How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

Has your child ever refused to go to school?It’s a morning routine all parents dread, but for nearly one in five parents, this is a common occurrence.. But what do you do?In the first of this special two part episode, I am going to explore the reasons why our kids might not want to go to school and the ways in which both parents and educators can identify and support this.Because as absenteeism continues to rise, maybe it’s time to stop blaming our kids, and start considering that maybe school doesn’t work for them.To have this discussion I am joined by two very special guests…Ruth Morgan is a mum to two children, one of whom is ASD. She shares her daughter’s story with us, and it will really resonate with any of you experiencing similar difficulties.She is also an ⁠integrative psychotherapist who specialises in neurodivergent adults , especially late diagnosis and co-presenting mental health difficulties, and she also offers coaching to parents whose children are going through diagnosis or related challenges for the family. You can contact Ruth at https://ruthmorgan.co.uk/Kate Shand is the founder and CEO of Enjoy Education, which provides bespoke educational services tailored to the unique needs of families and students globally. She is also a founding member and vice president of The Tutors’ Association, committed to raising tutoring standards across the industry and around the world. You can find out more at http://www.enjoyeducation.co.uk/ So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:20 - These stats might shock you05:32 - School refusal11:46 - How to manage school incapacity15:23 - Home schooling doesn’t have to be plan z18:55 - Why are the stats going up?21:21 - Ruth’s story29:00 - School support for neurodivergence32:06 - Schools get a different version of your child36:35 - A message to schools💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Does your child refuse to go to bed?Is the nighttime routine a daily stress?And why won’t your children sleep when they’re tired?Today’s episode is a listener question, and one I’m sure affects most parents, because it’s all about how to make bedtime less of a battle and more of a breeze.I am going to talk through the reasons why the sleep showdown happens, give you three things you can do, and give you the ultimate bedtime checklist to work through. There’s no perfect, instant solution because every child is different, but if you take the right approach with the right mindset, you’re halfway towards a peaceful evening!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Mentioned in this episode:Parenting at Work: Can We Really Have it All? - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/parenting-at-work-can-we-really-have-it-all/ Highlights from this episode:02:47 - Audit your shoulds05:06 - Are we setting impossible standards?08:28 - Find a moment to empty some of your bucket12:21 - Download Mode15:12 - How to set boundaries17:37 - Where can your child have more autonomy?💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you more emotionally mature than your children?Do you project your problems onto your kids?Does your child feel like a burden or a failure?These might be tough questions to think about but, according to a recent study, these are common things your teenagers might be thinking, but do not feel like they can tell you.And don’t worry, you are not a bad parent, and this isn’t a generational thing. It doesn’t matter if you’re a boomer or a millennial, sometimes we can get so busy doing the day-to-day parenting, that we forget to pay attention and listen - truly listen - to what our kids are trying to tell us.That’s why I’m doing today’s episode, which is all about helping you to understand what your teens really need from you, and giving you some practical advice which you can start using right away.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, take a deep breath, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:21 - What do you wish you could tell your parents?06:40 - 3 ways you’re not showing up for your teens12:32 - Invest in self-awareness15:53 - Reflect in whatever way works for you18:01 - Start showing up21:18 - Honest conversations💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When I say breathwork, what comes to mind?Many of you will think of yoga, meditation, or something a bit silly. I’m sure most of you don’t think it can help your children, and I get it!But did you know that good breathwork can have real, physical benefits on our nervous system, our brain, and our body? In other words, it’s not just some hippy dippy nonsense, and I’m going to explain why.This means when our kids are stressed, scared, overwhelmed or anxious, good breathing can be the difference maker in a situation that usually gets out of control very quickly.In this bucket emptying episode, I want to dispel any stigma you might have around breathwork. I’m going to tell you exactly how & why it helps, and give you some practical, actionable exercises you can start doing right now.Here’s the Take 10 method to get you started: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/breathing-techniques-for-anxious-children/ So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, take a deep breath, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:35 - Fight, flight or freeze05:48 - The physical benefits of breathwork08:07 - Getting creative with breathwork12:40 - Biometrics are a great learning aid💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I want it all. I want it now” - timeless words sung by the late Freddie Mercury, and sampled by every child ever, including your own, am I right?But let’s be honest, they’re not the only ones. As parents, we put ourselves under so much pressure to keep up with the Joneses and have it all… but what does that even mean?A big house?Private school?Or maybe just financial security?In this episode, I am here to tell you one thing, and one thing only: you are not perfect, and that’s okay! It’s time to follow my seven tips and embrace the beautiful, incredible, imperfect you.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Come to the WebinarJoin me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- Highlights from this episode:00:37 - Having it all… but at what cost?06:21 - There’s no such thing as work-life balance10:20 - Your inner conflict16:11 - All does not mean perfect18:01 - Asking for help is not a weakness21:28 - Be present for yourself27:11 - Be ruthless32:41 - You are imperfect, and that’s ok34:22 - Who are you?💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s be clear: tylenol does not cause autism.It does not cause ADHD.Neurodivergence is not contagious.And it is not a disease to be caught or cured.You’ve probably heard these claims being made by certain politicians and Presidents recently, but let me assure you: there is no credible scientific evidence to support this.As parents, we already feel so much shame and guilt about our kids’ neurodivergence, be it ADHD, autism, or anything else.Why didn’t I spot it sooner?Am I a terrible Mum?Have I failed my child?We’ve all been there, and the answer is no, no, NO! So in this episode I am sharing the best bits from my recent interview with journalist and author Jessie Hewitson. Her sons are both neurodivergent and, it turns out, so is she, which she discovered while writing her book on ADHD.We cover everything from Mum guilt, to the school system, and what you can do to create a more positive, supportive environment for your neurodiverse kids.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation, because we’re about to take the RFK out of ADHD, and give you some home truths you don’t want to miss…Listen to the full episode with Jessie here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/raising-happy-adhd-children-with-jessie-hewitson/id1571503566?i=1000723801183 Come to the WebinarJoin me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here: https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- Highlights from this episode:00:58 - ADHD Myth Versus Reality03:37 - The Broken School System06:50 - Mom Guilt10:10 - Guilt and Motherhood Go Hand in Hand11:06 - Let the Doctor Make the Call12:56 - How to Rebuild Self-Esteem in Neurodivergent Children15:28 - Epiphany at the Cinema18:12 - F You All20:11 - A Neurotypical World21:55 - Be the Shield from Society’s Judgment22:24 - Do You Have ADHD?More from Jessie:Buy the book: https://a.co/d/eHGvsxf Read her article in The Times: https://www.thetimes.com/life-style/parenting/article/my-adhd-family-what-you-think-wrong-gq6s6hl3c?msockid=2f94feb8d57068851bbdebd1d476690b Visit NeuroUniverse: https://www.neurouniverse.co.ukConnect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessie-hewitson 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Someone leaves you in a room with a tasty treat. You can eat it right away, but you’ve been promised two treats if you resist for 15 minutes. What do you do?This isn’t a riddle, but a very important experiment called The Marshmallow Test, and I bring this up to show you that building self-control and willpower in our kids is an age-old challenge for parents like you and me.Which is why in this episode, I talk through some of the crucial factors that impact self-control and explain why taking the time to help your children develop this important skill, can set them up for success in adult life.Plus, I share some super practical tips which you can start using right now.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Come to the WebinarJoin me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here: https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- Highlights from this episode:00:22 - What the Tokyo World Athletics teaches parents02:55 - What is self-control?08:45 - The marshmallow test12:20 - Crucial factors16:54 - Be a role model for your kids22:35 - How to encourage self-control27:48 - We are the scaffolding💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is your child’s self-confidence at rock bottom?Are you feeling a bit helpless, or lost at how to help?Firstly, remember we have all been there, I promise you! And secondly, this bucket emptying episode builds on our previous episodes about confidence, but this time I talk specifically about how to boost really low self-confidence in your kids and teens.I’m going to share three things that I guarantee you will find super helpful when managing your child’s low self-confidence.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Come to the WebinarJoin me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- Highlights from this episode:01:10 - What is self-confidence?03:27 - Building a new, capable mindset05:16 - Learning to try07:48 - Shake it off💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Confidence is something we all struggle with, sometimes on a daily basis.But for our kids, who are dealing with new experiences, new challenges, and constant change all the time, their confidence and self belief is being really tested. Childhood is not quite as easy as we like to remember.. we’re all guilty of that!That’s why I’m kicking off a trilogy of episodes, taking a long hard look at confidence in our children, and how we, as parents, can support them through the tough times and help them build their self-belief.Remember, our goal is to be the scaffolding for our kids, to help them grow into healthy, resilient and confident people, and I’m here to guide you through every step.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Come to the WebinarJoin me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- Highlights from this episode:02:01 - These stats might shock you05:00 - The difference between self belief and self confidence06:30 - You must model confidence for your kids10:58 - Effort > result14:04 - Set regular goals17:17 - Cultivate curiosity for new things20:35 - I don’t like chores23:20 - How thoughts drive feelings26:52 - Our faith in them is unconditional💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you find yourself getting louder and louder when your kids don’t listen to you?Are you constantly fighting to get them to do what you ask?In the second of our two part bucket-emptying special, I am helping you manage your child’s non-compliance: when they just say no or, more annoyingly, they ignore you completely!Last week we talked through some of the main reasons why your children do this, and if you haven’t listened to that yet, spoiler alert: they’re not naughty.On this episode, I give you six practical things you can do right now to manage those moments when you just want to pull your hair out.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Come to the WebinarJoin me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- Highlights from this episode:01:56 - Not all buckets are created equal06:18 - Keep it simple09:35 - Take a moment to reset12:03 - Use a quieter voice14:46 - Can you turn it into a game?16:07 - Praising progress💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s episode, I am joined by Tish Feilden, formerly a teacher and psychotherapist, but today one of the founders of Jamie’s Farm.Alongside her son, they have created a life-changing program that, in their words, leaves children ‘better equipped to thrive academically, socially and emotionally during their school years and beyond.’We have a great chat about the benefits of putting the screens down, getting your children outside, and giving your kids the autonomy and the agency they need to thrive as confident, independent people.You don’t want to miss this!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…More from TishVisit Jamie’s Farm: https://jamiesfarm.org.uk/ Tish on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tish-feilden-a8a7b14b/?originalSubdomain=uk Come to the WebinarJoin me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- Highlights from this episode:02:33 - A whole different ball game06:02 - Why go to school when I can Google it?11:19 - Give your kids a sense of purpose15:39 - Embrace change and milk a cow21:17 - Help26:31 - It’s only a little electric shock29:28 - A week without phones33:02 - Every emotion is healthy37:20 - Your job as a parent is never complete💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do your children refuse to follow boundaries?Do you think you are never being listened to?In the first of a two part bucket emptying special, we are going to figure out the tricky issue of setting boundaries and getting our kids to actually respect them!But here’s a spoiler: you should not feel guilty for setting healthy boundaries. As a parent, it’s your job to be the rulemaker, and your kids won’t always like or understand that. And in this episode I’m going to share 5 of the biggest reasons for non-compliance to help you understand why your child is saying no.Then, in the next bucket emptying episode, we can explore some of the things you can start doing right away to help you deal with this.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Come to the WebinarJoin me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- Highlights from this episode:00:48 - Don’t feel guilty about setting boundaries03:04 - Our kids want some control over their own lives06:37 - Pushing boundaries is not just a phase; it’s a cycle10:28 - Is your child capable of doing what you’re asking them to do?15:40 - Catching them off guard💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your sense of self is so important, and a lot of it is wrapped up in who we think we are and how we compare ourselves to others.The same goes for your children, and supporting this will be one of your biggest challenges as parents.That’s why, in this episode, I’m going to explain what identity is, I’ll talk through the different developmental stages, and what you can do to help your kids navigate these particular stages in their life, as well as your own.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Come to the WebinarJoin me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- Highlights from this episode:04:19 - What is identity?08:24 - Conflict is at the core11:38 - Infancy conflicts14:20 - Autonomy and purpose18:54 - Primary school and self-confidence23:02 - Adolescence and identity26:35 - Intimacy versus isolation29:23 - Middle age stagnation34:10 - Old age despair💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you compare yourself to other parents?Do you sometimes think you’re not good enough?Here’s a secret… you are good enough, and every parent out there has the same doubt. I say it’s time to silence the inner critic!In this short bucket emptying episode, I give you four practical tips you can start doing today, to get rid of your inner critic and start being the happiest, most confident version of yourself. Because you cannot possibly look after your kids if you don’t first look after yourself.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:49 - Every parent experiences at least one of these03:16 - “I’m a bad parent”04:46 - Give yourself some slack05:49 - What’s your mantra?07:46 - Find your tribe09:50 - Go to sleep!💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Everything you know about ADHD is probably wrong.That’s the title of an influential article written by today’s guest, journalist and author Jessie Hewitson. Her sons are both neurodivergent and, it turns out, so is she, which she discovered while writing her book on ADHD.Jessie joins me to talk about the challenges she faced before her son’s diagnosis, the guilt she feels as a parent for not acting quicker or better during that time, and why the education system is built for a neurotypical world… and the problems you might face if you are also parenting a neurodiverse child.This is a fascinating conversation that will reframe everything you think you know about neurodivergence, autism and adhd.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:02:51 - The social shaming around ADHD11:01 - ADHD myth versus reality14:54 - ASD or ADHD?20:33 - Rebuilding self-esteem in ADHD children27:23 - F you all31:31 - A neurotypical world35:57 - Barriers in the system40:04 - Do I have ADHD?More from Jessie:Buy the book: https://a.co/d/eHGvsxf Read her article in The Times: https://www.thetimes.com/life-style/parenting/article/my-adhd-family-what-you-think-wrong-gq6s6hl3c?msockid=2f94feb8d57068851bbdebd1d476690b Visit NeuroUniverse: https://www.neurouniverse.co.ukConnect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessie-hewitson 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The first day at a new school can be a scary experience for many children, as well as us parents! But what do you do if your kid is super nervous?We often feel like the bad guy making them go in when they clearly don’t want to, even when we know it’s the best thing for them, so in this week’s bucket emptying episode, I give you my ten top tips for managing those first day jitters.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:21 - It’s normal to feel nervous05:33 - Active listening09:28 - Pulling back bedtime13:28 - Role play problem solving14:55 - Prep ourselves18:03 - Protect their energy21:35 - A happy child is more likely to learn24:51 - Pulling everything together💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is your child about to start school for the first time?Are they about to return from their Summer holidays?How do you know if they’re ready?Studies suggest that a majority of parents believe their children are ready for school, but many teachers believe a large portion of kids are not ready for school when they start. So who’s right?In this episode, I explore some of the red flags that might suggest your child is not fully prepared for the challenges of starting school, and offers some practical advice on what you can do to help.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:59 - A common myth05:53 - What does school ready mean?08:53 - Figure out your starting point10:58 - 6 honest questions to ask yourself17:07 - The art of negotiation18:55 - Managing conflict and separation anxiety23:43 - Closing the skills gap💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As parents, it’s our job to make the rules and enforce them. And it’s our children’s job to challenge those boundaries and push us to our limits.That’s why, when we try getting them to do something they simply don’t want to do, we often hear “you don’t trust me!”Even though it’s normal and age appropriate, I get it - it’s so frustrating. How do you parent this? How do you respond to this apparent lose-lose scenario?In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to give you five different responses you can use when your kids say this.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:41 - We’re all learning05:00 - Our role is to keep you safe07:07 - Laying down the law10:00 - Reinforcing family values11:33 - A hard no💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are your children smart? Spoiler alert: it doesn’t matter.I don’t believe that academic intelligence means your child will be successful in life, because real life is about so much more than grades.In this episode I am going to reveal what I think are the five essential life skills your kids need to be successful. I’ll tell you what they are, and give you practical ways you can develop this skill in your child.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:03:56 - The 5 Skills05:40 - Planning17:07 - Social curiosity25:19 - Self-regulation32:38 - Focus42:18 - Adaptability💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For the free resource library, previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do your children shut down when you ask them questions?Are they often frustrated that you don’t understand them?Do they think you don’t listen, or worse, don’t care?Active listening doesn’t come naturally to us. It’s a learned skill, and it helps us show our kids that we’re not just hearing them, but we understand them, and when their guard comes down you will be AMAZED at the results.In this episode I am going to show you what active listening is and how you can start doing it today to create more meaningful conversations with your children of any age.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:02:20 - A conversation of sounds07:40 - When our children are more articulate11:50 - Examples of active listening14:12 - It doesn’t need to work every time💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For the free resource library, previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.