Healing Mothers' Club

Updates, announcements, and trauma-informed parenting coaching offered worldwide!Schedule your free, no obligation virtual consultation to plan your parenting + nervous system strategy 1:1 with Danik to see if coaching is right for you. Click here to schedule.✨We'll meet for Season 1 on November 3rd🇫🇷 Francophones and French-speakers: The podcast Mères Conscientes will drop soon. More details to come 👀Thank you for being here❤️

What if your mom rage isn’t just about being overstimulated or burned out — but about old trauma being reactivated? In this episode, Danik Bernier, trauma therapist and fellow mom, reframes mom rage through the lens of the nervous system and childhood emotional neglect. She shares her personal story and how EMDR therapy helped her break free from survival patterns passed down through generations.In this episode, you’ll learn:·       Why mainstream narratives about mom rage miss the deeper trauma connection·       How dissociation and “fight mode” show up during rage episodes·       The role of pre-verbal trauma and the nervous system in motherhood✨ Schedule your free virtual consultation here before the new-year rush (open to 🇨🇦 residents of Alberta, Ontario & Quebec)🫶Follow Danik on Instagram, @danikhelpsmomsDISCLAIMER:This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, is not a mental health assessment tool, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

DISCLAIMER: The stories shared in this episode are personal experiences. The views expressed belong to the guest and don’t necessarily reflect those of the host. This episode is not a psychotherapy session and the host has no affiliation to the guest. This episode does not replace psychotherapy or medical advice; it is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.✨WELCOME to another guest episode on the Healing Mothers' Club! Today's guest is Stephanie St-Jean, a survivor, advocate, mom of 2, author and podcast host. Together, we discuss:Stephanie's story and her inspiration for her two books and podcast, Lessons in Discernment;The sneaky ways childhood trauma can link with the trauma caused from an adult relationship;How EMDR therapy and writing have played a key role in Stephanie's healing journey from trauma symptoms, AKA stepping into her authentic self.THANK YOU for being here! Please rate and follow the show, it helps other moms stuck in isolation find the club they didn't know they were looking for❤️You can find Danik on Instagram, @danikhelpsmoms

In this episode of The Healing Mothers’ Club, we continue our mini-series on the impacts of narcissistic abuse on motherhood. If you grew up with narcissistic parents, you know how hard it can be to break the cycle while raising your own children. Today, I’m sharing the key elements of healing that help you move from parenting out of survival mode to parenting with presence, safety, and authenticity.·       Why self-regulation is essential when your child’s big emotions trigger your own survival responses·       The practice of “Emotional Safety Hygiene” and how it strengthens your nervous system·       How EMDR therapy and healthy boundaries support true cycle breaking in motherhood✨ Join the waitlist for my upcoming EMDR group therapy hereDISCLAIMER:This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, is not a mental health assessment tool, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Welcome back to the Healing Mothers’ Club! As part of the mini-series on the effects of narcissistic abuse on motherhood, Danik is joined by Mel Guttman, a licensed IFS therapist who specializes in narcissistic abuse and family estrangement. In today’s episode, we cover:What is self-gaslighting and how to get out of the fog;How IFS Therapy and EMDR Therapy are game-changers for survivors of narcissistic abuse (and how talk therapy can only go so far);Why you may want to maintain a relationship with your narcissistic parent as a mother yourself, even if you logically know maintaining the relationship can be toxic;The “Scapegoat”, the “Golden Child”, and the narcissistic parent dynamic;The moments that make us realize our parent is actually a narcissist (Mel makes a link with the show The Bear on Hulu);The decision of going no-contact, low-contact, or to remain in full contact;The fear our child might become a narcissist.✨ Don’t forget to rate and follow the show – it helps moms find the show and break isolationConnect with Mel Guttman here:Instagram: @fallengoldenchildTikTok: @fallengoldenchildWebsite: https://www.ifswitch.comEmail: melissaguttman@protonmail.com Connect with Danik Bernier here:Instagram: @danikhelpsmomsWebsite (EMDR Therapy in Alberta, Ontario, and Quebec): danikbernier.com❗FREE guide: When the Scapegoat Becomes a Mom (a guide on assertiveness and boundary setting with your narcissistic mother)DISCLAIMER :This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, is not a mental health assessment tool, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

If your child’s tantrums trigger a deep sense of overwhelm, fear, or even rage, this episode is for you. As a mom with a history of emotional neglect or narcissistic abuse, you may be parenting from survival mode without even realizing it. In this episode, I explore how unresolved childhood trauma shows up in motherhood and why your nervous system responds to your child’s big emotions as if they’re a threat. Understanding these trauma patterns is the first step in breaking the cycle.In this episode, I talk about:How emotional neglect from a narcissistic parent resurfaces in parentingWhy moms experience fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses during their child’s meltdownsThe hidden trauma behind mom rage, people-pleasing, and emotional shutdowns✨ FREE GUIDE: When the Scapegoat Becomes a Mom (a guide on assertiveness and boundary setting with your narcissistic mother)Connect with Danik Bernier :Instagram: @danikhelpsmomsPsychotherapy website (Alberta, Ontario, Quebec 🇨🇦): danikbernier.comDISCLAIMER :This podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, is not a mental health assessment tool, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Welcome back to another episode of the Healing Mothers’ Club! In today's episode, we kick off a special mini series where we deep dive into what it's like to do motherhood as a narcissistic abuse survivor.As always this episode is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not meant to replace a mental health assessment or psychotherapy provided by a licensed health professional.Key Points Discussed:What narcissism is according to Dr. Ramani;We briefly touch on Danik's experience as the granddaughter of a covert narcissist;How narcissism abuse from parents shapes the nervous system of their children (and grandchildren), and has lasting impacts in adulthood;What needs to happen in order to break the cycle;How to start visualize your future relationship with the parent presenting with symptoms of narcissism in your life (boundaries or no-contact).!SAVE $47 OFF THE SELF-REGULATION FOR MOMS MASTERCLASS!Offered until September 9th, 2024 ONLY. Your first step towards cycle breaking parenting is here.Connect with Danik:·      Instagram: @danikhelpsmoms·      Click here to download the FREE GUIDE: "When the Scapegoat Becomes a Mom: A Guide on Assertiveness and Boundary Setting with your Narcissistic Mother"DISCLAIMERThis podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

In this episode of The Healing Mothers' Club, Danik Bernier delves into how moms can best prepare for the (unfortunately inevitable) generalized sense of overstimulation that happens when kids go back to school. She gives you tips and tricks on how you can navigate this tough situation so you feel like your family isn't the odd one out and you have a better idea about what needs to be prioritized. Because attunement to our kids' needs is something that we can build.Connect with Danik! :·      Instagram: @danikhelpsmomsDISCLAIMERThis podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

In this episode of The Healing Mothers' Club, Danik Bernier preps us to manage the overstimulation our kids come back from school with. It's almost that time of year where they come back home and it looks like yelling, trash everywhere, and probably you in the bathroom crying trying to manage our overwhelm. Danik encourages us to focus on co-regulation right away. When our kids get home, instead of demands and asking them questions, we want to be ahead of the game (even if they seem calm). They need time to acclimate to their new rhythm of school, as do you! Tune in for more insights and strategies to help you self-regulate and manage expectations when it comes to the new season upcoming for all moms and their children.Resources:1.    Self-Regulation for Moms masterclass2.    The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce D. Perry and Maia SzalavitzConnect with Danik! :·      Instagram·      EMDR Consultation for EMDR trained therapistsDISCLAIMERThis podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

In this episode of The Healing Mothers' Club, Danik Bernier delves into how moms who experienced emotional neglect in childhood can still become attuned and responsive to their children's needs. She explores the reasons behind the challenges these moms face and offers practical tips for developing emotional attunement. Through self-awareness and emotional literacy, Danik provides a compassionate roadmap for mothers to nurture their children with empathy and love, despite their past experiences. Tune in for insights and strategies to help you connect more deeply with your child and yourself.Resources:1.    Self-Regulation for Moms masterclass2.    The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce D. Perry and Maia SzalavitzConnect with Danik! :·      Instagram·      EMDR Consultation for EMDR trained therapistsDISCLAIMERThis podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Welcome back to another episode of the Healing Mothers’ Club! In today's episode, we explore the often overwhelming experience of summer, especially for those without the support of an extended family. Danik shares insights on dealing with the feelings of isolation and deception that many moms face when summer doesn't meet their idealized expectations. From managing overstimulation and anxiety to finding peace in small moments, this episode provides validation and practical advice for healing moms navigating the summer months.Key Points Discussed:The challenges of summer for moms without a support systemThe emotional impact of going no-contact with extended familyThe common feeling of deception when summer doesn't match expectationsThe importance of recognizing the romanticization of summerHow to find moments of peace and self-regulation amidst the chaosReframing summer as a neutral season and accepting its ups and downsConnect with Danik:·      Instagram: @danikhelpsmoms·      Click here to download the free guide to Anger + Self-Regulation (and get on my email list)DISCLAIMERThis podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Hello and welcome to the Healing Mothers’ Club podcast! I’m your host, Danik Bernier, and today I’m addressing a topic that's been highly requested by listeners and Instagram followers: experiencing anger as a mom with childhood trauma.Listen as I explain why anger is a taboo subject, why moms who are childhood trauma survivors might have a really hard time expressing healthy anger, and what to do about it.If you've enjoyed this episode, it would mean the world to me if you could give it 5 stars and leave a review!Resources mentioned:Self-Regulation for Moms MasterclassSign up to my newsletterEpisode 12, "Nervous System Regulation vs. Emotional Regulation for Moms"Connect with me! :Instagram: @danikhelpsmomsDISCLAIMERThis podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Welcome to The Healing Mothers’ Club! I'm Danik Bernier, mom of two, trauma therapist certified in EMDR, and parenting coach for childhood trauma survivors. In this episode, we explore the transformative power of self-regulation through the story of Beatrice, a fictional mom who mirrors the real struggles and victories of many of my clients. Learn how Beatrice moved from feelings of inadequacy and chaos to a more regulated, connected, and peaceful parenting approach. This episode is part of our 7-day mini-series leading up to the Self-Regulation for Moms Masterclass. Enroll now—doors close July 8th at midnight! The link to register is in the show notes. Tune in tomorrow for the final episode of our series. Thank you for listening!Get the Self-Regulation for Moms Masterclass !Connect with Danik:Instagram: @danikhelpsmomsDISCLAIMERThis podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Welcome back to the Healing Mothers' Club. Today we are sharing a very emotional episode, where Danik reads a letter to her past self, as the young mom of a 2 year old in the depths of nervous system dysregulation. The Self-Regulation for Moms masterclass closes on Monday, July 8th at 12:00 AM. Don't miss your chance to take the first step towards trauma-informed parenting!Connect with Danik:Instagram: @danikhelpsmomsDISCLAIMERThis podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Welcome back to the Healing Mothers’ Club with Danik Bernier! In today's episode, we dive into a topic every mom grapples with: Are my child's tantrums normal? And what should I do if they seem to last longer than expected?As we continue day 5 of our 7-day mini-series on self-regulation for moms, we'll explore:Understanding typical vs. concerning tantrum behavior through a trauma-focused lens.The importance of self-regulation for moms to effectively observe and respond to their child's emotional outbursts.How to differentiate between developmentally appropriate expressions of emotions and signs that your child may need additional support.Practical tips for being a safe, empathetic presence for your child during their tantrums.Danik shares her personal experiences and insights, reassuring moms that tantrums, no matter how intense, are a normal part of childhood. She emphasizes the importance of moms addressing their own self-regulation challenges to break the cycle of trauma and be the supportive presence their children need.Join the conversation and discover how to navigate your child's emotional storms with confidence and empathy. Don’t miss out on the special enrollment for the Self-Regulation for Moms masterclass, open until Monday, July 8th at midnight!Take a peak at the Self-Regulation for Moms masterclass hereConnect with Danik:Instagram: @danikhelpsmomsDISCLAIMERThis podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Today on "Healing Mothers' Club", your host Danik Bernier talks about the type of trauma that most often leads moms to not be able to be completely attuned with their kids and to not be able to provide the co-regulation their kids need when they have big feelings. The goal of this episode is not to say that there is a type of trauma that is worse than others, but to explain the fact that was chronically left out for you as a child shows up in motherhood.I go deeper in this topic in my online masterclass, Self-Regulation for Moms. Doors close July 8th, 2024!Connect with Danik:Instagram: @danikhelpsmoms DISCLAIMERThis podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Hello and welcome to the Healing Mothers’ Club podcast! I’m your host, Danik Bernier, and today I’m explaining why most parenting courses out there fail moms with trauma. Unfortunately, most moms can perceive that it is THEM failing at implementing what they are learning in the parenting course they bought, but it's not them. It's the prescriptive parenting methods used.Self-Regulation for Moms masterclass is live! Catch it hereConnect with Danik:·      Instagram: @danikhelpsmomsDISCLAIMERThis podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Hello and welcome to the Healing Mothers’ Club podcast! I’m your host, Danik Bernier, and today we're kick starting a mini series to celebrate the launch of my new online masterclass, Self-Regulation for Moms. Click here to get to the course!Today I explain why I would have needed self-regulation techniques as a mom myself (even though I'm a trained therapist) :·      I couldn't see my child struggling when I was brushing his teeth, therefore causing chronic discomfort and could see the signs of trauma in him;·      I realized that my nervous system was taking me to a place of trauma each time I had to do the bedtime routine;·      I then came up with the techniques I teach you in the masterclass in order to truly become a trauma-informed parent.Get the Self-Regulation for Moms masterclass here !Connect with Danik:·      Instagram: @danikhelpsmomsDISCLAIMERThis podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Hello and welcome to the Healing Mothers’ Club podcast! I’m your host, Danik Bernier, and today I’m explaining the difference between nervous system regulation and emotional regulation. This is a tricky one because we hear so much contradicting information out there!The goal with today’s episode is to leave you feeling like:·      You understand the main differences between the two strategies;·      You understand that it is NOT your fault if you tried one technique and it didn’t help;·      You’re empowered to make informed decisions about what works best for your nervous system.Connect with Danik :·      Instagram is @danikhelpsmoms·      Click here to download the free guide to Anger + Self-Regulation (and get on my email list)·      For therapists seeking clinical consultation, click hereDISCLAIMERThis podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Hello and welcome to the Healing Mothers’ Club podcast! I’m your host, Danik Bernier, and today we’re diving into how childhood trauma can resurface when we become mothers. In previous episodes, I touched on this topic during the postpartum period, but today we'll explore it throughout all stages of motherhood. I’ll be talking about trauma resurfacing in all stages and ways to stick with your plan to become a trauma-informed parent: ·      From postpartum to early childhood ·      teenage years, and·      becoming or staying a trauma-informed parent as the mom of an adult child.Connect with Danik:·      Instagram is @danikhelpsmoms·      Click here to download the free guide to Anger + Self-Regulation (and get on my email list)·      For therapists seeking clinical consultation, click hereDISCLAIMERThis podcast is not meant to replace psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional, does not give medical advice, and does not provide a diagnosis. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.