Parent Like A Psychologist

Travelling with kids can feel like an Olympic-level parenting challenge—especially when anxiety, boredom, or a strong need for control enters the mix. In this episode of Parent Like a Psychologist, we unpack practical, evidence-informed strategies to make family trips smoother and more enjoyable. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The power of preparation: How visual schedules and clear communication ease anxiety. Flexibility within structure: Why alternating “adult” and “kid” days keeps everyone engaged. Boredom busters: Creative ways to keep kids occupied — from scavenger hunts to card games. Reducing stress in transit: Simple safety systems and “no problem-solving zones” during high-stress moments. Kid-centric planning: How giving children choice turns travel into a shared adventure. Key Takeaways: Kids cope better when they know what to expect. Building in choice and familiar activities can turn frustration into fun. Sandwiching challenging activities with enjoyable ones keeps spirits high. A little prep time before the trip leads to a lot more joy during it. Travel is a unique opportunity for growth, connection, and shared memories. Who This Episode Is For: Parents of children with anxiety, ADHD, or other neurodivergent needs. Families who love to travel but want more peace (and fewer meltdowns). Caregivers looking for realistic, evidence-informed strategies. Mentioned in This Episode: Family travel to Athens and the Olympic Stadium Creative kid-friendly detours like visiting the largest outdoor escalator in Washington, D.C. Tips for using museum kids’ guides, scavenger hunts, and flexible schedules Join the Conversation: Got your own travel hacks for kids with different needs? Share your tips on Instagram at @LeanneTransPsychology  or through the website contact form. Listener insights may even feature in an upcoming episode!   Follow me on: Instagram:@leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychologyEmail me: hello@leannetran.com.auVisit my website: learn.leannetran.com.au  

In this episode of Parent Like a Psychologist, host Leanne Tran sits down with Sandrine Alexandre Hughes — part-time lawyer, mum of three, and creator of the online safety resources See Me Together Online and the card games All the Likes and Smoke, Mirrors & Filters. Together, they explore how parents can build their children’s digital resilience and online safety awareness through connection, conversation, and play. Sandrine shares how hearing tragic online stories before the pandemic inspired her to create practical, anxiety-free ways for families to discuss e-safety — long before issues arise. You’ll learn: Why games are a powerful tool for opening conversations about online behaviour and digital literacy. How to start early, keep talks age-appropriate, and “chat early, chat often.” How the card game All the Likes helps children aged 6–12 learn about kindness, privacy, and online boundaries. How Smoke, Mirrors & Filters sparks reflection and discussion among teens and adults about selfies, filters, and social media habits. Why e-safety is a shared responsibility between parents, schools, and society — and how connection offline supports wellbeing online. How families, including those with neurodivergent children, can use play to explore these important topics safely and meaningfully. Leanne and Sandrine also dive into Australia’s new social media legislation, the mixed responses from families, and what it means for helping kids stay connected in healthier, more mindful ways. Tune in for an uplifting and practical conversation that reminds us: The best way to protect kids online is to stay connected offline. Resources Mentioned Website: teamtogetheronline.com  Games: All the Likes (ages 6–12) & Smoke, Mirrors & Filters (ages 15+) Merch: “I’m Your Favorite Notification” caps & mugs Show Notes Email: contact@teamtogetheronline.com  Instagram: @teamtogetheronline.com  Website: www.teamtogetheronline.com  “I am Sandrine, a mother to three kids. I’m French and Australian, and a lawyer by profession — it turns out a lawyer can be a creative entrepreneur too! I started Team Together Online to say goodbye to parental anxiety around online safety and wellbeing. Why a card game? Because what’s better than play to relax, connect, practise skills, and, ultimately, learn? Team Together Online’s mission has now expanded to help all generations improve their online wellbeing. That’s why I created Smoke, Mirrors + Filters (15+ / Adults) — so you can have fun and deep conversations you never thought you’d have!” Listener Bonus Sandrine is offering Parent Like a Psychologist listeners an exclusive 20% discount on All the Likes with the code PARENTING at checkout. Valid for 7 days after the release of this episode (while stocks last). Shop now at: teamtogetheronline.com  Follow me on: Instagram:@leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychologyEmail me: hello@leannetran.com.auVisit my website: learn.leannetran.com.au

In this episode of Parent Like a Psychologist, we dive deep into one of the most overwhelming and confusing challenges parents face: meltdowns. If your child goes from calm to explosive over small things, can’t be reasoned with in the heat of the moment, or leaves the whole family feeling like they’re walking on eggshells—you’re not alone, and you’re not a bad parent. Together, we explore: The key difference between tantrums and meltdowns Why meltdowns happen (and what they’re really communicating) Common triggers like transitions, unexpected changes, sensory overwhelm, fatigue, hunger, and difficult demands What not to do during a meltdown (and why reasoning or escalating doesn’t work) What to do instead—including staying calm, reducing demands, creating safety, and helping your child regulate How to reconnect and reflect after the storm so your child learns and builds coping skills You’ll also hear practical strategies, from using the “cup of capacity” analogy to building a calming plan or kit, that can help prevent meltdowns or make them easier to navigate when they do happen. This episode will leave you feeling reassured, better equipped, and more compassionate—both toward your child and yourself. Remember, meltdowns aren’t a sign of failure. They’re signals. And with the right tools and mindset, you can respond in ways that truly support your child’s emotional needs. If you’re ready to go deeper, check out the Chaos to Calm program, where we work alongside parents to create personalized strategies for understanding and managing meltdowns. Follow me on: Instagram:@leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychologyEmail me: hello@leannetran.com.auVisit my website: learn.leannetran.com.au

In this episode, I dive into one of my favourite things—talking through a book that’s reshaped how I think about parenting. Today, I’m reviewing Differently Wired by Deborah Reber, a powerful blend of memoir, guide, and rallying cry for parents raising children who experience the world in unique ways—whether through ADHD, autism, dyslexia, anxiety, giftedness, or simply not fitting into the "typical" mould. We explore Deborah’s 18 "tilts"—mindset shifts designed to help parents move away from trying to "fix" their kids and instead lean into who they truly are. These tilts aren’t rigid rules, but flexible perspectives you can adopt, adapt, or leave behind depending on what resonates for your family. From questioning traditional parenting advice, to letting go of judgment, to parenting from a place of possibility instead of fear, these ideas are all about matching your child’s needs with your parenting approach. Along the way, I share my reflections as a parent and psychologist, especially on how these ideas translate (and sometimes don’t) into the Australian context. We’ll unpack big themes like acceptance, connection, advocacy, and self-care—plus why embracing your child’s timeline and strengths can transform family life. Whether you’re raising a neurodivergent child or simply looking for fresh perspectives on parenting, this episode offers both encouragement and practical insights. Differently Wired reminds us that our children aren’t broken—they’re just wired differently—and it’s our job to parent them with curiosity, compassion, and confidence.Follow me on: Instagram:@leannetranpsychology Facebook: @Leanne Tran Linked In: @leannetranpsychology Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au

This week’s episode is a little different—less about a single parenting topic and more of a reflection on three unexpected but powerful conversations I had with my teenager. None of them were planned. They unfolded while folding laundry, sitting at the dinner table, and driving home from school. Yet, each one highlighted how simply being present can open the door to deep connection. Here’s what we dive into: ✨ Conversation 1: Saying No Without Hurting a Friend’s Feelings – Supporting teens as they balance boundaries, kindness, and people-pleasing. ✨ Conversation 2: Supporting a Friend Through a Hard Time – Why listening and showing up matter more than having the “perfect” words. ✨ Conversation 3: Dealing With Self-Pressure and Perfectionism – Helping kids reframe achievement with a growth mindset and separate effort from outcome. Throughout these stories, I share how I apply both my psychologist training and my own parenting instincts, weaving in the communication strategies I also teach in my Chaos to Calm program. You’ll hear how keeping things low-pressure and simply “being around” gives our kids the safety to open up. Key takeaway: Parenting teens isn’t about hovering or lecturing—it’s about staying nearby, staying calm, and staying available. Sometimes, it’s the casual, everyday chats that end up mattering most. If this episode resonates with you, please share it with another parent raising a teen. Parenting can feel lonely, but when we share our experiences and tools, we realize we’re all in this together.Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychology Facebook: @Leanne Tran Linked In: @leannetranpsychology Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au

Do you ever find yourself yelling more than you’d like, feeling like the noise, clutter, and constant demands at home never stop? You’re not alone—and this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, we’re diving into practical, realistic ways to create a calmer home environment without needing perfection or exhausting effort. From reducing sensory overload to setting up predictable routines, you’ll learn how small environmental and routine tweaks can make a big difference for both you and your kids. We’ll talk about: Why your home environment matters for stress and regulation (for both parents and kids) How sensory needs—like light, sound, and visual clutter—impact neurodivergent kids (autistic, ADHD, anxious) Practical adjustments you can try, such as soft lighting, quiet zones, and calming corners The role of routines and predictability in reducing stress and meltdowns Why one small change at a time is the key to lasting calm And yes—there’s even a story about my dog going wild over reflections, which perfectly illustrates how changing the environment often works better than pushing for behavior changes. If you’ve been wishing your home felt more peaceful, safe, and supportive, this episode will give you the tools and encouragement to get started—without overwhelm. ✨ Free resources mentioned: https://learn.leannetran.com.au/free Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au

This week on Parent Like a Psychologist, I’m joined by paediatric occupational therapist and author Dave Jereb, whose book Challenging the Story is changing the way parents and professionals think about children’s behaviour. We dive into what it really means to support the people who support the kids—and why connection, not compliance, is the key to helping children thrive. 💡 In this episode, you’ll hear about: Why even experts lose their cool sometimes (and how to repair afterward) The difference between compliance, comfort, chaos, and connected caregiving Dave’s ABC Ideas Framework for understanding behaviours and getting to the “why” behind them How “today’s consequence becomes tomorrow’s antecedent” Practical ways parents can reduce conflict and build stronger relationships with their kids If you’ve ever wished parenting came with a roadmap—or if you’ve felt that sting of reacting in a way you regret—this episode will leave you with tools, hope, and a whole lot of reassurance. 🔗 Show Notes & Links 🌐 MoveAbout Therapy Services  – Philosophy, book, and courses 📸 Instagram (Personal): @davejereb_ot  – Reflections, OT insights, parenting moments 📸 Instagram (MoveAbout): @moveabout.ot  – Therapy activities, parent strategies, team content ▶️ YouTube: MoveAbout Therapy Services  – Videos on regulation, behaviour tools, and OT activities ✨ Available now wherever you get your podcasts! Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au

In this episode of Parent Like a Psychologist, we explore Low Demand Parenting by Amanda Diekman — a compassionate and practical approach gaining attention among parenting circles and neurodivergent communities. Drawing from Diekman’s lived experience as a late-diagnosed PDA autistic woman, pastor, parent coach, and mother of neurodivergent children, the book offers a roadmap for parents raising kids who struggle to meet typical expectations. I unpack the six-step framework Amanda outlines — from assessing and dropping demands to creating safety and building a low-demand life — and share real-world examples to make it tangible (yes, even the dreaded “put on your shoes” scenario). We’ll discuss how this approach differs from permissive parenting, the boundaries it maintains, and why connection-based parenting sits at its heart. Alongside the strengths, I also offer a reality check: what to consider if you can’t completely drop demands due to work, school, or other commitments, and the emotional resilience this approach requires from parents. You’ll hear about: How low demand parenting can lower stress and restore calm at home Practical adjustments to demands without sacrificing safety or values The difference between permissive parenting and intentional, low-demand choices Ways to work with your brain and nervous system as a parent Why professional or peer support can be key when implementing change Whether you’re a parent of a child with high anxiety, strong demand avoidance, or you simply feel like every request turns into a meltdown, this episode provides tools, perspectives, and encouragement. Take what works for your family, leave what doesn’t, and remember — parenting differently takes courage, but it can also bring relief, connection, and hope. Episode Notes & Links: Amanda Diekman’s Information: 📖 Low Demand Parenting – The Book 📸 @lowdemandamanda on Instagram Resources for Families: 🔹 Problem Solving with Your Child – Free Guide Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au

In this powerful and validating episode of Parent Like a Psychologist, I’m joined by the insightful Lisa Chan — former Pediatric Occupational Therapist and creator of the Chaos to Calm course — to unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface of our kids’ challenging behaviors, and what parents can do when traditional parenting approaches just aren’t working. Together, we explore the critical skills that so many neurodivergent children struggle with — sensory overwhelm, executive functioning, and emotional regulation — and how these difficulties are often misunderstood as laziness, defiance, or disorganization. Lisa shares her practical, compassionate approach that helps families move from constant conflict to deeper connection. In this episode, we talk about: Why your child’s behavior isn’t your failure — or theirs How executive functioning struggles show up in everyday life (and how to support them) The real reason your mornings feel like chaos — and how to shift the dynamic Why slowing down is not a weakness, but a necessity for both kids and parents How early support builds long-term independence (without creating dependence) The emotional toll of a world not designed for neurodivergent kids — and how parents can buffer that If you’re raising a child with ADHD, autism, sensory differences, or emotional regulation challenges — and feeling like you're stuck in a cycle of meltdowns, nagging, or guilt — this episode will help you breathe a little easier. You are not alone, and you are not doing it wrong. It’s time to shift the approach. Links & Resources: 🌐 Lisa's website: thelisachan.com 📚 Free tools & guides: thelisachan.com/resources 🎓 Chaos to Calm parenting course: thelisachan.com/course Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au

In this powerful and practical episode of Parent Like a Psychologist, host Leanne Tran, psychologist and parent, explores the unique challenges autistic children face in school environments—and how parents can advocate effectively for the support their kids need. Drawing on her dual perspective as both a psychologist and a parent, Leanne unpacks: Why primary schools can be overwhelming for autistic kids—sensory overload, social fatigue, executive functioning struggles, and masking expectations The invisible signs of stress your child might be experiencing, even if everything looks "fine" at school What meaningful and proactive support looks like in a school setting, including visual schedules, sensory accommodations, movement breaks, social/emotional support, and flexible transition planning How to talk to your child’s teacher and school in a collaborative, empowered way (without feeling like “that parent”) This episode is not about generic checklists—it’s about individualising your child’s support plan based on their real needs and strengths. Leanne also shares a free downloadable guide to help parents start school-based conversations and advocate for their child's wellbeing. You can find it here: https://learn.leannetran.com.au/free Whether your child is already diagnosed, you're in the process of assessment, or you're simply trying to figure out how to help them feel less overwhelmed at school, this episode is full of compassionate advice and actionable steps. Tune in to feel empowered, informed, and ready to help your child not just survive—but thrive—in the classroom.The guide for advocating for your child with confidence is here: 👉 https://learn.leannetran.com.au/free Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au  

How do we become the kind of parent our kids actually need—especially when they’re autistic, neurodivergent, or simply wired differently than we expected? This episode unpacks one of the most essential but often misunderstood parenting skills: attunement—or simply, tuning in. Whether you're raising an autistic child, have ADHD yourself, or just sometimes feel out of sync with your kid, this conversation offers the clarity, tools, and perspective to shift from confusion to connection. What You’ll Learn: What attunement really means—and how it can prevent trauma How to read a child’s unspoken cues and respond in a way that builds trust Why kids don’t need to be “fixed”—just seen, heard, and accepted The role of boundaries, validation, and emotional presence in strengthening the parent-child relationship Simple, actionable steps to help children feel safe to be exactly who they are Rooted in both clinical insight and lived experience, this episode is practical, heartfelt, and deeply affirming. A powerful reminder that perfection isn't the goal—presence is. Why Listen: For any parent wanting their child to grow up knowing they are enough—without having to perform, mask, or change to be loved—this episode is a must-listen. Especially valuable for those raising autistic or neurodivergent children and seeking to build emotional safety, resilience, and lasting connection. Show Notes: ✨ Free Resource: Download the Connection Through Collection guide to help build everyday routines that foster stronger connection: 👉 learn.leannetran.com.au/free Have questions or reflections? Head to the website to get in touch. Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au

In this insightful and heartwarming episode of Parent Like a Psychologist, we return from the school holiday break refreshed—and ready to dive back into a crucial topic in our autism series: why stimming matters for autistic kids. Stimming, or self-stimulatory behavior, often includes repetitive movements, sounds, or phrases like hand flapping, rocking, or echolalia. It’s frequently misunderstood or discouraged by well-meaning adults—but what if we’ve been thinking about it all wrong? This episode reframes stimming not as a problem to fix, but as a vital form of emotional regulation and joyful expression. Drawing on inspiration from the recent Yellow Ladybugs conference (featuring Sandhya Menon from Onwards and Upwards Psychology), we explore: 🔹 Why stims help autistic children regulate their nervous systems 🔹 How suppressing stimming can lead to shutdown, masking, or emotional overwhelm 🔹 The difference between stress stims and joy stims 🔹 Supportive strategies to help your child regulate at home and school 🔹 How to shift your mindset from “How do I stop this?” to “How can I support this?” With warmth, clarity, and practical advice, this episode will empower you to tune into your child’s unique needs, embrace their ways of coping, and support their emotional wellbeing. 💡 A must-listen for parents, educators, and professionals seeking to better understand and support autistic kids—with compassion and respect. 🎙️ Listen now and learn why stimming is more than OK—it’s essential. 🌐 Resources mentioned in the episode: 🧭 Free guide for advocating for your child at school: learn.leannetran.com.au/free 📘 Helpful resources from Sandhya Menon and Onwards and Upwards Psychology: onwardsandupwardspsychology.com.au/worksheets 💛 More about Yellow Ladybugs: yellowladybugs.com.au   Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au

Exploring emotional wellbeing, values-based living, and the courage to grow. In this powerful and heartfelt episode, we’re joined by Dr. Emily Musgrove—clinical psychologist, author of Unstuck, and resident psychologist on The Imperfects podcast—for a deeply resonant conversation about what it means to feel emotionally “stuck,” and how we can move through pain toward healing and growth. With over 14 years of clinical experience, Dr. Musgrove brings a wealth of wisdom and compassion to the discussion, blending psychological insight with real-life tools that listeners can begin applying right away. Her book Unstuck has been widely praised for its unique blend of science, accessibility, and warmth—and this episode brings all of that to life. Key Themes We Explore: 💭 The Nature of Being “Stuck”Dr. Musgrove breaks down what it means to feel stuck—emotionally paralyzed, hopeless, or powerless—and why this very human experience, if prolonged, can erode our sense of purpose and vitality. 🧭 Values as a CompassA central message from Unstuck is the importance of living in alignment with personal values. Values aren’t fixed goals, but guiding directions—like heading west. Even when we stray, we can always return to them. ⚖️ The Pain-Progress ParadoxChange is uncomfortable, but so is stagnation. Dr. Musgrove reminds us that discomfort often signals something meaningful: we hurt because we care. Avoiding pain may keep us safe temporarily but risks long-term disconnection from a meaningful life. 🌬️ Turning Toward DiscomfortHealing involves courageously leaning into what we’d rather avoid. Whether through therapy or guided exercises in her book, Dr. Musgrove emphasizes small, purposeful acts of emotional bravery. 🧘 Practical Tools That LandListeners have shared how deeply engaging the book’s meditations and exercises are—often needing to pause the audiobook mid-drive to fully take them in. These tools are intentionally simple, helping readers take meaningful steps toward emotional change. 🧠 De-stigmatizing TherapyWe also explore the enduring stigma around mental health support. As Emily shares, asking for help isn’t weakness—it’s a profound act of strength. ❤️ Pain and ConnectionUsing the metaphor of a coin, Emily explains how pain and love are two sides of the same emotional currency. To numb one is often to numb both. Special Focus: Parenting Through a Values-Based Lens In the latter part of the episode, we turn toward the emotional complexity of modern parenting—an area where Dr. Musgrove’s insights shine. 🔁 Breaking Automatic CyclesParenting often reactivates old patterns from our own childhoods. Emily shares tools for interrupting stress-driven reactions and creating space for intentional, values-aligned responses. 🧍‍♀️ Generational Shifts & Emotional LaborToday’s parents are more emotionally attuned—but also carry new burdens of guilt and perfectionism. We discuss the beauty and weight of this generational shift, and how self-compassion is essential. 😔 Understanding GuiltEmily helps differentiate between two kinds of guilt: When we act out of alignment with our values (e.g., snapping at a child) When we act in alignment with our needs (e.g., taking time for self-care) This distinction is crucial in easing unnecessary shame and fostering healthier self-understanding. 📘 Pain + Acceptance vs. Pain + StruggleDrawing from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), we explore how pain is inevitable—but suffering arises when we resist it. By turning toward pain with acceptance, we unlock a path to values-based action and growth. Final Takeaway: Hope Through Choice At the heart of Unstuck is a message of profound hope.“You may not be able to control your environment or the things that happen to you,” Emily says, “but in and amongst that pain, there is always a choice around how we show up to it.” This episode is a moving, empowering conversation about resilience, compassion, and reclaiming our agency in the face of life’s hardest moments. Whether you're a parent, a professional, or simply someone navigating a difficult season—this one’s for you. 🎧 Listen now—and maybe bring a notebook. This one stays with you. Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au

Exploring emotional wellbeing, values-based living, and the courage to grow. In this powerful and heartfelt episode, we’re joined by Dr. Emily Musgrove—clinical psychologist, author of Unstuck, and resident psychologist on The Imperfects podcast—for a deeply resonant conversation about what it means to feel emotionally “stuck,” and how we can move through pain toward healing and growth. With over 14 years of clinical experience, Dr. Musgrove brings a wealth of wisdom and compassion to the discussion, blending psychological insight with real-life tools that listeners can begin applying right away. Her book Unstuck has been widely praised for its unique blend of science, accessibility, and warmth—and this episode brings all of that to life. Key Themes We Explore: 💭 The Nature of Being “Stuck” Dr. Musgrove breaks down what it means to feel stuck—emotionally paralyzed, hopeless, or powerless—and why this very human experience, if prolonged, can erode our sense of purpose and vitality. 🧭 Values as a Compass A central message from Unstuck is the importance of living in alignment with personal values. Values aren’t fixed goals, but guiding directions—like heading west. Even when we stray, we can always return to them. ⚖️ The Pain-Progress Paradox Change is uncomfortable, but so is stagnation. Dr. Musgrove reminds us that discomfort often signals something meaningful: we hurt because we care. Avoiding pain may keep us safe temporarily but risks long-term disconnection from a meaningful life. 🌬️ Turning Toward Discomfort Healing involves courageously leaning into what we’d rather avoid. Whether through therapy or guided exercises in her book, Dr. Musgrove emphasizes small, purposeful acts of emotional bravery. 🧘 Practical Tools That Land Listeners have shared how deeply engaging the book’s meditations and exercises are—often needing to pause the audiobook mid-drive to fully take them in. These tools are intentionally simple, helping readers take meaningful steps toward emotional change. 🧠 De-stigmatizing Therapy We also explore the enduring stigma around mental health support. As Emily shares, asking for help isn’t weakness—it’s a profound act of strength. ❤️ Pain and Connection Using the metaphor of a coin, Emily explains how pain and love are two sides of the same emotional currency. To numb one is often to numb both. Special Focus: Parenting Through a Values-Based Lens In the latter part of the episode, we turn toward the emotional complexity of modern parenting—an area where Dr. Musgrove’s insights shine. 🔁 Breaking Automatic Cycles Parenting often reactivates old patterns from our own childhoods. Emily shares tools for interrupting stress-driven reactions and creating space for intentional, values-aligned responses. 🧍‍♀️ Generational Shifts & Emotional Labor Today’s parents are more emotionally attuned—but also carry new burdens of guilt and perfectionism. We discuss the beauty and weight of this generational shift, and how self-compassion is essential. 😔 Understanding Guilt Emily helps differentiate between two kinds of guilt: When we act out of alignment with our values (e.g., snapping at a child) When we act in alignment with our needs (e.g., taking time for self-care) This distinction is crucial in easing unnecessary shame and fostering healthier self-understanding. 📘 Pain + Acceptance vs. Pain + Struggle Drawing from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), we explore how pain is inevitable—but suffering arises when we resist it. By turning toward pain with acceptance, we unlock a path to values-based action and growth. Final Takeaway: Hope Through Choice At the heart of Unstuck is a message of profound hope. “You may not be able to control your environment or the things that happen to you,” Emily says, “but in and amongst that pain, there is always a choice around how we show up to it.” This episode is a moving, empowering conversation about resilience, compassion, and reclaiming our agency in the face of life’s hardest moments. Whether you're a parent, a professional, or simply someone navigating a difficult season—this one’s for you. 🎧 Listen now—and maybe bring a notebook. This one stays with you. Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au  

In this powerful and insightful episode of Parent Like a Psychologist, Dr. Jari Evertsz unpacks one of the most common misconceptions in modern parenting — that teenagers are supposed to behave well all the time. Drawing from her professional expertise and personal experiences as a parent to a 14-year-old, Dr. Evertsz offers a compassionate and realistic view of adolescence, one that invites parents to stop panicking and start understanding. As teenagers navigate hormonal changes, academic pressure, social media, peer influence, and intense shifts in brain development, it’s no wonder their behavior can seem unpredictable or challenging. But Dr. Evertsz reminds us: this isn't a sign of failure — it’s a sign of growth. You’ll learn: Why parents are often shocked by teen behavior — and why that reaction is normal How to shift expectations when your child enters high school Practical strategies for responding to emotional volatility and defiance Why humor, boundaries, and emotional regulation matter more than ever How to support your teen’s development without escalating conflict The importance of focusing on long-term skills like resilience, empathy, and self-regulation Dr. Evertsz also introduces key themes from her book, which includes real-world scripts, boundary-setting advice, and tools to help you respond when things go off the rails. Whether you're raising a teen who’s struggling with everyday challenges or navigating more serious issues like anxiety, behavioral concerns, or learning differences, this episode offers clarity, direction, and reassurance. Parenting teens doesn’t have to feel like survival mode. With the right mindset and skills, you can parent with more confidence, less fear, and a deeper connection to your growing child. Listen now to gain a fresh perspective on parenting teens — and learn why it’s okay that your teenager isn’t perfect. Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au

In this heartfelt and insightful episode, educator and parenting coach Carolyn Aukafolau joins us to unpack the real challenges parents face—and how they can support their children without sacrificing their own well-being. Carolyn brings years of experience working with families, children with additional learning needs, and school systems in Hong Kong. She shares why parenting isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey, and how listening deeply, building trust, and embracing flexibility are essential for raising thriving kids. Through powerful analogies like the “bucket-filling” concept and stories from her own life and career, Carolyn helps parents move from depleted to empowered. We explore why self-care is non-negotiable, how to navigate school transitions, and why trusting your instincts as a parent is vital. Whether you're in the thick of toddlerhood, navigating school anxieties, or simply trying to reclaim your sense of self, this episode will leave you with tools, encouragement, and a sense of calm. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why self-care is critical (and not selfish) for effective parenting The "bucket" analogy: how to fill yours so you can fill your child’s How to navigate parenting advice without losing your own voice Building trust with school systems and professionals The power of routines, mindfulness, and small daily actions How to manage parenting burnout and recognize when you’re nearing it Tips for working through transitions and difficult seasons The hidden mental load of parenting—and how to unpack it Mentioned in This Episode: 🔗 Carolyn Aukafolau's Website: The Parent Oasis 📥 Free Resources from Carolyn: Morning Chaos to Calm Guide Mindfulness for Busy Parents Guide Download them here Connect with Us: 💬 Love this episode? Leave a review and share it with a fellow parent who could use a boost! Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au

Welcome back to Parent Like a Psychologist! In this special episode, I (Leanne—psychologist, parent, and your host) step into my parent shoes during school holidays to reflect on a powerful experience I had at the Yellow Ladybugs conference earlier this month. This episode dives deep into the nuanced and often underrepresented experiences of autistic girls, women, and gender-diverse individuals, focusing on how seemingly “small” daily stressors can compound into developmental trauma for neurodivergent kids—especially when misunderstood or unsupported in school environments. We explore: Why trauma isn't just about one major event, but often about repeated invalidation, sensory overwhelm, and social challenges The concept of the "overflowing bucket" and how chronic stress can lead to meltdowns What schools often get wrong—and what parents tend to understand better—about their autistic children’s needs The cost of masking, perfectionism, and “perfect childing” on neurodivergent children How parents can foster resilience, model self-advocacy, and create authentic connection at home You’ll hear reflections and key takeaways from two phenomenal speakers: Monique Mitchelson, autistic psychologist and founder of Divergent Futures Em Hammond, aka Neurowild, creator of beautiful and practical resources that empower families to understand and support their autistic children Whether you're new to these ideas or well along your journey, this episode offers both compassionate validation and actionable strategies to help you be the safe base your child needs. Resources & Links from this Episode: 🎗️ Yellow Ladybugs – An autistic-led, neuro-affirming organisation: 🔗 Website: https://www.yellowladybugs.com.au/ 📸 Instagram: @yellowladybugs_autism Em Hammond – NeuroWild: 🔗 Instagram: @neurowild_ 📚 Resources for parents & educators: Em’s TPT Store – NeuroWild ✨ Recommended resource: Em’s guide to supporting autistic kids through self-advocacy, unmasking, and fostering emotional safety Monique Mitchelson – Autistic Psychologist: 🔗 Instagram: @monique.mitchelson.nd.psych 🧭 Free downloads and supports: Divergent Futures – Free Resources Featured concept: “The Overflowing Bucket” – a powerful analogy for understanding how everyday stress builds in neurodivergent kids and what you can do to help prevent meltdowns and support recovery  Want to keep learning? Stick around for the next few episodes, where I’ll share more reflections from the conference—covering topics like attuned parenting, neuro-affirming support, and helping our children build resilience through their strengths.  If this episode resonated with you, consider subscribing, rating, or sharing it with someone who needs it. You’re not alone—and together we can change the way we support autistic kids, one family at a time.   Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au

In this inspiring episode, host Leanne Tran chats with Ashlee Bazley—parent of four neurodivergent children, proud ADHDer, and founder of Absolute Ability Support Services. Ashlee shares her powerful story, from the ups and downs of parenting to her journey of personal growth and professional advocacy for neurodivergent families. ✨ What you’ll hear in this episode: The power of routines and why they matter Behaviour as communication: decoding what’s really going on Self-regulation tips for both parents and kids Building a flexible, evolving parenting toolbox Insights into Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) How to advocate for your child at school and beyond Ashlee brings empathy, real-world experience, and practical advice for parents, carers, and educators navigating the neurodivergent journey. 🔗 Connect with Absolute Ability Support Services: Website: www.absoluteabilitysupportservices.com.au Facebook: Absolute Ability Support Services Ready for more insight and support? 👉 Tune in now for a real, relatable conversation on raising and supporting neurodivergent children—with compassion, patience, and purpose.   Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychology Facebook: @Leanne Tran Linked In: @leannetranpsychology Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au

Welcome to a fresh episode of Parent Like a Psychologist with Leanne Tran, psychologist and parent coach. Today, Leanne takes a deep dive into Mel Robbins’ “Let Them Theory”—the viral parenting idea about letting go of control and embracing emotional maturity. But this isn’t your average book review. Leanne unpacks the theory with both heart and expertise, offering a real-world perspective for parents—especially those raising neurodivergent kids—who feel overwhelmed by outside expectations and unsure how to support their children authentically. What’s Inside This Episode? Clinical Insight Meets Real Life: Leanne carefully examines “Let Them Theory,” highlighting both its strengths and its shortcomings. She connects Robbins’ ideas to established psychological practices like Stoicism, Radical Acceptance, and ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), showing where the theory is helpful and where it might fall short. Ethics Over Hype: With a professional lens, Leanne addresses the gap between catchy advice and genuine psychological responsibility. She calls out the overpromising language often found in pop psychology, but also shares how to take the useful parts and leave the rest. Parenting Neurodivergent Kids: This episode is especially valuable for parents of autistic or neurodivergent children. Leanne explains how “letting go” can empower kids when it’s adapted thoughtfully—offering guidance on low-stakes choices, gentle structure, and positive, neuroaffirming support. Practical Tools You Can Use: From homework battles to public meltdowns, Leanne gives specific, actionable examples of when to step back (“let them”) and when to step in (“let me”). You’ll get a toolkit of strategies to help you respond with calm, support, and intention. Reducing Parental Pressure: Leanne validates the guilt and stress so many parents feel. She encourages listeners to release unrealistic expectations and focus on what matters most: being present, connected, and authentic with their kids. Key Takeaway: Perfect parenting isn’t the goal—authentic, thoughtful parenting is. Sometimes, the bravest thing you can do is let go of control and lean into connection, honoring your child’s unique needs. Tune in to: Set boundaries with confidence and less conflict Find peace and presence in your parenting Learn psychology-backed tools for neurodivergent kids Let go of guilt and unrealistic standards Whether you’re in the thick of parenting challenges or just need a new perspective, this episode offers practical wisdom and a dose of empathy. Listen now—and give yourself permission to parent with more ease and less pressure. Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au

In this insightful episode, we dive deep into the complex world of ADHD at school—and most importantly, what your child’s teacher needs to know to support them effectively. Whether you're navigating primary school or high school, the challenges are real—but with the right knowledge and scaffolding strategies, the journey can become smoother for everyone involved. What we cover in this episode: Why school is harder than it looks for children with ADHD The core executive functioning struggles: attention regulation, working memory, and impulse control Common misunderstandings teachers may have (like “They just need to try harder” or “They’re being disruptive on purpose”) Practical, teacher-friendly strategies like chunking instructions, visual aids, built-in movement, and celebrating effort—not just outcomes How parents can partner with teachers to advocate without overstepping, using compassion and collaboration This episode is grounded in real clinical experiences and includes specific, actionable tools that educators can start using right away. Bonus Resource: Don’t forget to download the free fact sheet for primary school teachers to share with your child’s teacher: Copy and Download here: file:///C:/Users/Admin/Downloads/ADHD%20for%20Primary%20Teachers.pdf Let’s change the conversation around ADHD in schools—by equipping teachers, empowering parents, and supporting kids exactly where they are. Follow me on: Instagram: @leannetranpsychologyFacebook: @Leanne TranLinked In: @leannetranpsychology   Email me: hello@leannetran.com.au Visit my website: www.leannetran.com.au