Tools for the Modern Man

This week on the podcast I ask the question "Are you ready to be a manager?"This is something that I've observed over my career where people grasp to move up through an organization only to be completely unprepared with the challenges and skills needed to lead people.I share some of my own personal experiences and challenges when faced with leading and managing.Petepetebeskas.com

The stoic writer Ryan Holiday wrote the book "Ego is the Enemy", which is the perfect way to sum up the role that Ego plays in leadership.Ego does nothing to cultivate leadership qualities and in fact holds you back from achieving true success.  Today I talk about things to be mindful of when addressing pride vs arrogance, and how your ego is behind it all.It was written  that "Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall." Well that "haughty spirit" is your ego, and the sooner you face it and check it, the sooner you will accomplish that for which you are working towards.This is another one of podcast series "The qualities of leadership", also check out "Why having standards matters", and "How to build Resilience"If you want to learn more about leadership or how to become a better leader reach out to me to find out more.Petepetebeskas.com

Today I wrap up my series on how to find your next opportunity by sharing a personal story of resilience.  What I learned from being unemployed, how I set myself up to overcome adversity and how I'm always creating new opportunities for myself.Petepetebeskas.com

So you've finally got the interview, now what?Well my guest today Frank and I have got you covered!Frank Burgoyne is an interview success coach and has decades of experience helping people prepare and successful showcase their skills and value in interviews so that they can get the jobs they want.Frank and I talk about the importance of how to show up in interviews, what questions to ask, and how to position yourself as the only one for the job. If you are interested in following Frank, I've including the links to website and social media profiles below:linkedin.com/in/frankburgoyneyourinterviewsuccess.com (Company)instagram.com/frankthecoach/ (Personal)And if you are struggling in any of the various phases of you career reach out for you own career strategy session HERE.Pete petebeskas.com

It's been said that your network is your NET WORTH, and it's a fact.That's why I brought in Cindy Arcuri, Cindy has spent over 25 years working for Fortune 500 companies to develop their leaders.Cindy and I talk about the importance of your network and the value of constantly cultivating and meeting new people.  We also go over how NOT TO network, how to make it easier, and more comfortable.I really enjoyed this conversation.If you want to learn more about networking effectively, I'd love to chat with you.Curiosity Call Petepetebeskas.com

The first step in any job hunt is updating your resume, but most people's resumes SUCK! I know because mine used to suck as well, and so many that I've read over my long career have as well.This makes perfect sense, we aren't trained to write resumes, or promote ourselves in many cases. That is why I brought in a resume writing expert... Amanda Traugutt from Elevated Resumes.Amanda and her business partner Allison have been doing this work for over 10 years and she has a very unique way of approaching resumes that aligns 100% with what I have seen works in the real world.We go over all the things you need to improve your resume and make the biggest impact.It's a great conversation that you don't want to miss out on.Thanks again Amanda for joining me on Tools for the Modern Man.Pete

Today I'm kicking off my series of episodes dedicated to you the W2/T4 career professional. There comes a time in every man's career when you want to make a change. Sometimes those are small pivots, sometimes they are drastic, and sometimes you don't get to choose at all.Over the last 6 months I've been diving deep into this and been having a lot of conversations with people looking to pivot and experts who focus specifically on that.This week however I want us to slide into thinking more about what it is we want, how are we going to get there, and then implement the skills.Over the next few weeks I'm going to be interviewing amazing guests on the topics of Resumes, Linkedin Profiles, Networking, Interviews, and more.So dust off some of those old skills, review your CORE VALUES & strengths assessment, and join us on this journey.This is going to be funpetebeskas.com

"The standard is the standard" - Mike TomlinCoach Tomlin's phrase is one that I love, the standard IS the standard. But seriously, what does that mean and why is it important?I'm a big believer is having personal and professional standards. These standards guide your path and ultimately determine your success. People see how you operate, and will choose to follow or leave based on what they see.The biggest trick however is setting YOUR standard, are you going to set it high? Medium? Low? As I dive further into leadership topics and traits I want to start with a review of why standards matter and help you to identify your own.New leadership styles need to create a new environment where people are striving towards something bigger than themselves, a standard higher than they've used before.Maybe that's why a flag is also known as a "Standard"?Petepetebeskas.com

My guest today is a one of my coauthor's from Volume 10 of Cracking the Rich Code, a public speaker, a public servant with over 45 years of experience in public affairs and troubleshooting communications for the government. His story is unique in that John has always put himself in positions to be challenged and followed his passions at every turn.From starting off as an Electrical engineering student turned Journalist major, to 15 years in the Navy running TV/Radio/Print/Media/Training and much more. He then took these communication and leadership skills to the government where he served in the Maryland Department of the Environment, the Maryland Department of Natural Resources, as well as the Chief of Media and Community Relations for the Department of Homeland Security.John has a lot to share in this episode, we chat about how to deal with a hostile crowd, ways to handle messaging of unpopular information and what qualities a leader needs in order to communicate effectively.I learned a lot from John and I find that I'll be applying a lot of what he shared with me in the very near future.You can find him at John Verrico – Share Your Fire, Leadership & Communications Life Coach & TrainerWebsite: https://www.johnverrico.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnverrico/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/johnverricospeaks\Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnverrico/The Site formerly known as Twitter: https://twitter.com/jverricoSoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/johnverricoIt was great having him on the show.Petepetebeskas.com

My guest this week is Lou Vickery, over his 80+ years on this planet Lou has had 5 distinct careers and has no intention of stopping. We have a very entertaining conversation that covers resilience, lessons learned from baseball, what it takes to change careers so many times, and the all important skill of "forgetory".  Lou's journey is amazing and started at a young age, after graduating from high school, he signed a professional baseball contract with the St. Louis Cardinals. Over a ten-year career, Lou also played for the New York Yankees organization, alongside greats like Mickey Mantle, and coached in the Cincinnati Reds organization. Lou went back to school at 28 and received his B.S. degree from Troy State University (AL). Lou moved into the training and development field with Pat Ryan and Associates of Chicago, Ill. in l974. After 1980, he did contract training for numerous national organizations and over a thirty (30) year period worked with over 2,800 companies in 44 states and two foreign countries. Lou has spoken in every city in the USA with a population of over 150,000 people. Lou followed up his training career by hosting a nationally syndicated radio show "Lou in the morning" for the next 17 years. All the while he's been churning out books his entire life.  As a self published author of over 21 books and counting Lou continues to share his wisdom, life lessons, and stories with everyone he comes into contact with.I highly recommend picking up Lou's book "Winning the Head Game" and stay tuned for his newest book "Hello,Let's Talk" which can be found at his website:Lou Vickery BooksI hope that you enjoy this episode as much as I enjoyed it.Petepetebeskas.com

ATOMIC HABITS by James ClearThis book continues to be a #1 Bestseller year after year and there is a reason why, it's frickin' awesome! I have listen to and read this book multiple times and every time I'm gearing up for a new challenge or trying to implement a new protocol I revisit Atomic Habits.In this episode I do a deep dive on the book, it's main lessons and tactics.Four essential steps for establishing a habit: cue, craving, response, and reward, Awareness as the initial step in the habit-building process. Habit stacking, temptation building, the 2 minute ruleThe 4 tactics for establishing positive habits obvious, attractive, easy, and satisfying  The 4 tactics for establishing positive habitsinvisible, unattractive, difficult, and unsatisfying The importance of tracking & accountabilityThe "Goldilocks" zoneIf you are starting a New Year's resolution and you haven't read this book, get it.www.petebeskas.com

As December is in full swing and we are all feeling the pressure of expectations, let's not forget to reset often, daily even, to be grateful.This is something that can't be practiced enough, gratitude doesn't come naturally to most of us, and I see it everywhere.  It starts with children, parents, and ultimately ourselves.My friend quoted this;"What if tomorrow you only had the things you were grateful for today?"Would this change your mind about gratitude, if you didn't take 5 minutes every day to appreciate your health, your spouse, your job, your children, your house - those things would be taken from you tomorrow. How would you cherish the moment if that were the case?I know that we all put an enormous amount of pressure on ourselves to deliver on all the wishes, but you are doing enough just by appreciating what you have, because who knows what tomorrow might bring.Stay safe and grateful this holiday season.Pete

I'm excited to release this podcast with my guest Dr. Keyvan Eghbali, Keyvan is a chiropractor and health coach focused on men's health, nutrition, and weight loss. He helps people improve their health through lifestyle changes rather than medication.Kevin and I dive deep into the value of nutrition, especially as we get older, the difference between life span and Here are some KEY TAKEAWAYS from our discussion:Processed and ultra-processed foods are very damaging and should be avoided. Focus on whole, natural foods.Added sugars are hidden in many foods under different names.          <Bonus tip: Monk fruit is a good natural sweetener>Alcohol is very damaging as it kills healthy gut bacteria. Losing just 5-10 lbs can have big impacts on health markers like blood pressure and cholesterol.Make small, gradual changes in diet and lifestyle. Don't try to overhaul everything at once.Have a "big why" for making changes - a vision for your future health and longevity.Focus on progress, not perfection. If you take 1 step back but 2 steps forward, you're still making progress.In addition, Keyvan gave us some tips for the Holiday's.Don't wait until January to start changes. Start now, so holidays are just a small blip.Be aware of what you're eating and make small swaps. You don't have to be perfect.If you want to learn more follow Keyvan on Instagram, LinkedIn, or linktree. Petepetebeskas.com

My guest today is Patrick Fox, he works with guys who've had enough of their lives revolving around alcohol through his program the Alcohol ReThink Project.We dive deep into Patrick's journey from how a year long sobriety challenge changed his entire relationship with alcohol and started his movement.We dive into the drivers of why we drink, the pressures put on us by the society that we live in to keep us tied to drinking , and how to be intentional with our drinking during the holidays.This is a fantastic conversation and timely given that the next 6 weeks should be packed with opportunities to overindulge.I hope you all enjoy this conversation as much as I did, if you want to find out more about Patrick I've included links to his website and podcast below:Alcohol Rethink websiteAlcohol ReThink Facebook PageAlcohol ReThink PodcastHave  a safe and happy thanksgiving!Petepetebeskas.com

In our latest episode of the Tools for the Modern Man podcast, we had the privilege of hosting Jonathan DeYoe, renowned author of "Mindful Investing" and host of the Mindful Wealth Podcast. Together, we delved into the world of mindful wealth creation, uncovering valuable insights that promise to reshape your approach to finances.Here's a brief breakdown of the key takeaways:1. Jonathan's Journey:From humble beginnings to a four-decade-long career in investing and wealth creation.Co-author of "Cracking the Rich Code" series, sparked by a shared passion for accessible wealth knowledge.2. Shifting Focus to Education:Choosing financial education and planning over market-driven practices.Overcoming legal constraints to prioritize client education and planning.3. The Pitfalls of Financial Messaging:Mainstream publications often focus on short-term investment advice.Advocacy for shifting the narrative from market trends to personal goals and values.4. Prioritizing Well-Being:Identifying health and relationships as foundational elements of wealth.Daily practices for holistic well-being: exercise, mental health, gratitude, generosity, and meaningful work.5. Building vs. Preserving Wealth:Building wealth tied to a holistic life approach, not just chasing money.Happiness as a byproduct of a well-lived life, not an isolated goal.6. Challenges in Deferring Gratification:Cultural rush for immediate success and the importance of embracing patience.Making decisions for the long term in a world focused on instant results.7. The Advisor's Role:Advisors as guides who say "no" when necessary.Emphasizing the power of a third-party perspective in minimizing conflicts and impulsive decisions.8. The Power of Meditation:Recommending daily meditation for better decision-making.Scientific benefits: reducing the amygdala response and enhancing the frontal cortex.9. Universal Applicability of Mindfulness:Encouraging mindfulness in all aspects of life, beyond finances.Positive impacts on reactivity and thoughtfulness in various life domains.If you haven't listened yet, catch the full episode for an enriching conversation with Jonathan DeYoe.Mindful MoneyMindful Money Podcast"This is Water" VideoFeel free to share these valuable insights with your network and let's collectively embrace a mindful approach to wealth creation.Pete

Welcome to today's podcast, this episode is a bit unique because it's a recording of one of my Strategy Sessions.What are strategy sessions?  These are my specialty, I take someone's problem and we break down what's getting in their way. It's a pretty powerful session, some of the topics we cover:Getting "unstuck"Thinking out various ideas/opportunitiesPrioritization of opportunitiesSplitting attentionUtilizing your skills for maximum impactTime auditing and optimizationSelf sabotageIdentifying what skills are missing"Don't follow your passion, bring passion to what you are doing"If you have never had a strategy session this is a great example of what value you can get from spending time being guided and having someone asking the right questions.The best part of strategy sessions is that you get CLARITY around what you want to work on and it gets you FOCUSED on what you need to do. The best part are the results, from this session alone Devin scored a sponsor for his Yerba Power Podcast.If you are feeling unstuck or just want to learn more about getting your own strategy session use the link below to book a time to chat with me.Strategy SessionI look forward to your strategy session.Pete

My guest today is Steve Anderson, he was the director of the Minnesota Boys to Men Mentoring for 10 years, he's a husband and step-father to two teenage sons and in this episode he's sharing with us what he's learned on how to connect with your teenage sons, how to navigate successfully the challenges of being a step father and also the amazing rewards that come with being a positive role model and mentor in a young boys life.We talk about what it is that teenage boys are really looking for from their male role models, how to create safety within the relationship, and what the #1 skill to learn is to deal with teens.I hope you enjoy this episode and if you want to follow Steve and his work you can find him on Facebook at The Best Dad Project.Pete Beskaspetebeskas.com

I recently spent 3 days at the Dads Edge Alliance (DEA) Mastermind Summit in St. Louis, MO. This is a group of over 800 men that choose to work together to improve themselves every day as fathers, husbands, and leaders in their communities.I was floored by the impact that such an event can have and this week's episode is a summary of all the valuable lessons, insights, and takeaways from the event.I hope you enjoy it and if you are interested in learning more about the DEA use the link below:https://thedadedge.com/If you would like to speak to me about how you can uplevel your life by surrounding yourself with a coach or thought leader, use my link below:petebeskas.com