Hide & Seek

Content creator Down Under Bri returns to Hide and Seek to recount his journey to the JustForFans conference. Bri shares some of the more titillating panels and plenaries on everything from adult performer taxes, collaborating, and building networks in the world of spicy content. Bri uncovers some of the pomp and circumstance behind content creation, and some of the more prolific creators being more shy than you'd anticipate! Bri travelled through LA and even made a stop at the Trixie Motel, meeting a few key collaborators on the way   Bri last joined us on the episode 135 Bri Hard talking about his content creator journey as well as our two part content creators panel Spice Guys Side A and Side B Brian is @downunderbri on just about everything where you can find all his spicy links Twitter – twitter.com/downunderbri Instagram – instagram.com/downunderbri TikTok tiktok.com/discover/Down-under-bri …and Guy Films Guy on Twitter – twitter.com/guyfilmsguy This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Open relationships? For gays? Groundbreaking. Michael, Tim, and Jon explore what it means when your relationship is flexible. As all three of us are in open relationships, we discuss the pros and cons of exploring sex, intimacy, and love with more than one person - be that casual or in a polyamorous situation. We overcome jealousy, and increase communication, communication, communication! We also congratulate the newly sashed Mr International Puppy, Pup Jaxx - who traveled to Chicago to the International Pup and Trainer Competition and returned with the top nod. Congrats, Jaxx, save some time for us when you get home. Photo by Polina Tankilevitch from Pexels This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Globetrotting twink and certified smol boi Benny Fox aka @melbournetwink returns to share his experiences of sex work, content creation, and sex worker safety when travelling. We discuss all things from chemsex for content creators, open relationships, and travelling solo in conservative US states. Find and follow Benny on all manner of social media and spicy sites via linktr.ee/melbournetwink Benny last joined us on our episode Sex Shooter to talk about sex worker legislation and decriminilisation This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

This week is the return of Tim! Yes, we're recapping Tim's hot girl summer with some Tim Tales. We've got a little something for everyone with tales of fisting, getting caught on a country road, and understall in the uni toilets. Share your hot girl summer action and activities with us via our socials or shoot us an email! This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut-Weelam Clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

This episode is the tits, literally! As we look forward to Dark Pink Hanky party in April, we explore nipple fanatics, tit torturers, and those who flag dark pink. We also explore some of the more problematic (and thankfully retired) hanky codes. Jon, Michael and Craig explore their own hanky faves - and get into the nitty gritty about the titty. Hanky code info taken from The Saint Foundation Check out Emen8's guide on The gay handkerchief code and its unusual origins Find your favourite hanky to flag online What's your favourite hanky? Got a story about a flagging mishap or your favourite kink? Share it will us! email hideandseek@joy.org.au This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Newly sashed Laird Leatherman 2024 Jay joins us to talk about the dust settling on his competition night. We talk about our formative leather experiences, opening our community up to more diverse communities, and leading with kindness in the community. Jay reflects on his exceptional stage presentation including milk and hotdogs, Madonna, and money! A massive shout out to the four other competitors, Alex, Angelo, JJ, and Sir Z who all put themselves forward. We extended out chat after the boradcast, so be sure to dial in to the Sextras (Side B) of this episode! Find Jay at @jockbox on instagram or pop down for a chat to him and fellow sash bearer Joel at Eagle Leather The Laird Hotel and Laird Leatherman histroy can be found at https://www.lairdhotel.com/laird_leatherman.php  Find more about the Rainbow Railroad and the Australian Queer Archives This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukit-Willam Clan of the Boon Wurrung Peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Laird Leatherman 2024 Jay hangs around after our episode went to air for the Sextras, our podcast exclusive content. We chat about Eagle having two title holders on staff, Craig having a sash son, representing community internationally, and supporting disadvantage or displaced queer people overseas. Another massive shout out to the four other competitors, Alex, Angelo, JJ, and Sir Z who all did an amazing job. Don't forget to tune in to the main episode (Side A) Find Jay at @jockbox on instagram or pop down for a chat to him and fellow sash bearer Joel at Eagle Leather The Laird Hotel and Laird Leatherman histroy can be found at https://www.lairdhotel.com/laird_leatherman.php  Find more about the Rainbow Railroad and the Australian Queer Archives Events we mentioned! Down an' Dirty's Sounding workshop at the Laird - this Saturday, 17 February which JUST sold out!  Unfortunately Fair Day for Mardis Gras has been cancelled, so keep up to date with what the kink and fetish communities on Gadigal land (Sydney) are up to by following https://www.instagram.com/fetishaustralia/ Thursday Sunday 22 Feb - International Mr Leather Marcus Barela will be at the Burdekin Hotel for Around the World with IML 45: Destination Sydney Saturday 24 Feb Melbourne Leather Social (in part hosted by contestant JJ!) are having a Leather Picnic in Alexandra Gardens 14 MArch - Victorian Pride Awards 22 March - Hanky, Restraint  26 April - Hanky Dark Pink  This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukit-Willam Clan of the Boon Wurrung Peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

We discuss the recent poop related incident at the Beef Dip party in Puerto Vallarta, and how one comes to be stuck in a pool with an uninvited floater in the mix - and what the fuck you do in such a situation. Photo by Hannah Pemberton on Unsplash This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Stu and Rob join us to talk about beats and the art of cruising. We chat about why cruising is important to queer men, what makes a visit go right, and keeping safe while frolicking about town. Beat safety and health info can be found at downandirty.org and whereversexhappens.org This weeks episode image provided in part by Photo by Marco Chilese on Unsplash This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Jon and extra special guest Craig are joined by our newst bear title holder, Joenas - Mr Vicbears 2024. Joenas shares with us why he wanted to step up and put his best paw forward to represent his bear community, and what it means to share brotherly love amongts bears. Special shout out to Scott, Nick, Cam, Morgan, and Mr Congeniality Justin for an incredible comp and doing their community proud. And stepping down, but not forgotten  - our outgoing Mr Vicbears 2023 Jonny who joined us last year for the episodes Ep 117 – Bear In There & Ep 130 – Bear With Us If you missed it, our episode Ep 142 – Kink Looks Better In Colour unpacks more about racism and people of colour in our kink and fetish community Get more of the Vicbears on facebook   Find your tribe in... Victoria: Vicbears facebook.com/VicBearsInc instagram instagram.com/vicbearsinc and web at vicbears.org.au South Australia: Bear Men of Adelaide WA: Bears Perth NSW: Harbour City Bears - and the Bear Essentials events 18 Feb - 3 March QLD: BrisBears and QLD Camping Bears     This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Laird Leatherman Craig, our special guest, returns to join us in exploring what it means to exist as non-binary individuals in spaces traditionally defined by gender. We're also joined by Haydan from Eagle Leather and Melbourne Rubber for this insightful conversation. During our discussion, we delve into topics such as cis-presenting privilege within our transgender community, the vital aspect of radical visibility, and the implications of gendered titles like 'LeatherMAN' for individuals who don't align with traditional gender identities. Our conversation extends to the efforts made by some of our communities to create more inclusive spaces for non-binary individuals. We also reflect on the necessity of recognizing our own limitations, biases, and comfort levels when navigating gender-segregated environments, whether it's dance parties, sex parties, or venues. In addition, we have an exciting announcement from Melbourne Rubber, exclusively for our podcast listeners! Regarding Episode 155, we encountered technical issues while recording our discussion with Jasper about Vac Play and restrictive bondage play. Unfortunately, the audio became corrupted due to gremlins in our sound desk. Rest assured, we are actively working on re-recording that episode with Jasper and plan to release it soon!     This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Award wining sex worker Ally Love joins Tim and Jon to explore some of the experiences of trans sex work, safety, how to book or connect with a sex worker - and how to get 'the girlfriend experience' Links we talked about this week... Scarlet Alliance - scarletalliance.org.au Resourcing health & Education (RhED) - sexworker.org.au Sex Workers Outreach Project (SWOP) - swop.org.au Vixens - vixen.org.au Spice Guys - OnlyFans Content Creator Panel podcast  And get more of Ally at: AllyLoveTS2.0 instagram.com/allylovets2.0 @thetransbarbie twitter.com/thetransbarbie And all of Ally's links at AllyLoveTS.com This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

It's a big one this week! We've got a massive show for you this week, so loosen up! This past weekend Mr Australian Leather 2023 Shane @leatherman_shane hosted the Title Holder Q &A Panel at the Laird Hotel. The event aimed to  dispel myths and misconceptions about running for a title in our local community - and to impart some wisdom from current and former title holders to the next generation. The panel included Mr VicBears 2023, Jonny @mrvicbear2023 Ms Melbourne Rubber 2022 Delsi @delsicat Mr Australasia Bear 2022, Damien @sailor_bear_86 Melbourne Rubberman 2023 Joel @rbrjoel International Ms. Leather 2018, Sir Ang @thegirlang and Shane’s cohost with the most Laird Leatherman 2021 Craig Burnett @white.dragon.339 Thanks to the Laird Hotel for hosting this event, and for letting us tap into their AV system! The event also hosted a raffle and auction, which the team from Hanky took out - securing the denim vest owned by Patrick Brookes which he wore when he won  IML -  becoming the first and only male Australian International Mr Leather in 1980. Huge shout out to the Hanky team for raising $4100 for the David Williams Fund! This episode was recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri Woi Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Michael and Jon look back on the year that was, and what's on the Hide and Seek roster in 2024. We've got a gangbang of a show coming up in 2024 - so share your tips, tricks, and loads with us! email hideandseek@joy.org.au to tell us what you want to hear on the show this year. Michael's favoutite episodes of 2023 No Biggie - Small Penis Size Just A Hole, Sir - Glory Holes That's So Haven - Haven, Alex, and Queer Trans Men Jon's favourite episodes of 2023 Kink Looks Better In Colour - Racism in Kink and Fetish Communities Ageing Disgracefully - Older Men Up To Scratch - the Australian Pup and Handler Competition Events coming up! Titleholder and Competition Q&A @ The Laird (all genders) Sat 13 Jan Midsumma Carnival Sunday 21 Jan Victoria's Pride Street Party (Vicky P!) Sun 11 Feb Hanky Party (all genders) Sat 22 Mar Trough Pride - Sat 20 Jan   This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Body dysmorphia affects queer men in nuanced ways, and while we can't unpack every single element - we're going to give it our best shot! Some guys experience body dysmorphia through muscle dysmorphia - sometimes called 'bigorexia' where the adoration of bigger bodies can become more than a erotic fascination, but a driver in how we perceive ourselves - sometimes with negative consequences. Spencer Colt rejoins us to talk about his experience, and how our image can sometimes be tied to schoolyard bullies, and if we push ourselves beyond our limits we could just find ourselves halfway up Mt. Fuji with a double patella dislocation. Now, not all experiences of body dysmorphia are under this umbrella - so we want to hear from you. If you've experienced some form of body dysmorphia we'd love to hear form you. Be that slender guys, chunky boys, tall or short guys - anyone who feels their body doesn't match up with what their brain thinks it should be. Spencer last joined us during our OnlyFans content creator episode Spice Guys and the Sextra episode that followed We talk in non-explicit terms about domestic and intimate partner violence, so if you need some support head to joy.org.au/support Thorne Harbour's ReVisioning and No To Violence's resources on men's behaviour change programs might be useful, and check out Safe Always supporting LGBTIQA+ people experiencing violence Spencer is online over at Instagram at @spencercolt_ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Break out the non-brand named vegetable shorting product and open wide! We're going deep into the recesses of Tim's descending colon in an exploration of fisting as Tim goes bravely into the farthest reaches of his digestive system. Yes, Tim is attempting to take a little more than a knuckle sandwich - and we're helping out (or being entirely unhelpful - you decide) in helping him get all the way there. Tim, Michael and Jon are all fists on deck to share some tips, tricks, and tid bits about the art of handballing. We chatted about Fisting with Michael / FFunOtter earlier in the year on My Left Fist and with Anthony back in 2020 on the episode Fist and Shout Need some help yourself? Check out Fisting on Down an' Dirty [NSFW] SFAIDS' 8 steps for first-time fisters The Sacred Art of Fisting by Larry Shockey - some great tips but this one needs a refresh if you're thinking about HIV prevention as it's now a bit dated and doesn't include PrEP, PEP and U=U info :-) This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Oh, did we mention? We are winners! We were so chuffed to be the recipients of the 2023 Addam Stobbs Award for Broadcasting Excellence at the JOY AGM! Addam was a longtime presenter of Allegro Non Troppo at JOY until his passing in 2010 and this award is named for him. At a time when our community is attacked, called groomers and pedophiles by hate commentators simply for daring to be their authentic selves- it's truly an honour for us to be able to have the trust of JOY to present a show on broadcast radio about queer sex. Our sex lives form an important part of our lives, and queer pleasure is something we'll fight tooth and nail to celebrate. So, thank you to the entire team at JOY for acknowledging us this year. Most imortantly, thank you to all our amazing guests who have candidly shared their thoughts and often intimate personal experiences of sex. Here we have a really quick reflection on the night and winning the award. Don't worry, the real episode for this week is coming tomorrow. This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Michael shot off to Adelaide for GEAR'd, Adelaide's annual multi-day event hosted by Adelaide Leather & Fetish Inc (AL&F). GEAR’d has become recognised across Australia, and internationally, as its own community haven and an event not to be missed on any kinky calendar. As well as hosting Mr and Ms Leather and Adelaide Rubber titles, a week of workshops, kinky cabaret, and fetish markets was on display. Thanks so much to the GEAR'd team for throwing a fantastic series of events, and congrats to Mr Leather Adelaide - Storm, Ms Adelaide Leather 2022 - Delinda for your continued reign, Adelaide Rubber 2023 Miss Behavin', and to the newly sashed Australian Bootblack Soveryn. Timestamps for your nerves Storm: 01:33 Sharon (Miss Behavin') 07:03 Dr. George 24:00 Skye 36:14 We discuss suicide from the 55 minute mark until the end of the episode. Links Skye's One Last Look Photography on Facebook and Instagram Find Sharon via Piercing Perfection on Instagram Keep an eye on Adelaide Leather and Fetish and Gear'd socials for more on Storm's title year! You can find more on Dr. George Forgan-Smith and his many ventures by banging him into your search bar, or heading to painfreeanal.com Need some support? LGBTQIA+ SPECIFIC Qlife (3pm till midnight) - 1800 184 527 & Switchboard's Rainbow Door CRISIS LINES - 24/7 Life Line - 13 11 14 Suicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467 Mental Health Triage (SA Crisis Line)- 13 14 65 Beyond Blue - 1300 22 4636 Mens Line - 1300 78 99 78 SA Police Welfare Check - 131 444 or 000SA BASED LOCATIONS Urgent Mental Health Care Centre - 8448 9100 215 Grenfell St, Adelaide CBD. Open 24/7 Royal Adelaide Hospital ED - North Terrace, CBD This episode was recorded and produced on the lands of the Kaurna people, the Wurundjeri people, and broadcast from the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au Find all our links, ask a question, or subscribe linktr.ee/hideandseekonjoy

Michael Tim and Jon sit down for a Hot Topic sharing session. What have we been doing, what's been going on, what's it all about? Think of it like a slutty pot luck. We chat cruising and beats, dungeon setup safety, and sexting and consent. Delicious! Cruising safety guide here> https://downandirty.org/app/uploads/2022/12/CRUISING-GUIDE.pdf This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au Find all our links, ask a question, or subscribe linktr.ee/hideandseekonjoy

This week, any glory hole is a goal! We're chatting with Emil, founder and executive director of Sissy's Glory Hole. Emil (he/she/they) saw it in a dream! A glory hole of their very own, to delight and enterain the masses - and with some handy (and handsy) tradies, the infamous hole was gaped into existance. We discuss therapy, sharing intimacy with straight and bi+ me - and being the cover of the recently reinvigorated BUTT Magazine. Emil artfully discusses how the anonymity of a hole in the wall allows them to play with gender and learning to not pathologise their sexual exploits. Catch Emil on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/babydilfx/ Follow Sissy's Glory Hole on X/Twitter https://twitter.com/gloryholemelb Emil's Drip Article Melbourne’s hardest art project: Emil lets us into his glory hole  All Emil's links including articles, OF, and more! https://linktr.ee/Babydilf  Happy Holl - the ultimate aftercare for your butt: https://www.instagram.com/happieholl/  Check out Butt Magazine: https://buttmagazine.com/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au Find all our links, ask a question, or subscribe linktr.ee/hideandseekonjoy