The Step in Mum

I’m not even kidding, I wanted to punch (not in the face) my husband in the middle of the night when he was peacefully snoring while I was doing the night shifts. We had a deal that I’ll do them but being exhausted made me incredibly angry. I’m talking to a sleep coach Maria Murphy about sleep deprivation and what can we do as parents to change our situation and sleep training.    Follow Maria https://www.instagram.com/babysleepthenight_maria/ https://www.facebook.com/babysleepthenightmariamurphy/ https://babysleepthenight.com/mariamurphy Follow me https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ https://www.veronikadurham.com/cut-the-crap-session/

Mum Rage is COMMON NOT NORMAL!  In this week episode, I'm talking about what have I found about mum rage so far and how I manage it.   You're not alone mum! If you need any help or just talk to someone please let me know! Book FREE consultation:  https://www.veronikadurham.com/contact-me/ About me: https://www.veronikadurham.com/about-blended-family-coach/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/step.in.mum

Sarah teamed up with The Stepmum collective and launched the petition - Stop denying women fertility treatment because their partner already has a child from a previous relationship! #MyFertilityMatters They would greatly appreciate it if you could please sign this petition, share it with friends and family, and post it across your social media. Every signature moves us one step closer to helping childless women whose partner already has a child from a previous relationship have their maternal voices heard.  https://www.change.org/p/the-department-for-health-and-social-care-stop-denying-women-fertility-treatment-because-their-partner-already-has-a-child?utm_content=cl_sharecopy_28585238_en-GB:8&recruiter=42048012&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=copylink&utm_campaign=share_petition Follow Sara: https://www.instagram.com/ukstepmum/ Follow The Stepmum collective: https://www.instagram.com/thestepmumcollective/ to find out more about me Book FREE consultation: https://www.veronikadurham.com/contact-me/ About me: https://www.veronikadurham.com/about-blended-family-coach/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/step.in.mum

I love having guests on my podcast! In this week episode, I'm talking to a stepmum Anne-Laurie Forbes about her journey and what inspired her to start her own podcast 'Plus HER - A Stepmom’s Journey'.  Anne-Laurie shares her biggest lessons, tips and we had to laugh so many times because no matter where you live or how old are you, we're going through exactly the same stuff as stepmums.  Follow Plus HER - A Stepmom’s Journey on IG: https://www.instagram.com/plusherjourney/ For the Podcast go to https://www.plusher.ca/ to find out more about me Book FREE consultation: https://www.veronikadurham.com/contact-me/ About me: https://www.veronikadurham.com/about-blended-family-coach/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/step.in.mum

In my first interview with Kirsty ‘Mums in business’ we talked about being a mum and starting or already running your own business. Kirsty shared the story behind starting her own business Her happy life academy and much more. In this week episode, we focused on time management and making your business priority number one. Kirsty is a badass business coach and founder of Her Happy Life Academy! She helps mums make 4-Figure WEEKS their new normal as high performing women in business.   Find out more about Kirsty and Her happy life academy:  https://www.herhappylifeacademy.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/kirstykayn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HerHappyLifeAcademy/ Find more about Veronika https://www.veronikadurham.com/ Step in mum IG: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/

Two BIG topics these days! Screen time and bedtime can cause a lot of stress in any family that's why I invented parenting coach Isobel Mary Champion to talk about how to create a healthy balance & relationship with 'screens' and how to make bedtime as peaceful and easy as possible. Stepmums, does co-sleeping with your stepchildren bothers you? Isobel shared a few very helpful tips with us.  If you are feeling overwhelmed, anxious, stressed or isolated as a parent of young children Isobel is the person to contact https://www.isobelmarychampion.com/  Follow Isobel on IG: https://www.instagram.com/isobelmaryc/   For Veronika Durham aka Step in Mum: Book FREE consultation: https://www.veronikadurham.com/contact-me/ About me: https://www.veronikadurham.com/about-blended-family-coach/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/step.in.mum    

I asked you on IG what are you scared of when it comes to your blended family and got some interesting answers I'm addressing in this week episode.  Also, I talk about three main things we are scared of as stepmums - Making mistakes - Upsetting or hurting someone - Being a stand for yourself Book FREE consultation: https://www.veronikadurham.com/contact-me/About me: https://www.veronikadurham.com/about-blended-family-coach/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/step.in.mum

With no so long before the baby boy hopefully safely arrives I would like to share with you my pregnancy journey as a stepmum.  I'm talking about my triggers, why I hate the bio mum label, how my stepdaughter reacted to the news and what how we deal with everything as a blended family. Book FREE consultation: https://www.veronikadurham.com/contact-me/About me: https://www.veronikadurham.com/about-blended-family-coach/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/step.in.mum

KIRSTY IS BACK!!! Kirsty is a badass business coach and founder of Her Happy Life Academy! She helps mums make 4-Figure WEEKS their new normal as high performing women in business. After our first episode we did a few months back we decided to talk more about masculine and feminine energy - what these energies are about - how they show up in business and relationships  - when these energies are good or bad for us  - tips on how balance them and use them that they serve you well  I could talk to Kirsty for hours because she just make sense and always shares with you great tips and tools.  Find out more about Kirsty and Her happy life academy:  https://www.herhappylifeacademy.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/kirstykayn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HerHappyLifeAcademy/ Find more about Veronika https://www.veronikadurham.com/ Step in mum IG: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/

I've made so many mistakes as a new stepmum and I see other stepmums still making these mistakes and it's absolutely normal as being a stepmum is a learning roller coaster. But we need to learn from our mistakes and even better learn from the mistakes others did so we can make our lives easier.  Here are TOP 5 MISTAKES - STEPMUM & THE EX RELATIONSHIP! Book FREE consultation: https://www.veronikadurham.com/contact-me/About me: https://www.veronikadurham.com/about-blended-family-coach/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/step.in.mum 

Sex and relationship education can be very tricky for parents and stepparent. When do we start talking to the kids about it? What am I going to say if I don't know the answer? What if my partner and I have different opinions on sex education? Am I allowed to talk to my stepchildren about it? Should I wait for the school to educate my kids? I had many questions for Beckie from 'What's the debate' and must say this was our first episode, but not the last one! Did you know the last time the sex and relationship education curriculum in the UK was reviewed 20 years ago?! I was shocked when Beckie told me this. Beckie is the Creator, Designer and Owner of 'What's The Debate?' Statement Cards, Lesson Plans and Training Packages. She has worked with Children and Young People around the issues of Sexual Violence, Child Sexual Exploitation, Domestic Abuse and Mental Health for 15 years now and during that time she has heard numerous opinions and views around those subjects from the young people and also from professionals.   Find out more about Beckie, What's the debate and the statement cards: https://www.whatsthedebate.co.uk/ Follow: https://www.instagram.com/whats_the_debate/   Book 'Help Your Kids with Growing Up' by Robert Winston:  https://www.amazon.co.uk/Help-Your-Kids-Growing-No-Nonsense/dp/0241287251   Hannah Witton (podcast, youtube, books): https://hannahwitton.com/   FOR STEP IN MUM Book FREE consultation: https://www.veronikadurham.com/contact-me/ About me: https://www.veronikadurham.com/about-blended-family-coach/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/step.in.mum  

Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die! This may sound like a total cliché but that is exactly what resentment is! You are effectively giving control of your feelings to others. Plus, they don’t even know about it! Isn’t this the worst? Trust me, I’ve been there! I had to let go of resentment towards my husband, his ex-wife, a few of my ex-partners even my dad. In this week episode, I share my 5 STEPS TO LET IT GO! It’s not easy but it’s possible and letting go of resentment will make you feel lighter, free and happier.   Book FREE consultation:  https://www.veronikadurham.com/contact-me/ About me: https://www.veronikadurham.com/about-blended-family-coach/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/step.in.mum  

In this week week episode I'm talking to Kirsty Kayn, founder Her happy life academy. Kirsty's mission is to guide mums to build an incredible business online while supporting them on the quest to self discovery + reaching their highest level of happiness. We had a great chat about her journey of an independent mum, starting her new business and much more. Kirsty shared her favourite business tips, tool, strategies and her real life experience. Find more about her and Her happy life academy here  https://www.herhappylifeacademy.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/kirstykayn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HerHappyLifeAcademy/ Find more about Veronika https://www.veronikadurham.com/ Step in mum IG: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/  

Talking to to Lisa from WASH (Women Against Stalking & Harassment) who is fighting online stalking and harassment, smear campaigns and abuse. She's Healing and Trauma Informed certified coach, mum and stepmum. In this episode she's sharing with us dos and don'ts not only for stepmums who are in high conflicted situations. Just listen to our chat about how to keep your sanity, how not let your marriage/relationship be ruined by issues and struggles that come with blended family life and much moreYou can find Lisa on IG:Age well lifestyle:  https://www.instagram.com/agewell_lifestyle/WASH: https://www.instagram.com/womenagainststalkingharassment/Find out more about me: https://www.veronikadurham.com/IG: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/

Every single stepmum struggle with this! I've never heard a stepmum to say ‘I don’t think of his ex at all’. We let the ex to take a big part of our minds and here are my tips on how I went from having her in my head 24/7 (plus in very toxic way) to occasionally thinking of her in a healthy way. Let’s be honest, you can’t completely stop thinking about her, it’s impossible. But take a control over your thoughts and feelings and create the healthy balance you need. SPECIAL OFFER! 1-2-1 COACHING SESSION DURING THE LOCKDOWN ONLY FOR £30! BOOK 1.5 HOUR SESSION HERE NOW - https://www.veronikadurham.com/contact-me/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/  

In this week episode I'm talking about how and why I created healthy boundaries for myself. I explain what boundaries are, how we create them, what basic type of boundaries we have and how they impact us and our relationships. I share with you how you can restore them or build from a scratch. Trust me I was there! I went from being a sponge, to building a brick wall before I managed to create healthy boundaries for myself. SPECIAL OFFER! 1-2-1 COACHING SESSION DURING THE LOCKDOWN ONLY FOR £30! BOOK 1.5 HOUR SESSION HERE NOW - https://www.veronikadurham.com/contact-me/IG: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/

During the lockdown, you might spend more time with your partner than usually and it may be challenging. I often hear stepmums and my clients saying 'Every time we get into an argument he tells me - You don't love my children!' It's like a slap in the face, isn't?  Trust me I was there and that's why I put together my five favourite tips and tools for communication. You can use these tips for any relationship and situation, they are not only for blended family dynamics.  Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ For more info & coaching: https://www.veronikadurham.com/

In this week episode, I'm talking to Karalee Katsambanis, the author of Step Parenting with Purpose everything you wanted to know but you were too afraid to ask. 15 years ago Karalee did but couldn’t find a book which tackled the real nitty-gritty and awkward questions she really wanted to know the answer to. 15 years into her stepparenting journey she’s written the book she wished she’d had. In Step Parenting with Purpose Karalee shares her experience and some incredibly useful tips and advice in order to help others find more harmony in their stepparenting journey.  You can buy her book here: https://www.karaleekatsambanis.com/ Find Karalee on IG https://www.instagram.com/karaleekatsambanis/ More about me: https://www.veronikadurham.com/ Find me anywhere as Step in Mum   

In this week episode, I talk to Jane, founder of Support Our Stepmums. SOS is a private IG account that supports and celebrate our Stepmum. We chat about our experiences, stepmum meltdowns and what was the reason behind creating Support Our Stepmums.  I would like to send a big thank you to all stepmums that shared with us their stepmums meltdowns and WTF moments. Trust me we got some good one.  Follow & Join  Jane on IG - Support our stepmums https://www.instagram.com/supportourstepmums/ Step in Mum IG HERE - https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ Step in Mum website - https://www.veronikadurham.com/ For 1-2-1 coaching https://www.veronikadurham.com/step-family-coaching-121/ To Contact Me: https://www.veronikadurham.com/contact-me/

In this week episode, I did my very first interview with a single mum! I met Megan on her Instagram Sober Story after I decided to go sober in December 2019.  Megan is a great guest to have and talk to! She is honest, doesn't hold back and is happy to share her journey, struggles and victories with you. We talk about what it's like to be a single mum, how to create a good balance, letting go of resentment, dating and random stuff people tell to single mums. But also what about relationships between single mums and stepmums. Find out more about Megan at https://soberstory.co.uk/ and follow her on INSTAGRAM HERE   Step in Mum website - https://www.veronikadurham.com/ Step in Mum IG - https://www.instagram.com/step.in.mum/ For 1-2-1 coaching https://www.veronikadurham.com/step-family-coaching-121/ To Contact Me: https://www.veronikadurham.com/contact-me/