Rewrite the Mother Code with Dr. Gertrude Lyons

In this powerful episode, I am joined by Valerie Jones, author of The Selfish Year, host of The Selfish Woman podcast, and founder of The Selfish Woman Movement. Valerie shares her incredible journey from being a chronic people-pleaser, conditioned to be the "good girl," through two difficult marriages that ultimately led her to a profound breaking point. In a radical act of self-preservation, she embarked on a year-long experiment to be selfish—a decision that changed everything.Our conversation is a deep dive into what it truly means to be selfish, redefining it not as a dirty word, but as the sacred act of being "full of self." Valerie introduces the beautiful concepts of the "First Girl"—the exuberant, authentic version of us before the world told us who to be—and the "Hurt Girl," the protector who emerges to keep us safe. We discuss the immense cost of people-pleasing, the patriarchal programming that conditions women to be selfless, and the two stages of reclamation: first, learning to put yourself first so you can give from abundance, and ultimately, arriving at the freedom of prioritizing yourself simply because you are worthy.You'll also hear about:(03:23) Valerie’s journey as a chronic people-pleaser through a 24-year marriage that ended in divorce.(06:36) How an externally perfect life in Spain led her to a breaking point and the decision to start her "Selfish Year" experiment.(13:23) The first crucial lesson Valerie learned: in order to be truly selfish, you must first get to know yourself.(15:38) Redefining selfish as being "full of self" and learning to mother the parts of ourselves that are scared and afraid.(21:04) The concepts of the "First Girl" (our true, unconditioned self) and the "Hurt Girl" (our protector self) and how to integrate them.(27:08) The high cost of being a "good girl"—including resentment, depression, and patterns of self-abandonment.(40:58) The two stages of embracing selfishness, from a "Trojan horse" for the brain to the ultimate freedom of prioritizing yourself, full stop.Join us for this liberating conversation and discover why Valerie’s message is so vital: "You are not broken. You are becoming."Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Valerie Jones:Learn more on Valerie's WebsiteBuy the book: The Selfish YearListen to The Selfish Woman PodcastFollow Valerie on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s

Episode Title Options:Should We Listen to Our Mothers? A Legacy of Love and Strength with Jackie TantilloThe Golden Thread of Motherhood: Lessons from a Large Family with Jackie TantilloRewriting the Mother Code Through Communication and Forgiveness with Jackie TantilloGrowing Up with Seven Siblings: A Story of Family, Creativity, and Connection with Jackie TantilloIn this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with Jackie Tantillo, the host and executive producer of the award-winning podcast,Should Have Listen to My Mother. Jackie shares the beautiful and dynamic story of her upbringing as the youngest of seven children and the profound impact of her mother, Linda—a trailblazing, creative, and forward-thinking woman who worked for the Rockefeller Foundation in Peru before raising her family.Our conversation explores the "golden thread" that connects us all through our relationship with our mothers, whether that bond was a source of strength or a challenge to overcome. Jackie reflects on how her mother’s love for music and conversation inspired her own four-decade career in broadcasting. We also discuss the vital importance of family rituals, the lessons learned from having five older sisters, and how her mother modeled challenging the status quo, both in her community and her faith. After six seasons of her podcast, Jackie shares her biggest takeaways on motherhood, forgiveness, and the power of truly listening.You'll also hear about:(04:32) How Jackie's mother, Linda, and a house filled with music inspired her career in radio.(07:09) The incredible story of Jackie's mother, a forward-thinking linguist and world traveler who raised seven children.(13:34) The common paradigm of mothers who encourage their children but struggle to give themselves the same love and support.(24:14) The power of nightly family dinners (with no TV!) to foster deep connection and conversation.(32:45) What it was like growing up with five older sisters who acted as "second mothers".(37:21) Key lessons Jackie has learned after six seasons of listening to guests share stories about their mothers.(45:39) Jackie’s powerful interpretation of "Rewrite the Mother Code" and the importance of apologizing to your children.Don't miss this heartwarming and insightful exploration of family, legacy, and the enduring influence of our mothers.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Jackie TantilloListen to Should Have Listen to My MotherVisit her Website Connect with Jackie on LinkedInFollow Jackie on FacebookFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on

In this episode, I speak with Linda Brand, a transformational coach and host of the Worthy and Abundant podcast, about her powerful journey of healing and self-discovery. Linda shares her story of overcoming a childhood rooted in scarcity and fear, navigating a debilitating illness that became a major awakening, and making the courageous leap from a career in real estate to founding her own coaching practice.Our conversation delves into the critical importance of self-love and self-worth as the foundation for a successful and fulfilling life. Linda explains how a lack of self-love leads to seeking external validation and offers practical tools to begin the practice of unconditional self-acceptance, including journaling, mirror work, and affirmations. We also explore powerful healing modalities like EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), the connection between unprocessed trauma and physical health, and the importance of reparenting our inner child.You’ll also hear about:(01:23) Linda’s journey of overcoming a childhood of scarcity and fear.(03:08) How a debilitating illness became her biggest spiritual awakening.(07:39) The power of Kabbalah as ancient wisdom for modern life.(16:04) Why self-love is essential to stop seeking external validation and feel whole.(19:34) Practical tools for developing self-love, including mirror work and compassionate inner talk.(20:51) The connection between ADHD in women and intense self-criticism.(39:50) How to use EFT (tapping) to release energy blocks and imposter syndrome.(43:32) Dr. Gertrude’s profound experiences with dynamic breathwork and its ability to unlock cellular memory.Don't miss Linda’s inspiring perspective on rewriting your past to create a truly worthy and abundant future!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Linda Brand:Learn more on Linda’s WebsiteListen to Linda’s PodcastListen to Manifest + ChillFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this episode, I sit down with Tracy Ftacek - serial entrepreneur, manifestation coach, and host of Manifest + Chill - to explore what it really means to release perfectionism, let go of hustle culture, and step into a life of joy, ease, and alignment.Tracy shares her powerful story of growing up in Alaska, building businesses in the beauty industry, selling her company, and navigating the disorienting question of identity that followed. She takes us inside her journey of discovering meditation, manifestation, and visualization practices, and how these became not just tools but lifelines for creating a new way of living.We also dive into Tracy’s transformative experience at one of my retreats, where she confronted and began healing her mother wound through a powerful water birthing ceremony. Tracy reflects on how rewriting her story allowed her to release generational patterns, embrace her wholeness, and model a new way of being for herself and others.This conversation is filled with wisdom, laughter, and deep healing, an invitation for all of us to “manifest + chill” while building lives we actually love.You’ll also hear about:(04:30) Growing up in Alaska, loss of her father, and early lessons in independence(06:45) Choosing career over family, then building businesses on her own terms(08:20) Selling her company and the disorientation of losing titles and identity(12:10) Relearning self-care through meditation, manifestation, and coaching(16:00) Why hustle culture keeps women stuck in burnout, and how to flip the script(20:15) The “manifest + chill” philosophy and integrating ease into ambition(22:00) Creating her beauty app and finding alignment through entrepreneurship(25:20) Attending her first retreat and overcoming the fear of showing up alone(28:30) Launching her new business at the retreat and signing her first client there(31:00) Retreat reflections: healing in community and feeling deeply supported(32:30) Healing the mother wound through a water birthing ceremony(34:40) Realizing the soul’s choice in family dynamics and releasing blame(36:20) Transforming anger into gratitude and acceptance(39:00) Embracing joy, play, and authenticity in both business and life(42:15) Building a business model around fun, alignment, and sustainable growth(48:00) Final reflections on rewriting generational narratives and choosing joyDon’t miss Tracy’s inspiring perspective on how to release the hustle, embrace healing, and manifest a life filled with intention and joy.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Tracy Ftacek:Learn more on Tracy’s WebsiteFollow Tracy on InstagramConnect with Tracy on LinkedinListen to Manifest + ChillFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Mary Ella Wood, physician, medical director, and new mother, to explore her path from general surgery to integrative medicine, and how her personal journey of motherhood has deepened her approach to healing.As the Medical Director of the Osher Center for Integrative Medicine at Northwestern, Dr. Wood blends evidence-based functional and holistic practices - nutrition, herbal medicine, yoga, Ayurveda, and mind-body medicine - into patient care. She shares how her experiences during COVID, residency, and high-risk obstetrics shaped her passion for whole-person healing.We also dive into her transformative journey through pregnancy and birth, navigating unexpected complications, and the raw realities of postpartum life. Dr. Wood opens up about breastfeeding struggles, resilience, and the miracle of welcoming her son, all while continuing her groundbreaking work in integrative medicine.This conversation is both deeply practical and profoundly human, offering insights into how we can honor the science of medicine while holding space for the feminine, relational, and soulful dimensions of care.You’ll also hear about:(04:34) Dr. Wood’s transition from surgery to integrative medicine(07:42) What integrative and functional medicine really mean(12:00) The importance of whole-person, individualized care(20:50) Reflections on delivering babies as a physician and as a mother(25:30) Her personal birth story and navigating unexpected complications(35:25) Postpartum challenges, breastfeeding struggles, and rediscovering herself as a new mom(37:50) The balance of motherhood, medicine, and the joy of family life(42:10) The role of midwives, medicalization of birth, and advocating for informed choice(50:15) How environment, beauty, and stress impact healing and birth outcomes(57:40) Rewriting narratives around women’s bodies and medical studiesDon’t miss Dr. Wood’s powerful reflections on blending professional expertise with lived experience as a mother, and how integrative care can transform both medicine and motherhood.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Dr. Mary Ella Wood:Learn more on Mary’s WebsiteFollow Mary on InstagramConnect with Mary on LinkedinFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s

In this moving solo episode, Dr. Gertrude Lyons shares tender reflections from her time in Ireland. Fresh off her book launch, book tour, and the release of her TEDx talk, Gertrude opens up about the chaos and beauty of building a home abroad, preparing for her first Ireland self-mothering retreat, and welcoming her mother into this new sacred space.She takes listeners behind the scenes of a whirlwind summer - navigating construction delays, partnering with her husband through stress and gratitude, and receiving the support of her team and community to bring it all together. From honoring her mother’s courage at 95 years old to holding space for five women in retreat, Gertrude weaves a story of resilience, surrender, and sacred creation.This episode is both an intimate life update and a powerful reminder that mothering ourselves often means softening in the midst of chaos and choosing gratitude as we grow.You’ll also hear about:(00:50) The whirlwind of creation - Mexico, Ireland, retreats, and family visits(03:20) Letting go after the book launch and noticing signs of depletion(05:00) The surprise of arriving in “organized chaos” instead of a finished home(06:50) How Gertrude and her husband leaned on each other to create a welcoming space(09:40) The gift of gratitude and reframing stress as sacred preparation(12:10) Hosting her 95-year-old mother with courage, presence, and care(15:00) Learning to sit with relationship instead of staying busy(16:50) The launch of her TEDx talk, censorship challenges, and the call to share(18:40) The first Ireland self-mothering retreat and the transformation it brought(19:50) A closing reflection: where do you need to stop managing and start mothering?Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Follow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this lively and heartfelt episode, Dr. Gertrude Lyons welcomes Laura Conley—certified life and weight coach, and the dynamic force behind The Yummy Mummy. Their conversation begins with the serendipity of meeting at Gertrude’s book launch event in Los Angeles and quickly flows into Laura’s inspiring personal story.After becoming a mother, Laura found herself consumed with thoughts about losing weight—so much so that it interfered with her ability to be present with her child. Determined to break free from the diet culture messaging she had internalized, Laura embarked on a transformative journey to heal her relationship with her body, food, and self.Now, through The Yummy Mummy program, she helps other moms create a new paradigm—one that honors physical health while also nurturing emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. Together, Gertrude and Laura explore what it takes to create sustainable change, the importance of addressing the whole self, and how to mother ourselves in the process.You’ll also hear about:(01:55) How Gertrude and Laura first connected at the book launch event(04:20) Laura’s wake-up call: realizing her focus on weight was stealing her joy as a new mom(08:15) The personal journey that led Laura to become a certified life and weight coach(12:30) Why traditional diet culture fails mothers—and what to do instead(16:50) The pillars of The Yummy Mummy program and how they address body, mind, and spirit(22:10) Stories of transformation: lasting change without the crash-diet cycle(27:30) How self-connection leads to healthier relationships—with yourself and your children(31:45) Reframing success beyond the number on the scale(35:20) Encouragement for moms to rewrite their own “mother code” around body image and self-worth(39:00) How to navigate setbacks with compassion and curiosity(45:15) Building a supportive community for lasting transformation(51:10) Laura’s final advice for mothers ready to reclaim joy and body confidenceThis episode is a permission slip to release outdated beliefs, reclaim your energy, and approach your health from a place of love and sustainability.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Laura Conley:Learn more on Laura's WebsiteFollow Laura on InstagramConnect with Laura on LinkedinFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr....

In this episode, I speak with Amy Schutte, an entrepreneur, writer, and host of the Business, Origin, Stories podcast, about her journey of leaving a stable corporate career to launch her own strategic communications and branding agency after becoming a mother. Amy shares how motherhood awakened an intuitive part of her that led to a major life pivot, driven by a desire for a life and career that felt more in alignment.Our conversation explores the "Karman Line," a powerful metaphor Amy uses for the personal thresholds we face and the new operating systems we need to cross them. We delve into her trademarked "Origin Stories" framework, a four-phase, mother-coded process for building sustainable and authentic brands. Amy emphasizes the importance of building a "fertile business" that supports your current season of life, rather than succumbing to hustle culture. You'll hear actionable insights on trusting your intuition, the necessity of creating space for yourself, and how to consciously co-create a life that feels true to you.You'll also hear about:(01:47) The journey from a secure corporate job to purpose-driven entrepreneurship(07:57) How listening to a podcast about Sarah Blakely sparked a pivotal moment(11:37) The Karman Line: A metaphor for crossing personal growth thresholds(16:23) Navigating relationship changes and losing friends during transformation(22:56) The "Origin Stories" framework for building a resonant brand(32:28) Self-mothering practices and the importance of asking for support(37:01) The concept of a "productivity fast" and learning to embrace pleasure(42:29) What it means to create a sustainable and "fertile" business(45:00) Discussing the collective recovery from the pandemic experience(47:41) Amy's definition of what it means to "Rewrite the Mother Code"Don't miss Amy's inspiring perspective on building a business and life that are deeply aligned with your personal truth!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Amy Schutte:Learn more on Amy's WebsiteFollow Amy on InstagramConnect with Amy on LinkedinListen to the Business, Origin, Stories PodcastFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “a...

Episode Title Options:The Unveiling: Dr. Gertrude Lyons on Her Book Launch JourneyBeyond the Book Launch: Navigating the Marathon of New Beginnings with Dr. Gertrude LyonsRealities of a Book Launch: Lessons in Self-Mothering with Dr. Gertrude LyonsFrom Sprint to Marathon: Dr. Gertrude Lyons Reflects on Her First BookBody:In this episode, I share an honest reflection on the journey of my first book launch. While the initial sprint of events and media has concluded, I delve into the unexpected parallels between launching a book and new motherhood. It’s a powerful, potent time, marked by both excitement and the unforeseen challenges that often remain unseen on social media.I talk about the invaluable advice from Marianne Williamson and Margaret Nielsen on navigating this new territory, emphasizing the importance of presence and joy over overwhelming commitments. This episode is an exercise in self-mothering, acknowledging the moments of stress and disappointment while finding gratitude in unexpected downtime.You'll also hear about:(01:59) – Equating the book launch journey to new book motherhood.(02:46) – Discussing the unique experience of a first-time author and navigating the unknown.(06:48) – Margaret Nielsen's advice on not saying yes to everything and prioritizing energy.(09:25) – Jessica Zwag's analogy of the "sprint" and "marathon" phases of a book launch.(10:40) – The feeling of downtime after the initial rush and the fear of everything ending.(12:46) – The contrast between social media's portrayal of perfection and the reality of book launch challenges.(14:13) – Sharing anecdotes about things that didn't go well, like logistical issues and canceled appearances, and how they became exercises in self-mothering.(18:20) – Discussing unexpected challenges like persistent rain during book tour and adapting to unforeseen circumstances.(25:30) – Discussing the concept of finding freedom and joy in letting go of expectations.(30:05) – Encouraging listeners to share their own experiences and reflections on new beginnings.This solo episode offers a candid look at the emotional landscape of bringing a significant project to life, reminding us to embrace the full spectrum of the experience.Follow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this rich, heart-centered conversation, Dr. Gertrude Lyons speaks with family law attorney and equity partner Katy Mickelson about following a nonlinear career path, parenting through IVF, and how real life—not law school—became her greatest teacher. Katy shares what it means to bring creativity into a traditionally rigid field, why she values mentorship, and how raising teens has taught her as much as any courtroom.They discuss balancing ambition with presence, how fertility struggles shaped her perspective on motherhood, and why authenticity is her superpower in both law and life. This episode is an honest, energizing reminder that there is no one way to lead—or to mother.You’ll also hear about:(01:55) Mentoring future women in law and creating soul-aligned workplaces(05:40) Public relations, late pivots, and starting law school at 29(10:50) Combining creativity and law: why it doesn’t have to be boring(15:10) Gender dynamics in the legal field and carving a new path(19:20) Listening as a lost art in law, and why it matters most(24:45) IVF journeys, difficult diagnoses, and the shock of unexpected fertility challenges(30:50) Motherhood after 35 and the feisty embryo that made it against the odds(36:00) Parenting teens and what it means to watch your children become themselves(40:30) Guilt, growth, and the myth of perfect parenting(44:50) Real-life experience as an undervalued but essential skillThis episode is for anyone navigating career shifts, parenting complexity, or the unpredictable paths we take to become who we are.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Katy Mickelson:Visit her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramConnect with her on LinkedInFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this insightful conversation, Dr. Gertrude Lyons sits down with entrepreneur, leadership coach, and podcast host Emily Bronaugh. Together, they unpack what it means to lead with intention, hire with care, and mother a business without losing yourself in the process.Emily shares her journey from burnout to business ownership, and how she learned to build systems, delegate with trust, and create space for both feminine values and effective leadership. They explore the cultural narratives around control, responsibility, and what it truly means to ask for help.Whether you run a household, a business, or both, this episode will help you challenge your assumptions and redefine what it means to lead.You’ll also hear about:(01:55) Emily’s backstory: early motherhood, military life, and career pivots(06:30) Why hiring feels so daunting, and how to overcome the fear(09:50) The balance of masculine structure and feminine leadership(12:45) Burnout, decision fatigue, and the power of boundaries(16:00) Systems that support creativity without suffocating it(21:35) Rewriting the "boss" narrative and healing leadership wounds(26:20) How emotional charge shows up in hiring and delegation(30:40) The mother energy in business: boundaries vs. over-identification(34:15) Encouraging autonomy and rethinking the team as family(39:50) Letting go of control and hiring with trust(44:10) What it means to grow a business that grows without youThis episode is a permission slip to build and lead in a way that aligns with your values—with space, support, and sustainability at the core.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Emily Bronaugh:Visit her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramConnect with her on LinkedInTake the Leadership Journey QuizFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this powerful and unapologetic conversation, I sit down with Sonali Fiske—TEDx speaker, creative coach, former radio host, and fierce advocate for cultural equity and representation. We explore the intersection of creative expression, sacred rage, and self-mothering, and the courage it takes to tell the truth in a world built to silence it.Sonali shares her journey of moving from invisibility to global visibility, and why anger became the alchemical force that transformed her life and leadership. We also reflect on the behind-the-scenes process of crafting a TEDx talk that disrupts the status quo—and the backlash that often comes with saying something that matters.If you’ve ever felt like your story wasn’t welcome, this episode is a bold invitation to claim your space, your voice, and your sacred yes.You’ll also hear about:(01:55) The origin of Sonali’s mission to amplify BIPOC women’s voices(07:04) How sacred listening and self-mothering become acts of revolution(13:30) Feelings buried alive: intergenerational grief and what Sonali did with her rage(18:20) Why we need safe spaces for women to express full-spectrum emotions(23:45) Her first TEDx talk, audience discomfort, and the power of not diluting your message(30:10) How that talk led to her global radio show and 9.5M+ listeners(35:40) The challenges of sustaining visibility, and knowing when to pause(39:25) Producing the most diverse TEDx events in the U.S.(44:50) The radical act of turning anger into creativity, service, and collective healingThis episode is for anyone ready to stop shrinking, start telling the truth, and create from the places we’ve been told to hide.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Sonali Fiske:Visit her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramConnect with her on LinkedInFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this solo episode, I reflect on the emotional swirl of launching my first book, Rewrite the Mother Code, and everything that came after the sprint. From excitement and fulfillment to overwhelm and uncertainty, I open up about the full spectrum of the experience, and why it reminds me of new motherhood.This is a conversation about truth, creativity, vulnerability, and the deep work of staying present. I share the beauty, the mess, and the moments of grace that made this journey real.If you’ve ever launched a project, stepped into a new version of yourself, or tried to savor a moment while holding a thousand details - this one’s for you.You’ll also hear about:(01:55) The emotional rollercoaster after book launch and letting go of the sprint(05:01) Advice from Marianne Williamson and the call to have fun and be present(07:04) Why self-mothering means saying no to things that drain you(09:56) The shift from sprint to marathon and the fear of losing momentum(14:56) Social media, perfection, and the unspoken stress of event logistics(17:50) Self-care in New York and what didn’t go according to plan(21:05) Money fears, rainstorms, and the little love shots that kept her going(24:03) Doubt, darkness, and choosing to keep showing up anyway(26:12) Invitations, outreach, and asking for continued support(29:04) Shifting from shyness to pride and standing behind your work(31:00) Future offerings, community engagement, and what Gertrude wants to create nextThis episode is a love letter to the entire experience, not just the polished launch photos, but the rain, the setbacks, and the heart-opening moments of truth.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Follow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this soul-expanding episode, I sit down with artist, composer, writer, and TEDx speaker Gregg Stewart to explore creativity as both a path of healing and a lifelong act of becoming. From music to novels, parenting to presence, Gregg invites us to step into our creative selves with curiosity, compassion, and the audacity to do it anyway.We talk about the emotional labor of sharing your truth on a TEDx stage, the fear and joy of co-parenting, and the inner transformation that comes with giving yourself permission to create. Gregg's wisdom is both practical and poetic, and this conversation is a love letter to creative expression in all its forms.You’ll also hear about:(01:55) The magic of sharing the TEDx stage and how Gregg ended up the “wild card”(06:00) Gregg’s journey through music, writing, film, and his upcoming novella(10:10) Creativity as a form of subconscious processing and personal truth-telling(13:45) The deeper value of creativity beyond capitalism and performance(17:05) Why you don’t need to be a professional to benefit from a creative life(22:30) How fear and curiosity helped Gregg stay connected to his daughter after divorce(29:20) The radical parenting lesson of meeting your child brand new each time(34:00) Creative expression as an antidote to self-judgment(37:40) Letting go of childhood wounds around singing, art, and voice(41:25) Reclaiming joy in creativity after years of disconnection(45:50) The power of community, reflection, and staying open to being surprised(50:10) Why presence, not polish, is the soul of all creative work(54:20) How art helps us mother ourselves and meet the moment with heartGregg's philosophy reminds us that creativity is not about perfection - it’s about presence, honesty, and the willingness to show up for ourselves and each other.Learn more about Gregg Stewart:Follow him on InstagramOrder his BookWatch his TEDXTalkFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In Part Two of our conversation, Jen Pastiloff shares from the beating heart of her new book, Proof of Life - a work that was birthed through grief, trauma, beauty, and a fierce devotion to truth. This episode is a masterclass in living unfiltered, trusting the body, and speaking the unspeakable.We go deeper into her creative process, the limitations of traditional wellness spaces, and what it means to parent while unlearning self-abandonment. Jen offers an invitation not to perform or perfect, but to pause. To feel. To say what is real.This conversation is for the humans who are doing their best to stay in their bodies and live from a place of honest belonging.You’ll also hear about:(01:55) Why she almost didn’t give her TEDx talk and what happened next(05:30) Her relationship to voice, silence, and speaking from the body(09:35) Why she tells her son: “You can be mad at me and I still love you”(14:20) The energetic power of writing and her new book Proof of Life(18:35) How she reclaims motherhood, worthiness, and creative identityJen reminds us that healing is not about fixing what’s broken — it’s about remembering who we are underneath the noise.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Jen Pastiloff:Visit her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramFollow her on FacebookPre-order Proof of LifeFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this deeply embodied conversation, I speak with Jen Pastiloff - bestselling author of On Being Human, creator of the Shame Loss Movement, and a radically honest voice in the world of healing and presence. Jen brings her whole self to the mic: her deafness, her grief, her humanness, and her fierce belief in truth-telling as a path to freedom.In Part One of our conversation, we trace Jen’s journey through early loss, chronic self-doubt, and the internalized belief that she had to hide or perform her way through life. We explore the beauty and brutality of becoming present in a body, and what it means to bear witness to others without fixing or fleeing.This episode is for anyone learning to stay. To grieve. To listen. And to belong.You’ll also hear about:(02:10) Jen’s experience growing up with hearing loss and how it shaped her worldview(06:35) Why she calls herself a “listener” instead of a teacher(13:12) Her early grief after losing her father and how it shaped her longing(19:45) The origins of the Shame Loss Movement and the audacity to take up space(27:20) Her writing and workshop work as acts of presence and permissionJen invites us into the sacred messiness of being human, reminding us that shame cannot survive being spoken, and that our bodies are wise, worthy places to come home to.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Jen Pastiloff:Visit her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramFollow her on FacebookPre-order Proof of LifeFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this raw and powerful episode, I sit down with Allie Casazza—author, coach, and founder of the “Becoming Her” movement—for a deeply honest conversation about the messy, miraculous process of breaking open and rebuilding.Allie shares her journey from building an 8-figure business rooted in minimalism to experiencing a profound unraveling of her personal and professional life. We talk about the self-betrayal that can accompany success, the silence of shame, and how illness, burnout, and trauma cracked open the parts of herself that had long been hidden.What emerged from that dark night of the soul is not just a new business model, but a new way of living, parenting, and leading—with truth, presence, and deep self-respect.You’ll also hear about:(01:00) How Allie built a massive brand while suppressing her truth(05:45) The illness and emotional fallout that came from not speaking up(11:15) Navigating divorce, trauma, and the unraveling of her identity(17:00) Her breaking point, and how she rebuilt her inner world(23:20) The healing power of hypnotherapy, EFT, and energetic work(29:45) Choosing truth over performance in parenting and business(36:10) Living the mother code in real time with her four kids(42:25) Rewriting everything and reclaiming her power as a woman and creatorAllie reminds us that being a good mother isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence. It’s about modeling healing, honesty, and the courage to become who you truly are.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Allie Casazza:Visit her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramListen to her PodcastSubscribe to her Youtube ChannelFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this episode, I sit down with Nina Mongendre—author, guide, and family constellations practitioner—for a deeply spiritual and nourishing conversation on inner child healing, ancestral connection, and reimagining the healing journey through archetypal wisdom.Nina shares her path from Kundalini yoga teacher and spiritual seeker to integrating shamanic practices, constellation work, and ancestral healing in a more embodied, emotionally attuned way. We discuss her forthcoming book Reclaiming Your Inner Child: A Journey of Childhood and Ancestral Healing, and how the journey of self-mothering begins with reuniting with the parts of ourselves we’ve left behind.From creating her oracle deck to guiding others through “The Chamber of the Mother,” Nina’s work is a loving invitation to approach our pain with reverence, creativity, and compassion.You’ll also hear about:(00:55) Nina’s background and upcoming book Reclaiming Your Inner Child(05:20) Her personal journey through spiritual dogma and rediscovering embodiment(12:40) The importance of emotional honesty and working with grief(18:10) Family constellations and the power of witnessing our inner child(25:30) How to approach healing safely and creatively through symbolism and objects(31:45) Archetypes of the Magical Child, Divine Child, and historical inner child(36:50) The “Chamber of the Mother” as a sacred, liminal space for healing(41:00) Rethinking the Hero’s Journey and embracing the wisdom of our shadowNina reminds us that true healing isn’t about bypassing or perfection—it’s about remembering who we are, creating sacred containers for change, and meeting our inner children with awe and tenderness.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Nina Mongendre:Visit her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramConnect with her on LinkedInSubscribe to her Youtube ChannelFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this deeply personal solo episode—recorded exactly two weeks before the release of my first book, Rewrite the Mother Code—I invite you into the tender and powerful space I found myself in as I prepared for one of the most meaningful transitions of my life.Now, as the book officially launches into the world, this recording captures the rawness, the reverence, and the inner preparation that took place behind the scenes—not just for the celebration, but for the becoming.This episode is not about the party. It’s about what this moment represents. It’s about remembering the deeper meaning, the sacredness of showing up fully, vulnerably, and lovingly.I reflect on what it means to mother myself through this threshold, how I’m calling in ancestral and collective support, and how I’m living out the very code I’ve spent years rewriting.This book is a labor of love. A ceremony. A summoning.And this episode is an invitation—to bear witness, to pause, and to join me in honoring this sacred passage.You’ll also hear about:(00:54) Why the book launch feels like a wedding—and why it matters(03:14) What self-mothering looks like in real time before a major milestone(06:18) Reclaiming emotional transparency and giving ourselves permission to feel(08:51) Setting intentions for connection, intuition, and creative flow(12:42) Why nothing can “ruin” what’s already perfect in love and presence(16:14) How this book is encoded with meaning, love, and a call to riseThis episode is for anyone about to cross a threshold, anyone who’s been holding something sacred inside and is finally ready to bring it to the world.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Follow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Julia Krankl—a Harvard-educated physician, UCLA-trained psychiatrist, TEDx speaker, author of The 21st Minute, and mother—for a deeply enriching conversation on mental health, emotional wellness, and the complex, sacred unraveling of the postpartum experience. Dr. Krankl brings both clinical insight and lived wisdom to our dialogue, drawing from her extensive training and personal journey.Julia shares insights from her new book, The 21st Minute: Everything You Wish Doctors Explained About Mental Health, a resource she created to empower individuals with accessible, practical tools for navigating their emotional lives. We explore the inspiration behind the book’s title, the reality of postpartum anxiety, and the essential role of community when raising children.Together, we dive into how perfectionism impacts parenting, the truth about emotional regulation, and how being “good enough” is more powerful than perfect.You’ll also hear about:(02:15) Julia’s TEDx experience and forming instant community(08:47) The origin and purpose of The 21st Minute(16:22) What we’re getting wrong about postpartum mental health(22:50) Why emotional regulation is key to parenting and healing(34:18) Rewriting the perfectionism code as mothers(45:12) How the “village” model of parenting can change everythingJulia reminds us that mental wellness isn’t about perfection—it’s about honesty, self-awareness, and giving ourselves permission to grow through the process.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Dr. Julia Krankl:Visit her WebsiteWatch her TEDx TalkFollow her on InstagramConnect with her on LinkedInFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”