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She's won races most people can't finish. Built businesses. Commanded stages. But relationships? That's where the pattern kept breaking. Danica Patrick joins Adam Lane Smith and Andrey Korikov for a raw conversation about why high-achieving women keep attracting emotionally unavailable men: and what actually has to change. In this video:  → The "quiet disorganized" attachment pattern most successful women don't know they have  → Why making life easy for men destroys the bond you're trying to build  → The four levels of safety men must provide: and where most fail  → Adam's three-date method for filtering out avoidant men fast  → How to stop erasing yourself in relationships  → The CEO/COO model that lets you stay in your feminine at home  → Why male discomfort is actually a good sign 📚 WORK WITH ME 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–26, 2026 | San Diego, California 3 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?ut... 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://adamlanesmith.com/private-coa... 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-... 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup

Why is dating broken?  Why are young men flooding back to church?  In this conversation, I sit down with Patrick Coffin: Catholic broadcaster, close-up magician, and host of The Patrick Coffin Show. We go deep on the real reasons relationships are falling apart: and it goes back further than you think. We cover:  → Why dating is a failed concept (and what humans actually need)  → The 3 "divorces" that broke Western civilization  → How your image of God shapes your attachment style  → Why empaths and narcissists can't stop finding each other  → The difference between emotional permanence and emotional impermanence  → What the Traditional Latin Mass has to do with secure attachment  → Why "spiritual but not religious" is code for "I don't want to be challenged"  → The biochemistry of feeling loved (oxytocin, vasopressin, and cortisol)  → How to repair after conflict: the skill most families lost 120 years ago Plus: Patrick performs a live magic trick that lands. This is the intersection of faith, neuroscience, and attachment theory: the stuff that actually changes how you bond. 🔗 RESOURCES MENTIONED: Patrick Coffin's Podcast: https://patrickcoffin.media  True North Community: https://patrickcoffin.media 📚 WORK WITH ME: 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–26, 2026 | San Diego, California 3 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=retreat 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/ 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/ 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/ 🎙️ ABOUT THIS CHANNEL: I'm Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist. I've spent 16 years helping people understand how their brain learned to bond: and how to change it. I work with anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles to build secure relationships that actually last. Subscribe for weekly videos on attachment, relationships, and the psychology of connection.

Dr. Chris Lee opens with the truth most people avoid: men are dying from loneliness.  In this conversation, Adam Lane Smith and Dr. Chris Lee break down the science of emotional regulation, why your amygdala hallucinates up to 340% more threats if you have insecure attachment, and why scheduling your feelings might be the most counterintuitive (and effective) thing you ever do. About Dr. Chris Lee: Neuroscience researcher, consultant, father, homeschool parent. Lost his father to suicide at 22, had his daughter two weeks later. Built his career understanding why men suffer in silence and how to break the pattern. 🔗 Instagram: @drchrislee  🔗 Website: drchrislee.com About Adam Lane Smith: The Attachment Specialist. 17 years married. Six children (number six on the way). Helping one billion people become securely attached. 🔗 RESOURCES: 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–26, 2026 | San Diego, California 3 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=retreat 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ  Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/ 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/ #mentalhealth #mensmentalhealth #suicide #loneliness #attachment #emotionalintelligence #stressmanagement #cortisol #relationships #healing

New Year's Sale. Up to 40% Off All Programs https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/nynm?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=nyny RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE 2026 April 23 to 26 | San Diego, California https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=retreat 🔗 Attachment Assessment: Dr. Orion Taraban returns to break down what most relationship advice gets completely wrong. We dive into the neurochemistry behind attraction and commitment: dopamine, oxytocin, vasopressin, cortisol; and why chasing "good feelings" is destroying modern relationships. Adam reveals the Secure Loyalty Equation he and Andrey developed, explaining why purpose and shared challenges create bonds that last decades. We cover:  → Why "love bombing" actually works (and what that reveals)  → The 58 to 63 day window for rewiring attachment patterns  → What the prairie vole experiments teach us about human monogamy  → Building a 1000 year family legacy vs. optimizing for immediate happiness  → The spiritual case for non;attachment in relationships 🔗 Dr. Taraban's new book Starry Night: https://amzn.to/4sGcqOY Find him: youtube.com/@OrionTaraban About Adam Lane Smith: Attachment specialist. 17 years married. Author and coach helping one billion people become securely attached. 🔗 Website: adamlanesmith.com 🔗 Attachment Assessment: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/ 🔗 Attachment Repair Program: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/ 🔗 Retreat: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=retreat 🔗 New Year's Sale: Uutm_source=youtube&utm_medium=nynybundle.adamlanesmith.com/nynm?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=nyny

You're lonely. Not because you're broken. Not because something's wrong with you. Because you're trying to get all your connection from one person. Krista Williams built her business with her best friend Lindsay. Stayed married for years. Got divorced. And discovered something that changed everything: her deepest sense of security didn't come from her husband. It came from her friendships. 66% of millennials feel lonely every single day. Not because they're alone: many have partners. They're lonely because they've made one person responsible for all their emotional needs. That's not a relationship. That's a hostage situation. In this conversation, Adam Lane Smith and Krista Williams break down why friendships matter more than romantic relationships for emotional health, how to conduct a friendship audit, and what happens to your nervous system when you finally let other people in. This is about building the foundation that makes romance possible.

She's giving him everything. Reducing friction. Avoiding hard questions. Making him comfortable.  Hoping he'll finally step up. He won't. Not because he's broken. Because you've told him everything is fine. Kelsey Wonderlin coaches women out of the patterns that keep them stuck: attaching too fast, ignoring red flags, and failing to have the conversations that actually build relationships. In this episode, Adam Lane Smith and Kelsey break down the three mistakes women make in dating: bonding before vetting, compatibility testing too late, and waiting for men to lead conversations they should be co-creating. About Kelsey Wonderlin: Dating coach specializing in helping women attract emotionally available partners. Creator of the Magnetic Dating Lab and the weed-out question framework. 🔗 Instagram: @kelseywonderlin  🔗 Free Masterclass: How to Attract Emotionally Available Men | https://coaching.kelseywonderlin.com/3-things-free-opt-in About Adam Lane Smith: Attachment specialist. Author. 17 years married. Helping one billion people become securely attached. 🔗 Website: adamlanesmith.com  🔗 Attachment Assessment: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/ 🔗 Attachment Repair Program: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/

What if choosing the right partner is the most important decision a man makes? Schafer explains how leadership, respect, and healthy dynamics create attraction, loyalty, and lasting partnership. Topics Covered: 👉 Why choosing a wife is the most important decision in a man’s life 👉 The hidden damage caused by “mothering” and nagging dynamics 👉 How positive reinforcement builds loyalty and emotional safety 👉 The Executive Partner model and how to challenge without conflict 👉 Treating marriage like a team instead of a battleground 👉 Why becoming a high-value man matters more than “finding” the right woman 👉 How vision, legacy, and future generations motivate discipline 👉 The biochemical bonding effects of solving problems together 👉 A practical nervous system reset that strengthens connection during stress If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam  Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: 1- https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  2- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  3- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  4- https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  5- https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  If you want to know your attachment style , take our free attachment quiz: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1 Adam Schafer: IG: https://www.instagram.com/mindpumpadam/ Website: https://www.mindpumpmedia.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/ ⁨@MindPumpShow⁩   #marriageadvice #relationshipgrowth #highvalueman

Why do so many marriages fail even when both partners try to keep things 50/50? This episode breaks down why that model creates tension and what actually makes a marriage strong. Topics Covered: 👉 Why 50/50 marriages create resentment for both men and women 👉 The difference between leading your wife vs. leading the marriage 👉 Why most men want to lead but were never taught how in marriage 👉 How responsibility—not feelings—is the foundation of masculine love 👉 The CEO model of marriage and why it outperforms equality-based roles 👉 How lack of leadership drains intimacy, connection, and desire in marriage 👉 Why waiting for your partner to “do their part” weakens a marriage 👉 How safety, trust, and attraction grow when a man takes ownership of the marriage If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam  Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: 1- https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  2- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  3- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  4- https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  5- https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  If you want to know your attachment style , take our free attachment quiz: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1 Quentin Hafner: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/quentin_hafner/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/QuentinHafner Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-quentin-hafner-podcast/id1507009007

Can relationship stress literally make someone sick? From cortisol spikes to blood sugar dysregulation, this discussion reveals how emotional conflict is processed by the body as a survival threat.  Topics Covered: 👉 How chronic relationship stress creates a cortisol association with a partner 👉 Why psychological stress alone can spike blood sugar 👉 Acute vs chronic stress and its impact on metabolism 👉 The long-term health risks linked to insecure attachment 👉 How oxytocin buffers anxiety and suppresses cortisol 👉 Why stress drives rigid habits and poor coping behaviors 👉 The communication gap between problem-solving and emotional regulation 👉 Why validation strengthens connection without admitting fault 👉 The biological equation behind attraction, bonding, and commitment 👉 Emotional impermanence and the cycle of reassurance seeking If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam  Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: 1- https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  2- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  3- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  4- https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  5- https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  If you want to know your attachment style , take our free attachment quiz: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1 Nick Norwitz: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicknorwitz/?hl=en YT: https://www.youtube.com/@UCLTZUJSEulehPtF_ytFiU_A  Website: https://www.nicknorwitz.com/ #relationshiphealth #attachmenttheory #emotionalregulation

What does a truly masculine role look like in a healthy marriage? Daniele explains how masculine presence, emotional safety, and respect create trust, connection, and long-term stability Topics Covered: 👉 emotional safety as a core masculine responsibility in marriage 👉 why women need security to bring their best selves 👉 masculine listening and how it strengthens connection 👉 why men retreat from emotion and how it harms the marriage 👉 commitments required from both partners 👉 what a man provides: safety, provision, character 👉 what a woman provides: respect, peace, support 👉 how to handle mistakes and vulnerability in a healthy, masculine way If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam  Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: 1- https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  2- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  3- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  4- https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  5- https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  If you want to know your attachment style , take our free attachment quiz: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1 Daniele Hage Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danielehage/ YT: https://www.youtube.com/@danielehage X: https://x.com/danielehage?lang=en

Are anxious men unknowingly sabotaging their love life? This video breaks down how anxious attachment affects dating, relationships, and self-worth and how to shift toward secure, confident patterns. Topics Covered: 👉 Anxious Attachment & Perceived Lack of Leverage 👉 Using Humor in Attachment Work 👉 Dating Struggles: Lack of Safety Cues 👉 Anxious Dating Behaviors 👉 Biological Basis of Anxiety in Dating 👉 Importance of Value & Boundaries 👉 Shifting from Victim to Hero Mindset 👉 The Cycle of Seeking Oxytocin & Dopamine 👉 Why Therapy Often Fails 👉 Timeline & Definition of Secure Attachment Transform anxious patterns by building value, setting boundaries, and taking consistent action. Relationships improve when fear no longer drives behavior. If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam  Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: 1- https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  2- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  3- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  4- https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  5- https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  If you want to know your attachment style , take our free attachment quiz: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1 Trevor Hanson: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ArtofHealingbyTrevor Website: theartofhealingbytrevor.com/from-anxious-to-secure Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theartofhealingbytrevor/?hl=en

Wondering why your wife stopped wanting sex? Discover the real reasons sexual desire fades in marriage and how emotional connection, hormones, and communication play a role. Topics Covered: 👉 How emotional connection impacts sexual desire 👉 The role of hormones in reigniting libido 👉 Oxytocin and the bonding process in marriage 👉 Repairing conflicts to restore intimacy 👉 Collaborative experiments to improve connection 👉 Daily practices to build emotional closeness 👉 Defining roles and shared vision for long-term intimacy Transform your relationship by understanding the key drivers of intimacy. Learn how communication, connection, and hormones can reignite desire. Focus on Sex and start building a stronger bond today. If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam  Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: 1- https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  2- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  3- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  4- https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  5- https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  If you want to know your attachment style , take our free attachment quiz: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1 Monica Almaguer: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ModernMarriageWithMonica/featured Website: skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/DRQ5kerktKA/

Ever wonder what Porn really does to your brain? Dr. Trish Leigh explains how it hijacks dopamine, damages intimacy, and undermines trust and emotional safety in relationships. Topics Covered: 👉 Porn as a dopamine-driven addiction 👉 How Porn disconnects men from real partners during intimacy 👉 Why betrayal trauma becomes a nervous system crisis 👉 Why healthy relationships require zero exposure to Porn or explicit digital content 👉 Escalation patterns and how the brain bonds to fantasy 👉 Objectification and “tool-use” brain activation after Porn exposure 👉 QEEG brain mapping and how it validates real addiction patterns 👉 Sexual Arousal Dysfunction linked to Porn and the arousal gap 👉 The woman’s boundary-setting role in addressing Porn as an addictive behavior 👉 The impact of Porn on relationship breakdowns and divorce rates If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam  Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: 1- https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  2- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  3- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  4- https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  5- https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  If you want to know your attachment style , take our free attachment quiz: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1  Dr. Trish Leigh: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrTrishLeigh Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtrishleigh/?hl=en Website: https://drtrishleigh.com/

What happens when high-performing moms carry hidden pain no one sees? This episode exposes the emotional cost of perfection, attachment wounds, and the struggle to feel safe in love and motherhood. Topics Covered 👉 The unseen emotional pain behind high-performing motherhood 👉 How childhood instability shapes attachment and coping 👉 The “quiet disorganized” attachment style explained 👉 Emotional detachment as a stress survival mechanism 👉 Healing and self-awareness after divorce 👉 Nervous-system regulation and the need for safety 👉 The guilt around self-care for high-achieving women 👉 Reconnecting with emotions and authentic love Behind every high-performing mom is often a nervous system in overdrive. True strength comes not from perfection but from reconnecting, feeling, and allowing love to be safe again. If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam  Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: 1- https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  2- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  3- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  4- https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  5- https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  If you want to know your attachment style , take our free attachment quiz: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1

What happens when attachment makes love something you have to earn? Adam and Annie uncover how childhood trauma and disorganized attachment make people perform for love instead of feeling safe being real. TOPICS COVERED: 👉 The hidden pain of growing up unseen and emotionally neglected 👉 How childhood trauma leads to disorganized attachment 👉 The difference between loud and quiet disorganized attachment 👉 Why many people equate love with performance and compliance 👉 The psychological cost of people-pleasing and self-abandonment 👉 Why traditional therapy sometimes misses attachment wounds 👉 How coaching and brain rewiring can help restore authentic love If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam  Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: 1- https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  2- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  3- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  4- https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  5- https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  If you want to know your attachment style , take our free attachment quiz: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1

What happens when toxic attachment feels like love? Maggie opens up about an 11-year relationship marked by addiction and emotional chaos, uncovering how her father’s betrayal shaped her patterns and need to rescue others. ✨ Topics Covered ✨ 👉 The link between childhood trauma and adult relationship patterns 👉 The invisible caretaker role and how it develops 👉 Addiction’s hidden impact on intimacy and integrity 👉 Why women often ignore red flags or avoid hard questions 👉 Understanding “micro-cheating” and emotional leakage 👉 How disorganized attachment fuels people-pleasing 👉 The connection between parental infidelity and fear of abandonment 👉 Building awareness to break generational attachment cycles If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam  Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: 1- https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  2- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  3- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  4- https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  5- https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  If you want to know your attachment style , take our free attachment quiz: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1

What happens when Quiet Disorganized Attachment makes love feel unsafe but loneliness unbearable? Adam reveals how this hidden attachment style forms, why it’s so misunderstood, and how healing begins. Topics Covered:  👉 What Quiet Disorganized Attachment looks like in relationships 👉 The childhood roots of this attachment style (unsafe and demanding parents) 👉 How trauma creates emotional shutdown and perfectionism 👉 Why psychology often overlooks or misdiagnoses this attachment pattern 👉 The key differences between “loud” and “quiet” disorganized attachment 👉 How fear, shame, and survival instincts shape adult behaviors 👉 Steps toward recognizing and healing Quiet Disorganized Attachment If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam  Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: 1- https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  2- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  3- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  4- https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  5- https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  If you want to know your attachment style , take our free attachment quiz: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1 UXDoyhkJKN93LAPNHs7Q  

What happens when an avoidant man is confronted with the emotional truths his partner has been holding back?  In this episode, Adam invites a couple to face nine brutally honest relationship challenges. The conversation dives into emotional shutdowns, loyalty issues, and the impact of childhood wounds — revealing what avoidance looks like when love and vulnerability collide. ✨Topics Covered: 👉 The avoidant partner’s emotional response to jealousy and control 👉 Why loyalty is the most important value for avoidant men 👉 How childhood trauma shapes attachment and defensiveness 👉 The fiancée’s honest feedback and hopes for their relationship 👉 Adam’s therapeutic approach to reframing criticism as care 👉 The meaning of emotional safety and repair in avoidant dynamics 👉 Insights into building trust after past betrayal If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam  Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: 1- https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  2- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  3- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  4- https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  5- https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  If you want to know your attachment style , take our free attachment quiz: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1

Why do avoidant men struggle so much with love, vulnerability, and connection?  In this video, we break down how avoidant attachment forms, why it creates barriers in relationships, and what can actually be done to move forward. Topics Covered:  👉 What is attachment? 👉The difference between secure and insecure attachment 👉 How avoidant attachment shows up in men’s behavior and language 👉 The hidden stress avoidant men experience (despite appearing calm) 👉 Disorganized attachment and its two subtypes: loud vs quiet 👉 Variations within avoidant men: ethical vs manipulative avoidant 👉 Practical steps to shift avoidant patterns and grow toward secure attachment 👉 Why rewiring attachment behaviors takes time and repetition 👉 A real-life case study of transforming attachment patterns Want to go deeper? Join me for this free training and learn practical strategies to overcome avoidant attachment and build stronger relationships https://get.adamlanesmith.com/freeregistration If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam  Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: 1- https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  2- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  3- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  4- https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  5- https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  If you want to know your attachment style , take our free attachment quiz: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1

Why does avoidant attachment make it so hard to feel close, even in loving relationships? For many men, emotional distance isn’t a lack of love—it’s a stress-driven response that blocks connection. This video unpacks the psychology and biology behind avoidant patterns and offers tools to create healthier intimacy. Topics Covered 👉 Emotional shutdown and chronic unavailability in avoidant men 👉 The “cone of death” metaphor for limited tolerance of closeness under stress 👉 How stress blocks oxytocin receptors and hinders bonding 👉 Practical tools like breathing and nervous system regulation 👉 The difficulty avoidant men have with receiving praise or validation 👉 The importance of intentional connection and balanced effort in relationships 👉 Recognizing overservice and its role in creating emotional distance 👉 Shifting from constant stress mode into rest and relaxation for better connection Want to go deeper? Join me for this free training and learn practical strategies to overcome avoidant attachment and build stronger relationships https://get.adamlanesmith.com/freeregistration If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam  Work with Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist: 1- https://adamlanesmith.com/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  2- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-love-an-avoidant-man/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  3- https://adamlanesmith.com/product/the-attachment-bootcamp/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  4- https://adamlanesmith.com/work-with-me/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  5- https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-repair/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Want to learn your attachment style, and sign up for Adam's weekly newsletter? Click the link below to receive your copy and sign up now. https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  If you want to know your attachment style , take our free attachment quiz: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social  Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro  X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith  Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/  I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1