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Join internationally acclaimed parenting expert Alyson Schafer every Monday as she answers your parenting questions. Without judgement and backed with easily understandable theory and research, she’ll offer up actionable solutions you can implement immediately. Alyson puts the “sense" back into "common sense parenting" with her warm, inspiring and informed Adlerian approach. Alyson is the author of three best selling parenting books with HarperCollinsCanada including; “Breaking The Good Mom Myth” “Honey, I Wrecked The Kids” and Ain't Misbehavin’” and the go-to expert for national media outlets.Send Alyson your parenting question to alyson@alysonschafer.com with #AskAlyson in the subject line or to @alysonschafer on any of her social media platforms. Questions will be answered anonymously.
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Are you a perfectionist? Are you worried your child might be too? In this episode, I chat with two fellow Adlerian counsellors who have co-authored a book to help. We discussed the definition of perfectionism, why it originates, some of the various signs you might watch for, as well as the impacts perfectionism has. You can purchase their book, “Living Well With Perfectionism” here.And, here’s where to follow them on their social sites.Caroline Faifman:www.thebaycounselinggroup.comwww.styleoflifecounseling.comIG @styeoflife_counselingLindsay Turner: LinkedIn liturner227IG @reimaginelifetoday **********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada two years in a row!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Leslie and I discuss the new parenting challenge of how to best manage our children as AI becomes a part of everybody’s life – adults and children included. We discuss mitigating risk while helping our children get the benefits of AI. Leslie also discusses the dangerous downsides of AI companionships, AI and homework, as well as offering up some tools and strategies to help parents keep their kids safe online. Here are some links Leslie recommends parents check out: Your Healthy Tech Playbook/BlogDigital Wellness LabLook for more info on on Pinwheel kid’s phones here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepinwheelphone/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pinwheelphoneYoutube: @thepinwheelphoneX: @pinwheelphoneLinkedIn**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada two years in a row!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Q1. 6yr old son enjoys showing others his strength and prowess but that can suddenly turn and look like aggression. Q2. Potty training a boy who refuses to poop in either diaper or potty and wants to touch his stool as he is passing it. Q3. My two children live in a trilingual home, and I want to ensure my ethnic language is taught to my children, but my eldest is giving me push back and refusing. Q4. 10yr old daughter has 50/50 time between divorced parents. Father’s ADHD and vision impairment leads to her not having her homework and other responsibilities done. **********Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
This is a must-listen episode if you are a working parent. I spoke with Bree Groff, the author of the book “Today Was Fun: A Book About Work (Seriously)”. Her mission is to illuminate the need for parents to model a positive attitude about being a working parent and the role work has in our life because our children are watching very closely. She reminds us that “when you overwork, your kids pay the price. It’s one thing for you to willingly overwork and pay the price yourself, it’s quite another to take the payments for it out of someone else’s bank account.” You can find her book here: Today Was Fun: A Book About Work (Seriously).**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
This was a fascinating conversation with Hrund Gunnsteinsdóttir whose TED talk, documentary and book have opened our eyes to a new concept of what intuition is, and how and why we need to plug into its potential. She shares her personal story of working at the UN after the war in Kosovo and the disconnection she felt along with her journey back to the Icelandic concept of Innseai. In this episode we discuss parenting with innsaei: intuitive listening, how to model emotional openness, the need to create space for stillness, foster creative freedom and connecting our kids and ourselves with nature. Listen to Hrund’s TED TalkCheck out her documentaryHer book Innsaei: Heal, Revive and Reset with the Icelandic Art of Intuition **********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Q1. Should my 18yr old son who is going into the trades and starting a paid 20mo apprenticeship be charged rent while living at home?Q2.15 yr old boy with major truancy issues for the past three years. How do I handle?Q3. Toddler who has experienced trauma has outbursts and bangs their head. **********Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode, I’m joined by John Bromley to explore how we can foster social awareness and generosity in our children through charitable giving.We dive into the concept of a charitable allowance—a practical way to teach kids how to give with intention and empathy. John shares insights on how parents can equip children to become thoughtful givers by involving them in the giving process from an early age.We also discuss:the power of modeling generosity as a parent.why recognition and feedback are key when kids show (or miss) opportunities to be generous.practical ways to nurture empathy and social interest in everyday life.Join us for a thoughtful conversation about raising kids who care about others—and are empowered to make a difference!Connect with John here: https://www.linkedin.com/company/wearecharitable/mycompany/ https://x.com/wearecharitable https://www.instagram.com/wearecharitable/ **********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Are you too kind? Are you a nice person who has trouble setting boundaries in your relationships, including with your children? If that is you, then check out this episode. I interviewed Jennifer Febel who is the author of “How to Set Boundaries (without feeling like a d*ck)”. She and I talked about what a boundary actually is, and the hurdles we need to overcome in order to set and enforce them. Jennifer shares the beauty of their purpose as well as how to start by delving into your own self-discovery. You can find Jennifer’s book here: How to Set Boundaries (without feeling like a d*ck) You can learn more about Jennifer and her services at:www.btgwellness.com**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dr Twenge’s latest book is a must read for parents who are overwhelmed by managing their children’s tech. We discuss the research behind the 10 rules she outlines in her book, as well as how to address the likely pushback from your kids, and the pragmatic action steps for implementation. This book is just what every family needs. Dr Twenge also shares about the new digital landscape and the hurdles that she and other parents face in managing kids, and she also offers a clear path forward. Do not miss this episode! Dr Jean’s Twenge’s book “Ten Rules for Raising Kids In a High-Tech World” can be found here:https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/10-Rules-for-Raising-Kids-in-a-High-Tech-World/Jean-M-Twenge/9781668099995OR https://www.amazon.com/Rules-Raising-Kids-High-Tech-World/dp/1668099993Follow Dr Jean Twenge here: www.JeanTwenge.comX.com @jean_twenge**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Q1. Boy/girl twins placed in the same class and already bickering over what the teacher said, who’s following the teacher’s instructions better etc… Q2. Teen athlete is not eating breakfast or lunch, not enough water, and then throwing off the evening schedule by eating right after school. Q3. Child in daycare is potty trained, eats everything and very co-operative, but at home they have accidents, are a picky eater and won’t listen. **********Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler NewsletterDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jessica Holmes is an internationally recognized comedian who has opened for such big names as Oprah, Ellen DeGeneres and Jerry Seinfeld. Yet, she still struggled with depression. In this episode she courageously tells her story and shares how we can all be aware of the grips that depression can have and ways to cope and overcome it. An inspiring conversation!www.Jessicaholmes.com IG @happyfunholmesFB https://facebook.com/HappyFunHolmes LinkedIn: Jessica Holmes **********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Parenting infants is a high demand job, and the single most important thing new parents can do is to establish a deep emotional bond. In this episode Dr Joanna and I discuss how exactly to go about that, as well as the things that can get in the way. We talk about maternal mental health, father bonding, breast vs bottle, bed sharing and much more! To get a copy of her book: The Baby Bonding Book: Connecting With Your Newborn Listen to her podcast here: “Pediatrics on Call” Follow her on social media at:IG @jopargalinkiemdLinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanna-parga-57133923/And her website is: www.jpbelinkiemd.com**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We often overlook the important transition from having been a student your whole life, to addressing the question of “what’s next?”. This is a time of self-discovery like never before. Hillary Spiritos joins me on the podcast to talk about this unique phase of life and her “Bat Outta Hell” coaching company with her model and method for helping this cohort challenge themselves to look deep and see if the choices they are making are from their authentic selves that is blossoming or are they still following the pressure of parents, peers, and society. A fascinating conversation!Learn more about her coaching programs on her website:Website: https://batouttahell.net/ Follow her on social media: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/bat.outta_hell TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bat.outta_hell**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Q1. First grader doesn’t want to go to school or do homework.Q2. Parents with three children - including one with gluten and sugar sensitivities and global developmental delay and ADHD – want to ensure they eat well and don’t develop a bad relationship with food. Q3. Should all kids be made to experience a consequence when only one child misbehaved?Looking for more Adlerian wisdom? Check out The Daily Adler NewsletterDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I had a great discussion with world-leading expert and author, Jonathan Alderson, about autism, it’s changed definition, and rising occurrence rates. He emphasized the need for individual treatment plans that consider time and order and the importance of early intervention. I was shocked at the number of families on long wait lists for services. To solve this, he created The Thrive Guide, a digital platform where parents can do a child assessment to generate a customize plan for their child and begin helping right away. Check out the parent resources at: The Thrive GuideRead Jonathan’s Book: The Myths of Autism Instagram = @thriveguide.co Facebook = @thriveguide **********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode, Titania shares key insights from her latest book on how parents can keep their kids safe online without getting overwhelmed or feeling guilty. We discuss the importance of learning how to use your kids’ tech, why “delay is the way”, and how to ensure that we as parents don’t fall into the trap of 'NMK' (Not My Kid).Follow Titania Jordan here: https://www.instagram.com/titaniajordan/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZepYDQBoOjwXlKfkHU_9lAhttps://www.facebook.com/titaniajordan/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/titaniajordan/Read her books: Raising Kids In A Tech World Parental Control: A Guide To Raising Balanced Kids in the Digital Era**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Q1. Nanny wants to respond properly to a 2yr old’s large emotional displays.Q2. 7yr old still needs a parent laying down with her to fall asleep – and this can take hours!Q3. 7yr old behaves at school but is kicking, hitting, swearing, and taunting brother at home.Q4. How to teach my 5 1/2yr old to be more co-operative and less bossy. Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dr. Shonna Masse has been practicing dentistry for 27 years. She is a board-certified paediatric dentist and is the founder of The Children’s Dental Centre and The Orthodontic Dental Centre, in Toronto, Ontario. In this episode I learned the difference between pediatric and family dentistry. The distinction is important, and her additional qualifications means she is armed with the best approaches for working with children. We talked about preparing for a child’s first appointment, how to handle resistance, weaning off pacifiers, the surprising worst foods for cavities, parent guilt and much more! Dr Shonna Masse’s practices are: The Children’s Dental Centre The Orthodontic Dental Centre Follow The Children’s Dental Centre on IG @TheChildrensDentalCentre**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Former pediatric occupational therapist Lisa Chan learned a great deal from her years working with children in schools, homes and in her office. During that time, she saw a gap in the services available. While she would offer important help to children, it was more likely the teachers and parents who were the “first responders”, and they did not always know how to respond to these children’s unique needs. Lisa solved that by turning her attention to education and skills training for the adults that nurture and support these children. You can follow Lisa Chan on all her social media platforms @lisaparentcoachHer website for her courses and coaching is www.TheLisaChan**********Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Responsibilities By Age” pdf. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Q1. 4yr old insists that all the Easter candy is hers to eat. How to manage the deluge of sweets? Q2. Adult child moved back home but spends his day gaming. A tech agreement isn’t age appropriate now. What else can we do as parents? Q3. My daughter wants a pet but is irresponsible, so I have said no, and it’s now a fight.Thank you to FeedSpot for selecting “Parenting the Adlerian Way” as the #1 parenting podcast in Canada!Do you have a parenting question for me? Send it to hello@alysonschafer.com and I’ll answer (anonymously) on an upcoming Q&A podcast.Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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