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Based on addressing psychological issues that greatly affect our daily lives . It will speak to difficulties in relationships with ourselves and others , psychological disorders, co-parenting, black tax and spirituality amongst others . Nompumelelo Prudence Kubeka who is a Clinical Psychologist and a Traditional healer will be hosting the podcast . It is not a substitute for therapy but might be a motivate you to start therapy .
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This episode speaks about understanding the season you are in so you find the discipline to go through it . How your vision / action board should also align to the season you are in . Enjoy love 🤍 and light 🕯️
This episode speaks about the African phrases that are used to describe men that then deprives them on acknowledging their vulnerability and also that they are emotionally beings.
This episodes speaks about people pleaser and fixers . Their emotional unavailability to themselves . Their resentment towards self for over extending themselves . How they have defined the function to people around them . Recovering from people pleasing and going for therapy.
Understanding the human in healers that they cannot always be accessible as they also need to take care of themselves to still serve . Healers also have lives and exist outside of the role of being healers . Healers also need to recharge and live and just be.
This episode speaks about the mental health of mothers that try to be perfect in their parenting as opposed to being a good enough parent . Mothers have kids with a mental illness .It also speaks about mothers that have lost their babies through still birth and miscarriages . Mothers that have chosen not to keep their babies through abortion . The grieving of their babies .
Sometimes we look for qualities in other people that we are unable to give to ourselves . So we would then want our partners to over extend themselves even in spaces in a relationship that we need to be stepping in . When you haven’t learnt to give yourself what you ask from others you wouldn’t know how to be your own reference .
This episode speaks about inner child wounds . How they result in us being the adults that we are . How we navigate the relationship with ourselves and also with others .
This episode speaks about the underlying meaning of why people usually say they do not believe in therapy and what therapy really is . Context play a huge role on how we end up defining what therapy really is .
Getting to know the host/therapist. Being black dual healer. Why black couch podcast. Please follow on instagram @npk_clinicalpsychologist
Defining the ancestral calling , how it affects an individual’s mental health. How to deal with having a calling . The ego vs the self when gifted . Do traditional healers believe in God? Can you have a mental illness while gifted ? Taking a bit of a break from the podcast to recharge see you in a month or two . Love and light .see you soon
This episode is based on black tax and how it emotionally affects bread winner . Bread winner often feel they are showing up for everyone , helping family members live their lives while theirs is procrastinated . The struggle to set boundaries as they carry a lot of survival guilt . Most pattern breakers and bread winners may be parentified children.
This episode speaks about grief and how the pain we feel keeps us connected to the people we have lost . It shows us that the reason we feel so much pain is because our love is as deep . The deeper the love , the greater the grief . It is okay to also grief people we ended up resenting it’s an expression of hope that was never fulfilled. It’s also okay to grieve something we initiated the ending of .
Sometimes we are very hard on ourselves when we realise the things or experiences we have put our unhealed selves through . It is important to understand that you didn’t know better at that time . You survived with the information you have according to our environment and how you were raised. So once you realise that some of the things you put yourself through were self inflicted be kind and gentle because at that time you didn’t know better . The healing version of yourself is bringing new information and you are unlearning being on survival mode , hence you are able to pinpoint unhealthy patterns .
Sometimes we want to connect but we have not learnt on how to be vulnerable with ourselves or others. We are scared that we are not worthy of deep connections and our authentic selves will be rejected by the world . We haven’t learnt to be comfortable with our own imperfections hence we don’t feel deserving of deep connections . Vulnerability comes with connecting with self before connecting with others . Accepting our whole selves first and then being selectively vulnerable in spaces that feel safe .
Happy new year !!! What New Year’s resolutions have you set for yourself ? How realistic are they when it comes to your resources , finances and plans ? What didn’t you achieve that you want t carry over to 2025? Social media new year’s resolutions do they resonate with you ? . New year , new me ? Is it really new me ?or a flowing self into the new year while evolving . Consistency and discipline in achieving our goals and New Year’s resolutions.
It’s the most wonderful time of the year (singing) …Wellnot for everyone . Some people it is a sad season of the year caused by grief , family dynamics , loneliness, financial pressure etc . We need to normalise that is it okay not to be okay during December time . It’s okay not to meet up to people expectations of wearing a mask and pretending to be happy when you are going through a lot . Self care tips are also included on the episode . Enjoy .
Emotional monitoring is a state of hyper vigilance that someone would have as a way of protecting themselves from potential rejection . They would constantly ask if others are “okay “ if they are mad and then try to meet up to everyone’s needs . They do not get to know their authentic selves as they are too preoccupied with compulsive care taking of others . Enjoy …..
This episode speaks about how to differentiate between giving someone space to vent without emotionally hijacking their experience or trauma and making it about ourselves . How shared experiences help with healing and also setting boundaries with emotional vomiters .
It’s the last day of mental health month !!!This episode is based on understanding the human behind someone who is diagnosed with a mental illness . How to deal with your own mental illness , having a new diagnosis and not over identifying with your diagnosis that you forget to learn self . Your mental illness is just a part of you and not your whole self . Define it for yourself before the whole world tells you on how you need to be . Stay compliant with your meds .
This podcast speaks about celebrating women’s day in South Africa . What it meant in 1956 on the 9th August when the march occurred . What does it mean to be a South African woman now. Are we still rocks or soft ? . We are still oppressed as women in South Africa in different ways most of all we are not as liberated because we are being killed and we don’t have a soft landing because we are taught to be resilient.
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