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Why Anxious Guys Struggle in Love (And How to Fix It)

Why Anxious Guys Struggle in Love (And How to Fix It)

Update: 2025-11-28
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Are anxious men unknowingly sabotaging their love life? This video breaks down how anxious attachment affects dating, relationships, and self-worth and how to shift toward secure, confident patterns.


Topics Covered:

👉 Anxious Attachment & Perceived Lack of Leverage

👉 Using Humor in Attachment Work

👉 Dating Struggles: Lack of Safety Cues

👉 Anxious Dating Behaviors

👉 Biological Basis of Anxiety in Dating

👉 Importance of Value & Boundaries

👉 Shifting from Victim to Hero Mindset

👉 The Cycle of Seeking Oxytocin & Dopamine

👉 Why Therapy Often Fails

👉 Timeline & Definition of Secure Attachment


Transform anxious patterns by building value, setting boundaries, and taking consistent action. Relationships improve when fear no longer drives behavior.


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Why Anxious Guys Struggle in Love (And How to Fix It)

Why Anxious Guys Struggle in Love (And How to Fix It)

Adam Lane Smith & Andrey Korikov