Discover
BeThatHealingGirl Podcast
BeThatHealingGirl Podcast
Author: bethathealinggirl
Subscribed: 121Played: 1,689Subscribe
Share
© Copyright 2023 All rights reserved.
Description
Listen up Girlies!! Healing isn’t just a (hot girl) walk in the park, it’s a damn journey. The BeThatHealingGirl Podcast is all about busting old school dating myths, breaking down our childhood traumas, unlearning our bad habits and healing your way to your DREAM LIFE! Let’s keep it real and begin to heal because honestly… eff that guy not texting you back, stop worrying about being liked, it’s time to let go of anxious attachment behaviors, start getting comfortable with being vulnerable and know your damn worth! So stop wishing you were her, join the journey and BE that healing girl.
105 Episodes
Reverse
We’ve always agreed we didn’t want kids.
But suddenly, with a hysterectomy on the table…
I felt wobbly.
And there was this tiny part of me whispering, “If I bring up my 'unsureness'… is everything going to change?” In my past relationships, feeling unsure or changing my mind felt like a no-go zone.
I could be decisive and confident everywhere else… (hello career overachiever with receipts)
but inside my relationships, I was terrified that my truth would ruin everything. My inner perfectionist would jump straight into action:
“Nothing to see here! I’m calm! I’m chill!”
Meanwhile my body was in a full panic on the inside. And the thing I learned the hard way in those old push-pull dynamics was this:
the more honest I was (with him and myself), the closer we became.
Pretending never protected anything 🚨NEWS FLASH🚨 it just protects our fear. So when I finally got real with Craig about how this news made me feel…
how something inside of me shifted around the idea of kids now that the option might be taken away…
he didn’t freak out.
He didn’t it shut down.
He didn’t make it weird. He listened.
He stayed with me.
He held the moment instead of turning away from it. And that’s when it hit me more clearly than ever hiding never helps.
It only hurts. Because the second you start censoring yourself to “keep the peace,” the peace is already gone.
You can’t stay connected AND abandon yourself at the same time.
Changing your mind isn’t wrong.
Feeling something new isn’t wrong.
Saying it out loud is what keeps you close, to your partner and to yourself.
🦋 Ready for the deeper work?
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
This week, we’re diving deep into a topic I know hits home for so many high-achieving, anxious girlies: why stillness can feel so unsafe when you have relationship anxiety.
If you ever catch yourself spiraling because the vibe feels “off,” or if a little space in communication has you convinced the whole relationship is doomed…this episode is for you.
Inside this episode, I’m sharing:
✨ Why anxious attachment makes rest and stillness feel dangerous
✨ How I learned to stop overfunctioning and start receiving love (hint: it took surgery and a lot of surrender)
✨ What my explant and fibroid journeys taught me about safety, slowing down, and trusting myself
✨ The belief I had to UNLEARN in order to feel secure in my body and my relationships
✨ Why stillness is a skill (especially if you grew up in a high-pressure, achievement-driven household)
✨ How I support Healing Girl Gang members in rewiring their nervous systems for safety and self-trust
✨ A powerful listener Q&A about breaking the cycle of anxious spiraling in a secure relationship
Whether you’re a career rockstar, business owner, or have a few letters behind your name (MD, RN, Esq, PhD…) — and yet still feel like a mess when someone doesn’t text back, you’re in the right place.
This episode isn’t about fixing you... it’s about helping you feel safe enough to finally rest, receive, and trust yourself and your partner. If you’re ready to learn how to stop self-sabotaging and start feeling safe in love, hit play.
And if you’re craving step-by-step support, come join us inside The Healing Girl Gang (where we practice these tools every single month!)
🦋 Ready for the deeper work?
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
If you're constantly planning, smoothing things over, doing the most in your relationship while low-key wondering “Why can’t they just do more??” — this episode is for you.
💥 If you're a high-achieving, hyper-capable girly who’s exhausted from holding it all together in love, this is your sign to stop performing and start receiving. Period.
👀 In this episode, I break down:
• The sneaky ways anxious attachment disguises itself as “being helpful”
• Why trying to “earn love through effort” is killing your intimacy
• How overgiving actually blocks your partner from stepping up
• What it really means to feel chosen without performing
• How to stop managing your relationship like a second job
• What to do instead — so you feel prioritized and adored
🎧 We also get into:
• A client win that had me in my feels 🥹 (from overthinking queen to secure & supported)
• A peek inside what’s working inside Healing Girl Gang
• How my husband Craig reminded me (with an accent wall no less 😅) what can happen when we let go and receive
This one’s part tough love, part best friend pep talk, and all soul truth. Because you don’t need to earn love. You deserve to feel it, just as you are.
👇 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG Weekly trainings, nervous system resets, and live support so you stop spiraling and start receiving: HealingGirlGang.com
🦋 Ready for the deeper work?
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
In this episoe we’re talking about how to feel like a priority in your relationship... without slipping into overthinking, over‑analyzing every text, or feeling like you’re “asking for too much.”
This episode is for you if:
• You know they care about you… but you can’t always feel it
• You find yourself checking for proof or reassurance
• You are tired of being the one initiating, planning, or emotionally leading
• Your brain does wind sprints when there’s space or distance in the relationship
• You’re successful in every other area of life, but your nervous system goes ✨ feral✨ in love
Trust me, I’ve lived this. I went from anxiously attached (and chronically exhausted from managing the relationship in my head) to actually feeling chosen, safe, and prioritized in a secure partnership. And we’re unpacking exactly how that shift happens today. 💛
🌙 If you're new: I’m Clare! Relationship and attachment coach for high‑achieving women who are incredible at life… but feel wobbly in love. MDs, founders, attorneys, academics, corporate powerhouses - the girlies who “have their life together” but still spiral at the slow text response? Yep. You’re home.
Love you, mean it. x Clare 🤍
🦋 Ready for the deeper work?
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
You're not needy. You're just healing! In this episode, I’m sharing how I accidentally rewired my anxious attachment into a secure one...without forcing it, faking it, or labeling myself as “crazy.”
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering:
“Why am I spiraling when everything is fine?” “Why do I panic when things finally feel safe?” …or “Why can’t I just stay calm in a good relationship?” This one’s for you, bb 🫶
👇Here’s what we’re unpacking today:
✨ Why your brain freaks out when your body finally relaxes
✨ How “self-awareness” can actually be a form of over-control
✨ Why you still feel unsafe in a healthy relationship
✨ What it really means to self-regulate vs. spiral
✨ The power of experiencing consistent love (instead of just talking about it)
✨ And how your partner’s stability can rewire your nervous system—if you let it
PLUS: real wins from the Healing Girl Gang! 💌
If you’re a high-achieving, emotionally intelligent woman who crushes it at work but crumbles inside a text bubble… this one’s for you. 🫶
Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed.
🦋 Ready for the deeper work?
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
Welcome back BBs! In this episode, we’re diving deep into a pattern I see all the time: acting “chill” when inside, you're spiraling. You know the drill...trying so hard to come off as the "cool-low-maintenance-unbothered-girlie" so you don’t scare a good partner away… but then end up feeling lonely, disconnected, or like they’re slipping further away anyway...
Yeah, we’re unpacking THAT.
We’re talking:
✨ Why “being chill” is often just masked FEAR
✨ How inauthenticity actually erodes intimacy
✨ What safe partners are really craving (hint: it’s not perfection) and
✨ How to stop false-signaling and start authentically expressing what’s real for YOU!
Whether you're anxiously attached, healing from abandonment, or a high-achieving, high-performing baddie who secretly (or not-so-secretly) melts down when someone doesn’t text back right away… this one’s for you.
🫶 PLUS: I’m answering a juicy Healing Girl Gang Hotline question from someone navigating a relationship blowup and trying to repair trust after spiraling. 🎧
This episode is for you if you’ve ever:
Said “I’m fine” through gritted teeth Pretended to be cool with ambiguity but were low-key obsessing
Felt like your partner didn’t get how much effort you were putting into not freaking out
Or thought, “Ugh, maybe I’m just not meant to be in a relationship” (spoiler: you are)
P.S. Inside the Healing Girl Gang community, we’re not about faking it till we make it... we’re about becoming actually unbothered from the inside out. If you're ready for deeper connection, more ease, and to stop abandoning yourself to keep someone else, you’ll love this episode!!
🦋 And If You're Ready for The Deeper Work, Checkout These Resources:
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
If you're in a healthy relationship but your brain won't stop spiraling... this episode is going to hit home. In this week’s episode I’m breaking down the 3 mistakes that keep high-achieving, anxious girlies stuck in the cycle of second-guessing even the most loyal and consistent partner. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking: “Why can’t I just enjoy this person?” “Why am I prepping for the breakup when everything’s going fine?” “Am I making problems where there are none?” 👀 Then this is for YOU.
I’m walking you through:
✨ The "prep for the pain" loop that keeps you emotionally exhausted
✨ Why treating your relationship like a project to manage is sabotaging your joy
✨ How mistaking surveillance for loyalty drains your connection ✨ And how to finally start trusting yourself so you can receive the love right in front of you
Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or navigating love after heartbreak, this episode is your permission slip to step off the spiral ride and start feeling secure for real.
🎧 Get ready to hear:
→ Why your anxiety won’t let you enjoy a secure partner
→ The real reason you keep sabotaging connection
→ How to stop overthinking and start building self-trust
This episode is especially for my anxious attachment babes, my high-functioning overthinkers, and my career girlies who crush it at work but feel like a mess in love.
This week we’re unpacking the real reason your brain confuses anxiety for intuition (and how to stop self‑sabotaging a healthy relationship!) If you’ve ever questioned your feelings, overanalyzed your partner’s every move, or convinced yourself your anxiety was a “gut feeling,” this episode is for you!
🧠 In this episode we'll be diving into:
✨ Why “the ick” is often a fear of intimacy, not intuition
✨ How anxiety shows up as false alarms in safe relationships
✨ The difference between red flags vs. self‑protection
✨ How to stop testing your partner and start trusting connection
✨ What your nervous system is actually trying to protect you from
✨ Why discomfort doesn’t mean danger—it means growth I share a personal story about how I almost lost an incredible partner because I thought my fear was “a sign.” (Spoiler: it wasn’t.) I want you to stop mistaking safety for boredom and start building the kind of secure relationship you’ve been craving!
🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed.
🦋 Ready for the deeper work?
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
This week we’re unpacking the real reason your brain confuses anxiety for intuition (and how to stop self‑sabotaging a healthy relationship!)
If you’ve ever questioned your feelings, overanalyzed your partner’s every move, or convinced yourself your anxiety was a “gut feeling,” this episode is for you!
🧠 In this episode we'll be diving into:
✨ Why “the ick” is often a fear of intimacy, not intuition
✨ How anxiety shows up as false alarms in safe relationships
✨ The difference between red flags vs. self‑protection
✨ How to stop testing your partner and start trusting connection
✨ What your nervous system is actually trying to protect you from
✨ Why discomfort doesn’t mean danger—it means growth
I share a personal story about how I almost lost an incredible partner because I thought my fear was “a sign.” (Spoiler: it wasn’t.) I want you to stop mistaking safety for boredom and start building the kind of secure relationship you’ve been craving!
🦋 Ready for the deeper work?
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
In this episode we’re unpacking one of the most confusing (and exhausting) dynamics in anxious relationships ➡️ Anxiety vs. Intuition. And why your nervous system can't tell the difference.... yet.
We’ll dive into:
✨ The #1 way to know it’s anxiety (not intuition)
✨ How urgency, reactivity & spiraling feel like instinct - but aren’t
✨ Why you're addicted to checking the “emotional alarm system”
✨ What happens when your gut is actually trauma memory
✨ How to disable the internal alarm so you stop mistaking fear for truth
✨ What it actually feels like when your intuition is speaking
PLUS: 🥲 A healing win from a client who went from toxic love + cancer treatment → to remission, emotional regulation, and finally letting love in 💅 🛏 My unhinged side quest to find the world’s best sheets (self-regulation starts in the bedroom, babes) 📲 Real talk Q&A from inside The Healing Girl Gang: “Is it weird he only calls at night?”
🦋 Ready for the deeper work?
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
You’re Not Overreacting - You’re Dysregulated (Here’s Why It Feels Like Everything’s Falling Apart When It’s Actually Fine)
You’re not crazy.
You’re not being dramatic.
You’re just dysregulated AF and your body hasn’t caught up to how safe your life actually is.
This episode is for the high-functioning, hyper-self-aware girlies who are checking all the boxes on paper... but still secretly spiraling in silence. 🙃
If you've ever caught yourself mid-anxiety spiral like: “Wait… nothing bad is happening. So why does this feel so familiar?” then this episode is the nervous system deep-dive you didn’t know you needed!
🧠 Inside this episode, we're unpacking:
✨ Why your brain panics when life finally feels calm
✨ How “being self-aware” can actually mask emotional control
✨ The difference between spiraling and actually self-regulating
✨ Why your nervous system doesn’t trust safety (yet)
✨ The powerful shift from “What’s wrong with me?” to “Of course I feel this way”
✨ How to stop rejecting the good stuff (including your partner’s love) ✨ Real wins from Healing Girl Gang members: showers, breathwork, daily habits that shift your state 💕
If you're tired of managing your emotions like a full-time job and you just want to feel safe being happy... this episode is for you!
🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed.
👉 Join here: healinggirlgang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
You’ve read the books, saved the Instagram carousels, diagnosed your attachment style (hi anxious girlies 👋), and can spot a spiral from a mile away… but you’re still spiraling?! 🌀
In this episode, we break down:
💭 Why high self-awareness doesn't stop the overthinking
🧠 The "anxious observer" trap (aka when you know you’re spiraling and still can’t stop)
🪞 How spiraling damages self-trust and your relationship
❤️🔥 The secret sauce to actually feeling safe (spoiler: it’s not just positive affirmations)
👩⚖️ A juicy client win (shoutout to M, our unbothered queen)
🌲 And what solo camping trips taught Clare about healing from abandonment wounds
✨ If you’re a high-achieving, emotionally intelligent woman who crushes it at work but crumbles inside a text bubble… this one’s for you.
🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed.
👉 Join here: healinggirlgang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
Do you go to overthinking the second the vibes are off?
Scroll TikTok for answers before the text even delivers?
Google “anxious attachment + texting” like it’s your part-time job? Yeah. Me too.
This episode is for the girlies who know they’re spiraling and feel like they can’t stop—especially when they’re dating someone good. If overthinking has become your coping mechanism in relationships, this episode will land.
We’re talking:
• Why your brain loves overthinking (hint: dopamine)
• Why it feels productive, but actually disconnects you from real connection
• How you're using mental work to avoid emotional work
• The real reason you can explain your triggers but still don’t feel better
I also share a story from my own spiral (yes, the lost RV keys) and shout out a few of my amazing clients who are breaking this cycle in real time—especially Seth and Autumn (you’re killin’ it 👏).
If you’ve ever felt like:
🌀 “I can’t relax until I figure it out”
🧠 “I keep overthinking even though I know I’m safe”
💔 “I keep creating problems when there aren’t any” …this episode is for you.
💌 Inside the Healing Girl Gang, we’re taking this even deeper all month long masterclasses, implementation days, tools, coaching… the works. If this episode hits, wait ‘til you see what we do inside the gang.
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
✨ You’ve read the books. Listened to the podcasts. You could give a TED Talk on attachment styles. So why are you still spiraling?!
In this episode I'm talking to YOU, the high-achieving, emotionally intelligent girlie who knows her patterns but still finds herself overthinking texts, replaying convos, and getting caught in the same loop with the same person... again.
If you’ve ever thought:
🧠 “I know better, but I can’t stop overthinking.”
😬 “Why do I keep doing this when I’m so aware of what’s happening?”
💔 “I feel like two different people—confident in my career, anxious in my relationship.” Then hit play because this episode is for YOU!
We’re breaking down:
• Why knowing your attachment style isn’t enough
• How your brain is prioritizing familiar over safe
• What it really means to “feel ready” for love
• Why you’re addicted to overthinking and calling it “clarity”
• And how to finally shift from spiraling to self-trust
👯♀️ Bonus: I shout out a few of my 1:1 clients (hey, Mrs. N 👀) and show you what real healing looks like...not just awareness, but actual transformation.
🎧 And if you’re loving this, this is just the surface. Inside the Healing Girl Gang, we go deeper with tools, practice, and coaching to help you stop overthinking for real, not just for the afternoon.
👉 Join here: healinggirlgang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
✨ Ever feel like your brain just won’t shut off... even when everything’s actually fine in your relationship? You’re spiraling, checking for signs, running worst-case scenarios, and overanalyzing their every move... but you know deep down, it’s you, not them. 🤯
On this week's episode we're diving into what might be the most toxic, but totally normalized, habit anxious attached girlies keep doing… and why it’s actually keeping you stuck in the spiral. 😵💫
If you're a high-achieving, big-hearted babe who feels like she knows better but just can’t stop overthinking, this is your sign to tune in.
We’re breaking down:
- The real reason your brain loves to overthink (hint: dopamine hit 😬)
- Why spiraling feels productive, even though it’s sabotaging connection
- How overthinking is actually keeping you from intimacy—and what to do instead
- What makes this pattern so hard to quit, even when your partner is amazing
💡 Plus, I'm giving you tools, truth bombs, and a loving kick in the butt to help you finally break the habit FOR GOOD! 🎧 LISTEN NOW and drop a comment if you’re deep in the spiral lately (no shame, you’re not alone).
👯♀️ Want more support? Join our private membership, the Healing Girl Gang, where we’re doing a 5-day Overthinking Detox all month long! You get the trainings, the tools, and the coaching to actually heal… not just cope.
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
After six weeks of serious inner work (including a spiritual cleanse and a solo wilderness retreat where I literally faced my fear of abandonment head-on), I’m sharing the three biggest things that helped me stop overthinking once and for all. If you’re the kind of girly who spirals over a short text... rereads convos wondering what you did wrong... or catastrophizes when nothing is actually wrong... this episode is going to hit deep.
Inside, we'll talk about:
✨ What it really means to listen to your body (and why it matters for your anxious brain)
✨ How productivity pressure secretly fuels relationship anxiety
✨ The difference between your gut and your fear brain
✨ And how I finally felt safe doing... nothing. Just being. Truly.
PLUS: tomorrow (Wednesday!) is Implementation Day inside The Healing Girl Gang and this month’s focus is on Overthinking. If you’re ready for the how, this is where we get specific and walk through the process together.
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
If you spiral when your partner seems distant… If your brain won’t stop running “what did I do wrong?” loops… If you’re smart, successful, high-achieving, and still struggling with anxious thoughts in love… You are so not alone. And this episode is for you. 🧠💔
We’re unpacking 3 hard truths about overthinking that every anxious-attached woman needs to hear (especially if you’ve tried everything and still find yourself mentally replaying texts, second-guessing convos, or feeling like your thoughts are running you).
We're breaking down:
⭐️ The truth about why you can’t “outthink” fear
⭐️ What your spiral is actually protecting you from
⭐️ Why control isn’t the answer and what is
⭐️ How to retrain your nervous system instead of judging it
Plus, a real-time coaching moment with a Healing Girl Gang member struggling to let go of someone who doesn’t see a future even though she still feels love for him. You’re going to want to hear this. 👀 🌿
Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety and stop the mental spiraling once and for all? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we do just that with masterclasses, implementation days, live coaching, and our Overthinking Detox every month.
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
Ever feel like you're doing all the inner work, listening to every podcast, journaling your heart out and still fall back into the same anxious spirals or overthinking loops? SAME.
In this raw and real episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing what I’m still healing… even as a relationship coach. This episode is for the high-achieving, high-performing girlies who feel confident in their careers but are still spiraling in their relationships.
🎧 We’ll talk about:
✨The real reason your healing “isn’t sticking”
✨Why you might still spiral (even after tons of growth)
✨The sneaky trap of thinking healing means “no more conflict”
✨Why anxious attachment is less about perfection and more like tending a garden
I also share a little life update from my pre-retreat cleanse, what’s been going on with my body lately (ladies, let’s talk hormones + 90s low-rise trauma 🙃), and a deeply personal coaching answer to a listener’s question about giving a partner space without losing your mind.
❤️ If you’ve ever thought “I should be over this by now”… this one’s for you.
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
If You Overthink Every Text Message… This Episode Is For You! You’re crushing it at work, you're a boss in life, but when it comes to your relationship? You're suddenly spiraling over why he took 6-hours to text you back or asking "are we okay" over and over again...
Then this episode is your soft place to land.
In this episode we’re unpacking the hidden damage overthinking does to your relationships (even when things seem fine on the surface).
I’ll walk you through:
💭 Why overthinking feels productive but keeps you disconnected
🧠 How your brain uses spiraling as a safety strategy
💗 What it actually takes to shift into emotional peace and connection
🏕 Plus: a lil’ story about Blair Witch-level camping chaos (you’ll get it)
👯♀️ Also, shoutout to my Healing Girl Gang - we answer a listener Q about anxious attachment + space in relationships that SO many of you will relate to.
🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes on healing, relationships, anxious attachment & self-trust
⭐️ Leave a review, it keeps this podcast free and lets me know you’re out there
🛠 Join the Healing Girl Gang for masterclasses, live Q&As, overthinking detoxes + more
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
In this powerful episode, I sit down with my client Karuna - science writer, high achiever, and living proof that secure attachment is possible!
We’re talking full transformation: from spiraling over missed texts to feeling calm, confident, and deeply self-trusting in relationships (and beyond). Karuna shares the real, raw moments (crying in the shower, questioning everything, and wondering if the anxiety would ever go away). But through coaching, truth-telling, and data-driven reflection (yes, we get nerdy), she experienced a 75%+ increase in her confidence, mindset, and self-trust AND a 133% decrease in her overthinking.
👀 Plus:
→ What it really feels like to date while anxious
→ Why traditional therapy didn’t quite cut it
→ The sneaky ways we micromanage our partners
→ What shifted when she stopped trying to be "less anxious" and started trusting herself This one is so honest, so hope-giving, and such a beautiful reminder that you’re not broken - you just haven’t been given the right tools yet.
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
Ever feel like you're just too much in your relationship? 😵💫 Like your emotions are too messy, too needy, or too intense so you try to keep them bottled up just to keep the peace?
Yeah… been there.
In this week’s episode we're getting into the real reason you feel like you're too much (and why it’s actually a sign you're ready to heal your anxious attachment for good!) This is for the high-achieving girlies who are secretly spiraling in their relationships. You know, refreshing your texts 12x an hour, over-apologizing for crying, or feeling like vulnerability makes you "bad at love."
In this episode we're talking:
✨ Why your “too muchness” isn’t actually too much
✨ The role of emotional safety in healing anxious attachment
✨ How over-functioning at work translates to under-functioning in your relationships
✨ What your internal rulebook says about love...and how to rewrite it
✨ How to stop self-sabotaging when a secure partner shows up 💭 Plus, I share a personal story from a 1:1 client who broke the cycle (and what made her healing finally click).
This one’s juicy, raw, and real and I can’t wait for you to hear it!
🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥
💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖
🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕
FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube
WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session



