200: Tending the Flame: Self-Mothering and the Power of Community
Description
In this solo episode, Dr. Gertrude Lyons returns to the mic after a couple of months away to reflect on the sacred spaces that shape us - our homes, our communities, and the fires that keep us connected.
Broadcasting from her Chicago home after time in Ireland, Gertrude shares stories from her 2 retreats in Ireland, her 95-year-old mother traveling to Ireland, and even returning to her childhood home in St. Clair, Michigan. These experiences ignite today’s reflection on the symbolism of fire, the interconnectedness of community, and the truth that self-mothering happens in relationships.
Through the metaphor of the hearth, Gertrude explores how our individual flames burn brightest when tended by others—and how discernment, courage, and honesty are essential when choosing the communities that nurture us. She also opens up about her TEDx experience, what she learned about censorship and integrity, and how she’s choosing to fan her own flame through writing, connection, and upcoming retreats.
You’ll also hear about:
(00:35 ) Returning to solo episodes
(01:20 ) Two months in Ireland and completing the family home
(03:20 ) Revisiting her Michigan hometown after 18 years
(05:00 ) The magic and limits of small-town connection
(06:50 ) The hearth as a spiritual center
(09:30 ) Celtic fire traditions and shared flames
(11:10 ) Self-mothering in community
(13:00 ) How our flame grows in relationship
(15:00 ) Choosing supportive communities
(17:00 ) Lessons from the TEDx experience
(19:40 ) Reclaiming her voice and moving to Substack
(22:00 ) Upcoming retreats in Mexico and Ireland
Let’s keep tending each other’s flames. Tune in and reflect on what lights your inner fire - and how the community keeps it burning.
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