ADHD Scapegoat Podcast

Feeling overwhelmed and constantly running on empty? 😩 This solo episode dives deep into why life feels so heavy, especially for ADHD individuals healing from trauma and family scapegoating. It's time to stop "should-ing" and start honoring your true capacity!Join Angie as she explores:🟣 The "background hum of exhaustion" and why your nervous system is tapped out. 🧠🟣 How ADHD brains work "10x harder" on low-interest tasks (Dr. Thomas Brown's analogy explained!). 🤯🟣 The connection between scapegoating, people-pleasing, and overdoing it. 💔🟣 Categorizing your capacity days (high, middle, low) and choosing regulation over productivity. ✨🟣 The power of self-awareness: recognizing your patterns without shame. 💪🟣 Replacing external "shoulds" with the question: "What can I realistically do today?" 🗓️🟣 Why honoring your capacity, setting boundaries, and embracing nuance are acts of self-respect, not weakness. 💖If you're tired of proving your worth through exhaustion, this episode is your permission to pause, adjust, and build a life that truly works for you.

Oprah talked about family estrangement, but did she get it all? 🤔 In this episode, we break down Oprah's "no-contact" discussion from the unique perspective of an ADHD scapegoat, revealing the critical nuances often missed in mainstream conversations.Join Angie & Jeremy as they discuss:Why "no contact" isn't a trend, but a last-resort survival decision for many. 💔Oprah's insights: perspectives from estranged children and parents. 🗣️What was missing: The impact of narcissistic abuse and scapegoating on estrangement. 😔The crucial difference between an abuser's "silent treatment" and a survivor's "no contact." 🚫Why "mutual empathy" can sometimes place an unfair burden on the victim. ⚖️The role of generational trauma, shame, and denial in family systems. 🔄Processing the grief of lost family connections while prioritizing self-protection and healing. 💪If you've felt unseen or misunderstood in discussions about family estrangement, this episode will provide the language and validation you need.

Have you ever felt the deep grief of realizing "no one came" to protect you as a child? 💔 In this raw and honest episode, we explore the devastating impact of emotional neglect, abandonment, and the weaponized "silent treatment" in dysfunctional families.Join us as we discuss:The difference between an abuser's "silent treatment" and a survivor's "no contact." 🚫"Lightbulb moments" when you realize your family chose comfort over your truth. 🤔How ADHD traits are often misunderstood as defiance, leading to further scapegoating. 🧠The profound trauma caused by the absence of protection in childhood. 😔Why abusers avoid self-reflection and perpetuate generational trauma. 🔄Strategies for healing as an adult: self-parenting, reality-checking, and building resilience. 💪Processing the grief of lost family connections and finding new, safe relationships. 💖This episode is a powerful validation for anyone grappling with the pain of an unprotected past. You are not alone, and your healing journey matters.#EmotionalAbuse #ChildhoodTrauma #Grief #NoContact #SilentTreatment #FamilyDynamics #Healing #SelfProtection #Podcast

Ever feel guilty for setting a perfectly reasonable boundary? 🤔 You're not alone! In this episode, we're tackling the insidious "should" statements that keep trauma survivors and ADHD scapegoats trapped in cycles of guilt and people-pleasing.In this episode, we explore:🟣 Why setting boundaries feels so difficult for survivors of narcissistic abuse. 💔🟣 How the "inner critic" weaponizes "shoulds" to maintain control. 🗣️🟣 Real-life examples of common "should" statements that drain your energy. 😩🟣 Actionable tools to replace guilt-driven obligations with clarity and self-respect. 💪🟣 Strategies for ADHD brains to manage emotional flooding and react thoughtfully. 🧠🟣 The power of "pausing," "naming tactics," and detoxing from toxic influences. 🚫🟣 Reclaiming your non-negotiable worth by honoring your boundaries. 💖If you're tired of "should-ing" all over yourself and ready to assert your worth without apology, this episode is your guide to psychological freedom!

#adhd #scapegoat #adhdscapegoat #adhders #NarcissisticAbuse What happens when you uncover a dangerous truth, and your family makes YOU the problem? 🤯 We're diving deep into why truth-telling is treated as a betrayal in narcissistic families.In this episode, we explore:🟣 The agonizing decision: Stay silent, keep the peace, or speak truth knowing you'll "blow everything up"? 🤔🟣Why doing a background check out of concern triggered a family crisis. 💥🟣How family "loyalty" to denial trumps safety in dysfunctional systems. 🤫🟣ADHD scapegoats: The natural truth-seekers of the family system. 🧠🟣The price of silence: The harm done by not acknowledging abuse. 💔🟣Moral Inversion: When protecting someone becomes the "crime." 🔄🟣How family trauma can create generational loops of abusive behavior. 🧬If you've been punished for speaking truth in your family, this episode will validate your experience and empower you to reclaim your voice. You are not alone. 💖

What happens when you speak out against abuse...and your family turns against you? 💔 In this raw and honest episode, we confront the devastating reality of being attacked for telling the truth.We discuss:The shock of receiving threatening messages from a family member's partner. 😡The heartbreaking silence and betrayal from family after exposing the abuse. 😔Using the "Ask Amy" AI app to identify abusive tactics in real-time. 🤖How abusers manipulate perceptions and turn families against the truth-teller. 🎭The importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing your safety. 🛡️Why speaking truth becomes the "crime" in dysfunctional systems. 🚨Finding strength in supportive connections and healing from moral inversion. 💪If you've experienced the pain of being punished for speaking your truth, this episode will validate your experience and empower you to protect yourself. You are not alone. 💖

One year of truth-telling! 🎉 Join us for a special episode as we reflect on the journey of the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast: why we started, the challenges we've faced, and the healing power of sharing our stories.In this personal conversation, we discuss:The struggle of finding your voice after decades of being silenced. 🗣️Why the intersection of ADHD and scapegoating needs to be validated. 💔Facing silencing tactics and smear campaigns from abusers. 😠The power of education, self-compassion, and setting boundaries. 💪Why your truth matters, even if those who hurt you don't want to hear it. 💖The cost of silence and the healing that comes from speaking up. ✨What the future holds for the podcast and our mission to support truth-tellers. 🚀Thank you for being part of our community! Let's continue to expose lies, share our stories, and heal together. ❤️

Lights, camera, ABUSE! 🎬 We're diving into "Narcicinema" – exploring how Hollywood films portray narcissism, gaslighting, and toxic relationships. From classic thrillers to modern horrors, we dissect manipulative characters and abusive dynamics on the silver screen.We'll analyze:🎬 Classic films like "Gaslight" and "Sunset Boulevard" for their depictions of abuse. 🎭🎬 Contemporary takes on narcissism in movies like "The Invisible Man" and "Matilda." 🕵️‍♂️🎬 Common abusive tactics, including gaslighting, isolation, financial abuse, and more. 💔🎬 The problematic romanticization of narcissistic characters in movies. 😩🎬 How these films may inadvertently desensitize us to real-life abuse. 🤔🎬 Our "Scapegoat Scale" ratings: How accurately do these movies depict the full scope of narcissistic abuse? ⚖️🎬 Highlighting the scapegoats and people who could act as lifelines.If you're fascinated by the psychology of abuse and want to learn how to recognize red flags in movies and real life, this episode is for you! Grab your popcorn and let's dive into Narcicinema!

Feeling like you're always either completely right or completely wrong? 🤯 Narcissists use black-and-white thinking to control and manipulate. Learn how to break free with "The AND Statement!"In this episode, we explore:🟣 The destructive nature of all-or-nothing thinking in toxic relationships. 🟣 Distinguishing between toxic rigidity and neurodivergent thinking patterns. 🟣 How narcissistic individuals weaponize black-and-white thinking for control. 🟣 Challenging guilt and cognitive distortions with the "AND statement." 🟣 Embracing nuance and complexity for emotional freedom and healing. 🟣 Practical tips for identifying and countering black-and-white thinking traps. If you're ready to escape the either/or trap and embrace the gray area of life, this episode is a must-watch! Learn to use the power of "AND" to reclaim your psychological freedom.

Feeling like you're playing a rigged game? 😫 Narcissists are masters of double standards and double binds, creating no-win situations that leave you feeling confused and drained. In this episode, we expose these manipulative tactics and show you why it's NOT your fault!We'll break down:The core concept of double standards in narcissistic relationships. ⚖️Examples of how narcissists weaponize your past against you. 💣Understanding "double binds": Conflicting demands designed to trap you. 🪤Why you can never meet a narcissist's impossible standards. 🙅‍♀️The importance of recognizing your inherent "justice sensitivity" and intuition. 🧠How to finally exit the game and reclaim your power. 💪If you're tired of feeling crazy and constantly doing something wrong, this episode is for you. Learn to identify these manipulative patterns and start setting boundaries to protect yourself! 💖

Have you ever been told "just be positive" when trying to express a serious concern? You might be experiencing toxic positivity. 😠 In this powerful episode of the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast, we break down how toxic positivity is used as a manipulation tactic, especially by narcissists and their enablers, to silence victims and avoid accountability.

Do you avoid difficult conversations? In this episode of the ADHD Scapegoat podcast, Angie and Jeremy discuss why hard conversations are essential for healing, connection, and self-respect. Learn how ADHD and trauma can make these conversations challenging, especially within dysfunctional family systems. Discover practical tools for navigating conflict, setting boundaries, and knowing when it's time to walk away. If you struggle with communication, feel silenced, or find yourself repeatedly scapegoated, this episode is for you. Gain insights, build communication skills, and reclaim your voice.

Have you ever been called "crazy" for pointing out the truth? In this powerful episode of the ADHD Scapegoat podcast, Angie and Jeremy unpack how narcissists and toxic family members use gaslighting, smear campaigns, and other manipulative tactics to silence you. Learn how ADHD justice sensitivity can make you a target, but also a truth-teller. Discover the escape route through pattern recognition, self-validation, and reclaiming your reality. If you've experienced narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, or feel like your intuition is constantly being questioned, this episode is for you. Gain clarity, build your resilience, and find your voice.

Is it ADHD—or is it trauma? If you’ve ever asked yourself this question, you’re not alone. ADHD and trauma (especially PTSD) share overlapping symptoms like distractibility, hypervigilance, emotional dysregulation, and sleep problems. That overlap often leads to confusion, misdiagnosis, and frustration.In this episode, Angie and Jeremy unpack the science and lived experience of ADHD × trauma:🟣 Why ADHD and trauma so often co-occur🟣 How traumatic stress can magnify ADHD symptoms🟣 Why misdiagnosis is common (and what clinicians may miss)🟣 Practical tools for separating trauma triggers from ADHD patterns🟣 What an integrative treatment plan looks like, including coaching, therapy, and building a supportive care teamIf you’ve felt scapegoated, misunderstood, or dismissed in your ADHD and trauma journey, this conversation offers validation and steps forward.

What happens when your initial ADHD diagnosis doesn't tell the whole story? In this vulnerable episode of the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast, Angie shares her personal journey of being diagnosed with ADHD 15 years ago and her recent deep-dive reevaluation that uncovered a more complete picture, including C-PTSD and OCD.This episode is for anyone who feels like there's "more to the story" of their struggles, for late-diagnosed adults, and for those navigating the complexities of co-existing conditions with ADHD. Your healing journey is valid, and getting the full picture can be life-changing.

As back-to-school season approaches, equipping our kids with the ability to recognize bullying and abuse is non-negotiable. In this crucial episode of the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast, Angie & Jeremy tackle why ADHDers are often targets, what bullying actually looks like (it's not just shoves in the hallway!), and how to empower your child to advocate for themselves.Learn how to create safe spaces for check-ins, normalize your child's wiring, and teach them that their boundaries are necessary, not mean. We're raising cycle-breakers who speak truth – let's equip them!

Feeling overwhelmed by meal prep, picky eating, or the "right" foods for your ADHD family? You're not alone! In this episode of the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast, Angie sits down with her childhood friend Erin Burch, a Registered Dietitian and ADHD household expert, to chat all things nutrition for "neurospicy" brains.Erin shares her personal journey into understanding ADHD nutrition after her husband and daughter were diagnosed, blending her professional expertise with real-life family experience. This episode is packed with compassionate advice, practical tips, and the reminder that when it comes to fueling ADHD brains, it's about progress, not perfection. Learn how to work with your family's unique needs and make food a source of nourishment, not stress.

Is the back-to-school season a source of stress and overwhelm for your ADHD family? You're not alone! In this episode of the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast, Angie & Jeremy unpack why this transition is uniquely challenging for kids with ADHD (and their parents!). Discover why summer often highlights ADHD traits, how to navigate the "newness" of school, and the common anxieties parents face.If you're a parent of an ADHD child feeling the back-to-school pressure, this episode offers actionable advice, understanding, and the reminder that you're not failing – the system often wasn't built for your child's unique brain.

In this powerful episode of the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast, host Angie sits down with renowned psychologist and author, Dr. Sherrie Campbell, to unpack the complex and often painful intersection of ADHD and toxic family dynamics. Dr. Campbell, a survivor of a toxic family herself, shares her profound insights from her book, "Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members," offering validation and a path to healing for those who have been the family scapegoat.If you've ever felt like the "problem child," constantly criticized, or misunderstood by your family, this episode is for you. Angie and Dr. Sherrie delve into:🟣 The Scapegoat Role: Why children with ADHD are often cast as the family scapegoat and the long-term effects of this dynamic.🟣 Toxic Family Patterns: Identifying the subtle and overt signs of a toxic family environment, including stonewalling, gaslighting, and the impossible task of pleasing a narcissistic parent.🟣 The Power of No Contact: Understanding that going no-contact is not an act of punishment, but a necessary step for self-preservation and healing. Dr. Campbell explains that it's about accepting the reality of the situation, not about a lack of forgiveness.🟣 Breaking the Cycle: How to reclaim your narrative, build self-worth, and create a life of authenticity and peace after breaking free from toxic family ties.🟣 From Survivor to Cycle Breaker: Shifting the perspective from being a victim to being a powerful force for change in your own life and for future generations.Join Angie and Dr. Sherrie for a raw, honest, and ultimately empowering conversation that will leave you feeling seen, understood, and equipped with the tools to take back your life.

Do you experience intense emotional reactions to perceived or real rejection? You're not "too sensitive" – it could be Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), especially if you have ADHD. In this episode of the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast, Angie & Jeremy unpack what RSD is, how it's deeply connected to ADHD, and why it's often intensified for those with C-PTSD from family scapegoating abuse.If you've ever been called "too sensitive," "dramatic," or felt like you're constantly "hanging on by a thread" due to intense emotional responses, this episode is for you. Your emotions are valid, and you are worthy of understanding and healing.