live the life you want.1. Manifestin...
In this short clip from my conversation with David Smith, the gold-winning Paralympian, we talk about the joy and priceless value of human connection from simply asking, offering and accepting help even with strangers. Plus how his attitude of being curious, compassionate and courageous underpins all of this. You can listen to the full episode and David's extraordinarily inspirational story and life philosophy here:https://www.thegiftofhelp.org/2075728/12726621You can contact me on...
This clip is from conversation with Osher Günsberg.In the spirit of the joy of being asked for help, we talk about it being not the survival of the fittest, but more survival of the friendliest. And that as a species we have succeeded because we are cooperative and our brains are hardwired to reward us when we help others.You can contact me on:Email: ashley@thegiftofhelp.orgFacebook: Ashley UsiskinInstagram: @gift_of_accepting_help_podcastLinked: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashleyusiskin/
This conversation tells the story of how a Paralympian gold medallist’s grit and self-reliance gave way to vulnerability, self-awareness, accepting and offering help and a greater sense of purpose.David was a promising national level student athlete, but in 2010 he was diagnosed with a rare tumour in his spinal cord. He then went on to represent Great Britain at rowing and win gold at the London Olympics in 2012. However in 2106, one of the multiple spinal surgeries he had to endu...
This clip is from my conversation with David Rosen.We cover off the theme of how we should be more kind to ourselves, and that this can increase our instinct to actually help ourselves, and in the end of the wonderful outcome of helping each other.Plus we discuss an example of how reaching out for help when you're feeling low, can help you and the other person be lifted. You can listen to the full episode with David here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2075728/11708501You can contact m...
This episode is with Ursula Tomlinson, a wonderfully generous retired paediatric oncologist nurse I met recently on a personal development program. Born into a large family, and as the eldest she learned to be highly independent, self reliant and from a young age instinctively wanting to spend a lifetime helping others. Drawing on this experience she has a fascinating insight on not only offering help as a nurse but also asking for help for herself. And is honest about her o...
This episode is with Ton van Klaveren, a good Dutch friend, successful head of corporate sales, aspirational business owner and damn strong cyclist.Highly driven and active, and a self-described impatient, somewhat private and fiercely independent person.After a car crash, Ton suffered whiplash and was diagnosed with concussion. But only 8 days later did he start to feel the severe repercussions. Leaving him incapable of working, socialising and controlling his moods.Some of the f...
On 8 Apr 2022 I was urgently admitted to hospital with a lymphoma and v rare auto immune disease. And then put on a debilitating chemo and immunotherapy for 5 months.Since then I’ve been a life changing and transformative experience. I used to be and prided my self on being independent and self-reliant.However whilst in hospital at my most helpless, I had to learn to accept help and ask for it.During this time I had a light build moment. It became clear people genuinely enjoy offe...
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