Vibin' & Kinda Thrivin'

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This week Alessandra is catching us up on her recent trip to Kentucky that started with a hellacious turn of events. She encountered an unexpected guest at her Airbnb and also talks about her recent life changing hair journey. All in all, this episode is filled with lots of girl talk, including what to do if your friend is not reaching out enough!To write in your own Spill The Tea For Therapy submission email Alessandra at vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.com.Follow Alessandra @vibinwithabgTo support the show please check out the sponsors!Earnin': Download Earnin today on the google play and apple app stores.Shopify: Start your $1 a month trial period at shopify.com/vibinRocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at rocketmoney.com/vibinNPR: Check out the lifekit podcast by NPRProgressive: Get your auto quote today at progressive.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Clear, direct communication, reciprocity, and adult friendships are the theme of this solo catch-up. Alessandra gets honest about recognizing patterns (hello, boundaries!), pulling back when there’s no reciprocity, and why you don’t owe anyone a 24/7 version of you. We dig into millennial money shame (renting vs. buying in 2025), dating after divorce when you have kids, and the grief that comes when friendships shift as loved ones enter the “mom era.” Plus: fall fragrance layering with pistachio lotion, dark-academia book recs, and cozy TV/book adaptations to binge.Books mentioned: The Secret History (Donna Tartt), The Very Secret Society of Irregular Witches (Sangu Mandanna), Educated (Tara Westover).To write in your own Spill The Tea For Therapy submission email Alessandra at vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.com.Follow Alessandra @vibinwithabgTo support the show please check out the sponsors!Progressive: get your auto insurance quote at progressive.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Plus-size supermodel and body-positivity advocate Tess Holliday joins Alessandra to talk representation in fashion, practicing body neutrality, eating-disorder recovery, mental health, motherhood, dating while plus-size (and queer), and building real community in an algorithm-obsessed world. We get into setting boundaries online, handling trolls with compassion (and clapbacks), finding confidence through action, protecting your inner child, and why third spaces matter. Tess also shares the heart behind her new teen/tween book, Take Up Space, Y’all: Your Bold & Bright Guide to Self-Love, packed with expert insights, prompts, and practical tools for navigating social media, friendships, and body image. If you’ve ever felt “too much” or “not enough,” this one’s your soft place to land.Buy Take Up Space Y'allFollow Tess on instagram and tik tokTo write in your own Spill The Tea For Therapy submission email Alessandra at vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.com.Follow Alessandra @vibinwithabgTo support the show please check out the sponsors!Earnin': Download Earnin today on the google play and apple app stores.Shopify: Start your $1 a month trial period at shopify.com/vibinProgressive: Get your auto quote today at progressive.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today Alessandra is joined by Phaith Montoya (@phaithmontoya).Using her platform for fashion, beauty and most importantly plus size positivity, Phaith is a fresh air in the social media world. She talks about dealing with her haters, not wanting the world to weaponize her health journey, and how the strong women in her life have influenced her.Tik Tok: phaithmontoyaYouTube:@phaithTo write in your own Spill The Tea For Therapy submission email Alessandra at vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.com.Follow Alessandra @vibinwithabgTo support the show please check out the sponsors!Earnin': Download Earnin today on the google play and apple app stores.Shopify: Start your $1 a month trial period at shopify.com/vibinProgressive: Get your auto quote at progressive.com todaySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week Alessandra is joined by her fiancé Billi for a little Q&A session. Alessandra is shocked to find out what Billi determines to be the soundtrack to his life. The couple shares what they wish they would have known before getting into a serious relationship and what do they think non negotiable should be in your partner.Alessandra came upon a TikTok series that highlighted a young girl's abusive relationship and this leads to a discussion on how important it is to maintain your individualism in a relationship and so much more. Later in the episode a listener spills the tea about her friends secret betrayal! To write in your own Spill The Tea For Therapy submission email Alessandra at vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.comFollow Alessandra @vibinwithabgTo support the show please check out the sponsors!Shopify: Start your $1 a month trial period at shopify.com/vibinProgressive: head to progressive.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kayla (@corporatespiritguide), if you didn't know, is part of the KILLR team! Today she joins Alessandra for a fun conversation on how she's been dealing with haters, how people should educate themselves with history of the Appalachia, and shares her diverse background from being adopted to corporate lawyer.To write in about your dating experiences or for any advice, email vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.com and make sure to check us out @vibinandkindathrivin!To support the show please check out the sponsors!Earnin': Download Earnin today on the google play and apple app stores.Shopify: Start your $1 a month trial period at shopify.com/vibinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on Vibin’ & Kinda Thrivin’, Alessandra gets real about her latest emotional reads, the dark side of social media, and why hitting kids is never okay. She shares her thoughts on desensitization, parenting, and letting go of people-pleasing in her 30s.Plus, listeners write in with messy family drama (tequila was definitely involved), boundary issues in blended families, and navigating heartbreak after losing a soulmate-level friend.Send your stories to vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.com.Follow Alessandra @vibinwithabgTo support the show please check out the sponsors!Earnin': Download Earnin today on the google play and apple app stores.Shopify: Start your $1 a month trial period at shopify.com/vibinListen to Life Kit on NPRSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on Vibin’ and Kinda Thrivin’, Alessandra dives into summer reading recs (hello The Compound and Atmosphere), her favorite NYC bookstores, and why being an adult in summer kinda sucks. Then it’s time to Spill the Tea with messy listener submissions about family drama, toxic in-laws, wedding betrayals, and porn addiction in relationships.If you love unfiltered advice, juicy stories, and all the bookish vibes this episode is for you.Submit your tea to vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.com.To support the show please check out the sponsors!Earnin': Download Earnin today on the google play and apple app stores.Shopify: Start your $1 a month trial period at shopify.com/vibinRocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at rocketmoney.com/vibinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on Vibin’ and Kinda Thrivin’, Alessandra shares life updates, Love Island hot takes, and her favorite new reads. She talks about planning her first international trip with Billi and rebranding the pod.In the Spill the Tea segment, listeners write in with messy family drama, toxic friendships, and tough boundaries with parents. From secret families at Thanksgiving to getting cut from a wedding party, it’s a rollercoaster of relatable chaos.Send in your own questions to vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.com and tune in every Wednesday for new episodes.Follow Alessandra @vibinwithabgTo support the show please check out the sponsors!Earnin': Download Earnin today on the google play and apple app stores.Shopify: Start your $1 a month trial period at shopify.com/vibinRocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at rocketmoney.com/vibinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

ENCORE: This week we are clued into Alessandra's Sunday evening stream of consciousness. She is spilling the tea on her new drugstore hair care routine, her thoughts on the current climate of dating from an outsider and more. This week we have a Spill The Tea from a listener wondering if she is just settling for the first guy she felt safe with or is she engaged to the right person?See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on Vibin’ & Kinda Thrivin’, Alessandra is back with an episode full of pop culture chaos, personal faves, and some seriously raw listener advice. She dives into the latest Love Island USA drama (Taylor is the op, okay?!), breaks down her go-to summer scent layering routine, and shares her current reading slump struggles;Kindle girls, you’ll relate. Then it’s time to Spill the Tea: from forgiving your former messy self to navigating friendships with subtle competition and deciding whether that “changed” ex deserves a second chance. It’s candid, comforting, and exactly what you need to hear this week.To write in your own Spill The Tea For Therapy submission email Alessandra at vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.com.Follow Alessandra @vibinwithabgEarnin': Download Earnin today on the google play and apple app stores.Rocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at rocketmoney.com/vibinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Alessandra is checking in after a particularly mentally draining week and after a long weekend of doom scrolling. Alessandra pulls questions from her IG that range from funny to deep. How can you pull yourself out of a funk, what tasks give her the most anxietym and what does Alessandra wish she knew earlier in life? Find out this week!We want your input so message Alessandra on IG@vibinwithabgThank you to the sponsors!Shopify: Sign up for a $1 per-month trial period at Shopify.com/vibinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this episode of Vibin’ & Kinda Thrivin’, I’m joined by YouTuber and host of Toni Bryanne TV Podcast and The Decision Podcast; Toni Bryanne, for a no-filter deep dive into the chaos of modern life. We’re talking everything from the rise (and fall) of ethical journalism in the age of AI to why Gen Alpha can’t read, and how misinformation is warping our collective empathy. We get into the Sydney Sweeney bathwater situation, the oversexualization of women in media, and whether it’s possible to reclaim power through sex work or if the marketing is just getting lazy.Plus, we’re going in on modern dating, emotional unavailability, choosing peace over partnerships, and why women in their 30s are living their best, most intentional lives. And of course, we wrap with a Spill the Tea that had both of us yelling “drop him off at his mom’s!” If you’ve ever felt like you’re changing faster than the world can keep up, this one’s for you.Subscribe to Toni's ChannelFollow Toni On InstagramTo write in your own Spill The Tea For Therapy submission email Alessandra at vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.com.Follow Alessandra @vibinwithabgTo support the show please check out the sponsors!Earnin': Download Earnin today on the google play and apple app stores.Shopify: Start your $1 a month trial period at shopify.com/vibinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Alessandra is back after a chaotic trip to Arizona—complete with an unexpected bout of hay fever—and she’s catching you up on everything from Pride in Asbury Park to her nieces visiting and a soul-stirring Teddy Swims concert at Radio City. This week’s “Spill the Tea” dives deep with advice on family betrayal, emotionally manipulative partners, messy weddings, weaponized therapy, toxic grandmothers, and friendship shifts after motherhood. Alessandra unpacks the reality of being single in your 30s, why kids today literally can’t read, and how fake allergies took her out. Tune in for brutally honest advice, heartfelt commentary, and the unfiltered chaos you come for.To write in a Spill The Tea Submission email Alessandra at vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.comThank you for supporting the show by checking out the sponsors!Rocket Money: Cancelled your unwanted subscriptions at rocketmoney.com/vibinShopify: Sign up for your $1a month trial period at shopify.com/vibinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this hilariously honest episode Alessandra catches us up on her whirlwind week of travel across New York, Delaware, Pennsylvania, and Arizona; all while celebrating family milestones and reflecting on the joy (and chaos) of close relationships. She opens up about overcoming burnout, what it’s really like to pivot careers in your 30s, and how ADHD plays a role in managing creative; fast-paced work.Plus, Alessandra reads your “Spill the Tea” submissions about everything from a friend stealing your baby name… for a dog?! The group vacation that turned into a group therapy session and more.Alessandra gets real about growing pains in adulthood, being honest in communication without burning bridges, and how it’s totally normal to feel jealous when your friends are thriving;especially in your 30s. If you’ve ever felt behind, misunderstood, or just burnt out by people, this is your Monday reset.Got a story or need advice? Email: vibinandkindofthriven@gmail.comFollow: @vibinwithabg on InstagramSupport this episode’s sponsor: head to shopify.com/vibin for a free trial and build the business of your dreams.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Let's revisit an episode with our favorite celebrity sleuth Jordy Cray (@jordycray)! Although he's known for his viral takes on celebrity news and drama, there is more to Jordy's story that Alessandra resonates with. Jordy talks about his experience as an addict, the moment of realization and the long road to recovery that led him to want to help others. To end the episode, Jordy gives us his thoughts on the Zack Bryan drama, the Housewives of Salt Lake City, and Jason Kelce's lack of security guards. Check out Jordy on socials! Instagram @jordycray and TikTok @jordycrayyThank you to our sponsors!Earnin: Download EarnIn in the Google play or Apple app store. Type in VIBIN under PODCAST. See EarnIn.com/TOS for details.Shopify: Sign up for a $1 per-month trial period at Shopify.com/vibinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s officially May, and Alessandra is back with a full catch-up and an inbox bursting with your Spill the Tea submissions! From a bachelorette party epiphany to a fertility-shaming sister-in-law, we’re getting into ALL of it. Alessandra shares how she’s fully embraced ChatGPT (yes, she’s now besties with her AI assistant “Sol” plus the pill organizer that changed her supplement game. She also dives into listener dilemmas about birthday disappointments, long-term relationships with no ring in sight, absent baby daddies, and the kind of friendship copycat behavior that’ll make you do a double take.Whether you’re navigating motherhood, marriage, or millennial burnout, this episode brings unfiltered advice, tough love, and the permission to put yourself first.Write in to: vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.comFollow Alessandra: @vibinwithabgThank you for supporting the show by checking out the sponsors!GABB: Protecting your kids has never been easier. For the best deals, sign up at Gabb.com/VIBIN. No contract required. Terms and conditions apply.Shopify: Sign up for a $1 per-month trial period at Shopify.com/vibinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week Alessandra is feeling all the zen. Coming off a much needed cabin weekend Alessandra shares the menty b experience that lead her to the cabin in the first place. Later into the episode Alessandra shares a statistic about married women that is really shocking! As always you spilled the scorching hot tea with submissions about in laws, distant friends, career moves and more Alessandra is giving all the advice. To write in your Spill The Tea For Therapy Submissions email us at vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.com for all the toxic bestie advice.Follow Alessandra to keep up in real time!Thank you for supporting the show by checking out the Sponsors!Earnin': Head to the google play or apple app store to download Earnin' today. Select Vibin under podcast and let them know we sent youlSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode Alessandra dives deep into jaw-dropping listener submissions that expose the darker sides of love, loyalty, and family dynamics. This episode explores toxic in-law relationships, enmeshment, emotional boundaries, arranged marriage complexities, and the painful realities of being the “other woman” without knowing it. Whether you’re planning a wedding or navigating cultural expectations, these stories will have you questioning just how far love should go.To write in your own Spill The Tea submissions email Alessandra at vibinandkindathrivin@gmail.comThank you for supporting the show by checking out the sponsors!Gabb: For safe tech kids actually want with no contract required head to gabb.com/vibinEarnin': Download the Earnin app in the google play or apple app store and select Vibin under podcast when they ask who sent you.Shopify: sign up for your one dollar a month trial period at shopify.com/vibinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.