They Talk Sex

Are you feeling stressed out more often than feels normal? Let’s hear from our guest and therapist Carolanne Marcantonio who offers some explanation for what’s happening in your brain and body when you feel like you’re running from big game hunters, and want to anxiety-poop, or cry. 3:00 meet your punk guest6:00 career advice from Dr. Ruth!9:00 Fight, flight, freeze, fawn12:00 stomach problems 15:00 ladders of inference18:00 more examples22:00 tips to ground yourself 24:00 discount code THEYTALKSEX28:00 shake it off, literally33:00 thesystemsthinker.com37:00 SPONSORED BY Netherlandswax.com42:00 can your partner work with you?45:00 real vs perceived threat48:00 ChatGPT sucks, why?50:00 book recommendations 55:00 more book recs!59:00 sex tips!FIND OUR GUEST : wisetherapylcsw.com/carolanne-marcantonioIG @SexTherapyBrooklynFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Did you know that violence against people in the adult industries is a common type of police misconduct? Our guest and journalist Isidoro Rodriguez uncovers what he’s learned through interviews and study of two at-odds populations: cops and sex workers. Let’s talk about how power and criminalization of prostitution makes it impossible to protect marginalized people in our America.3:00 embedded with police academy 5:00 sadistic, altruistic, apathetic8:00 concepts of consent10:00 did you have any biases?13:00 I just want to learn16:00 how to screen for predators?20:00 officer-health and wellness24:00 THEYTALKSEX for 10% off love-blanket.com/27:00 what are Good Samaritan laws?30:00 Rights For Girls is not overly helpful or ethical as an org.33:00 please don’t make our clients into criminals35:00 trauma can lead to bias38:00 billboard ads would help 41:00 clients don’t like talking on record either44:00 don’t punish all the liquor buyers47:00 safe harbor laws aren’t enough 50:00 I hope for a nice cop 53:00 don’t police homelessness or mental illness56:00 Jessie Sage, Blair Hopkins, Kaytlin Bailey are experts on this 1:01:00 more reliable news sources1:06:00 sex tips FIND YOUR GUEST https://www.isidoro-rodriguez.com FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com InstituteForSexuality.comand Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Jae Tracy grew up through severe parental abuse and trafficking and is finally able to speak about her experiences, in order to bolster other survivors and to teach the warning signs. Let’s talk about living as an adult with a family trauma history, and thriving as an individual after.1:00 we met in the strip club4:00 she can finally share her story of childhood7:00 charming and abusive mother10:00 meth and alcohol and “the wrong crowd”13:00 Lutheran grandparents16:00 Find her on Youtube @ Jae Tracy19:00 a step up from home life24:00 supporting a parent in their sobriety?27:00 what feels good for yourself 30:00 sex after trauma 35:00 how to explain sex work vs trafficking36:00 ways to spot abuse?43:00 foster kids across state housing?46:00 social worker problems49:00 racism in parenting52:00 get silly and wild in sex FIND MORE OF JAE’S WORK HERE: LinkedIn: Instagram: Substack: YouTube: Original Soft White Underbelly Interview: https://youtu.be/4sfHCQIzK3YFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Leanne Lawson is an amateur adult content creator living in Canada who stumbled upon an online world of pro-fascism trans women(!) Let’s talk about internalized violence and power structures in adult work, trans and queer spaces.1:00 trans women who love Trump?3:00 the “Tucker Carlson of trans women”5:00 barred from the strip club9:00 trans-on-trans violence13:00 pick-me!14:00 trans women with privilege?19:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com22:00 examples of infighting and sabotage26:00 dating lesbians29:00 I'd be more successful if I shut up32:00 on roasting people36:00 picking your battles40:00 trans-medicalism 46:00 outdated terms for people49:00 what changed for you?54:00 just one Republican with a trans kid59:00 some people do anything for Likes1:03:00 stop copying Sex workers if you hate us!1:08:00 a sex tip Find Leanne Lawson on TikTok and IG @crashout3oh4OnlyFans.com/crashout3oh4Special mentions to @Liam.nissan and @mohatesmedia FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

What can you learn from an online adult entertainer, YouTuber, and digital marketing professional? Misty Maven creates content for her subscription sites, sells worn clothing items, and tells us about her learning curves and ongoing practices for engaging online. Let’s talk webcam and sex work!3:00 prior work experience6:00 why they started sworking9:00 selling worn garments 12:00 twerking videos 15:00 connecting with others19:00 nosy and interested in others23:00 what about the future?26:00 talking with mom about worry30:00 regrets in the future?34:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com37:00 beware of scammers40:00 amazon scammers specifically 43:00 creators who scam?47:00 economics 50:00 advertising on social media 54:00 tips for starting out58:00 Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com 1:01:00 Colombian webcam workers and coercion1:06:00 exploitation in commercial labor overseas and here1:10:00 what’s next for Misty?Our guest can be found on YouTube @Mistymistymisty and all links can be found at mistythemaven.comThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Ready for some inner child work? Our guest was tired of talking about their traumatic incidents and was ready to feel better in their body and relationships again - let’s talk dealing with attachment trauma and healing methods with Mx Harris Hill.3:00 heal your PTSD faster?7:00 inner child work 11:00 if you can feel you14:00 hypersexuality and substances, PTSD16:00 golden rules for working with people 19:00 inherently traumatized + trans?22:00 jealousy triggered 25:00 stop relying on them for so muchSponsored by Netherlandswax.com33:00 core wound therapy36:00 dating three and power dynamics39:00 more advice power dynamics Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com45:00 on dating an avoidant 48:00 on being anxiously attached51:00 co-dependency and materials54:00 future plans and corporate influencing?Find our guest at MxHarrisHill.comThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Vada Everlove is a Certified DV Survivor’s Advocate and poet of erotica. She survived sexual abuse and grooming and discusses the connections between purity culture, misogyny and abuse. We reframe some bad narratives and talk connections between polyamory and trauma-healing.3:00 17 and 30 years old 8:00 some symptoms of CPTSD10:00 vaginismus and vulvodynia13:00 numbing your vagina with lidocaine15:00 pleasure after abuse17:00 anatomy and consent for kids 19:00 @ BookofWhoredom - our guest on IG22:00 Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com24:00 maintaining sanity while online 27:00 more on that ^30:00 dating after escaping that35:00 polyamory and feminism relating 38:00 tradwife fantasy42:00 Sponsored by InstituteforSexuality.com45:00 Trump proposed birth bonus49:00 a poem reading53:00 afraid to fall in love with more than one person57:00 a few of our favorite things, cucking and gay boysThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Tara Jones is the founder and Executive Director of a small, grassroots non-profit called The Youth Sexpert Program. If you have kids or tweens or teens, there may be some tips in here for you! Let’s talk about youth and educationFind your guest at theyouthsexpertprogram.org/@theyouths3xpertprogram and theyouthsexpertprogram.org/2:00 building her own curriculum based on needs5:00 first tampon experience 8:00 talking to your kids, concerns11:00 continued –15:00 workshops that they offer18:00 NetherlandsWax.com 22:00 it happens earlier than you might expect26:00 how to ask about your kid’s activity30:00 masturbation is the healthiest 34:00 what if your kid’s friend’s parents are transphobes?38:00 InstituteforSexuality.com 40:00 Heartstopper is highly recommended45:00 people mobilizing, recommendations49:00 Arkansas and high teen birth rates53:00 amplifying stories and connecting youth peopleFind your host at ElleStanger.comThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Kali is a longtime stripper and photographer based in California and can currently be found on IG’s @TalesfromtheStrip17.Let’s talk strip club culture and horror stories, dressing room dogs and Juggalos. Join two “lifers” for safety tips, rants and advice for newbies and curious club-goers.Find your guest at @TalesfromtheStrip17 on IGFind your host at ElleStanger.comThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows4:00 ageism and aging in the club7:00 states and cities where she worked11:00 PDX has different requirements for clubs14:00 personal life things16:00 movie recommendation The Last Showgirl20:00 @talesfromthestrip1725:00 security cameras - yes or no?30:00 involving yourself with other drama34:00 don’t flash your money38:00 Sponsored by InstituteForSexuality.com44:00 friends with your exes46:00 HB 274355:00 asexuality and strippers58:00 safety thingsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

How can we make better sex toys and for different bodies? Matty Hennesey of Eversense Toys explains how to find what you need - and creative uses for sex toys you may already have! Let’s talk care, cleaning, and adventures in sex work and adult retail.Find your guest at EversenseToys.comFind your host at ElleStanger.comThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows2:00 everyone should work in an adult store 5:00 who are these toys being designed for? 8:00 trans-forward toys 11:00 toy preview14:00 can be used by any body!17:00 gender affirming surgery20:00 I wish I’d had a trans person to talk to 24:00 try a butt plug for your vagSponsored by NetherlandsWax.com 28:00 how to clean your toys?32:00 diff uses for your toys!37:00 how to know if a cockring fits41:00 trial and errorSponsored by the Intimacy Experiment at instituteforsexuality.com 47:00 the baggie and the toothbrush combo51:00 hearing from online folks 54:00 trans and isolated?59:00 sober sex series in PDX1:02:00 how to find Elle on the chat appPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Our sex education and self-help podcast is back and talking blood! Rebel-doctor Evelin Dacker returns to give advice and info about the periods of time that we stop getting our periods. Let’s talk about pre-menopause.Find your host at ElleStanger.comFind Dr. Evelin Dacker at WildWoman-Wellness.comThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com and InstituteForSexuality.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows1:00 find our guest at WildWoman-Wellness.com4:00 2-15 year range of perimenopause!8:00 examples of symptoms10:00 “old lady vulva” 13:00 a link to your mother’s history16:00 menopause means you’ve been period-free for a year18:00 sponsored by Intimacy Experiment Retreat - 20:00 elle’s free consultation with the Doc21:00 an overview of yeast infections in the vagina23:00 silicone lube is better for your vaginal health?25:00 Momotaro Apotheca recommended!28:00 birth control discussion34:00 sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com36:00 what to ask your doctor to test for?41:00 pumps and other holistic options44:00 pelvic floor things47:00 testosterone checks in people 50:00 be a good listener53:00 how Dr. Dacker and Elle met :)Please rate and review this podcast :)

Elle and Valentine are friends and partners in life and the adult industry! We take your questions about dating, self care, sex and work. Thank you for a great four years talking sex and season 5 will return in the spring.1:00 Guest IG @ xValentine_vonbettieX5:00 find her Casa Diablo now!7:00 dating another SW has baseline perks10:00 dating issues for SWs14:00 the work can be “bad” for some people’s health16:00 “Concussion” movie 19:00 Condomania.com - - code THEYTALKSEX for 15% off first order22:00 tips on building your SW website24:00 tips for long term pros36:00 tips for slow seasons 40:00 GetTheLayer.com - code ELLE for 10% off42:00 how to balance work and life with sleep?50:00 youthism and SW 55:00 how to ask for STI testing/results59:00 our sexualities are different 1:03:00 travel is a perk1:06:00 oral sex tips for vulvasOur guest can be found at DarlingValentine.meYour host can be found at ElleStanger.com See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

How does intimacy relate to sex and self worth? Our guest has years of family and marriage therapy under her belt, and she runs the sex education program your host attended. Let’s talk intimacy, sex tips and and ideas between Elle and her mentor, Dr. Roz Dischiavo.2:00 marriage and family therapist, sexual health program director5:00 cell phones are messing 7:00 broken heart syndrome? Takotsubo cardiomyopathy11:00 is eye contact creepy?15:00 cell phones and lower sex interactions18:00 connection prepares you for intimacy22:00 consultations with Gen Z25:00 Man Vs Bear 30:00 online dating35:00 examples of ways to show intimacy38:00 when they won’t make eye contact during sex43:00 touch body before genitals 47:00 how to practice intimacy without sex50:00 GetTheLayer.com - ELLE for 10% OFF53:00 preserve the relationship for later56:00 intimacy workshops in Phoenix, AZResource mentioned: IG @ablackfemaletherapistOur guest’s website is instituteforsexuality.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsGETTHELAYER.com - discrete waterproof sex blanket - use CODE ELLE for 10% offPlease rate and review this podcast :)

What can hands do? Let’s talk with pleasure expert and coach Jennifer Rahner about kink and communication. Learn some basic tips and some safety practices, plus creative ideas for self pleasure and partner play. 1:00 Dr. Ruth started it4:00 a mid-life career switch 7:00 teaches non-monogamy, BDSM, masturbation and more10:00 CNS vs ENM discussion13:00 will the United States block Tryst?16:00 PH ban from states19:00 basic spanking tips 22:00 more spanking tips26:00 slapping safety tips29:00 choking safety tips33:00 why don’t hit or squeeze the front of the throat36:00 OkCupid for kink dating? (not sponsored, I wish!)40:00 if someone goes non-verbal45:00 GETTHELAYER.com - sex blanket! Discount code ELLE49:00 leftists tend to like kink more?54:00 monthly CNM discussion group - peer support57:00 #mommyknowsbestFind our guest JenniferRahner.com and our host ElleStanger.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsGETTHELAYER.com - discrete waterproof sex blanket - use CODE ELLE for 10% offPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s talk with a European brothel manager: Catherine de Noire works the overnight shift in one of the biggest venues in her part of the world, and hear the pros and cons of a legal system and how the workers navigate it.2:00 working the night shift6:00 how the club operates for the workers9:00 no middle-management12:00 no violent incidents in years15:00 crossing borders to work18:00 radical feminists and conservative christians23:00 no charge for first timers26:00 how Domestic violence relates to sex work29:00 be wary of being an ATM to the people in ur life32:00 taxes and police 36:00 condoms and testing40:00 “I’m clean”43:00 quantity vs quality?47:00 Nevada brothels compared to European50:00 American stigma 54:00 sexuality is playful 58:00 just enjoy the sexFind our guest Catherine De Noire on Threadsand on IG @ Catherine_de_noireSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsGETTHELAYER.com - discrete waterproof sex blanket - use CODE ELLE for 10% offPlease rate and review this podcast :)

What's it like being a dominatrix to the devout AND to the de-constructing Mormons? Mx Novatrix serves and teaches in the SLC area of Utah, which is arguably the most sex-negative region in the United States. Let’s talk to them!2:00 episode begin5:00 Utah/Idaho mormons more intense than outside states10:00 mass exodus from Church in some ways15:00 Joseph Smith was a known con man18:00 yes these are problematic terms “indian” and “savages”22:00 return with honor ewwww26:00 what are Bishop’s interviews?30:00 confession or worship sessions33:00 Sisters and sissification36:00 be gay in quiet39:00 the magic underwear43:00 what are Blue Laws?46:00 trans masculine people in drag?50:00 No confession needed54:00 film - Touch of the Master’s Hand58:00 BDSM fear in therapistsYour host is ElleStanger.comYour guest is ExMormonDomme.comand also at MadazonCanCan.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsGETTHELAYER.com - discrete waterproof sex blanket - use CODE ELLE for 10% offPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Alexa Van danced in Portland stripclubs and wrote a novel one decade later - not as a memoir but as a way of processing alcoholism and unhealthy relationships. Why is it that the very thing that attracts so many people to ‘us’ is the thing they end up hating and wanting to change? Let’s talk stripclubs, dating, and art.2:00 - never worked at Sassy’s 4:00 - why is it that these men want to change me?9:00 - she is a raging alcoholic12:00 - double standard of working 15:00 - a lap dance is not disrespectful 20:00 - what makes a good shift?23:00 - negative impact of stigma28:00 - use cheap makeup33:00 - stripper warehouses of Vegas36:00 - nice partners do exist41:00 - on being a “minor” 18-20years old47:00 - social media suppression51:00 - ‘Seggs” is absurd55:00 - owner favoritism59:00 - sex tip!Your host is ElleStanger.comYour guest is www.alexavan.com @thebadalexavan IG@alexavanauthor tiktokSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsGETTHELAYER.com - discrete waterproof sex blanket - use CODE ELLE for 10% offPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Are you a current or former Christian still learning how to have guilt-free sex? Mattie Jo Cowsert is a recovering Evangelical who moved to New York City to find her husband - and then learned the world is bigger and more diverse than she had been raised to believe. Meet a shameless oversharer who wrote about her experiences with God, Sex, and Rich people.3:00 evangelical and moved to NYC7:00 sex and shame10:00 rich people were unexpected13:00 white, blue eyed woman privilege 18:00 where my Evangelicals at?20:00 abuse dismissed as sin25:00 jesus defended cheaters from death29:00 further reading for hip Christians34:00 what are “misogynist daywalkers”37:00 how to give yourself permission to have good sex41:00 disordered eating mention44:00 on spirituality now49:00 DOGMA was a weird movie 52:00 a confession from Mattie Jo55:00 red flags57:00 “sex ghosts” is a weird orgy1:01:00 progress and pushing forward1:06:00 have sex with people who respect youYour host is ElleStanger.comYour guest is MattieJoCowsert.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsGETTHELAYER.com - discrete waterproof sex blanket - use CODE ELLE for 10% offPlease rate and review this podcast :)

What does penis health have to do with heart health? A lot! Erica Leroye was a teacher and a lover when a tragic death led her to a new calling: teaching people about penile health, and doing touch work around pleasure and healing. You’re invited to November’s ‘Soft Cock Week’, and listen here now to learn about the penis in its most common state: soft.3:00 - this episode can save lives8:00 - sex is outercourse and intercourse 12:00 - retrograde ejaculation and ED - common symptoms of undiagnosed diabetes16:00 - go to the Genital Gym19:00 - “you have to train for what you want to be good at”22:00 - how do I help men tap into the erotic self?25:00 - pleasure mapping29:00 - her fave way to play with a softie 33:00 - what is Soft Cock week?37:00 - what else can you learn?42:00 - what to eat?46:00 - create a scavenger hunt for a treat49:00 - trouble with orgasm52:00 - “is gooning bad?” 54:00 - disconnect between brain and penis59:00 - fear of penis in medical systems1:03:00 - am i normal? VISIT and JOIN https://www.softcockweek.com/Your guest can be found at https://www.softcockweek.com/soft-cock-blog/welcome-from-your-new-2024-hostessYour host is ElleStanger.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsGETTHELAYER.com - discrete waterproof sex blanket - use CODE ELLE for 10% offPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Lenora Claire was a business owner and public figure in Los Angeles before her stalker incidents led her to becoming a private investigator and media consultant.  Learn how survivors and perpetrators of stalking can be handled smarter, by a person who teaches better practices for true-crime coverage.2:00 - reality shows and progressive parents5:00 - crime show producers don’t know how to treat survivors7:00 - Batman and Superman to the rescue!10:00 - why blocking isn’t always best14:00 - risk assessment 18:00 - “what did you do to upset them?”23:00 - her current work25:00 - Private investigator things28:00 - women producers and empathy31:00 - British production companies doing it better34:00 - treated like dogshit by cops when reporting38:00 - how to help people open up?41:00 - disclosure tips45:00 - being judged on appearance 51:00 - what to NOT do to survivors in interview56:00 - what is the guiding purpose of the media?58:00 - a sex tip? Maybe :) Your guest can be found at lenoraclairellc.comYour host is ElleStanger.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)