Life Check Yourself

In this episode of Life Check Yourself, I sit down with writer and self-healing advocate Alexis Leigh, author of Pain Is a Portal to Beauty: Stunning Discoveries After Loss, Psychedelics and Feeling It All. With roots in Wharton, law school and the corporate world, she shares how a single moment in the woods cracked open a life that looked "perfect" on paper but felt empty inside, and how following that inner voice led through divorce, deep emotional work and psychedelic journeys into a life of authenticity, love and radical self-trust.     About The Guest Alexis Leigh is a writer and advocate for self-healing through unconventional methods, including psychedelics and deep inner work. She left a successful career in finance and consulting, holds a BS in Economics from Wharton and a JD from Lewis and Clark Law School, and now lives between Oregon and Maui with her partner and three boys. Her memoir, Pain Is a Portal to Beauty, explores how feeling deeply, rather than numbing out, can turn grief and loss into clarity, meaning and beauty.     3 Main Takeaways Answer the inner wake-up call instead of settling for a "good enough" life (01:52) Use everyday emotions as portals instead of numbing them away (17:11) Trust body wisdom and courageous tools to turn pain into power and self-leadership (24:26)     Main Topics, Timestamps, Explanations & Notable Quotes • Topic 1: When Your Life Looks "Fine" But Feels Like A Tragedy Timestamp: 01:52 – 11:13 What this unlocks: Hearing an inner voice that says, "If you die today, your life will have been a tragedy," forces radical honesty. It challenges the belief that gratitude means tolerating loneliness or emptiness. Letting that truth land can be the moment a person finally gives themselves permission to want more love, more meaning and a different life, even when everything looks "fine" from the outside. From there, every pattern, relationship and identity becomes open to being questioned and redesigned. Notable quotes: "I was walking in the woods in the summer of 2020 and I heard a voice that said, 'If you die today, your life will have been a tragedy.'" "I had all of the categories, but I did want more love and more meaning. I just kind of thought you should not want that." "To hear that your life is a tragedy, it is like everything is not working. That is not like your life needs a little tweaking. That is like throw it in the trash." How this affects someone listening: Letting in the possibility that a "have it all" life can still be tragic breaks the spell of settling. It shows that longing for more is not selfish, it is truthful. Once that truth is acknowledged, a person can stop negotiating with their own sadness and start redesigning their foundation instead of endlessly rearranging the furniture on top of it.     • Topic 2: Feeling Feelings Instead Of Numbing – Turning Tiny Triggers Into Portals Timestamp: 17:11 – 23:32 What this unlocks: Painful emotions often get buried under food, wine, screens or busyness. Removing those coping habits, even briefly, can stir up anger, panic or irritation. Those first reactions are not proof that something is wrong; they are the doorway. Meeting them with curiosity instead of judgment turns daily annoyances and "overreactions" into chances to release old grief, anger and fear. Over time, this builds emotional muscle and makes it easier to stay present instead of collapsing into victimhood or self-criticism. Notable quotes: "Our bodies protect us from these feelings when we are not ready to look at them… my body dissociated from feeling, numbed me completely when my mom went away when I was young." "It is not about how can I go from not feeling anything to feeling everything. It is about how can I go from not feeling anything to even recognizing what is a feeling." "As soon as you notice that you are feeling victim, then you can be sweet to the part that is feeling victim… none of it has to ultimately land in judgment." How this affects someone listening: Seeing emotions as parts that need care, rather than flaws that need fixing, rewires the entire healing journey. Small triggers stop being proof that progress is failing and become guidance toward what still needs love. This softens inner criticism, reduces shame and makes deep emotional work sustainable instead of exhausting.     • Topic 3: Psychedelics, Body Wisdom and Becoming Bigger Than Outcome Timestamp: 14:59 – 27:10 & 34:32 – 35:37 What this unlocks: When the thinking mind is in charge, decisions get stuck in fear, logic loops and "what ifs." Dropping into body wisdom and, for some, working with medicines like MDMA, psilocybin or ayahuasca can help unpack stored pain that blocks intuition. As layers of grief clear, self-trust grows. Life's events still hurt, but they no longer define identity. A person begins to feel bigger than any outcome and capable of leading themselves, instead of endlessly searching for someone else with the answers. Notable quotes: "My body is so brilliant and my brain tries so hard to be in charge… most of the time my body is like, I know this." "Psychedelics helped me unpack that pain so that then I could access my own wisdom… now I can lead myself in my life in a way that I could not before." "I no longer feel like the world is out to get me… recently I have started doing this thing where it is like, okay, if this thing happens, or if the opposite thing happens, I am the same." "I take every emotion that I feel that does not just kind of pass on its own and I journal with my part." How this affects someone listening: Learning to trust inner guidance over external validation changes how choices are made in love, work and healing. Pain stops being a threat and becomes information. With that shift, risks feel more possible, endings feel less like failure, and it becomes easier to walk toward a bigger, more aligned life without needing guarantees.  

Today's conversation features Lionel Moses—family man, veteran of Desert Storm, coach, and author of The Marriage Seed. We dig into relationship mastery across home and work: self-awareness over blame, trust over suspicion, and communication that lands (not just "gets said"). 3 Main Takeaways Start with self. Lasting change begins by checking beliefs, tone, and patterns before judging a partner. Choose trust over suspicion. Misunderstandings shrink when curiosity and clarity lead the interaction. Weed the garden, consistently. Relationships thrive when small problems are pulled early—over and over.     Three Core Topics (with timestamps, explanations, and quotes) Self-Responsibility > Perfection Hunting (05:52–06:39; 11:11–12:14) Timestamp: 05:52 — 06:39 Why it matters: Recognizing that minds change proves self-knowledge evolves. Extending the same grace to a partner transforms conflict from judgment to teamwork. Perfection tests (ROCD, nitpicking) block real connection; openness creates possibility. Notable quote: "If you change your mind, that proves you disagree with your old self… give grace for your partner." (05:52–06:39) Trust Over Suspicion (14:37–15:16; 15:38–16:25) Timestamp: 14:37 — 15:16 Why it matters: Many "communication problems" are interpretation gaps. Filling those gaps with trust, not suspicion, stabilizes connection and keeps dialogue constructive—even after past hurt. Flexing rigid checklists into "openness to possibilities" prevents discarding viable partners for trivial reasons. Notable quote: "When you're trying to establish a relationship, you have to really know how to fill in those gaps of misunderstanding with trust versus suspicion." (14:37–15:16) Tone, Pauses, and the Garden Rule (18:45–20:10; 08:06–08:48; 31:00–31:38; 32:34–32:53) Timestamp: 18:45 — 20:10 Why it matters: Tone is a reflex—and often invisible until heard back. Recording and replaying increases awareness, making it easier to shift delivery. Pair this with the "dung grows things" and "measure twice, cut once" mindset: expect mess, pause before reacting, and remove small weeds quickly to protect what's growing. Notable quotes: • "Most people… don't like their own tone. When they hear it, it annoys them enough to make the change." (19:24–20:08) • "One of the best fertilizers you can have is dung." (08:06–08:48) • "Measure twice, cut once." (31:00–31:38) + "That's a learned behavior." (32:34–32:53)     Extra Gems (fast timestamps) Boundary + buy-in at work: Relationship habits bleed into teams; clarity and care increase performance. (27:09–29:44) Weed therapy: Pull issues up by the roots, repeatedly. (25:52–26:06) Win-win-win frame: Healthy partnerships benefit the two people and the world around them. (39:17–39:51) Connections: Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life Lionel's Book - The Marriage Seed, Life coaching ot help get out of our own way  Lionel's Website

Today I'm joined by April Davis, founder of LUMA Luxury Matchmaking—and yes, she's married to a divorce attorney, which gives her a razor-sharp lens on what actually lasts. We dig into modern dating beyond the apps: values vs. chemistry, paradox of choice, readiness, standards, gender roles, and commitment—so real love stops feeling impossible and starts feeling inevitable. 3 Main Takeaways Values beat vibes. Chemistry fades; aligned values keep relationships stable long-term. Choice overload kills connection. The app era fuels paradox of choice and "dating for dismissal." Narrow on what actually matters. Readiness > checklist. Openness, fair conflict, and commitment predict lasting love more than "perfect" specs.     Deep Dive — 3 Core Topics 1) Values Over Chemistry (02:24–03:31) Timestamp: 02:24 What it means: Prioritizing values (character, life goals, family, faith, kids) prevents future mismatch that chemistry can hide. This shifts selection from short-term spark to long-term fit—dramatically reducing avoidable breakups. Notable quote (02:24): "Values are something that is core to who you are… you can't see red flags with rose-colored goggles." Why it matters: When values align, everyday decisions, conflict resolution, money, and parenting stay coherent—creating durability instead of turbulence. 2) Apps, Standards & the Paradox of Choice (11:27–12:20; 04:20–05:24) Timestamp: 11:27 What it means: Infinite swiping feeds a paradox of choice and "dating for dismissal," where attention moves to filtering out instead of letting something good unfold. Over-filtering (height, income, micro-preferences) trades possibility for illusion. Notable quotes: (11:27) "With apps, you have this paradox of choice… 50 shades of gray… dating for dismissal." (04:20–05:24) "Apps are only good for about 10%… someone swiped 2,000 times to get one date." Why it matters: Reducing noise (3–5 non-negotiable values) turns attention from shopping to connecting, improving follow-through, first-date quality, and momentum. 3) Readiness, Gender Expectations & Real Commitment (17:56–19:56; 29:38–30:34; 15:37–17:34) Timestamp: 17:56 What it means: A long checklist often masks fear; readiness looks like an open heart, flexible standards, and willingness to be coached. Add fair fighting and commitment to the relationship "third entity," and longevity rises. Modern gender roles (wanting alpha drive plus deep emotional attunement) can become an impossible ideal—so clarity beats fantasy. Notable quotes: (17:56) "Either they have a loving mindset and an open heart… or they're closed off… and not really ready." (29:38–30:34) "How you argue… fight fair… commitment to the relationship." (15:37–17:34) On shifting gender expectations and the "perfect person" myth. Why it matters: Readiness turns dates into data, conflict into collaboration, and differences into design choices—key levers for resilient partnership. Connections: Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life Learn more about LUMA

Guest intro: Mayumi Pachkoski is a U.S.–based aesthetician and energy-healing practitioner who blended Eastern and Western skincare to build a thriving six-figure studio in Maryland. A former flight attendant who pivoted in her 30s, she now helps practitioners grow healing businesses rooted in purpose and service. 3 Power Takeaways Leap early; build skills on the way. Use "no-brainer" offers to get in the room and learn from pros. (20:07–22:36) Let purpose lead the model. When work sits at the intersection of talent, joy, and need (ikigai), consistency becomes easy. (37:26–38:24) Grow through connection, not discounts. Reward referrers; keep pricing strong; become the story people share. (28:55–31:13) Main Topics, Timestamps, Explanations & Notable Quotes Bold reinvention & "no-brainer" apprenticeships — 20:07–22:36 What it means: Proximity compounds. Offering flexible, unpaid assisting to a top practitioner compresses the learning curve, reveals real-world systems, and creates industry credibility faster than solo trial-and-error. Quote: "You don't have to even pay me… I will clean, vacuum… It's a win-win, a no-brainer offer." Mayumi Ikigai as a business operating system — 37:26–38:24 What it means: Aligning work with what one loves, does well, and what people will pay for transforms effort into enthusiasm; sustainable energy becomes a competitive advantage over hustle-based growth. Quote: "Work doesn't feel like a job… I wake up every morning excited about who I'm going to serve. That's ikigai." Mayumi Referral engines beat discounts — 28:55–31:13 What it means: Paying clients (via generous thank-you credits) to advertise outperforms cutting prices for newcomers; it preserves brand value, attracts ideal fits, and turns great results into free marketing. Quote: "New clients come with the regular price… but for you, as a thank you for the referral, I give 50% off next time." Mayumi Extra Gems (quick hits) Test the move with logistics smarts: Pre-paying six months' rent to secure housing without local job history shows how creative terms remove gatekeeper friction. (10:01–10:32) Mayumi Courageous partner talk: Ask the life-defining question early—"What do you really want?"—then build the plan around it. (05:24–06:22) Mayumi Permission to start messy: Feeling nothing in early energy-work classes didn't stop the pursuit; the right modality (Access Bars, then Quantum Touch) clicked later. (33:46–35:03) Mayumi Connections: Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful LifeLearn more about MayumiBook a call with Mayumi  

Mary Olson-Menzel is a nationally recognized expert in career and workplace success with over 30 years of leadership experience across media, tech, healthcare, and even the NFL. As the founder and CEO of MVP Executive Development, she's coached everyone from Fortune 500 leaders to parents reentering the workforce—helping them find purpose, confidence, and a plan to do what truly lights them up. In this inspiring episode, we unpack the mindset and tools to thrive through massive change, find your "reason for being," and design work—and a life—that truly lights you up.     🔑 3 Main Takeaways Change Isn't the Enemy—It's the Invitation. Embrace a growth mindset and see disruption as a chance to expand your potential, not fear it. Find Your Ikigai—Your Reason for Being. Align what you love, what you're great at, what the world needs, and what you can get paid for. Dream Beyond 10% and Plan the Leap. Most people only imagine small tweaks to their lives; true fulfillment comes from daring to design something radically different—with patience and a plan.     🕰️ Episode Breakdown & Key Insights [00:07:55] Growth Mindset Over Fixed Fear "Change is happening. What does this mean and how can I grow from it?" Embracing change through curiosity transforms fear into momentum. Each disruption—AI, layoffs, or shifting industries—becomes a training ground for reinvention instead of resistance.     [00:10:54] Discovering Your Ikigai: The Sweet Spot of Purpose "It's what you love, what you're good at, what the world needs, and what you can get paid for." True fulfillment lies in the overlap of passion and practicality. When you design your life around this alignment, you no longer chase success—you embody it.     [00:15:26] The 10% Trap and the Power of Big Dreams "If you're limiting yourself to that 10%, you're doing yourself a disservice. There's so much more out there for you." Most people imagine only small variations on their current lives. Breakthroughs come when you remove your blinders, trust your gifts, and build the courage to act on what excites you.     💬 Notable Quotes "You owe it to the world to love what you do because when you're doing meaningful work, that creates a ripple effect." "Your light is your superpower, but your network is the superhighway that gets you where you want to go." "Don't conform. Be you. Own your greatness with quiet confidence."

Today's episode features Rachel Gitlevich, author of What in the Actual Fck: Life's a Hot Mess—How to Find Gratitude Anyways* and founder of Ray of Consciousness. Through her writing and consulting work, Rachel fuses raw storytelling with wellness and strategy, helping people and organizations grow with authenticity. Her story is one of resilience, transformation, and radical gratitude—even in the face of unimaginable challenges.     💫 Episode Overview In this episode, Rachel shares her extraordinary journey through multiple cancer diagnoses, near-death experiences, and the powerful process of reclaiming her life. Together, we explore what it really means to find strength, surrender, and joy when everything falls apart—and how to rebuild from a place of courage and truth.     🔑 Top 3 Takeaways Adversity Is a Wake-Up Call for Alignment Hardship can be the catalyst that strips away illusion and reveals what truly matters. Rachel's story shows how pain can crack us open to purpose, presence, and self-compassion. Healing Requires Both Science and Spirit She learned that holistic healing doesn't mean rejecting medicine—it means embracing every form of support available, from faith and therapy to immunotherapy and inner work. Gratitude Is the Gateway Back to Life Gratitude doesn't deny the hard—it invites grace into it. Even in the storm, finding small glimmers of gratitude restores hope, patience, and possibility.     🕰️ Key Moments & Insights 1️⃣ [04:17–07:29] — The Awakening: When "Holistic" Meets Reality "I was trying to pretend like this was mutually exclusive rather than inclusive… you need all of it—throw everything into the fire." Rachel When healing becomes a spiritual competition, we forget that medicine and mindfulness can coexist. True healing is not choosing between worlds—it's weaving them together.     2️⃣ [11:17–13:50] — From Victimhood to Victory "Yes, there are so many situations that have been horrible and horrifying… and I'm still here. I'm clearly meant to be here." Rachel Finding humor and meaning in suffering doesn't minimize it—it transforms it. Choosing to see life's absurdity as proof of resilience helps reclaim power from pain.     3️⃣ [30:05–32:22] — Riding Out the Storm "Storms always pass. Maybe you wanted sunshine, but Mother Nature said, 'Not today.' You just have to sit where you are and know the sun will shine again." Rachel Every storm teaches surrender. Instead of resisting what's unfolding, staying grounded in the present moment builds trust in life's natural rhythm—chaos, calm, and renewal.     💬 Notable Quotes "It's not about finding gratitude for every little thing—it's about finding gratitude anyway." "Even when it's not okay, it still will be." "We can't stop the waves, but we can learn to watch them—and trust they'll settle."     💥 Closing Reflection Rachel's story reminds us that life rarely unfolds as planned—but within every detour lies the chance to redefine strength and rediscover joy. Whether you're healing, rebuilding, or standing in your own messy middle, remember this: storms pass, gratitude grounds, and reinvention is always possible. Connections: Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful LifeBuy: What in the Actual Fck: Life's a hot mess, how to find gratitude anyways  

This week's conversation is all about rewriting outdated scripts and reclaiming intimacy with confidence, connection, and joy. Lauren Elise Rogers—certified holistic sexuality educator and embodied intimacy coach—shares her empowering approach to navigating desire, healing from harmful narratives, and reigniting long-term relationships. With warmth and clarity, Lauren unpacks how to release the scripts that no longer serve, nurture your own sense of pleasure, and bring curiosity back into love. This is a reminder that nothing is broken—you have the right and the power to create intimacy that truly feels like yours.     🌟 3 Main Takeaways You're not broken—just running an old script. Pleasure is your birthright, not a bonus. Curiosity keeps love alive.     🎙 Key Topics & Timestamps 1. Rewriting Sexual Scripts (04:09) "It's okay to look at them and go, hey, is this really the script I still want to follow? Or do I want to do a rewrite?" Lauren Racehel Outdated beliefs about bodies, sex, and roles often sneak in early in life and quietly shape choices. Recognizing them as "scripts" allows you to decide if they still fit—or if it's time for a rewrite. This creates freedom to align intimacy with who you really are today.     2. Healing the Sexual Garden (13:35) "Some beliefs feel like dandelions we can pull, but some are like soil blight. And yet, a good farmer knows soil blight can be healed." Lauren Racehel Deeply rooted shame and negative beliefs can feel permanent, but healing is possible. Just like tending a garden, cultivating intimacy takes patience, sunlight, and nourishment. Seeing it this way replaces shame with compassion and invites long-term healing.     3. Bringing Curiosity Back to Long-Term Love (32:03) "So many of us have lost curiosity in our long-term partnerships. And there is nothing wrong with wanting surprise, anticipation, or a bit of play." Lauren Racehel Long-term safety doesn't have to mean boredom. By discovering personal erotic themes and sprinkling them back into relationships, intimacy can feel exciting again. Curiosity and play are not only allowed—they're essential ingredients for keeping desire alive. Connections: Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful LifeSex For You (Lauren's Website) Lauren's Podcast   

Guest: Elliott Connie — psychotherapist, best-selling author, and global leader in Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT). In this episode, Elliott breaks down how asking the right questions can create powerful shifts in healing, relationships, and life direction. With over 20 years of experience, he shows why focusing on strengths and desired outcomes leads to transformation faster than traditional models of therapy.     3 Powerful Takeaways The questions you ask shape your future. Change begins by focusing on outcomes, not problems. Lasting relationships thrive on reciprocity, not blame.     Main Topics 1. The Power of Empowering Questions (04:06 – 08:19) Instead of asking "Why are you here?" SFBT starts with "What are your best hopes from being here?" This reframes therapy from problem-focused to solution-oriented. "A conversation about difference will lead towards differences. A conversation about problems will lead towards more problems." 2. The Three Life-Changing Questions (12:58 – 15:08) Elliott introduces three essential questions to break free from stuck patterns: Who am I really? What do I want? Who do I need to become to achieve it? Writing these down sparks clarity and subconscious action toward change. "You can't stay the same and expect things around you to get different." 3. Relationships and Reciprocity (24:22 – 28:51) The biggest mistake couples make is waiting for their partner to change first. Elliott emphasizes showing up differently yourself and trusting reciprocity to build momentum. "Anytime you want something from your partner, that's actually an indicator you're not doing that for them."     ✨ Notable Closing Insight: When trapped in the "someday" mindset, ask: "Suppose your partner never changes, how would you notice yourself being your very best even then?" Connections: Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful LifeAbout Elliott ConnieChange Your Question, Change Your Future Family TherapyAha! Moments Podcast with Elliott Connie   

In this episode of Life Check Yourself, Marni Battista interviews Steven Miyao, an executive coach and entrepreneur, about navigating midlife career changes and personal reinvention. They discuss the challenges faced by midlife professionals, the importance of aligning careers with personal values, and practical strategies for overcoming fear and taking action. Steven shares insights from his coaching practice, including the eulogy exercise to reflect on one's values and the significance of experimentation in making life changes. The conversation emphasizes the need for intentional living and the journey of self-discovery in midlife.   Takeaways Midlife professionals often feel the need for a career change. Grinding it out is not the solution; intentional living is key. Many people are stuck in a hamster wheel of work demands. Reinvention can be an opportunity to align with personal values. Shifting mindsets can lead to better job performance. Fear of failure, shame, and success can paralyze decision-making. The eulogy exercise helps clarify what truly matters in life. Experimentation is crucial for discovering new paths. Letting go of past identities can facilitate change. The journey of self-discovery is as important as the destination. Main Topics & Timestamps The Midlife Hamster Wheel (02:56–04:01) Many Gen X professionals built their careers by grinding, but never paused to live intentionally. Stopping to question whether the treadmill is serving you opens the door to reinvention Steven Miyao . "We are not stopping to question the hamster wheel. Is it true reinvention? It doesn't have to be, but it can be." Letting Go of Proving Energy (07:59–10:19) Old patterns of overwork often stem from childhood experiences of needing to prove worth. Identifying and releasing these habits creates space for a new identity and healthier success "Once you've identified this new self, you can rewire your brain to believe you actually are that person." Eulogy Values vs. Resume Values (20:41–22:27) True fulfillment comes when you prioritize the legacy you want to leave over titles, money, or status. The "eulogy exercise" helps clarify what really matters and guides midlife pivots "The second part of your life is all about eulogy values—what do you want to be remembered for?" Connections: Visit Steven's Site Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life

Introduction In this episode, we explore the power of integrating body, mind, and subconscious to release long-held emotional knots and reclaim wholeness. Our guest, Esin Pinrali, is a holistic psychotherapist and relationship expert specializing in imago therapy, brain spotting, internal family systems, and somatic practices. With her experiential approach, she helps people move beyond anxiety, trauma, and codependency to become fully alive and connected.     3 Key Takeaways Labels don't heal—untangling the root does. The body stores unresolved trauma and reveals the knots that block freedom. Regulation is unique—find practices that soothe your nervous system, not someone else's.     Main Topics 1. The Limits of Labels (00:10) "You're not broken and you're not here to get fixed. You're here to sort of untangle some of the roadblocks that are holding you back." Labels can provide temporary relief, but they can also trap you in false identity. True change happens when the underlying knots are worked through, not when they're named. This shift creates space for transformation instead of self-limiting beliefs.     2. Healing Through the Body (12:00) "There's this emotional knot being held in the body… and you can't talk your way out of it." Unprocessed trauma lives in the nervous system and resurfaces as automatic reactions. Bringing the body into the healing process allows old memories and energy to be completed and released. This frees you from subconscious loops and opens the door to different choices.     3. Nervous System Regulation and True Self-Care (29:00) "It's not a one size fits all approach. You are a unique individual. You need to try things on for size and see if it works for you." Regulation isn't about copying routines or forcing "the solution du jour." It's about discovering practices that genuinely calm your system. Whether it's nature, music, movement, or meditation, the right fit fosters resilience, flexibility, and authentic joy.     Connections: Visit Esin's Website Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life  

In this enlightening conversation, Marni Battista and Steffani LeFevour delve into the concept of soul assignments, exploring how our life experiences shape our spiritual journeys. They discuss the importance of recognizing chaos as an opportunity for growth, the power of choice in relationships, and the significance of daily practices for self-awareness. Steffani shares her personal journey of overcoming challenges and the process of writing her upcoming book, emphasizing the need for radical acceptance and conscious creation in our lives. Takeaways   Soul assignments are experiences our soul desires to have. Chaos can be viewed as an opportunity for growth. We have the power to choose how we respond to our experiences. Radical acceptance of our circumstances empowers us. Identifying soul assignments can lead to personal growth. Limiting beliefs can be reframed to serve us better. Relationships can be seen as soul assignments that require work. Daily practices can help us connect with our soul assignments. Writing a book can be a significant soul assignment. We must consciously create the life we want. Sound Bites   "Chaos is an opportunity." "We always have that choice." "We stand in our power." 1. Chaos as a Soul Assignment (03:39) "Every external opportunity of chaos is an opportunity for us to learn who we are and show up as who we want to be." marni-battistas-studio_podcast-… Explanation: Chaos doesn't have to be a trap. When seen as a soul assignment, even the hardest circumstances become moments of radical choice—either to spiral into negativity or to rise into clarity and purpose.     2. Rewriting Limiting Stories (19:26) "It's not the experience, but the meaning that I choose to place on the experience that really matters most." marni-battistas-studio_podcast-… Explanation: Painful experiences don't determine worth or destiny. What creates transformation is the story that follows. Shifting the meaning from "I'm broken" to "I'm resilient" builds the foundation for growth, love, and empowered living.     3. Radical Acceptance in Relationships (22:55) "When we identify a soul assignment, we stand in our power. And from that place, we can make decisions going forward that really serve us." marni-battistas-studio_podcast-… Explanation: Accepting a relationship or challenge as a soul assignment doesn't make you passive—it awakens power. This awareness frees you from old patterns, fuels new choices, and deepens love while creating healthier boundaries. Connections: Know More About Steffani Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life  

In this episode, I sit down with my longtime friend and fellow coach, Jonathan Aslay. Jonathan is one of America's leading midlife self-love coaches, and together we dive into what it really takes to create lasting love in today's world. From navigating power dynamics in relationships to building trust, and from self-awareness to the surprising truth about chemistry, this conversation is packed with wisdom for anyone ready to step into a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.     Main Takeaways Jonathan emphasizes the importance of being present in relationships. Self-awareness is crucial for building trust and intimacy. Curiosity in conversations can lead to deeper connections. Women should not feel the need to downplay their success in relationships. Building a friendship first can lead to stronger romantic connections. Vulnerability is key to establishing trust in relationships. It's important to communicate openly about uncomfortable topics like money. People often sabotage their love lives due to unresolved past issues. Dating should be approached as a meeting rather than a performance. Age should not be a barrier to finding love.     3 Main Topics 1. Power Dynamics in Relationships (03:33) "When two equal people show up, you can have more co-creative conversations." Explanation: Healthy relationships thrive when both people bring their full selves—financially, emotionally, and energetically—to the table. Avoiding silence around uncomfortable topics like money and expectations allows couples to build partnerships rooted in equality and collaboration.     2. Trust and Speaking Your Truth (09:39) "Speak your truth, just do it from a kind place. If you do it sincerely, you can't say the wrong thing to the right person." Explanation: Trust goes beyond fidelity; it's about knowing the other person has your best interests at heart. Speaking openly and vulnerably—without fear of rejection—creates the safety needed for intimacy and long-term stability.     3. Chemistry and the Friend Zone (22:38) "I realized later why we didn't have that chemistry at first… I had no idea what a secure meeting felt like." Explanation: Many confuse anxiety and butterflies with love, overlooking the steadiness of a secure connection. True intimacy grows from friendship, presence, and appreciation—often blooming where instant "sparks" seem absent. Reframing how chemistry develops can open the door to real, lasting connection. Connections: Jonathan Aslay's YoutubeVisit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life

In this episode, Dr. Sam Shea discusses his work with adults on the autism spectrum, focusing on burnout, resilience, and the importance of self-care for parents. He shares insights on the challenges faced by neurodiverse individuals, the significance of proper terminology, and the concept of masking. Dr. Shea emphasizes the need for resources and support for both parents and children, and highlights the role of comedy in advocating for understanding and connection. The conversation also touches on the importance of care in relationships and the impact of coaching on personal development.   Main Takeaways: Dr. Sam Shea helps adults on the spectrum stop burnout. Masking is a common experience for those on the spectrum. Self-care is crucial for parents of neurodiverse children. The term 'high functioning' can be misleading and offensive. There are many resources available for families today. Comedy can be a powerful tool for advocacy and connection. Understanding social dynamics is essential for building relationships. Coaching can provide valuable support for personal growth. Parents should prioritize sleep and wellness for their families. Leading with care is key to connecting with those on the spectrum.   3 Main Topics with Timestamps, Citations, and Explanations: 1. Energy Management is Non-Negotiable (06:42) "You can't be present, creative, or purposeful if you're running on fumes every day." Explanation: Energy is the foundation for every action and decision. Without protecting and restoring it, creativity, focus, and emotional balance erode, making it harder to sustain meaningful work or relationships.     2. The Mind-Body Connection in Healing (14:18) "Your mindset directly determines how your body responds to stress, recovery, and even food." Explanation: Beliefs and thoughts influence physical health at a cellular level. Shifting mental patterns can reduce inflammation, accelerate healing, and create the physiological environment needed for optimal performance.     3. Aligning Life with Purpose (28:54) "When your daily life reflects your values and purpose, burnout becomes nearly impossible." Explanation: Living in alignment with personal values creates natural motivation and resilience. This alignment makes challenges feel meaningful instead of draining, reducing the risk of chronic stress and burnout. Connections: Dr. Sam Shey's FreebieVisit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life 0

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Dr. Corey Allan—husband, father, author, speaker, and seasoned marriage and family therapist—to unpack the truth about long-term love, personal growth, and staying connected through change. We go beyond surface-level advice to talk about what really keeps relationships alive, why personal responsibility is non-negotiable, and how to navigate shifts in yourself and your partner without losing the bond.     3 Main Takeaways: Face the relationship you have—not the one you wish you had. Personal growth will shift the relationship—be ready to adapt. Strong connections are built on presence, self-respect, and shared growth.     3 Main Topics with Timestamps, Citations, and Explanations: 1. Work with Who Your Partner Really Is (05:03) "I'm fighting for the spouse I wish I had… rather than I'm actually working with who they are." Explanation: Real progress comes when energy is spent on understanding and relating to the actual person in the relationship—flaws, strengths, and all—instead of chasing an idealized version that only exists in imagination.     2. Change in One Partner Shifts the Entire System (13:25) "One person makes a change, so it's going to impact the system… The other person is left with a couple of choices." Explanation: Every change—whether intentional growth, a lifestyle shift, or a new boundary—ripples through the relationship. How each person responds determines whether the bond strengthens, adapts, or drifts apart.     3. Presence Beats Time Quantity (33:25) "My wife benefits… from 20 minutes of a hundred percent of my presence more than she does of an hour of 50% of my presence." Explanation: Deep connection is built through focused, intentional engagement rather than simply being in the same space. Quality attention fuels emotional closeness far more than distracted time together. Connections: Sexy Marriage Radio Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life  

Episode Introduction: In this episode, we explore how grief—often avoided, misunderstood, and pushed down—can actually become the catalyst for living fully and authentically. Dr. Michelle Petticola shares powerful insights on transforming complex grief into fuel for life's purpose. You'll discover why facing your emotions is essential, how reframing loss can shift your experience, and the hidden costs of suppressing what your heart needs to feel.     3 Main Takeaways: Surrender is the first step to transformation — Allowing emotions to flow opens the door to healing and self-discovery. Reframe grief as a measure of love — Shifting perspective transforms pain into a lasting, meaningful connection. Unprocessed grief impacts every area of life — Avoidance drains energy, creates emotional blocks, and can keep you from living true to yourself.     3 Main Topics with Timestamps, Citations, and Explanations: 1. The Power of Surrender (14:01) "You have to surrender to the experience... There's no magic pill. There is no quick formula. You have to go through the process. And it's good because when you go through the process, you transform." Explanation: Accepting and fully feeling emotions instead of resisting them prevents them from becoming trapped in the body. This openness can lead to personal breakthroughs and deeper self-awareness.     2. Reframing Loss as Love (22:32) "What if instead of looking at it that way, you look at it as your grief is a measurement of your love for this woman." Explanation: Changing the meaning you give to grief shifts the emotional experience. Viewing grief as evidence of deep love creates an empowering connection rather than a debilitating wound.     3. The Hidden Impact of Unprocessed Grief (20:24) "If you don't grieve, the emotions get stuck in your body… As soon as they start to get that relief… suddenly they have all this energy that they didn't have because… you're exhausted." Explanation: Suppressing emotions requires constant effort, which drains vitality and can manifest as physical or mental health challenges. Releasing them restores energy and emotional clarity. Connections: Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life Secrets Of Life and Death Complex Grief Checklist  

In this conversation, Myles Katz—licensed psilocybin facilitator and founder of Confluence Retreats—shares insights from years of experience guiding individuals through legal psychedelic journeys. Drawing on themes of trust, connection, integration, and nature, Myles explores what makes a psilocybin retreat truly transformative. From the importance of nervous system safety to the role of nature as a co-facilitator, this dialogue highlights the ethical and structural foundations needed to support lasting healing with the use of legal psilocybin mushrooms.  3 Main Takeaways Healing Can Be Accelerated in the Right Environment – Safety, preparation, and integration are key to lasting breakthroughs. Connection is the Core of Transformation – Deep healing happens when we reconnect with ourselves, others, and nature. Psychedelics Are a Tool, Not a Shortcut – The real work is in integration and living the lessons learned. Main Topics & Timestamps Creating a Safe and Structured Healing Space (04:12) "People need to feel safe enough to let go, so the healing process can truly begin." When trust and safety are built into the experience, the mind and body can release long-held trauma, making transformation possible. Why Connection Heals (12:45) "The medicine reminds us we're part of something larger than ourselves." This sense of belonging counteracts isolation, helps dissolve anxiety, and fosters a deep inner calm. Integration Is the Real Transformation (18:27) "The retreat isn't the end — it's the beginning of a new chapter." The insights gained must be applied in daily life to create sustainable change and authentic alignment. Nature as a Co-Facilitator (25:10) "Being in nature accelerates the sense of awe and connection." Immersion in natural settings supports nervous system regulation, emotional grounding, and spiritual openness. Shaping the Future of Psychedelic Healing (32:02) "We're building a model that prioritizes ethics, accessibility, and long-term impact." A vision for making this work safe, legal, and accessible to more people without losing its integrity. Connections: Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future  Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life Learn More About Myles  

 This week I'm talking with Erin Washington—author, former college athlete, podcast host, and the founder of "Squats and Margaritas." Erin is a fierce voice for women breaking free from perfectionism, diet culture, and comparison traps. Her story of going from disordered eating and self-doubt to empowered confidence is raw, real, and refreshing. She teaches women how to create sustainable wellness and lasting joy—without shrinking themselves or their lives.     🌟 What You'll Walk Away With: Confidence has nothing to do with perfection. Healing starts when the comparison stops. Your identity isn't your body—it's your energy.     ⏱️ Key Topics + Takeaways with Timestamps     1. Confidence Comes from Owning, Not Fixing 🕐 [08:11] "I was always striving for this perfection, and when I got there, I still wasn't happy." Explanation: Chasing perfection creates a cycle of never-enoughness. True confidence is built by honoring progress over performance. The shift from fixing flaws to owning wholeness rewires self-worth from the inside out.     2. Comparison Is the Thief of Healing 🕐 [12:32] "I had to unfollow the 'perfect' moms and start living my real life." Explanation: Healing requires protecting energy from comparison triggers. Constantly measuring against filtered highlight reels feeds shame and erodes joy. Choosing authenticity over aspiration restores inner peace and creates space for meaningful growth.     3. Your Worth Isn't Measured in Pounds 🕐 [17:45] "I was finally in a healthy body, but it was still not enough—because I didn't heal my mind." Explanation: Even external transformation feels empty if internal beliefs remain rooted in scarcity. Sustainable healing happens when identity expands beyond appearance and aligns with truth, joy, and purpose.     💬 Notable Quotes: "It's not about the squats or the margaritas—it's about the freedom to enjoy both." [20:01] → Balance is not the goal—it's the byproduct of self-acceptance. "Confidence is a decision, not a destination." [22:18] → You don't wait to feel worthy—you show up like you already are. "Your body doesn't need to be fixed. Your beliefs do." [25:40] → When mindset shifts, everything else follows.     📘 Go Deeper: Check out Erin's book Squats and Margaritas: A Journey to Finding Balance and tune into her podcast for real talk on wellness, motherhood, and confidence—minus the BS.     ✨ Final Word: Lasting change doesn't come from willpower—it comes from healing. And healing begins when perfection is no longer the price of admission. Confidence is available now—not 10 pounds from now, not next year. Now. Choose you. As you are. Today. 💥   Connections: Buy From Pain to Purpose: Finding Meaning in the Mess Listen to thERINpy with Erin WashingtonVisit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life

Guest Introduction: On this episode, I'm joined by Megan Walrod—writer, speaker, and transformational guide whose journey from overachieving to aligned living will crack open something deep inside you. Megan walked away from a life that looked "perfect on paper" to rediscover her voice, power, and soul's deeper calling. What she found? A life of freedom, joy, and magnetic abundance that didn't require her to hustle, perform, or prove.     🌟 3 Takeaways to Anchor In: Real wealth begins with honoring your inner truth. Doing less can actually open the portal to more abundance. Letting go of the "good girl" creates space for authentic power.     🔑 3 Main Topics with Time Stamps: 1. The Cost of Over-Giving and Performing ⏰ [00:06:10] "It looked like the dream life, and yet I was feeling more and more empty inside." This moment reminds us that external success without inner alignment leads to depletion, not fulfillment. When our energy is tied to validation or performance, we burn out—not just physically, but spiritually. Letting go of over-giving is how we begin to reclaim joy, peace, and power.     2. How Doing Less Becomes a Money Magnet ⏰ [00:17:45] "I realized the less I did from a place of force, the more space I had for miracles." Shifting from hustle to receptivity doesn't mean giving up ambition—it means aligning energy with intention. When effort is replaced by embodiment, creativity and opportunities multiply. It's not about stopping, it's about syncing with a higher rhythm.     3. Breaking the "Good Girl" Spell ⏰ [00:27:30] "The moment I stopped trying to be liked, I started being respected—and paid." Releasing the need to please creates magnetic confidence. True power isn't loud or aggressive—it's grounded in self-worth. When the good-girl conditioning fades, bold choices rise. And those bold choices lead to new levels of success and self-expression.     💬 Notable Quote: "Wealth isn't just numbers in a bank account. It's the freedom to be who you truly are." This quote reframes abundance in a revolutionary way—one where fulfillment becomes the foundation, not the afterthought. Because when you become the truest version of yourself, life starts meeting you in unexpected, generous ways.     Let me know if you'd like this formatted for Substack, your show notes template, or converted into an Instagram carousel. Connections: Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy It's Always Been Me by Megan Walrod  

 This week's guest is the extraordinary Larry Michel—founder of the Institute of Genetic Energetics, relationship innovator, coach, and author of Lasting: 11 Illuminations and Essential Questions for a Co-Creative, Evolutionary Partnership. Known as the "Love Shepherd," Larry has spent over three decades reshaping the way people find and build love. His work dives deep into the science of human connection, compatibility, and co-creation.     🔥 This Episode Will Help You: Stop treating love like a transaction and start showing up with truth. Shift from judgment to curiosity to unlock deeper relationships. Understand why "preparing" for love is more powerful than repairing it.     ⏱️ 3 Key Takeaways + Topics with Timestamps     1. Love Is Not a Transaction—Stop Playing the Algorithm ⏰ [02:42] "Anytime we make ourselves a commodity, it's hurting us." Explanation: When love becomes gamified by apps and algorithms, people lose the depth of authentic connection. Reducing ourselves to filters, swipes, and profiles undermines intimacy and reinforces insecurity. Instead, when we approach dating and connection as a human process—not a tech transaction—we reclaim our power to be seen and valued.     2. Chemistry Isn't the Goal—Clarity Is ⏰ [10:31] "Chemistry plays a huge role... when it's on, you're all doped up on brain chemicals." Explanation: Falling for someone based on "chemistry" alone often leads to distorted decision-making. When your body is flooded with feel-good hormones, it's easy to miss red flags. By learning how to see clearly through the chemical fog, you can create meaningful, conscious connections rather than ones based purely on dopamine and fantasy.     3. Don't Repair—Prepare for Real Love ⏰ [25:45] "85% of professionals are focused on repairing what's broken... but we need to prepare more than repair." Explanation: Healing shouldn't begin only after heartbreak. Proactively asking the right questions, cultivating emotional intimacy, and clarifying shared values before problems arise builds resilience. True connection comes from intentional preparation, not reactive fixing.     ✨ Notable Quotes: "Love is not an action. It's not a verb. Love is your life force." [26:43] → When you remember that love is who you are, you stop seeking it and start expressing it. "We've been conditioned to judge instead of staying in inquiry." [16:10] → Growth happens not when we're proving ourselves right, but when we stay open to discovering more. "Be surprised by the truth. That's where the real magic is." [17:20] → The best connections often come from the unexpected. Stop scripting the story and start listening for what's real.     Connections: Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life  

In this episode of Life Check Yourself, I sat down with the brilliant behavioral expert and author Tracy Crossley to unpack the real root of relationship crisis. Whether you're stuck in an on-again, off-again dynamic, feeling emotionally unseen, or quietly questioning your future with someone—this is the conversation that will shift everything. We explore the hidden habits that keep us stuck, the unconscious fear that fuels dysfunction, and how you can finally experience the kind of intimacy and power you've always wanted—without playing the blame game.     🎯 3 Powerful Takeaways: Victim Thinking Blocks Healing Emotional Intimacy Begins With Responsibility You Can Outgrow Your Attachment Style     💡 Episode Topics & Time Stamps: [03:33] Victim Language & "He Made Me" Thinking "Whenever I hear 'he made me,' it's always an attachment. It's always a victim position." This mindset limits any possibility of real change. Shifting out of blame and into self-responsibility is the first step to emotional freedom. Otherwise, you'll keep attracting the same relationship dynamic in different clothing. [09:17] How Fear Pretends to Keep You Safe "I had a lot of bullshit excuses, but most of all—I had fear." Fear isn't always loud. Sometimes it's disguised as logic or control. But what it really does is trap you in indecision, making you believe you're stuck when you're actually just scared to want more. [34:07] What To Do When You're Always Thinking About The Problem "You're in the kitchen, doing dishes…what are your thoughts? They're on a story about a relationship problem." Most of us don't realize how much mental energy we give to unspoken stories. Tracy explains how interrupting this cycle with awareness and curiosity—not accusation—can lead to more connection than any "fix it" talk.     🔥 Notable Quotes: 🗣️ "You're punishing yourself when you're stuck in blame." 🗣️ "Most people aren't afraid of being alone. They're afraid of intimacy." 🗣️ "If you don't give your partner space to grow, they'll stay trapped in the past version of themselves you keep projecting."     🎯 Why This Episode Matters: This isn't just about romantic relationships—it's about reclaiming the emotional agency you've handed over. When you become the chooser in your life, your relationships naturally shift too. The path to peace doesn't start by changing someone else—it starts by finally seeing yourself clearly. Connections: Tracy's book: https://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Insecure-Attachment-Recognizing-Relationships/dp/1646042506 Visit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life