Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys

Are you a single woman over 40 and over your non-existent love life?Do you struggle to find lasting love with the right guy because you are drawn to unavailable guys, despite knowing deep down you are sabotaging yourself?Hey, I’m Truly Eleanor, your host of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys podcast. I’m an Intuitive Love Coach who found Mr. Right in my 40s after breaking my pattern of attracting unavailable guys on repeat-and you can too! This podcast was born from years of successfully coaching women worldwide out of the same patterns I was stuck in. My mission is to help single women over 40 find the fastest path to Mr. Right without wasting time on UGs (unavailable guys).In season 1, we’ll focus on effective tools to trust your intuition and break the pattern of chasing after love. I’ll share empowering dating tips, advice to avoid, and how to cut through the BS. X No complicated, inauthentic phrases or scripts to “keep a guy’s interest”X No talk of getting into your Divine Feminine to find loveX No advice that focuses on what guys need from youYes to feeling inspiredYes to being your true self in love and life! Yes to trusting yourself and listening to your intuitionWhen I’m not inspiring women to find love after 40, you can find me having a laughing fit with the love of my life, baking my heart out in the kitchen or owning my GenX ways: metallic eyeshadow and my old school journal!If you’re ready to get take the first step, sign up for my free challenge at: www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Love is closer than you think! xo Eleanor

Welcome to the very first episode of Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys! If you’re a single woman over 40 looking for Mr. Right but often find yourself dating the wrong guys, you’re in the right place! Join me your host, Truly Eleanor, as I share my journey from struggling with relationships to finding the love of my life.In this inaugural episode, I open up about my own “Shero’s love journey,” discussing my decades of dating mishaps and how I finally broke the cycle. With 15 years of coaching women and a wealth of personal experience, I am here to guide you through practical tips and inspiration to go after the love you deserve.What You’ll Learn:The Importance of Recognizing Patterns: Discover why simply telling yourself not to fall for unavailable guys isn’t enough and how to create new patterns for success in dating.Overcoming Limiting Beliefs: Explore the biggest beliefs that keep women over 40 single and how to challenge them.Defining Healthy Love: What does "Pinch Me Love" really look like? Learn about healthy relationship dynamics and how to identify them.The Worst Dating Advice: Navigate the murky waters of online dating advice and find out what to avoid to save yourself time and heartache.My Let Love In Technique: Gain insights into my unique approach to attracting lasting love based on her personal and professional journey.I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created Just For You Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com Instagram:  Be sure to follow me and DM me your burning questions about love here https://www.instagram.com/datingcoachtrulyeleanorYoutube Videos: Don’t forget to subscribe for love advice that ACTUALLY works here:  https://www.youtube.com/@trulyeleanorThank you for supporting my podcast so I can continue to provide you with free content on the regular!

Hey, friends! Get cozy and grab your favorite drink, because today, I'm sharing my deeply personal love story—the "Shero's Journey." This is my path of self-discovery, healing, and finding the love I had been searching for my entire life.In this episode I am going to talk about the moment I decided that had to do things differently if I wanted a different result, what led up to that, and what happened when I got the support I needed to make lasting change and find authentic love. I knew I had to do things differently. I started facing the deep-seated trauma I had avoided for years, connected with my inner child, and sought support—letting others help me heal. I embraced the discomfort and took real steps to break the cycle. But here’s the real message: I had to learn to show up as my true self, to stop fitting myself into someone else’s life and narrative. The love I found was a reflection of the work I did on myself, setting boundaries, learning to express my needs, and building a relationship based on mutual respect and growth.This journey wasn’t easy—it required me to get uncomfortable, face the hard truths, and step out of my comfort zone. But the love I found on the other side? It was worth every difficult moment.If you’re feeling like it’s too late for you, or that you’ll never break out of your patterns, I want you to know that it’s never too late. You can create your own love story, and it doesn’t have to look like mine. You deserve the kind of love that makes you feel seen, heard, and valued, and you *can* attract it by connecting to your authentic self.I hope my story brings you inspiration, hope, and the belief that love is closer than you think. Key Takeaways:- Breaking patterns starts with facing your inner struggles and seeking help when needed.- It’s never too late to create the love story you desire.- Authenticity is the key to attracting real, lasting love.I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created Just For You Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com Instagram:  Be sure to follow me and DM me your burning questions about love here

Hey, friends! I’m so excited you’re here for episode 3 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast because we’re diving into a topic that’s near and dear to my heart—what I call "Pinch Me Love." You know that feeling when a relationship feels so good, so fulfilling, that you almost have to pinch yourself to believe it's real? Well, we’re going to explore that today, and I can't wait to share my insights and experiences with you.What We Talked About:- Defining "Pinch Me Love":It's so easy to focus on what we don’t want in love, but what about what we *do* want? I walk you through why it’s so important to define the kind of love you’re looking for—especially if you’re navigating dating after 40.- Real Client Stories: I share some heartwarming emails from clients who’ve found their version of *Pinch Me Love* through working with me. You’ll hear stories about how they went from challenging relationships to feeling safe, empowered, and connected in ways they never imagined.- My Own Journey to Love: After being single into my 40s, I finally found the kind of love I always wanted. I talk about how my husband and I share emotional safety, laughter, and even those small, intimate moments that make me feel so grateful to have him by my side.Key Takeaways:- *Pinch Me Love* isn’t about perfection or living in a fairy tale. It’s about finding a love where you feel emotionally safe, deeply connected, and truly seen for who you are—flaws and all. - Even in the midst of disagreements or tough times, *Pinch Me Love* means you and your partner are committed to working through it with empathy, patience, and dedication. You don’t have to be constantly on the hamster wheel of “self-improvement”—you can just *be* yourself, and that’s enough.- It’s okay if you’ve never experienced this type of love before, or even if you can’t fully imagine it yet. The key is staying open to the possibility that it’s out there for you—better than you ever thought possible.I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created Just For You Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com Instagram:  Be sure to follow me and DM me your burning questions about love here a...

If you’re a single woman dating over 40 and feeling like guys keep ghosting you for reasons you just can't understand—this episode is for you. I’m breaking down the top three dating mistakes I see as a love coach and the underlying limiting beliefs that keep you stuck. Let’s get real about what’s holding you back from finding a truly devoted relationship with Mr. Right.Here’s what I cover in episode 4 of The Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast:Dating Mistake #1: "The Spark Obsession" Ever felt that electric spark and thought, “This is it!” only to ignore red flags as they pile up? I dive into why that intense excitement can often lead us to overlook compatibility and safety. Spoiler: it's rooted in the need for excitement, which can be a limiting belief keeping us in patterns that don’t serve us.Dating Mistake #2: "The Scarcity Trap" Sometimes, it’s easy to tell yourself, “There aren’t enough good guys my age,” so you stay with someone hoping their potential will shine through. I’ll discuss how this scarcity mindset leads to endless chances for Mr. Not-Quite-Right—and how to move past it so you stay open to a truly healthy connection.Dating Mistake #3: "Over-Compassion" We all want to be compassionate and understanding, but sometimes this trait can become a trap, leading us to ignore our own needs. I’ll share how to set healthy boundaries and avoid settling just to keep the peace.I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created Just For You Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com Instagram:  Be sure to follow me and DM me your burning questions about love here https://www.instagram.com/datingcoachtrulyeleanorYoutube Videos: Don’t forget to subscribe for love advice that ACTUALLY works here:  https://www.youtube.com/@trulyeleanorThank you for supporting my podcast so I can continue to provide you with free content on the regular!

Hey, welcome back! I'm so glad you're here. In episode 5 and first in a three-part series where I’m diving into the worst dating advice out there for women over 40—yes, we’re going there! Today, we're peeling back the layers on some of the most misguided advice that's circulating around, why it's so damaging, and what to do instead. Spoiler: this advice isn't just ineffective; it actually pulls us away from genuine connection. Episode Highlights:1. The Truth About Inauthentic Dating Scripts We've all heard the tips on what to text or say to keep a guy hooked: "magic phrases" and rigid scripts meant to "win him over." But following this type of advice? It only leads to what I call “verbal constipation.” Holding back our real selves for fear of losing someone, or waiting for the “perfect moment” to speak, keeps us from ever being seen or truly connecting.2. Why ‘Playing It Cool’ Keeps Us Stuck Sometimes we’re told to *wait* and *hold back,* or to never share too much too soon. But when we’re not honest or open, we end up projecting a version of ourselves that isn’t real. And, surprise—this keeps us attracting people who aren’t aligned with what we truly want. Real connection requires spontaneity and authenticity, not strategy.3.Limiting Beliefs That Hold Us Back There are a few core beliefs that drive us to follow this harmful advice, like: - Fear of being fully seen (what if I'm "too much"?) - Worry that the right person doesn't exist for us - Settling for pseudo-relationships over real ones because it seems better than being alone These beliefs create a pattern where we end up chasing after people who aren’t truly available or interested.4. A New Approach: Embracing Authenticity in Love If you’re tired of the chase, the answer starts with making the decision to show up as your *true self*. In this episode, I share ways to get started on that journey, including practical tips like tuning into what you genuinely want in a relationship. Take a few moments to imagine the type of life and feelings you want with a partner—these are the real markers of compatibility, not just surface-level traits.This is only part one! We’ll keep this exploration going next week by looking at even more bad dating advice women are given and dive deeper into how we can flip the script (authentically!) to make real connections.Thanks for joining me on this journey—remember, real love is closer than you think. See you next week for Part Two!

Welcome to episode 6 and part two of this juicy three-part series where I'm diving deep (and yes, it’s getting a little controversial!) into some of the worst dating advice floating around for women over 40. Today, I'm taking on the concept of "divine feminine energy" and why this advice, while alluring, might be the very thing holding you back.In this episode, I’ll share some personal stories and insights from my journey—not just as someone who has navigated this advice herself but as a spiritual teacher who’s worked in the energy healing world for decades. I totally get why “finding your divine feminine” sounds like a magic solution to all our dating woes. We’ll talk about why it feels so shiny and seductive, especially if you've been told that embracing a “feminine” energy is the key to finally meeting your soulmate. Beneath this advice is often a subtle (or not-so-subtle) message that something about you isn’t good enough. I’ll break down how this mindset can make you feel unworthy and how it turns dating into an exhausting performance instead of an authentic connection. Instead of chasing a prescribed “feminine energy,” I’m going to show you how to attract genuine connection by being fully present, authentic, and unapologetically YOU. I’ll explain why your most attractive quality is not about how well you "do" feminine but how deeply you show up as yourself.The "Let Love In" Technique If this resonates, I’ll share a bit about the “Let Love In” method I teach in my "Pinch Me Love" course. This isn’t about fixing what's “wrong” with you; it’s about peeling back the layers to get to your true, whole self.Remember, you don’t have to become anyone other than who you are to find love. The most powerful thing you can do is embrace your real, messy, beautiful self—and show up with an open heart. I can’t wait to hear what you think about today’s episode, so tune in, and let’s get real about finding love over 40. I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created Just For You Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com Instagram:  Be sure to follow me and DM me your burning questions about love here

Hey there! Welcome to episode 7 of The Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast. This is Part 3 of our series, The Worst Dating Advice for Women Over 40, and let me tell you, this one gets a little spicy! We're diving into some of the most toxic, unhelpful dating advice out there and flipping it on its head. Spoiler: If you've ever felt like you needed a PhD in "understanding men" to find love, this episode is for you.Here’s what we’ll unpack: Why advice focused on “attracting the guy” often backfires How hyper-focusing on men’s behaviors keeps you stuck My personal story of dating insecurity and toxic empathy—and how I turned it around The #1 reason women chase unavailable men (and how to stop doing it!) Dating should not feel like a high-stakes game where you're constantly analyzing, second-guessing, and morphing into someone else to fit what you think a guy wants. Trust me, I’ve been there, and I want to help you break free from this exhausting cycle. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: How to shift your focus back to yourself and your true desires Why authenticity (quirks, messiness, and all!) is your superpower in love Simple, powerful techniques to stay grounded, confident, and in your body during dates The surprising reason repelling the *wrong* guys is a win The right guy will love you—exactly as you are. You don’t need to overanalyze or overperform. When you embrace your authenticity, you naturally become magnetic to someone who truly values the real you. Next week, we’ll dive into my signature framework for transforming your dating patterns and finally finding lasting love. Trust me, this is the game-changer you’ve been waiting for! Remember, love is closer than you think. See you next week! Until then, remember: You’re amazing, lovable, and worthy of the love you desire. I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created Just For You Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com Instagram:  Be sure to follow me and DM me your burning questions about love here

If you’re dating after 40 and tired of chasing unavailable partners or following bad advice, this episode is for you! I’m sharing the framework I’ve used as a dating coach (and in my own life) to go from a "hot mess express" to married to the love of my life in my 40s. You'll learn how to stop chasing love and start letting it in with my three-pillar approach: Let, Love, and In.In episode 8 of The Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, I also address the biggest myths in dating—why “knowing” what to do isn’t enough, how action changes everything, and why the “right guy” won’t just fall into your lap (spoiler: you have to put yourself out there).What You'll Learn in This Episode:The Let Love In Technique: My 3-pillar approach to finding love by letting go of old patterns, embracing self-acceptance, and trusting your heart.Awareness (The Let Pillar): How to detox from unavailable partners and recognize the patterns that keep you stuck.Self-Acceptance (The Love Pillar): Why loving yourself unconditionally is key and how to stop beating yourself up for past choices.Heart Wisdom (The In Pillar): How to connect to your heart, tune into your intuition, and radiate confidence that attracts authentic love.The difference between dating from your head vs. your heart—and how to shift to a grounded, joyful approach to meeting the right person.I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created Just For You Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com Instagram:  Be sure to follow me and DM me your burning questions about love here https://www.instagram.com/datingcoachtrulyeleanorYoutube Videos: Don’t forget to subscribe for love advice that ACTUALLY works here:  https://www.youtube.com/@trulyeleanorThank you for supporting my podcast so I can continue to provide you with free content on the regular!

Hey there, welcome to episode 9! If you’re navigating the dating world after 40 and feeling like you’re stuck in a cycle of unavailable guys and repeating patterns, this episode is for you. I’m diving deep into the first pillar of my Let Love In framework: Letting go of the past.I get it—letting go can feel daunting, even impossible. But trust me, it’s the key to breaking free from dating the same guy in a different body and finding the love you truly deserve. In today’s episode, I’ll walk you through how holding onto past baggage affects your dating life and share actionable steps to finally move forward.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why letting go of the past is so critical for finding love.How unhealed baggage keeps you stuck in painful patterns.What “dating while in your baggage” actually looks like (and how it might be sabotaging your relationships without you realizing it).How to identify and clear the emotional triggers and blind spots that trip you up.We’ll explore how boundaries—or the lack of them—play a huge role in this process. I’ll also help you reconnect with your truth and gain clarity on the patterns and choices that have shaped your love life so far. And don’t worry, this isn’t about beating yourself up! It’s about compassionately uncovering the lessons from your past so you can create a different, brighter future.Practical Tools and Tips Shared:Journaling prompts to help you reflect on your patterns and fears.The power of EFT tapping for releasing stuck emotions.How to set clear intentions to let go of your past and open up to new possibilities.Letting go is the foundation of transformation. It creates the space for something new, something better, and something you truly deserve. So grab your journal, or just hit play and let’s explore this together.Next week, we’ll dive into the second pillar of my framework: Love. This is all about acceptance, self-love, and opening yourself up to receive the love you’ve been searching for. Trust me, you won’t want to miss it!Until then, remember—love is closer than you think. I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created Just For You Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com Instagram:a...

Welcome to today’s episode! If you’re a single woman dating after 40 and struggling to find Mr. Right, you’re in the right place. We’re diving into the second step of my proven Let Love In framework: the LOVE pillar. This pillar is all about shifting your dating experience from chasing fantasies to embracing your truth and attracting real, lasting love.What Is the LOVE Pillar?The LOVE pillar is central to transforming your dating life. Unlike the common cycle of chasing unavailable partners, this pillar focuses on grounding yourself in self-love and acceptance. In this episode, we explore what it means to truly embrace yourself, release emotional baggage, and align with the kind of love you deserve.Key Takeaways:1. Heal and Forgive YourselfOne of the first steps in the LOVE pillar is healing and forgiving yourself. Resentment and unprocessed emotions can cloud your judgment and block you from authentic love. We discuss why forgiveness isn’t about excusing past mistakes but about freeing yourself from their grip.Personal growth doesn’t require perfection. You don’t have to be fully healed to attract a healthy relationship—just open to the process.2. Befriend Your EmotionsInstead of rejecting your emotions, learn to welcome them. This allows you to build confidence and recognize your inherent worth. I share a deeply personal story about how embracing my anger transformed my emotional health and helped me see my true value.Through journaling, EFT tapping, or guided meditations, you can create a safe space for your emotions to surface and be witnessed.3. Untangle Yourself from Limiting BeliefsLiving in integrity means aligning your inner world with your outward actions. This requires facing and integrating the parts of yourself that you’ve been ignoring. We’ll explore how shadow work and intuitive practices can help you release old patterns and step into a more compassionate, empowered version of yourself.By trusting your intuition, you open the door to self-respect and better choices in love.Reflective Questions:Take some time to reflect on these prompts:What fears arise when you think about fully accepting and loving yourself?Why is self-love essential to your dating journey?How will your life change when you embrace the LOVE pillar and accept yourself with compassion?Practical Tools for Your Journey:Journaling: Use journaling to connect deeply with your emotions and track your progress.EFT Tapping: Release emotional blocks by tapping on pressure points while voicing your fears or limiting beliefs.Guided Meditations: Archetypal healing meditations can help you connect with different aspects of yourself to promote healing and integration.Remember, you don’t have to be “perfect” to attract a meaningful relationship. Self-love is a journey, and the LOVE pillar is your guide to building a fulfilling connection with yourself and others.In the next episode, we’ll dive into the third pillar of the Let Love In technique. It’s the final and most transformative step to attracting a partner who truly aligns with you. Don’t miss it!Remember: Love is closer than you think.I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit:

Welcome to the show! If you're over 40 and finding yourself chasing unavailable guys while searching for Mr. Right, this episode is for you. I’m sharing the final part of my three-part series on the Let Love In framework. This is the exact process that transformed my love life from “hot mess express” to happily married in my 40s—and it’s the same framework I’ve been teaching as a dating coach for over 15 years.In this episode, we’re diving into the third and final part: "In"—Trusting in Your Heart and Connecting to Your True Self.Why Connecting to Your True Self MattersWhen you’re disconnected from your true self, it’s easy to fall into unhealthy patterns—chasing unavailable partners, ignoring red flags, or trusting others over your own intuition. But when you’re deeply connected to your true self, everything changes. You recognize what you truly want, trust your intuition, and naturally attract the love you deserve.I shared stories of two clients who experienced this transformation:Client #1: She went from seeking validation from emotionally unavailable men to meeting someone who truly saw her and loved her for who she was.Client #2: Despite severe anxiety about dating apps due to childhood trauma, she used this process to build confidence, find joy in dating, and enjoy meaningful connections.The Impact of DisconnectionIf you’re not connected to your true self, you might find yourself:Chasing romantic fantasies rather than reality.Trusting others over your intuition, ignoring actions that don’t match their words.Dating people you don’t truly like—or who don’t like you back.Sound familiar? These patterns keep you stuck in a cycle of heartbreak and self-doubt.How to Connect to Your True SelfHere are three steps to help you trust in your heart and connect deeply with yourself:Celebrate and Express Yourself- Pick a creative outlet—cooking, painting, dancing, writing (even badly!). Regular self-expression allows you to feel at home in your own skin and lets your unique essence shine.Manifest Your Desires- Get clear on what you truly want in a partner and a relationship. Create a vision board, write a list, or even draw it out. Speak these desires aloud and feel them in your heart.Live Your Truth in Love- Stop trying to cater to others’ expectations. When you show up authentically and fully yourself, you’ll naturally attract the kind of partner who loves and values the real you.Letting Go of ControlYes, letting go of control is hard—especially if you’re a planner like me. But when you allow the universe to surprise and delight you, incredible things can happen.So, ask yourself: Are you willing to stop wasting time and energy on the wrong people and start trusting your heart to lead you to the love you deserve?If this episode resonated with you, take a moment to reflect:Are you truly connected to your heart and your desires? How can you start expressing yourself and living your truth today?I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: a...

Hey there, welcome to the season one finale! I can’t believe we’re already here—what a journey it’s been. First, I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart for tuning in and walking this path with me. Your Shero’s journey inspires everything I share here.In this episode, I’ve got two big things for you:A Holiday Survival Guide tailored for single women navigating the holiday season.A sneak peek at what’s coming in season two—get ready for even more practical advice and inspiration!What We’ve Learned This SeasonThis season was all about stepping into your power, reclaiming your worth, and getting clear on what you want in love. We covered so much:Episode 1: My mission to show you that love is possible at any stage of life.Episode 2: My personal Shiro’s love journey, from the “Hot Mess Express” to finding “Pinch Me Love.”Episodes 3-6: Debunking dating myths and uncovering the worst dating advice out there.Episodes 7-11: My “Let Love In” framework—step-by-step guidance to help you attract the love you deserve.If you’ve missed any episodes, the holidays are a perfect time to catch up. Consider it your self-care playlist!Your Holiday Survival GuideThe holidays can be tricky, especially if you’re the only single person at the table. But I’ve got you covered with some practical tips:Reflect on Your Year: Take time to assess your patterns and progress in love. Journaling can help you uncover aha moments and themes.Set Boundaries: Call a supportive family member ahead of time to share how you’re feeling and ask for their help in steering conversations.Bring an Ally: If possible, invite a friend or ask a family member to back you up during holiday gatherings.Create Space for Yourself: Carve out time to relax and process your emotions—bubble baths and guided meditations can work wonders.Set Intentions: Decide how you want to feel during the holidays—peaceful, joyful, and grounded—and write those intentions down as a guide.To make your holiday self-care even easier, I’m sharing a free gift: my Become a Love Goddess guided meditation series. It’s all about balancing your energy and connecting with your true self. You can find the link in the show notes.Looking Ahead to 2025As we wrap up the year, let’s also look ahead. Set some exciting intentions for 2025:“I’m ready to open my heart to the possibilities of love.”“I’m ready to meet my Mr. Right.”Remember, love is closer than you think—it’s waiting for you in the new year. Thank you again for an amazing first season. I can’t wait to bring you even more in season two. Until then, take care, be kind to yourself, and enjoy the holidays.I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanora...

If you’re a single woman over 40 struggling to find Mr. Right because you’re drawn to unavailable guys, this episode is for you. I’m kicking off Season 2 with practical tips on how to meet Mr. Right now—without falling for divine feminine gimmicks or self-abandoning to fit into someone else’s mold.Here’s what I cover in this episode:Why the mindset of "waiting for the perfect time" to meet someone is holding you back.The hidden barriers you might be creating that keep love out of reach.My go-to question: What if you met Mr. Right today?How “undating” behaviors—like dismissing online dating, skipping events, or giving up on introductions—are sabotaging your chances.The three practical ways to meet your guy that actually work (hint: it’s not magic, it’s strategy).I also dive into why staying open to possibilities is key, share my personal framework for finding love, and outline what’s coming in this season—including a guided first-date walkthrough!Get ready to shift your mindset, take action, and open yourself up to the relationship you deserve. Let’s make it happen this season!I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created Just For You Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com Instagram:  Be sure to follow me and DM me your burning questions about love here https://www.instagram.com/datingcoachtrulyeleanorYoutube Videos: Don’t forget to subscribe for love advice that ACTUALLY works here:  https://www.youtube.com/@trulyeleanorThank you for supporting my podcast so I can continue to provide you with free content on the regular!Links referenced in this episode:stopchasingunavailableguys.com

Welcome to part one of my three-part series on how to meet Mr. Right after 40! If you're already rolling your eyes at the thought of meeting someone through friends and family, I totally get it. But hear me out—this episode is all about shifting your mindset, breaking past limiting beliefs, and opening yourself up to opportunities that may be closer than you think.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why your inner circle (friends, family, and close connections) can be a powerful way to meet someoneHow your mindset might be shutting down potential opportunities before they even ariseThe six degrees of separation and how it applies to your dating lifeHow to work through emotional blocks like embarrassment or fear of asking for helpPractical ways to reach out to friends and family without it feeling awkward or forcedI used to believe this avenue wouldn’t work for me, and I regret not trying it sooner. The truth is, you are likely much closer to meeting the right person than you realize. When you open yourself up, shift your mindset, and take intentional action, incredible things can happen.So, are you ready to put this strategy into action? Start by considering the people in your life who truly know you. And stay tuned for part two of this series, where we’ll dive into the next way to meet Mr. Right after 40!See you in the next episode!I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created Just For You Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com Instagram:  Be sure to follow me and DM me your burning questions about love here https://www.instagram.com/datingcoachtrulyeleanorYoutube Videos: Don’t forget to subscribe for love advice that ACTUALLY works here:  https://www.youtube.com/@trulyeleanorThank you for supporting my podcast so I can continue to provide you with free content on the regular!Links referenced in this episode:

If you're a single woman over 40 and ready to meet Mr. Right, you're in the right place! This is Part 2 of my 3-part series on the best ways to meet him this year—not five years from now, not in some vague future, but now. Today, we’re diving into social and singles events, a strategy that I know works.Why Singles Events?I get a lot of pushback when I bring this up, and I totally get it—I had the same doubts before I met my husband. Maybe you’ve thought:“There are no events for my age.” (Translation: I feel too old.)“There won’t be enough men there.” (And if there are, we’ll all be fighting over them.)“These events are just awkward and lame.” (Speed dating with a lock-and-key gimmick? No thanks.)Sound familiar? If so, let’s flip that mindset. Because the truth is, these events work when you approach them the right way.Shifting Your MindsetInstead of seeing these events as doomed before they start, I want you to adopt this perspective:Every event you attend is a step in the right direction. It’s about taking action, not obsessing over the outcome.You’re showing the universe you’re serious. The more intentional you are, the more opportunities you create.Your energy is powerful. Just by putting yourself out there, you’re opening doors you didn’t even know existed.Dealing with Doubt & EmotionDating can bring up a rollercoaster of emotions—frustration, resentment, disappointment. I’ve been there. That’s why I recommend having a daily emotional check-in. Here are some journal prompts to help:What am I feeling about dating today?What do I believe is possible for me when it comes to love?How can I make dating more fun and lighthearted?How am I supporting myself in this process?If you can’t find the right event, create one! Here are some ideas: Start a singles book club, hiking group, or coffee meetup. (Your local library or community center can help.) Host a dinner party where everyone brings a single friend. Organize a singles improv night. (One of the most fun events I ever attended!) Find singles-specific events on Meetup.The key? Be intentional and stay open. Even if an event doesn’t lead directly to Mr. Right, the energy you put into the process will lead you closer to him—sometimes in the most unexpected ways.In the final part of this series, we’ll cover another powerful way to meet Mr. Right after 40. But for now, I challenge you: Find one singles event in your area and commit to going! Then, let me know how it goes—I’d love to hear your experience.See you in the next episode!I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created...

If you’re a single woman over 40 looking for Mr. Right and you’re ready to hear how to actually meet him—without the games and frustration—then you’re in the right place. In this episode, part three of my series Three Ways to Meet Mr. Right After 40, we’re tackling the dreaded world of online dating. Between fake profiles, married men, and time wasters, it’s easy to feel like online dating is more hassle than it’s worth. But I promise you, if done right, it can be an effective and powerful way to meet someone amazing. I’ve seen it work for my clients, and I even met my husband this way! So let’s break down how to make online dating a smart, intentional, and successful part of your dating journey.What We Cover in This Episode:Why Mindset Matters: The way you approach online dating shapes your experience. If you go in thinking it’s a waste of time, guess what? That’s exactly what it will be.Internal Preparation Before You Sign Up: Before diving in, take time to reflect on your expectations and intentions. Ask yourself:What do I hope to get out of online dating?What kind of relationship am I looking for?Who do I believe is actually out there for me?How much time and energy am I willing to commit to the process?Shifting from Expectations to Intentions: Expectations can set you up for frustration, but intentions keep you in control. Instead of thinking, “I better meet someone immediately,” shift to “I intend to have fun and be open to meeting great people.”Handling the Emotional Rollercoaster: Acknowledge the emotions that come up—fear, frustration, even resentment from past relationships—so they don’t control your experience.Taking Practical Action: Once you’ve done the internal work, set yourself up for success with a structured approach:Schedule specific time slots for being on the apps (e.g., three times a week for 30 minutes).Approach it with curiosity and openness, rather than pressure and expectation.Recognize that quality connections take time, but a consistent and intentional approach will get you there.Online dating doesn’t have to be a frustrating time-suck—it can actually be an empowering way to meet someone amazing. But it all starts with your mindset and approach. By getting clear on your intentions, managing expectations, and taking consistent action, you can make online dating work for you instead of against you. If you want to dive deeper into this framework and learn the exact process I used (and that I teach my clients) to meet Mr. Right, go back and check out Season One. And if this episode resonated with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts—send me a message or share your biggest takeaway. I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created Just For You...

Hey there! If you're a single woman over 40 looking for love and tired of wasting time on the wrong guys, this episode is for you. As an intuitive love coach, I'm diving into the green flags you should look for in dating—those signs that help you recognize Mr. Right when he's right in front of you. While red flags are important, today is all about focusing on the positives, so you can date with more fun, confidence, and clarity.What We Cover in This Episode:Why Green Flags Matter: It’s easy to get caught up in red flags, but focusing on green flags can shift your energy and mindset for better dating experiences.What Potential Really Means: It’s not just about checking boxes but about feeling at home and at peace when you're with someone.Mindset Shifts for Dating Success: How to approach dating with an abundance mindset and avoid scarcity traps like "there are no good guys left."Emotional Green Flags: Feeling safe, calm, and grounded excitement on dates—what those feelings mean and why they matter.Practical Exercise to Find Your Mr. Right: I walk you through an exercise to identify the top five characteristics, behaviors, and feelings associated with your ideal partner.Affirmations for Dating with Intention: Powerful affirmations to strengthen your intuition and keep insecurities from making your decisions.If you’re ready to shift from focusing on red flags to recognizing green flags in dating, this episode will help you feel more hopeful and open-hearted. Start noticing how you feel around potential partners and set the intention to find the guy who makes you feel safe, valued, and authentically yourself.Stay tuned for our next episode, where we’ll dive into red flags and deal breakers—because yes, those are important too!I hope you enjoy this episode and feel inspired to approach dating with a fresh perspective. If you loved this conversation, don't forget to subscribe and share it with a friend who might need a little dating encouragement.I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created Just For You Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com Instagram:

Hey there! If you're a single woman over 40 looking for Mr. Right and tired of wasting your time on unavailable guys, this episode is for you. As an intuitive love coach, I'm breaking down what red flags really mean, how to recognize them, and—most importantly—how to stop chasing the wrong men. My goal is to empower you with practical dating strategies so you can date with intention and confidence. Let's dive in!What We Cover in This Episode:What Red Flags Really Are: Understanding the signs of an unavailable man and why we often ignore them.Owning Your Dating Patterns: How acknowledging your past choices can set you free.Mindset Shifts You Need: Why recognizing red flags early on is key to avoiding heartache.Emotional and Physical Cues: How your body might be signaling you to run the other way.Practical Dating Strategies: What to do when you spot red flags on a first or second date.Affirmations for a Healthier Love Life: Simple statements to reprogram your mindset and attract the right kind of love.Exercises to Define Your Red Flags: How to create a clear picture of what Mr. Unavailable looks like for you.I hope this episode gave you the insights you need to date more intentionally and avoid the pitfalls of chasing unavailable men. Remember, recognizing red flags isn't about judgment—it's about protecting your time, energy, and heart. If you haven't yet, make sure to listen to the previous episode on green flags so you can focus on what you do want, not just what you want to avoid. Until next time, keep dating with purpose and trust your intuition—you've got this!I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created Just For You Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com Instagram:  Be sure to follow me and DM me your burning questions about love here https://www.instagram.com/datingcoachtrulyeleanorYoutube Videos: Don’t forget to subscribe for love advice that ACTUALLY works here: ...

Welcome to Part 1 of a three-part series Best Dating Advice for Women 40+ where I’m breaking down how to meet high-quality guys and avoid the ones who aren’t worth your time. But before we jump into strategies, we have to start with the most important thing—your mindset.Dating isn’t just about signing up for an app and hoping for the best. It’s about preparing yourself mentally, emotionally, and spiritually so that you attract the right kind of partner and avoid burnout. In this episode, I’m diving into expectations—what they are, how they shape our experiences, and how to make sure yours are serving you rather than sabotaging your love life.What we cover in this episode:The common pitfalls of dating after 40 and how to avoid themWhy unexamined expectations are one of the biggest sources of frustration in datingHow to distinguish between expectations and intentions (and why that matters!)Powerful journal prompts to help you uncover your own expectationsThe difference between hope, want, and desire—and why understanding this is key to attracting the right partnerReal-life examples of problematic versus helpful expectations in datingHow to shift your mindset so you’re making empowered choices instead of settlingWhen you understand your expectations and align them with what you truly desire, you take back your power in dating. The goal isn’t to control who shows up but to set yourself up for success by being clear about what you want and what you’re willing to put into the process.This is just the beginning! In the next episode, we’ll dive deeper into setting strong intentions that will transform your dating experience. Stay tuned!Loved this episode? Make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss Part 2 of this series. I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com Goodbye Mr. Unavailable, Hello Mr. Right Toolkit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here Connect With Me On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanorhttps://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/ Resources I Created Just For You Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com Instagram:  Be sure to follow me and DM me your burning questions about love here https://www.instagram.com/datingcoachtrulyeleanorYoutube Videos: Don’t...