Have you ever known you should apologise, but your body just won’t let you? Not because you don’t care, but because even thinking about saying sorry feels heavy, tight, or almost impossible. You replay the moment, feel the shame rise, and somehow the words stay stuck.

This episode is for the moments after disconnection, when your nervous system is still activated and repair feels out of reach, even though connection matters deeply to you.

This is the second episode in a holiday series where Lauren revisits some of the most listened to and most returned to conversations from The Connection Podcast, to support you through busy, emotionally loaded seasons.

In this episode of The Connection Podcast, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, unpacks why apologising can feel so threatening when you’re dysregulated, what’s actually happening in your nervous system, and how to approach repair in a way that doesn’t require self abandonment.

Lauren shares honest reflections, nervous system context, and practical ways to begin repairing without forcing yourself to bypass your body’s signals.

You’ll hear about:

1. Why saying sorry can feel physically unsafe when your nervous system is activated
2. How shame and self protection block repair, even when you want to reconnect
3. The difference between forced apologies and regulated repair
4. Why repair starts with safety in your body, not the perfect words
5. Small, honest ways to move back towards connection after a hard moment

Resources & Links:

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage

📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

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Big love,

Lauren x