You Make Sense

She breaks down the core elements of intimacy, including vulnerability, presence, play, touch, and verbal connection, and shows how each one can become inhibited when childhood environments did not allow those needs to be expressed safely. This episode offers a compassionate, practical path forward by reconnecting with the walled-off parts of ourselves, taking small steps toward openness, and learning to differentiate past fears from present-day safety. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Intro[01:30] Intimacy as a primal human need[04:33] Why intimacy feels difficult and is rooted in early attachment[11:25] Siloing ourselves as a way to avoid the pain of being fully seen[17:56] Complaining, withdrawing, or avoiding as protector responses to vulnerability.[23:26] Intimacy is being fully ourselves and deeply witnessed[26:28] Key forms of intimacy and how childhood environments inhibit them[32:12] Your nervous system applies past experiences to adult relationships[34:00] Why we choose partners who mirror or caregiver’s traits[38:57] Reconnecting with walled-off parts to build inner intimacy[42:05] Taking small, tolerable steps toward intimacy with a safe partner[46:12] Seeing a partner’s inhibited intimacy with compassion[47:50] Question 1 - How our protectors misinterpret healthy partners as unsafe[1:00:03] Question 2 - Differentiating adult needs from younger parts seeking reassurance[1:10:46] Question 3 - Healing low sexual desire shaped by past trauma Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program. Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“If someone only gets 25% of me, or a portion of me, and then they choose they don't want me, or they don't want to be in my life, I can tolerate that because they haven't witnessed or experienced all of me.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:51]“The result of being siloed is that no one actually ever fully knows you. And one of the primary places that we will silo ourselves, or feel inhibited in being in our fullness, is [in] our romantic relationship.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:39]“Complaining is a form of self-protection.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:07]“The thing that we all want, perhaps the most, in a romantic relationship is to be deeply seen.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:36]“We all pick partners that mirror for us the good qualities of our childhood caregivers and also the not-so-good qualities of our childhood caregivers.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:34:02]“Sexual pleasure is simply the embodied practice of intimacy.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:15:40]

Sarah explains how experiences of chaos, misattunement, and trauma leave the nervous system feeling unsafe, and how control becomes a brilliant survival strategy. She delves into the more subtle versions of control that go unnoticed because they look “responsible” on the surface, and what is actually needed to begin relaxing your grip.She also explores how regulating the nervous system and connecting with our adult self changes our relationship to our homes, bodies, partners, work, and timelines, and why true surrender is never about “just let go,” but about having somewhere safe inside to land. Join Sarah for tangible tools to experience your life with more freedom and ease. Episode Highlights:[01:49] Everyday examples of control that often go unnoticed[04:13] Why lacking internal safety puts the nervous system into “autopilot”[06:19] Sarah’s personal story of over-achievement and OCD as forms of control[09:30] The link between controlling our environment and trying to manage internal chaos[12:00] Discover the obvious and subtle ways people try to self-control[14:15] How controlling behaviors show up in relationships[17:50] The ways in which we try to control our purpose[20:01] Tools to help you let go and actually surrender[28:00] Question 1 - Overcoming chaos as a new parent[34:15] Question 2 - Rescuing others as a means of avoidance[37:15] Question 3 - Health anxiety and the nervous system Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program.Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Take the FREE Quiz:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“The level of protection that [the nervous system] will do, in terms of controlling, will be dependent on the level of out of control we experience inside.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:33]“I cannot let go if I don’t have safety inside, so what we have to do is to create internal safety. We do this through regulation of our nervous system.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:39]“Your external world is a representation of your internal world.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:21:24]“We have to show, not tell, our nervous system and our protective parts that it is safe to let go. It is safe to surrender.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:37]

Drawing on attachment, parts work, and Polyvagal Theory, Sarah breaks down why romantic relationships often become the most powerful containers for our healing. She explores how conflict, rupture, and repair invite us to meet the last of our unresolved pain, differentiate old wounds from present-day needs, and open with vulnerability rather than protection. With practical guidance on regulation, communication, and navigating tough conversations, she shows how turning toward discomfort can deepen intimacy instead of threatening it.Listen in to learn how to make sense of these patterns and how healthy repair can become a pathway to more ease, authenticity, and connection in your relationships. Episode Highlights:[01:26] How deeper intimacy activates old attachment wounds[05:12] Why unresolved pain arises in our closest relationships[11:00] Romantic relationships are a container for healing and resolution[15:10] Why relationships feel easy at first and harder with closeness[17:12] What happens when conflict triggers a protective part[21:30] What healthy rupture and repair look like in childhood[24:31] Common protective responses like blaming or fawning[26:33] Why repair deepens intimacy and builds ease[30:11] What did rupture represent for you in childhood?[32:51] The ways many of us attempt to repair[36:40] Steps for healthy repair after rupture[42:50] Question 1 - Forgiving ourselves for past relational harm[48:27] Question 2 - The healing process in unsafe environments[53:19] Question 3 - The connection between Polyvagal Theory and Parts Work Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you. Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Download the FREE workbook:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“In many ways, one of the biggest purposes of a romantic relationship is so that it can provide the conditions necessary for us to come into our wholeness.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:07:11]“If you're somebody that tends to jump from relationship to relationship, or from friendship to friendship when things get hard, thinking, ‘If I just find a friend who gets me more, if I just find a relationship that is more aligned,’ you’re going to be on that adventure forever.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:19]“When we can do this brave thing and go towards this experience of tough conversations and make it different, it brings the most beautiful healing to the past and a deepening of a relationship, and our system begins to see that ‘I can be all of me and still be loved.’” — Sarah Baldwin [0:28:20]“Your needs are not too much. Your partner's needs aren't too much.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:32:38]“You cannot repair when you're in dysregulation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:38:05]“If we're in disconnection with someone we care about, what do we really want? We want to feel loved by them, and we want to love them.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:40:33]“Ruptures are a natural, normal part of relationships, and the outcome of a relationship has nothing to do with the amount of ruptures that you experience or arguments or fights. ” — Sarah Baldwin [0:41:48]

Real transformation begins not with willpower but with a felt sense of internal safety. Drawing on Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Experiencing, and Parts Work, Sarah shares tangible tools to help you shift from survival mode to genuine ease. Join Sarah to discover how regulation transforms not only your mindset but your entire lived experience, one safe, grounded moment at a time. Episode Highlights:[00:00] The connection between dysregulation and negativity[02:11] Understanding the six states of the nervous system[04:13] Why the nervous system is hardwired for survival[06:26] Neuroception and your orientation to the world[09:58] Your nervous system shapes your thinking[15:14] Working with your parts to find more ease and inner peace[25:44] Somatic tools to begin orienting toward the positive[35:45] Question 1: Understanding what regulation really means.[44:16] Question 2: Why feedback triggers negative responses.[52:34] Question 3: Healing the scarcity mindset surrounding money.Now Enrolling - Join Sarah’s 10-week Program:Enjoying the podcast and want to go even deeper into somatic healing? Sarah’s 10-week program, You Make Sense, will guide you through tangible tools to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more! Use code YMSPODCAST100 to claim $100 off for a limited time:https://bit.ly/sp-yms Connect with Sarah on:Email Community -  bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Take the FREE Quiz for More Somatic Tools:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Submit a Questionsarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcastQuotes:“All human beings as a whole are negatively inclined creatures.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:14]“The more that we heal, the more our systems see that we are safe, and when it sees it is safe, we naturally begin [to] orient more towards the positive.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:09:28]“When you come into partnership, it is very common that the protective parts that we have, we project onto our partner.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:19:37]“Life is hard enough as it is. So, when we have all this unresolved stuff, like every human on the planet, it just makes life hard, and when we are just responding to what is, life is filled with so much more ease.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:51:08]“It is not biological for anything in nature to want to be meek. It wants to be the full expression of itself. Everything wants that.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:56:06]

You’ll learn why grief isn’t just about death or heartbreak; it’s woven into every transition we experience. Whether it’s aging, changing relationships, or healing from the pain of our childhood, Sarah offers a compassionate roadmap to help you meet your grief with safety, embodiment, and compassion.Episode Highlights[00:00] What grief really is, and why everything in nature experiences it[02:32] Why humans resist grief more than any other species[06:30] Our culture avoids endings and celebrates beginnings[08:22] The link between safety, surrender, and emotional processing[10:46] How grief shows up in everyday transitions (marriage, growth, aging)[17:30] Why unresolved trauma keeps us stuck in survival[25:25] How protective parts keep us from experiencing grief[31:47] Sarah’s story of losing her dog Jerry, and finding love through grief[34:54] Somatic steps to gently access your grief without overwhelm[37:33] How to titrate, pendulate, and discharge emotion safely[41:51] Question 1 - Grieving estrangement from our family of origin[45:37] Question 2 - How do I stop getting overwhelmed by grief?[50:10] Question 3 - The healing process and finding others on this journeyRSVP for Sarah’s FREE Live Training:Ready to take the next step on your healing journey? Nervous System Starter Kit is a free, 75-minute live training to help you regulate your nervous system, understand your attachment style from a somatic lens, and get into the driver’s seat of your experience.Click below to save your spot (replay available for a limited time):YouTube: https://bit.ly/yt-nsskSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/sp-nsskConnect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.comFree Quiz:YouTube: https://bit.ly/yms-yt-quizSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quizQuotes:“So much of our suffering isn’t about grief itself, it’s about our resistance to grief.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:01:46]“The bigger the love, the bigger the grief. Great love means great grief.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:32:14]“Grief is aliveness. It is the result of your bravery in living and loving fully.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:34:23]

Do you find yourself using things to cope like doom scrolling, eating late at night, or drinking in excess? If so, you’re not alone. This episode unpacks the science behind why we numb and engage in “bad” habits. Whether it’s excessive social media, food, sex, alcohol, or work, these are all intelligent survival responses to unresolved trauma or pain.You’ll learn how to tell the difference between coping strategies and regulating resources, why you can’t just “stop” addictive behaviors, and the steps to begin bringing regulation to your nervous system. Sarah also shares her personal journey of healing from OCD, over-eating, and workaholism, proving that true freedom comes from befriending — not battling — your nervous system and protective parts.Episode Highlights[00:00] The truth about coping strategies, and why we all use them[02:11] The role trauma plays in our need to numb[03:12] Why shame perpetuates the coping cycle[05:27] How society normalizes certain numbing behaviors[09:29] You can’t just “stop” a coping behavior[10:52] Coping strategies from a Parts Work lens[15:54] Why battling your protective parts never works[21:04] How to replace coping with regulating resources[24:48] Question 1 - Why quitting smoking can feel worse before it feels better[30:24] Question 2 - Why does my addiction cause more dysregulation?[43:28] Question 3 - Am I using coffee to regulate or cope?RSVP for Sarah’s FREE Live Training:Ready to take the next step on your healing journey? Nervous System Starter Kit is a free, 75-minute live training to help you regulate your nervous system, understand your attachment style from a somatic lens, and get into the driver’s seat of your experience.Click below to save your spot (replay available for a limited time):YouTube: https://bit.ly/yt-nsskSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/sp-nsskConnect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.comFree Quiz:YouTube: https://bit.ly/yms-yt-quizSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quizSubmit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcastQuotes:“You can’t battle a protector. They will always win because they love your vulnerable part too much to stop.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:14:14]“Forward doesn’t always look like forward in healing. Sometimes it looks like finally facing what’s been waiting to be held.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:29:47]

In this episode, Sarah breaks down the science of Parts Work and how trauma shapes the different “selves” we embody. You’ll learn why these parts develop, how to begin differentiating between the truth of a part and the truth of your adult self, and the steps necessary to finally resolve old wounds. This episode will empower you to find clarity within, build trust with your younger parts, and come home to the authentic you you’ve always been.Episode Highlights:[01:19 ] Why we feel like different versions of ourselves in different settings[03:40] What “Parts Work” means and how parts develop[06:00] How your nervous system reverts to old protective patterns[09:50] The difference between vulnerable and protective parts[11:10] Examples of protectors: achiever, fawner, caretaker, perfectionist[16:35] Somatic exercise: embodying your adult self[20:30] Recognizing truths from adult self vs. your parts[23:40] How romantic relationships trigger childhood parts[26:30] Why protectors often sabotage love and purpose[30:00] The beauty of becoming your own “internal archeologist”[33:30] How to identify your truth and stop oscillating between versions of self[40:00] The importance of marinating in your truth[43:012] Q&A - How can I learn to trust myself and know my truth?[49:157] Q&A - How do I overcoming abuse and self doubt?[55:501] Q&A - How can I know what is the “real me” and what is the traumatized me?[1:00:008] Q&A - How can I create deep and genuine conversations?Join the 3-day Expansion Experience:Ready to step into a bigger life? If you’re feeling stuck in any area of your life, the key to stepping toward your desires is learning how to work with your nervous system (rather than against it). Sarah is going to show you how to do exactly that inside her 3-day live experience for only $37.Click below to join the first call on October 27 (replays available for a limited time):https://bit.ly/yms-sp-eeDownload Sarah’s FREE Workbook:Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.Click the link below to download the workbook: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbookConnect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.comSubmit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcastQuotes:“Anything you think or feel at any given moment is the truth to a part of you, it just might not be the truth to your adult self.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:40:40]“We end up living lives that our protective parts decided are safe for us, not the lives that are actually meant for us.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:47:21]“The life you are here to live is not meant to feel comfortable. It will stretch you, grow you, and invite you into healing.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:48:26]

Your nervous system creates your entire experience. Everything from your thoughts and feelings to your behaviors and perception of self, others, and the world around you are all determined by what’s happening in this self-protective system. In this episode, Sarah will guide you through the fundamentals of nervous system regulation and equip you with tangible somatic tools to help you gain control over your experience.Many traditional models of healing focus only on treating the “symptoms” — like anxiety, depression, stress, fear, burnout, or panic — rather than addressing the root cause. But much of our pain and stuckness is actually a result of unresolved trauma or chronic dysregulation. When you learn how to befriend your nervous system and gently walk it toward safety, it’s possible to feel better, move through the world with more ease, and step toward all that you desire. Episode Highlights:[00:25] Nervous system regulation is the foundation of all healing[02:00] Understanding your Autonomic Nervous System[07:44] What makes regulation so powerful and freeing[10:30] The symptoms of dysregulation[24:28] How we can regulate our nervous systems[29:04] What to expect as you come into regulation[34:35] Question 1: How to resolve anxiety through nervous system regulation[39:37] Question 2: The “expand and contract” experience of healing[42:25] Question 3: Why you might “freeze” or have a startle response[46:33] Question 4: Staying regulated in difficult work environments Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Build a toolbox for regulation inside Nervous System Essentials:Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s brand new introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, is packed with science-backed tools to help regulate your nervous system, so that you can experience more freedom and ease on a daily basis.Click below to join:bit.ly/sp-nse Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

So many of us use food as a strategy to numb, disconnect from our emotions, or even as a companion. So how do we heal this unhealthy relationship with food? Today on You Make Sense, Sarah breaks down how unresolved trauma and a dysregulated nervous system can impact the way you eat, your biological functions, and your overall sense of well-being.You’ll learn why you might have developed a difficult relationship with food, the role diets or restriction play in maintaining control, how intuitive eating can be inhibited by trauma, and more. If you’re ready to reconnect with your body and find more ease around eating, this episode will give you tangible science-backed tools to help you to transform your relationship to food and with yourself. [00:24] Today’s topic: how to have a healthy relationship with food[01:27] Why we develop unhealthy relationships with food[06:09] Food restriction and how it’s used for control[10:53] How being disembodied affects your food intuition[14:41] What food habits create a dysregulated nervous system[18:31] Fueling regulation and building a healthy relationship with food[35:00] Question 1: How blood sugar spikes affect your nervous system[36:45] Question 2: Combatting emotional eating by reparenting your young parts[41:01] Question 3: Anchoring in your adult self when working with younger parts Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment. Click the link below to download the workbook:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

What if the key to living more fully isn’t “fixing” yourself, but learning to meet every part of you with compassion? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores how reparenting our younger parts helps us move from fragmentation back into wholeness. She explains the role of vulnerable parts, protective parts, and the adult self, and how trauma can leave those younger parts stuck in the perpetual pain of the past.Sarah shares practical steps for recognizing, differentiating, and building trust with these parts so they no longer run our lives from the shadows. From learning to anchor in your adult self, to showing up consistently for your inner child, to offering both softness and fierce protection, she outlines a tangible process of reparenting that paves the way for more freedom, safety, and authentic self-expression. Episode Highlights:[00:24] The importance of reparenting your younger parts[01:23] How trauma fragments us into vulnerable parts[05:38] The role of protectors in guarding against pain[08:14] Self vs. Self-like parts[11:55] Signs protectors are limiting your life[14:05] Reparenting your parts to end suffering and live fully[17:10] Anchoring in adult you through regulation[20:22] Differentiating Self from younger parts[22:30] Meeting, introducing, and building a relationship with your parts[27:26] Becoming the internal parent and safe home for your parts[31:05] Question 1: What you need to know about the age of your parts[38:12] Question 2: Overcoming resentment and anger after childhood trauma[52:53] Question 3: Why we might struggle with basic self-care Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:Email Community -  bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Sexuality is a completely normal and inherent part of the human experience. However, many of us have learned to disconnect from our bodies, hide from our sexuality, or become oversexualized as a result of trauma or societal messaging. If you’ve struggled to feel fully alive in your sexuality, this episode will give you a tangible, step-by-step guide to help you come back into this embodied experience.You’ll learn two predominant reasons why we struggle with sexual intimacy, how culture and conditioning affect how we show up with others, and how childhood trauma impacts our adult romantic partnerships. Join Sarah for a conversation on pleasure, connection, and safety, and how qualities like embodiment, presence, and openness play a vital role in our sexuality, both with ourselves and with another person. Episode Highlight:[00:25] Human beings are inherently sexual beings[01:25] Sexuality has very little to do with the act of sex itself[02:50] 2 reasons we struggle to have the sexual aliveness we want[04:12] How society affects how we show up in our sexual life[09:10] Why it’s important to resolve trauma[10:50] How childhood trauma impacts adult sexual dynamics[18:00] What healthy sexuality requires of us[24:40] Parenting our parts to connect to our internal value[26:10] How we can begin stepping toward healthy sexuality[31:06] The importance of having agency[32:55] Being present in the natural unfolding[33:30] Ridding ourselves of the idea of it being a performative act[34:50] Sexuality should have an element of play[35:37] Question 1: How to fully explore yourself in moments of intimacy[40:40] Question 2: How to deal with past trauma that comes up during intimate moments[46:43] Question 3: Why we might use our sexuality to gain love Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more! Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:YouTube: https://bit.ly/yt-yms-waitlistSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlistFREE Workbook: How to Gain Control Over How You FeelEnjoying what you’ve heard so far and want to go deeper into somatic healing? “How to Gain Control Over How You Feel” is a free workbook packed with trauma-informed tools to help you get in the driver's seat of your experience and step toward your desires with more ease.Click below to download:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

We are all created with the ability to access both our inner masculine and feminine energies. These energies shape how we move through the world, but are not confined to gender or societal expectations. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah breaks down the science behind these polarities, how nature reveals that they’re universal and designed for survival, and why we all carry both within us.You’ll learn about what causes us to disconnect from one of these energies, how society distorts them from the moment you’re born, and why you might identify with one more than the other depending on the area of life. Sarah also unpacks how each of these energies plays out in romantic relationships and steps to begin leaning more into your true self. Finally, Rachel joins Sarah to answer questions from listeners that touch on healing protective parts, staying in the present, and joining instead of merging. Episode Highlights:[00:25] The science behind masculine and feminine energy[01:57] How nature teaches us that masculine and feminine energy are not gender specific[08:36] Why we all have both energetic qualities and how we oscillate between them[09:27] What causes us to disconnect from one of these energies[23:00] How to access both of these energetic qualities within ourselves[26:05] Leaning into feminine energy within a romantic relationship[29:17] Leaning into masculine energy within a romantic relationship[38:47] Question 1: Healing protective parts that refuse to let you receive help[52:23] Question 2: The power of orienting yourself to the present moment[1:01:47] Question 3: The concept of joining rather than mergingGet on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:Email Community: bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

What if your chronic illness, pain, or fatigue is not random but a reflection of unresolved trauma stored in your body? In this episode, Sarah unpacks the powerful link between trauma, the nervous system, and physical health. Drawing on her own lived experience with autoimmune disease and chronic illness, she explains why time alone does not heal all, how unresolved experiences live on in our bodies, and why nervous system regulation is the most effective medicine.You’ll get tangible somatic tools for how to process unresolved trauma and emotions by doing what’s called “completing the incomplete experience,” along with steps for reconnecting with your body, validating your pain, and restoring safety and resilience to your system. Later in the episode, Sarah is joined by Rachel to answer listener questions about menstrual cycles, fertility struggles, and navigating chronic pain. Tune in for clarity, reassurance, and hope that healing is always possible. Episode Highlights:[0:00:00] The physical symptoms of trauma, chronic illness, and pain[0:01:25] An overview of trauma and how it overwhelms the nervous system[0:03:31] Learn about the process of ‘completing the incomplete experience’[0:08:41] How chronic dysregulation can lead to long-term illness[0:14:40] Sarah shares her story of autoimmune disease[0:18:52] Moment-to-moment psychosomatic symptoms and how they manifest[0:22:52] Anticipatory anxiety, its impacts, and the drivers behind burnout[0:27:16] Find out how recovery time is affected by chronic dysregulation[0:31:01] Practical steps to overcoming chronic pain and illness[0:39:32] Question 1: Why women tend to suffer more from autoimmune conditions[0:53:06] Question 2: How we become disconnected from our bodies and how to fix it[1:05:20] Question 3: Ways to overcome physical pain and discomfort Build a toolbox for regulation inside Nervous System Essentials:Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s brand NEW introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, will equip you with science-backed tools to regulate your nervous system, so that you can experience more freedom and ease in your daily life. And for a limited time, you can join for only $47!bit.ly/sp-nse Connect with Sarah on:Email Community: bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:How to Gain Control Over How You FeelUnderstanding Healthy Aggression and How Unprocessed Anger Becomes Internalized

Have you struggled with where to begin when looking for a therapist? Or maybe you’ve started working with a mental health professional, but you’re worried they might not be the best fit? Finding support is a vital part of healing, but it can often be a confusing or even daunting process. This episode of You Make Sense was created as a trauma-informed guide to help you know what to look for in a therapist or practitioner.Sarah explains the two most important qualities a professional needs to embody in order to support others. You’ll learn what truly sets a practitioner apart, the red flags that signal caution, and the qualities you should look for when selecting someone. Sarah reminds us how deeply complex healing work is and the importance of finding a practitioner who is trauma-trained. If you’re feeling lost when it comes to seeking support, this episode will empower you with the tools and knowledge to find the right person for you. Episode Highlights: keep them short and to the point[00:00] Healing starts with finding the right support[02:08] 2 things that make a practitioner good at what they do[07:33] Red flags to look out for in practitioners[21:23] The concept of energy wells and what it means[23:43] What to look for in a therapist or practitioner[36:55] Question 1: Knowing when you’ve hit your trauma vortex[42:58] Question 2: Tending to your nervous system in parts[47:07] Question 3: Plant medicine in therapeutic work RSVP to Sarah’s FREE Live Training + Q&A Series:Ready to take the next step with nervous system healing? Join Sarah for “Unlock the Life You Desire,” a 2-part somatic healing series to help you experience more joy and aliveness, and step toward the purpose that’s calling you. Click below to save your spot (limited time replays available!):http://bit.ly/sp-live-training Navigating Your Nervous System is NOW ENROLLING:Wanting to work with Sarah in a live capacity? The doors are now open to her 6-week live program, Navigating Your Nervous System, designed to help you get into the driver’s seat of your experience and start feeling better on a daily basis. Click below to learn more:bit.ly/sp-nyns Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Romantic love has a way of poking at our deepest wounding. Even when life feels steady elsewhere, intimacy can trigger reactions that don’t feel like our true selves. Sarah explains that this is often the work of our parts — younger versions of ourselves that carry past trauma and coping strategies — and that these parts can show up most strongly in our closest relationships.In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores how vulnerable, protective, and self-like parts shape the roles we play with partners, from caretaking to perfectionism. She shares how these patterns are often rooted in childhood experiences and why they can make intimacy feel both desirable and threatening. With somatic insights and practical tools, Sarah shows how to reparent younger parts, anchor into the adult self, and create relationships that feel authentic and safe. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Identifying the parts of us that show up in romantic relationships[01:41] How parts form through overwhelming or traumatic experiences[06:08] Why parts show up most strongly in romantic partnerships[09:51] Three categories of parts: vulnerable, protective, and self-like[10:48] How protective parts protect vulnerable parts[14:23] Self-like parts: how they mimic adult selves and feel rational[17:25] Learning to distinguish your adult self from younger parts[28:19] Tools to anchor into your adult self in relationships[29:50] Exercises to see your partner clearly and take in the good[34:21] The importance of reparenting your parts[34:51] How to repair after conflict and name adult vs. younger needs[37:48] Question 1: Working with caretaker protector parts in relationships[53:15] Question 2: Attraction challenges when seeing your partner’s child parts[01:08:07] Question 3: The role of your nervous system in letting go of long relationships RSVP to Sarah’s FREE Live Training + Q&A Series:Ready to take the next step with nervous system healing? Join Sarah for “Unlock the Life You Desire,” a 2-part somatic healing series to help you experience more joy and aliveness, and step toward the purpose that’s calling you. Click below to save your spot (limited-time replays available!):bit.ly/sp-live-training Navigating Your Nervous System is NOW ENROLLING:Wanting to work with Sarah in a live capacity? The doors are now open to her 6-week live program, Navigating Your Nervous System, designed to help you get into the driver’s seat of your experience and start feeling better on a daily basis. Click below to learn more:bit.ly/sp-nyns Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Have you ever been told you're "too nice" or found yourself saying "I'm fine" even when you're really not? For so many of us, anger can feel scary or wrong, like something we should push down or avoid entirely. But Sarah explains that there's a difference between healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger, and that healthy aggression—your natural ability to protect yourself and speak up when something isn't right—is actually essential for feeling safe and alive in your body.In this episode, Sarah explores why so many of us learned to inhibit this vital, life-force energy, often as a way to survive difficult experiences. If you've ever found yourself being chronically agreeable, struggling to set boundaries, or getting angry about small things while staying silent about the big ones, this episode is for you. You’ll learn gentle, somatic tools to reconnect with this protective energy so that you can access the full spectrum of who you are. Episode Highlights:00:30 Healthy Aggression10:45 Unhealthy Aggression17:23 Different Versions of Unhealthy Aggression21:19 What Happens When We Inhibit Healthy Aggression?24:58 How to Access Healthy Aggression38:06 Question #1 - How Do You Overcome Self-Hatred?47:15 Question #2 - Tending to a Younger Part’s Anger and Resentment56:36 Question #3 - Why Do I Get So Irritated with My Children?01:02:47 Question #4 - Releasing Stored Anger From the Jaw Join My Free Live Training + Q&A Series:                                                                Understanding how your nervous system works is the foundation for everything you want in life. If you're ready to start learning how to work with this incredible system inside you, I'm hosting a free live training series to help you expand your capacity for joy and step toward your purpose. RSVP for the two-part series: https://bit.ly/sp-live-training Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/ Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Have you ever struggled to build or maintain meaningful friendships, felt isolated despite doing the inner work, or wondered why community can feel so hard to create? In the final episode of the Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah explores one of the most essential yet misunderstood human needs – connection. You’ll learn how your attachment style and nervous system influence your ability to connect, and why experiences of trauma can lead to patterns of fawning, isolation, or forming unhealthy relationships. This episode will also equip you with tangible somatic tools to build your capacity for connection, recognize the types of relationships you desire, and begin cultivating community from a place of authenticity.Join Sarah to discover the power of creating internal safety and belonging to navigate social anxiety, shift inner dialogue, and find your chosen family. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Why community and safe connection are essential[01:46] How trauma impacts creating authentic connection[04:14] Sarah shares her experience of fawning and isolation[06:59] Masking, dysregulation, and misconceptions surrounding anxiety[10:34] What it means to be the ‘different one’ in your family or community[13:18] Attachment styles and how they influence connection[19:18] Examples of secure attachment and healthy connection[21:59] The healing journey and finding your chosen family[25:39] How to cultivate inner belonging and relational authenticity[28:48] Learn how to find and form the right connections for you[32:56] Reciprocity and the evolving nature of relationships[34:57] Question 1: Healing past relational wounds to form friendship and trust[41:14] Question 2: How to find an aligned community and build a chosen family[45:17] Question 3: Why it’s hard to reenter a community after healing Enter the Summer Somatic Reset Giveaway:Looking for even more tools to transform your life? For a limited time, you can get a FREE 1-hour group call with Sarah for more resources to regulate your nervous system and a chance to ask her questions live!All you have to do is rate, review, and/or subscribe to claim your spot. Click below to learn more. bit.ly/sp-podcast-giveaway Connect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Summer Somatic Reset: Are They Wrong For Me? Or Is It My Nervous System?Summer Somatic Reset: High-Performance Leadership Without Engaging in Hustle CultureSummer Somatic Reset: Healing the Scarcity Wound: A Nervous System Approach toTrauma & FinancesUnderstanding Social Anxiety: Are you Actually an Introvert/Extrovert or Is It Trauma?

Many of us carry deep-seated wounds of scarcity rooted in our early attachment patterns, and without realizing it, we continue to recreate those patterns in our adult lives. In this third episode of the four-part Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah delves into the intricate relationship between trauma, finances, and the nervous system.Through the lens of attachment theory and nervous system regulation, Sarah unpacks how anxious, avoidant, and disorganized money attachments develop and how they influence our beliefs about worth, safety, and abundance. Learn how to identify your own patterns, understand the protective role your body has played, and how to begin cultivating a secure, embodied relationship with money.Want to effectively navigate financial anxiety, expand your capacity to receive, and embrace abundance? This is the episode for you! It’s not just a money conversation; it is a pathway to healing, wholeness, and freedom. Episode Highlights:[0:00:00] Today’s focus on money and abundance.[0:01:14] Where struggles around money might originate from.[0:07:49] Attachment theory and how it relates to finances.[0:11:53] How the body protects itself from anxious attachment around money.[0:17:05] Avoidant attachment and how it develops.[0:21:17] Examples of how the body copes with avoidant attachment.[0:23:32] What it looks like to have a disorganized attachment with money.[0:25:50] What a secure relationship with money looks like.[0:31:09] Reasons why people struggle with the concept of abundance.[0:33:00] How to create a healthy relationship with money.[0:41:20] Question 1: Overcoming the body’s conditioning to wealth.[1:00:14] Question 2: The impact of attachment style on relationships.[1:07:10] Question 3: How long will the healing journey take. Enter the Summer Somatic Reset Giveaway:Looking for even more tools to transform your life? For a limited time, you can get a FREE 1-hour group call with Sarah for more resources to regulate your nervous system and a chance to ask her questions live!All you have to do is rate, review, and/or subscribe to claim your spot. Click below to learn more.bit.ly/sp-podcast-giveaway Connect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Summer Somatic Reset: Are They Wrong For Me? Or Is It My Nervous System?Summer Somatic Reset: High-Performance Leadership Without Engaging in Hustle Culture

In episode two of the four-part Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah explores how high-performing leaders can shift from leading through scarcity and fear to embodying leadership rooted in safety and abundance. She unpacks the common traits of many high achievers, how the drive to succeed often stems from survival instincts formed in childhood, the toll this can take over time, and how parts work and nervous system regulation can pave the way for sustainable leadership.Through practical somatic tools and real-life examples, Sarah offers a path to more life-giving leadership rooted in nervous system regulation, nourishment, and the steady presence of your adult self. Whether you’re leading a company or your own healing journey, this episode will help you shift from striving to thriving so you can lead without sacrificing your wellbeing! Episode Highlights:[00:00] The journey to life-giving high-performance leadership[01:25] What it looks like to be a high achiever[06:01] How striving protective parts drive high achievers[12:44] What happens when protective parts become problematic[14:17] How constant striving adversely impacts ourselves and others[18:45] Learning to lead from our adult selves, not our younger parts[22:44] How to reparent our younger parts and retrain our nervous systems[25:45] The importance of prioritizing nourishment, even when it’s challenging[32:33] Other focus areas for high achievers, like learning to rely on others[35:26] Why people are drawn to regulated leaders[40:00] Question 1: Feeling in your power and not getting derailed[45:19] Question 2: Starting, running, and sustaining a successful business[50:54] Question 3: Navigating imposter syndrome from a somatic perspective Enter the Summer Somatic Reset Giveaway:Looking for even more tools to transform your life? For a limited time, you can get a FREE 1-hour group call with Sarah for more resources to regulate your nervous system and a chance to ask her questions live! All you have to do is rate, review, and/or subscribe to claim your spot. Click below to learn more.YouTube — bit.ly/yt-podcast-giveawayApple/Spotify — bit.ly/sp-podcast-giveaway Connect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube) — bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify) — bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

In this first episode of the four-part Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah unpacks one of the most common (and confusing) questions in relationships: Is this person wrong for me, or is it my nervous system? Sarah shares how attachment wounds, protective parts, and nervous system patterns shape our experience of love, and why good things don’t always feel good at first.Through guided practices and personal insights, Sarah invites you to explore how to differentiate between old protective patterns and present-day truth, empowering you to build relational capacity, deepen self-trust, and recognize what truly supports growth and connection. Episode Highlights:[00:00] The truth behind relationship confusion[01:43] Why good things often don’t feel good at first[03:59] Cultural myths that keep us stuck in romantic uncertainty[06:23] How neuroception links past wounding to present experience[10:05] The importance of building capacity inside a relationship[13:06] A guided practice to access your adult self and discern relationship truth[23:19] The mirror effect: How relationships reveal our growth edges[26:12] Recognizing when you’re in a protective part versus your adult self[30:35] What it feels like when a relationship is right (and why it may still feel uncomfortable)[35:23] When is a relationship wrong? Growth, safety, values, and relational polarity[41:59] Understanding boredom as a relational signal[44:49] Question 1: Building capacity and checking in with your truth daily[48:41] Question 2: Breaking patterns by giving your younger parts the love they lacked[51:49] Question 3: Reparenting our parts to build attraction and receive healthy love Enter the Summer Somatic Reset Giveaway:Looking for even more tools to transform your life? For a limited time, you can get a FREE 1-hour group call with Sarah for more resources to regulate your nervous system and a chance to ask her questions live!All you have to do is rate, review, and/or subscribe to claim your spot. Click below to learn more.bit.ly/sp-podcast-giveaway Connect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast