Dad Smarter Not Harder

When unexpected challenges arise in our household, like our daughter accidentally having an accident in her room, it's easy for tensions to rise. But what if we could turn these moments into valuable lessons for our children? In this video, I share a personal experience where my wife was on the verge of exploding with frustration. Instead of adding fuel to the fire, I chose a different approach: 1️⃣ Immediate Action: I took the initiative to clean up the mess, ensuring my wife could take a moment to breathe and regroup. 2️⃣ Involving Our Daughter: By involving our daughter in the cleanup, not only did we teach responsibility, but we also showed her that she's a vital part of the solution. The result? A strengthened bond and a lesson for our daughter that challenges can be faced head-on without fear. Watch on to learn how you can turn potential conflicts into opportunities for growth and understanding in your family. Remember, it's not about the mistakes we make, but how we choose to handle them. 💪❤️

Parenting in today's digital age can be challenging, but with the right tools and mindset, we can raise resilient, empathetic, and self-assured children. Dive into the GrACE Framework, a holistic approach to parenting that focuses on nurturing essential life skills: 🌱 G - Growth Mindset: Cultivate a belief in your child that they can always learn, adapt, and improve. Let's raise kids who embrace challenges and see failures as opportunities for growth. 🏠 r - Responsibility: Involve your child in household tasks and decisions. When they contribute, they learn the value of hard work and the importance of being a team player. 🚀 A - Autonomy: Encourage independence. Let your child take the lead, make choices, and learn from their experiences. It's all about empowering them to be self-reliant. 💪 C - Confidence: In a world dominated by social media comparisons, it's crucial to instill self-worth and confidence in our children. Let's teach them to find validation from within, rather than seeking it externally. ❤️ E - Empathy: The cornerstone of humanity. Guide your child to understand and respect the feelings of others, fostering a compassionate and socially conscious mindset. Join us as we delve deeper into the GrACE Framework, sharing practical tips, real-life examples, and expert insights. Together, let's shape the future by raising well-rounded, empathetic, and confident children.

Tweet: https://twitter.com/TheeJoelLopez/status/1686494601727836165 Momentous: https://www.livemomentous.com/products/hormone-support-bundle?selling_plan=834371767 Hey parents! Today, we're diving into a topic that many men often struggle with - improving intimacy with their wives. If you've ever felt that the spark is fading or that your wife isn't as interested in intimacy, this video is for you. Contrary to popular belief, the key to a thriving intimate relationship isn't just about the physical aspect. It's about creating an environment of love, respect, and understanding. 🌹 In this video, we'll explore the TWO PILLARS of improving intimacy: 1️⃣ Take Care of Yourself - The foundation of any relationship starts with self-love and self-care. We'll discuss: The impact of porn on intimacy The benefits of lifting weights and staying fit The importance of adequate sleep and a balanced diet Supplements that can enhance your well-being 2️⃣ Take Care of Her - Understanding and catering to your wife's needs is crucial. We'll delve into: The 5 love languages and how to identify hers The significance of giving her space and understanding her boundaries Simple yet effective ways to make her feel appreciated and cherished. By focusing on these pillars, you can reignite the flame and foster a deeper connection with your wife. 💑

Tweet: https://twitter.com/bennyjohnson/status/1685618748495974400 Hey everyone! Today's topic might have caught your eye, but rest assured, we're NOT here to promote negativity. Inspired by a recent incident with Cardi B, we're diving deep into how we should react when faced with haters or negative comments. We all face criticism, be it online or in real life. But how should we, and more importantly, our children, respond? 🤔 In this video, I'll share a simple yet powerful technique I've taught my kids to handle such situations. Instead of getting dragged into a war of words or letting negativity affect them, they've learned to respond with a calm "Ok thanks". 🙌 Why? Because by doing so, they're not giving haters the satisfaction of an emotional response. They're rising above, showing maturity, and moving on without letting negativity weigh them down. 👉 Watch on to learn more about this technique and how you can implement it in your life and teach your kids the same. Remember, it's not about stooping down to someone's level, but about rising above and showing them that their words don't define you.

Tweet by Joe Cassandra: https://twitter.com/JoeCassandra/status/1685821159076466688 How to raise an adult: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult In today's fast-paced world, many parents feel the pressure to keep their children constantly entertained and engaged. But is this non-stop stimulation truly beneficial? In this video, we dive deep into the often overlooked value of boredom for children's development. 🌱 Discover: Why boredom isn't the enemy, but a catalyst for creativity. 🎨 The misconceptions surrounding children's need for constant entertainment. How overstimulation can hinder a child's ability to think independently. Practical tips for parents: swapping digital screens for tools that ignite imagination. 📝🖍 Join us as we explore the transformative power of letting children experience boredom and how it can pave the way for a more creative and independent future. Remember, it's not about leaving them with nothing, but equipping them with the right tools to let their imaginations soar! 🚀

Tweet: https://twitter.com/tyromper/status/1685011012016300035 In today's video, we delve deep into the dynamics of marital happiness and the pivotal role a man plays in setting the tone for the family. It's often said that an unhappy wife is a reflection of her husband's leadership. As the protector and provider, a man's duty is to set a clear vision for his family, ensuring that both partners complement each other in their journey towards collective success. If your wife is discontented, it's time to introspect and ask yourself: Are you truly leading your family in the right direction? Join us as we discuss the importance of stepping up, setting the right expectations, and guiding your family towards a prosperous future. Remember, it's not about pointing fingers but about taking responsibility and leading with purpose. Note: While this video emphasizes the man's role in the family, it's essential to remember that every relationship is unique, and both partners have a shared responsibility for the happiness and success of their relationship.

Hunt, Gather, Parent: https://michaeleendoucleff.com/ Have you ever noticed that simply telling children what to do doesn't always yield the desired results? Dive into today's video as we explore the fascinating world of storytelling as a potent tool for guiding and teaching our young ones. Drawing inspiration from the enlightening book "Hunt, Gather, Parent" by Michaeleen Doucleff, we uncover the age-old wisdom of various cultures that have harnessed the magic of stories to impart values, lessons, and life skills to their children. 🌟 What You'll Learn: Why direct instructions often miss the mark with children's logical brains. The universal appeal of stories and how they captivate both young and old. Practical ways to integrate storytelling into your daily parenting approach. Join us on this narrative journey and discover how to weave tales that not only entertain but also educate and mold. Let's transform our homes into spaces where stories become the bridge to understanding, growth, and connection! 🌉📚

Tweet: https://twitter.com/sweatystartup/status/1685319264012582912 How to raise an adult: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult In today's video, we dive deep into the essential lesson of allowing our children to experience life's challenges and the beauty of overcoming them on their own. It's natural for parents to want to protect their kids, but are we overdoing it? Inspired by the insightful book "How to Raise an Adult," we discuss the pitfalls of over-parenting and the long-term consequences it can have on our children's growth and self-confidence. By constantly stepping in, we inadvertently send a message that we don't trust them to handle life's obstacles. 🌟 Key Takeaways: The importance of empowering our children and giving them agency. The dangers of coddling and why it's essential to let kids experience setbacks. How trust plays a pivotal role in a child's development and self-worth. Join me in this enlightening conversation and discover how we can raise resilient, independent, and confident adults by sometimes taking a step back. Let's foster a generation that knows not just how to face challenges, but how to rise from them stronger than ever! 💪

Tweet by Eric Bandholz: https://twitter.com/bandholz/status/1679561609142738944 Sibling without rivalry: https://a.co/d/aTuAXsj Ever tried to apply the same parenting blueprint to all your kids, only to find it doesn't quite fit? That's because each child is a unique puzzle, requiring a distinct solution. In this video, we're going to explore the art and science of loving each child in their own special way. We're not just talking theory here. We're diving into real-world examples, actionable strategies, and practical wisdom. We're going to show you how to adapt, improvise, and overcome the challenges of raising unique individuals. So, are you ready to take a proactive approach to parenting? Ready to hack the system, challenge the norms, and discover the most effective ways to love your unique children?

Response to this Tweet by Nick Huber: https://twitter.com/sweatystartup/status/1684535234870624257 The Coddling of the American Mind: https://www.thecoddling.com/ This video delves into the crucial concept of not merely smoothing out the path for our children, but rather, arming them with the necessary skills to traverse life's unpredictable terrain. We spotlight the importance of teaching self-control, a vital life skill that can significantly shape a child's future. Using the relatable example of video games, we illustrate how instilling self-discipline in children can enable them to manage their impulses effectively. Instead of imposing strict bans on their gaming time, we advocate for a more balanced approach that encourages children to regulate their own screen time. This video serves as a guide for parents and caregivers, offering practical tips on how to foster these essential skills in children. By doing so, we prepare them for a future of self-reliance, resilience, and responsible decision-making. Join us in this enlightening exploration of modern parenting strategies. Learn how to equip your child with the tools they need to navigate life's challenges, and in the process, help them grow into well-rounded, independent individuals. Tune in now to start shaping your child's future today.

Parenting can be hard, or it can be wonderful. When we try to control our kids, when we try to make it all about ourselves and forget about teachable moments, that's when things fall apart and emotional outbursts arise. I was reminded about this yesterday when my older daughter, Juniper, was super focused on her drawing. Kimbal came along and pulled her paper, causing an unwanted streak.Unfortunately, I did not respond well. I was frustrated because the wonderful peace and quiet was disrupted, and my children could feel my frustration. Juniper started crying, and I felt like a loser.Thankfully, Kim, my wife, came along and turned this disaster into a teachable moment -- a beautiful oops.This episode is also available on YouTube: https://youtu.be/THr79iVDiG4

In today's episode, we explore the challenge of raising children in a digital world. How can we help our children better control their impulses to use a phone when we can barely control it ourselves?Should we go cold turkey and not let them use a phone at all? Just take a look at our parents' generation -- they didn't grow up with phone or social media, yet they're one of the most addicted generations to their phone. I think they're the only ones left using Facebook, haha.Join me today to learn how dopamine affects our brains and why it's important to teach our children self control when it comes to phone use.Read this episode on Substack: https://loayza.substack.com/p/ep-23-give-your-children-a-smart

Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff, the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent, tells us a story about how she almost assumed the worst about her 6-year old daughter when she was using the fine champagne glasses. Before responding in anger, she caught herself and asked, "What's your plan for those?" Thankfully she did, because her daughter was planning to make a "special drink" for Michaeleen's birthday. Likewise, Jun tells a story about how he saw his daughters wrestling on top of a table. His natural reaction was to react in anger, "Stop what you're doing! You're hurting each other." Instead, he asked his children, "What's going on over there?" Turned out, the 4yo was trying to save the 2yo from falling off the table. Learn more about Michaeleen and her book, Hunt, Gather, Parent here: https://michaeleendoucleff.com/

In the GrACE framework, staying true to your word is part of "C" -- Confidence. Building the Confidence in the child that they are someone who is true to their word. That they are a dependable and trustworthy person.On today's episode, my 4yo says one thing, but does another. Instead of leading with punishment or labels, "you're a liar!", I use it as an opportunity to teach her about honesty and dependability. Here's how I do it and how you can apply the lessons in your home.

Parenting can be absolute madness. What has helped me settle down is understanding the true objective: that we need to raise fully capable, independent adults. And we can't accomplish this through punishment -- the only way to accomplish it is through taking advantage of learning opportunities.

Today I do a very quick intro on the concept of the Minimum Effective Does (MED) and my GrACE Framework:GrowthAutonomyConfidenceEmpathy

On today's episode, we talk about the mental model of connecting:Practice loving energyCalm down togetherLabel the feeling -- help the understand what happenedTeach

4yo and 2yo both wanted to be carried up the stairs today. My back hurt, I was hungry, and I was in no mood for arguing and bickering between them.So instead of obliging to their requests or telling them what to do, I turned it around on them: I see we have a challenge -- what can we do?

4yo stays at home with 2yo and for 1.5 hours, it's pure bliss. They work together, play together, and eat together. But of course, that bliss can't last forever.On this episode, 4yo makes the decision to stay home from school, and I spend the rest of the morning trying to convince her to go.

You've tried rewards and punishment. And it works in the short term, but once you take away the reward or the punishment, the child is no longer willing to eat their vegetables. So what is a parent to do?You need to do the following: teach the why with storytelling, which accomplishes the following:Captivates their attention and intrigue so that they'll listen to youTeaches them why they should eat their vegetables so that they'll do it even if you're not there