Pillars Of Grief

Today, in our thought-provoking episode titled "The Feminine Power of Grief with Dr. Anne Baring," we dive into a transformative conversation that bridges the spiritual with the material, the past with the present.At an inspiring 92 years of age, Dr. Anne Baring, an esteemed author, union analyst, and historian, brings her wealth of knowledge to our show. She discusses the profound impact the shift from a matriarchal to a patriarchal society has had on our world, and how this has led to the diminishing of the feminine aspect in both men and women—a grief we continue to process.From the rise of materialism that disconnects us from the transcendent, to the unfolding narrative of the lost feminine aspect of God, Dr. Baring illuminates the path to understanding the sacredness of life and the urgent need to embrace the feminine power within our grief.We explore the shadow aspect, a concept from Carl Jung's work, and its detrimental integration into human consciousness, leading to dire actions such as the manipulation of pathogens in gain-of-function laboratories. Dr. Baring passionately calls for a united stand against such practices that stem from a pursuit of power and an obsession with immortality.Beyond our conversations on the historical grief of lost feminine roles and the tragedy of war, we touch upon the importance of love and compassion in the face of loss—something all too familiar during these times of global pandemic.As Dr. Baring shares her vision of a global movement led by mothers and grandmothers to end the addiction to war, we're reminded of the collective power of the human spirit. Moreover, we delve into the significance of understanding and integrating grief, whether it's through our online support community or our workshops designed to help manage grief more effectively.And, as a bonus, Dr. Baring invites listeners to explore her work further, mentioning her books like "The Dream of the Cosmos," available through her website and Amazon.Please join us for this deep and meaningful conversation that not only honors the feminine principle in grief but also encourages us to trust in life's sacred journey. Stay with us as we uncover the pillars of grief and the feminine power within.This is "Pillars Of Grief," where every loss is a step on the path to understanding.Dr. Anne Baring BooksJoin the Pillars of Grief Community APP. Join Here.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

Welcome to another moving episode of "Pillars Of Grief." Today we're delving into a profound journey from a materialist mindset to a belief in the afterlife. With us is the inspiring Laurel Waterman, who will take us through her transformational experiences from the bustling streets of India to the quiet introspection of meditation, and how these laid the groundwork for a seismic shift in her worldview.In this episode, "Materialist To Believer In An Afterlife," Laurel bravely opens up about her battles with loneliness, attachment, and the crippling fear of loss, which intensified following the tragic accidental death of her beloved husband. As a creative nonfiction writing teacher at the University of Toronto, she sought solace in the academic, until a small penny dated 1976 emerged from the snow, challenging her skepticism and leading her to explore mediumship and past life regressions.Laurel's scholarly pursuits took a turn into the metaphysical, moving from a staunch materialist approach to embracing post-materialism after compelling encounters at a psychometry workshop and transformative moments of spiritual synchronicity.Join us as Laurel shares her poignant story that journeys through grief, skepticism, and spiritual awakening, and how it has reshaped her life, her teachings, and her understanding of the connection between this world and the next. Remember to subscribe, leave a review, and join our support community for those on the path of grieving. Join the Pillars of Grief Community APP. Join Here.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

In this heart-wrenching episode of the Pillars of Grief, host Jock Brocas opens up about the recent loss of a dear friend and the profound impact it has had on his life. Through his raw and emotional storytelling, Jock delves into the deep connection he shared with his friend and emphasizes the importance of acknowledging the significant impact of losing a friend. He explores the unique nature of soul connections and how they can be just as powerful and profound as family relationships. Join us as we navigate the complexities of grief and learn to cherish the memories of our lost friends.Join the Pillars of Grief Community APP. Join Here.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

Welcome to a poignant new episode of "Pillars Of Grief," I'm your host, Jock Brocas. Today we delve into the enigmatic and comforting realm of dream-visitations, where the veil between this world and the next seems to thin transiently through the language of dreams. Together we explore the profound ways our loved ones may communicate with us as we sleep. No matter where you stand on the spectrum of belief, this episode is about offering reassurance that there's no singular way to experience the ethereal touch of those we've lost.Throughout various cultures and religious beliefs, dreams have long been revered as conduits for omens, divine wisdom, or ancestral guidance. But what sets a visitation dream apart from a regular nocturnal reverie? We discuss the ethereal quality of these experiences and share personal accounts that might just shift your perspective on the nightly journeys we all take.And while the empirical research is still catching up to the experiential reports, we also touch on the intriguing phenomena of lucid dreaming and how it correlates with these visitations. We honor the powerful narrative of Dr. Patrick McNamara, whose skepticism transformed into belief through a personal encounter within a dream with his late parents.As we traverse the complexities of grief's impact on our waking and sleeping lives, we call on you, our listeners, to engage and share your own stories of nocturnal visitations. Your contributions will light the way for others in our online support community.So, let us open our minds to the possibility of spiritual transformation, and may this episode be a gentle reminder that even in the solitude of grief, we are profoundly connected. Stay tuned as we seek to understand, honor, and accept these "dream-visitations" as potential gifts from those we still hold dear.Join the Pillars of Grief Community APP. Join Here.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

In this episode of Pillars of Grief, host Jock Brocas delves into the sensitive question that many grieving individuals face: How long should they keep their loved ones' belongings? He shares insights and personal experiences, explaining that there are no set rules for this process and that it's okay to hold onto these items as long as they provide comfort. Jock encourages listeners to prioritize their emotional well-being and make their own decisions without feeling pressured by societal expectations. He offers thoughtful suggestions, such as creating meaningful gifts from the possessions or donating them to serve others in need. Ultimately, he emphasizes that there's no rush – individuals should take their time and do what feels right for them. Tune in as Jock provides heartfelt guidance on navigating this aspect of the grieving journey.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

In this episode of Pillars of Grief, host Jock Brocas delves into how we can honor our loved ones by living our lives. He emphasizes the importance of experiencing and celebrating life to honor and remember those we have lost. Jock encourages listeners to shift from grief to a spirit of living, sharing personal experiences and providing insights on how to navigate the journey of grief. He underlines the idea that our loved ones continue to exist in another plane, and by living our lives to the fullest, we can honor their memory. Join Jock Brocas as he guides us through a message of hope and resilience in the face of grief, and inspires us to embrace life in the new year.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

In this heartfelt episode, we delve into the sensitive topic of navigating holiday grief. The festive season, a time of joy and togetherness, can often amplify the pain of loss and absence. Join us as we explore eight compassionate and practical strategies to help you or someone you love cope with grief during the holidays. From embracing your emotions to creating new traditions, seeking support, and honoring cherished memories, we cover a spectrum of approaches to find solace and strength.We'll also discuss the power of storytelling in keeping the legacy of loved ones alive and the importance of creative self-expression in the healing journey. Understanding that holidays can trigger intense emotions, we offer advice on how to anticipate and handle these moments with grace.Whether you're grieving, supporting someone who is, or just seeking to understand this complex emotion, this episode offers a blend of empathy, real-life stories, and expert insights. Tune in to find a glimmer of light through loss and discover how to navigate holiday grief with grace and resilience.🌟 Listen now to transform your holiday experience and find a path to healing and hope. 🌟Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

In this episode of "Pillars of Grief," host Jock Brocas shares a heartfelt message about navigating grief during the holiday season. Acknowledging the challenges that come with loss, Jock offers a supportive invitation to join the Pillars of Grief community. Through peer-to-peer support and shared experiences, he emphasizes the importance of finding comfort and understanding during a time that may feel particularly difficult for those who are grieving. Join us as we explore the power of community and compassion in the journey through grief.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

Welcome back to a new episode of "Pillars of Grief" with your host, myself, Jock Brocas. I apologize for my absence, but life has taken me on different paths. Today, I want to delve into an important topic that we've discussed in our support groups before: the cycles of grief and how to cope with them. In our journey through grief, we often experience ups and downs, and it's crucial to understand and navigate these cycles. To kick things off, I'll share a funny story about forgetting my own father's anniversary and the valuable lessons I learned from that experience. So, if you're ready to explore the ebb and flow of grief and discover coping mechanisms to help you along the way, let's dive into this episode of "Pillars of Grief."Join the Pillars of Grief Community APP. Join Here.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

On this episode of Pillars Of Grief, we delve deeper into the multifaceted aspects of grief and loss. Host Jock Brocas welcomes guest Dr. Charlson Gaines, as they explore the profound impact that relationships and connections have on our self-perception and self-worth. They explore how losing a friend can lead to a loss of self-worth and negatively affect our mood, happiness, appetite, and sleep. Dr. Charlson shares his personal experience of not initially recognizing his own experience as grief until they noticed the effects on their overall well-being. They discuss the significance of losing someone they held in high regard and the ripple effects it had on their life. Jock and Dr. Charlson encourage viewers to provide feedback and suggest specific topics they would like to be discussed. They invite viewers to subscribe to the podcast and leave reviews to help others discover it. To provide further support, the episode invites viewers to join an online support community for grieving individuals. Dr. Charlson concludes, expressing hope for viewers to find spiritual realization through their grief. Throughout the conversation, Jock and Dr. Charlson emphasize the importance of acknowledging the emotional and physiological reactions tied to events. They highlight that grief is not solely about losing a loved one but also about losing a part of oneself. They share the example of an Air Force retiree who faced a loss of identity after 27 years of service, underscoring the diverse nature of grief. The episode also draws attention to the varying responses individuals receive when opening up about their grief. Some respond with compassion, while others dismiss the struggle. This complex discussion challenges societal preconceptions of grief, expanding the understanding beyond the loss of a loved one and death. Jock and Dr. Charlson invite listeners to send in questions for further discussion and clarification. They emphasize the importance of self-compassion in the journey of self-discovery and identity realization. Recognizing that the process is different for someone in their mid-40s compared to a teenager, they advocate for self-compassion to embrace healing and seek support from friends. The episode highlights that seeking help for emotional pain should not be stigmatized. Dr Gaines emphasizes that emotional pain, like a broken arm, requires assistance and should not be a cause for embarrassment. They explore the connection between the material world and the spiritual realm, emphasizing the need to blend these aspects for holistic healing. Jock discusses their work as a medium and the importance of raising their vibration to communicate with loved ones on the other side. They stress the continued spiritual connection between partners even after separation. They highlight the yearning of souls and higher selves for expression, peace, harmony, and love. The episode explores the duality of the material world and the absence of karmic imbalance in the spirit world. As the episode comes to a close, Jock expresses excitement about future discussions and encourages listeners to ask questions and share their concerns. They reflect on society's lack of vulnerability, which hinders connections and the expression of emotions. They propose hugging as a means to foster self-love and connection with others. Join the Pillars of Grief Community APP. Join Here.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

On this episode of Pillars Of Grief, we delve deep into the other side of grief and grieving. Our host, Jock Brocas, is joined by guest Dr. Charlson Gaines as they explore various aspects of the healing process. They discuss finding a therapist who has dealt with similar issues and emphasize the importance of empathy and understanding in establishing a connection with a therapist. Trust in therapy is also highlighted, with the recognition that ethical therapists will refer clients to other specialists if they lack expertise in certain areas. Dr. Gaines shares a personal example of working as a life coach to help a client improve their relationship and self-esteem, illustrating how the healing process can bring up suppressed trauma. They suggest seeking additional help for dealing with newly surfaced memories and emphasize the importance of acknowledging the reasons for grief in order to better understand it. The conversation also delves into the concept of vulnerability and self-compassion as aids in the healing process, emphasizing that grief can hinder emotional normalcy if not properly dealt with. Dr. Gaines opens up about their own personal experience with grieving during a complex divorce process, highlighting the unique challenges that arise when an ex-partner remains present in one's life. The episode takes a spiritual turn as Dr. Gaines discusses the duality between the material world and the higher self. As a medium, Jock explains the process of raising vibrations to connect with loved ones on the other side and highlight the transcendent nature of the love connection between partners. The soul's yearning for expression and the higher self's desire for peace, harmony, and love are explored, as well as the potential breakdown of a relationship if partners do not vibrate at the same level. The conversation widens to encompass the idea that grief extends beyond just losing loved ones, with examples such as losing a job leading to a deep sense of loss. Listeners are invited to send in questions about grief to further explore the topic. The episode concludes with the anticipation of the next guest, Jalson, sharing their thoughts on the topic. Throughout the episode, Jock and Dr. Charlson Gaines address issues such as vulnerability, lack of communication, and the importance of self-compassion in navigating the complexities of grief. They aim to create a safe space for listeners to explore their own experiences of grief and loss. The Pillars Of Grief podcast encourages listeners to subscribe and promises to continue discussing the psychological aspects of grief in future episodes. Listeners are also encouraged to complete the assigned homework and provide feedback or ask questions. Stay tuned for more engaging content in the upcoming episodes of Pillars Of Grief.Join the Pillars of Grief Community APP. Join Here.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

Welcome to Pillars of Grief, Episode 7, 'Coping with the Loss of a Loved One to COVID and Finding Community Support.' In this episode, your hosts Jock and Jill navigate the uniquely painful experience of losing a partner to COVID-19, an ordeal that has become tragically common in our world today. They discuss the profound impact of such a loss, sharing personal insights and stories of resilience in the face of bereavement.This episode also shines a light on the help and support that exist within our community for those who have been widowed due to the pandemic. Discover the resources available and learn how connection, empathy, and understanding can play a crucial role in the healing process. It's a journey of pain and recovery, one that we can embark on together, building our pillars of grief and finding strength in shared experiences. Tune in to hear how we can collectively cope with loss and find help in our pillars of grief community.Join the Pillars of Grief Community APP. Join Here.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

This episode is not only thought-provoking, but for many of you, it will free you from your chains of bondage you have forged. There are so many questions that I get all the time from those loved ones who have been left behind, and who may have lost a husband or a wife? They remain a prisoner in their grief, and the question is - whether there is marriage in the afterlife, and should you find someone else to spend this life with. Should you date again after your loved one is gone? In the LGBTQ community, I'm often asked if there's any judgement about being in a same-sex marriage or relationship.Join the Pillars of Grief Community APP. Join Here.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

How do you honor your loved ones. When you are grieving, you often try to honor your loved ones based on the expectations of others. In this poignant episode of The Pillars of Grief Podcast, host Jock Brocas sits down with renowned clinical psychologist, Dr. Charlson Gaines. The conversation dives deep into the subject of how we can honor our loved ones who have passed away. Dr. Gaines brings his wealth of knowledge through his own journey and professional experience to help us understand the complexities of grief fom his own loss and the importance of honoring those we have lost. He shares his insights on navigating the grief journey and suggests practical ways to remember and honor loved ones in our day-to-day lives. In this episode, you will learn:The psychological impact of losing a loved one.Healthy coping mechanisms during the grieving process.The importance and ways of keeping the memory of loved ones alive.How honoring our loved ones aids in the healing process.Dr. Gaines's perspective on cultural differences in grief and mourning.This is a must-listen episode for anyone navigating the landscape of loss and searching for ways to honor the memory of their loved ones. Be sure to tune in for Part 2 of this enlightening discussion.Guest Bio:Dr. Charlson Gaines is a renowned clinical psychologist, and is the TV Host of Kope Life Nation.Host Bio:Jock Brocas is a seasoned grief expert and the dedicated host of the Pillars of Grief Podcast. His mission is to help listeners navigate the challenging terrain of loss and grief, offering understanding, solace, and practical tools for their journey.Links & Resources Mentioned:Dr. Charlson Gaines's (https://kopelife.org/)Jock Brocas's (jockbrocas.com)Please remember to rate, review, and subscribe to the Pillars of Grief Podcast to receive updates on the latest episodes.DISCLAIMER: The information shared in this podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. If you are in need of support, please reach out to a mental health professional in your area.Join the Pillars of Grief Community APP. Join Here.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

In this episode of "Pillars of Grief with Jock Brocas," we explore the concept of saying goodbye and how it's never too late to do so. Whether you have lost a loved one recently or years ago, it's important to find closure and make peace with the loss. Jock shares tips on how to speak out loud to your loved one, connect with nature, and share stories of their loved ones to help find comfort and healing.Show Notes:Speaking Out Loud: Sometimes we may feel that we missed the chance to say goodbye to our loved one, but it's never too late. Find a quiet space and speak out loud to your loved one, expressing your feelings, regrets, and love. This can be a cathartic experience and help bring a sense of closure.Connecting with Nature: Spending time in nature can be a healing experience. Find a quiet spot where you can be alone and feel connected to the environment around you. Take deep breaths, listen to the sounds of nature, and reflect on your memories of your loved one.Sharing Stories: Sharing stories of your loved one with others can be a way to keep their memory alive and find comfort in the memories. Connect with others who knew your loved one and share your favorite memories, stories, and moments. This can help bring a sense of connection and community during the grieving process.Connecting in your Mind: If you can't find a quiet space or feel uncomfortable speaking out loud, try connecting in your mind. Close your eyes and imagine a peaceful place where you can connect with your loved one. Visualize a conversation with them and express your feelings and love.In conclusion, saying goodbye is an important part of the grieving process, and it's never too late to do so. Whether it's speaking out loud, connecting with nature, sharing stories, or connecting in your mind, find what works best for you and honor the memory of your loved one.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

Welcome to this poignant and heartfelt episode of the Pillars of Grief, hosted by Jock Brocas, a man of deep insight and personal experience in navigating the complex emotional landscape of grief and loneliness. In this intimate and raw conversation, Jock will bravely share his own journey through the uncharted territories of loss, opening up about the unique challenges that men face when confronting their pain.As Jock delves into this powerful episode, he will create a safe space for men to unravel the knots of grief and loneliness that often lay hidden beneath the surface. Through genuine connection and open dialogue, he will explore the transformative power of storytelling and how it can act as a beacon of hope for those wrestling with the silent struggle of bereavement.Join Jock on this deeply emotional journey as he uncovers how the bonds of shared experiences can light the way towards healing and resilience in the face of unimaginable loss. Together, we will navigate the unspoken depths of grief and loneliness, and discover the strength that lies within vulnerability and the courage to share our stories.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

In this profoundly moving episode of the Pillars of Grief Podcast, Jock Brocas delves deep into the rarely explored world of grieving men. Unmasking the Hidden Tears provides listeners with an intimate and emotional journey through the unique challenges and struggles that men face when grappling with loss.Our society often expects men to be stoic and strong, but this heart-wrenching discussion reveals the silent suffering they endure behind closed doors. With powerful stories from brave individuals who have faced unimaginable pain, this episode serves as a testament to the resilience of the human spirit.Join Jock as he navigates the complex landscape of male grief, breaking down the barriers of societal expectations, and creating a space for vulnerability, healing, and connection. Listen to Unmasking the Hidden Tears and discover the power of embracing our shared humanity in times of unimaginable loss.Here are some key takeaway's from this episode;1. Men's grief is unique due to societal expectations and the stigma of expressing emotions.2. The difficulty men face in expressing their emotions to therapists who may not fully understand their grief.3. The importance of having a support system to talk through feelings and emotions.4. The need for men to give themselves permission to express their emotions and seek help.5. The lack of resources and support for men in grief communities.6. The issue of suicide among men who are grieving.7. The impact of losing a spouse on a man's life.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/

On this episode of the Pillars of Grief Podcast, Jock Brocas shares his grief journey and how it led to his expertise on the topic. Jock offers valuable insights and advice on how to navigate through the grieving process. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion on what makes him uniquely qualified to help others cope with grief. Jock offers valuable insights and advice on how to navigate through the grieving process. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion on what makes him uniquely qualified to help others cope with grief.Support the showJoin the Grief Support Communityhttps://jockbrocas.com/grief-group/