You Make Sense

Learning how to heal through your living can feel challenging or unfamiliar, especially if we’ve primarily found safety inside therapeutic containers, but it is also a necessary part of fully embodying the life you are here to live. You’ll get tangible tools to step toward your desires, receive abundance without suffering, and find support as you continue to grow. Wherever you are on your healing journey, this episode will show you just how much is possible for you. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:25] Today’s topic: post-traumatic growth[03:45] Why you may struggle to navigate healing through living[11:46] Building your ‘house of healing’[14:59] What to expect as you start to live fully[21:26] Why suffering isn’t necessary to receive abundance[23:59] The importance of having support through healing[25:28] Question 1 - How do I take action once I know my truth?[29:24] Question 2 - Why has it been so challenging to start my business?[35:15] Question 3 - How do I tend to my parts as I take steps in my purpose? Get Started with Nervous System Regulation:Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s brand new introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, will equip you with science-backed tools to regulate your nervous system, so that you can experience more freedom and ease in your daily life. Join the course for only $67: bit.ly/sp-nse Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment. Click the link below to download:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“A lot of our healing comes from our living.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:01]“Good things don’t always feel good at first because our nervous system doesn’t know them.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:40]“Transforming into anything new means a loss of something else. So, really [take] the time to be with that and not rush the process.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:06]“The depths of your suffering equate to the depths of aliveness you get to experience in life, and so, the deeper the suffering, when you heal that, the deeper the ecstasy of just breathing is.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:41]“Your learning was in and through [your] suffering, and now your learning is in your living.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:49] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Join the Waitlist for You Make SenseJoin the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System

Sarah explains how romantic relationships poke at early our attachment wounding the most, often leaving us reacting from old survival patterns rather than responding to what is happening in the present. She introduces the metaphor of the relationship as a battlefield versus a garden, showing how conflict, blame, and shutdown arise when unresolved wounds take the lead, and what becomes possible when both people reorient toward growth, responsibility, and care.This episode invites listeners to see relationships as a shared, living process that can heal the past and support deeper connection when tended with awareness and willingness. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:30] The myth that romantic relationships should feel effortless[05:26] Moving from self-focus to being relationally-focused[07:46] The role of willingness and self-growth in partnerships[09:20] Tending the relationship as a shared garden instead of a battlefield[15:38] How the nervous system projects childhood experiences onto our partner[17:51] Why we are drawn to partners who mirror our unfinished business[22:46] How understanding our parts and reparenting them supports relational repair[27:49] Building empathy by recognizing our partner’s parts and core wounds[31:02] Honoring difference and celebrating stretching[40:23] What becomes possible in relationships when both people are willing[43:15] Question 1 - Differentiating anxiety from truth in romantic relationships[55:59] Question 2 - Working with longing, loneliness, and unmet needs for connection[01:02:14] Question 3 - Learning to approach connection slowly RSVP to Sarah’s FREE Live Training + Q&A Series:Ready to take the next step with nervous system healing? Join Sarah for “Unlock the Life You Desire,” a 2-part somatic healing series to help you experience more joy and aliveness, and step toward the purpose that’s calling you.Click below to save your spot (limited time replays available!):http://bit.ly/sp-live-trainingNavigating Your Nervous System is NOW ENROLLING:Want to work with Sarah in a live capacity? The doors are now open to her 6-week live program, Navigating Your Nervous System, designed to help you get into the driver’s seat of your experience and start feeling better on a daily basis. Click below to learn more:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“Romantic relationships are where so much of our growth and healing happen, and that means that they aren't just filled with ease, they're filled with work.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:48]“Any garden can be transformed if both people are willing.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:13:33]“We marry our unfinished business, or we get into relationship with our unfinished business.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:28]“We are punishing our partner for everything our caregivers got wrong, and our partner wasn't there for any of it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:26:49]“The only person that can rescue your parts is you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:27:45]“Romantic relationships are supposed to be an invitation into our wholeness.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:30:39]“Our protective parts won't be open to letting us love again if they don't think that we can hold the aftermath of losing love.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:58:40]

In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah unpacks how dysregulation can lead us to feeling behind in life or that we’ve missed our chance to have the relationships, purpose, and community we desire. You’ll learn about your three states of self-protection and why anchoring into regulation is the key to shifting how you experience time. By harnessing the power of your nervous system, it’s possible to move forward with more ease, patience, and empowerment. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:30] Understanding how we orient to time[02:37] Anchoring in regulation helps us perceive what’s actually true[06:30] Time from your sympathetic nervous system[12:35] Time from your dorsal vagal complex[14:24] Time from your blended state of freeze[14:55] Our experience of time when aligned vs. misaligned[21:31] Why we compare ourselves to others[28:55] Connecting to presence and the truth of our unfolding[31:15] Question 1: Muscling through versus getting out of your comfort zone[36:29] Question 2: How to start healing even when you’re in chronic stress[41:13] Question 3: Being patient while you are healing RSVP to Sarah’s FREE Live Training + Q&A Series:Ready to take the next step with nervous system healing? Join Sarah for “Unlock the Life You Desire,” a 2-part somatic healing series to help you experience more joy and aliveness, and step toward the purpose that’s calling you. Click below to save your spot (limited time replays available!): http://bit.ly/sp-live-training Download the FREE Workbook:https://bit.ly/yms-yt-workbookhttps://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“Our nervous system is creating our entire experience, including how [we] perceive the movement of time.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:01:47]“None of us pick [the] right life when we are choosing from survival.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:08:33]“No one is on the path of life that you are on besides you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:33]“Living happens only in this moment in time, and that means it only happens when we’re in regulation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:59] Other Links Mentioned in This Episode:https://programs.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/navigating-your-nervous-system

Sarah breaks down how the autonomic nervous system shapes your entire lived experience, using clear metaphors to explain why you may feel blocked from the relationships, purpose, and opportunities you long for. She shares why the nervous system responds to what you show it (somatically), not what you tell it, and how regulation helps create the internal conditions for growth and fulfillment.The episode closes with questions about finding purpose, knowing when to push versus pause, and navigating fear during big transitions. Join Sarah to learn how small, steady capacity-building steps can help you move toward the life you long for with more trust, clarity, and ease. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:11] Why effort and willpower alone aren’t enough[05:03] Your nervous system creates your entire experience[11:29] Healing unresolved experiences is how we create the life we desire[15:04] Why our deepest desires are often an invitation into our healing[20:47] The power of nervous system regulation[25:23] Simple ways to build the capacity in your nervous system[31:00] Using parts work to build trust with your younger parts[0:36:27] The importance of walking, and not sprinting, toward the life you want[0:43:06] Question 1: Tools for how to figure out your purpose[0:56:05] Question 2: Pushing through discomfort versus slowing down[1:03:03] Question 3: Consistent regulation during fear or uncertainty at work Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program. Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you. Click below to get started: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcastQuotes:“No amount of energy, no amount of focus, of pushing, of grinding is going to get us the life we’re desiring. It can work to a degree, but we do reach a point where the fullness of life that we want cannot be found on that treadmill.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:46]“What we have to do is we have to learn to speak the language of our nervous system and begin letting it know in a way that it understands that the life we want is actually safe for us.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:16]“Your nervous system does not want to be working so hard. When you are in dysregulation, it is working very hard; it wants to rest. Resting is the doors opening, but it needs to know you're safe.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:29:33]“What we have to do is begin becoming the primary protector of our vulnerable parts.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:32:04]

She explores the difference between embodied boundaries and self-protective boundaries, which form as a result of unmet needs and misattunement in childhood. You’ll learn how to reconnect with your adult self, identify the protective parts that might be informing the way you set limits, and communicate your needs without reverting to old patterns.Through practical guidance and compassionate teaching, Sarah offers a path back to boundaries that reflect who we are now, not who we once had to be. Tune in to hear how a somatic approach can support healing, authenticity, and deeper connection! Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:10] Why family dynamics pull us back into younger roles[04:48] How early nervous system development shapes regulation[06:50] The importance of honoring a child’s boundaries[11:16] Ways that childhood boundary violations impact adult patterns[15:50] The 3 boundary styles: diffuse, rigid, and embodied[21:45] Learning to anchor in the adult self around family of origin[26:23] Preparing for resistance when shifting long-term dynamics[28:50] Working with protective parts who fear boundary setting[32:34] What to expect from internal and external resistance[37:06] Leading with the adult self when communicating boundaries[39:34] Applying embodied boundaries in family and holiday settings[42:27] Question 1: Staying regulated when younger parts panic[45:54] Question 2: Naming needs in relationships when anxious attachment shows up[51:24] Question 3: Navigating boundaries with unsafe or traumatic family systems Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program. Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment. Click the link below to download the workbook:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“[Setting boundaries] is what allows us to navigate life as our authentic self. And this is also what allows us to navigate life in a way that gets our needs met in a multitude of ways. So it is really vital that we are able to come into this experience.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:10:40]“Even with loving parents, most of them did not know how to parent, and that meant that they didn't realize the imperative nature of honoring and validating your embodied boundary.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:27]“Whatever we need to do that makes it tolerable to set the boundary, that's what we want to focus on.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:32:29]“The more that you're doing parts work on a regular basis, the more these parts are going to trust you as you begin setting these boundaries. [It’s] really important that we're engaging in that regularly.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:36:55]“[When you’re] re-parenting [your parts], what actually happens is you become the parent they never had. You become their home internally. And now the parts are no longer looking for your caregivers to be their mom and dad.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:54:24]“Accessing our ability to set healthy boundaries is good. It is a gift for everyone. It's an invitation to them into their own healing, and it's not our business whether they take the invitation or not. So how do we do this? As always, one tolerable step at a time.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:58:39]

You’ll learn about the importance of consistency in reparenting your parts, why this process is about relationship-building, and how to find love for the protective parts of you that are often responsible for challenging behaviors or patterns. When you do this work, without having an agenda, it’s possible to feel self-love in a way that lasts and transforms every area of your life. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:12] You can’t “talk” yourself into self-love[05:00] An overview of Parts Work (Internal Family Systems)[12:37] An explanation of how to reparent your younger parts[19:15] The importance of building trust with your parts[21:39] Loving both your vulnerable and protective parts[35:31] The integration process and making your parts whole with you[38:26] Question 1: Deciphering if choices come from truth or trauma[49:33] Question 2: Parts work when you’ve disconnected from memories[56:51] Question 3: The root of being self-critical about our bodies Build a toolbox for regulation inside Nervous System Essentials:Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, will teach you how to regulate your nervous system and get into the driver’s seat of your experience, so that you can move through life with more ease, calm, and presence. Click below to learn more:bit.ly/sp-nseTake Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you. Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“We have to fall in love with all parts of ourselves; not just some of the parts of ourselves, all parts of ourselves.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:45]“Whatever part that you’re working [with] is going to need something really different.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:30:49]“We have to teach our parts what love is if they didn’t fully get to receive it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:33:01]“Everything you feel is a truth to a version of you, it just might not be a truth to adult you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:40:56]

Drawing on parts work and nervous system science, she explains how striving, control, burnout, micromanaging, and difficulty slowing down are often signs that old survival strategies are running the show. This episode will give you a tangible path toward embodied leadership, so that you can lead from your most authentic self and build more capacity for rest, joy, and fulfillment. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:05] Tackling the belief that success requires sacrificing a full life[03:10] Signs you are leading from dysregulation[05:59] What embodied, regulated leadership looks like[08:21] Why we might lead from dysregulation and protective parts[12:03] Key protective parts that might be running the show[18:02] How our nervous systems impact those around us[19:43] The power of nervous system regulation in leadership[22:04] Accessing your adult self as the foundation for change[24:15] Inviting protective parts into collaboration[26:52] Practical steps for rest, nourishment, and building capacity[29:52] Question 1: Staying regulated with dysregulated clients[36:00] Question 2: Working with parts that feel undeserving[42:06] Question 3: Understanding triggers around client cancellations Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program. Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“If you want the highest level of success as a leader, the state of your nervous system is the most important thing to focus on.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:00:43]“If you find yourself having a really imbalanced life, that is a clue that you're likely leading from dysregulation and protective parts.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:26]“When you're dysregulated, your full brain isn't working, which means you don't have access to [your] highest levels of creativity, critical thinking, and, of course, feeling good in your bodies. So the more regulated you are, the more regulated everybody around you becomes.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:21:13]“It is our thriving that allows others to thrive.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:39:05]“Every single person, I believe, is a leader in some particular way. – And the more you regulate your nervous system and reparent your parts, the more you lead from your wholeness, the more you help the world heal, and the more, most importantly, you enjoy the process.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:47:42]

She breaks down the core elements of intimacy, including vulnerability, presence, play, touch, and verbal connection, and shows how each one can become inhibited when childhood environments did not allow those needs to be expressed safely. This episode offers a compassionate, practical path forward by reconnecting with the walled-off parts of ourselves, taking small steps toward openness, and learning to differentiate past fears from present-day safety. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Intro[01:30] Intimacy as a primal human need[04:33] Why intimacy feels difficult and is rooted in early attachment[11:25] Siloing ourselves as a way to avoid the pain of being fully seen[17:56] Complaining, withdrawing, or avoiding as protector responses to vulnerability.[23:26] Intimacy is being fully ourselves and deeply witnessed[26:28] Key forms of intimacy and how childhood environments inhibit them[32:12] Your nervous system applies past experiences to adult relationships[34:00] Why we choose partners who mirror or caregiver’s traits[38:57] Reconnecting with walled-off parts to build inner intimacy[42:05] Taking small, tolerable steps toward intimacy with a safe partner[46:12] Seeing a partner’s inhibited intimacy with compassion[47:50] Question 1 - How our protectors misinterpret healthy partners as unsafe[1:00:03] Question 2 - Differentiating adult needs from younger parts seeking reassurance[1:10:46] Question 3 - Healing low sexual desire shaped by past trauma Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program. Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“If someone only gets 25% of me, or a portion of me, and then they choose they don't want me, or they don't want to be in my life, I can tolerate that because they haven't witnessed or experienced all of me.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:51]“The result of being siloed is that no one actually ever fully knows you. And one of the primary places that we will silo ourselves, or feel inhibited in being in our fullness, is [in] our romantic relationship.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:39]“Complaining is a form of self-protection.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:07]“The thing that we all want, perhaps the most, in a romantic relationship is to be deeply seen.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:36]“We all pick partners that mirror for us the good qualities of our childhood caregivers and also the not-so-good qualities of our childhood caregivers.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:34:02]“Sexual pleasure is simply the embodied practice of intimacy.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:15:40]

Sarah explains how experiences of chaos, misattunement, and trauma leave the nervous system feeling unsafe, and how control becomes a brilliant survival strategy. She delves into the more subtle versions of control that go unnoticed because they look “responsible” on the surface, and what is actually needed to begin relaxing your grip.She also explores how regulating the nervous system and connecting with our adult self changes our relationship to our homes, bodies, partners, work, and timelines, and why true surrender is never about “just let go,” but about having somewhere safe inside to land. Join Sarah for tangible tools to experience your life with more freedom and ease. Episode Highlights:[01:49] Everyday examples of control that often go unnoticed[04:13] Why lacking internal safety puts the nervous system into “autopilot”[06:19] Sarah’s personal story of over-achievement and OCD as forms of control[09:30] The link between controlling our environment and trying to manage internal chaos[12:00] Discover the obvious and subtle ways people try to self-control[14:15] How controlling behaviors show up in relationships[17:50] The ways in which we try to control our purpose[20:01] Tools to help you let go and actually surrender[28:00] Question 1 - Overcoming chaos as a new parent[34:15] Question 2 - Rescuing others as a means of avoidance[37:15] Question 3 - Health anxiety and the nervous system Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program.Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Take the FREE Quiz:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“The level of protection that [the nervous system] will do, in terms of controlling, will be dependent on the level of out of control we experience inside.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:33]“I cannot let go if I don’t have safety inside, so what we have to do is to create internal safety. We do this through regulation of our nervous system.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:39]“Your external world is a representation of your internal world.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:21:24]“We have to show, not tell, our nervous system and our protective parts that it is safe to let go. It is safe to surrender.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:37]

Drawing on attachment, parts work, and Polyvagal Theory, Sarah breaks down why romantic relationships often become the most powerful containers for our healing. She explores how conflict, rupture, and repair invite us to meet the last of our unresolved pain, differentiate old wounds from present-day needs, and open with vulnerability rather than protection. With practical guidance on regulation, communication, and navigating tough conversations, she shows how turning toward discomfort can deepen intimacy instead of threatening it.Listen in to learn how to make sense of these patterns and how healthy repair can become a pathway to more ease, authenticity, and connection in your relationships. Episode Highlights:[01:26] How deeper intimacy activates old attachment wounds[05:12] Why unresolved pain arises in our closest relationships[11:00] Romantic relationships are a container for healing and resolution[15:10] Why relationships feel easy at first and harder with closeness[17:12] What happens when conflict triggers a protective part[21:30] What healthy rupture and repair look like in childhood[24:31] Common protective responses like blaming or fawning[26:33] Why repair deepens intimacy and builds ease[30:11] What did rupture represent for you in childhood?[32:51] The ways many of us attempt to repair[36:40] Steps for healthy repair after rupture[42:50] Question 1 - Forgiving ourselves for past relational harm[48:27] Question 2 - The healing process in unsafe environments[53:19] Question 3 - The connection between Polyvagal Theory and Parts Work Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you. Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Download the FREE workbook:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“In many ways, one of the biggest purposes of a romantic relationship is so that it can provide the conditions necessary for us to come into our wholeness.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:07:11]“If you're somebody that tends to jump from relationship to relationship, or from friendship to friendship when things get hard, thinking, ‘If I just find a friend who gets me more, if I just find a relationship that is more aligned,’ you’re going to be on that adventure forever.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:19]“When we can do this brave thing and go towards this experience of tough conversations and make it different, it brings the most beautiful healing to the past and a deepening of a relationship, and our system begins to see that ‘I can be all of me and still be loved.’” — Sarah Baldwin [0:28:20]“Your needs are not too much. Your partner's needs aren't too much.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:32:38]“You cannot repair when you're in dysregulation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:38:05]“If we're in disconnection with someone we care about, what do we really want? We want to feel loved by them, and we want to love them.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:40:33]“Ruptures are a natural, normal part of relationships, and the outcome of a relationship has nothing to do with the amount of ruptures that you experience or arguments or fights. ” — Sarah Baldwin [0:41:48]

Real transformation begins not with willpower but with a felt sense of internal safety. Drawing on Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Experiencing, and Parts Work, Sarah shares tangible tools to help you shift from survival mode to genuine ease. Join Sarah to discover how regulation transforms not only your mindset but your entire lived experience, one safe, grounded moment at a time. Episode Highlights:[00:00] The connection between dysregulation and negativity[02:11] Understanding the six states of the nervous system[04:13] Why the nervous system is hardwired for survival[06:26] Neuroception and your orientation to the world[09:58] Your nervous system shapes your thinking[15:14] Working with your parts to find more ease and inner peace[25:44] Somatic tools to begin orienting toward the positive[35:45] Question 1: Understanding what regulation really means.[44:16] Question 2: Why feedback triggers negative responses.[52:34] Question 3: Healing the scarcity mindset surrounding money.Now Enrolling - Join Sarah’s 10-week Program:Enjoying the podcast and want to go even deeper into somatic healing? Sarah’s 10-week program, You Make Sense, will guide you through tangible tools to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more! Use code YMSPODCAST100 to claim $100 off for a limited time:https://bit.ly/sp-yms Connect with Sarah on:Email Community -  bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Take the FREE Quiz for More Somatic Tools:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Submit a Questionsarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcastQuotes:“All human beings as a whole are negatively inclined creatures.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:14]“The more that we heal, the more our systems see that we are safe, and when it sees it is safe, we naturally begin [to] orient more towards the positive.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:09:28]“When you come into partnership, it is very common that the protective parts that we have, we project onto our partner.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:19:37]“Life is hard enough as it is. So, when we have all this unresolved stuff, like every human on the planet, it just makes life hard, and when we are just responding to what is, life is filled with so much more ease.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:51:08]“It is not biological for anything in nature to want to be meek. It wants to be the full expression of itself. Everything wants that.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:56:06]

You’ll learn why grief isn’t just about death or heartbreak; it’s woven into every transition we experience. Whether it’s aging, changing relationships, or healing from the pain of our childhood, Sarah offers a compassionate roadmap to help you meet your grief with safety, embodiment, and compassion.Episode Highlights[00:00] What grief really is, and why everything in nature experiences it[02:32] Why humans resist grief more than any other species[06:30] Our culture avoids endings and celebrates beginnings[08:22] The link between safety, surrender, and emotional processing[10:46] How grief shows up in everyday transitions (marriage, growth, aging)[17:30] Why unresolved trauma keeps us stuck in survival[25:25] How protective parts keep us from experiencing grief[31:47] Sarah’s story of losing her dog Jerry, and finding love through grief[34:54] Somatic steps to gently access your grief without overwhelm[37:33] How to titrate, pendulate, and discharge emotion safely[41:51] Question 1 - Grieving estrangement from our family of origin[45:37] Question 2 - How do I stop getting overwhelmed by grief?[50:10] Question 3 - The healing process and finding others on this journeyRSVP for Sarah’s FREE Live Training:Ready to take the next step on your healing journey? Nervous System Starter Kit is a free, 75-minute live training to help you regulate your nervous system, understand your attachment style from a somatic lens, and get into the driver’s seat of your experience.Click below to save your spot (replay available for a limited time):YouTube: https://bit.ly/yt-nsskSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/sp-nsskConnect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.comFree Quiz:YouTube: https://bit.ly/yms-yt-quizSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quizQuotes:“So much of our suffering isn’t about grief itself, it’s about our resistance to grief.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:01:46]“The bigger the love, the bigger the grief. Great love means great grief.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:32:14]“Grief is aliveness. It is the result of your bravery in living and loving fully.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:34:23]

Do you find yourself using things to cope like doom scrolling, eating late at night, or drinking in excess? If so, you’re not alone. This episode unpacks the science behind why we numb and engage in “bad” habits. Whether it’s excessive social media, food, sex, alcohol, or work, these are all intelligent survival responses to unresolved trauma or pain.You’ll learn how to tell the difference between coping strategies and regulating resources, why you can’t just “stop” addictive behaviors, and the steps to begin bringing regulation to your nervous system. Sarah also shares her personal journey of healing from OCD, over-eating, and workaholism, proving that true freedom comes from befriending — not battling — your nervous system and protective parts.Episode Highlights[00:00] The truth about coping strategies, and why we all use them[02:11] The role trauma plays in our need to numb[03:12] Why shame perpetuates the coping cycle[05:27] How society normalizes certain numbing behaviors[09:29] You can’t just “stop” a coping behavior[10:52] Coping strategies from a Parts Work lens[15:54] Why battling your protective parts never works[21:04] How to replace coping with regulating resources[24:48] Question 1 - Why quitting smoking can feel worse before it feels better[30:24] Question 2 - Why does my addiction cause more dysregulation?[43:28] Question 3 - Am I using coffee to regulate or cope?RSVP for Sarah’s FREE Live Training:Ready to take the next step on your healing journey? Nervous System Starter Kit is a free, 75-minute live training to help you regulate your nervous system, understand your attachment style from a somatic lens, and get into the driver’s seat of your experience.Click below to save your spot (replay available for a limited time):YouTube: https://bit.ly/yt-nsskSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/sp-nsskConnect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.comFree Quiz:YouTube: https://bit.ly/yms-yt-quizSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quizSubmit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcastQuotes:“You can’t battle a protector. They will always win because they love your vulnerable part too much to stop.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:14:14]“Forward doesn’t always look like forward in healing. Sometimes it looks like finally facing what’s been waiting to be held.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:29:47]

In this episode, Sarah breaks down the science of Parts Work and how trauma shapes the different “selves” we embody. You’ll learn why these parts develop, how to begin differentiating between the truth of a part and the truth of your adult self, and the steps necessary to finally resolve old wounds. This episode will empower you to find clarity within, build trust with your younger parts, and come home to the authentic you you’ve always been.Episode Highlights:[01:19 ] Why we feel like different versions of ourselves in different settings[03:40] What “Parts Work” means and how parts develop[06:00] How your nervous system reverts to old protective patterns[09:50] The difference between vulnerable and protective parts[11:10] Examples of protectors: achiever, fawner, caretaker, perfectionist[16:35] Somatic exercise: embodying your adult self[20:30] Recognizing truths from adult self vs. your parts[23:40] How romantic relationships trigger childhood parts[26:30] Why protectors often sabotage love and purpose[30:00] The beauty of becoming your own “internal archeologist”[33:30] How to identify your truth and stop oscillating between versions of self[40:00] The importance of marinating in your truth[43:012] Q&A - How can I learn to trust myself and know my truth?[49:157] Q&A - How do I overcoming abuse and self doubt?[55:501] Q&A - How can I know what is the “real me” and what is the traumatized me?[1:00:008] Q&A - How can I create deep and genuine conversations?Join the 3-day Expansion Experience:Ready to step into a bigger life? If you’re feeling stuck in any area of your life, the key to stepping toward your desires is learning how to work with your nervous system (rather than against it). Sarah is going to show you how to do exactly that inside her 3-day live experience for only $37.Click below to join the first call on October 27 (replays available for a limited time):https://bit.ly/yms-sp-eeDownload Sarah’s FREE Workbook:Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.Click the link below to download the workbook: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbookConnect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.comSubmit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcastQuotes:“Anything you think or feel at any given moment is the truth to a part of you, it just might not be the truth to your adult self.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:40:40]“We end up living lives that our protective parts decided are safe for us, not the lives that are actually meant for us.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:47:21]“The life you are here to live is not meant to feel comfortable. It will stretch you, grow you, and invite you into healing.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:48:26]

Your nervous system creates your entire experience. Everything from your thoughts and feelings to your behaviors and perception of self, others, and the world around you are all determined by what’s happening in this self-protective system. In this episode, Sarah will guide you through the fundamentals of nervous system regulation and equip you with tangible somatic tools to help you gain control over your experience.Many traditional models of healing focus only on treating the “symptoms” — like anxiety, depression, stress, fear, burnout, or panic — rather than addressing the root cause. But much of our pain and stuckness is actually a result of unresolved trauma or chronic dysregulation. When you learn how to befriend your nervous system and gently walk it toward safety, it’s possible to feel better, move through the world with more ease, and step toward all that you desire. Episode Highlights:[00:25] Nervous system regulation is the foundation of all healing[02:00] Understanding your Autonomic Nervous System[07:44] What makes regulation so powerful and freeing[10:30] The symptoms of dysregulation[24:28] How we can regulate our nervous systems[29:04] What to expect as you come into regulation[34:35] Question 1: How to resolve anxiety through nervous system regulation[39:37] Question 2: The “expand and contract” experience of healing[42:25] Question 3: Why you might “freeze” or have a startle response[46:33] Question 4: Staying regulated in difficult work environments Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Build a toolbox for regulation inside Nervous System Essentials:Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s brand new introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, is packed with science-backed tools to help regulate your nervous system, so that you can experience more freedom and ease on a daily basis.Click below to join:bit.ly/sp-nse Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

So many of us use food as a strategy to numb, disconnect from our emotions, or even as a companion. So how do we heal this unhealthy relationship with food? Today on You Make Sense, Sarah breaks down how unresolved trauma and a dysregulated nervous system can impact the way you eat, your biological functions, and your overall sense of well-being.You’ll learn why you might have developed a difficult relationship with food, the role diets or restriction play in maintaining control, how intuitive eating can be inhibited by trauma, and more. If you’re ready to reconnect with your body and find more ease around eating, this episode will give you tangible science-backed tools to help you to transform your relationship to food and with yourself. [00:24] Today’s topic: how to have a healthy relationship with food[01:27] Why we develop unhealthy relationships with food[06:09] Food restriction and how it’s used for control[10:53] How being disembodied affects your food intuition[14:41] What food habits create a dysregulated nervous system[18:31] Fueling regulation and building a healthy relationship with food[35:00] Question 1: How blood sugar spikes affect your nervous system[36:45] Question 2: Combatting emotional eating by reparenting your young parts[41:01] Question 3: Anchoring in your adult self when working with younger parts Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment. Click the link below to download the workbook:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

What if the key to living more fully isn’t “fixing” yourself, but learning to meet every part of you with compassion? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores how reparenting our younger parts helps us move from fragmentation back into wholeness. She explains the role of vulnerable parts, protective parts, and the adult self, and how trauma can leave those younger parts stuck in the perpetual pain of the past.Sarah shares practical steps for recognizing, differentiating, and building trust with these parts so they no longer run our lives from the shadows. From learning to anchor in your adult self, to showing up consistently for your inner child, to offering both softness and fierce protection, she outlines a tangible process of reparenting that paves the way for more freedom, safety, and authentic self-expression. Episode Highlights:[00:24] The importance of reparenting your younger parts[01:23] How trauma fragments us into vulnerable parts[05:38] The role of protectors in guarding against pain[08:14] Self vs. Self-like parts[11:55] Signs protectors are limiting your life[14:05] Reparenting your parts to end suffering and live fully[17:10] Anchoring in adult you through regulation[20:22] Differentiating Self from younger parts[22:30] Meeting, introducing, and building a relationship with your parts[27:26] Becoming the internal parent and safe home for your parts[31:05] Question 1: What you need to know about the age of your parts[38:12] Question 2: Overcoming resentment and anger after childhood trauma[52:53] Question 3: Why we might struggle with basic self-care Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:Email Community -  bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Sexuality is a completely normal and inherent part of the human experience. However, many of us have learned to disconnect from our bodies, hide from our sexuality, or become oversexualized as a result of trauma or societal messaging. If you’ve struggled to feel fully alive in your sexuality, this episode will give you a tangible, step-by-step guide to help you come back into this embodied experience.You’ll learn two predominant reasons why we struggle with sexual intimacy, how culture and conditioning affect how we show up with others, and how childhood trauma impacts our adult romantic partnerships. Join Sarah for a conversation on pleasure, connection, and safety, and how qualities like embodiment, presence, and openness play a vital role in our sexuality, both with ourselves and with another person. Episode Highlight:[00:25] Human beings are inherently sexual beings[01:25] Sexuality has very little to do with the act of sex itself[02:50] 2 reasons we struggle to have the sexual aliveness we want[04:12] How society affects how we show up in our sexual life[09:10] Why it’s important to resolve trauma[10:50] How childhood trauma impacts adult sexual dynamics[18:00] What healthy sexuality requires of us[24:40] Parenting our parts to connect to our internal value[26:10] How we can begin stepping toward healthy sexuality[31:06] The importance of having agency[32:55] Being present in the natural unfolding[33:30] Ridding ourselves of the idea of it being a performative act[34:50] Sexuality should have an element of play[35:37] Question 1: How to fully explore yourself in moments of intimacy[40:40] Question 2: How to deal with past trauma that comes up during intimate moments[46:43] Question 3: Why we might use our sexuality to gain love Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more! Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:YouTube: https://bit.ly/yt-yms-waitlistSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlistFREE Workbook: How to Gain Control Over How You FeelEnjoying what you’ve heard so far and want to go deeper into somatic healing? “How to Gain Control Over How You Feel” is a free workbook packed with trauma-informed tools to help you get in the driver's seat of your experience and step toward your desires with more ease.Click below to download:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

We are all created with the ability to access both our inner masculine and feminine energies. These energies shape how we move through the world, but are not confined to gender or societal expectations. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah breaks down the science behind these polarities, how nature reveals that they’re universal and designed for survival, and why we all carry both within us.You’ll learn about what causes us to disconnect from one of these energies, how society distorts them from the moment you’re born, and why you might identify with one more than the other depending on the area of life. Sarah also unpacks how each of these energies plays out in romantic relationships and steps to begin leaning more into your true self. Finally, Rachel joins Sarah to answer questions from listeners that touch on healing protective parts, staying in the present, and joining instead of merging. Episode Highlights:[00:25] The science behind masculine and feminine energy[01:57] How nature teaches us that masculine and feminine energy are not gender specific[08:36] Why we all have both energetic qualities and how we oscillate between them[09:27] What causes us to disconnect from one of these energies[23:00] How to access both of these energetic qualities within ourselves[26:05] Leaning into feminine energy within a romantic relationship[29:17] Leaning into masculine energy within a romantic relationship[38:47] Question 1: Healing protective parts that refuse to let you receive help[52:23] Question 2: The power of orienting yourself to the present moment[1:01:47] Question 3: The concept of joining rather than mergingGet on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:Email Community: bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

What if your chronic illness, pain, or fatigue is not random but a reflection of unresolved trauma stored in your body? In this episode, Sarah unpacks the powerful link between trauma, the nervous system, and physical health. Drawing on her own lived experience with autoimmune disease and chronic illness, she explains why time alone does not heal all, how unresolved experiences live on in our bodies, and why nervous system regulation is the most effective medicine.You’ll get tangible somatic tools for how to process unresolved trauma and emotions by doing what’s called “completing the incomplete experience,” along with steps for reconnecting with your body, validating your pain, and restoring safety and resilience to your system. Later in the episode, Sarah is joined by Rachel to answer listener questions about menstrual cycles, fertility struggles, and navigating chronic pain. Tune in for clarity, reassurance, and hope that healing is always possible. Episode Highlights:[0:00:00] The physical symptoms of trauma, chronic illness, and pain[0:01:25] An overview of trauma and how it overwhelms the nervous system[0:03:31] Learn about the process of ‘completing the incomplete experience’[0:08:41] How chronic dysregulation can lead to long-term illness[0:14:40] Sarah shares her story of autoimmune disease[0:18:52] Moment-to-moment psychosomatic symptoms and how they manifest[0:22:52] Anticipatory anxiety, its impacts, and the drivers behind burnout[0:27:16] Find out how recovery time is affected by chronic dysregulation[0:31:01] Practical steps to overcoming chronic pain and illness[0:39:32] Question 1: Why women tend to suffer more from autoimmune conditions[0:53:06] Question 2: How we become disconnected from our bodies and how to fix it[1:05:20] Question 3: Ways to overcome physical pain and discomfort Build a toolbox for regulation inside Nervous System Essentials:Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s brand NEW introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, will equip you with science-backed tools to regulate your nervous system, so that you can experience more freedom and ease in your daily life. And for a limited time, you can join for only $47!bit.ly/sp-nse Connect with Sarah on:Email Community: bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:How to Gain Control Over How You FeelUnderstanding Healthy Aggression and How Unprocessed Anger Becomes Internalized