Even Me

This episode is for you if you have scars or wounds from childhood that have been hard to release and impact things or people in your daily routine. This episode is also for you if you feel people owe you obedience in romantic relationships, and not getting your way results in emotional tantrums. Are you doing a good job protecting your inner child, letting them know you are a safe space to process and heal? Are you a good example to lead yourself through unexplored healing or compartmentalized hurt? Have you confronted the emotional injuries caused by those you trusted and used that pain to help re-parent you where needed? Let's address these questions together!

Did you know that accountability and responsibility are not the same? One is a personal response to what happens, and the other is about task orientation. Because they are different, yet both equivalent to progress, avoiding or lacking either can cause devastating outcomes and create burnout. This episode is for you if it has been tough getting motivated or maintaining discipline, especially if you misunderstand (or are unsure about) your role in life or why you stack your to-do list. This episode is also for you if you are trying to unlearn how to minimize feeling insulted or offended by constructive criticism or when perfectionism is not achieved.

Receiving what we give is not the goal. This goal is positioning ourselves with people and things that can return what we provide equivalently. Every interaction has an opportunity to have your cup filled. Filling a void that is triggered by unmet needs and trauma is not the same as filling your cup. If you have started tolerating not having that cup filled, this episode is for you! If you continue to engage in romantic relationships, sexual activity, gender norms, parenting, and communication without receiving your efforts returned or even acknowledged, this episode is also for you!

Do you feel safe in emotional connections? Have you been stuck at an age when you experienced the trauma of separation or abandonment? Are you codependent on familiarity? How do you prevent regret from turning into resentment without grieving what you cannot control? This episode is for you if you have ever identified with being codependent or have a loved one who you feel might struggle with codependent behaviors. This episode is also for you if your hyper-independence is a trauma response to people-pleasing.

This episode is for you if you are an overthinker. This episode is also for you if you allow scenarios outside of your control to live rent-free in your mind. The minute that wounds are identified, we have a responsibility to cleanse them and understand how to grieve without consistently compartmentalizing the hurt. If you are often trying to "pray it away" or hoping that time itself will help you forget about a wound that feels uncomfortable to address, this episode found you for a reason.

Have you ever understood love bombing to be a form of anxiety? We most commonly understand this definition in conversations about narcissistic behaviors, yet the more we learn about our own relationship expectations, upbringing, and inability to be emotionally available, we may start to learn that the capacity to love bomb others is within us all. We often miss that grand gestures within days of meeting or a constant need to be in contact are both common gateways to love bombing. This episode is for you if you become anxious at the thought of being selected by others or to receive external validation to feel valued and secure. This episode is also for you if you frequently speed through the "getting to know you" space at the beginning or throughout connecting as a testament to not wasting your time.

Have you ever noticed if you are more attracted to people who ignore you or blow hot and cold? Do you find yourself running to people, places, and things trying to get away from you, or avoiding love completely feeling that no one is trustworthy enough to receive your vulnerability? How do you respond when others put up boundaries around their time and require space to decompress and self-identify? This episode is for you if you sense that you have a type but your type rarely works out.

Did you know that dimming your light is a form of people-pleasing? What if I told you that playing small is a way of telling yourself that external validation holds more power than your own objectivity about what you have been through? Today's episode is for you if you convince yourself that you are fraudulent in your achievements or if you feel guilty in consistently sharing them with others. Today's message is also for you if you need to unlearn the power others have over you and build new ways of self-appreciation. Featured today is the host of On The Air with Ari, and naturalist, A'rianna McLean!

What's your relationship with authority and structure? Do you gravitate toward chaos to maintain or regain a sense of control? Did you know that discipline is a form of rebellion and self-control? This episode is for you if you struggle with establishing discipline, maintaining motivation,  or rebelling in scenarios where you do not get your way.

Are you aware that you could be perpetuating your fear of failure or fear of success through Impostor Syndrome? What happens when you do not feel that you are enough and try that much harder to prove it to yourself just to stand in your way and prevent the best result? Are you picking specific people, places, and things that cannot elevate you just to prove the point that you can control external validation to make your fears more manageable that your goals are unattainable? If this sounds like you or someone you know, or you would like to understand how you could be sabotaging and dimming your light, then today's episode is for you!

Men resist temptation too. Men are tired of the games too. Men want to be faithfully married too. Men are great parents too. Men want to cry too. Men can make love and be in love too. However, how many of us have shamed men for their decision to explore vulnerability and safety? How many of us lead with outdated social norms that create unrealistic expectations for men to deeply connect with others without first allowing them to access the tools to do so? Feelings and emotions are two different things and accessible to all genders. Emotions start in the brain and are created from instincts we all have or experience.  This episode is for you if you need to unlearn that "women are more emotional" and need to better connect to healthy expressions of feeling connected to men or as a man. Featured today is Rique King; Co-Host of Talk'n Random Ish, first aired on the radio station Real 1100, also known as Love 860, now featured on YouTube! Tune in to the conversation!

Whether on your favorite social platforms, dating someone new, conversing with someone familiar, or during conversations with strangers in your daily life, we have all been exposed to oversharing. How can we not be when it's normalized? Some might call "telling all" a method of release to help others understand they are not alone. Others might say sharing too much personal information could be a reaction to feeling misunderstood, unheard, or avoiding boundaries. This episode is for you to explore the layers of oversharing and how it just might be impacting your life in unknown or unfamiliar ways. Join the conversation with the owner of Wiggles World Network, co-owner of Southern HoZpitality, and DJ Wiggles himself, Trey Searles!

Whether it's increased sadness around the holidays, or a dip in your mood from the colder months that lack sunshine, we have all experienced seasonal depression. We may more commonly understand it as winter or holidays blues, and it is more clinically known as Seasonal Affective Disorder if it becomes a routine occurrence. Not only does it impact mood and performance, it plays on the Vitamin D deficiency many of us experience, as well as the consistent drive to be productive and positive. This episode is for you if you feel guilt for the days you have inactivity, and especially if post-pandemic you are still establishing your new winter or holiday norm.

When you hear the word "breakup" does your brain typically associate romantic relationships? Friendship breakups happen so frequently and they can change your entire life. This episode is for you if you have ever ended a friendship, no matter how long you knew each other. It's also for you if you have trouble befriending new people, forming a friendship in romantic relationships, and even if you were in a relationship that had a friendship and it has been hard to release the hurt. ***Join the conversation with the Host and Founder of the syndicated talk show Going Down on the Mic, Moni Luvs Effects!***

This episode is for you if you are still seeking closure about your ex or if you have yet to accept that things might not resume. Do you still want an apology or secretly want their next relationship to fail? Are you going back and forth with constantly repairing things without identifying changed behavior about what broke you up or caused the split?? Is continuing a sexual relationship making it hard to decide? Do you miss them or the familiarity? Tune in to today's episode for guidance to these questions from the author of Gracefully Broken, host of Behind the Veil, and owner of MindGlowingTC.com, Sandy Huggins!

Turn on any social media platform or television show and it is filled with people discussing their frustrations with dating. Whether already in a romantic relationship or aiming for one, dating is a necessity throughout the entire commitment. This episode is for you if you are currently struggling to understand what dating is, how to navigate your expectations about it or need help restoring your faith in re-entering the dating scene.

How often do you silence your opinions to be accepted or avoid conflict? How often do you misunderstand assertiveness as aggression? How frequently have you been told you're "too sensitive," so you hesitate to speak about your feelings? Have you ever feared conflict so much that you ghosted people, chose serious conversations via text, or resumed things after tension without seeking clarity about your thoughts? If you resonate with these questions, this episode is for you to start unlearning your fear and boosting your conflict resolution skills!

What is a baseline behavior? We all have a starting point...a baseline of how we respond. It makes up the core of who we are: our true colors. We often love the representative because we often lead this way; we also fall in love with the potential of others and make them emotional projects. As is, we present what we want to be, but not always what we can maintain. We want people to know and understand versions of us we have yet to understand. How can someone love who you don't even know? How can I love you for you without accepting you at your baseline? If any of these questions make sense, this episode is for you!

What happens when you date someone who hasn't healed from the hurt in their previous romantic relationship? What happens if your current relationship only exists because your partner's first choice isn't available? What do you do when you find out you are currently the rebound?... Even if it evolved into an exclusive relationship? This episode is for you!

 Are you navigating your life more aligned with your wants versus what you need? Have you had trouble understanding how anxiety and depression are connected to unmet needs? Are you familiar with Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs? If any of these questions sound like you then today's episode will help to address the void we fill with meeting our wants more than valuing our needs.