Ex-Homeschoolers Club

Subscribe to Un•Religiously on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnReligiously What happens when a homeschooled teenager raised in a deeply evangelical environment suddenly enters a community college classroom filled with new ideas, identities, and worldviews?In this episode of The Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I'm sitting down with YouTuber Lauren Howe, creator of the Un•Religiously channel, to talk about growing up homeschooled in a highly religious environment and navigating the massive culture shock of entering public education and college.Lauren shares how her family originally started homeschooling due to learning challenges like ADHD, but over time became immersed in the evangelical homeschool culture of the early 2000s. She reflects on everything from joking that school buses were “prison buses” as a kid to grappling with evolution, gender identity, and even yoga classes for the first time in college.The conversation explores both the benefits and drawbacks of homeschooling, the influence of homeschool culture beyond parents themselves, and the complicated process of reconciling faith with new perspectives.Chapters00:00 Sneak Peek00:50 Welcome to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club01:52 Lauren’s Background04:09 Is Public School Really That Bad?07:11 Homeschool Culture Influence08:35 Homeschooling Pros and Cons10:27 What Parents Did Well11:51 Testing Out and Dual Enrollment13:43 Transition and Socialization17:03 Faith vs Evolution20:45 Yoga and Moral Panic22:48 Four Year College Next24:18 Pop Culture Catch Up26:59 College Culture Shock27:53 Hiding Homeschool Roots29:27 Spotting Fellow Homeschoolers30:16 Unreligiously Channel Mission33:06 Deconstruction First Dominoes37:26 Fear Silence And Fallout40:09 Seeing Prayer As Love43:00 Catching Up On Pop Culture45:20 Homeschooling X Factor47:38 Advice For New Homeschoolers51:51 Religious Liberty Commission Warning53:26 Final Thanks And WrapConnect with MeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at exhsclub@gmail.com

Want to be alerted when new episodes drop? Join the newsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/In this episode of Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I sit down with my cousin Amanda, a second-grade public school teacher with 13 years of classroom experience, to explore education from the “dark side.” Haha!Amanda shares what it’s really like inside today’s public schools: what works, what’s frustrating, and what’s changed over the last decade. From student teaching stories to advocating for kids who need services, she offers an honest look at the realities teachers face, including funding challenges, inclusion classrooms, and navigating parents who are (and aren’t) involved.We also talk candidly about homeschooling; the myths, the shifts in perception, and the surprising reality that even a public school teacher might consider homeschooling her own children.Key PointsWhy Amanda believes second grade is the “sweet spot” What student teaching really looks like (including full classroom takeover)How public education has shifted in the last 13 yearsThe reality of funding and where resources actually goWhy parental involvement makes a massive differenceThe biggest myth Amanda had about homeschoolingWhy she’s now reconsidering homeschooling for her own kidsWhat kids actually remember about school (hint: not the standards)If this episode hit home, share it with a parent, teacher, or anyone who's ever wondered what's really going on in our schools. Leave a comment and tell Jacob what landed for you. Connect with MeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at exhsclub@gmail.comChapters00:00 Why She Loves Teaching the Little Ones (Kinder–3rd Vibes)00:42 Growing Up Public Schooled: Favorite Teachers & Loving School02:40 When the ‘I Want to Teach’ Lightbulb Turned On05:15 College Path + Getting Credentialed (5-Year Track)06:36 Student Teaching Stories: Kindergarten, 6th Grade & Full Class Takeover09:43 13 Years in the Classroom: Landing in 2nd Grade for Good10:47 Why Second Grade Is the Sweet Spot: Independence & Interests Bloom13:23 Which Grades Are ‘Best’ to Teach? (And Why Junior High Is a No)15:19 Homeschooling From the Other Side: Myths, Social Life & Changing Views18:19 Homeschool Reality Check: Isolation, Co-ops, and Different Kids Thrive Differently20:00 How Public School Has Changed: Funding, Services, and Advocating for Kids23:14 Fighting for Students Without Support at Home23:40 Where the Money Goes: New Schools vs. Student Services25:32 Is Public Education ‘Broken’? Advocacy & Community Support26:21 Parents: Get Involved, Ask Questions, Know Your Rights29:39 Beyond Parents: Voting, Bonds, and Showing Up to Board Meetings32:03 Has a Public School Teacher Considered Homeschooling?34:10 Homeschool Reality Check: Space, Structure, and the Mom/Teacher Blur36:44 How Much Freedom Do Teachers Have? Standards, Pacing, and Customization40:57 What Kids Actually Remember: Hands-On Learning Over Test Prep42:36 Final Takeaway: Whatever You Choose, Stay Involved44:29 Wrap-Up, Thanks, and Call to Action

Get on the newsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/What happens when homeschooling meets full-time travel, nature-based learning, and a family determined to break out of traditional education models? In this episode of The Ex-Homeschoolers Club, Jacob sits down with Kayla Mathieu to explore her family’s roadschooling journey, how travel shaped her children’s education, and why reconnecting with nature has become a central pillar in their homeschooling philosophy.Kayla shares how her family successfully visited all 50 states while educating their children on the road, the challenges of adapting to different learning styles, and how stepping outside conventional classroom structures helped her kids thrive. She also discusses the importance of flexibility, community, and self-grace for families navigating homeschooling.From nervous system regulation through outdoor experiences to practical advice for parents considering homeschooling, this episode offers a thoughtful and balanced look at alternative education through lived experience.Quick HitsKayla’s family traveled to all 50 states while roadschooling their childrenHow travel and experiential learning shaped her children’s educationAdapting homeschooling methods to accommodate different learning stylesThe role of nature in supporting emotional regulation and mental healthThe realities of transitioning from traditional education structures to flexible learningAdvice for parents considering homeschooling and finding educational approaches that fit their familyThe importance of homeschool communities and support networksConnect with Kayla MathieuWandering Past Limits Blog: https://www.wanderingpastlimits.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@wanderingpastlimits Chapters00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:56 Meet Kayla: A Homeschooling Journey Begins01:18 Challenges in Traditional Schooling10:44 A Turning Point: Deciding to Homeschool11:46 First Year of Homeschooling: Learning the Ropes14:52 Finding the Right Curriculum19:32 Integrating Travel with Learning21:10 Revolutionary War History and East Coast Travels21:54 Navigating ADHD and Autism in Homeschooling22:45 Socialization and RV Homeschooling Groups26:02 Favorite Travel Destinations27:12 Individualized Homeschooling Approaches29:24 Reconnecting with Nature34:00 Advice for New Homeschooling Families36:18 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsConnect with MeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at exhsclub@gmail.com

In this episode of The Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I'm sitting down with Tess Ulrey, Executive Director of the Coalition for Responsible Home Education (CRHE). Tess shares her experience growing up homeschooled across multiple countries, transitioning in and out of public, private, and international schools, and how those experiences shaped her work advocating for homeschool children today.Together, they unpack the privilege embedded in homeschooling, the blurry lines between homeschooling and unschooling, the challenges many homeschool alumni face in college and adulthood, and why responsible oversight matters—not to punish families, but to protect kids.This conversation explores the good, the bad, and the uncomfortable realities of homeschooling, including abuse, neglect, and the gaps that exist in state laws across the U.S.Key Topics CoveredTess’s experience being homeschooled in Michigan, Japan, and GermanyHomeschooling vs. unschooling—and why the line is blurrier than everThe role of privilege in homeschooling decisionsTransitioning from homeschooling to college and adult lifeWhy many homeschool alumni hide their education backgroundHow public schools and community organizations fill critical support gapsThe mission and work of the Coalition for Responsible Home EducationThe reality of abuse, neglect, and lack of oversight in homeschooling lawsCurrent legislation impacting homeschool children in the U.S.🔗 Resources & LinksCoalition for Responsible Home Education: https://crhe.orgHomeschooling's Invisible Children Database: https://hic.crhe.org Connect with MeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at exhsclub@gmail.comNewsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/If you’re a former homeschooler, your story matters. Consider connecting with CRHE to support research, advocacy, and responsible policy that centers the lived experiences of homeschool alumni.Chapters00:00 Coming Up00:44 Meet Tess Ulrey01:43 Tess's Homeschooling Journey04:12 Transitioning Between Education Systems08:14 Defining Homeschooling and Unschooling10:17 Challenges and Benefits of Unschooling14:09 College and Career: Post-Homeschooling Life18:18 Nonprofit Work and Community Support23:03 Public Schooling Decision for Tess's Kids26:41 The Coalition for Responsible Home Education33:05 How to Get Involved with CRHE44:42 Conclusion and Call to Action

Join the newsletter here: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/What happens when homeschooling leaves the house and hits the open road? In this episode of The Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I'm sitting down with Robin (aka BG Barnstormer), a former homeschooling mom who spent three years educating her kids while living full-time in an RV. Robin shares how a rotating pilot schedule led her family to homeschooling, how community support shaped their early years, and what really happens when learning differences, sensory needs, and emotional regulation collide in 350 square feet. Whether you’re a homeschool parent, an ex-homeschooler, or just curious about alternative education paths, this episode is packed with practical insight and lived experience.*Key Topics Covered*- Why a nontraditional work schedule pushed the family toward homeschooling- Building community through Classical Conversations and homeschool co-ops- Recognizing reading challenges, dyslexia, dysgraphia, and tracking issues- The power of audiobooks for kids with learning differences- Emotional regulation tools and “quiet corners” for kids (and adults)- How homeschooling in an RV forces flexibility and creativity- Why getting a diagnosis can be empowering, not limiting- Transitioning from homeschooling into online public school*Connect with Robin*- Website: https://bgbarnstormer.com- Blog Post Mentioned: https://bgbarnstormer.com/autism-spectrum/snowflakes-understanding-our-unique-self/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bgbarnstormer- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BGBarnstormerIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!*Connect with Me*Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at exhsclub@gmail.com*Chapters*00:00 Introduction to the Ex Homeschoolers Club00:45 Meet Robin: The Homeschooling Mom on the Road01:55 The Decision to Homeschool04:34 Early Homeschooling Days and Community Building11:50 Homeschooling Challenges and Learning Difficulties28:36 Homeschooling in an RV: Strategies and Adaptations31:53 Creating Quiet Spaces for Emotional Regulation33:33 The Importance of Regulation Tools49:02 Navigating Public Online Schooling55:54 Experiential Learning Through Travel01:00:07 Robin’s Book and Blog01:03:16 Final Thoughts and Farewell

Wanna be on the podcast? Email your homeschool experience to exhsclub@gmail.com In this end of year episode I'm reflecting on the incredible year of conversations, stories, and community we've creating in the ex-homeschoolers club. Get a little sneak peek of what's coming in early 2026 and some of the ideas I've got percolating. Resources & Links- Email the show: exhsclub@gmail.com- Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/- Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclub- Learn more about the Coalition for Responsible Home Education (CRHE): https://crhe.orgChapters00:00 Welcome Back To The Ex-Homeschoolers Club00:23 Thank You For Coming On The Journey00:53 Happy Holidays01:26 Sneak Peek of 202603:01 What's Changing in 202604:34 I Need Your Feedback06:59 That's All FolksIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!

Former public school teacher turned world traveler Patti Hunt joins Jacob to unpack what teachers really think about homeschoolers, why she eventually wished she homeschooled her own kids, and how road-schooling families are reshaping modern education. Patti also shares her journey from the classroom to RV life, and the powerful lesson that pushed her to stop waiting and start living.Key PointsWhat 20 years in public schools taught her about kids, parents, and the systemMyths homeschoolers believe about public school — and what’s actually truePatti’s honest experience growing up in Philadelphia’s school systemHow teacher bias shows up in classrooms (even unintentionally)Why she now believes homeschooling can be powerful...but not for everyonePatti’s transition from teaching to entrepreneurship to RV travelThe road-schooling families she met and the hilarious moment she told one she was a public school teacherThe urgent lesson from her mother’s final days: don’t wait to live your lifePractical encouragement for parents who feel guilty about their choicesConnect with PattiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@InspiredTravelsWithPatti Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/10YFZMzAmwA305cI4W5Db5?si=1a0d269337d44814Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inspiredtravelswithpatti/ If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at exhsclub@gmail.comTimestamps00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:21 Meet Patti Hunt: A Journey from Teaching to Traveling01:43 Patti's Teaching Career: From Business to Education04:28 Homeschooling vs. Public School: Myths and Realities13:46 Parental Involvement in Education16:28 The RV Life: From Classroom to Open Road19:21 Road Schooling: Educating on the Move22:00 Parental Guilt and School Choices22:26 Homeschooling Success Stories24:11 Rethinking College Education26:41 The Value of Hands-On Learning28:53 Exploring the United States33:47 Encouraging Spontaneous Travel39:12 Final Thoughts on Parenting and Education

This week on the pod, I sit down with long-time friend Hannah to unpack her deeply personal journey through homeschooling, neurodivergence, and self-discovery. Growing up in a chaotic Christian homeschool environment with six siblings, Hannah reflects on what worked, what didn’t, and how a lack of structure and support shaped her sense of self-worth. She opens up about entering adulthood feeling unprepared, navigating community college with massive anxiety, and later discovering she’s neurodivergent, a revelation that reframed her entire childhood. Now working in education and pursuing behavioral-tech certification, Hannah shares how therapy, understanding, and self-compassion have helped her rebuild confidence and reclaim her love of learning. This conversation is raw, insightful, and incredibly validating for anyone who felt “behind” growing up homeschooled.Key PointsBig family life, AWANA memories, and mime team cultureHow chaos, parental conflict, and lack of structure shaped her educationFeeling “behind” and “dumb” the long-term effects of educational neglectNavigating college without foundational skillsDiscovering she’s neurodivergent at 30 & how therapy reframed everythingSensory issues, coping strategies, overstimulation, and emotional regulationHomeschooling today vs. “the bubble” we grew up inTimestamps00:00 Welcome to the Ex Homeschoolers Club00:32 Childhood Memories and AWANA Days07:39 Homeschooling and Family Dynamics12:10 Struggles with Education and Self-Worth16:23 College Challenges and Career Choices20:39 Discovering Neurodivergence and Therapy29:42 Managing Overstimulation30:30 Dealing with Everyday Frustrations33:10 Understanding Neurodivergence37:06 Homeschooling Reflections43:29 Big Family Dynamics46:39 Advice for Future Homeschoolers49:48 Pursuing New Learning Opportunities53:20 Homeschool Memories55:45 Final Thoughts and EncouragementIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at exhsclub@gmail.com

This week I sit down with Ashley Peek, a current homeschool parent, content creator, and founder of the Secular Homeschool Revolution. Ashley shares her journey from navigating a broken public school system to creating a thriving secular progressive homeschool community in Texas. She opens up about her daughter’s challenge getting the IEP services she needed, the struggle to find inclusive co-ops, and how she built a space that celebrates diversity, social justice, and child-led learning.Together, we unpack the evolution of homeschooling beyond religion—covering everything from micro schools and anti-racist curriculum to sex education and the role of community in raising curious, confident kids.🔑 Key Points- How Ashley transitioned from frustrated parent to homeschooling advocate- What “secular progressive homeschooling” really means—and why it matters- The challenges of finding (and creating) inclusive co-ops for families of color- Building child-led education through clubs, field trips, and micro schooling- The importance of sex education, open conversations, and justice-centered learning- How homeschooling parents can still advocate for better public schools- Why mutual aid and community support are essential for homeschool success🔗 References & Guest Links- Podcast “Secular Homeschool Revolution”: https://open.spotify.com/show/5O8R301kT316E67DOf6y17?si=df7803f117334631- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@secular_homeschool_mama- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/secular_homeschool_revolution⏱️ Timestamps00:00 Introduction to Secular Progressive Homeschooling00:22 Meet Ashley Peek: Homeschool Parent and Content Creator02:03 Ashley’s Homeschooling Journey: Challenges and Decisions08:25 Building a Secular Progressive Homeschool Community15:59 Defining Secular Progressive Homeschooling25:34 Co-op and Micro Schooling: A New Approach40:23 Experiential Learning at Home41:18 The Role of Curriculum in Homeschooling42:14 Unschooling: Pros and Cons45:27 Encouraging Deep Dives into Interests46:42 Real-Life Skills vs. Academic Knowledge48:55 The Importance of Play and Exploration49:47 Parental Responsibility in Education59:20 Community Support in Homeschooling01:01:12 Advocacy for Public Education01:01:52 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at exhsclub@gmail.com

This week I'm reconnecting with longtime friend Stephanie to unpack her full-circle journey through homeschooling, early marriage, motherhood, and now parenting kids in public school. Stephanie shares candid reflections on growing up in an unstructured homeschool environment, her surprising enrollment into El Camino, and the decision to homeschool her own children—before realizing public school was the right fit. We explore the tension between faith, education, and identity in the homeschool world, revealing how breaking away led to personal growth, renewed curiosity, and healthier family dynamics.🔑 *Key Points*- Stephanie’s experience growing up in a large, loosely structured homeschool family- Transitioning from homeschool to El Camino and earning her GED- Early marriage, motherhood, and the challenges of homeschooling her own kids- Letting go of the “public school is evil” mindset- Rediscovering a love for learning as an adult through podcasts and books🔗 *References & Mentions*- Adventures in Odyssey- Group Solutions Homeschool Co-op- El Camino Independent Study Program- Ken Ham / Answers in Genesis (mentioned critically)⏰ *Timestamps*00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:55 Meet Stephanie: A Lifelong Homeschooler01:46 Homeschooling Dynamics and Family Life06:52 Extracurricular Activities and Group Solutions12:45 Transition to El Camino and GED Journey20:07 Homeschooling Her Own Kids24:17 Rethinking Education Choices25:42 Public vs. Homeschooling: A Personal Journey26:18 Challenging Public School Stereotypes28:39 Parental Involvement in Public School30:22 Balancing Exposure and Protection35:12 Advice for Prospective Homeschoolers38:42 Rediscovering the Love of Learning42:20 Unique Homeschool Memories45:19 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at exhsclub@gmail.com

Hey everyone—it’s Jacob Gooden, and I’m back with an update on the Ex-Homeschoolers Club! In this solo episode, I open up about why the show has been quiet for the past month, what’s been happening behind the scenes, and how I’ve been dealing with burnout, anxiety, and social media overload. I share the changes I’ve made to prioritize my mental health, including stepping back from social platforms, cutting down on caffeine, and making time for rest and fun. I also give you a sneak peek at the exciting new interviews coming soon—ranging from conversations with a sex education expert to homeschooling parents and college prep specialists. Finally, I ask for your feedback on the future direction of the show, possible community spaces, and ways we can grow together as ex-homeschoolers.🔑 Key TakeawaysWhy the Ex-Homeschoolers Club is not canceled and what’s coming nextMy personal journey with burnout, overwhelm, and how I’m working through itThe importance of mental health practices: less caffeine, better sleep, stepping away from social mediaSneak peek at upcoming guest interviews covering sex education, college prep, and modern homeschooling perspectivesCall for listener feedback on building community (book clubs, Zoom hangouts, Reddit/Discord, etc.)⏰ Timestamps00:00 WE ARE BACK BABY00:30 Where have I been?04:28 What is happening with the show05:53 I need your feedbackThe Ex-Homeschoolers Club isn’t going anywhere—but I want your help shaping its future! Share your thoughts in the YouTube comments, on Spotify, or by emailing me at exhsclub@gmail.com. Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who needs it. And if you’re new here, check out past episodes to get caught up. Let’s keep building this space for ex-homeschoolers together.

Get signed up for the newsletter here: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/In this solo episode of the Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I, Jacob Gooden, turn the mic on myself to share my full homeschooling journey. From starting in second grade to navigating private Christian homeschool co-ops in Southern California, I unpack the curriculum choices, the socialization opportunities, the challenges, and the lessons I carried into college and adulthood. I reflect on the strengths and weaknesses of Christian-based education, the role of extracurriculars like swing dance and theater, and how homeschooling shaped my worldview, work ethic, and career. This is a candid look at my personal story and what I’ve learned about education, growth, and identity along the way.Key Takeaways:Insights into different types of homeschooling: private, charter, and unschooling.Curriculum that worked (Math-U-See, Story of the World) and what fell short (Spanish with Rosetta Stone).The role of co-ops, church groups, and extracurriculars in building socialization skills.How Christian-based curriculum shaped my early worldview—and where it left gaps.Transitioning from homeschool to college: challenges, growth, and learning to adapt.Resources Mentioned:Math-U-See (math curriculum)Story of the World (history curriculum)Exploring Creation (science curriculum)Rod & Staff EnglishRosetta Stone (language learning)CHEA (Christian Home Educators Association)If this episode resonates with you, share it with a friend, leave a review on your favorite podcast app, and don’t forget to subscribe to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club newsletter for updates, resources, and community stories. Join the conversation with me on Instagram, Threads, and TikTok at @exhsclub.

If you haven't already, consider subscribing to the YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@Ex-HomeschoolersClubIn this episode of The Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I sit down with Julius, one of 12 siblings, to unpack what it was like growing up in a massive homeschool family led by a pastor dad. From the chaos of daily life in a household of 14 to navigating the isolating years of COVID, Julius shares candidly about academic challenges, sibling dynamics, extracurricular outlets, and ultimately, a journey of questioning faith and identity. We explore the highs and lows of homeschooling in a big family, the tension between church and education, and how discovering a love of learning outside those boundaries shaped Julius into who they are today. This conversation is raw, real, and deeply relatable for anyone who’s grown up homeschooled, in faith-heavy environments, or simply searching for identity beyond the structures they were raised in.Key Takeaways:Life inside a homeschool family of 12 kids: chaos, support systems, and sibling dynamics.Balancing academics with church commitments under a pastor parent.The impact of COVID on socialization, isolation, and extracurricular opportunities.Julius’ journey of self-discovery, questioning faith, and embracing identity.Why cultivating curiosity and a love of learning matters beyond traditional schooling.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Welcome01:13 Meet Julius: Growing Up in a Big Homeschool Family01:50 Homeschooling Dynamics and Daily Life06:06 Academic Challenges and Achievements14:08 Socialization and Extracurricular Activities16:53 Impact of COVID-19 on Homeschooling27:14 Deconstructing Faith and Personal Growth33:59 Realizing the Fallibility of Beliefs35:33 Exploring Other Religions36:44 Questioning Faith and God's Existence39:28 Controlling the Narrative of Personal Beliefs44:43 The Importance of Learning and New Experiences53:41 Balancing Extracurriculars and Church Commitments58:30 Advice for Homeschooling Parents01:04:19 Cherishing Sibling Bonds01:06:18 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsIf this episode resonated with you, please subscribe to The Ex-Homeschoolers Club on your favorite podcast platform, leave us a 5-star review, and share this episode with a friend who’d connect with Julius’ story. Don’t forget to follow me on YouTube, Instagram, and Threads at @EXHSClub to join the ongoing conversation.

In this episode of the Ex-Homeschoolers Club, we’re wrapping up our four-part series on Joshua Harris’s controversial book I Kissed Dating Goodbye. In this final installment, I dissect Part Four, “Now What?”, where Harris outlines his vision for marriage, intimacy, and what he calls “principled romance.” I share personal stories of feeling pressured to marry young, highlight the contradictions in Harris’s teachings on intimacy, and reflect on how purity culture created lasting shame around sex and relationships. If you’ve been following the series, this episode ties it all together and calls out the damaging legacy of purity culture.Key Takeaways:Why young Christians felt pressured to marry quickly and “redeem the time.”Harris’s inconsistent and harmful ideas on intimacy.The damaging effects of modesty culture and gender stereotypes.How parental control undermined personal agency in relationships.The lasting shame purity culture instilled around sex and marriage.Resources Mentioned:I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua HarrisPrevious podcast episodes in this seriesPart 1: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5FUQajXv6SLZzwpQfkwE89?si=8b13dae4bd2f49b6 Part 2: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7eYDn78AVImTRde8Igfr9d?si=90b6d63245b74df5 Part 3: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tlrZ8S9T2VjwNJJp8SuxO?si=e6b8022f3fb34db1 If this episode resonated with you, make sure to subscribe to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club on your favorite podcast app, leave a review to share your thoughts, and join the discussion in our community at r/ExHomeschoolersClub. Let’s continue unpacking the impact of purity culture together.

This week on the podcast, we’re throwing a birthday party! It's the one-year anniversary of the Ex-Homeschoolers Club, and to celebrate, I brought back my very first guest and longtime friend Cari Frantz for a fun and nostalgic conversation. We dive deep into the media, books, movies, and music we weren’t allowed to consume growing up as Christian homeschoolers—and the surprising ways we found our way to them as adults. From Harry Potter to Pitbull concerts, purity culture to Plugged-in reviews, we talk about the weird rules we lived by, what we now enjoy guilt-free, and how we're making peace with our past. Whether you're a fellow ex-homeschooler or just curious about the quirks of conservative upbringings, this episode will have you laughing, nodding along, and maybe even dusting off your old Adventures in Odyssey tapes.Key Takeaways:The irony of being banned from Harry Potter but encouraged to read NarniaPluggedIn, Christian DVD players, and other evangelical tools for "safe" mediaWatching or reading forbidden content as adults and learning to trust our own boundariesHow music like Pure NRG, Backstreet Boys, and even Pitbull shaped our teenage rebellionRespecting our parents' intentions while forging our own relationships with pop cultureResources Mentioned:PluggedIn.comAdventures in Odyssey by Focus on the FamilyThe Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. LewisHarry Potter series by J.K. RowlingThe Space Trilogy by C.S. LewisCrossroads Guitar FestivalPure NRG, Jump5, Charlie Puth (early covers), Christina GrimmieDid you grow up homeschooled with strict media rules? What were you not allowed to read, watch, or listen to? Drop a comment with your story. And if you’ve been with the podcast from the beginning, help us celebrate one year by sharing your favorite episode! Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and follow the Ex-Homeschoolers Club for more stories every week. And share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at exhsclub@gmail.com

This week I'm diving into Part 3 of I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris—a section packed with so-called "practical tools" for keeping Christian teens pure. Spoiler: it's just more purity culture with a fresh coat of patriarchal paint.In this episode, I unpack chapters 8 through 11, covering Harris’s infamous four-step plan for building godly relationships. We look at what it means to “start with a clean slate,” why he thinks you need your parents’ permission to date, and the mental gymnastics required to avoid every ounce of human attraction. I also share personal stories about awkward birthday ceremonies, homeschool dating dynamics, and how being taught to distrust your own body messes you up well into adulthood.This one’s heavy but important—especially if you're trying to untangle the emotional damage of purity culture.In This Episode, I Cover:The “Four Steps” to godly dating and why they don’t hold upHow purity culture reinforces shame, secrecy, and lack of bodily autonomyMy own cringe memories of gendered homeschool rituals and toxic birthday partiesHow mentorship, boundaries, and even lust are twisted in this frameworkRedefining intimacy, friendship, and trust outside of evangelical fear-mongeringWant More Like This?Subscribe to Ex-Homeschoolers Club wherever you get your podcasts, leave a rating or review (it helps a ton!), and join the newsletter (https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/subscribe)  for show updates, behind-the-scenes notes, and community discussion.If this episode brought back memories or stirred something in you, I’d love to hear your story. Share your thoughts with me on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/)  or drop me an email at exhsclub@gmail.com

Subscribe to my email newsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/subscribe This week on the Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I had an absolutely joyful conversation with artist, teacher, and former homeschooler Noah Fontana. From the moment we hit record, it felt like two longtime friends reconnecting. We dove deep into Noah's unique homeschool upbringing, how his love of comic books and creativity shaped his early education, and how homeschooling helped him lean into his artistic talents. We also explored Noah's journey from animation work at DreamWorks to discovering his true passion in art therapy and teaching. If you've ever wrestled with the intersection of creativity, identity, and education, this episode is for you.Key Takeaways:How Noah's homeschool environment nurtured his passion for art and comicsThe connection between storytelling, animation, and emotional expressionThe challenges of people-pleasing, code-switching, and growing up in a controlled homeschool bubbleHow art therapy changed Noah's career trajectory and how he connects with students through creative expressionThe value of reframing "bad" traits like people-pleasing into useful tools when used mindfullyConnect with NoahInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/teacher.noah/Grab a copy of his book Mixed-Up Metaphors: https://a.co/d/gHFVTq6Resources Mentioned:Jeneve Dube's podcast "Homeschooled": https://solo.to/homeschooled"Creativity, Inc." by Ed Catmull: https://a.co/d/h4CuAiQ"Blink" by Malcolm Gladwell: https://a.co/d/cfhPqpy Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview01:16 Meet Noah: New Guest Introduction02:38 Noah's Homeschooling Journey06:33 Artistic Passions and Early Influences12:49 Public Speaking and Personal Growth27:48 From High School to Career Beginnings28:06 Reflecting on SATs and Standardized Tests29:58 SAT and ACT Experiences31:22 College Application Process34:00 Choosing Between BA and BFA36:12 College Life and Education System Critique39:29 Exploring Art and Creativity50:05 Art Therapy and Career Shift01:00:48 Teaching and Art Therapy in Practice01:03:18 Debating Art Therapy Practice01:03:46 Impact of Teachers on Kids01:04:44 Incorporating Art Therapy in Classrooms01:05:05 Engaging Kids Through Art01:08:37 Homeschooling Insights and Advice01:11:59 Challenges and Rewards of Teaching01:17:46 Parents Learning to Teach01:24:42 Nostalgic Homeschool Memories01:32:08 Final Thoughts and PromotionsEnjoying the show? Make sure you're subscribed so you never miss an episode. If you found Noah's story inspiring, leave us a review and share this episode with a friend who loves creativity or is on their own journey of self-discovery post-homeschooling. And don’t forget to sign up for my newsletter for updates, resources, and behind-the-scenes extras from the podcast!

This week on The Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I'm diving into Part 2 of I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris, tackling the chapters that aim to define "true Christian love" and promote the gift of singleness. As a former homeschooler who grew up immersed in purity culture, I bring my personal experience and critical reflection to the table. We unpack the book's problematic teachings around sex, self-love, gender roles, and its impact on developing healthy relationships. I also reflect on the emotional weight of shame, the myth of male self-control, and the limitations of evangelical definitions of love and purity. This episode is raw, personal, and full of the hard questions we need to ask about how books like this shaped a generation.Key Topics Covered:The toxic binary of Christian vs. worldly loveHow purity culture shames normal human emotions and desiresThe myth of male sexual helplessness and how it harms everyoneThe concept of singleness as a spiritual calling vs. realityThe failure of evangelical literature to cite evidence or acknowledge harmResources Mentioned:I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua HarrisWhen Religion Hurts You by Laura E. AndersonThe Westminster CatechismThe story of King David and Bathsheba (2 Samuel 11-12)Timestamps00:00 Introduction to 'I Kissed Dating Goodbye'00:19 Recap of Part One01:29 Exploring Christian Love vs. Worldly Love02:10 Chapter Four: Looking Up "Love" in God's Dictionary04:42 Aphrodite or Christ: Defining Love10:04 Chapter Five: The Right Thing at the Wrong Time Is the Wrong Thing20:21 The Gift of Singleness26:14 Chapter Six: The Direction of Purity28:46 Purity as a Direction, Not a Fixed Point32:55 The Story of King David and Bathsheba33:58 Questioning Christian Justifications35:30 Proverbs and the Seductive Spirit36:30 Purity in Action38:58 Critique of Christian Literature40:40 Billy Graham and Evangelist Integrity41:58 Purity Culture and Male Accountability47:04 Gender Roles and Responsibilities52:34 Chapter Seven: A Cleansed Past: The Room01:00:17 Reflections and Future DirectionsIf this episode resonates with you, I want to hear your story. What was your experience with purity culture? Did you read I Kissed Dating Goodbye or grow up around its teachings? Send me a DM on Instagram or Threads or email exhsclub@gmail.com. And don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who might need to hear it.

This week in the clubhouse, we're chatting with Marsh, the youngest guest to date and a recent escapee from the world of homeschooling. We dive into their story of growing up homeschooled in rural Oklahoma, using the ACE (Accelerated Christian Education) curriculum, and being raised by their grandmother in a deeply religious environment. Marsh opens up about the challenges of being a queer, creative kid in a conservative Christian bubble, and how homeschooling shaped (and sometimes hindered) their education, self-worth, and social development. It’s a raw and reflective conversation about isolation, religion, and finding your identity outside of the system.💡 Key Topics & Takeaways:What it’s like being homeschooled by your grandma using the ACE curriculumHow ADHD and rural isolation shaped Marsh’s academic and social experienceThe religious trauma and fundamentalist ideology baked into Christian homeschooling materialsThe importance of creative outlets like art in surviving mental and emotional hardshipReclaiming your identity as a queer person after leaving a controlling environment📚 Resources & Mentions:ACE Curriculum (Accelerated Christian Education)⁠When Religion Hurts You by Laura E. AndersonAwana (evangelical youth program)Indistractable by Nir Eyal (book on managing focus and technology)🔗 Connect with MarshTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marshintobattleInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/marshin.to.battle/⏱️ Timestamps00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement01:16 Meet Marsh: A New Ex-Homie02:09 Marsh's Homeschooling Journey04:03 The ACE Curriculum Explained07:15 Challenges and Dynamics of Homeschooling41:10 Creativity and Art in Marsh's Life43:22 Rediscovering Creativity Post-Internet43:59 The Ebb and Flow of Creative Waves44:54 Finding Comfort in Creativity46:21 The Therapeutic Power of Art47:37 Lego and Problem-Solving Creativity49:09 Dealing with Creative Blocks52:19 The Impact of Stress on Creativity55:12 Religious Upbringing and Homeschooling56:22 Questioning Religious Teachings01:09:33 Homeschooling Challenges and Advice01:14:55 Reflecting on Homeschooling Experiences01:17:21 The Importance of Tailoring Education01:20:47 Final Thoughts and FarewellIf you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to rate and review the show on your favorite podcast app. It helps other ex-homeschoolers find the pod! Subscribe on ⁠YouTube⁠ to watch full video episodes.

I read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris—so you don’t have to. This is Part 1 of a multi-episode series where I unpack the book’s harmful messages, its connection to purity culture, and its deep roots in the Christian homeschooling world. From courtship myths to repressed sexuality and emotional confusion, I explore how this 1997 “dating manual” shaped a generation—and how Harris himself eventually walked it all back.I also share personal experiences growing up in a conservative Christian homeschool setting, including my early encounters with the Harris family’s broader influence. Whether you're deconstructing your upbringing or just want to understand how purity culture warped an entire generation’s view of relationships, this episode is for you.Key Topics Covered:- The origin and impact of I Kissed Dating Goodbye- Why purity culture thrived in the homeschool movement- My own history with the Harris family’s teachings- Courtship vs. dating: myths, harms, and personal pushback- Emotional, sexual, and developmental confusion caused by purity messagingResources & Mentions:- I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris (now retracted)- Do Hard Things by Alex & Brett Harris- Sex Isn’t the Problem (Lust Is) by Joshua Harris- HSLDA (Homeschool Legal Defense Association)Timestamps00:00 Introduction to the Ex Homeschoolers Club01:09 Overview of 'I Kissed Dating Goodbye'02:39 The Harris Family and Homeschooling03:30 Personal Experiences with the Harris Family05:17 Initial Thoughts on 'I Kissed Dating Goodbye'06:34 Courtship vs. Dating07:35 Navigating Teenage Years and Sexuality12:38 Chapter One: Smart Love22:14 Chapter Two: 7 Habits of Highly Defective Dating28:20 Introduction to Defective Dating Habits29:12 Intimacy Without Commitment32:14 Physical Relationship vs. True Love34:44 Dating as a Distraction36:46 Artificial Environment in Dating41:25 Chapter Three: A New Attitude Towards Dating42:20 The Gift of Singleness47:22 Purity and Boundaries in Relationships51:48 Final Thoughts and Personal ReflectionsIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at exhsclub@gmail.com