The Connection Podcast - Lauren Dry

Is AI helping us connect, or quietly teaching us to disconnect?In a world where ChatGPT feels like a friend, it’s never been more important to stay human.AI is making life easier, faster, and more efficient, but it’s also changing how we relate to ourselves and each other. Beneath the convenience, something deeper is happening to our nervous systems and our sense of connection.In this episode, Lauren Dry sits down with Milana Sarenac, a former corporate lawyer turned entrepreneur, sales mentor, and founder of The School of Sales & Influence™. Together, they unpack how AI is reshaping human behaviour, relationships, and communication and how we can protect the parts of us that make connection real.It’s an honest, grounding conversation about nervous system awareness, healthy discomfort, and the subtle ways validation and automation can pull us away from authenticity.You’ll hear us explore:How AI is quietly shaping our emotions, relationships, and sense of realityWhy constant validation, from tech or people, can disconnect us from our inner truthThe difference between performing connection and actually feeling it in your bodyHow to use healthy discomfort to build stronger self-trust and resilienceSimple ways to stay grounded, human, and heart-led in a high-tech world🔍 If you’re using ChatGPT for business or personal reflection, try Milana’s favourite objectivity prompt: “Respond like a world-class strategist. Be direct. Be neutral. Be honest.Don’t tell me what I want to hear. Evaluate my idea like an outsider with no emotional investment. Give me pros, cons, risks, blind spots, opportunities, and strategic alternatives. Highlight anything I’m missing or underestimating. Challenge my assumptions. Your job is not to hype me up.”Resources & Links:Learn more about Rise into Regulation, the skillset for connection, communication, and nervous system safety in modern marriage → Rise into Regulation™Follow Lauren on Instagram → @lauren_dryFollow Milana on Instagram → @milanasarenacIf something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren X

What if the real reason you’re exhausted, snappy, or totally flat... isn’t emotional at all but mineral depletion?Yep, we’re going there. If you’ve been doing the mindset work, the therapy, the breathwork, but your energy still crashes by 3pm and every little thing feels too much, this episode is for you.In this episode, Lauren is joined by Hope Pedraza, Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner, Human Design Guide and Clinical Therapist, to unpack the missing links between your physical health, your emotional patterns, and the nervous system safety you’re craving in your relationships.We talk burnout, minerals, Human Design, and what it actually takes to feel good in your body again.You’ll hear us explore:Why emotional dysregulation might be a mineral issue, not a mindset oneThe overlooked connection between magnesium and nervous system safetyHow burnout can show up as disconnection even in people who “look fine”Human Design as a tool for honouring your energy, not pushing throughThe truth about healing: it starts in the body, not just in the brainIf you’ve been wondering why your nervous system work isn’t “sticking,” or why your emotions feel bigger than your tools can handle this conversation might connect the dots in a whole new way.Resources & Links:Learn more about Rise into Regulation, the skillset for connection, communication, and nervous system safety in modern marriage → Rise into Regulation™Follow Lauren on Instagram → @lauren_dryFollow Hope on Instagram → @thehopepedrazaExplore Hope’s work → hopefulandwholesome.comListen to Hopeful and Wholesome → Hope’s PodcastIf this episode opened something up for you, please share it with someone who needs it, leave a review, or send me a message on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren X

What if losing the love didn’t mean it’s over... but that something real is finally being revealed?Maybe you’re in a hard season. Something broke. Maybe it was infidelity, years of resentment, or just that slow, quiet drift that happens when no one’s really saying the truth out loud. You still care, but you feel distant. Maybe numb. Maybe done. And underneath all of it, the question you keep coming back to is, Can the love come back?In this episode, Lauren gently holds this question in this episode, offering a grounded look at what it really takes to rebuild after rupture, not with pressure to fix things fast, but with nervous system safety, emotional clarity, and self-responsibility at the centre.The goal isn’t to push or pretend. It’s to create the kind of grounded safety where love can begin to return in its own time, and in its own way.You’ll hear about:What it actually means when the love feels like it’s gone, and why it’s not always a sign to walk awayWhat the “relationship death” stage is and how it can make space for something more honestHow we try to control outcomes when we feel scared or disconnectedWhy sitting in discomfort, instead of fixing or fleeing, can change everythingWhat it looks like to rebuild from self-trust and shared valuesIf you’re in that in-between space where you’re not sure what’s next, this episode will help you take a breath, feel your feet on the ground, and come back to yourself before making the next decision.Resources & Links:Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriageFollow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dryIf something in this episode landed for you, I’d love to hear about it. Share it with a friend, leave a review, or come say hi on Instagram. It means the world to know what resonates.Big love,Lauren X

Some of the things we say with the most conviction can feel like strength, but they’re often something else entirely. "I don't like being told what to do," "I'm just really independent," "I don't need anyone to take care of me."These phrases sound empowered. But more often than not, they’re not clarity, they’re protection. A brilliant nervous system strategy that once kept you safe, but might now be keeping you stuck.In this episode, Lauren Dry looks at how protective patterns show up in communication, how they quietly create distance in our most important relationships, and how to tell when your “truth” is actually a trauma response.You’ll hear about:What your nervous system might be trying to protect you from when you feel reactiveThe difference between speaking from identity versus from a woundWhy body language and tone often tell a different story than your wordsHow to use somatic awareness to shift from contraction to connectionA powerful practice for self-repair that lets you rewrite old moments with compassionIf you’ve ever felt misunderstood or frustrated that your efforts to connect only seem to push people away, this episode offers insight, relief, and a new way forward.Resources & Links:Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriageFollow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dryBig love,Lauren X.

Is “I’m tired” actually true, or is it your nervous system trying to protect you?Have you ever told yourself, “I’m just too tired” or “I don’t have the bandwidth right now” and it felt honest, but also a little off?Maybe it was a hard conversation you avoided. A class you skipped. A next step you kept pushing down the to-do list. If you’re a high-capacity, high-achieving human who still finds yourself stuck in old patterns, I want to gently ask: What if the tiredness isn’t just physical? What if it’s protective?In this episode, Lauren Dry shares a powerful and personal story about the moment she realized “I’m tired” had become her go-to escape clause. With the support of a trusted mentor, she uncovered what was really underneath that phrase and how it was quietly shaping her relationship with growth, rest, and regulation.Because sometimes what we call exhaustion is really the nervous system saying, This feels too vulnerable. And when we can name that, we begin to shift out of self-abandonment and into something much more nourishing.You’ll hear about:The hidden cost of saying “I’m too tired” and how it might be quietly stalling your goalsHow the nervous system disguises freeze or fawn responses as busyness or burnoutThe difference between true exhaustion and subtle dissociation“Escape clause” phrases that sound responsible but actually block your healingHow to stretch safely without slipping into self-abandonmentResources & Links:Rise into Regulation™ — The skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriageConnect with Lauren on Instagram — @lauren_dryIf this episode stirred something in you, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or come chat with me on Instagram. I’d love to hear what landed for you.Big love,Lauren X

What do you do when you're the one everyone counts on, until you can't count on yourself?If you’ve ever found yourself exhausted from holding it all together, this episode is a lifeline and a mirror. It's about what happens when the helpers need help, and how we find our way back to ourselves.This episode is a powerful invitation to anyone who has ever been the strong one, the helper, the leader, the one others count on, and then hit a wall of pain, exhaustion, or identity loss. Natalie Newgent, a retired firefighter and founder of Rekindled Retreats, shares her raw and redemptive story of injury, PTSD, and the soul-deep process of rebuilding safety, identity, and connection from the inside out.In this episode, I sit down with Natalie to explore how identity, trauma, and the pressure to be the strong one can quietly erode our well-being, and how nervous system repair, somatic tools, and honest community can help us rise again.You’ll hear us explore:How helper identities are often shaped by early survival patternsWhat PTSD and moral injury can look like in high-functioning professionalsThe hidden cost of hyper-vigilance and the importance of restWhy being seen with compassion can change everythingSmall, accessible body-based practices for nervous system reset (including dancing it out)Resources & Links:Learn more about Rise into Regulation, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage Rise into Regulation™Follow Lauren on Instagram: @lauren_dryFollow Natalie on Instagram: @rekindledretreatsExplore Natalie’s work at rekindledretreats.comFollow Natalie on TikTok: @rekindled.retreatIf something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren X

Parenting is where our deepest patterns rise up, and where the real healing begins.It's also where our nervous systems get stretched, our identities get questioned, and our old coping strategies stop working. For many high-achieving parents, especially those navigating modern relationships, parenting becomes the pressure point that reveals what still needs healing.In this powerful and insightful episode, I sit down with Pat Barber, founder of The Father’s Guild, a community of dads committed to being “harder to kill and easier to love.” Pat is a father of four, a coach with over 20 years of experience helping people build resilience both physically and mentally. But it’s fatherhood that cracked him open to deeper emotional awareness, presence, and the kind of strength that doesn't come from muscle alone.Together we explore the messy, meaningful, and sometimes maddening journey of parenting and modern fatherhood, and how our children can become the most honest mirrors we’ll ever have.You'll hear us explore:Why most models of masculinity fall flat, and the power of the middle groundHow kids reflect our unresolved patterns and why that mattersThe hidden cost of unprocessed trauma and the role of recoveryAnti-fragility and how stress plus rest builds emotional resilienceSmall wins, journaling, and the daily reps of cycle-breakingWhether you're a parent, parenting alongside someone, or healing from your own childhood patterns, this conversation is a powerful reminder that change is possible and connection is a skill we can all learn.Resources & Links:Learn more about Rise into Regulation, the skillset for connection, communication, and nervous system safety in modern marriageFollow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dryConnect with Pat Barber and The Father’s Guild on Instagram @thefathersguildVisit The Fathers Guild website thefathersguild.comWatch Pat’s videos on YouTube @thefathersguildIf this episode moved you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Leave a review, tag us on socials, or message us to let us know what landed.Big love,Lauren X

What if all the insight in the world still leaves you feeling disconnected?You’ve read the books. You’ve gone to therapy. You know your attachment style. And yet... the same patterns keep showing up in your relationship.In this episode, Lauren Dry is joined by relationship coach Jack Bohannan, who brings both lived experience and expert insight to the conversation around love, nervous system healing, and emotional safety. Together, they delve into the intricacies of attachment theory, focusing on how these patterns show up in modern relationships especially for high-achieving women partnered with emotionally avoidant men.They explore the dynamics of anxious and avoidant attachment, how they often look different in men and women, and why doing all the emotional labor in a relationship doesn’t create connection, it erodes it. Jack shares his own journey of relational breakdown and healing, and offers practical, somatic tools to help you come back to yourself and create a secure bond that doesn’t cost your identity.You’ll hear us explore:Why therapy and insight don’t always create lasting changeHow anxious and avoidant patterns show up in real-time and what’s underneath themThe hidden cost of “doing all the work” in a relationshipWhy letting your partner struggle might be the most loving thing you doSomatic tools to regulate your nervous system and reconnect with yourselfResources & Links:Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriageFollow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dryFollow Jack on Instagram @jack.unscriptedVisit Jack’s website www.jackbohannan.comAccess Jack’s free webinar Get Back Your Power in LoveIf something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren XThe Connection Catalyst

Hard conversations don’t have to blow things up. Or shut you down. Or leave you spiralling with regret.If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, Why didn’t I say that better? or Why do I always freeze or fawn when it matters most? Then this episode is for you.Whether you’re navigating hot-button issues, navigating grief, or just trying to be heard in your own home, this conversation will help you show up with more clarity, more steadiness, and more influence.You don’t have to yell to be powerful. You don’t have to agree to stay connected. And you don’t have to lose your voice to keep the peace.In this episode, Lauren Dry breaks down how to move through big, uncomfortable conversations with your nervous system intact and your power in place.You’ll hear about:How your brain and body react in conflict and what to do about itWhat shuts people down (hint: it’s not your opinion, it’s how it’s delivered)Six ways to stay curious and strong when things get tenseHow to create space for nuance, without giving up your valuesWhy slowing down is the key to being truly heardResources Mentioned:Rise into Regulation™ – The skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriageConnect with Lauren on Instagram - @lauren_dryIf something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren X

Anxious attachment doesn’t always look how you think it does.It might look like being the fixer, the over-functioner, the one who’s “fine” until they’re not.In this deeply affirming episode, Lauren Dry sits down with Relationship and Anxiety Therapist Valerie Rubin to explore the roots and realities of anxious attachment style, and why so many high-achieving, emotionally intelligent people miss the signs in themselves.Whether you’re the one holding it all together or the one feeling like you’re too much, too sensitive, or somehow not enough, this conversation will help you connect the dots between your past experiences and your present patterns. You’ll also get practical insight into how to shift toward secure connection and emotional safety.You’ll hear us explore:Why anxious attachment often hides behind confidence, competence, and controlHow early experiences (even ones that seemed “fine”) shape our adult relationship dynamicsThe role of hypervigilance, people-pleasing, and codependency in attachment patternsWhat it really means to self-soothe, and why nervous system regulation is essential for clarity and connectionHow to stop outsourcing your safety and start building secure, grounded relationshipsIf you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the emotional labor in your relationship, if fear of abandonment keeps showing up in subtle or intense ways, or if you’re simply ready to feel calmer, clearer, and more connected, this episode is for you.Resources Mentioned:Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriageFollow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dryFollow Valerie on Instagram @healwithvalListen to Valerie’s podcast: The Anxiety Recovery PodcastIf something in this episode hit home, please share it with someone you love, leave a review, or reach out on Instagram. I’d love to hear what lands for you.Big love,Lauren X

Where is the line between accountability and compassion? Between transparency and privacy? Between shame and growth?In this powerful and tender episode, Lauren sits down with Kristina Robertson, coach, speaker, and host of Intimacy After Infidelity, to explore the complexity of healing after you have crossed a line you never thought you would.Together, they unpack the shame that keeps so many women silent, the surprising ways infidelity shows up, and the deeper stories beneath our choices.Whether you have been impacted by infidelity, are navigating grief or rupture in your relationship, or simply want to understand what real repair looks like, this conversation will meet you with honesty, gentleness, and a whole lot of hope.You will hear us explore:The hidden ways grief and disconnection can lead us into choices we never imaginedHow infidelity often becomes a symptom of deeper emotional needs not being metWhat it takes to hold space without judgment and why that changes everythingHow shame isolates and community healsThe challenges of healing on parallel timelines within a marriageThis is not a conversation about blame. It is a conversation about brave ownership, soul-deep healing, and the slow, sacred work of becoming someone you trust again.Resources Mentioned:Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriageFollow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dryConnect with Kristina on Instagram @kristinajoycoachingExplore Kristina’s work at kristinajoycoaching.comListen to Kristina’s podcast Intimacy After InfidelityIf something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren X

So many parents want to raise connected, emotionally resilient kids, but find themselves reacting from stress, shame, or survival instead.In this episode, Lauren Dry speaks with Conscious Parenting Coach and Sleep Specialist Donna Moala about how to move from reactivity to regulation. Drawing on her training and her lived experience as a mum of three, Donna shares how healing yourself first becomes the most powerful parenting tool you’ll ever use.Together, they explore how unconscious patterns show up in parenting, what “doing the work” really looks like, and how to raise emotionally safe kids without losing yourself in the process.You’ll hear us explore:How generational patterns shape the way we parent, even when we “know better”Why emotional safety matters more than behaviour managementWhat conscious parenting really looks like in moments of stress and ruptureHow to set loving boundaries without shame or controlWhy regulating yourself is the most effective way to raise resilient kidsWhether you're raising young children or parenting teens, this conversation offers both insight and compassion for the moments that matter most.Resources Mentioned:Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriageFollow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dryConnect with Donna on Instagram @parentingcollective.auExplore Donna’s work or book a free call: Book hereIf something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren X

Vulnerability isn’t weakness. But for many high functioning, high achieving people, it can feel like a threat.In this episode, Lauren Dry speaks with performance coach and brand strategist Jenni Rae Oates about what it really takes to lead, love, and live without hiding. They unpack the impact of early attachment conditioning, emotional shutdown, and the unspoken fear that being fully seen will cost you something.Jenni Rae shares her own story as a former Division I athlete and self described “perform-a-holic,” and how she rewired her relationship to success, visibility, and safety from the inside out.You’ll hear us explore:Why vulnerability feels unsafe for high performersThe link between childhood conditioning and emotional shutdownHow performance patterns affect leadership, parenting, and relationshipsThe hidden cost of hustle culture and what it takes to build a new way forwardHow nervous system safety can transform your relationship with successResources Mentioned:Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriageFollow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dryConnect with Jenni Rae on Instagram @jenniraeoatesExplore Jenni Rae’s work at www.jennirae.comDownload Jenni Rae’s free resource $500K Her Way PlaybookDownload Jenni Rae’s free resource The Crazy Cycle BlueprintIf something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren X

If your nervous system still feels stuck despite therapy, rest, or mindset work, there may be more going on beneath the surface.In this episode, Lauren Dry talks with NeuroBalance Clinic founder Lauren Rogers about the science behind nervous system regulation and the role of neurotechnology in healing.Lauren Rogers shares clinical insights alongside her own personal story of burnout and health collapse, including how brain-based tools supported her and her son through periods of high stress and sensory overload.You’ll hear us explore:Why mindset work and talk therapy don’t always shift deep patternsHow neurofeedback, brain mapping, and light therapy support regulationWhat these tools offer kids struggling with anxiety or sensory challengesWhy safety and physiological support are key to lasting changeThe value of data in tracking healing and building hopeWhether you’re recovering from chronic stress or supporting a child through dysregulation, this episode offers a clear, compassionate look at how healing the brain supports the whole system.Resources Mentioned:Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriageFollow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dryConnect with Lauren Rogers on Instagram @neurobalance.clinicExplore Lauren Rogers’ work at NeuroBalance ClinicIf something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren x

Ever wonder why you either push too hard at the gym or can’t get yourself to move at all? That tug of war between overexercising and total shutdown isn’t just about motivation. It’s a sign of nervous system dysregulation.Functional nutrition expert and Registered Dietitian Alex Long joins Lauren Dry to explore the hidden connection between stress, gut health, and your relationship with movement.Together they examine how trauma, emotional overwhelm, and chronic stress disrupt our ability to feel safe in our bodies and how that disconnection shows up in both our fitness habits and our closest relationships.You’ll hear us explore:The nervous system’s role in exercise avoidance or addiction and why both are trauma responsesHow gut health and hormone balance impact emotional regulation, energy, and your capacity for connectionThe surprising ways somatic healing and intuitive movement can repair a dysregulated nervous systemWhy burnout might be your body’s breakthrough and how rest can restore your sense of selfHow to rebuild safety through small, embodied practices that reconnect you to joy, not just disciplineWhether you’re feeling stuck in a cycle of burnout, struggling with exercise guilt, or trying to heal your relationship with your body after years of disconnection, this episode will meet you where you are.Resources Mentioned:Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriageFollow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dryConnect with Alex on Instagram @alex.undefinedWatch Alex’s free masterclass on gut and hormone healthIf something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren X

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship conversation that sounds polished, calm, and articulate, while your body is quietly screaming inside? You're not alone.In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry peels back the layers of what’s really happening when high-achieving, emotionally intelligent people show up in conflict with all the “right words” but still feel painfully disconnected.She shares the raw truth about trauma adapted communication, emotional numbness, and the protective patterns that keep us from the connection we crave.You’ll hear Lauren explore:Why emotionally intelligent communication can still leave you feeling unseenHow trauma teaches us to speak with polish instead of vulnerabilityWhat emotional numbness is really telling you and why it doesn’t mean you’re falling out of loveHow to date again after divorce (without falling into old patterns)Why regulating your nervous system is more powerful than perfecting your wordsThis episode is a tender, practical, and deeply validating listen for anyone feeling stuck between knowing what to say and feeling safe enough to say the real thing.Resources & Links:Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriageFollow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dryIf something in this episode resonated, please share it with a friend, leave a review, or connect with me on Instagram. I love hearing what lands for you.Big love,Lauren X

Ever felt ... "The Ick"? Maybe it's been small, maybe you felt like you've been repelled by your partner for no clear reason (and even sometimes, for very obvious ones)? You love them. You’re committed. But the ick is real. In this raw and eye-opening episode, Lauren Dry breaks down what the “ick” really is—and why it’s not shallow, random, or a sign your marriage is broken. Spoiler: it has everything to do with your Nervous System.We’re diving deep into:Why the “ick” often hits women harder in long-term relationshipsThe biology of safety, and how it drives attraction more than we realizeWhat resentment and emotional load do to your sense of desireWhy your Nervous System might be confusing “safe” with “boring”And why so many of us chase chaos or emotionally unavailable partners—even when we know betterWhether you’ve ever felt shut down, disconnected, or even confused about your own intimacy triggers, this episode will help you understand what’s actually going on under the surface—and how to start resetting your connection at the root.This is the one to send to your partner. Or maybe even listen to with them.Inside the episode, we explore:What your body is actually asking before intimacyThe role of unconscious patterns and familiar dysfunctionWhy emotional safety is the true foundation of physical desireHow to begin shifting out of resentment, even when life feels overwhelmingResources Mentioned:Learn more about RISE Into Regulation™ – the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriageFollow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dryEnjoyed this episode?Share it with a friend, leave a review, or tag Lauren with your thoughts and breakthroughs. You never know who might need to hear this today.

Did this episode hit home? There's a beautiful Reset Exercise I've prepared to get you out of your head and into your body again, in the next episode in this series - "Overwhelmed? Parts Work may be your Key to Compassion".If you need any support and to chat further, come and hang out with me in instagram at @the.connection.catalystSharing with you my BIGGEST loveLauren x Find Me: https://www.instagram.com/lauren_dry/Work With Me: https://tr.ee/ZZ8e0CUUH3Free Training: https://tr.ee/f6HdNyp23Q

Parenting, Repair, Work and just day to life - when you're completely Overwhelmed with Relationship stress - can feel debilitating. Despite our best of intentions, it feels like connection can be impossible and shame spirals from even the smallest of mistakes can take over completely. Come and walk with me today as we walk through a beautiful, supportive and wonderfully vivid visualisation that will help you get to the root of your protective patterns, and come back into compassion and curiosity again at the root.Here are the steps:- Take a break, give yourself grace, and have a moment to get curious about your internal environment- Write down the language of your Protective Patterns from the example that recently caused you stress. This language may sound like "I can't get anything right" "No-one will help me" "I'm completely alone" or any other negative challenge- Visualise *clearly* what the part of you that is saying these things looks like (a 'protective' part of you). What is this part of you wearing? How old are they? What is their body language like? Get super clear. The more detail the better.- Ask this part: How do you feel?- Ask this part: What do you need?- Somatically (using your body) meet the need. For example, if the need is CARE, the somatic gesture may be a gentle self hug, or rocking- Ask this version of yourself to take a break, have a rest, maybe sit down and relax for a period- Ask this version of yourself if it's okay now to talk to the 'inner child' that the protector part is shielding- Repeat the exercise while visualising the 'inner child' selfAfter this whole visualisation is complete, revisit what happened earlier that caused you stress, with new eyes and a more compassionate and clear perspectiveIf you need any support and to chat further, come and hang out with me in instagram at @the.connection.catalystSharing with you my BIGGEST loveLauren x Find Me:https://www.instagram.com/the.connection.catalyst/Work With Me:https://tr.ee/ZZ8e0CUUH3Free Training:https://tr.ee/f6HdNyp23Q

In this episode of The Connection Podcast, we’re uncovering one of the most overlooked challenges in modern relationships: Hypervigilance. While it may feel like a survival skill, Hypervigilance often creates disconnection, eroding trust and intimacy in ways that can go unnoticed.  We're going to dive deep into:  - How hypervigilance shows up in relationships and why it’s so common today.  - The hidden ways it keeps us stuck in cycles of defensiveness and emotional burnout.  - The role of the Nervous System in fueling this state of constant alertness. - Practical steps to calm your Nervous System, rebuild trust, and create safety in your connection.  If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly on edge or exhausted from trying to "stay ahead" of potential conflict, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to reset at the root and create a relationship where both you and your partner can finally exhale.  Ready to break free from survival mode? Let’s get started.Big loveLauren XFind Me:https://www.instagram.com/the.connection.catalyst/Work With Me:https://tr.ee/ZZ8e0CUUH3Free Training:https://tr.ee/f6HdNyp23Q