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Free Inner Critic Meditation https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/free-inner-critic-meditation   In this episode, I open up about my personal journey with the inner critic—how it held me back, and how I’ve slowly learned to work with it rather than against it using the powerful lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy.   For years, I tried everything: affirmations, mindset shifts, journaling... but nothing helped silence that critical voice inside me. It wasn’t until I discovered IFS that I completely shifted my approach to working with the inner critic.   Together, we’ll explore: What Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy says about the inner critic Why trying to "silence" your inner critic often backfires The connection between your inner critic and childhood experiences A simple but powerful reframe that helped me soften my self-talk Book recommendation: Freedom from the Inner Critic by Jay Earley & Bonnie Weiss   Whether your inner critic sounds like “You’re not good enough,” or keeps pushing you to “do more, be more,” this episode is here to remind you: you are not alone. And there is a gentle way forward.   Resources for this episode //   Freedom From Your Inner Critic - Bonnie Weiss & Jay Early https://www.amazon.com.au/Freedom-Your-Inner-Critic-Self-Therapy/dp/1604079428 No Bad Parts - Richard Schwartz https://www.amazon.com.au/No-Bad-Parts-Restoring-Wholeness/dp/1785045113 Internal Family Systems - Richard Schwartz https://www.amazon.com.au/Internal-Family-Systems-Therapy-Second/dp/B0D6NL2Y8C   Join the email community //   Get reflections, insights, and practical tools to support your personal development journey—delivered straight to your inbox. 👉 https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/   Say hi //   TikTok → https://tiktok.com/@selfdevelopmentcollect Instagram → https://instagram.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/selfdevelopmentcollective/

🎧 Hi there! I'm so excited to share this episode with you where I dive into why changing your life through personal development can feel so impossible sometimes. After taking almost a year off to have my baby and study, I've been thinking deeply about why some self development ideas around changing your life often leave us feeling more stuck than before. In this episode, I share my own journey with changing my life - from standing in a parking lot trying desperately to "think positive" at 20 years old, to discovering why these strategies weren't helping me grow. I talk about: Why replacing challenging thoughts with gratitude lists isn't always the path to changing your life How our "negative" parts often serve important protective functions What happened when I started reading psychotherapy books to help myself change Why understanding ourselves is more powerful than trying to force change How I'm bridging complex psychological concepts into simple, actionable strategies through The Self Development Collective to support inner growth This episode is perfect if you've ever felt frustrated with advice that tells you to "just think positive" or "eliminate your inner critic" when changing your life. I'm releasing new episodes every two weeks, bringing you accessible strategies based on powerful psychological concepts. Because I believe changing your life starts with truly understanding ourselves. #ChangingYourLife #PersonalDevelopment #LifeTransformation #SelfGrowth #PracticalPsychology #MentalHealth #SelfUnderstanding #PersonalGrowth Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

Growth vs. Change: Embracing Personal Growth in the New Year Episode Description: A Journey of Personal Growth 🎧 Hey guys! I'm so excited to share this transformative episode with you. After having my baby (he's two months old now!), I've been doing a lot of reflection on how we approach growth and development, and I want to share something that's completely shifted my perspective. The Power of Personal Growth Over Change You know how at the end of every year, we talk about all the things we want to change about ourselves? Through my deep dive into psychotherapy and personal growth work, I've discovered something game-changing about how we approach our inner journey. What if instead of forcing change, we embraced understanding through curiosity? Key Insights for Transformation In this episode about authentic development, I share openly about: * Why fighting against parts of ourselves blocks genuine growth and leads to disconnection * How my relationship with anger transformed into a powerful catalyst for understanding * The breakthrough moment in my journey when I stopped trying to change and started getting curious * Why understanding our emotions is crucial for sustainable transformation * Practical strategies for embracing all parts of ourselves in our development journey Real Talk About Personal Growth I get really honest about my experiences - like being labeled "the angry one" and how that impacted my path to understanding myself. Through exploring Internal Family Systems (IFS) and psychotherapy (I'm obsessed with Martha Sweezy's work!), I've discovered that real personal growth happens when we get curious about what our emotions are trying to tell us. A Fresh Perspective on Personal Growth This episode is perfect if you're feeling stuck in your journey or tired of traditional self-help advice. I share raw, authentic experiences about how shifting from "how can I change?" to "how can I grow?" has transformed my approach to development and understanding. Embracing Your Whole Self And as I always say - take what resonates, leave what doesn't. But I'm really curious to see how this new perspective might transform the way you work with all parts of yourself. Join me in this honest conversation about growth, where we explore how understanding ourselves, rather than trying to change ourselves, might be the key to authentic transformation. Stay Connected Follow along with my content: * New episodes every two weeks * Deep dives into psychological concepts made accessible * Real-life applications for your journey of growth Links Mentioned The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner https://www.amazon.com.au/Dance-Anger-Changing-Patterns-Relationships/dp/0062319043 Internal Family Systems Therapy for Shame and Guilt by Martha Sweezy https://amzn.asia/d/5qmcKlh #PersonalGrowth #AuthenticGrowth #SelfDevelopment #IFSTherapy #EmotionalGrowth #SelfDiscovery #MentalHealth #PersonalTransformation #GrowthMindset #EmotionalIntelligence Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

Relationship Advice For Couples // The Power Of A Couple Bubble This is some of the best relationship advice for couples! This simple strategy or idea is one way to learn how to have a healthy relationship. I share one of the best relationship communication books in this relationship advice podcast episode! It’s a great self-help relationship book for when you feel as though you and your partner: Aren’t on the same team Struggle with emotional or physical intimacy Feel like you’ve become roommates Struggle to figure out what to talk about Rely more on others than you do on one another   In this episode, I share one strategy from the book that is amazing relationship advice for women and relationship advice for men too!   This simple strategy can help our relationships feel: More secure and safe Increase our feeling of closeness Get back on the same team with our partners   Links Mentioned // Book: Wired For Love by Stan Tatkin (Affiliate Link)   Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

How To Change Your Life & Mindset (In 3 Simple Steps) In this episode, I cover 3 simple steps to take when you’re asking yourself how to change your life. These steps help us to change our mindset and change our life for the better. If you: Don’t know where to start when it comes to how to change your life Feel overwhelmed with all the information out there Or have a sense of the changes you want to make to change your life for the better but keep getting stuck These 3 steps can help! They are the steps I have personally used to change my life and mindset. Until I started taking these steps, I could never change my life completely. Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/  

How To Deal With Anxiety and Uncertainty During Major Changes In Life // Dealing With Big Life Changes // Anxiety with change can be so challenging! Dealing with change, coping with big lief changes and dealing with the uncertainty of it all can be overwhelming. In this episode, I share how I manage anxiety with change as well as one idea that helped me to learn how to deal with major changes in life (including one I’m about to go through!). I chat about: What I found helpful in managing my anxiety during big life changes A simple idea way to think about major life changes that changed the way I think about coping with change Some steps or things we can do to deal with the uncertainty and cope with change in life Links Mentioned In This Episode // How I Survived, Changed & Adapted In My First Year Of Grief Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

How To Say Sorry First (& How It Can Transform Your Relationship) // Relationship Communication Tips Learning how to say sorry isn't something we're taught! Whether we're learning how to say sorry to our girlfriend, boyfriend, best-friend, mum or dad it isn't a relationship communication skill that we're taught. In this episode we chat on a great piece of relationship advice. Learning how to say sorry first can help us to transform our relationships as well as transform our relationship communication. It's a great relationship conflict resolution tool that helps remind us that we can only expect in our relationship expectations and relationship goals, to be met as far as we are also willing to go! Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

How To Stop Arguing In A Relationship About The Same Thing Arguing in relationships can be tough! But arguing  in relationship constantly about the same thing can be even tougher! In this episode we discuss one simple thing we can do to improve our communication in our relationships. This relationship advice can be applied to anyone arguing in relationships whether that argument is  with a boyfriend, husband, wife, in a marriage or in a friendship. This simple tip provides a healthy way to communicate effectively with our partners or friends. This relationship communicate tip helps us to build relationship communication skills that couples can use when they find themselves having the same arguments about the same problems! Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

In this episode we discuss what grief can look like in 3 years time. When someone is at the beginning of their grief journey it can be feel like there will never be a light at the end of the tunnel.  In the hopes of bringing just a small bit of understanding to the grief journey 3 years in, I've shared: What I struggle with What has surprised me about grief after 3 years Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

In every family there might be the sensitive one, the tough one, the challenging one, the responsible one! It's such a normal part of the family system to give one another labels and for each of us to live our lives in a mix of trying to meet the expectations of those labels or fight against them. In this episode we talk about: the roles and labels our family give us why this happens why we struggle to change them or act outside of these roles how we can change them to start deciding who we want to be rather than who we're told to be! Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

,Somewhere inside us we have a calling or a vision of what we want for ourselves... but what happens when we feel like we should put everything else first? What happens when we take our dreams and hopes less seriously because we don't receive the validation or confirmation by others to start taking it seriously? Most of the time, we wait until others take us seriously before we ourselves take the changes or dreams we have and make them real. In this episode we talk about taking our dreams and hopes seriously first! Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

Self-esteem and self-confidence are important things. They help us believe in ourselves and feel good about ourselves. When you have good self-esteem and self-confidence, you are better able to deal with the challenges that are thrown at you and this helps you to be more successful in life. You will feel more comfortable with yourself and this will help you to maintain good relationships. Self-confidence and self-esteem are two things that everyone desires. But, building self-confidence and self-esteem aren't easy. I know, I've been working on it my whole life, and in this episode, we're going to discuss this specific question on how you can build your self-esteem and self-confidence. These are the things that helped me work with it and hopefully, will help you too. Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

We all have times when we feel like we are not making progress or like we are stuck. This can happen to us in our careers, in our health, our personal relationships, or just about any other area of our life. In this episode, I want to go through something that's helped me to learn how to get unstuck in certain areas in my life where I felt like I just can't, or I felt like I was doing the same thing. These are the things that have helped me get unstuck when I felt otherwise and I hope this episode helps you get unstuck too. Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

Whether you're a musician, an artist, a writer, or even an entrepreneur, you would have experienced an inner critic. You know the voice that we have within ourselves that creates doubts, fears, and thoughts that we're not good enough whenever we're going through any kind of process! In this episode of self development collective, we're going to discuss how to overcome that self-critic we all at some point in our lives struggled to manage and overcome. These are the things that helped me work with self-critic a bit more and hopefully, will help you too. Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

In this world of too many distractions, sometimes, we can get distracted in our purpose and don't know what we want. Today's episode is all about figuring out what we want or getting clear on what we want. In this podcast, we go through a simple strategy or question that we can use when we start to feel resentful or when we feel like we're starting to lose our purpose. It's a simple, 2-minute question to ask ourselves to get clear on what we truly want.   Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

Getting motivated can be a struggle! It can come in waves where at times, we'll be super productive and other times its like that fire has gone and it's no where to be found. If you find yourself in a bit of a rut and struggling to get motivated, have a listen! In this episode we share 4 things you can do when we struggle to get motivated! Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

In this episode, I share great advice that was given to me when I told myself that it was "too late" or I was "too old" to go back to school again and restart my career. I also share stories of women who have overcome the limiting boundaries of age and time to achieve their version of success in becoming the person they want to be. So, if you have a secret hobby, passion, or vision of the person you want to be but you: - Think it's too late - Tell yourself "if I had my time again" Then this episode is for YOU! Links mentioned  in this podcast// Book Mentioned The Choice by Dr. Edith Edgar Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

We all have tough days, we all faced a day in our life when we thought we might just not survive another day. Whether you're going through a grief process, you lost someone, going through a divorce, a loss of expectation, there's a lot of reasons for having a tough day. So, how do we survive those tough days when we really feel like we're struggling? What are the things we can do that'll help us in those days? How do we come out stronger when you're having a tough day? In this episode, I share ways to survive tough days and my own experience with grief, and how I manage to survive through those tough days. Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

Change can feel overwhelming! Whether it's one change that feels HUGE or we have too many changes we'd like to make, creating change in our lives can easily make us feel overwhelmed and tired from the get-go. So how do we make change feel LESS overwhelming and WHY does it feel overwhelming. Why do we find it SO hard to change certain habits? Why is it so easy to go back to things, when we know we need to change them or want to? In this episode, I explore and share some resources and ideas to help us understand why change can feel so overwhelming and simple things we can to do overcome that. Links Mentioned In This Podcast // Bruce Liptons YouTube Video // https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsA91lxuF00&t=271s Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/

Something that we all struggle with is Limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are so important because they're part of the subconscious that drives our actions and habits. Identifying these limiting beliefs and learning how to recognize and work with them as they come up is great work in helping us to overcome them! In this episode, I share two ways to overcome limiting beliefs as well as share my current journey of overcoming my own limiting beliefs about putting myself out there! Links mentioned // The hypnosis I'm currently trying // https://www.hypnobox.com The visualization app I use // https://envision.app/ Join our bi-weekly journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Receive bite-sized insights and practical strategies to boost your confidence, nurture relationships, and live authentically in the face of life’s challenges. https://selfdevelopmentcollective.com/email-sign-up/