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Enjoy the replay of a Facebook Live that Jessica hosted with Jacqueline Nagle about why you need to use podcast guesting to grow your speaking business now!  To learn more about Jacqueline and her programs for speakers, visit http://interviewconnections.com/anygiventuesday (affiliate link)     

Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines. She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli also co-hosts the Project Relationship podcast with her anchor partner, Ken. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, NPR, and The Atlantic. She’s spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility.Joli helps people create non-monogamous partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required.   In this episode, she shares the biggest visibility breakthroughs she’s had thanks to podcast guesting and coaching with Jess, Margy and the Interview Connections team!    Take Joli’s quiz at https://joliquiz.com/

In this episode, Jess shares about a pivotal moment recently when she realized that her workaholism was actually masking her people-pleasing tendencies.   Audio Transcript:    Jessica Rhodes: On this episode, I want to share a really, really great breakthrough, I had.   2 00:00:10.559 --> 00:00:21.870 Jessica Rhodes: spoiler alert we're sharing all of our breakthroughs on this podcast now, but I want to share a really important breakthrough about like workaholism and people pleasing and the connection because.   3 00:00:22.470 --> 00:00:35.640 Jessica Rhodes: I had this pivotal moment recently when I was you know talking with my husband Jamie he was like hey you know we do our two week vacation every summer with our like extended family.   4 00:00:36.390 --> 00:00:51.660 Jessica Rhodes: And then he was like I really think this summer, we should also do a week vacation like just the four of us, and I was like yeah and when he suggested that I was starting to get a little nervous about taking another week off and.   5 00:00:52.740 --> 00:01:06.270 Jessica Rhodes: Normally one would be excited for a vacation, but it was like kind of stressing me out like scheduling it in, and you know we found this week where it's fine like there's no launching happening and.   6 00:01:07.530 --> 00:01:10.410 Jessica Rhodes: It was like we were looking at this Wednesday to a Wednesday.   7 00:01:11.490 --> 00:01:19.350 Jessica Rhodes: And I saw that on the calendar was like a group mastermind call and content day like where we record all our podcast and I was like.   8 00:01:20.100 --> 00:01:26.430 Jessica Rhodes: Okay Jamie maybe like let's leave like Wednesday afternoon because, like, I have some stuff in the morning and he was like.   9 00:01:27.240 --> 00:01:41.250 Jessica Rhodes: it's we're talking about August, like you, can't move it and I was like getting really nervous and like uncomfortable and I was like um no I can get it, and he, like what he gave me the look right he was like seriously like you can't move this like.   10 00:01:42.360 --> 00:01:50.850 Jessica Rhodes: And I really like it was just in that moment, where I was like oh my God like I don't i'm not like addicted to work i'm not a workaholic I am.   11 00:01:51.240 --> 00:01:56.970 Jessica Rhodes: deeply afraid of inconveniencing other people, because I knew that if I.   12 00:01:57.390 --> 00:02:05.610 Jessica Rhodes: said i'm going to be off that day I would have to ask Maggie can we record our podcast on a different day and I would have to say to MARQuIS can you lead the call that day.   13 00:02:06.390 --> 00:02:16.320 Jessica Rhodes: And I was so afraid to make that request, and I was like I have always identified as a hard worker I love work i'm a career woman like.   14 00:02:16.770 --> 00:02:28.830 Jessica Rhodes: That has been my identity and through all of this work that's happening right now, this personal work I realized, it is like people-pleasing manifesting as workaholism and an addiction to work.   15 00:02:29.130 --> 00:02:40.080 Jessica Rhodes: it's not an addiction to work, I actually quite enjoy taking time off, but I was so afraid of inconveniencing somebody that I just was like I love working.   16 00:02:42.120 --> 00:02:48.150 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): yeah and, like the stuff that justice talking about is like very easy to reschedule to.   17 00:02:48.600 --> 00:02:49.950 Jessica Rhodes: Like it just exactly.   18 00:02:50.040 --> 00:03:02.100 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Like we reschedule like our content block when we record the podcast we reschedule it like all the time, in fact, the August, one is a reschedule of the original one because I booked a weekend with my basti and all the colleges move this.   19 00:03:03.840 --> 00:03:05.880 Jessica Rhodes: knocking I have different trauma tendencies.   20 00:03:07.770 --> 00:03:11.190 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): yeah, but I think this is really good, because this is something.   21 00:03:12.840 --> 00:03:17.220 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): When we did the leadership and the nervous system panel hold on.   22 00:03:19.470 --> 00:03:30.540 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): When we did the leadership in the nervous system panel which we also put out as a podcast episode So hopefully you listen to it and talks about psychological safety we talked a little bit about.   23 00:03:32.880 --> 00:03:46.920 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): trauma informed leadership, which I think is really, really interesting and i'm excited to go down more of a rabbit hole on that, but one of the things we talked about because, having worked with Elizabeth Elizabeth Christoph who, I guess, we talked about in every.   24 00:03:46.920 --> 00:03:50.040 Jessica Rhodes: episode is basically our co host now we're.   25 00:03:50.820 --> 00:03:57.390 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): only slightly obsessed with her and the work that she's doing but um she was talking about herself how.   26 00:03:58.380 --> 00:04:08.850 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): You know nervous system dysregulation and trauma and stuff manifested as perfectionism and high achieving and how true that is for a lot of business owners, a lot of high performers.   27 00:04:09.810 --> 00:04:17.190 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): there's like this aspect of like yes, you love what you do, but then there's this aspect of the way that you're doing it that can be dysfunctional.   28 00:04:17.580 --> 00:04:22.020 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And it was really interesting because we're talking about leadership and the nervous system and talking about our teams.   29 00:04:22.440 --> 00:04:36.120 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And there's this sort of myth in mastermind groups and just groups of entrepreneurs talking it's like if somebody has a team Member who's like all into like first two o'clock in first o'clock out like all this stuff that like your.   30 00:04:36.120 --> 00:04:36.960 Jessica Rhodes: Last too long ago.   31 00:04:37.500 --> 00:04:37.950 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Oh yeah.   32 00:04:40.650 --> 00:04:41.520 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): See I can't even say.   33 00:04:43.050 --> 00:04:51.690 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): yeah So if you have someone who's like the first in in the morning, the first out at night, like just working super hard I can't.   34 00:04:51.840 --> 00:04:53.460 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): See it's not me.   35 00:04:57.240 --> 00:05:08.820 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): there's this myth that if you have this employee who is so all in there working longer hours and everybody they're trying harder their work is perfect like they're just like this quintessential a player.   36 00:05:09.330 --> 00:05:15.330 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): everybody's like oh my God you're so lucky like where did you get them, how can we clone them.   37 00:05:15.720 --> 00:05:23.760 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And there's nothing wrong with having someone who's a super high performer i'm a high performer just as a high performer like it's good but there's also.   38 00:05:24.270 --> 00:05:31.470 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): With trauma informed leadership, there is this aspects of is that person.   39 00:05:32.160 --> 00:05:42.240 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Working that way because of dysregulation and a lot of the times, I think the answer is yes, we can still perform at a high level, we can still work hard.   40 00:05:42.510 --> 00:05:49.710 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): and go hard on the things that we love that we're in flow and alignment on that feel really easy but that generate results in revenue.   41 00:05:50.130 --> 00:05:56.100 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): But I do think it's really powerful to look at this idea of especially.   42 00:05:56.550 --> 00:06:04.500 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): You know within capitalism it's being a hard worker being a duo or being a grinder being the hardest worker in the room, like.   43 00:06:04.860 --> 00:06:16.470 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): All there's so many sayings are so many quotes there are so many motivational posters like it's so glorified and I think it's really important to bring in this aspect of the dialogue that.   44 00:06:17.370 --> 00:06:34.230 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): it's kind of dysfunctional and while the label of being a workaholic or super hard worker feels really validating to the ego that ego boost might be covering up some less you know, maybe attractive or less.   45 00:06:34.770 --> 00:06:45.060 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): gratifying to the ego traits that have more to do with proving self worth getting affirmation not letting people down people pleasing all that stuff.   46 00:06:45.480 --> 00:06:51.690 Jessica Rhodes: yeah and when you understand and have these breakthroughs of understanding, your tendencies and what they're coming from.   47 00:06:52.380 --> 00:06:59.460 Jessica Rhodes: A lot of your actions can be similar, but it is totally perceived in a new way and you feel so much more different.   48 00:07:00.330 --> 00:07:02.010 Jessica Rhodes: You know so for me like I.   49 00:07:02.250 --> 00:07:16.020 Jessica Rhodes: I do, I love this business and I love, what I do and before I realized that I had these people pleasing tendencies, like, I mean i've heard for forever people like i'm a people pleaser and i'm like that's not me that's not me and i'm like so Okay, maybe it is so i've had.   50 00:07:16.530 --> 00:07:26.520 Jessica Rhodes: Since i've had this realization around like how I do, I have had these people pleasing tendencies now i'm realizing oh my gosh like I can see how many times, I was.   51 00:07:27.210 --> 00:07:36.690 Jessica Rhodes: working more hours working harder doing more things because I wanted to please people and I didn't want to inconvenience anyone, and I wanted to like show my worth.   52 00:07:37.200 --> 00:07:47.850 Jessica Rhodes: And now that I realized the difference like you know i'm working on our social media at seven in the morning because I want to because it's fun, not because i'm trying to please som

Margy recently attended Kathleen Cameron’s Rise Retreat in May and she shares all about it in this episode!    Links mentioned:  https://www.instagram.com/asoulcalledjoel/ Audio Transcript:    Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): In this episode, I am going to share some of the breakthroughs I had going on a manifestation retreat with Kathleen camera and I went on her rise retreat last week in the Bahamas and it was a really.   2 00:00:19.740 --> 00:00:39.270 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Profound amazing experience it wasn't what I thought it would be, but it definitely ended up being what I needed and so i've been sharing this on my personal instagram at hey MARQuIS on live, but we wanted to bring some of those lessons here to the podcast.   3 00:00:39.930 --> 00:00:50.310 Jessica Rhodes: yeah, and so this came about, we were in Florida for a mastermind that we're in Kelly Roach his legacy leaders, and you know Margie had this.   4 00:00:51.480 --> 00:00:52.230 Jessica Rhodes: Really, this like.   5 00:00:52.710 --> 00:01:02.280 Jessica Rhodes: Calling she's like I need someone to pour into me do I need like an executive coach like I need something right so she's now out seeking and I remember we're walking through the airport.   6 00:01:02.370 --> 00:01:14.910 Jessica Rhodes: Well, she had previously heard from Anna rains like you should go to kathleen's retreat and so we're walking she tells me about it in the hotel room and I was like okay like cool like an expensive retreat in the Bahamas sounds like a.   7 00:01:16.260 --> 00:01:17.250 Jessica Rhodes: Perfect business and.   8 00:01:21.120 --> 00:01:21.780 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): It was like.   9 00:01:22.140 --> 00:01:31.350 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): A true into MARQuIS style of like being like I think I want to invest in a you know, an executive coach should work with me a CEO.   10 00:01:31.680 --> 00:01:40.830 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And, but I had been afraid to ask because it felt really selfish to ask the business to invest in coaching that was just for me, but, but I was like you know.   11 00:01:41.250 --> 00:01:49.830 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): As CEO and showing up and coaching and pouring into everybody else I was like I really feel like I need somebody who's like pouring into me.   12 00:01:50.340 --> 00:01:57.930 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): So I was like i'll hire an executive coach and then as just said, I, so I reached out to Anna rains and i'm just kind of like researching different coaches.   13 00:01:58.590 --> 00:02:07.170 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Kathleen Cameron is amazing she's somebody i've like had my eye on who does incredible work with manifestation and she's a really powerful very authentic person.   14 00:02:07.500 --> 00:02:09.360 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And so I reached out to Anna and i'm like.   15 00:02:09.750 --> 00:02:20.790 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): All right, like what a what a kathleen's programs look like you know she's got like some six months programs and there's like a group they're like group programs with a call once a week, which I really was looking for something one on one, but I figured i'd ask like.   16 00:02:21.150 --> 00:02:24.750 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): What does it look like and Anna was like you know I actually think.   17 00:02:25.770 --> 00:02:37.140 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): I don't know that her programs would be as good a fit for you as this retreat this like three day retreat in the Bahamas it's going to be amazing Kathleen is going to be there again her energy you'll have these breakthroughs.   18 00:02:38.100 --> 00:02:47.730 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And so, like when, for me, hiring an executive coach to me like telling jess and my wife like I think i'm going to go to the Bahamas and then being like what.   19 00:02:47.760 --> 00:02:54.360 Jessica Rhodes: Are you talking about so we're like walking through the palm beach airport and.   20 00:02:54.870 --> 00:03:00.990 Jessica Rhodes: she's like she has her phone out and she's like I really feel like I need to be there and i'm like all right.   21 00:03:04.230 --> 00:03:17.340 Jessica Rhodes: And like if you know mark it as as argues wife and I know very well when she says she really feels like she needs to be there, like we know it's going to happen and like there's not you know.   22 00:03:17.700 --> 00:03:22.710 Jessica Rhodes: it's like get on board or not, but like business happening, and so we sit down.   23 00:03:23.460 --> 00:03:28.530 Jessica Rhodes: And she's like really sharing like I really feel like I need to be there.   24 00:03:28.890 --> 00:03:37.320 Jessica Rhodes: And she was sort of like and I was like Okay, what does that mean because, like whenever we work with a coach like we always work with a coach like together like we do a mastermind together we're 50 partners and all that.   25 00:03:37.860 --> 00:03:48.420 Jessica Rhodes: And she was sort of like like do you want to check it out like what do you think, and I looked at it and I was like I mean I it's hard to do it's hard to look at a luxury retreat in the Bahamas and be like this ain't for me.   26 00:03:48.930 --> 00:04:01.830 Jessica Rhodes: But I looked at it and I was like this ain't for me like i'm like this Okay, you have my blessing, you can go on this retreat and i'm like I know it'll pay off, but it was like.   27 00:04:02.820 --> 00:04:09.060 Jessica Rhodes: Okay, this, this is what it's like to partner with marky she is like i'm going to do this and you're like I trust you.   28 00:04:10.380 --> 00:04:13.110 Jessica Rhodes: and go ahead.   29 00:04:14.340 --> 00:04:16.860 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): yeah I get some intuitive hits that.   30 00:04:18.420 --> 00:04:26.820 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): seem really off topic, sometimes, but so far 100% of the time they have like paid off.   31 00:04:27.630 --> 00:04:34.590 Jessica Rhodes: it's just so funny because, like it went from like when I think executive coach and I know this like isn't probably super.   32 00:04:35.040 --> 00:04:51.090 Jessica Rhodes: You know, politically correct, but I just think of like an old man in a suit i'm like okay she's gonna go get some like CEO you know, and then it turns out she's like two weeks later in the Bahamas like in clear blue water and this like $33 million mansion and i'm like okay.   33 00:04:52.080 --> 00:05:05.730 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): yeah and it was like and the thing is like yeah I mean a luxury retreat is cool but that wasn't what I set out for I really set out because I knew that I needed to up level as a leader.   34 00:05:06.090 --> 00:05:18.990 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And I wanted someone that was coaching me and I wanted some coaching that was like just for me because, like just said, we are coaching together all the time, but increasingly we have very, very different roles and.   35 00:05:19.620 --> 00:05:29.100 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Like i'm the only one in the CEO see and like it's just a different vibe it's a different like I don't feel like i'm alone, sometimes.   36 00:05:29.370 --> 00:05:43.500 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And so having a coach who's just working with me directly to help me be the best CEO possible and to help me coach and mentor everybody else in the business, who I met her directly and like to help them up level even more.   37 00:05:44.880 --> 00:05:47.250 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): I was also picturing an old white man.   38 00:05:48.390 --> 00:05:53.550 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Which is why I was so funny because it was like the feeling was so strong and it was like also funny because.   39 00:05:53.970 --> 00:06:04.890 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): I am a little bit like easing into travel, so the idea like i'm looking at this thing we're in the airport and I had just been like I think I want to travel less.   40 00:06:05.220 --> 00:06:10.830 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And this retreat is like less than a month away an international trip it, which is just like.   41 00:06:11.700 --> 00:06:23.550 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): On the surface, I was like this is, and of course it was like every annual doctor's appointment, I had fell during that one week it was like there was, like all these inconveniences that I was just like.   42 00:06:23.970 --> 00:06:31.020 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Oh, but I felt so strong and I was like I have to be there, and so I just I was, like all right i'm rescheduling everything and like.   43 00:06:31.650 --> 00:06:48.900 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): You know, deep appreciation to just for supporting me and for believing that there would be an Roi to the business and to my wife, for supporting me when she was like really not happy that I had just gotten home and was like i'm going to the Bahamas like by.   44 00:06:51.120 --> 00:07:06.450 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): She was not happy, but I knew that I had to go and I thought it was because I needed to go and get into kathleen's presence, because she has this incredible vibe and Energy I had heard about it.   45 00:07:06.930 --> 00:07:26.670 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): I ended up going and we actually didn't spend a lot of time with Kathleen because she had some health issues, which was really interesting because, at first, the first day she wasn't there and I was like there was a part of my mind that was like oh wait a minute.   46 00:07:26.880 --> 00:07:38.340 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Like Why did I have this intuitive hit that I needed to be at this thing when the person who whose presence, I wanted to be in to get this next level guidance to bring back to the business.   47 00:07:38.790 --> 00:07:47.220 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): isn't here and I don't say that with any rudeness, but like those are the sort of limiting thoughts that come up sometimes but then there was this other part of me that was like.   48 00:07:47.550 --> 00:07:55.830 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): i'm here this investment is made, I am going to have a breakthrough and like when I decide

In this episode, we nerd out on all things nervous system! We share more about nervous system co-regulation and how actually dysregulating each other’s nervous systems was the key to experiencing a quantum leap of personal growth.   Links mentioned:    Elisabeth’s previous podcast appearances on our show:    Applied Neurology: https://interviewconnections.com/elisabeth/ Leadership and the Nervous System: https://interviewconnections.com/leadership-the-nervous-system/   Audio Transcript:    Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): On this episode, we are going to be nurturing out on the nervous system and on some really deep work that dustin I have been doing together.   2 00:00:14.219 --> 00:00:25.410 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And then, with the help of Elizabeth Christoph who is our nervous system angel and the incredible breakthroughs that that work has really made available.   3 00:00:26.790 --> 00:00:37.170 Jessica Rhodes: yeah I have learned, I mean i'm embarrassed to say I really didn't know what the nervous system was until like a year or year and a half ago, I mean, I guess, I had heard the phrase, but I really didn't understand it.   4 00:00:37.530 --> 00:00:52.980 Jessica Rhodes: and Elizabeth has been on this podcast I think three times I interviewed her a couple of years ago, so definitely will link to these episodes in the show notes, so you can can listen she's been on marquees panels leadership and the nervous system panels.   5 00:00:54.030 --> 00:01:02.940 Jessica Rhodes: And i've just learned so much about the nervous system and it's helps me like experience the biggest breakthroughs i've ever had.   6 00:01:04.080 --> 00:01:12.330 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): yeah, and the reason that elizabeth's work and she's legit she has been featured in forbes she's like we're clearly obsessed with her.   7 00:01:13.110 --> 00:01:24.480 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): We feature her every possible opportunity we both personally work with her, we have coaching clients work with her when they have something they need to process through their nervous system, like the level of.   8 00:01:25.140 --> 00:01:32.460 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Our trust in her and our love of her is like very, very high, because we don't take that lightly, who we work with and also who we send our clients to.   9 00:01:33.030 --> 00:01:46.110 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): So what I love about elizabeth's work is I think there's such a huge focus in the personal development space on these mindset emotional energetic up levels.   10 00:01:46.590 --> 00:01:59.250 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And I love them they're amazing like I love them i've had so many like mindset and your feelings and your emotional guidance system, all that stuff is so real and so important.   11 00:01:59.970 --> 00:02:11.730 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And also, I felt that I personally and i've observed other people kind of hit a ceiling on how far I could go with just mindset and emotion and energy.   12 00:02:12.150 --> 00:02:19.680 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And I really wasn't sure why until I learned more about the nervous system and the work that Elizabeth doing.   13 00:02:20.040 --> 00:02:35.760 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And realizing that my mind my energy my spirit was like leveling up like crazy, but no one had talked to my body about what we were doing and that resulted in.   14 00:02:36.180 --> 00:02:46.230 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Yes, migraines exhaustion fatigue, but also in me sort of like getting up to the ledge of doing this thing that I knew I should do in this leap of faith.   15 00:02:46.710 --> 00:02:52.020 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And backing off because the discomfort in my body was so intense.   16 00:02:52.470 --> 00:03:01.560 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): I felt like I couldn't handle it, whether that was like you know super tight in the chest like shaking hands shaking voice like it was just like.   17 00:03:01.830 --> 00:03:15.630 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): It was like my body was like hell no and so i'm ready to show up powerfully and make this big move, and meanwhile i'm like shaking i'm like I have this week voice i'm like so tense, I can barely get the word out like.   18 00:03:15.990 --> 00:03:27.660 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And i'm like this in it like this any would make me back off because i'd be kind of honestly embarrassed because my body is not cooperating and I feel so powerful, I want to show up powerfully.   19 00:03:28.050 --> 00:03:36.120 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And then i'm showing up with so much fear in my body and people can feel that and I can feel that and it started messing with my mindset.   20 00:03:36.420 --> 00:03:50.220 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Because I would like go for these up levels, then I would have these reactions his old fear and stuff in my body, and I would back off because I would be like oh God it's too much Oh, it was like there was a fear.   21 00:03:50.520 --> 00:03:59.610 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Of the fear like feeling the discomfort in my body from the fear was so uncomfortable that I would back off and i'd be like okay I won't do it then.   22 00:03:59.940 --> 00:04:03.120 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And then I would be getting mad at myself for playing small.   23 00:04:03.510 --> 00:04:15.900 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): But the threat response that my body was going through, it was like you're gonna die you're going to die is like you're not gonna die from going on Facebook live, but if your body is sure that you will.   24 00:04:16.290 --> 00:04:23.850 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): It will feel really, really scary and your brains job as Elizabeth says, all the time, is to keep you safe so.   25 00:04:24.420 --> 00:04:27.510 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): This has been such a profound thing for me because.   26 00:04:27.930 --> 00:04:40.950 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): it's really allowed me to quantum leap because i've already done all this work i've like I mean i've processed, a lot of trauma i've done a lot of energetic work i've done so much mindset so much emotional guidance system stuff.   27 00:04:41.430 --> 00:04:50.970 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): It was the body was really the last piece, for me, and by now learning how to work with my nervous system and get the nervous system on board and take that time.   28 00:04:51.240 --> 00:04:57.630 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): To be like hey here's what we're doing it's going to be safe and like doing the neuro drills and the tapping.   29 00:04:58.260 --> 00:05:07.920 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): It the power and the grounding that I now have is absolutely incredible and I say that as someone who has a tendency to dissociate.   30 00:05:08.520 --> 00:05:15.300 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And when you dissociate you're not in your body and so getting in my body is a focus for me.   31 00:05:15.900 --> 00:05:24.480 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): it's it's always something that I have to be really mindful of and i'm like up in the head i'm like flying like let's do this.   32 00:05:24.990 --> 00:05:39.030 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Typical air sign if you're into astrology and my my Achilles heel is always grounding a lack of grounding and feeling safe in my body feeling safe grounding into my body.   33 00:05:39.450 --> 00:05:50.130 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): has made me so much more powerful as a leader as a mammal You know, as you know, we are, we are like.   34 00:05:50.910 --> 00:06:06.210 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): alpha apex predators as humans like and there's something when you bring that full power, not in an aggressive way in your body to all the other work you've done mentally it's fucking crazy are we allowed to swear on the spot.   35 00:06:06.780 --> 00:06:16.890 Jessica Rhodes: Now well well we'll have the explicit sign, but I feel like that's very fitting for a show with you, because we always put the little explicit emoji react in slack so.   36 00:06:17.250 --> 00:06:18.150 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): yeah i'm a big.   37 00:06:18.450 --> 00:06:24.030 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): fan of being explicit I always say I want to tell you explicitly what I want.   38 00:06:24.450 --> 00:06:26.040 there's no miscommunication.   39 00:06:27.420 --> 00:06:30.660 Jessica Rhodes: yeah I love, all of this, and you know.   40 00:06:31.680 --> 00:06:43.080 Jessica Rhodes: MARQuIS came to me recently and I alluded to this and I didn't lead to it, I said it in the last episode, but I want to dive more into this, I mean, are you why don't you share that side of story because yeah I want you to share.   41 00:06:43.350 --> 00:06:50.700 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): Okay, so something was happening, where I was getting dis regulated, when I was talking to us.   42 00:06:51.090 --> 00:06:58.770 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And there, there are something we talked about last episode we'll talk about it this episode like mirroring and funding and stuff like that which is a trauma response.   43 00:06:59.070 --> 00:07:08.790 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): where you want someone to like you, or you want to connect with someone, but to do that, you try to be what you think they want or to mirror what they're doing.   44 00:07:09.060 --> 00:07:19.290 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): which can backfire right, because if people feel like you're being in authentic and you're kind of stepping on their toes and you're doing what they're doing but it doesn't feel like it's really authentic.   45 00:07:19.740 --> 00:07:28.530 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): It can dis regulate them right and they start to get like they don't know why but they're just getting this feeling around you have like I don't know like I don't know if I like this.   46 00:07:29.010 --> 00:07:42.840 Margy Feldhuhn (she/her): And I was starting to get that feeling and especially stepping into the personal brand I was getting it more, because just was getting more regulated, understandably, I was also kind of just regulated, because it was scary to step out into th

In this episode, we share more about the journey of stepping into the roles that are right for us in our company and how stepping into the role that is right for you brings so much alignment and self-expression into your life.  Resources mentioned: https://interviewconnections.com/is-it-time-to-demote-yourself/    

In this episode, we’re sharing with you the recording of Margy’s panel discussion about how to create psychological safety within your organization. If you like this topic be sure to read Margy’s blog post about it here! Connect with Brandi Olson on LinkedIn here and connect with Elisabeth Kristof on Instagram.  

On today's episode of Monetize the Mic, Jess and Margy share more about their journey of transforming Interview Connections into a fully agile company using the Scrum methodology! 1. Working As A Team Makes It Easier for Individuals to Take Time Off with Less Stress 2. Interdepartmental Games of Telephone Waste Valuable Resources 3. Removing Individual Performance Metrics Lowers Stress and Allows Team Members to Focus on What’s Actually Important 4. Adjusting How Teams Approach Work Frees You From the Expensive and Ineffective Trap of Solving Problems With Addition 5. Working in Sprints Creates Rapid Improvement and Makes Big Changes Less Risky 6. Eliminating Top Down Decision Making is Good for Everyone 7. More Role Fluidity Helps Teams Thrive and Individuals Stay Engaged 8. Happiness Matters   Want to learn more about leading an agile company? Read Margy's blog where she writes frequently about the journey!

On today's episode of Monetize the Mic, Margy and Jess discuss why entrepreneurs with decent schedules and pretty normal workloads are so tired. Things that appear small on the surface but really need to be talked about, toxic positivity, people pleasing, avoiding tough conversations and obstacles are all energy sucks that you should explore to see if they're draining you. When you're authentic and self expressed, you'll find that you feel way less drained.

On today’s episode of Monetize the Mic, Margy and Jess are talking about how to know when it’s the right time to demote yourself (even if you’re a business owner or founder). When Jess founded the business, she called herself CEO, as most business owners and founders do. However, CEO is a very specific role and a lot of people who call themselves the CEO are not actually doing the work of a CEO, nor do they have the skills to. With Margy being the visionary and strategist in the business, it made much more sense for her to take on the title as she was already in the role and had the skills. In your business, it’s more important to have the right people in the right seats than to just look like you’re in a glamorous role. Margy also talks about how easy and trendy it is to be a business owner in general right now and how if you’re starting a business, you should ask yourself why you’re doing it and if you’re doing it for the right reasons.

On today's episode of Monetize the Mic, Margy shares the season 3 premiere episode of her podcast We Get It, Your Dad Died. The episode features an interview with entrepreneur Suzy Ashworth about how losing her parents impacted her life and career. Season 3 of We Get It, Your Dad Died goes live today, May 2, 2022! To listen to the rest of the season, find the show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Amazon.  

On today’s episode of Monetize the Mic, Jess is joined by Interview Connections’ client Anne Hill. Anne has noticed there is a correlation between the health of a person and the health of their business and has founded Hilltop Virtual Solutions to help busy entrepreneurs automate and improve their systems so they can spend more time in their zone of genius. Anne discusses how she works with business owners to create new systems to improve their business’ health and function. She also goes into onboarding new team members, delegating tasks, and how she became an expert in operations and systems. To work with Anne, visit hilltopoperations.com

  On today’s episode of Monetize the Mic, Jess is joined by Interview Connections’ client and founder of AMA Publishing, Adriana Monique Alvarez. Adriana talks about creating impactful relationships in order to maximize your collaboration opportunities. Adriana gives tips for getting a broader perspective when it comes to getting to know potential clients, having patience and discipline to grow as a business owner, and implementing the value of relationships into everything you do. To learn more about Adriana’s work, go to her website adrianamoniquealvarez.com

On today’s episode of Monetize the Mic, we are featuring a special replay of a Facebook live panel that Margy recently hosted on Leadership and the Nervous System. Joining Margy on the panel are Elisabeth Kristof and Brandi Olson. Elisabeth is the founder of Brain-Based Wellness, who helps entrepreneurs heal their past trauma by working with the nervous system, and Brandi, CEO of the Olson Group, who helps companies integrate agile strategy and organizational design into their organizations so they can thrive in times of change. This discussion is centered around the relationship between leadership, the nervous system, and how people can better understand their nervous system and its responses in order to become more effective, happier leaders.   Check out Elisabeth’s work at brainbased-wellness.com and Brandi’s at helloolson.com

On today’s episode of Monetize the Mic, Jess is giving you some prompts to help you simplify your call to action. These prompts include listing out 5 of your best clients, how they found you, what their journey was like signing up with you, what the next intentional step is for a host or listener to take to ultimately sign up with you, and whether or not you are utilizing your email list. Listing out the answers to these questions will lead you to create your perfect call to action!  

On today’s episode of Monetize the Mic, Jess is talking about how to write your interview topics and questions for your one sheet. A one sheet is a tool that is used to help you get booked for a podcast interview and gives hosts a sense of what value you can provide to their audience and also can act as a guide while interviewing you. In this episode, Jess gives you some prompts to help you identify what your most valuable interview topics are.

On today’s episode of Monetize the Mic, Jess and Margy are sharing what they’ve learned after one year of running their group coaching program. Whether or not you have an agency or one on one business, you can add a group coaching program into what you’re already doing. It took a long time for Jess and Margy to pull the trigger on starting this program out of fear that nobody would sign up for it, even though they already had an accomplished and established business offering another service. Margy and Jess list out some questions you should ask yourself before you decide to create a new offering in your business in order to set yourself and potential new program up for success. 

On today’s episode of Monetize the Mic, Jess and Margy are talking about the paradox of more. The paradox of more has been coming up in the business over and over again and Margy realized that some problems don’t need to be solved with addition, but instead by leveraging the resources the business already has. Instead of buying more leads to get more sales, Margy realized they already had so many leads and the sales team was already sitting on gold. The team started to ask different questions in order to tap into the potential of the leads they already accumulated, rather than just buying more. Jess also discusses how this can apply to podcast guesting and shares an example of how she helped a client do more with the interviews she already had. Multiplying instead of adding can do amazing things for your business and can definitely help you get the most out of your team.

On today’s episode of Monetize the Mic, Jess is joined by Melissa Guller, who helps business owners turn their skills into online courses. If you find yourself answering the same question time after time, it might make sense for you to create an online course. Melissa goes over the differences between creating an online course on a website such as Skillshare versus Teachable, what content to include in your course, how to figure out your pricing, and how to think of TikTok as a raffle ticket. Get in touch with Melissa at witandwire.com or on social media @witandwire

On today’s episode of Monetize the Mic, Jess is talking with Mickie Kennedy about using press releases to gain visibility. Mickie is an Interview Connections client and helps small business owners, authors, and startups increase their visibility and credibility with press releases. If you commit to doing a press release strategy, a business owner can see all kinds of returns ranging from new leads, getting articles in major publications, to millions of dollars in revenue (and Mickie can attest to that). In this interview, Mickie goes over the most effective way to use press releases in order to make the most out of the strategy.  To work with Mickie, head over to ereleases.com