DiscoverDear Sugars
Dear Sugars
Claim Ownership

Dear Sugars

Author: WBUR

Subscribed: 73,387Played: 809,660
Share

Description

Radically empathic advice. Produced by WBUR.
366 Episodes
Reverse
Introducing Beyond All Repair, a new WBUR podcast from producer emeritus of Dear Sugars, Amory Sivertson. This series tells the story of a murder, but also the woman who was accused of that murder, Sophia. Sophia was newly married and 6 months pregnant when she was charged with murdering her mother-in-law in 2002. She gave birth to a son in jail that she hasn’t seen since, and for the last three years, she’s been telling me her story in hopes of getting justice for her mother-in-law, of having a chance of meeting her son, and of finally being believed. This is the first chapter of Beyond All Repair. Episode 2 is already waiting for you. Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts.
Our loved ones are the people who are supposed to understand us. But what if they just...can't? Where do we turn then, and how do we fight the feelings of resentment that this lack of understanding can stir up? This episode was originally released November 11th, 2016.
The Sugars' conversation on friendship continues with a handful of letters concerning male-female friendships. Is there such a thing as a platonic relationship between a heterosexual man and woman? Can male-female friendships be as emotionally satisfying as same-gender relationships? What do you do when a friend crosses a romantic line? The Sugars discuss it all in rapid-fire fashion.
Everyone has had a friendship quandary of some sort in the past, right? This week, the Sugars take on frequently asked questions in "rapid fire" fashion – from hating your best friend's significant other, to hating her politics.
Whether you’re 5, 15, or 50 years old, it can be difficult to usher a stepparent in and out of the family unit. In today’s episode, the Sugars answer letters from stepchildren who have fraught relationships with their stepparents. What is a stepparent’s responsibility to a stepchild after divorce? And what can be done if you don’t like the person your parent chooses to marry? This episode was originally released on April 28th, 2018.
Encore: Buyer's Remorse

Encore: Buyer's Remorse

2023-12-1625:362

Buzz Bissinger owns more than 100 pairs of leather pants and over 200 pairs of leather gloves, having spent more than $600,000 on leather goods in the span of three years. Mr. Bissinger has a spending addiction, and he joins the Sugars to offer guidance to a letter-writer whose therapist and family don’t take her spending seriously. This episode was originally published on April 14th, 2018.
Redux: Love In Doubt

Redux: Love In Doubt

2023-11-2545:064

How many times have you heard this: "I love him, we're great together, but..."? There's always room for doubt, even in the happiest of relationships. So this week, the Sugars take on some of those doubts in rapid-fire fashion. This episode was originally published on January 5th, 2017.
Redux: The Ugly Truth

Redux: The Ugly Truth

2023-11-0836:081

Most of us have days when we don’t feel attractive. But in this episode, the Sugars read letters from people whose faces are at odds with conventional ideas of beauty. Writer Ariel Henley joins to talk about her own facial differences. Henley was born with Crouzon Syndrome, and underwent dozens of surgeries that changed the shape of her face.
Privilege comes in many forms: socio-economic privilege, gender privilege, heterosexual privilege, to name a few. In this episode, the Sugars reply to two letter writers who are facing different forms of privilege. They discuss with Catrice M. Jackson, a leading voice for racial justice. This episode was originally published on August 11th, 2018.
At age 18, we are granted the rights and responsibilities of adulthood in the eyes of the law. But for parents of young adults, it’s not so clear cut. When is the right time to wean your children off the family payroll? The Sugars tackle this question with the help of Dr. Kate Gale. This episode was originally released on December 23rd, 2017.
Produced by WBUR, Boston’s NPR, in partnership with The Trace, The Gun Machine looks into the past to bring you a story that most Americans never learned in history class: how early partnerships between mad scientist gunsmiths and a fledgling U.S. government created the gun industry in the Northeast, and how that industry has been partners with the government ever since. Host Alain Stephens examines how this 250-year relationship underpins all Americans’ interactions with guns — including our failures in dealing with the fallout of gun violence. The Gun Machine episodes drop every Wednesday, starting Oct. 4, 2023. Listen and follow on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music and wherever you get your podcasts. https://link.chtbl.com/thegunmachine
Snooping on your spouse is generally ill-advised, but what if he or she has an addiction and is constantly lying about it? The Sugars and writer Ariel Levy answer this question in this episode, originally released on December 2, 2017.
This is part two of the series on early childhood death. The Sugars read letters from parents who worry that their grief may overshadow their surviving children. They are joined by the writer Emily Rapp Black, who decided to have another child after learning that her son had a fatal congenital disorder.
Redux: Trust Your Body

Redux: Trust Your Body

2023-08-2547:303

Her grandmother always introduced her as the “chubby one.” Now, she vacillates between moderation and binge-eating. “It’s only when my pants are nearly impossible to button that I force myself to lose weight,” writes the letter-writer who calls herself Body Negative. “And then the pattern starts all over again.” The Sugars discuss and share their own struggles with body image.
"What do I want?" This is the question Oprah Winfrey finally asked herself, after years of struggling to say "no" to people in her life. In the second of this two-part series, the Sugars continue their conversation with Oprah Winfrey on when, why and how to say "no."
In this episode, the Sugars answer letters from letter writers who want to have sex less frequently than their partners do.
In the Empty Chair series, the Sugars discuss early childhood death, an absence that can be ever-present. In Part 1, they read letters from siblings who live in the the shadow of their parents’ grief. This episode was originally released on November 4th, 2017.
When the Sugars answered a letter from a woman who felt trapped in the role of "wicked stepmother," dozens of listeners wrote in asking the same question: what about the stepchildren, who have no control over the restructuring of their family? This episode, the Sugars respond with an episode devoted to the other side of the story.
Divorce is always a painful process, but it's especially so when there are children in the middle. In this favorite episode from the archives, the Sugars discuss situations of parental alienation caused by divorce. They answer letters from a mother and a father whose daughters have cut off all communication with them after taking the other parent's side. This episode was originally released October 14th, 2016.
Dear Sugars fans: We wanted to share with you an episode from Love Letters, hosted by Boston Globe advice columnist Meredith Goldstein, that we think you'll enjoy.
loading
Comments (71)

Robi Lousing

It's good that you came⚘️⚘️⚘️

Aug 26th
Reply

Robi Lousing

💚💙❤🧡💛

Jul 15th
Reply

Robi Lousing

very good👏👏♥️♥️

Jul 1st
Reply

Robi Lousing

you welcome

May 20th
Reply

Robi Lousing

Greetings to you, Weber, your eloquent language

May 6th
Reply

Robi Lousing

good luck

Apr 25th
Reply

Robi Lousing

❤️💙💚❤️

Apr 21st
Reply

hadiseh rezazadeh

Dear sugars, you are saving our time from turning to low quality with lots of thinking and getting nowhere. I'm glad I found you guys. Love, Hadis.

Apr 8th
Reply

Masoud

ثککثثککک ک ثک

May 18th
Reply

Masoud

ثکث

May 18th
Reply

Mariah Ferraz

f

Feb 6th
Reply

Mohammad Noei

why there is no comment here?

Sep 27th
Reply

A Gannon

Wondering how they feel about their advice now with this death toll and all the harm that has been wrought. Someone who stood for that, voted for that, is someone with irreconcilable views. Don't keep that friendship. Exclusion is the only pain that reaches some people.

Dec 31st
Reply

A Gannon

No, the Trump thing should have been and should still be a dealbreaker. Period.

Dec 31st
Reply

Sana Nosrati

it's like my own situation. I'm moving to Canada and I'm completely ready except for my love life. I almost couldn't let go of my partner of 2 months. (he can't move to another country with me) i know it's a short time to get attached to someone but he was really especial and that made it harder for me. but eventually I talked to him and we came to a conclusion that we don't have the same dream and we said goodbye as partners.so I did it but my heart still aches :\

Dec 15th
Reply

Martha Morrison

which birthday book is he talking about? I tried to look it up, but there are a bunch of birthday books about astrology. Book of birthdays, secret language of, power of, hidden world of...

Dec 9th
Reply

Novice

feel sad

Jun 21st
Reply (1)

Cristina Rios

Go to 30:36 for practical advice on healing your relationship with your body

May 30th
Reply

ID14049152

This goes out to the girl in a rut; I wish u the best of luck with trying to find yourself. I can totally relate to your letter and the advice given to you from dear sugars- guess it’s good to know you aren’t alone.

May 2nd
Reply

Emily Wallace

Hi Sugars! I was wondering what the name of the theme song for this podcast song was? I love the tune and would love the opportunity to listen to the full song. Thanks!

Mar 26th
Reply (1)
Download from Google Play
Download from App Store