The Susan Winter Show

You know you need to let go but you can’t stop thinking about them. Here’s how to retract your energetic thoughts that keep you stuck (while they repel the very person you want). If you want them back, obsessing over them creates energetic repulsion. If you want to be free and move on, retracting your energy is key. Disciplining your mind to move into the ‘future forward’ position creates confidence, opportunity, freedom, and choice. Want more? Check out my LiveShow: Energetic Mastery: Retract to Re-attract How to let go energetically How obsession leaks your energy and repels the very person you want The fear that stops you is the key to your freedom Reference to YouTube Live Show: Why People Pleasing Pushes Love Away- LIVE Q&A https://www.youtube.com/live/mE84gY2FfY8 Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Are Their Feelings Real? Players. Scammers. Opportunists. They thrive on the one vulnerability we all possess—the desire to believe their feelings are real. Here’s how to become ‘player proof.’ We have one universal quality that is our downfall to being played, used, and conned, both in real life and online. We WANT to believe. We want to believe the fairytale, and we don’t want reality to pierce that seductive bubble. Here’s your way out, and onward to real love. Too Good To Be True It’s Perfect. They’re Perfect Exit the Bubble Reference to YouTube Live Show: Why People Pleasing Pushes Love Away- LIVE Q&A https://www.youtube.com/live/mE84gY2FfY8 Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

We’re told to “just be yourself” on a first date. But which YOU is that? Here’s how to show up as your authentic best self while letting your many facets shine. When we're young, we’re still forming our identity. Taking cues from those around us, we try on different personalities and attitudes until we find what resonates. In maturity, we discover we have multiple sides to our personalities, and various aspects come out to play when dating.  Feeling comfortable with the 'allness’ of who you are sets you up for success from the first date onward. Here's how: For more info on this topic, read my article: https://susanwinter.net/which-you-shows-up-on-the-first-date/ Embracing the Many Facets of Who You Are Leading with Your Authentic Best Self Feeling Confident and Comfortable on First Dates Reference to YouTube Live Show: Why People Pleasing Pushes Love Away- LIVE Q&A https://www.youtube.com/live/mE84gY2FfY8 Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Shapeshifting for Love? Are you changing who you are to earn someone’s approval? Social pressure, dating dynamics, and everyday interactions can quietly pull you away from your true identity. Learn how to stop morphing for THEM and return to the powerful center point of who you really are.  The seduction of a new relationship can urge you to become someone you’re not, for THEIR approval. Here’s how to integrate the many aspects of your personality, rather than assimilate completely to be what you think “they“ want you to be. Noticing How You Morph (Alter) for THEM Integration, not Assimilation Solidifying Your Centerpoint (Your True Self) Reference to YouTube Live Show: Why People Pleasing Pushes Love Away- LIVE Q&A https://www.youtube.com/live/mE84gY2FfY8 Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

A blindsided breakup with an avoidant partner leaves you reeling—one moment there’s love and connection, the next, silence and confusion. Here’s why they disappear the moment love takes hold. When the avoidant pulls away just as things feel real, it’s not about you—it’s about their fear of emotional closeness. Understanding this pattern is the key to freeing yourself from self-blame, reclaiming clarity, and finding peace after their sudden retreat. How Pace and Futurizing Fuel the Flame Why Avoidants Bail When Intimacy Appears How To Regain Power and Emotional Balance Reference to YouTube Live Show: Why People Pleasing Pushes Love Away- LIVE Q&A https://www.youtube.com/live/mE84gY2FfY8 Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Still fixated on your avoidant ex? You’ve moved on, yet part of you can’t let go. Here’s how to break free from the intoxicating pull of this high-drama connection. It’s Not About Him. Intense High/Low Drama=Excitement Identify Addictive Loop and Reframe Reference to YouTube Live Show: Why People Pleasing Pushes Love Away- LIVE Q&A https://www.youtube.com/live/mE84gY2FfY8 Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

There’s a hidden cost to people pleasing in love—it repels rather than attracts. Learn how to stop over-giving and start creating real connection and desire. People pleasing might feel like the path to love, but it quietly erodes attraction. Discover how setting clear boundaries and honoring what you truly want builds respect, confidence, and lasting desire. Why People Pleasing Makes You Undesirable What Do YOU Want and Need? How Boundaries Create Respect and Attraction Reference to YouTube Live Show: Why People Pleasing Pushes Love Away- LIVE Q&A https://www.youtube.com/live/mE84gY2FfY8 Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

You thought it would be casual. But no. It’s powerful. You realize you’re in love with a younger man and have no script— only uncertainty. Here’s how to take that fear and turn this unexpected love into something beautiful. The Fear of Realizing You Love Him How To Create Something Wonderful Advice on How To Proceed Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Don’t Chase an Older Woman—Do THIS Instead. You know she cares—so why has your older woman pulled away? Here’s how to override her internal fear and reboot the desire that unites your partnership. As a young guy, you’re not able to know what’s going on in her mind. But from one who’s been there— I know what’s happening. Every fear she has of abandonment, rejection, looking like a fool, and wondering how she’s going to pick up the pieces of a broken heart are screaming at her to run away from you. It’s a ‘her’ issue. But here’s how you can help… Why She’s Pulling Away How To Mitigate Her Fears What Needs To Happen Next Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Feel like you’re losing yourself to please others? The need for social conformity becomes a disempowering ‘approval prison’—but here’s how to get your power (and your life) back. Social conformity and the need for approval can quietly shape who you become—dictating your choices, emotions, and relationships. Living by someone else’s rules disconnects you from your authentic self. Learn how to reclaim your inner authority, break free from external expectations, and live from genuine self-trust. Conditioning and Conformity The Cost of Pleasing Others Reclaiming Personal Power and Your Life Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Emily Bradbury is a relationship and empowerment coach specializing in attachment theory and growing your emotional intelligence and regulation tools. She’s uniquely equipped in masculine/feminine energetics and polarity. Emily helps her diverse client base across the world, with different ages, backgrounds, and beliefs. In this interview, we discuss rewriting your identity and personal stories as a part of the healing journey from anxious attachment to healthy secure attachment. Emily describes what the process looks like, how it worked for her, and why it’s such a powerful tool when combined with coaching. Healing anxious attachment is a process Avoidant + Anxious attachment relationships Rewriting your personal story Masculine/feminine polarity Social links Instragram: emily.bradbury.coaching TikTok: @emily.bradbury.coaching Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

If you’ve only known abusive partnerships, what’s the path to healthy love? How can you attract the right partner with a history of abusive relationships? Here’s how to begin that process: Here’s how to learn from the past, apply it to the future, and secure the quality of love you deserve. Recognizing your loops and breaking habitual patterns of your own behavior has a lot to do with the quality of individual you call into your life. Here are the steps: Review issues and past loops Know what you want now Apply pace and discernment Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

They won’t love you. But why? You know yourself to be worthy and deserving of their love, yet they resist. Here are 4 hidden reasons you never considered (and have nothing to do with YOU). Did you ever think it may not be about you? That while you’re ruminating over everything you said and did, wondering what you could have done differently… that none of this was the cause. But rather, it’s this: Emotionally Unavailable Different Image of Love Casual Dating vs Intentional Fear of Losing Control Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

They're pulling away. They say, "I can't." Here's what's really going on —and why it’s code for something you’d never expect. Some partners can’t rise to meet the fullness of who you are. They avoid conflict, resist growth, and retreat to comfort instead of stepping forward into their own evolution. The truth is that their limitations aren’t your responsibility—and your power lies in refusing to shrink down to make them feel bigger. Here’s how to stay whole without compromising your worth. Why some partners can’t handle the “all-ness” of you The danger of shrinking yourself to fit their comfort How to stand firm in your worth and keep your power Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Afraid to approach an older woman? Here's how to lead with confidence, create a real connection, and maintain effortless attraction. #agegapdating #olderwomen #youngermen Dating an older woman can feel intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. As one who’s lived this romantic experience, I’ll walk you through each step of the approach: what to say, how to say it, and how to override her doubts about age gap dating. With the right approach and mindset, you’ll be able to connect on a deeper level, impress her naturally, and take the next steps with ease. Unlock the signals she’ll respond to Younger men’s edge in age gap dating From subtle approach to undeniable attraction Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Are you the only one trying? It takes two— not just YOU. One person alone cannot make the relationship work. If you’re the only one trying, you NEED to do this instead: A relationship cannot thrive on the effort of one person alone. True love requires two individuals who are willing to express their needs, listen to each other, and work toward solutions together. When both partners actively participate, the relationship has the foundation it needs to grow and endure. Express your needs Your partner shares their needs Negotiate and secure ‘next steps’ Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Hidden Red Flags? Want to avoid heartbreak? Learn how to spot hidden red flags early in dating—before they damage your confidence and self-worth. https://youtu.be/6aeVzqvvQHE Early dating often feels exciting, but it’s also the time when hidden issues reveal themselves. Subtle signs of hesitation, lack of alignment, or emotional distance can show up before a relationship even begins. Discover how to identify these early red flags, protect your heart, and choose partners who are truly right for you. Spot hidden red flags early Catch subtle signs of hesitation Protect your self-worth in dating Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Tired of feeling lonely? Longing for true love? Here’s how to attract the right type of partner and create a deep, lasting love: #loneliness #findingtruelove It’s not just you—there’s a loneliness epidemic. Technology and social media have created the impression of closeness, yet finding a healthy partner for a lasting love can feel impossible at times. But there is a workaround that will ground us and enable not only self-love, but the true love of another. Why We’re Feeling Lonely External and Internal Stressors Attracting the Right Partners Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

The reason you’re not finding love isn’t what you think. Modern dating comes with hidden barriers—and this insightful discussion with Damien Diecke reveals how to overcome them so the perfect person can finally find you. Damien Diecke is the Head Coach and Founder of the ‘School of Attraction,’ and ‘The Dangerous Man’ retreat in Australia. Damien has spoken at events in over 20 countries on a wide range of topics including Dating, Relationships, Masculinity, Gender, Self-confidence, and more. Why does love feel so elusive? In this conversation, we explore our attraction hooks and defaults, the turmoil of repeated failures, and the surprising power of self-responsibility. From filling our own tank with self-care to embracing the shadow self, we uncover why “no game” dating, balancing masculine and feminine energies, and finding wholeness are the keys to letting the perfect person finally find you. Today’s world makes it harder Powerful actions you can take Opening the door for real love Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

The Avoidant’s Love Bombing Cycle- They shower you with love, pull away, and later want to reconnect. Here’s how to spot—and stop—the avoidant’s love bombing cycle. An avoidant’s pattern often begins with intense love bombing, creating the illusion of closeness and safety. Then, without warning, they pull away, go no contact, and reappear months later expecting to pick up where things left off. This episode breaks down the emotional mechanics behind this toxic cycle and shows you how to respond with clarity and strength. How love bombing creates a false sense of security. Why avoidants pull away and go no contact. How to handle their return without losing your power. Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile