How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

From Adolescence to Louis Theroux, the manosphere has become a mainstream talking point, and that’s a good thing!The manosphere is a term associated with toxic behaviour. Me, you, and all other parents out there know this is not what it means to be masculine or manly, but our kids don’t know that, and it is so important that we help them identify and understand problematic content when they see it, in age appropriate ways.Today I am diving inside the manosphere… well, sort of… to give you some practical tips that you can use to support those tricky conversations, and to help your children become confident, independent and compassionate people.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:17 - What is the manosphere?04:44 - The internet fills information voids07:15 - Don’t panic08:47 - Don’t say don’t12:54 - Critical thinking skills15:45 - Help your son navigate problematic content21:19 - For single mothers💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Returning to work is not easy, especially for new parents.You’ve probably had an extended time off. Your routine is different, your priorities are different, and life is different - you have a child now! So going back to work will never be the same as before.It is hard to adjust to your new normal, but I am going to share five ways you can shift your mindset to deal with this big change.Spoiler alert: parents might be superheroes, but we’re all still human. It’s ok to cut yourself some slack!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:24 - You WILL have to drop things04:57 - Control what you can in the moment08:28 - Find the tribe you need09:44 - Curate your own feed13:29 - Your child needs YOU to be ok💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are many myths about single parent families, and I’m telling you they are not true.The success, wellbeing and happiness of your child has nothing to do with how many parents they live with. In fact, children with single parents are very high achievers.But that doesn’t stop you feeling isolated, lonely, even out of your depth, wondering if you’re doing things right, or doing enough, or being as good a parent as everyone else.Today I’m giving your mojo back. Whether you’re a single parent or not, the practical advice in this episode is valuable to all parents.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:57 - The myths of single parenting06:07 - An invisible pressure10:20 - 3 simple questions14:41 - Boundaries18:04 - Pick your battles20:50 - Community buffers stress💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Calm down.Every parent knows these are the worst two words you can ever say to your child in the midst of a meltdown… and we’ve all learnt the hard way!Bringing your kids down from a tantrum can be impossible, and it’s much better if you have the tools and the tricks to diffuse a situation or calm them down before it escalates into a full tantrum.In this episode I am going to share a life-changing parenting hack that you can use to relieve yours and your child’s overwhelm, and it only takes 30 seconds.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:05 - Calm down02:54 - Meltdowns are not a behavioural problem05:02 - The physiological sigh10:21 - 3 things happen12:28 - Smell the flower, blow out the candle💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You have high expectations for your kids. Every parent does, and I get it!But sometimes we can present those expectations in ways that may not be as supportive to our children as we hoped.Last week I talked through the behaviours you can model to boost your kids’ academic success, confidence and friendships, so today I’m going further and giving you practical, easy to use tips for each of these, that help you manage expectations and show up in the best way possible.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Mentioned in this episode:9 Modelled Behaviours Boosting Academic Success, Confidence and Friendships - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/9-modelled-bevahiours-boosting-academic-success-confidence-friendships/ Highlights from this episode:01:30 - The Eton of State Schools05:57 - Expectation Does Not Guarantee Success12:09 - 3 Tips for Academic Success18:20 - Expectations for Confidence25:14 - Building Friendships💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The UK government has opened a public consultation on a potential social media ban for under 16 year olds, and this creates a huge opportunity for us.It’s not just about giving our opinion to government, but as parents we now have a real chance to connect with our kids like never before.What is their opinion on this?How do they feel?What matters to them, and why?This is chance for us to encourage our children to find a voice, and learn how to speak up for themselves whilst respecting others opinions, even if they disagree with them.And in this episode I share six reasons why this discussion is so important, and give you some practical tips to help you, as you navigate this tricky subject with your own kids.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Mentioned in this episode:Why I Now Believe in a Social Media Ban - https://drmaryhan.com/why-i-now-believe-in-a-social-media-ban-for-under-16s/ Highlights from this episode:00:53 - The social media ban03:44 - See how your child sees things07:54 - Having an opinion10:16 - Using your voice12:50 - An opportunity to shape the outcome💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you have not yet watched American skier Eileen Gu’s interview following her silver medal at the recent Winter Olympics, click the link below, because it blew me away!Her confidence and self-assuredness is an amazing example to lots of young people, especially young women and girls, and it got me thinking… are there common actions or traits of parents who raise successful, confident children?We’re going to find out!In this episode I am going to focus specifically on behaviours that boost academic success, confidence and friendships, and give you three practical tips for each.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Mentioned in this episode:Eileen Gu Interview - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CAhmzgTSBTI Highlights from this episode:00:31 - Eileen Gu05:17 - The Bobo Doll Experiment10:28 - Modelling academic success13:02 - Persistence over perfection16:48 - Confidence is an inside job19:19 - Model realistic confidence24:17 - Friendship Jenga27:16 - Model healthy friendships💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Children should be seen and not heard. Do you agree?We’ve all heard that expression, and we were all probably told this by our own parents! But I have noticed more and more examples of adult only areas of public spaces - on trains or in shopping malls - so I wanted to tackle this head on.For the record, I don’t agree with that saying, and in this episode I am going to share five reasons why it is better for us and our children when we encourage and support them to be included.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:26 - Seen but not heard03:17 - Learning on the job08:52 - Plan A, B, and C14:16 - Focus on what you CAN control💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Outbursts, tantrums, meltdowns… whatever you call them, they’re not fun!But your kids are not hardwired to deal with their emotions, it’s a skill they learn over time, and it’s your job as parent to support them and encourage them to develop those skills.It’s not easy - I can attest to that, having raised two kids myself! And that’s why in this episode I help you understand what causes emotional outbursts, how these present themselves in different ages and stages, and what you can do to support them.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:59 - Fear of judgement02:32 - Emotional regulation is learned07:43 - Verbal and physical escalations10:35 - The teen years14:08 - The biggest causes of emotional outbursts18:23 - How to handle outbursts23:10 - Keep them safe27:17 - What is the skills gap?💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Should I give my children pocket money?How much is enough?Should they have to earn it through chores?Knowing how much, when, and what can feel like a tricky minefield when thinking about pocket money for our kids. Some of you might decide simply not to do it, and that’s ok too.I can’t give you the right answer, because only you know what’s best for your family, but in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share five benefits of pocket money, from emotional regulation to financial skills, that might just help you find the answers you’re looking for.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:09 - Linking pocket money to chores03:30 - Don’t eat the marshmallow!05:29 - Opportunity cost08:36 - Pocket money builds emotional regulation11:04 - Finance and social conscience💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did you know 1 in 3 children have little or no confidence?Did you know girls are more likely to downplay their confidence?And did you know that children from non-white and minority ethnic groups are likely to have less confidence than their white male friends?Today I speak to Kathryn McColl, co-founder of Hark, the education agency that delivers programmes to over 90% of UK schools. Hark recently published their Listen Up report, which collected anonymous data from 1,400 children across the UK to better understand what they call the ‘confidence crisis.’I drill down into some of their jaw-dropping insights, including the above, as we discuss why confidence appears to be on the decline among young people.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Connect with Kathryn:More about Hark - https://harklondon.com/ Get the Listen Up Report - https://harklondon.com/listen-up/ Connect on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathryn-mccoll-5a918329/ Highlights from this episode:02:32 - What is Hark?05:43 - Confidence means opportunity11:08 - The impact of role models15:11 - Transitioning from primary to secondary school21:46 - Friction teaches confidence27:09 - Post exam stress29:37 - Girls hide their confidence33:37 - The confidence ladder💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From gentle parenting to FAFO, social media bombards us with content about the latest trends, so how do you really know what works and what doesn’t?In today’s bucket emptying episode, I talk you through some of the biggest parenting trends, and explain how they can be impacting you, and the ways in which you might then choose to parent your own kids.Because parenting is all-consuming. It’s a 24/7/365 gig, and the trends of day, whether we subscribe to them or not, can feel like they define us as parents. I’m here to tell you they don’t!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:48 - FAFO Parenting03:30 - Are we defined by the trends?06:23 - Labels take away the overwhelm09:56 - There’s no one size fits all approach12:35 - Parental intuition15:22 - Science vs media💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mental health is not just a buzz word, and oftentimes it goes hand in hand with physical health. But because we can’t see mental health, as parents it can be so easy to procrastinate these important conversations that provide a safe, supportive space for our children to really get honest with us.Whether you’re listening to this during Children’s Mental Health week or at any other time of the year, these practical tips will really help you to kickstart conversations about mental health with your family.It might not be easy, and it might take some time, but I promise you if you persevere and remain patient, your kids will eventually feel comfortable enough to talk to you.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Mentioned in this episode:Children’s Mental Health Week: https://www.childrensmentalhealthweek.org.uk/ Highlights from this episode:01:15 - Physical health IS mental health03:41 - I’ve noticed that…07:17 - How are you feeling?10:30 - Use books15:09 - Teachable moments16:38 - Talk out loud18:46 - 3 things to consider💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A sense of belonging is a basic human need. Without it can lead to loneliness, depression and many other mental and physical health issues.So to celebrate Children’s Mental Health Week, the theme of which this year is ‘this is my place’, I am going to give you five tips to help your children build their sense of belonging, because the world is a better place with them in it, and it’s our job as parents to help them believe that.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Mentioned in this episode:Children’s Mental Health Week: https://www.childrensmentalhealthweek.org.uk/ Attachment Theory: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/attachment-theory/ Highlights from this episode:00:28 - Children’s Mental Health Week02:21 - Attachment theory05:48 - Emotional availability09:27 - Help them to explore11:58 - Don’t diminish their interests14:05 - Belonging starts at home16:32 - You are important💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From the 8 Plus to A-Levels, exams can be a stressful experience… often as much for you, the parent, as the kids.You want the best for them, and of course you want them to do well, but it’s important to make sure we create a supportive environment, and not inadvertently add to the pressure.That’s why, in this important episode, I’m going to talk you through the dos and do nots of navigating exam season, and give you a bunch of super practical advice, which you can use right away.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:26 - It comes down to two things03:17 - Stay in your own lane07:29 - How to overcome self-sabotage12:29 - Supercharge your revision17:12 - Talk to your children21:15 - A balanced routine includes time for fun24:23 - Rest and restore27:17 - Support ought to be directed by the child, not us30:37 - What not to do35:28 - Trust their process!💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this bucket emptying episode, I look a bit closer at my conversation with Professor Sam Wass, who you may recognise from such TV shows as The Secret Life of 4 Year Olds. He is is currently Director of the Institute for the Science of Early Years at the University of East London.In last week’s interview he spoke to us at length about his research, but in today’s episode I want to drill down just a little more into some of his comments on emotional coregulation, and I’m going to share my own thoughts and some useful tips which you can put into action right away.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…More about Sam and his work:Website: https://www.profsamwass.com/ Useful research: https://www.profsamwass.com/tweet-threads/ Institute for the Science & Early Years of Youth: https://www.isey.org/ct-for-ey-and-schools Highlights from this episode:01:25 - Sam Wass on emotional coregulation07:00 - Stress contagion11:17 - Matching our children’s state14:24 - Meet them where they’re at💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Does your child ever get worked up, and you find it escalates super fast but feel powerless to bring them down from that ledge?Every parent has been there, but it’s only in recent years that we have really begun to understand the reasons why, and it’s all about neuroscience.Children’s brains are changing and developing all the time, which means as parents it can be so difficult to keep up, and know how to support them with things like emotional regulation, so I want to talk though some of these challenges and give you some practical advice that I hope will help you and your family.To have this conversation I am joined by Professor Sam Wass, who you may recognise from such TV shows as The Secret Life of 4 Year Olds. He is is currently Director of the Institute for the Science of Early Years at the University of East London, and shares some of his expertise, to help us all understand some of the science behind emotional regulation.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…More about Sam and his work:Website: https://www.profsamwass.com/ Useful research: https://www.profsamwass.com/tweet-threads/ Institute for the Science & Early Years of Youth: https://www.isey.org/ct-for-ey-and-schools Highlights from this episode:04:10 - Measuring brain stem activity08:08 - Nature versus nurture13:18 - Panic disorders17:20 - Long term effects of children in high stress states21:23 - Brain stem arousal is trending up25:29 - You’re only still when you’re dead31:25 - Children hate broccoli because of science35:18 - We’re going on a bear hunt42:33 - Quadrants48:00 - Mums and dads play differently53:29 - Co-regulating59:14 - Stress contagion💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I can’t do it!” - as parents we hear this all the time.Our children are learning new skills and experiencing new things every day, which means they are always facing things they’ve never done before. This can be scary, and often our kids might think they can’t do it or they’re not good enough.That’s why building resilience is so important. It gives them the foundation they need to persevere, to fail without fear, and to find that inner strength when things feel tough or challenging.In today’s bucket emptying I’m going to share five things you can do to create that shift, and help to build that resilience. And the best part: these are things you can start doing right now.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:49 - Non-friction06:23 - Modelling resilience08:19 - Curated friction10:20 - Boredom please12:44 - Conflict is friction14:16 - Don’t rush in to fix setbacks💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why won’t my kids go to sleep at their bed time?It doesn’t matter if your child is 2 or 20, every parent in the world will ask themselves this question, because sometimes, even if we stick to the routine, they just won’t settle down and get in bed.In this episode I continue our discussion around sleep, sharing some of the ways in which overtiredness can impact our kids and what you can do about it. Plus, I explain how things like puberty, technology and other factors have a bigger impact than you might realise.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:37 - Blankets and putty03:50 - Chronic sleep deprivation09:10 - Puberty and hormones12:27 - The emotional tank18:06 - Sibling dynamics and room sharing22:25 - Over scheduling26:02 - How to tackle overtiredness 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

New year is my favourite time of year.It’s a chance for us to turn a blank page and make conscious changes in our lives. Maybe you want to improve your health, or perhaps you have certain career goals, or maybe you just want to save for that dream family holiday.Whatever it is you set out to do this year, it all comes down to one thing: habits.Saving money is a habit.Eating better is a habit.Exercising more is a habit.Making time for yourself and your family… you guessed it, is a habit!So in this episode, I’m going to talk through how you can create positive new habits for yourself through stacking. By following this method, you can create super meaningful changes in your life by stacking small, easy new habits.The combined results over time can be life-changing!So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:58 - New year, atomic habits02:16 - Focus on the system not the goal04:34 - The two types of results06:24 - The habit that works all of the time09:02 - Little steps for a big change10:34 - A profound reminder💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.