The Open Bedroom Podcast

What happens when the sex just… stops? Not because you stopped loving each other. Not necessarily because anyone cheated. But somewhere between work, kids, stress, resentment, hormones, routine—or just life—you look up and realize you’ve become roommates instead of lovers. Today I’m talking with Karen Bigman about sexless marriages: how couples get there, what “sexless” actually means, whether a relationship can still be healthy without sex, and the much harder question—what do you do when one person is perfectly fine with it and the other one absolutely isn’t?We’re getting into desire discrepancies, rejection, resentment, communication, and whether it’s actually possible to bring the sexual connection back.Let’s talk about sexless marriages.Follow Karen:https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcasthttps://www.facebook.com/taboototruth/https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthhttps://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruthhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigman/https://karenbigman.substack.com/p/hotter-wilder-wiser-newsletterThe Midlife Man WaitlistFollow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/

What can men in monogamous relationships learn from guys who’ve successfully navigated open relationships?Quite a bit, actually.In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I’m sharing three skills I’ve seen men develop in ethical non-monogamy that can make any relationship better—including a completely monogamous one.This isn’t an argument for opening your relationship. In fact, my husband and I have closed ours. But there are some things we learned from ENM that I absolutely do not want to leave behind.🔥 1. Never Stop Leveling UpLong-term relationships can get comfortable—and sometimes too comfortable. We talk about continuing to develop your sexual skills, communication, emotional intelligence, confidence, and yes, even the effort you put into how you show up for your partner.I also break down the 5 Erotic Blueprints—Sexual, Sensual, Energetic, Kinky and Shapeshifter—and why knowing how your partner actually experiences desire can change the way you approach intimacy.🔥 2. Stay CuriousYou don't need new partners to create novelty.I share ways couples can keep exploring together, from toys and workshops to BDSM education, community events, new experiences, or simply trying something neither of you has tried before.My challenge: one night every month dedicated specifically to sexual exploration. Curiosity is a relationship skill.🔥 3. Master Your Damn CalendarYes, calendar management made the sex podcast. 😂One thing ENM teaches very quickly is that managing relationships requires managing time. Your partner shouldn't have to be the household cruise director responsible for remembering every date, commitment and plan.We talk about shared calendars and intentionally scheduling different kinds of connection—including Her/His Night, Sex Exploration Night, and Fun Night—so your relationship doesn't get whatever scraps of time are left after everything else.The best lesson from ENM may have nothing to do with having multiple partners.It's the idea that your relationship deserves continued effort, curiosity and intentionality—even after you've "gotten" the person.Whether you're monogamous, open, somewhere in between, or simply trying to build a better relationship, these are three habits worth stealing.Follow The Open Bedroom:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/You can get sexual health via Telehealth at Shameless Care for:- Erectile dysfunction medication- DoxyPEP - an STI prevention treatment- Valacyclovir - a herpes suppression drug- Triple-testing STI testing panelUse code “OPENBEDROOM” for $15 off at ⁠shamelesscare.com⁠Or visit https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/R0L2eX

I’m Jennifer, and today I’m talking with Betsy Pake about one of the hardest questions we ask ourselves: "Should I stay, or should I go?"We talk about relationships, divorce, career changes, self-abandonment, and the expectations we inherit from our families and society. Betsy shares what she has learned from her own experiences and offers practical ways to reconnect with our values, our desires, and the life we actually want.If you’ve ever felt stuck, disconnected, or unsure whether it’s time to make a change, this conversation is for you. Let’s get started.Top 10 moments:00:00 — Welcome and the central question: should I stay or should I go?04:02 — When keeping the peace becomes self-abandonment.06:14 — Questioning the programming and expectations we grew up with.12:31 — Reframing divorce, judgment, and personal growth.19:37 — Betsy’s Navigate Method: clarifying your values and needs.22:29 — “If money didn’t matter and nobody got hurt, what would I do?”26:10 — Betsy’s experiences with emotional disconnection in marriage.31:01 — Career boredom and trying novelty before making a major change.41:11 — Empty nesting, aging parents, and making time with loved ones count.47:45 — Slowing down, finding yourself, and noticing the good things.Follow Betsy:betsypake.comhttps://www.instagram.com/betsypake/https://www.facebook.com/BetsyjPakehttps://www.tiktok.com/@betsypake?_r=1&_t=ZT-95yiZKXSwNaFollow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/

This week my guests are giving you sex advice directly from sex worker's mouths! George Goulburn and London Sterling of Australia tell us not only what men and women ask for, but how to give it to them.Follow George Goulburn:⁠www.georgegoulburn.com⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/georgegoulburnofficial/⁠Follow London Sterling⁠⁠:⁠https://scarletblue.com.au/escort/london-sterling⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/londonsterling69/⁠Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast:⁠https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/⁠

In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome Amanda Dames, a kink consultant, sexologist, and former NYC dominatrix. Amanda shares her journey discovering her kink identity, her experience as a dominatrix, and her transition into coaching. Our conversation covers BDSM dynamics, power exchange, and how to communicate desires in relationships. Amanda emphasizes that kink is normal, shame-free, and rooted in consent, offering practical advice for couples navigating mismatched desires or introducing kink into their relationships.Introduction to Amanda Dames (00:00:48) The host introduces Amanda Dames, a kink consultant, sexologist, and former New York City dominatrix, detailing her expertise.Amanda's Kink Discovery (00:02:13) Amanda shares her early awareness of her interest in spanking and punishment, starting from the age of five.The Origins of Kink (00:03:51) Discussion on whether people are born kinky, exploring ideas like past lives, epigenetics, and trauma as potential origins.Kink vs. Fetish (00:06:42) A clear distinction is made between a kink (a nice-to-have) and a fetish (a need-to-have for arousal).Is Everyone a Little Kinky? (00:08:29) Amanda argues that most people are a little kinky but are often afraid of the word itself.Experience as a Dominatrix (00:16:43) Amanda recounts how she found a job as a dominatrix on Craigslist and what the work actually entailed.From Dominatrix to Kink Consultant (00:18:26) Amanda explains her career transition from corporate life and moonlighting as a Domme to becoming a full-time kink consultant.Living in a 24/7 D/s Relationship (00:21:25) Amanda describes her current 24/7 Dominant/submissive relationship, where she is the submissive partner with her live-in Dom.The Appeal of Submission (00:24:48) Amanda explains why being in a submissive role is appealing, highlighting the freedom and care it provides.How to Tell Your Partner About Your Kink (00:44:24) Amanda provides a step-by-step guide on how to initiate a conversation with a partner about your kinks and fetishes.Follow Amanda:Website: https://www.amandadames.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thekinkconsultant/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_kinkconsultantYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thekinkconsultantPodcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-kink-consultant/id1766435920Guide for couples with mismatched desire to have more open and honest conversations in a safe framework: https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1BDSM Menu for couples who are curious to explore each other's kinks: https://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlistFollow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/