Rewrite the Mother Code with Dr. Gertrude Lyons

In this vibrant and deeply insightful episode, I sit down with best-selling author and "happiness expert" Karen Salmansohn. Karen shares her fascinating journey from a high-powered career as an award-winning creative director in advertising to becoming a leading voice in personal development and behavioral change.We dive into her latest book, Your To Die for Life, which explores how embracing our mortality can actually help us live more fully and joyfully. Karen opens up about the pivotal moment of her father's passing and how writing his eulogy inspired her to reverse-engineer her own life to minimize regrets. She introduces powerful concepts like "emotional diversity", the idea that a full life requires a range of emotions, not just happiness, and her unique "mortality marble jar" ritual for visualizing time and prioritizing what truly matters.Our conversation also touches on the power of identity-based habits, the importance of "best mode" over "beast mode," and Karen's experience as a later-in-life mother. She shares practical tools, humorous anecdotes (including a bagel-chewing call with Marisa Tomei!), and her refreshing perspective on rewriting the rules of life and motherhood.You'll also hear about:(06:54) Karen's bold decision to leave a successful advertising career to pursue her dream of writing books .(12:32) The incredible story of how she bypassed her agent to get her manuscript directly to Marisa Tomei .(19:30) How her father's death and writing his eulogy sparked a realization about living intentionally to avoid regrets .(22:06) The research-backed concept that embracing death leads to living more boldly and authentically .(28:33) "Emotional diversity" (emodiversity) and why a life of pure bliss without challenges wouldn't be meaningful .(33:00) The "To-Die List" vs. the To-Do List: focusing on core values and identity-based habits .(35:12) The 7 core values to avoid the top regrets of the dying: Authentic, Brave, Curious, Discerning, Empathic Love, Fun, and Grateful .(51:23) The "Mortality Marble Jar" visual tool for tracking time left and ensuring monthly highlights .(01:03:22) Karen's personal take on "Rewrite the Mother Code": proving that energetic, vibrant motherhood is possible later in life .Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Karen SalmansohnVisit Karen's main website: notsalmon.comLearn about her new book...

In this inspiring episode, I sit down with Courtney Boylan, the founder of LeiLolo, a brand dedicated to revolutionizing the postpartum market by turning sterile, clinical accessories into beautiful, empowering essentials. Courtney shares her personal journey from corporate life at Target and Amazon to becoming an entrepreneur, driven by her own postpartum struggles and the desire to feel like herself again after childbirth.We discuss the genesis of LeiLolo, which started with a simple frustration over losing clear nipple shields and evolved into a mission to honor new mothers. Courtney opens up about the vulnerability of launching a business while raising young children, the invaluable support of her husband, and the parallels between birthing a baby and birthing a brand.Our conversation delves into the importance of self-mothering, establishing rituals like journaling and early morning connection, and the cultural shift needed to prioritize the mother's well-being alongside the baby's. Courtney passionately advocates for normalizing all aspects of the female body and postpartum experience, reminding us that "there's no one who deserves pretty accessories more than a new mom."You'll also hear about:(03:37) The "nipple shield epiphany": how losing clear shields led Courtney to design beautiful, colored alternatives .(04:25) Why postpartum products are often "stale and sterile" and make moms feel like patients rather than creators of life .(09:08) The pivotal role Courtney's husband played in pushing her to follow her dream and the emotional journey of taking that leap .(14:05) Breaking the stigma around female bodily functions and products, like hiding tampons or nursing pads .(19:34) Courtney's philosophy that LeiLolo is a "company for moms," regardless of how they choose to feed their babies .(29:48) The power of journaling as a release and self-connection tool during early motherhood .(31:44) Establishing a morning routine with her husband at 5 AM to connect before the chaos of the day begins .(40:08) Letting go of rigid visions for the future and learning to be present in the messy, beautiful "now" of motherhood and business .(45:03) The funny story behind the name "LeiLolo" and its accidental perfect meaning .(46:15) Courtney's definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": living authentically, following your dreams, and believing in your power as a woman .Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Courtney Boylan & LeiLoloVisit LeiLolo WebsiteFollow LeiLolo on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “a...

In this inspiring episode, I sit down with my friend Susie Transou, founder of Hearth and Soul, a unique retail concept that feels more like a home than a store. Susie shares her fascinating journey from growing up in the beer industry and running a large beverage distributorship with her husband to launching a completely new venture at age 50.We discuss the pivotal moment at a birthday party where a life coach's vision sparked the idea for Hearth and Soul, and how Susie turned that spark into a reality within 48 hours. Susie opens up about the transition from corporate life to entrepreneurship, highlighting the importance of community, hospitality, and the courage to ask for help, both professionally and personally.Our conversation delves into the challenges of self-care for high achievers. Susie shares the concept of "the goose and the golden egg," emphasizing that to continue producing, one must take care of oneself. We also touch on the power of vulnerability, sharing our struggles, and the profound impact of her mother's openness about addiction on Susie's own comfort with sharing her story.You'll also hear about:(03:40) The birthday party retreat and life coaching session that planted the seed for Hearth and Soul .(05:27) How Hearth and Soul was born in 48 hours with a vision of a "kitchen" gathering place for community .(10:00) Susie's realization that asking for help is a strength, not a weakness, and crucial for success in work and motherhood .(17:00) The three core pillars of Hearth and Soul: Home, Friend, and Family, and how they shape the customer experience .(29:51) The "goose and the golden egg" analogy for self-care: why taking care of yourself is essential for sustaining achievement .(36:59) A therapist's assignment for Susie to sit still with her daughter for 15 minutes a day, and the challenge of simply "being" .(43:08) Susie's definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": being open to new and different ways to mother beyond traditional roles .Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Susie Transou & Hearth and SoulShop online at hearthandsoul.comFollow Hearth and Soul on Instagram Follow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s Websiteli...

In this inspiring episode, I sit down with Harper A. Bailey (the pen name of Teosha Bailey), a public health leader, speaker, and author of the powerful new memoir It Was Her. Harper shares the deeply personal and spiritual journey of bringing her book to life, a process she describes as a "co-creation with God and my ancestors."We discuss how the idea for her memoir came to her four years ago as a "God idea," and how a vivid dream on her birthday finally pushed her to commit to writing it. Harper opens up about the vulnerability of sharing her story, particularly the heavy first chapter about her mother's transition, and the writer's block she had to overcome. She reveals her unique writing process, which included creating a sacred shrine with photos of her ancestors, using music and scents to set the mood, and dedicating time for writing retreats around the world, from Hawaii to Rome.Our conversation also touches on the healing power of storytelling within families. Harper shares how her book has sparked profound conversations with her son, aunt, and cousins, allowing them to see her in a new light and uncover hidden family histories. We explore the concept of "self-mothering" through the creative process, the importance of celebrating small milestones (like hitting word counts with ice cream!), and the profound realization that wholeness is our birthright.You'll also hear about:(03:52) The vivid dream that finally pushed Harper to write her book after being stuck for a year and a half .(04:14) How Harper gifted herself a writing retreat at a hotel and left with a complete outline for her memoir .(07:59) Her "YOLO Mother's Days" tradition: traveling to Rome with her aunts instead of doing the traditional "pancakes and construction paper" routine .(15:37) The detailed "shrine" Harper created for her writing sessions, featuring photos of her ancestors to remind her she wasn't alone .(18:10) Using the four elements (earth, air, fire, water) and sensory details like music and incense to create a sacred writing space .(26:37) How her book has opened up new dialogues with her family, including her son realizing what she was going through as a mother .(29:59) Harper's core message for readers: "Wholeness is your birthright," and you have the power to reclaim your narrative .(41:20) Her definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": being authentically who you are, mothering in any season, and learning how you want to be mothered yourself .Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Harper A. BaileyBuy her memoir, It Was HerFollow Harper on Instagram Learn more about Harper on her

In this profound episode, I sit down with Chameli Ardagh, a yogini, mystic, and founder of Awakening Women. Chameli shares her powerful personal journey, beginning with a childhood in Norway deeply connected to nature but marked by family volatility. She recounts her early escape into spirituality as a way to transcend suffering, only to realize later, through a pivotal moment of reckoning, that true spiritual awakening requires full embodiment and confronting our own internal "warfare".Our conversation delves deep into the concept of the Divine Feminine and how patriarchal structures have historically co-opted or erased goddess wisdom. Chameli illuminates how ancient myths, from the Greek god Apollo to the Norse god Odin, reflect a pattern of conquering and stealing feminine wisdom rather than honoring it. We explore the transformative power of women gathering in circles, leaving dogma at the door, and using embodiment practices like dance and song to reconnect with their innate spiritual authority.Chameli passionately describes her work in creating spaces, both online and through retreats in Greece, where women can reclaim their "golden mead" of wisdom without needing a middleman. We discuss the critical need for a new way of living that honors the "mother code" at the center of existence, moving from power-over to power-with, and birthing a future rooted in balance and love.You'll also hear about:(04:05) Chameli's upbringing in Norway and her early spiritual seeking as an escape from suffering.(07:46) Her "9/11 moment" of realizing her internal state mirrored the warfare in the world, leading to a shift from transcendence to embodiment.(14:33) Meeting the goddesses as a "hall of mirrors," revealing that all expressions, even anger and lust, can be holy.(20:48) How mythology illustrates the "top-down, exploitive energy" of the left brain conquering the body and feminine wisdom.(30:36) The story of Odin stealing the "golden mead" of wisdom from a giant goddess, a metaphor for patriarchal appropriation of feminine knowledge.(34:39) The importance of not burning down the old structures but "walking away" to create new, life-affirming systems.(40:36) Chameli's Summer Goddess Ashram in Corfu, Greece: a space for women to refill their inner wells through dance, ritual, and connection.(53:23) Chameli's definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": a reclamation of the mother principle as the center of life and a rewriting of our future in partnership with evolution.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Chameli ArdaghLearn more on Chameli's Websiteli...

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Whitney Walker, a licensed marriage and family therapist, recovery coach, spiritual guide, and host of the Women Waken podcast. Whitney shares her incredibly raw and vulnerable journey, from a childhood marked by an absent father and an emotionally immature mother to struggling with debilitating low self-esteem, addiction, and eating disorders in her 20s.She opens up about hitting rock bottom, a moment where she realized "time's run out" on the chaos and just wanted peace, and how that catalyzed her profound transformation. We explore the concept of addiction as a symptom of not feeling safe or "enough" and the societal conditioning that breeds fear and competition instead of connection.Our conversation delves deep into the power of the Divine Feminine, contrasting it with the "force" of masculine energy, and how embracing flow, intuition, and collective care can heal both individuals and society. Whitney passionately discusses the need for women to trust their inner wisdom, stand their ground with clarity (like the Queen of Swords in Tarot), and create new systems based on love rather than fear.You'll also hear about:(04:03) Whitney's "brutal yet beautiful" 20s, marked by addiction and insecurity, and finding peace and power turning 40.(09:44) Addiction as a search for soothing in a world where we don't feel safe or believe we are our own source of healing.(14:38) Growing up with an emotionally absent father and the impact of conditional love on a child's sense of worth.(17:39) The simplicity of the solution for humanity: knowing we are safe and loved.(27:57) How we "play by the rules of the game that we choose to play" and the power of disengaging from dysfunctional systems.(36:01) The "Queen of Swords" energy: deliberate action, clarity, and setting boundaries without malice.(40:30) Being wary of gurus who claim their way is the only way, and trusting your own intuition.(47:19) Whitney's beautiful definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": recognizing that we all have the ability to mother—to love, nurture, and see others—regardless of whether we have children.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Whitney Walker:Learn more on Whitney's WebsiteFollow Whitney on Instagram (DM her to connect!)Listen to the Women Waken PodcastFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “

In this insightful episode, Dr. Gertrude Lyons welcomes Emily Paulsen, an award-winning entrepreneur, brand strategist through her studio Electric Collab, and host of the Curious Life of a Child-Free Woman podcast. Emily is dedicated to shining a light on the often-overshadowed child-free by choice perspective.Their conversation centers on the powerful collision of the "mother code" world with the child-free narrative, demonstrating that the essence of mothering is universal, regardless of motherhood status. Emily shares her deep personal passion for empowering women, describing "girlfriends" as her love language. This passion for female community is what Dr. Lyons connects to the core of self-mothering, explaining that while the spark begins within, the "blaze" is ignited and kept alive in sisterhood.They discuss how patriarchal and over-masculine value systems have historically sought to disempower women by splitting them up and pitting them against each other. The episode also tackles the intense societal judgment placed on women, referencing the shocking death threats received by a woman who dared to write about "regretting having children". Emily also details her work with Electric Collab, which is focused on helping women entrepreneurs and founders articulate their unique value and "secret sauce" to the world through premium branding.You'll also hear about:(03:08) The challenge for women to define themselves beyond statistics (job, marital status, kids) .(03:25) Emily's lifelong passion for female community, calling "girlfriends" her love language.(03:30) Her frustration as a cheerleader that their job was to root for boys, not celebrate the women's own accomplishments.(05:10) Emily's continued commitment to female community through college and career, and her current work to professionally and personally build other women up.(06:00) Dr. Gertrude Lyons's distinction between mothering (universal) and motherhood (choice), and the critical importance of self-mothering.(07:18) Why the self-mothering flame is amplified in community and how the separation of women is a tool of disempowerment.(07:53) How patriarchal and over-masculine value systems intentionally split and pit women against each other to disempower them.(20:19) The profound and hostile reaction, including death threats, a woman received for sharing her truth about "regretting having children".(29:51) How the word "selfish" is weaponized against women on both sides of the parenting divide—whether for not having kids or for having them.(38:40) The importance of normalizing child-free lives beyond celebrities like Oprah and Dolly Parton to show that it is a valid, happy path for everyday women.(42:23) The workplace bias that assumes child-free women have unlimited free time and should pick up the slack.(49:40) Why parents should include child-free friends in kid-centric events rather than assuming they don't want to attend to avoid creating an "echo chamber".(51:40) Emily's work with her brand studio, Electric Collab, to help women entrepreneurs articulate their unique "secret sauce" and value.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Emily Paulsen:Learn more on Emily's

In this deeply moving episode, I speak with Ronit Plank, a writer, teacher, editor, and host of the Let's Talk Memoir podcast. Ronit is the author of the award-winning memoir When She Comes Back, which chronicles the loss of her mother to the guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and their eventual reconciliation.Ronit shares her powerful story of growing up with a mother who left her and her sister to follow a guru in India, and her father who then became a single parent. We explore the profound impact of abandonment, the role of the "parentified" child, and how Ronit navigated these wounds into her own motherhood journey.Our conversation delves into the transformative power of memoir writing as a tool for healing. Ronit explains how writing her story allowed her to reframe her narrative, understand her parents as complex individuals rather than villains, and move from a place of victimhood to one of agency and acceptance. We discuss the nuances of forgiveness versus acceptance, the importance of taking responsibility for our own patterns in relationships, and why sharing our authentic, messy stories is a vital act of connection and self-mothering.You'll also hear about:(01:39) Ronit's childhood: born on a kibbutz in Israel, moving to the US, and her mother leaving for India to follow Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh.(04:55) The experience of being a "parentified" older daughter and the lasting impact of early abandonment.(08:09) How memoir writing helps reframe personal history and create a "redemptive narrative".(20:19) Why Ronit prefers the concept of "acceptance" over "forgiveness" when healing family relationships.(25:43) Understanding our own role in family dynamics and taking responsibility for our coping mechanisms.(33:07) The varied reactions of Ronit's family members to her memoir, including her father's surprising feedback.(43:18) Exploring the "mother who leaves" archetype with compassion and understanding the complex reasons behind such choices.(52:07) Ronit's definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": tuning into intuition and not abandoning oneself while nurturing others.Join us for this insightful conversation about the power of story, the complexity of family, and the healing journey of rewriting our own narratives.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Ronit Plank:Learn more on Ronit's WebsiteConnect with Ronit on LinkedInListen to the Let's Talk Memoir PodcastFollow Ronit on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Diane Ortega, a Certified Nurse Midwife and co-founder of the first nurse-midwife-owned freestanding birth center in Arizona. Diane shares her personal journey from being an office manager to becoming a midwife, a path inspired by her own "profoundly different" and empowering birth experience with midwives after a conventional hospital birth.Our conversation is a deep dive into the philosophy of midwifery as an act of "mothering the mother". We discuss the "medical-industrial complex" and how the current system often disempowers women through fear-based tactics, taking away their choices in a process that should be empowering. Diane challenges the "healthy mom, healthy baby" narrative, pointing out that it often dismisses the emotional trauma a mother may experience during birth, which she then has to process while navigating new motherhood.Diane also introduces her podcast and coaching brand, "The Midwife Life" , which expands the concept of midwifery beyond childbirth to support all women "midwifing something in their life" —whether it's new motherhood or a midlife career change. We explore the critical need for a "village," a community of support that is often missing for modern women, and how she is building programs to help women find that connection.You'll also hear about:(01:32) Diane's work making out-of-hospital birth accessible to more families by accepting almost all insurance.(03:30) How she views midwifery and mothering as "very similar, if not the same".(13:15) The fear-based culture surrounding birth and how it disempowers women from trusting their bodies.(22:21) Why birth is "not a medical event until it is," and how hospital protocols are often based on tradition, not evidence.(23:20) My personal story of choosing a home birth, which was sparked by the simple, primal desires to be able to eat and control the lighting.(27:57) The loss of the "village" for modern mothers and the isolation that comes from being a "transplant" without family support.(38:23) The one cultural mother code Diane would rewrite: the "ridiculous" expectation that women should "bounce right back" after giving birth.(43:52) My update on my TEDx talk being censored for including information on the high U.S. maternal mortality rate and the "hostile takeover" of birth from midwives.(49:43) Diane's final definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": "releasing the societal norms" and "put[ting] our oxygen mask on first".Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Diane OrtegaLearn more on her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramListen to her PodcastLearn more about her Coaching ProgramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on

In this deeply personal and full-circle episode, I sit down with my dear friend, creative collaborator, and "sister-daughter," Megan Taylor. I was blessed to be one of Megan’s first-ever life coaches when she was in her 20s, and our relationship has beautifully evolved into a rich, mutual friendship and powerful partnership. Most recently, Megan was the visionary producer behind my Rewrite the Mother Code book tour.Megan is a globally recognized DJ, music strategist, and producer of transformational retreats, known for her unique ability to fuse sound, frequency, and energy into unforgettable experiences.Our conversation explores the "mothering journey" of our relationship, from me as her coach to her becoming a mentor in her own right who I now learn from. We pull back the curtain on the book launch, discussing the "come-to-Jesus" moments , the masculine structure required to birth a creative vision , and the unexpected, magical moments along the way (like meeting Beanie Man at Fox News).Megan also shares her powerful experience attending my Ireland retreat, a journey she helped co-create. She speaks candidly about her initial resistance to "self-mothering" (preferring to "outsource it") , the "hunger" for this nourishment she now sees in the world , and how she worked through her "knee-jerk reaction" to be overly responsible for others—a key part of her own mothering journey.You'll also hear about:(01:42) Megan's story: from being my life-coaching client in her 20s to a globally recognized DJ and transformational experience producer.(05:38) My reflections on the "mothering journey" of a mentor: watching a mentee excel beyond you and the relationship evolving into a mutual, adult exchange.(08:44) Megan's deep-seated, life-long desire to be "mothered" and her process of getting that need fulfilled.(11:10) The "first-time motherhood" experience of launching a book and Marianne Williamson's advice to just "be excited about it and have fun".(16:40) The vulnerability of DJing: Megan shares the terror and aliveness she feels, and her process of navigating that energy without seeking approval.(21:20) Why the timing of Rewrite the Mother Code felt like a "cosmic birth".(31:10) Megan's experience on the Ireland retreat: the "mystical" energy of the land , connecting with the "primordial goddess" , and realizing the world's deep "hunger" for self-mothering.(36:01) Her resistance to the concept of self-mothering because she "wanted to outsource it".(41:07) Working through the "knee-jerk reaction" to be overly responsible for others' experiences as part of her own healing.(50:22) Megan's definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": becoming aware of the "programmed paradigm" and having a "choice point" to create your own relationship with motherhood.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Megan TaylorLearn more on Megan's WebsiteFollow Megan on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude

In this inspiring episode, I sit down with Anna Lozano, a mom, founder, investor, and host of the Prosperity Playground podcast. Anna shares her powerful story, beginning with her upbringing as a Polish immigrant in Canada, where she was programmed to "work hard, study hard, get good grades, [and] climb that corporate ladder".She followed that path to an Ivy League business school and a "soul-draining" corporate job , which she intuitively knew was not her purpose. Anna recounts her pivot into network marketing—to her father's dismay, who called it a "pyramid scheme" —where she discovered her love for entrepreneurship and personal development . This led her to co-found Love Powered Company , a brand that brought affirmation cards for children into homes, with the goal of introducing mindfulness to the whole family.After selling her company , Anna took her family to Mexico for what she thought was a one-month reset. This trip became a profound "initiation" —a period of "deep and uncomfortable" inner work —forcing her to recalibrate her "masculine, very driven" energy. She connects this drive to her immigrant "survival" programming and shares how she consciously learned to balance it by embracing her feminine energy and leading with intuition as the "CEO of all the decisions".You'll also hear about:(03:30) Quitting her "soul-draining" corporate job after an intuitive nudge that she was not living her purpose.(04:43) Co-founding Love Powered Co. to bring affirmation cards and mindfulness to children.(06:19) Selling her company and moving to Mexico for a "nervous system reset".(06:57) Her journey of recalibrating her "masculine, very driven" energy and healing her immigrant "survival programming".(18:59) Why Anna believes conscious parenting is the "biggest work" and how our children mirror our unhealed wounds.(22:25) The power of apologizing to our children after reacting and the importance of repair.(24:40) Dr. Gertrude's discussion of the "Carpenter vs. Gardener" parenting analogy.(27:11) How Anna is now applying the "gardener" approach to herself by trying new things, like pickleball.(31:30) Making "crazy aligned decisions" based on her core value of "freedom".(40:35) The importance of only taking advice from mentors you truly admire (like her "mentors from afar," Sarah Blakely and Jamie KernLima).(48:58) Anna's beautiful definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": "parenting your little self first".Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Anna LozanoLearn more on Anna's WebsiteFollow Anna on InstagramConnect with Anna on LinkedInListen to The Prosperity Playground PodcastFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on a...

In this solo episode, Dr. Gertrude Lyons returns to the mic after a couple of months away to reflect on the sacred spaces that shape us - our homes, our communities, and the fires that keep us connected.Broadcasting from her Chicago home after time in Ireland, Gertrude shares stories from her 2 retreats in Ireland, her 95-year-old mother traveling to Ireland, and even returning to her childhood home in St. Clair, Michigan. These experiences ignite today’s reflection on the symbolism of fire, the interconnectedness of community, and the truth that self-mothering happens in relationships.Through the metaphor of the hearth, Gertrude explores how our individual flames burn brightest when tended by others—and how discernment, courage, and honesty are essential when choosing the communities that nurture us. She also opens up about her TEDx experience, what she learned about censorship and integrity, and how she’s choosing to fan her own flame through writing, connection, and upcoming retreats.You’ll also hear about: (00:35) Returning to solo episodes (01:20) Two months in Ireland and completing the family home (03:20) Revisiting her Michigan hometown after 18 years (05:00) The magic and limits of small-town connection (06:50) The hearth as a spiritual center (09:30) Celtic fire traditions and shared flames (11:10) Self-mothering in community (13:00) How our flame grows in relationship (15:00) Choosing supportive communities (17:00) Lessons from the TEDx experience (19:40) Reclaiming her voice and moving to Substack (22:00) Upcoming retreats in Mexico and IrelandLet’s keep tending each other’s flames. Tune in and reflect on what lights your inner fire - and how the community keeps it burning.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Follow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this episode, I sit down with the wonderfully multifaceted Stephanie Sprenger—a writer, podcaster, producer of live storytelling and comedy shows, and single mom to two teenage girls. Stephanie shares her journey from being an early childhood music therapist to reclaiming her identity as a writer, a path that led her to create vibrant communities for women to find and share their voices.Our conversation dives deep into the power of storytelling as a form of self-mothering and community-building. Stephanie, the executive producer of Listen to Your Mother Boulder, explains why sharing honest, unfiltered stories about motherhood—complete with the guilt, ambivalence, and messy moments—is a radical act that combats isolation and challenges the myth of the perfect mom.Stephanie also opens up about her late-in-life ADHD diagnosis, a revelation that occurred while writing her forthcoming memoir. She describes this discovery as finally getting the right "operating system manual" for her brain, allowing her to reframe her struggles with the practical demands of motherhood and embrace her strengths with newfound compassion. We also touch on her dive into the world of stand-up comedy as a form of healing and the importance of finding supportive, women-centered spaces to take creative risks.You'll also hear about:(03:44) Stephanie’s career pivot from music therapy to writing and creating communities for women storytellers like the Her Stories Project and Listen to Your Mother.(09:34) Why sharing our honest, unfiltered stories is a crucial act of self-mothering that builds community and combats isolation.(10:25) The importance of being the "main character" in your own life, especially as a mother.(24:16) Stephanie’s journey to an adult ADHD diagnosis and how it helped her understand her experience of motherhood.(28:58) How her ADHD diagnosis felt like being a "lefty in a right-handed world" and finally getting the right operating system manual for her brain.(35:34) How hitting a wall as a solo single mom forced her to let go of the "do-it-all-yourself" code and embrace outsourcing.(41:53) Her experience using stand-up comedy as a healing tool, especially within the supportive "womb" of all-women comedy groups.Join us for an inspiring conversation about reclamation, self-trust, and the profound freedom that comes from telling your own story, your own way.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Stephanie SprengerLearn more on Stephanie's WebsiteConnect with Stephanie on LinkedinFollow her on Substack at The Reclamation EraListen to her podcast, Perry NormalFollow Stephanie on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s

In this fascinating and vital episode, I speak with Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum - a neuroscientist, doula, infant and family sleep specialist, and author of The Nurture Revolution. Greer is leading a movement to revolutionize mental health by focusing on the profound impact of caregiving in the earliest stages of life. Her work combines cutting-edge neuroscience with the ancient wisdom of nurturing to empower parents and transform our world.Our conversation begins with Greer’s own birth story and how the trauma of being separated from her mother planted the seeds for her life's work. We dive into the science that debunks long-held, harmful parenting myths, particularly the idea that you can "spoil a baby." Greer explains how early experiences create implicit memories that shape our brain circuitry for life and offers powerful insights into healing our own birth imprints. We also discuss how the act of mothering is a deeply transformative, neuroplastic experience for the parent, offering a unique opportunity for our own healing and growth.You'll also hear about:(05:24) How Greer’s own traumatic birth experience—being separated from her mother for hours—became a powerful catalyst for her life's work.(08:26) Why the myth that "babies don't remember" is false, and how early experiences create implicit memories that shape our brains for life.(12:17) A powerful healing technique: re-imagining birth trauma to create a new, embodied sense of safety and trust.(26:32) The surprising and harmful origins of the "spoil your baby" myth and why science proves the opposite is true.(40:32) The "brain bath": How holding your baby releases a cocktail of beneficial neurochemicals for them and rewires your own brain for empathy and self-regulation.(48:36) Why modern mothers are disempowered by the loss of community modeling and what we can do to reclaim that wisdom.(51:36) The "Chrysalis" metaphor for early motherhood: a messy, gooey phase of transformation that allows you to emerge as a beautiful butterfly.This episode is a must-listen for anyone who is a parent, plans to be one, or is on a journey to heal their own inner child.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Dr. Greer KirshenbaumLearn more on Greer's WebsiteBuy the book: The Nurture RevolutionFollow Greer on InstagramListen to the Spoil your baby PodcastFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterOrder...

In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with my dear friend Joey McCune, a visionary entrepreneur, sacred space designer, and portal guide. Joey is the founder of the stunning Sound Healing Tulum and Cenote Sagrado sanctuary in the Yucatan jungle, as well as the leader of Sakred Journeys, a platform for transformative retreats to sacred sites around the world.Our conversation centers on Joey's own journey of learning to receive care after years of being a constant giver and "mother" to others. She shares the powerful story of how she followed a channeled message to build a sound temple, the lessons she learned in trusting the universe during the pandemic, and what led her to a point where she knew her own cup was nearly empty. We explore the profound medicine of sisterhood, the bittersweet healing that can come from simple acts of care, and how allowing herself to be "mothered" on my Ireland retreat sparked a period of profound creative expansion in her own life.You'll also hear about:(01:57) How a powerful channeled message in the middle of the night led Joey to sell everything and birth a sacred sound sanctuary in the Yucatan jungle.(04:49) Why Joey, a retreat leader herself, recognized her own cup was nearly empty and made the intentional choice to receive mothering.(09:45) The profound and bittersweet experience of being "tucked in" for the first time, and how this simple act revealed a deep mother wound.(15:12) The pattern of over-mothering her own children to fill a void from her childhood, and the sense of loss she felt when they left home.(17:50) How allowing herself to be filled up sparked a massive creative rebirth and expansion in her own life and work.(20:19) The realization that sisterhood is not just a support system, but a "divine puzzle piece" essential for self-mothering and spiritual evolution.(39:03) Joey's 20 years of dharma work leading sacred, transformative journeys through the temples of Egypt.Join us for this beautiful exploration of what it means to be a creator, a mother, and a woman willing to be held, and discover why the act of receiving is just as sacred as the act of giving.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Joey McCuneFollow Joey on InstagramLearn more about Joey's Retreats at Sakred JourneysFollow Sound Healing Tulum on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother...

In this powerful episode, I am joined by Valerie Jones, author of The Selfish Year, host of The Selfish Woman podcast, and founder of The Selfish Woman Movement. Valerie shares her incredible journey from being a chronic people-pleaser, conditioned to be the "good girl," through two difficult marriages that ultimately led her to a profound breaking point. In a radical act of self-preservation, she embarked on a year-long experiment to be selfish—a decision that changed everything.Our conversation is a deep dive into what it truly means to be selfish, redefining it not as a dirty word, but as the sacred act of being "full of self." Valerie introduces the beautiful concepts of the "First Girl"—the exuberant, authentic version of us before the world told us who to be—and the "Hurt Girl," the protector who emerges to keep us safe. We discuss the immense cost of people-pleasing, the patriarchal programming that conditions women to be selfless, and the two stages of reclamation: first, learning to put yourself first so you can give from abundance, and ultimately, arriving at the freedom of prioritizing yourself simply because you are worthy.You'll also hear about:(03:23) Valerie’s journey as a chronic people-pleaser through a 24-year marriage that ended in divorce.(06:36) How an externally perfect life in Spain led her to a breaking point and the decision to start her "Selfish Year" experiment.(13:23) The first crucial lesson Valerie learned: in order to be truly selfish, you must first get to know yourself.(15:38) Redefining selfish as being "full of self" and learning to mother the parts of ourselves that are scared and afraid.(21:04) The concepts of the "First Girl" (our true, unconditioned self) and the "Hurt Girl" (our protector self) and how to integrate them.(27:08) The high cost of being a "good girl"—including resentment, depression, and patterns of self-abandonment.(40:58) The two stages of embracing selfishness, from a "Trojan horse" for the brain to the ultimate freedom of prioritizing yourself, full stop.Join us for this liberating conversation and discover why Valerie’s message is so vital: "You are not broken. You are becoming."Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Valerie Jones:Learn more on Valerie's WebsiteBuy the book: The Selfish YearListen to The Selfish Woman PodcastFollow Valerie on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s

Episode Title Options:Should We Listen to Our Mothers? A Legacy of Love and Strength with Jackie TantilloThe Golden Thread of Motherhood: Lessons from a Large Family with Jackie TantilloRewriting the Mother Code Through Communication and Forgiveness with Jackie TantilloGrowing Up with Seven Siblings: A Story of Family, Creativity, and Connection with Jackie TantilloIn this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with Jackie Tantillo, the host and executive producer of the award-winning podcast,Should Have Listen to My Mother. Jackie shares the beautiful and dynamic story of her upbringing as the youngest of seven children and the profound impact of her mother, Linda—a trailblazing, creative, and forward-thinking woman who worked for the Rockefeller Foundation in Peru before raising her family.Our conversation explores the "golden thread" that connects us all through our relationship with our mothers, whether that bond was a source of strength or a challenge to overcome. Jackie reflects on how her mother’s love for music and conversation inspired her own four-decade career in broadcasting. We also discuss the vital importance of family rituals, the lessons learned from having five older sisters, and how her mother modeled challenging the status quo, both in her community and her faith. After six seasons of her podcast, Jackie shares her biggest takeaways on motherhood, forgiveness, and the power of truly listening.You'll also hear about:(04:32) How Jackie's mother, Linda, and a house filled with music inspired her career in radio.(07:09) The incredible story of Jackie's mother, a forward-thinking linguist and world traveler who raised seven children.(13:34) The common paradigm of mothers who encourage their children but struggle to give themselves the same love and support.(24:14) The power of nightly family dinners (with no TV!) to foster deep connection and conversation.(32:45) What it was like growing up with five older sisters who acted as "second mothers".(37:21) Key lessons Jackie has learned after six seasons of listening to guests share stories about their mothers.(45:39) Jackie’s powerful interpretation of "Rewrite the Mother Code" and the importance of apologizing to your children.Don't miss this heartwarming and insightful exploration of family, legacy, and the enduring influence of our mothers.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Jackie TantilloListen to Should Have Listen to My MotherVisit her Website Connect with Jackie on LinkedInFollow Jackie on FacebookFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on

In this episode, I speak with Linda Brand, a transformational coach and host of the Worthy and Abundant podcast, about her powerful journey of healing and self-discovery. Linda shares her story of overcoming a childhood rooted in scarcity and fear, navigating a debilitating illness that became a major awakening, and making the courageous leap from a career in real estate to founding her own coaching practice.Our conversation delves into the critical importance of self-love and self-worth as the foundation for a successful and fulfilling life. Linda explains how a lack of self-love leads to seeking external validation and offers practical tools to begin the practice of unconditional self-acceptance, including journaling, mirror work, and affirmations. We also explore powerful healing modalities like EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), the connection between unprocessed trauma and physical health, and the importance of reparenting our inner child.You’ll also hear about:(01:23) Linda’s journey of overcoming a childhood of scarcity and fear.(03:08) How a debilitating illness became her biggest spiritual awakening.(07:39) The power of Kabbalah as ancient wisdom for modern life.(16:04) Why self-love is essential to stop seeking external validation and feel whole.(19:34) Practical tools for developing self-love, including mirror work and compassionate inner talk.(20:51) The connection between ADHD in women and intense self-criticism.(39:50) How to use EFT (tapping) to release energy blocks and imposter syndrome.(43:32) Dr. Gertrude’s profound experiences with dynamic breathwork and its ability to unlock cellular memory.Don't miss Linda’s inspiring perspective on rewriting your past to create a truly worthy and abundant future!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Linda Brand:Learn more on Linda’s WebsiteListen to Linda’s PodcastListen to Manifest + ChillFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this episode, I sit down with Tracy Ftacek - serial entrepreneur, manifestation coach, and host of Manifest + Chill - to explore what it really means to release perfectionism, let go of hustle culture, and step into a life of joy, ease, and alignment.Tracy shares her powerful story of growing up in Alaska, building businesses in the beauty industry, selling her company, and navigating the disorienting question of identity that followed. She takes us inside her journey of discovering meditation, manifestation, and visualization practices, and how these became not just tools but lifelines for creating a new way of living.We also dive into Tracy’s transformative experience at one of my retreats, where she confronted and began healing her mother wound through a powerful water birthing ceremony. Tracy reflects on how rewriting her story allowed her to release generational patterns, embrace her wholeness, and model a new way of being for herself and others.This conversation is filled with wisdom, laughter, and deep healing, an invitation for all of us to “manifest + chill” while building lives we actually love.You’ll also hear about:(04:30) Growing up in Alaska, loss of her father, and early lessons in independence(06:45) Choosing career over family, then building businesses on her own terms(08:20) Selling her company and the disorientation of losing titles and identity(12:10) Relearning self-care through meditation, manifestation, and coaching(16:00) Why hustle culture keeps women stuck in burnout, and how to flip the script(20:15) The “manifest + chill” philosophy and integrating ease into ambition(22:00) Creating her beauty app and finding alignment through entrepreneurship(25:20) Attending her first retreat and overcoming the fear of showing up alone(28:30) Launching her new business at the retreat and signing her first client there(31:00) Retreat reflections: healing in community and feeling deeply supported(32:30) Healing the mother wound through a water birthing ceremony(34:40) Realizing the soul’s choice in family dynamics and releasing blame(36:20) Transforming anger into gratitude and acceptance(39:00) Embracing joy, play, and authenticity in both business and life(42:15) Building a business model around fun, alignment, and sustainable growth(48:00) Final reflections on rewriting generational narratives and choosing joyDon’t miss Tracy’s inspiring perspective on how to release the hustle, embrace healing, and manifest a life filled with intention and joy.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Tracy Ftacek:Learn more on Tracy’s WebsiteFollow Tracy on InstagramConnect with Tracy on LinkedinListen to Manifest + ChillFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Mary Ella Wood, physician, medical director, and new mother, to explore her path from general surgery to integrative medicine, and how her personal journey of motherhood has deepened her approach to healing.As the Medical Director of the Osher Center for Integrative Medicine at Northwestern, Dr. Wood blends evidence-based functional and holistic practices - nutrition, herbal medicine, yoga, Ayurveda, and mind-body medicine - into patient care. She shares how her experiences during COVID, residency, and high-risk obstetrics shaped her passion for whole-person healing.We also dive into her transformative journey through pregnancy and birth, navigating unexpected complications, and the raw realities of postpartum life. Dr. Wood opens up about breastfeeding struggles, resilience, and the miracle of welcoming her son, all while continuing her groundbreaking work in integrative medicine.This conversation is both deeply practical and profoundly human, offering insights into how we can honor the science of medicine while holding space for the feminine, relational, and soulful dimensions of care.You’ll also hear about:(04:34) Dr. Wood’s transition from surgery to integrative medicine(07:42) What integrative and functional medicine really mean(12:00) The importance of whole-person, individualized care(20:50) Reflections on delivering babies as a physician and as a mother(25:30) Her personal birth story and navigating unexpected complications(35:25) Postpartum challenges, breastfeeding struggles, and rediscovering herself as a new mom(37:50) The balance of motherhood, medicine, and the joy of family life(42:10) The role of midwives, medicalization of birth, and advocating for informed choice(50:15) How environment, beauty, and stress impact healing and birth outcomes(57:40) Rewriting narratives around women’s bodies and medical studiesDon’t miss Dr. Wood’s powerful reflections on blending professional expertise with lived experience as a mother, and how integrative care can transform both medicine and motherhood.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Dr. Mary Ella Wood:Learn more on Mary’s WebsiteFollow Mary on InstagramConnect with Mary on LinkedinFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s