The Nichole Banks Podcast

It Aches in Places No One SeesSome pain doesn’t announce itself. It doesn’t fall apart in public. It just… lingers.In this episode of The Nichole Banks Podcast, we talk about the quiet side of healing after divorce—the ache that shows up long after the paperwork is done and life is supposed to feel “fine.”Nichole shares personal reflections on emotional whiplash, the difference between loneliness and readiness, and a deeply relatable moment of running into someone who didn’t know about the divorce—and the ache that followed.If you’ve ever wondered, “Why does this still hurt?” This episode will help you understand why—and remind you that nothing about your healing is wrong.Healing doesn’t happen in leaps. It happens in layers.???? Mentioned in this episode: How to Navigate Heartache, Healing, and Love After DivorceYou’re not broken. You’re becoming.#HealingAfterDivorce #DivorceRecovery #WomensHealing #EmotionalHealing #LifeAfterDivorce #NicholeBanksPodcast

If divorce has left you feeling lost or disconnected from who you used to be, this episode is your gentle reset. Nichole shares six powerful steps to help you feel like yourself again after heartbreak — with practical tips, emotional validation, and real-life examples.Perfect for women healing after divorce, rebuilding confidence, or starting their second act with clarity and hope.What You’ll LearnWhy you didn’t “lose yourself” after divorceHow to reconnect with who you were before life got loudWhy messy emotions are a normal part of healingSimple routines that help you feel grounded againThe power of one small win a dayHow to dream about your future without fear???? Pre-Order the Book✨ How to Navigate Heartache, Healing, and Love After Divorce Releases January 6, 2026 Your roadmap through heartbreak, healing, and opening your heart again.???? Free ResourceDownload Miracle Month — Your 30-Day Fresh Startdivorce recovery, healing after divorce, feeling like yourself again, women's healing, confidence after divorce, second act energy, emotional healing, divorced women over 40Miracle Month: nicholebanks.com/miraclemonthplanner Pre-order the book: Here!

Holiday Boundaries You’re Allowed to Set (Especially When Your Heart Has Been Through Enough This Year)In this episode of The Nichole Banks Podcast, we’re talking holiday boundaries — the ones you’re actually allowed to set without guilt, without explanations, and without apologizing for choosing your peace.If the holidays feel overwhelming, tender, emotional, or just heavier than you expected, this episode is your reminder that you’re allowed to protect your energy. You’re allowed to do things differently. And you’re allowed to build a holiday that feels safe and gentle for you.This conversation is here to help you breathe again, feel seen, and remember that your peace comes first, no matter who disagrees.This episode covers:• The boundaries you're allowed to set this holiday season • How to protect your peace in emotionally charged rooms • What to say when people ask inappropriate or uncomfortable questions • Why leaving early is an act of self-respect • Creating new holiday traditions that honor where you are now • How to preserve your emotional energy • A personal story from a holiday where I needed stronger boundariesThis episode helps you release pressure, reclaim your emotional space, and create a holiday that supports your healing.My upcoming book: How to Navigate Heartache, Healing, and Love After Divorce Kindle presale is now live. Order at nicholebanks.com/bookMiracle Month Planner A 30-day guide to help you feel grounded and clear. Download at https://nicholebanks.com/miracle-monthBoundaries 101 Waitlist Enrollment opens in January. Join the waitlist at https://nicholebanks.com/waitlist-boundaries-101Are You Ready for Love? Quiz Find out where your heart truly is.Instagram: https://instagram.com/msnicholebanks Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/nicholebanks-23 YouTube Podcast: https://youtube.com/@NicholeBankspodcast Newsletter: https://nicholebanks.com/newsletterPlease follow the show, share it with a friend, leave a review, or screenshot the episode and tag me on Instagram @nicholebanks. Your support helps more women find healing and hope.

This episode wraps around your heart like a warm blanket.The first holiday after divorce hits harder than people realize — the silence, the empty seat, the broken traditions, the nostalgia that feels like a punch.In this soothing, raw episode, Nichole walks you through the grief, the memories, and the new beginnings that slowly turn painful holidays into peaceful ones.Whether you’re spending Thanksgiving, Christmas, or New Year’s alone for the first time — you are not alone. You’re rebuilding. And you’re doing it beautifully.Presale for How to Navigate Heartache, Healing & Love After Divorce is NOW LIVE. Book launches January 6th, 2026.Follow @msnicholebanks nicholebanks.com#DivorceHealing #HolidayGrief #FirstHolidayAlone #PostDivorceGlow #WomenOver40 #NicholeBanksPodcast #EmotionalHealing #NewTraditions

Ever catch yourself mid-laundry-fold or doom-scroll thinking, “Did I screw this up?” Yeah, same. In this episode, Nichole gets honest about guilt, over-responsibility, and the exhausting habit of trying to fix everyone’s emotions.You’ll learn how to spot guilt when it sneaks in—on the dance floor, during calm moments, when your kids are upset, or when your ex pops up online—and how to reframe it into self-forgiveness.Because you didn’t ruin your life—you saved it.This episode is a must-listen if you’ve ever carried guilt that wasn’t yours to hold.In this episode:The truth about guilt and “fixer” energyHow to stop over-owning everyone else’s emotionsWhy peace can feel uncomfortable after chaosWhat real self-forgiveness looks likeListen now and preorder How to Navigate Heartache, Healing & Love After Divorce at nicholebanks.com.Tag @msnicholebanks and share your biggest “aha” moment — we’re healing out loud, together.#DivorceHealing #DivorcedWomen #SelfForgiveness #Overthinking #GuiltAfterDivorce #HealingAfterDivorce #DivorceCoach #GenXWomen #EmotionalHealing #NicholeBanksPodcast #Boundaries #DivorcedAndThriving #PersonalGrowth #HealingJourney #HeartacheHealingLove

The Soft Life After the Hard Years ???? with Nichole Banks — Divorce Coach, Podcaster & Author of “How to Navigate Heartache, Healing & Love After Divorce”Description: You’ve done the hard years — the heartbreak, the rebuilding, the survival mode. Now, it’s time for something different. Something softer.In this episode, Nichole Banks invites you into your Soft Life Era — where peace replaces pressure, rest becomes a requirement, and joy stops needing justification.It’s not about luxury; it’s about liberation. You’ll learn how to stop over-giving, say “no” without guilt, and finally live a life that feels gentle and aligned.Nichole shares the raw truth about hitting her own breaking point after divorce, how she discovered peace in simplicity, and why slowing down might just be the boldest thing you’ll ever do.✨ What You’ll Learn:What the “soft life” really means after divorce (and why it’s not lazy)Why peace feels uncomfortable at first — and how to embrace itThe 5-part Soft Life Starter Pack to help you begin todayHow to stop performing and start feelingWhy choosing ease doesn’t mean you’ve given up — it means you’ve finally arrived???? Favorite Quote:“You don’t have to hustle for your healing. The soft life isn’t giving up—it’s finally exhaling.”???? Listen If You’re:A woman healing after divorce or heartbreakLearning to rest, reset, and reclaim your peaceReady to stop surviving and start soft living✨ Resources Mentioned:???? Pre-Order Nichole’s Book: How to Navigate Heartache, Healing & Love After Divorce???? Courses: Boundaries 101 & Confidence Looks Good on You — available at nicholebanks.com???? Follow Nichole on Instagram: @msnicholebanks#SoftLifeEra #DivorceHealing #PostDivorceGlow #HealingJourney #WomenOver40 #SelfLoveAfterDivorce #PeaceIsPower #BoundariesMatter #NicholeBanksPodcast #HealingAfterDivorce #LifeAfterHeartbreak #DivorcedAndThriving #EmotionalWellness #MindsetShift #SoftLifeForWomen

Stop Chasing: What’s Meant for You Won’t Run AwayWe’ve all been there—replaying old texts, scrolling “just to see,” or trying to prove we were worth staying for. But chasing doesn’t heal you, babe—it exhausts you.In this powerful episode of The Nichole Banks Podcast, Nichole dives deep into why we chase love, closure, and validation after divorce—and how to finally stop. You’ll laugh, you’ll nod, and you’ll probably whisper “ouch, that’s me,” but you’ll also learn how to shift from panic to peace and start attracting the right energy instead of running after the wrong one.✨ In this episode:Why we chase what’s walking away (and what we’re really seeking).How to stop confusing effort with worth.Nichole’s personal story of chasing love that wasn’t meant to stay.The energetic shift that happens when you align with peace.Practical steps to stop chasing and start attracting calm, clarity, and confidence.???? Remember: You’re not hard to love—you were just loving in the wrong direction.???? Listen now and learn how to stop chasing, start aligning, and trust that what’s meant for you won’t run away.Follow Nichole on Instagram @msnicholebanks and visit nicholebanks.com for blogs, courses, retreats, and community designed to help you heal and thrive.???? If this episode gave you chills or clarity, hit follow, leave a review, and share it with your bestie who’s still chasing what’s no longer hers. Because peace? It’s magnetic.

Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you rebuild. After divorce, it’s easy to forget who you are, but babe, your power never left—you just forgot where you put it. In this episode, Nichole shares real talk, laughs, and 5 confidence-boosting moves to help you find your spark again (and look damn good doing it).???? Follow @msnicholebanks and visit nicholebanks.com to dive deeper into your comeback journey.In this episode of The Nichole Banks Podcast, Nichole gets real about how to rebuild confidence after heartbreak—the messy, funny, unfiltered version no one talks about. Because confidence isn’t found in Spanx or self-help quotes—it’s found in the moments you stop apologizing for being you.✨ What you’ll hear in this episode:Why confidence has nothing to do with perfection—and everything to do with permission.The truth about how divorce rattles your self-worth (and how to get it back).Nichole’s personal story of losing her spark—and the bold moves that brought it roaring back.The small, daily habits that make you magnetic again.???? Nichole’s 5 Confidence-Building Power Moves:Keep promises to yourself. Every time you follow through, you prove you’re trustworthy—to you.Celebrate the small wins. Confidence grows when you notice your progress, not just perfection.Speak kindly to yourself. You can’t hate yourself into loving your life.Get uncomfortable on purpose. Confidence is built through courage, not comfort.Surround yourself with women who remind you who you are—not who you lost.Because confidence isn’t about having it all together—it’s about daring to begin, even when you don’t.???? Follow Nichole on Instagram @msnicholebanks for your daily dose of empowerment, and visit nicholebanks.com for coaching, retreats, and courses designed to help you rise again.???? If this episode made you laugh, tear up, or straighten your crown a little higher, hit follow, leave a review, and share it with your bestie who needs this reminder: confidence never left—you just forgot where you put it.

Silence feels safe after divorce—but it doesn’t heal you. It buries you. And eventually? It breaks you.In this raw and real episode, Nichole opens up about the quiet pain of pretending to be “fine,” why we stay silent, and how speaking your truth out loud can be the medicine you didn’t know you needed. Expect messy confessions, sassy girlfriend wisdom, and practical steps to finally let the weight off your chest.What you’ll hear:Why silence feels easier—but costs you more.The real reasons women stay quiet after divorce.How to “heal out loud” without oversharing.Nichole’s personal story of breaking her silence—and what happened next.Follow Nichole on Instagram @msnicholebanks and visit nicholebanks.com for courses, retreats, and coaching.If this episode makes you laugh, cry, or whisper “same,” hit follow, leave a review, and share it with a girlfriend who needs this reminder: healing out loud is brave—not weak.

Divorce isn’t just splitting assets—it’s splitting friends. Who gets the brunch crew? The gym squad? His sister you actually like better than him? In this episode, Nichole dives into the social fallout of divorce—awkward invites, friend custody, and how to build a new circle that feels like home again.Follow Nichole on Instagram @msnicholebanks and visit nicholebanks.com for courses, retreats, and more.And hey girl—if this episode made you laugh or gave you that “same, girl” moment, hit follow, leave a review, and share it with your bestie. That’s how we keep building this amazing community of women daring to begin again.

Divorce isn’t just heartbreak—it’s the quiet after. The empty dishwasher. The bed that suddenly feels too big. The moments no one warns you about when the silence is louder than any fight you ever had.In this episode of The Nichole Banks Podcast, we’re talking about what I call “The Empty Dishwasher Syndrome”—that ache of everyday quiet that sneaks up after divorce. It’s not dramatic, it’s not messy, it’s not a courtroom showdown. It’s the Tuesday night stillness that makes you wonder, Who am I in this new life?✨ What you’ll hear in this episode:Why the silence after divorce can sting more than the chaos before it.The hidden grief inside small routines like dishes, laundry, and dinner for one.How to reframe emptiness as an opportunity to rediscover yourself.Practical tips to fill the quiet with peace, not panic.Why “empty” can actually mean “room for new beginnings.”Because healing isn’t just about moving past heartbreak—it’s about learning to live in the quiet and make it your own.Follow Nichole on Instagram @msnicholebanks and visit nicholebanks.com for retreats, courses, and coaching.If this episode made you nod, laugh, or whisper “same,” hit follow, leave a review, and share it with your bestie who’s navigating her own quiet.

Welcome back to The Nichole Banks Podcast—your go-to corner of the internet where divorced women rise, reignite their confidence, and dare to begin again.This one? Oof, you’re going to want to download it, save it, favorite it, maybe even tattoo it on your emotional emergency kit (kidding… kind of). Because in today’s episode, we’re tackling the moments when self-doubt shows up wearing your old hoodie, camped out on your couch whispering things like:“Shouldn’t I be over this by now?”“Am I too broken or too complicated to start again?”“What if I’m the problem?”Spoiler alert: Nope. Nope. And again, nope.Nichole gets real about:Why healing isn’t linear (and how crying into your pillow over that song is actually progress)The three biggest lies self-doubt tells (and how to shut them down with truth bombs and a touch of sass)What it really means to choose yourself, even when you’re exhausted, scared, and wondering WTF comes nextThe power of community, courage, and calling your shot with two simple words: Watch me.You’ll laugh, maybe cry a little, and definitely feel seen, heard, and held—because this isn’t just an episode, it’s your spiritual pep talk.Links & Resources:

Welcome to the Nichole Banks Podcast, where divorced women heal, grow, and find new love while daring to begin thriving! In today’s episode, I’m sharing something very personal—my story, my mistakes, and how I found my purpose through all of it.In This Episode:Happy New Year, 2025! It’s time to shake things up and level up. I want you to think about what you’re going to do differently this year—because change is possible, and it all starts with YOU.My Story: Today, I’m getting vulnerable and sharing the truth about my journey through two divorces, personal mistakes, and a life-changing wake-up call. I talk about how my second divorce shattered everything I thought I knew about love and myself.The Hard Truth: From struggling with rejection and anger to hitting rock bottom with a financial mistake that landed me in an unexpected place, I’m opening up about it all. But here’s the thing—my rock bottom turned into the foundation for my biggest transformation.Rebuilding My Life: In prison, of all places, I found clarity, strength, and a newfound purpose. Through personal growth, self-improvement, and facing my own accountability, I learned how to rebuild from the ground up.A New Purpose: Now, I’m on a mission to help other women like you who are going through tough times, so you don’t have to feel alone. The pain you’re feeling right now is real, but there is a way through it.Healing is Messy: I also share some laughable moments in my healing journey (hello, yoga and emotional support cat), proving that healing is far from perfect—but it’s totally worth it.My Big Ask: Take that first step, no matter how small. Whether it’s setting a boundary, saying no, or simply getting out of bed today, I’ll be here cheering you on.Resources Mentioned in the Episode:Check out my courses, women’s retreats, and the Dare to Begin membership for more support and tools to help you thrive. Everything I’ve learned through my journey is available to help you navigate your own path.Subscribe, Review, and Share: If you’re feeling inspired, share this episode with someone who needs it. Let’s continue this conversation together!Remember, you’re not alone. Keep leveling up, and dare to begin. I’m here cheering for you every step of the way!Website: NicholeBanks.com (Don’t forget—I spell my name with an H!)Until next time,Nichole Banks

So, Your Holidays Didn’t Go as Planned? Here’s How to Recover Like a QueenEpisode Description:Holidays not turning out like the picture-perfect moments you dreamed of? You’re not alone, babe. In this episode, we’re diving into the all-too-relatable chaos of holiday fails for divorced women—awkward run-ins with the ex, quiet houses without the kids, or that dreaded feeling of being overlooked.But don’t worry—we’re not staying in the holiday blues. Nichole shares practical steps to bounce back from those less-than-magical moments and turn them into opportunities for growth, self-love, and a little holiday reinvention. Whether your holiday centerpiece got ignored or you spent the day solo, this episode is packed with advice to help you heal, laugh, and slay the rest of your season.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The top holiday “fails” divorced women face (and why they’re so common).How to feel your emotions without getting stuck in them.Fun ways to flip the holiday script and create new traditions.Why gratitude is your ultimate recovery tool (and how to make it work for you).Nichole’s personal holiday survival stories—and how she turned awkward moments into wins.Practical Tips You’ll Love:Set a timer for your “pity party”—then move forward with purpose.Embrace solo holidays as a chance to pamper yourself or do what you love.Create meaningful new traditions, like “Friendsmas” or a holiday spa day.Reach out to friends or build new connections when loneliness strikes.Practice quick gratitude exercises to shift your mindset and find joy in the small things.Episode Highlights:[2:15] Nichole shares her own holiday chaos moments and why they’re so relatable.[5:45] The Big Truth Bomb: Why one bad holiday doesn’t define you.[8:10] How to process your emotions like a pro.[10:30] Fun ways to reclaim the holiday spirit—even when you’re flying solo.[14:00] Nichole’s personal “solo spa day” story (and how you can try it too!).Resources Mentioned:Dare to Begin Membership — Join a supportive community of women on the journey to healing and thriving after divorce.How to Navigate Heartache, Healing, and Love After Divorce — Check out Nichole’s signature course for divorced women.Follow Nichole on Instagram for more tips and inspiration: @NicholeBanks.Let’s Connect:Website: nicholebanks.comInstagram: @NicholeBanksFacebook Group: How to Navigate Heartache, Healing, and Love After Divorce.Rate, Review, & Follow!Loved this episode? Be sure to subscribe to The Nichole Banks Podcast and leave a 5-star review! Your support means the world and helps other women find this life-changing content.

Episode Title: My Holiday Wish for YOU.Episode Summary:In this special holiday episode of The Nichole Banks Podcast, Nichole shares her heartfelt gratitude for her listeners and reflects on the courage and strength it takes to heal and thrive after divorce. This episode includes an inspiring story, The Blind Man by the Window, that highlights the power of perspective and kindness. Nichole offers encouragement to find joy during the holiday season and reminds listeners that they are never alone on their journey. Tune in for a warm, uplifting message to carry you through the holidays.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Nichole’s personal message of gratitude to her listeners.How to embrace the holidays with grace and self-love.The inspiring story of The Blind Man by the Window and its powerful life lesson.Encouragement to be a light for others during the holiday season.A reminder to celebrate progress and find joy in small moments.Memorable Quote: “Here’s my wish for you: May your holidays be filled with moments of healing, unexpected laughter, and love—most importantly, love for yourself. You deserve it.” – Nichole BanksLinks and Resources:Explore Nichole’s coaching courses: nicholebanks.comJoin the Dare to Begin Membership for ongoing support.Follow Nichole on Instagram for daily inspiration: @msnicholebanksLet’s Connect:Have a question or a topic suggestion? Email Nichole at nichole@nicholebanks.com.Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode!Call to Action: If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who could use some encouragement this holiday season. Leave a review to help more women discover the podcast and join our supportive community.Next Steps: Make time this holiday season to reflect on your growth, share kindness with others, and step into the new year with hope and confidence. Remember, healing is a journey, and you’re exactly where you need to be.Until Next Time: Wishing you a holiday filled with light and love. See you in the new year! – Nichole Banks

Episode Title: How to Build Trust Again after a Bad Divorce?Description:After a divorce, trusting again can feel like an impossible task. But guess what? It’s totally doable! In today’s episode, Nichole Banks dives deep into the journey of rebuilding trust—not only in others but also in yourself. With actionable tips, real talk, and a whole lot of encouragement, Nichole shares how you can start the healing process and protect your heart while opening yourself up to new possibilities. Plus, find out why setting boundaries is the secret weapon you need to rebuild trust and start thriving again.What You’ll Learn:How to rebuild trust in yourself after divorceWhy trusting your gut is essential to your healing processThe importance of taking baby steps with new relationshipsHow your ex is not the blueprint for future trustWhy boundaries are the key to protecting your heart and rebuilding trust with othersMentioned in This Episode:Nichole’s course on setting boundariesLatest podcast episode on rebuilding trustConnect with Nichole:Website: nicholebanks.comInstagram: @nicholebankscoachJoin the Facebook Group: How to Navigate Heartache, Healing, and Love After Divorce

Episode Title: Sleepless Nights and Heartache: Reclaiming Peace When the Pain Feels OverwhelmingEpisode Summary:Nights can be the toughest part of healing from heartbreak—when the world quiets down, your mind often turns up the volume on pain and intrusive thoughts. In this episode, Nichole dives into why nights feel so challenging, offering real, actionable strategies to help you find peace during these moments. From grounding techniques to rewriting your internal dialogue, you’ll learn tools that are both practical and backed by psychology. Whether it’s journaling your feelings, creating calming rituals, or using the transformative 5-4-3-2-1 method, this episode is packed with wisdom to help you reclaim your nights and start feeling stronger.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The psychological reason why nights amplify emotional pain.How to disrupt the spiral of intrusive thoughts with simple techniques.The power of visualization to shift your focus from pain to healing.Why grounding exercises like the 5-4-3-2-1 method are so effective for staying present.Tips for building a nighttime routine that calms the mind and promotes rest.Quotes to Remember:"The quiet of the night can feel like a battlefield, but even in your darkest hours, your strength is growing.""Healing doesn’t mean forgetting—it means creating a future where your past doesn’t define you."Resources Mentioned:Join the Dare to Begin Membership for ongoing support and community.Explore Nichole’s courses, including How to Navigate Heartache, Healing, and Love After Divorce.Hey, gorgeous! Thanks for hanging out with me today on The Nichole Banks Podcast. I’m so excited to keep the conversation going, so here’s how you can stay connected and get all the latest updates:Take the Quiz: Are you REALLY ready for love after divorce? Find out here: nicholebanks.com/quizVisit My Website: Head over to nicholebanks.com for blog posts, resources, and all the deets on upcoming events and courses. I promise there’s something there for everyone!Drop Me a Line: Got questions or wanna share your story? Send me an email at nichole@nicholebanks.com. I love hearing from you!Social Media Vibes:Instagram: Come say hi on @msnicholebanks for daily inspo, sneak peeks, and a little fun behind-the-scenes action.Facebook: Join our fab community of fierce, like-minded women in the group, How to Navigate After Divorce. It’s all about sisterhood!TikTok: Yep, I’m there too! Follow me at @nicholebanks23 for fun tips, real talk, and even a few dance moves.YouTube Channel: Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for more content—because sometimes you just need to see it, not just hear it!Subscribe & Review the Podcast: Love what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and drop a review on your favorite podcast platform. Your feedback keeps the love flowing!

Holiday Prep Without the Stress: Your Guide to Making December Actually FunFeeling the holiday pressure? Let’s take a deep breath and reclaim December as a season of fun instead of stress. In this episode, we’re talking real talk about boundaries, budget-friendly festive ideas, and how to make the holidays magical—whether you’re surrounded by loved ones or flying solo this year.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Leftovers and Life Lessons: What to Do with What No Longer Serves You

In this episode, I sit down with Michaela Gaffin Stone to unpack the art of setting and maintaining boundaries. From navigating tricky relationships to protecting your peace, Michaela shares actionable tips and insights to help you stand firm and prioritize yourself. Tune in for a conversation that’s as empowering as it is enlightening! https://linktr.ee/michaelags Hey, gorgeous! Thanks for hanging out with me today on The Nichole Banks Podcast. I’m so excited to keep the conversation going, so here’s how you can stay connected and get all the latest updates:Take the Quiz: Are you REALLY ready for love after divorce?