The Happiest Lives Podcast

This is part 3 of the series Thinking About What You Are Thinking About.  Your mind creates feelings that direct your behavior, which creates results. Therefore, you have to look at your mind to get new results. When we focus on creating change by changing our actions without looking at our minds- the cause of our actions-  we can’t create sustainable change. Pressing on despite unwanted emotions requires being willing to feel discomfort even as you take action from new thoughts. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part 2 of the series Thinking About What You Are Thinking About.  Every feeling you have can be traced back to a thought. When we get curious about our feelings and thoughts, we can't start picking them on purpose. In this episode, I show you four common misconceptions about emotions. I then walk you through four steps to FEEL better and I introduce you to the 4 P's that will help you face any circumstance. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This begins a brand new series, Thinking About What You Are Thinking About. You can let your mind run on default or you can take your brain out of the box and consider what thoughts are running your life. When you take your thoughts captive, beginning with awareness, you change your life.  In this episode, I walk you through the process of living your life with intention, whether it's managing your time better, improving your relationships, or reaching a personal goal. It all starts with a thought. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part nine of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. In this finale, we talk about creating shared meaning in your relationship, which Gottman refers to as the roof of our relationship house. I show you how to find a 'want match" and highlight the importance of small, consistent changes in positively impacting the fabric of your relationship. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part 8 of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track.  Today's episode discusses creating regular connection points in your relationship.  As you are intentional with a few things, this helps foster shared meaning in your marriage and increases the likelihood of spontaneous connections.If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Welcome to part 7 of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. In this episode, we explore making requests in your relationship in a way that increases your influence and leaves you feeling better about yourself.  Generating feelings of calm and openness before asking for help will serve you better than asking from a place of hurt, frustration, or resentment, which only leads to more disappointment.  When we make requests without demanding we are showing up in a powerful way. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part six of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. In this episode, I explore what it means to show up as yourself.  You want to be in a relationship with someone because they value YOU, not you being who you think they want you to be.    Awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and desires is crucial to express yourself and feel close and connected to others.  We consider obstacles to speaking up and the benefits of sharing yourself in an honest and true way.If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part 5 of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track.  Recall the last time you felt truly curious and understanding as someone shared their thoughts and feelings.  This week, we unfold the layers of becoming an adept listener, from fostering a nurturing space for heartfelt dialogues to recognizing the unspoken dreams woven into our conflicts. .Listening isn't just about passive absorption; it's a call to active engagement. Join me on today's podcast and unlock the full potential of every conversation.If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part four of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. Have you ever felt like your relationship is stuck in a cycle of the same old arguments? In today's episode, we dive into the heart of recurring conflicts, revealing how behind every gridlock issue is a hidden dream.   This isn't just about finding common ground—it's about fostering a deeper understanding and intimacy with your partner. Join us as we share strategies for creating a safe space for dialogue, where supporting each other's dreams helps strengthen your relationship.If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part three of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track.  When you nurture positive sentiments and good feelings in your marriage, you are making deposits in your love bank.  These emotional investments become valuable resources that you will withdraw from when you face conflict in your relationship.  Join me to learn three ways you can make deposits in your love bank today. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part two of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. Learn the importance of being emotionally aware and regulating your emotions in your relationship. You can validate and make your emotions work for you as you deepen intimacy in your relationship. Let me show you how in today's episode. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part 1 of the series, How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track.  A foundational step to building a healthy relationship is creating a healing separation. The goal of a healing separation is always healthier connections. Creating a healing separation does not mean you are living separate lives and dealing with things independently.  Instead, it means you are able to view yourself and the other person as parts of the greater whole so that you can show up and love better.   You recognize the other has their own models (thoughts, feelings, actions, and results) .  You channel your energy in a way that is effective and life-giving.If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In the Western World, we tend to indulge the view of self as we focus on personal development, self-actualization, and becoming the best version of ourselves.  Eastern religions lean toward renouncing self and suppressing wants and desires to move to a place of spiritual enlightenment.  Neither of these perspectives seems to fall in line with Biblical truth. Rather than losing ourselves as we die to our flesh, we find that we actually become more of our true selves.  When we receive Christ, our true identity is restored, and we can serve purposefully in the body.  Our desires lead us to deeper intimacy with God and we become more alive as we see ourselves as part of the greater whole where Christ is the head.  Letting go of selfish ambition and vain conceit, we make room for the power of Christ to flow through us.In this episode, I share 12 Attributes of Your True Self, a self we come to know as we surrender more and more to Jesus. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Can you trust in God's goodness and sovereignty, even when the road seems rough? What does it look like to let go of how you think things should be without giving up hope?The pathway to surrender often involves suffering.  We must be willing to feel our pain and gently move to a place of trust.   The alternative is powering our way through which leads us to greater self-reliance, exhaustion, and frustration, rather than greater dependency on Jesus.In this episode, I give you tips for how to hit pause on reacting to your pain, and instead move into the sea of suffering which leads to surrender, which unleashes rest and expectant joy knowing God has good things for you.If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Ever wondered how to go about accomplishing the impossible? This episode illuminates the four stages of achieving just that, from the despair of being unable to achieve your goals to the joy of leaning on God's strength. We delve into Apostle Paul's passionate journey of faith, where he learned to rely on Christ's atonement, not his self-will. We take a step towards surrender by accepting our helplessness and then shifting our focus entirely so that we can move from despair to expectant joy. We wrap up this episode with a promise - though sin may work in us, it doesn't define us. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Join me for this podcast series, The Surrendered Self.  To understand the concepts of surrender and self, we must plug them into the story of mankind's relationship with God, which is a story of redemption.  In this episode, I remind you of the ongoing battle between the flesh and the spirit. I encourage you as a believer to find your identity and worth in Jesus rather than define yourself by your sin or fallen nature.  Though we live in mortal bodies, the Holy Spirit dwells inside us and our days can be fueled by his spirit. I discuss how surrendering to God forms a secure foundation for our identities and equips us with the necessary tools to navigate the conflict between our flesh and spirit. Through this series, I aim to provide insights that could reshape your thinking, reaffirm your beliefs, and, ultimately, redefine your identity in Christ.If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Have you set an intention for the year? Is Jesus in the center of your pursuits?Why is a surrendered life the best life to pursue?In this episode, I remind you how obstacles and problems can become opportunities to deepen our faith. Sharing tangible ways to let go and trust God, from having daily quiet moments with Jesus to sharing our journey with others and making declarative actions, we'll explore the importance of seeing ourselves as worshippers. When we focus on Jesus, our thoughts and mindset become more like His, drawing us closer to the one thing that can fully satisfy us.If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

You'll be moved by the powerful testimony of our guest, Holly Snell, who turned to faith in her darkest hour. As Holly shares how seeking God's presence saw her through the loss of her husband in a tragic accident, you'll discover how harnessing the strength found in faith can transform your hardships. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

One thing is for sure: life can be uncertain.  This can lead to anxiety, overwhelm, and worry, even for believers. Holly Snell, the author of Dancing On My Ashes, joins us on today's podcast, reminding us of the one thing we can count on when life throws a curve ball. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

It’s time to wake up and start living.  You can break strongholds, have better relationships, achieve greater clarity, improve decision-making, feel better, and face what has been holding you back.The Happiest Lives Academy will unlock the extraordinary tools and coaching you need.If you have been wondering what it is like to be inside The Happiest Lives Academy, I give you all the details of this intensive coaching program as I introduce you to some of the graduates on today's podcast.If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com