The Justina Washington Show

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In this conversation, Justina explores the complexities of desire, acceptance, and the emotional journey of navigating what we want versus what we have. She emphasizes the importance of slowing down, grieving unmet desires, and recognizing the power in acceptance. Through understanding the stages of grief and the difference between grief and rumination, Justina encourages listeners to focus on what they can control and to embrace their unique journeys.TakeawaysThe answer to our desires often lies in understanding our resistance.Bypassing discomfort can lead to cognitive distortions.Success is a personal definition and can take many forms.Slowing down allows us to recognize misalignment in our lives.Grieving unmet desires is a natural and necessary process.Acceptance of what we cannot control opens up new possibilities.Rumination keeps us stuck, while grief allows for healing.We must focus on what we can control to regain our power.Our journeys are unique, and we should honor that.Letting go of attachment to outcomes can lead to greater fulfillment.Navigating Desire and AcceptanceThe Journey of Grief and Growth"What if it was simply with being?""Your journey is unique to you.""I trust that what is for me will come."Sound BitesChapters00:00Understanding the Desire for Change01:43The Importance of Slowing Down03:39Navigating Powerlessness and Acceptance05:25Grieving vs. Rumination07:24The Stages of Grief09:12Letting Go of Control10:30Opening Up to Possibility12:35Finding Your Unique Path14:43Embracing the Human Experience17:07The Illusion of Certainty18:52Choosing Acceptance and Trust

Episode Summary:In this episode, Justina talks about the messy middle—when life feels hard and uncomfortable even as you’re doing “the work.” She explores the illusion that things will feel easier once something outside of us changes—more clients, a better relationship, a new job—and reminds us that ease isn’t the goal; self-trust and consistency are.Through stories about misaligned clients, business challenges, and the temptation to stay in comfortable misery, Justina unpacks what it means to choose discomfort that leads to growth over comfort that keeps you small. This episode will call you higher: to stop waiting for the right feeling and start doing the thing that aligns with the woman you’re becoming.KEY MOMENTS:00:00 – 03:00 | When Life Feels HardJustina opens up about the illusion that happiness begins once something external changes — a new job, relationship, or success milestone. She normalizes the duality of life’s ups and downs.03:00 – 06:30 | The Difference Between Successful and Unsuccessful PeopleDrawing from Jesse Itzler’s quote, she explores how success isn’t about wanting to do the thing — it’s about doing it anyway.06:30 – 12:00 | The Trap of Comfortable MiseryShe shares a story about taking on a misaligned client for comfort and stability, revealing the hidden payoff of staying in draining situations that feel “safe.”12:00 – 18:00 | Labels That Keep You SmallHow identifying as “the sensitive one,” “the overthinker,” or “the introvert” can become another comfort zone that limits your growth.18:00 – 24:00 | Redefining Success & LegacyReflections on Alex Hormozi’s take on legacy versus change — what it means to build a life and impact you’re proud of now, not someday.24:00 – 28:00 | The Pursuit of Peace Over HappinessWhy happiness is fleeting but peace — or contentment — is sustainable when you accept both the good and the hard as part of being human.28:00 – 31:00 | Closing Reflections: Becoming the Woman You’re Proud OfJustina closes with a powerful reminder to keep taking steps toward your vision — not waiting to “feel like it,” but walking in alignment with your proudest self.You’ll Learn:Why hard seasons don’t mean you’re off trackThe hidden payoff of staying in misaligned situationsHow to recognize when comfort is really fear in disguiseWhat happens when you stop over-identifying with labels like “highly sensitive” or “overthinker”How to build a life you’re proud of—even when it’s uncomfortableKey Quotes:“Sometimes comfort is staying in the dynamic that’s hurting you—because it’s familiar.”“Do the thing you don’t feel like doing when it aligns with the life you say you want.”“Peace isn’t found in everything being good; it’s found in accepting that both good and hard exist.”“I’m not chasing happiness—I’m walking as the version of me I’m proud of.”🔗CONNECT WITH JUSTINA:On Instagram for more insights: https://www.instagram.com/justinabwashington/ ✉️Receive weekly letters of hope: https://justina.myflodesk.com/eb5svn6o52Share your thoughts and experiences with us!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐Leave a podcast review on Apple ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-girl-free-woman-healing-codependency-toxic-relationships/id1541749752⁠⁠⁠ ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐Leave a podcast review on Spotify⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4Gfn08oYk6rjcJ168fdRoH?si=eb4e0dc584bd4a28⁠⁠🚨 DISCLAIMER: The information shared here is for educational and inspirational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. It does not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. I am not liable for any actions taken based on this content. Please seek guidance from a qualified professional regarding your specific circumstances.

In this conversation, Justina shares her personal weight loss journey, detailing the lifestyle changes and mindset shifts that helped her lose 30 pounds. She emphasizes the importance of tracking daily actions rather than just focusing on the scale, the significance of enjoying the process, and the role of emotional awareness in making healthier choices. Justina also discusses the necessity of self-compassion and resilience in overcoming setbacks and achieving long-term goals.TakeawaysI lost 30 pounds since January.Focus on daily actions, not just the overall weight.Make daily actions enjoyable to stay motivated.Surround yourself with supportive environments.Sign up for events that hold you accountable.Be kind to yourself during the journey.Resilience is key to bouncing back from setbacks.Focus on how food makes you feel after eating.Do one thing at a time to avoid overwhelm.Emotional awareness helps in making better choices.Chapters00:00 Justina's Weight Loss Journey11:27 Mindset and Daily Actions for Success23:12 Emotional Awareness and Self-CompassionWATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBEhttps://youtube.com/@justinawashington?si=bxA4qvK0MizLesvl  Join the next monthly embodiment session:https://www.raindropmovement.com/feminine-embodiment-online-weekly-classesCONNECT WITH JUSTINA:On Instagram for more insights: https://www.instagram.com/justinabwashington/ ✉️Receive weekly letters of hope: https://justina.myflodesk.com/eb5svn6o52Share your thoughts and experiences with us!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐Leave a podcast review on Apple ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-girl-free-woman-healing-codependency-toxic-relationships/id1541749752⁠⁠⁠ ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐Leave a podcast review on Spotify⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4Gfn08oYk6rjcJ168fdRoH?si=eb4e0dc584bd4a28⁠⁠🚨 DISCLAIMER: The information shared here is for educational and inspirational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. It does not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. I am not liable for any actions taken based on this content. Please seek guidance from a qualified professional regarding your specific circumstances.KEY PHRASEShow to set healthy boundaries, boundaries for beginners, self respect vs self abandonment, how to stop people pleasing, how to say no without guilt, emotional boundaries in relationships, signs of overfunctioning, how to stop overfunctioning, burnout recovery for women, why do I feel responsible for everyone, how to stop doing too much, high achieving women burnout, how to make aligned choices, following your desires, how to trust your intuition, how to embody authenticity, what to do when you feel stuck, breaking out of black and white thinking, am I asking for too much in relationships, why do I feel unseen in my relationship, how to stop overexplaining yourself, how to stop proving yourself, how to find emotional safety in relationships, how to deal with being misunderstood, mindset shifts for ambitious women, embody your next level self, how to get unstuck in life, how to create a life that feels like home, personal growth for sensitive women, power of self trust.

This episode explores the concept of detachment and how others' behaviors are reflections of their own experiences, not a reflection of you. Justina discusses the importance of understanding personal coding, regulating emotions, and maintaining authenticity in relationships.detachment, personal coding, emotional regulation, authenticity, relationshipsOther people's reactions are about their own internal experiences.Your authentic expression may not always be accepted by others.Everyone has unique coding shaped by their experiences and beliefs.Regulating your emotions is key to maintaining authenticity.Detachment involves understanding that others' responses are not about you.Boundaries are essential in maintaining personal responsibility.Practicing detachment helps in dealing with others' discomfort.Breathing techniques can help in emotional regulation.Being present and aware helps in managing stress responses.Empathy for others' experiences without compromising your values is crucial.Detachment: It's Not About YouUnderstanding Personal CodingEmotional Regulation and AuthenticityNavigating Relationships with DetachmentThe Power of Emotional RegulationBoundaries and Personal ResponsibilityPracticing Detachment in Daily LifeBreathing Techniques for Emotional BalanceEmpathy Without CompromiseAuthenticity in the Face of DiscomfortOther people's reactions aren't about you. Your expression may not be accepted. Everyone has unique coding. Regulate emotions to stay authentic. Detachment: others' responses aren't about you. Boundaries maintain personal responsibility. Practice detachment with others' discomfort. Breathing aids emotional regulation. Presence helps manage stress. Empathy without compromising values.00:00:00 Introduction to Detachment00:00:00 Understanding Personal Coding00:00:00 Emotional Regulation Techniques00:00:00 Maintaining Authenticity in Relationships00:00:00 Empathy and BoundariesKeywordsTakeawaysTitle OptionsSound bitesChapters

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WATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBEhttps://youtube.com/@justinawashington?si=bxA4qvK0MizLesvl  Justina discusses the challenges of feeling busy and overwhelmed, emphasizing the importance of multiplying one's capacity. She highlights the concept of over-delivering and stresses that one's job is to lead, not to carry everything alone.Chapters:00:00:27 Introduction to Over-Delivering00:00:50 The Role of Delegation and Collaboration00:01:57 Leading Without Carrying It All Takeaways:Feeling busy and overwhelmed can be a sign of over-delivering.Delegation and collaboration are key to multiplying capacity.Support from others is crucial in managing responsibilities.Your job is to lead, not to carry everything alone.Over-functioning in relationships and work can lead to resentment.It's important to recognize when you're over-functioning.Expanding capacity requires support and delegation.Leading effectively means knowing when to delegate.Collaboration enhances productivity and reduces stress.Support systems are essential for sustainable leadership.  Join the next monthly embodiment session:https://www.raindropmovement.com/feminine-embodiment-online-weekly-classesJoin the Nervous System Reset Mini-Course: Tools to Confidently Move Through Big Emotions Without Losing Yourself:justina-s-school7.teachable.com/p/nervoussystemreset⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🔗CONNECT WITH JUSTINA:On Instagram for more insights: https://www.instagram.com/justinabwashington/ ✉️Receive weekly letters of hope: https://justina.myflodesk.com/eb5svn6o52Share your thoughts and experiences with us!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐Leave a podcast review on Apple ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-girl-free-woman-healing-codependency-toxic-relationships/id1541749752⁠⁠⁠ ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐Leave a podcast review on Spotify⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4Gfn08oYk6rjcJ168fdRoH?si=eb4e0dc584bd4a28⁠⁠Healing from Codependency, people pleasing, emotionally abusive relationships, toxic relationship patterns, love bombing, trauma bonds, and narcissism/narcissistic relationships, Healing from codependency, people pleasing, people pleasing recovery, healing after emotional abuse, healing after narcissistic abuse, highly sensitive women, empaths, boundaries, higher self, self love, healing after trauma and good girl conditioning🚨 DISCLAIMER: The information shared here is for educational and inspirational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. It does not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. I am not liable for any actions taken based on this content. Please seek guidance from a qualified professional regarding your specific circumstances.

226. Building Self Respect vs Self Abandonment

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You already know what you want. But when fear, pressure, and outside opinions pile up, it’s easy to override your inner voice and stay stuck in misaligned choices. In this episode, I share how we’re conditioned to believe the loudest voice in the room—and how to come back to your own. You’ll learn how to separate projection from intuition, question what you’ve been taught to believe, and build the self-trust you need to make bold, aligned decisions in your work, relationships, and life.

In this empowering episode, we unpack what boundaries really are—beyond the buzzwords. If you're a sensitive, ambitious woman who struggles with saying no, overgiving, or feeling drained, this episode is for you.You'll learn:What boundaries actually are (internal vs. external)How to tell when a boundary is neededSimple scripts to set them without guiltCommon myths that keep women stuck in burnoutWhy boundaries are an act of self-respect, not selfishnessWith insights from experts like Dr. Henry Cloud, Terri Cole, Robin Norwood, and more—this episode gives you the clarity and tools to start honoring your time, energy, and peace.Quote to Remember:“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.” – Dr. Henry Cloud

In this episode, we dive into the power of keeping promises to yourself and the importance of following through on commitments, no matter how small. Justina shares her personal journey of overcoming the fear and resistance to stepping outside her comfort zone and why it’s crucial for building self-worth and confidence. She breaks down how even the smallest actions toward change can lead to big transformations and help you break free from old patterns that no longer serve you.We also discuss how negative thoughts can keep you stuck, and how to recognize them as mere distractions when you’re on the path to growth. If you’re ready to make bold decisions, set healthy boundaries, and embrace your authentic self, this episode is for you. Tune in for practical tips on moving past self-doubt and taking action toward the life you truly desire.Timestamps:0:00 - Intro1:40 - The struggle of following through on commitments4:15 - Why we avoid discomfort and stay in our comfort zones7:05 - The connection between self-worth and keeping promises to yourself10:30 - The role of negative thinking and how to shift it13:20 - Taking small steps outside your comfort zone for big growth16:00 - Embracing discomfort for transformation18:45 - How to overcome people-pleasing and live authentically20:30 - Final thoughts & actionable takeaways

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Join the Nervous System Reset Mini Course: Tools to Confidently Move Through Big Emotions Without Losing Yourself:⁠⁠justina-s-school7.teachable.com/p/nervoussystemreset⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow behind the scenes on Instagram ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/freewoman.podcast/⁠⁠Leave a podcast review on Apple ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-girl-free-woman-healing-codependency-toxic-relationships/id1541749752⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave a podcast review on Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4Gfn08oYk6rjcJ168fdRoH?si=eb4e0dc584bd4a28⁠⁠⁠ Healing from Codependency, people pleasing, emotionally abusive relationships, toxic relationship patterns, love bombing, and narcissism/narcissistic relationships, Introvert, Empath

Join the Nervous System Reset Mini Course: Tools to Confidently Move Through Big Emotions Without Losing Yourself:⁠⁠justina-s-school7.teachable.com/p/nervoussystemreset⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow behind the scenes on Instagram ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/freewoman.podcast/⁠⁠Leave a podcast review on Apple ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-girl-free-woman-healing-codependency-toxic-relationships/id1541749752⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave a podcast review on Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/4Gfn08oYk6rjcJ168fdRoH?si=eb4e0dc584bd4a28⁠⁠⁠ Healing from Codependency, people pleasing, emotionally abusive relationships, toxic relationship patterns, love bombing, and narcissism/narcissistic relationships, Introvert, Empath

Life can be tough… but we can make it 1% better by paying attention to what brings us joy and sprinkle little moments of it into our daily lives.

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Learn the signs of being enmeshed in your emotionally difficult relationship. Get on the waitlist for group coaching: https://blankcreativ.my.canva.site/waitlist-free-woman Summary: Enmeshment in emotionally difficult relationships. 0:00 Enmeshment in relationships: overly connecting, losing touch with own needs. Signs of enmeshed relationship. 1:37 Anxiety about partner's well-being and need for approval in decision-making are signs of an enmeshed relationship. Codependency and constant worry about partner's needs. 2:42 Constant worry about partner's emotions, needs, and well-being interferes with own mental and emotional health. Loss of individuality in enmeshed relationships. 3:58 Speaker 1 describes loss of individuality in a relationship, including loss of personal boundaries and blurring of lines between personal and relationship identities. Speaker 1 notes that being in an enmeshed relationship can lead to feelings of confusion, depression, and sadness due to neglect of one's own needs and wants. Maintaining personal boundaries while supporting loved ones. Speaker 1 prioritizes self-care and boundaries while supporting loved one. Boundaries and self-worth in relationships. Speaker 1 emphasizes importance of differentiation in relationships to maintain self-worth and identity. Healing and safety in relationships. Differentiation and healing are key to safe landing pads in relationships. Codependency and its negative effects. Speaker 1: Overdoing it in pursuit of validation from partners, leading to enmeshment and unhappiness. Differentiation in relationships. Participant imagines themselves and their partner in separate circles, noting similarities and differences. Practice differentiation to manage emotions and avoid getting "meshed" with your partner. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/goodgirlfreewomanjustina/message